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Ep 170 - Coworker Disrespects Me from 2022-01-31T13:37:11
The title says it all! A listener writes in and asks for our advice on how to handle a disrespectful coworker. James and Dr. Steve offer different opinions--which should come as no surprise to you...
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Ep 169 - Woman Loses Guy Friend to New Girlfriend from 2022-01-03T16:10:48
A listener writes in and asks what she can do to remain friends with a guy pal who has started a new romance, James ad Dr. Steve seem to agree as to the appropriate advice--which can't be good for ...
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Ep 167 - Parents Want To Move In from 2021-11-29T14:16:21
A listener writes in and asks how she might politely tell her (healthy) parents that she does not want them to move in with her. Jaems and Dr. Steve play good cop bad cop, but both arrive at the sa...
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Ep 166 - How Do We Keep the Spark? from 2021-11-21T19:05:15
A listener writes in and asks how she and her partner can keep the fire burning. They have been together for awhile, and she fears settling into a less exciting pattern of interacting. James and Dr...
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Ep 165 - How Two Brothers Reconciled from 2021-11-08T17:49:39
A letter writer sends a follow-up to a question about an obnoxious family member. We like to hear success stories!
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Ep 163 - Mom Hits Adult Son from 2021-10-12T18:27:39
The title doesn't do this episode justice. There is a lot going on in the letter writer's family, as she describes one incident that has led to an escalation in discord. Listen in and think about t...
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Ep 162 - My Husband Believes Conspiracy Theories from 2021-09-26T22:59:59
Just as the title implies, a listener writes in to ask about her husband. She is concerned because of some of the things he believes. James and Dr. Steve weigh in, offering their points of view as ...
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Ep 161 - Spouse Puts Down My Political Beliefs from 2021-09-21T13:21:12
A listener writes in to ask our advice on how to handle a situation with her husband. She and he are on different ends of the political spectrum, and she feels put down by him in front of their chi...
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Ep 160 - Marriage Advice From A Divorce Attorney from 2021-09-06T00:00:06
James cheats on his beloved Dr. Steve this week--by recording an episode with a real-life divorce lawyer. Hear about the process and the price paid by couples who engage in divorce...from a person ...
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Ep 159 - Happiest Time of Your Life from 2021-08-30T16:47:53
A listener writes in and asks a philosophical question: Is THIS supposed to be the happiest time in my life? She then goes on to ask James and Dr Steve about the happiest times in their lives. You ...
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Ep 158 - Can My Marriage Survive This Home Renovation? from 2021-08-23T12:27:41
James and Dr. Steve receive a question from a listener this week--a question that rings familiar to both co-hosts. As they break down the problem and offer solutions, they are struck by how persona...
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Ep 157 - Should We Have A Third Child? from 2021-08-09T14:56:25
A listener writes in and lays out her current life situation. At the end of the thought, she asks our opinion about whether or not she and her husband should have a third child--thereby potentially...
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Ep 156 - Should We Have A Third Child? from 2021-08-09T14:56:25
A listener writes in and lays out her current life situation. At the end of the thought, she asks our opinion about whether or not she and her husband should have a third child--thereby potentially...
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Ep 155 - Should My Friend Get Divorced? from 2021-08-02T21:57:14
A listener writes in because she is concerned about the wife of a high school friend. It seems the marriage has been having some issues and now the writer may know too much! She asks James and Dr. ...
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Ep 156 - Should My Friend Get Divorced? from 2021-08-02T21:57:14
A listener writes in because she is concerned about the wife of a high school friend. It seems the marriage has been having some issues and now the writer may know too much! She asks James and Dr. ...
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Ep 155 - Our Favorite Questions from 2021-07-26T10:58:55
No question this week--which gives the hosts time to reflect upon the past three years of listener involvement. They go over their favorites, and argue a little over which are the best. The show mu...
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Ep 154 - How To Stay Married While Moving from 2021-07-07T22:30:34
There were no listener questions this week, so James fired one off to Dr Steve: How do couples manage stress while moving? The question is particularly salient to Dr Steve, who is preparing to sell...
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Ep 153 - Am I Too Hyper with New People? from 2021-06-28T17:34:50
A listener writes in, concerned that she may be putting people off with some of her social skills. She lists the issues she has been having, and then asks for advice, James and Dr. Steve go through...
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Ep 152 - Are Normal Relationships Not for Me? from 2021-06-19T19:05:52
A listener writes in to give the audience an update on her situation. She write several months ago and asked about a relationship that was devoid of sexual intimacy. In her update, she asks another...
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Ep 151 - Should I Get an Emotional Support Animal? from 2021-06-16T17:33:20
A listener writes in with a straight-forward question: should I get an emotional animal (given her situation)? James and Dr. Steve take in her info and give a straight-forward reply. See if you agree!
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Ep 150 - Former Boss Is Badmouthing Me from 2021-06-09T14:17:55
A listener writes in to ask about a former boss--who seems to be bad-mouthing her, even long after she has left the company. James and Dr. Steve give their reactions to the scenario, as well as off...
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Ep 149 - Should I Quit My In-Person Job? from 2021-05-24T16:47:37
James and Dr. Steve differ SHARPLY this week! A listener asks if she should quit her WFH job because it is moving to in-person...weigh in and choose a side, listeners!
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Ep 148 - My Boyfriend Doesn't Want To Have Sex from 2021-05-17T21:19:56
A listener writes in to ask about a guy she has recently begun to date. All was going along well...but then he stopped wanting to have sex. She is puzzled--but also curious what we would advise her...
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Ep 147 - Should Husband Change Job While Wife Is Pregnant? from 2021-05-10T15:57:04
The title says it all--a pregnant wife writes in and asks what James and Dr. Steve thinks about her husband's decision to change jobs (read: health insurance) as she approaches her delivery date. T...
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Ep 146 - Should I Ask Our The Cafeteria Girl? from 2021-05-03T13:06:26
A listener writes in and asks for our advice regarding a gal who works at his college. He's interested in her but doesn't know if she's into him. James and Dr. Steve go back to school and give thei...
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Ep 146 - Should I Ask Out The Cafeteria Girl? from 2021-05-03T11:06:26
A listener writes in and asks for our advice regarding a gal who works at his college. He's interested in her but doesn't know if she's into him. James and Dr. Steve go back to school and give thei...
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Ep 145 - Husband Eats Oreos Wrong from 2021-04-19T19:40:11
A listener writes in with a problem that James and Dr. Steve felt needed immediate attention: her husband eats Oreos the wrong way. Listen in and think about how YOU would counsel (perhaps console?...
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Ep 144 -Feedback from Kenya! from 2021-04-13T15:13:55
James and Dr. Steve have received feedback from a country where this show is #2 in the category of "medical podcasts." A listener from Kenya writes in to provide some feedback on an episode from a ...
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Ep 143 - How To Keep Working From Home from 2021-04-05T15:59:46
After a week long break, the boys are back in town! Listen in as they get back in tje saddle and dole out advice in their own "special" way!
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Ep 142 - Does Mom Baby Her Daughter Too Much? from 2021-03-22T14:58:57
A listener writes in to ask about the relationship she has with her young daughter. Her husband feels she babies the child, which concerns her. Listen and decide for yourself--you'll certainly hear...
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Ep 141 - Wife Is An Insomniac from 2021-03-15T15:35:45
A listener writes in and explains that he and his wife have a pragmatic/scheduling issue--she suffers insomnia, and doesn't like when his alarm wakes her up in the morning. James and Dr. Steve div...
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Ep 140 - Daughter Won't Be Parents' Retirement Plan from 2021-03-01T18:35:24
A listener writes in and asks about boundaries between herself and her parents. Specifically, her parents would like to make her a part of their retirement plan. James and Dr. Steve dive in and dis...
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Ep 139 - Motivating Bad Employees from 2021-02-22T17:17:33
The title says it all! A listener writes in because she is having difficulty with her team at work. James and Dr. Steve get to break down a work place issue, and get a rare chance to discuss their ...
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Ep 138 - Meddling Mother Runs Daughter's Life from 2021-02-15T15:48:34
A listener writes in to ask for ideas to set and maintain appropriate boundaries with her mother, She has recently moved back home, and is tired of feeling like her mother tries to control her life...
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Ep 137 - Helping A Depressed Wife from 2021-02-08T15:02:24
A listener writes in and asks about his wife--who seems to be struggling right now. Kids, job, home life...she feels under water. Dr. Steve takes the lead, but James jumps in with great wisdom and ...
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Ep 136 - When Is The Best Time To Have Kids? from 2021-02-01T14:45:08
A listener writes in to say that her husband seems ambivalent about having children. She wonders when is the "right time" to have kids, and how to tell when he is really ready. In a rare alignment ...
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Ep 135 - Husband Who Over - Gifts Still Doesn't Get It from 2021-01-25T14:51:42
Another follow-up from a listener! A woman who wrote recently to ask about her husband who (unnecessarily) gives expensive gifts says she has an update -- and that he DID NOT change! James and Dr. ...
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Ep 134 - Apartment Dweller Wants Big Dog To Feel Safe from 2021-01-18T15:12:20
A woman writes in to say she has recently moved, and does not yet feel safe in her new apartment. She wants a big dog for security, and asks if this is a good idea--and when she might start to feel...
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Ep 133 - Father - In - Law Won't Leave! from 2021-01-11T15:20:51
A listener writes in to ask how to handle a common problem in their family: when her father-in-law comes to visit, he doesn't "take the hint" and leave when it's time for everyone to go to bed. She...
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Ep 132 - Abrasive Brother Won't Stop Sharing Opinions from 2021-01-04T14:49:57
A listener follows up to say we gave good advice in the past--so presents another family issue: how to contain (or put up with?) a brother who has a habit of saying what's on his mind...unfiltered....
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Ep 131 - Will Different Parenting Styles Break Up The Marriage? from 2020-12-29T18:30:43
A listener writes in to say she is upset about how her husband parents. She describes both hers and his styles, and asks what we think. James and Dr. Steve are never ones to sit silently, so listen...
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Ep 130 - Husband Goes Overboard With Gifts from 2020-12-21T22:31:39
A wife writes in to say her husband continues to give expensive gifts, despite her telling him not to--both to save money AND because it makes her feel obligated to respond in kind. Listen in as Ja...
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EP 129 - Making Spouse Move to Another Country from 2020-12-14T15:54:44
Years ago, a wife moved to another country to be with her husband. Now she's struggling with guilt over wanting him to move back to her home. James and Dr. Steve break it down and give some advice....
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Ep 128 - Follow Up! (Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up With Ex) from 2020-12-07T14:12:41
We got mail! Feedback from a previous episode filters into the TMTSYM Mailbag--and it's good news! Listen in and marvel at how James and Dr. Steve CAN give good advice, and how the letter-writer's ...
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Ep 127 - Wife Hates When Husband Sleeps on Couch from 2020-11-30T21:34:20
After one of the worst cold-opens in podcast history, James and Dr. Steve salvage the episode with a good question and a controversial answer
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Ep 126 - Can Relationship Abroad Survive The Return Home? from 2020-11-16T20:19:27
A listener is disappointed that her relationship with a guy abroad lost its pizzazz once they moved in together. James and Dr. Steve do their best to break down the dynamics of relationships that d...
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Ep 125 - Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up With Ex from 2020-11-09T14:57:49
A listener's girlfriend wants to meet an ex to finalize a few things... and the listener has concerns about her intentions. James and Dr. Steve dig in and explore possibilities as well as give advi...
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Ep 124 - Moving In Together Leads To Dead Bedroom from 2020-11-02T16:37
A listener writes in to say that she and her boyfriend had a solid relationship--while they were long distance. Once they moved in together, things deadened in the bedroom, and there came some fric...
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Ep 123 - The Relationship Advice Everyone Needs To Hear from 2020-10-26T13:31:09
James and Dr. Steve look back at some of the highs and lows of 120+ episodes--all in an effort to give you the best relationship advice possible!
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Ep 122 - Supervisor Is A Sarcastic Jerk from 2020-10-20T15:56:13
What to do when you find yourself in a toxic workplace scenario? Listen in and see if you agree...
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Ep 121 - Do I Have To Stay Friends With Brother's Ex Wife? from 2020-10-12T23:16:12
The title says it all -- a listener is curious about the etiquette of remaining in touch with her brother's ex-wife. James and Dr. Steve had a pretty clear idea of how to answer this one...
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Ep 120 - In a Relationship, but Not Over an Ex... from 2020-10-05T15:09:52
A listener writes in and wonders if his feelings for an ex will hamper his involvement with a new woman he is dating. A common problem, but troubling nonetheless. Listen in and see if you agree wit...
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Ep 119 - Daughter Is Done Supporting Parents from 2020-09-28T15:52:36
A frustrated listener writes in to ask about her family situation. She is in her 30s, and supporting her parents. She is trying to move out and live on her own, but wants to know how to create a li...
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Ep 118 - Mom Creates Drama from 2020-09-21T14:44:49
James and Dr. Steve get a question about a writer's mother -- and the drama that seems to follow her everywhere. The two co-hosts disagree somewhat on their advice, but both have valid points, and ...
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Ep 117 - Girlfriend Has A Male Best Friend from 2020-09-15T16:57:25
Title says it all -- should he be upset?
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Ep 116 - Co - Hosts Can't Get Along from 2020-09-07T13:26:13
A listener writes in and asks about a podcast they listen to -- and the co-hosts can't seem to get along (*cue shocking music)!?! James and Dr. Steve dive in, as we go META this week!
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Ep 115 - In a Relationship, but No Feelings from 2020-08-31T00:47:53
A listener writes in, concerned because he is in a "perfect" relationship--but does not feel any 'zing' toward his girlfriend. Should he stay, or should he break it off? James and Dr. Steve break i...
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Ep 114 - Elderly Parent Won't Cooperate from 2020-08-25T16:54:19
A listener writes in out of frustration -- she has an elderly parent who refuses to take her advice. The writer feels she is just trying to make life better for the parent, but is met with staunch ...
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Ep 113 Wife Feels Guilty, Puts Herself Last from 2020-08-17T19:21:47
Straight forward question this week - a wife writes in and talks about feeling guilty for putting her needs ahead of others', so constantly prioritizes herself last. She mentions some family issues...
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Ep 112 - Husband Not Excited About New Baby from 2020-08-11T14:30:05
A worried listener writes in and asks about her husband--who doesn't seem excited about their upcoming baby. She's pregnant with her first, but he has three from a previous relationship. What woul...
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Ep 111 - Getting Over A Situationship from 2020-08-04T12:40:09
Ever heard of a "situationship"? Dr. Steve hadn't--but a listener question caused James to look up the actual definition, at which time both hosts could dole out some advice to the listener who ask...
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Ep 110 - Should I Homeschool My Gifted Child? from 2020-07-20T10:58:22
A listener writes in and asks about her gifted child. She wonders if she should homeschool or send her child to their regular classroom school. James and Dr. Steve discuss their views on pros and c...
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Ep 109 - Wife Is Tidy but Husband Is a Slob from 2020-07-13T00:00:04
Common relationship issue-- one partner is cleaner and more organized than the other. Leads to resentment on both sides. What can they do? Get some answers here...
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Ep 108 - Should I Tell My Ex The Dog We Got Together Is Dying? from 2020-06-30T17:40:57
We bought a dog together before we broke up. NOw the dog is dying; should I tell my ex?
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Ep 107 - How Do You Know if You're Over an Ex? from 2020-06-23T18:57:24
When thinking about getting back into the dating scene, how do you know if you're completely over an ex, and when is the right time to date again?
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Ep 106 - Is Sibling Conflict Healthy? from 2020-06-15T20:37:01
James began recording after a meltdown in the Breakwell household -- so fresh on his mind is the burning question about sibling conflict and/or rivalry: Is it healthy? Dr. Steve helps break down th...
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Ep 105 - What To Do When Kids Lie from 2020-06-01T15:04:10
All kids lie as they test their ability to control the world around them... but which lies are okay to let slide, and which should be addressed? Should ALL lies be addressed? Are all lies bad? Jame...
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Ep 104 - Quantine Survival Guide from 2020-05-26T13:22:28
James couldn't get to a listener question this week (don't ask), so he and Dr. Steve discuss how to survive the Shelter in Place. The hosts provide some good tips and ensuing discussion, as they wa...
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Ep 103 - Should Brothers Share A Room? from 2020-05-18T14:14:48
Good question this week - a mother writes in and asks about if her two young boys (sons/brothers) should share a bedroom. One son has some personality variables which may make it difficult, but ov...
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Ep 102 - One Spouse Going Away to College from 2020-05-04T21:08:35
A listener writes in and asks if there is anything she can do to ease the couples' current issue: her husband is going to go away to college, for at least one year. James and Dr. Steve break down t...
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Ep 101 - Caseworker Getting Harrassed by Special Needs Client from 2020-04-28T17:58:28
A listener writes in with a problem we haven't talked about yet on this show: He works in a special needs facility, and during the COVID furlough, he is getting harrassed via phone by one of the re...
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Ep 100 - How To Avoid Divorce During Quarantine from 2020-04-21T13:04:06
Our 100th episode!!! And not a moment too soon... The question this week is quite topical, as the hosts discuss marital quarantine -- how to keep things safe, sane, and stable during SO much time t...
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Ep 99 - Can't Stop Parents from Visiting from 2020-04-13T20:21:03
A listener writes in amidst the coronavirus quarantine, and asks how to keep from being around her parents so much. She's not currently living with them, but is beginning to feel their visits take ...
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Ep 98 - How To Be a Dungeon Master from 2020-04-06T15:31:54
A listener writes in with a bit of an unorthodox question for the show: She's about to play Dungeons & Dragons with her children, and wants to know how to be the best Dungeon Master she can! Clearl...
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Ep 97 - I Fired My Husband's Close Friend from 2020-04-01T11:18:46
A listener writes in to say that she had a difficult decision to make -- and it is affecting her marriage. She was the boss to a good friend of her husband, and had to fire the friend. Now she does...
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Ep 96 - Current Girlfriend Has Same Name As Ex from 2020-03-23T20:43:23
A listener writes in because he feels uncomfortable about an aspect of his new girlfriend: her name! Exactly the same as an ex of his, and he's wondering if there is a way to make this easier in hi...
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Ep 95 - Recovering from "Prom-posal" Disaster from 2020-03-16T13:47:51
A young listener writes in for some advice: He was politely rejected by a girl when he asked her to prom -- but wants to pursue a possible romantic relationship with her in the future. James and Dr...
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Ep 94 - Finding a Good Therapist from 2020-03-09T11:26:31
A listener writes in and asks a basic question: How do I go about finding a GOOD therapist? And while this is basic on the surface, the process can be tricky... and frustrating. James and Dr. Steve...
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Ep 93 - Wife Speaks on a 20 - Second Delay from 2020-03-02T12:19:45
A male listener writes in and reports that his wife waits a full 20 seconds before responding to his statements or questions. He asks what we think about it, and we (of course) rise to the challeng...
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Ep 92 - Surrounded By Husband's Ex Girlfriends from 2020-02-25T02:00:56
A listener writes in this week, and mentions she is struggling with a decision to move out of the area her husband grew up in -- because she keeps running into ex-girlfriends of his... There is a c...
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Ep 91 - Bedroom Problems Due to IVF from 2020-02-17T18:46
A frustrated listener writes in and asks for advice regarding the sexual part of his marriage. It seems he and his wife have been trying for years to get pregnant, up to and including rounds of IVF...
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Ep 90 - Should My Husband Be a Stay-at-Home Dad? from 2020-02-10T16:02:04
A listener writes in because she and her husband are struggling with the decision to have him quit his job and stay home with the kids. She is worried about his mental health after undergoing such ...
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Ep 89 - Is Fiance on the Spectrum? from 2020-02-03T15:37:02
Our question this week comes from a listener who is concerned that her fiancé may be on the Autism Spectrum. James and Dr. Steve look at aspects of the diagnosis, and talk through the concerns of t...
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Ep 88 - Who Decides What Kids Can Watch? from 2020-01-27T13:32:10
A frustrated listener writes in and asks about a feud brewing between he and his wife: They have different opinions about the appropriateness of certain television programs for their children. Ther...
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Ep 87 - Coping With The Death Of A Pet from 2020-01-22T00:14:01
A listener writes in, and in painful detail, discussed the death of their family pet -- and their subsequent grieving process. Dr. Steve and James talk about their own experiences, and offer condol...
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Ep 86 - Defending His Lifestyle from 2020-01-13T20:40
A listener writes in and says his wife is no longer interested in living life according to the particulars by which he lives his life. He feels he has never lied to her, and that she is now trying ...
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Ep 85 - Drama In A Poly Relationship from 2020-01-06T01:00:03
A young listener writes in and asks about how he may better deal with the other duo in a polyamorous triad. It feels like he's the odd person out, and is experiencing jealousy. James and Dr. Steve ...
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Ep 84 - I'm Too Generous and Scare People Away! from 2019-12-30T01:00:03
We get a question this week that draws some "tough love" advice from both James and Dr. Steve. A listener writes in to ask how to curb his habit of being too generous with gifts to girlfriends and ...
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Ep 83 - My Husband Is A Sore Loser from 2019-12-23T13:40:46
Family game night turns into a nightmare when a grown man throws a fit over losing children's games. His wife doesn't know what to do. Is there any way to fix his attitude?
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Ep 82 - She has a new boyfriend; I'm taken for granted! from 2019-12-16T13:06:12
A listener writes in to vent - his good friend (a female) has a new boyfriend, and is now growing more distant in their friendship... despite all he feels he continues to do for her. He asks what h...
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Ep 81 - Best Friend Moved Away from 2019-12-09T01:00:03
A 13yo listener writes in and asks about a situation that is rather upsetting - their best friend moved 30 minutes away, and (of course) neither can drive. What can/should they do? James takes the ...
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Ep 80 - Husband Gets Grabby, Irritates Wife from 2019-12-03T01:24:32
A wife writes in and says that her husband gets "grabby" -- almost to an extreme. She adds that this is a turn-off for her, and that she is feeling more resentful as their marriage progresses becau...
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Ep 79 - Wife No Longer Wants To Have Sex from 2019-11-25T23:18:32
A husband writes in and asks for advice, as his wife announced that she is no longer interested in having sex with him. James and Dr. Steve tackle the question from different viewpoints, as James p...
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Ep 78 - Dealing with a "Steamroller" Personality from 2019-11-18T10:48:43
A listener writes in and asks for advice on how to best deal with a member of her work group who "steamrolls" group members, monopolizes the group time, and forces her opinion onto others. James an...
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Ep 77 - My Boss is a Critical Micro-manager! from 2019-11-11T12:02:08
A listener writes in for advice on how to handle her boss - who seems to micromanage the employees, and seems to be all critical, never supportive. James and Dr. Steve dig in, look at the situation...
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Ep 76 - The First "I Love You" from 2019-11-04T02:13:02
A personal episode for both co-hosts, as James and R. Steve answer a question about revealing seriousness/exclusivity in a new relationship -- but then share the story of how each of them FIRST sai...
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Ep 75 - Break Up Over A Dog? from 2019-10-29T00:51:36
We don't have a listener question this week, so James comments on something he read online -- which fuels an entire episode between he and Dr. Steve. Is it going too far to break up with someone ov...
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Ep 74 - Should I Meet My Celebrity Crush? from 2019-10-21T13:26:18
A listener writes in with a question about her celebrity crush - she understands social boundaries, but wants to know what we think about her creating a scenario where she meets the object of her a...
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Ep 73 - Three Biggest Battlegrounds In Marriage from 2019-10-14T15:56:44
This week - another Breakwell-generated question: What are the three most common battlegrounds for couples to argue about? Dr. Steve gives it some thought, and comes up with a pretty solid list. Li...
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Ep 72 - Three Things You SHOULD Do In Marriage from 2019-10-07T10:07:03
James decided to break protocol some, and ask Dr. Steve a question on his own: What are three things every couple SHOULD do in a relationship? Rather than framing in the negative, let's look at pos...
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Ep 71 - Hong Kong Turmoil Divides Family from 2019-09-30T17:55:57
A listener writes in and asks how to cope with a situation that seems bad, but out of their control. He currently live in Hong Kong, and his family is divided with the political strife occurring th...
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Ep 70 - Wife: I Gained Weight, but Don't Care from 2019-09-23T00:00:06
We've got a special guest this week... Editor at Time Magazine, and marriage expert, Belinda Luscombe joins the show to add a woman's perspective! And a good week, too -- because a listener writes ...
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Ep 69 - Indian Customs vs Modern Romance from 2019-09-17T00:34:53
A listener in India writes in to say his girlfriend's parents -- who follow traditional Indian customs -- seem to be asking that he make a commitment to their daughter before he is completely comfo...
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Ep 68 - No Longer Attracted To Husband from 2019-09-09T20:10:28
A listener writes in an says she has been married for ten years, but is no longer attracted to her husband. They have a child together, and she wonders what this means, or if anything can/should be...
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Ep 67 - Should I Tell My Ex How I Feel? from 2019-09-03T02:12:10
A listener writes in an reports that she is divorced from her ex, but now is struggling with feelings of attraction toward him again. Her dilemma is whether or not to tell him she may want to revis...
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Ep 66 - Joint Custody; I Don't Want to Go to Dad's House! from 2019-08-26T17:27:54
A youngster writes in, showing that we have fans of all ages out there! Too, they ask about custody -- and how to navigate a situation where their parents are divorced with joint custody, but the l...
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Ep 65 - My Friend Is In A Bad Relationship from 2019-08-20T01:51:37
A listener writes in and asks for advice: Her friend is in a bad relationship, and has been growing very frustrating to deal with. The writer wants to know how she can give advice, and also spare h...
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Ep 64 - Should We Stay Friends? from 2019-08-12T13:56:58
A listener writes in and asks about the aftermath of a semi-serious relationship. She and her ex-boyfriend have split up, and she is curious as to whether she should remain friends with him moving ...
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Ep 63 - Should I Move To Toronto? from 2019-08-05T16:59:12
A young listener writes in because she is at a crossroad, and is seeking our advice: Should she move to Toronto (a place she's always wanted to live), thereby possibly changing her career path, or ...
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Ep 62 - I've Got a 30yo Depressed Husband from 2019-07-29T21:31:44
A listener writes in because she's concerned about her 30yo husband who appears to be depressed. They have one child and another on the way, and she'd like some guidance. James and Dr. Steve discus...
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Ep 61 - In-Laws Moved in; Won't Help from 2019-07-22T01:00:04
Another interesting listener question: He and his wife were nice enough to let his in-laws move in with them (temporarily), but they are not doing anything to help around the house. He'd like ideas...
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Ep 60 - Two Kids, or Three? from 2019-07-15T13:46:06
Real simple this week: A listener writes in with an impasse -- he and his wife differ on the number of kids they want. She wants three, he wants two … what is a couple to do to resolve this foundat...
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Ep 59 - Am I Asexual? from 2019-07-08T13:40:20
A listener writes in with a scenario and a simple question: Am I asexual? James and Dr. Steve break down her information, and give their opinions on an element of a very hot topic these days: sexua...
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Ep 58 - Three Mistakes Couples Make When Arguing from 2019-07-01T02:52:06
James asks about fighting -- more specifically, what mistakes couples are most apt to make? Dr. Steve comes through with the answer … which both pinpoints common problems, and also provides solutio...
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Ep 57 - Three Red Flags on the First Date from 2019-06-24T02:43:52
James asks another doozie - what should people look out for when meeting someone for the first time? Maybe as the relationship progresses? Dr. Steve fires off the cuff and details three red flags e...
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Ep 56 - Is Separation the End? from 2019-06-17T12:43:12
Husband wants to live apart for awhile - wife wondering if this spells the end of the relationship. Kids are involved, one with special needs... a huge source of stress for all parties involved. Ja...
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Ep 55 - Three Fastest Ways to Ruin Your Marriage from 2019-06-10T13:13:27
In lieu of a listener question this week, James asks Dr. Steve about the fastest and surest way to END a relationship. The comedy writer and the psychologist discuss, and hi-light some issues to pa...
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Ep 54 - Make the Nagging Stop! from 2019-06-03T13:59:23
A listener writes in and scolds herself a bit for all the nagging she does at home -- but also expresses a desire to change. James and Dr. Steve look at "nagging", and arrive at some techniques tha...
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Ep 53 - Current GF Might Have Bad Qualities of Ex-GF? from 2019-05-21T01:04:51
A listener muses about how, despite trying to choose a current GF who does not have the negative qualities of his ex, he is starting to see certain mannerisms that make him fear he has chosen as pa...
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Ep 52 - Anxious and Depressed, but Stopped Meds(?) from 2019-05-14T00:10:12
A listener writes in to say they have stopped their medication, and are now returning to a state of anxiety, depression, and some light paranoia. The listener asked if they are "crazy", bur James a...
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Ep 51 - Boyfriend Wants 11 Kids from 2019-05-06T11:05:02
A bit different of a focus this week: A listener doesn't want advice per se, she wants us to publicly disabuse her boyfriend of HIS idea that they should eventually have 11 (ELEVEN) kids!!! James a...
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Ep 50 How Much Is Too Much Distance? from 2019-04-29T11:21:14
She's in China... he's in Canada... they met by chance -- do they HAVE a chance??? She writes in to ask if it would be prudent to pursue this unlikely pairing as a real relationship, and James & Dr...
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Ep 49 - Can't Get Over Him Cheating Years Ago from 2019-04-22T14:24:38
A listener writes in and asks for advice on how to get over an incident she went through with her boyfriend of several years -- he cheated on her when they were pretty young, but the emotional resi...
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Ep 48 - What Is My Boyfriend Thinking??? from 2019-04-15T01:06:38
A listener is confused by some of the mixed messages she's getting from her boyfriend... So she does what ANYONE would do: She writes to James and Dr. Steve! The two deconstruct the relationship an...
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Ep 47 - Dad Won't Respect Boundaries from 2019-04-08T01:00:02
Another great question - a listener writes that her aging father has recently moved into their home, and that he will not respect boundaries. Entering their area in the house, walking into their be...
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Ep 46 - He Abandoned Me In Law School from 2019-04-02T04:14:27
Another tough relationship issue this week... a listener begins law school with the support (and encouragement) of her husband -- who may now be having an affair and wants a divorce. She is confuse...
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Ep 45 - Switching Religions Doomed The Marriage? from 2019-03-25T22:16:04
A listener writes in with a serious marriage problem: he is an atheist, and his wife has recently converted to become a Born Again Christian. He is concerned about the impact this conversion may ha...
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Ep 44 - Friends With No Benefits from 2019-03-18T02:26:38
Simply put: A guy (friend) and she struck up a deal to be friends with benefits -- but then he started not wanting the benefits! Now she's confused as to what to do next, and how to take this! Jame...
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Ep 43 - Should I Leave My Husband? from 2019-03-11T01:17:48
A serious question this week... A listener has been in what she describes as a horrible marriage -- and just when she was ready to walk out, he turns it around and behaves as she wishes he would ha...
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Ep 42 - Boyfriend Won't Grow Up from 2019-03-04T02:58:08
A listener writes in because she is concerned that her long-time boyfriend has a history of not getting a good job, or of making any movement toward marriage and "adulthood". James and Dr. Steve gi...
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Ep 41 - Blocked Brother On Facebook from 2019-02-25T02:00:06
Even family members can have radically opposed beliefs and opinions -- and in this new world of managed identities and social media, how do we handle these conflicts? Grace and dignity may have to ...
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Ep 40 - Married, But Fantasizing About A Coworker from 2019-02-18T02:00:05
Is it okay to fantasize about another person when you're married? A listener writes in and asks just that, as she has been thinking about a coworker. James and Dr. Steve put things into perspective...
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Ep 39 - Brother Treats Me Horribly from 2019-02-11T12:08:11
An 18yo listener writes in to say his/her brother treats him/her in a verbally and emotionally abusive manner, and that their parents are unwilling to step in and curb his behavior. Unsure of what ...
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Ep 38 - 15yo: I Said Something I Regret... from 2019-02-04T02:00:05
James and Dr. Steve get a question from a 15yo listener who laments saying something "weird" to a girl he likes -- and she has not been warm toward him ever since. Listen in as the pros empathize w...
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Ep 37 - Husband Won't Stop Farting Around Me from 2019-01-28T02:00:03
Yup -- you heard that correctly: A listener asks for advice on what to do about her husband, who controls his gas around other people, but will not stop himself from farting around her (despite rep...
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Ep 36 - Lonely By Choice? from 2019-01-21T02:16:25
A listener writes in and asks about maintaining friendships more effectively. Too, he says he has been "lonely by choice" for much of his life, and needs to develop better relationship skills. Jame...
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Ep 35 - Asking a Woman Out at a Grocery Store from 2019-01-14T03:07:16
A listener feels a good vibe with a woman who works at his grocery store - but needs advice on the best way to proceed from here. Up to the challenge are two guys who haven't dated since Teddy Roos...
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Ep 34 - Helping Kids with a Borderline Parent from 2019-01-07T12:33:26
When your spouse's ex has Borderline Personality Disorder, is there a way we can help the kids from that relationship? A listener writes in with this question, as she sets out to keep secure bounda...
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Ep 33 - Hot And Cold Friend from 2018-12-31T16:01:22
A listener writes in because she has a friend who pops in and out of their life... when they are together, the friendship is golden - but then there are long stretches of time where the friend disa...
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Ep 32 - Partner Talks Too Much? from 2018-12-24T02:00:05
When this listener and his girlfriend sit down for dinner, they ask each other how their day went... he gives brief answers, she tells a story -- but when is too much too much? James and Dr. Steve ...
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Ep 31 - Mom vs Dog! from 2018-12-17T02:00:05
A young listener writes in and tells about how her mother is losing her patience and temper with the family dog; then asks if there is anything she can do. James and Dr. Steve wade into a new relat...
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Ep 30 - Too Much Trash Talk from 2018-12-10T01:47:30
Men and boys do a fair amount of trash talk with each other... A natural part of being a guy in America -- but how much is too much? James and Dr. Steve break down the game film and talk about the ...
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Ep 29 - Creepy Professor from 2018-12-02T20:43:04
What should you do if you've told a professor you're not interested, but he continues to pursue? A listener faces this very quandary, as she is torn between protecting her career/future, and easing...
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Ep 28 - Trouble Accepting Mom's Boyfriend from 2018-11-25T22:47:57
A child of divorce wants to be okay with their mom's boyfriend, but it's easier said that done. A psychologist and a comedy writer weigh in on how to make it happen.
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Ep 27 - Too Much Sarcasm from 2018-11-19T14:41
If your partner uses sarcasm a lot, what does that mean? A listener asks about how her relationship is viewed by outsiders -- as she and her boyfriend have a certain manner of relating to each othe...
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Ep 26 - Tinder Friends? from 2018-11-12T12:31:02
With dating and meet-up apps becoming more popular than ever, users are having difficulty defining the nature and future of relationships started in this quick manner. This week, a listener writes ...
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Ep 25 - Should You Date a Coworker? from 2018-10-29T15:49:14
A woman wants to know if she should pursue a coworker she's interested in. She thinks it's mutual, but she's not sure. Is this sort of thing still okay in 2018?
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Ep 24 - Mother Who's Impossible to Please from 2018-10-21T23:29:50
A listener writes in and asks about how to handle her mother - who is impossible to please, and will find something wrong with everything the daughter does. Dr. Steve and James break down the relat...
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Ep 23 - Just Friends? from 2018-10-15T03:08:32
A listener writes in and asks about some unrequited feelings -- she has been giving a lot to this relationship (friendship?)... he has not. She asks our opinion about the future and what to do -- a...
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Ep 22 - I Have A Crush On His Brother! from 2018-10-08T02:08:42
A listener writes an and tells a secret - she is developing a crush on her boyfriend's brother. Whether it's dating or a marriage, interests on people outside of the relationship can be a learning ...
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Ep 21 - Cruel, Belittling Mother from 2018-10-01T01:00:09
A listener writes in and classically describes narcissism, through the actions of her mean mother. The family dynamics unfold among the children and father, and James & Dr. Steve give advice on how...
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Ep 20 - Should We Get Back Together? from 2018-09-24T02:46:02
A listener writes in and reports that a girl who broke up with him a year before -- now wants to "give it another try". He asks the advice of James and Dr. Steve, who are in TOTAL agreement about t...
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Ep 19 - Evil Sister-In-Law from 2018-09-17T01:00:06
When you marry your spouse, you marry their family... Listen in as James and Dr. Steve work through a strategy for dealing with a sister-in-law who is determined to make one of our listeners as unc...
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Ep 18 - Wedding Day Chaos from 2018-09-10T01:00:06
Another great question from a listener - she writes in that her wedding day is coming up fast -- and so is her stress! She's worried about what unhealthy relatives will do to hijack or sabotage her...
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Ep 17 - Talking Over Each Other from 2018-09-03T01:00:06
You ever talk to somebody who wants to keep talking over you? Cutting you off, jumping in... even if they don't mean to? This week, James and Dr. Steve tackle that issue, and provide concrete solut...
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Ep 16 - Rehashing Old Issues from 2018-08-27T12:12:47
Old issues die hard - especially for some folks! If your partner keeps bringing up things from the past (things you THOUGHT had been sorted out), listen in... a psychologist discusses options and s...
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Ep 15 - Different Sexual Schedules from 2018-08-20T01:00:08
Our first question about sexuality within a relationship. A listener writes and expresses concerns about the different sexual appetites of each partner, and the resentment that can build as a resul...
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Ep 14 - Social Anxiety from 2018-08-13T01:00:04
A listener writes in and asks about social anxiety - her boyfriend seems to suffer from a touch of it. Dr. Steve goes into detail about understanding and managing it behaviorally - and James shares...
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Ep 13 - What Do Petty Arguments Mean? from 2018-08-06T01:00:05
Petty arguments crop up from time to time in every long term relationship, but what do they mean? A wife writes in with a perfect example, and Dr. Steve offers a shocking opinion! It seems the come...
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Ep 12 - Boyfriend Won't Make a Decision! from 2018-07-30T01:00:04
James and Dr. Steve field a question from a frustrated woman: her boyfriend refuses to make a decision, thereby leaving her to take the risk with every crossroad. Listen as we break it down and giv...
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Ep 11 - Is He Afraid of Commitment? from 2018-07-23T01:00:14
A girlfriend writes in, frustrated by her boyfriend's apparent "commitment phobia". She wants to know if it is time to hold 'em, or time to fold 'em… James and Dr. Steve break it down and give her ...
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Ep 10 - Wife Makes More Money from 2018-07-16T01:00:04
A wife writes in because her husband seems upset by her making more money than him, so she is seeking advice. James and Steve give their feedback, and discuss how fragile some marital issues can ma...
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Ep 09 - Watch TV To Go To Sleep from 2018-07-09T01:00:04
A listener asked about watching television in order to fall asleep: Is it rude to the partner trying to fall asleep next to them, and is it overall a good idea anyway? James and Dr. Steve give thei...
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Ep 08 - Relationship Moving Too Fast? from 2018-07-02T01:00:04
James and Dr. Steve get a question from a listener who feels his girlfriend would like for their relationship to move forward much faster than he is comfortable with. He asks if they should have a ...
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Ep 07 - Big Age Difference from 2018-06-25T01:00:04
Some pre-marital advice! A listener wrote in and asked about his fiancé - who is ten years older than him. Listen as James and Dr. Steve talk about the pros and cons of age difference for the long ...
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Ep 06 - Borderline Personality Disorder from 2018-06-18T01:00:04
This may be a post-mortem, but a listener asked about "Borderline Personality Disorder" -- because he is divorcing a spouse who has been given that diagnosis. Dr. Steve explains the condition, and ...
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Ep 05 - Partner Drinks Too Much from 2018-06-11T01:00:04
James and Steve take a shot at solving a tough one - a listener wrote in because she is concerned about her partner's drinking. Listen as they break down the issue, and talk toward solutions.
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Ep 04 - Partner is a Dangerous Driver! from 2018-06-04T10:59:51
A listener asked about negotiating aggressive driving. Both partners refuse to drive with the other because they distrust their partner's driving. James and Dr. Steve break it down and discuss solu...
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Ep 03 - Handling Marital Finances from 2018-05-28T02:00:02
Great question from a twitter follower about how financial decisions are made in a marriage. James and Steve tackle the issue head-on, and discuss options for the couple. Listen, laugh, and learn a...
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Ep 02 - Reconcile opposite schedules? from 2018-05-20T22:35:43
James and Steve build upon the momentum from a successful launch, and take on a question about living with opposite schedules (early bird & night owl). Your affable hosts talk it out and give real ...
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Ep 01 - "Open" the Marriage? from 2018-05-08T12:59:48
Our first episode of the new show! Great question from a listener who is concerned about a spouse wanting to "open" the relationship... James and Steve start ironing out the wrinkles of the new for...
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