Default to"Yes" - a podcast by Kent C. Dodds

Hello everyone, so today I want to talk about saying yes more so and maybe
yes is a default. So yesterday I was talking with my sister and I was justover at her house and and her son came over and asked if he could have a
soda and she said yes and I we continue talking and I said, oh man, it justfeels so nice to be able to say yes to your kids right and she said yes, or
I really nice and and she said I tried to say yes as much as I can and yeahthe way that I feel about it.
Is like my kids will sometimes ask me why I say no all the time and I sayno you got this backwards you just ask me questions that I'll say no to all
the time that's the problem and and so anyway, I've just been thinking
about this and I feel like more of my default should be to say yes as adefault so I I should be like the burden of proof should be on the no
answer so it should be more of like why should you why would you say norather than trying to justify the yes and the reason that I'm sharing this
with?You all is not because I know the you're not all parents and stuff um, but
because I feel like this is like parenting is a really great example or aman what's the word I can't think of the word I'm looking for but like it it
relates very closely to relationships in general and um as much as we liketo pretend it's not software is a lot about relationships, especially when
you're working at a company and so if you're a team.
Lead or you're managing a team of engineers or something like that you want
to default to guess and so rather than just kind of seeing these peoplethat you're you've got a relationship with as you know, it's somebody that
you have to endure or appease or whatever you should be trying to see howlike how you can help them be happy and satisfied with the relationship and
that I I think defaulting to yes, most of the time is a good practice andso,For a lot of the time I default to know with my kids if they want to ask
me something I'm automatically thinking okay, how can I say no but I'm I
think that it is better to switch that up and instead think how can I sayyes and focus more on finding reasons to say yes and there should be more
weight on the yes than on the no so anyway hope that's kind of useful to
you in whatever you're doing relationships are awesome and have a wonderful
day.

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