Episode 308: "Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Toxic Male" with Tony Farinella - a podcast by Amy Perras

Introductions: 

:42 Tony comes out of social media hiding 

1:33 lost independence but gained it back 

3:00 benefits of reconnecting with social media 

3:16 love/hate relationship with social media 

3:40 never just in one cliche 

4:38 Stay true to yourself 

4:55 Innocent story-Quiet chair in kindergarten 

6:15 Amy’s talks too much and disturbs others comments causing her to shut down 

7:09 Ain’t Gonna Be No Stupid Teacher story 

7:43 Stupid Situationship - Tony’s in-laws 

8:43 Life with no car 

10:10 Trying to get others to like you futility 

11:11 Working from home 

12:00 Tony’s profession 

13:03 Lambeau, Tony’s cat 

13:30 1. Acting like a bully 

16:20 Party peer pressure 

16:40 Reared by an alcoholic 

17:24 Old soul wise beyond his years 

17:50 2. Avoiding Losing at all Costs 

18:11 Wrestling manager 

19:41 3. Restraining One’s Emotions except for pride and anger 

20:20 Nice guy vs. bad boy 

20:47 President, CEO, chairman of the friend’s zone 

21:22 Let out your emotions 

21:54 Story behind Tony’s marriage 

23:13 Relationships dying slowly are brutal 

24:48 Like me for who I am 

25:15 Men and the pursuit 

25:55 Taking the plunge into marriage 

26:09 Get your mental health right 

28:46 Mental Health Stability 

30:10 We are all a work in progress 

31:40 4. Aggression in Conflict 

33:49 How technology has contributed to anxiety 

34:34 Benefits of therapy 

35:27 Therapeutic Alliance 

35:50 5. Dominance Over Other 

36:12 The Uncommon Male 

36:49 Ain’t Gonna Be No Stupid Boomer 

38:08 False Perception of Black and White TV  

39:19 When I was your age 

40:10 6. Treating Women as Sex Objects 

40:20 7. Resorting to Violence to Resolve Conflict 

40:43 Katherine Hepburn “You can’t have it all” 

41:30 Amy’s Fighting in classroom 

43:43 You can’t fake gravity 

44:04 Amy’s chipped tooth wrestling with her brother 

45:03 Tony’s first and last fight 

46:00 8. “Boys will be Boys" 

47:00 Respect for women 

48:00 Good men out there 

48:40 9. Feeling it’s not okay to talk about your feelings 

49:00 Self Awareness and Reflection 

49:15 Always right? You’re toxic 

50:12 Insincere apologies are worse than no apology 

51:00 Famous people with a gap in their teeth like Tony 

51:59 Sit with your triggers 

52:21 10. Homophobia 

53:21 Wrecked by Star is Born 

54:00 NFL Pink Attire 

56:00 Be You- Sensitivity is because we are provoked 

57:23 Narcissistic abuse 

57:32 "Be Curious, Not Judgmental" Ted Lasso Where Can I FInd Tony? 

https://theultimaterabbit.com/411interviewer@gmail.com 

Amanda Crochets YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=InwX8wdlGcI 

Where Can I Find Amy?   

www.amyperras.com   Linkedin: Amy Perras   Twitter: @perras_scope   IG @aintgonnabenostupid   Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid   Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)   https://amzn.to/2Np4aRj   Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast   https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm   Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel   https://bit.ly/3fT6v31   Coaching Session  https://tinyurl.com/perrasscoping

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