108 – Examples Of Manhood - a podcast by Alf Herigstad

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EXAMPLES OF MANHOOD…
Today’s podcast is another listener inspired episode.  A listener named Rich went through the trouble of going to the website at http://beingabettermanpodcast.com (beingabettermanpodcast.com), and he wrote to me. Now I’m going to talk about what he asked me about.  Don’t forget, that you too can be like Rich and send me your questions and ideas also.So…Rich said this: 
“I had a thought the other day about how, while the listeners of your podcast are obviously interested and motivated in becoming better men, how would you go about reaching the guys that aren’t similarly motivated? Can they be motivated if they don’t already have that drive? And if not, how do we instill that drive into them, if that is even possible?”
In my opinion, THAT is an excellent question.  Thank you Rich for sending it in.He’s exactly right, I would agree that the majority of listeners to this show are guys who are already motivated to be better men.  They probably did a search and wound up at my website, they were seeking help in some fashion, or…there might be some who stumbled up on it and it resonated with them, and they just kept listening.  But most of the guys listening are probably interested or motivated in some way, to become better men. 
Hey, while I was talking about this I became very curious…I’m wondering where most of you came from?  I’m going to put a survey or questionnaire or something like that on the Facebook page and I would really appreciate it if you would take a second and let me know how you found out about this show.  But now back to rich’s question.So…what about the other guys?  How would we go about reaching the men who are not similarly motivated?  That’s a good question, and I think I have the answer.
Here is what I think;  My job, as the podcast host is to bring you content that makes you think, or that reenforces what you already know.  My job is to keep the mission of being a better man in the upper levels of your consciousness, so you remember to act on it.If I’m doing my job correctly, then you guys are walking around thinking about being better men everyday, better than you were the day before.  All of you, including myself spend a portion of time out in the public, away from our homes and families.  Out there in the world, where these other men are…right?Rich asked how these men can become motivated if they don’t already have that drive?  My answer is, by seeing you, and me.  By observing men like us who know ourselves, who stand for something.  Men who will not compromise our behavior, our actions, or our speech.  Men who do the right thing.  Men like you who are kind, who share your strength with other people around you. 
These men will see you being a better man, and it will illuminate their own shortcomings by comparison, it will make them curious, and some of them will gravitate toward you simply because they know you have something they don’t.  I have seen that happen many, many times.Beyond just seeing us, some of these other men will get to know us in some way too, we will have conversations with them.  When that happens it is the most opportune moment to have an impact, by speaking plainly and confidently to them about what you are up to.  If they have questions, answer them.
I have no problem telling anyone that I intend to be a better man every day until I die….and I suggest that you don’t have a problem with that either.Rich is right, there are a bunch of guys walking the earth who have no motivation or interest in being a better man.  But I believe, that many of these men are living that way simply because all the options were never explained to them.  They are living like they know how to, the way they were shown, the way everyone else in their community may have lived.
Furthermore, it is my belief that the majority of people don’t want to be jerks, or criminals, or people

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