165 – Dealing With Loss…Like A Man - a podcast by Alf Herigstad

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DEALING WITH LOSS…LIKE A MAN
I have a couple announcements to make before I start talking about dealing with loss.  For one, I want to thank a listener named Mitch for getting a new StumpTown Kilt for his birthday using the special code: betterman.
If you go to http://stumptownkilts.com (stumptownkilts.com) and use the purchase code:  betterman, all lower case, like Mitch did, then you will receive 10% off your online purchase…just like Mitch.He got a brown kilt, which I am a little jealous of because that is one color I don’t have.  He wrote me to tell me that he loves his new kilt, and you will too.  Just go to http://stumptownkilts.com (stumptownkilts.com) and check them out today.  You’ll be glad you did, these are the same kilts I wear everyday and in my opinion they can’t be beat.
My second announcement, more of a reminder really, is that I am still looking for volunteers to be part of the launch team for the book I am getting ready to publish.  If you want to know more about that, just send me an email and ask me.____________________________

Well here we are again, another Friday.  The weekends are different for everyone.  Some people have big plans for big fun.  Others have big plans to accomplish things they didn’t have time for during the week.  There may be some of you who have no plans at all…you just want to sit around all weekend and do absolutely nothing.Whatever it is that you decide to do is perfectly fine…there isn’t any right or wrong to it, it’s your weekend after all. 
My weekend is going to be super full and busy, as usual.  I tend to cram a ton of things into every weekend, a combination of fun and work, and I never seem to get everything done I set out to do…that’s just how I do weekends.Regardless of how any of us plan our days off, there is one important thing that we should all remember.  That is, our commitment to be a better man today than we were yesterday.  That commitment doesn’t get to rest just because it’s the weekend.  In fact, for some of us the weekend is when we need to be most diligent.
Being a better man is a seven day a week proposition, it has to be…in order for it to become a way of life.I kind of got side tracked on the weekend thing, thats not really what I wanted to talk about…but it is important.
What I really wanted to talk about, is dealing with loss.We all lose something dear to us from time to time, its inevitable.  For whatever reason, we might lose a job that we depend on.  Or we might lose a relationship thats really important to us.  A beloved pet or relative might die.  Your car might be destroyed by a hit and run driver while you are in the store.  You might lose a limb in a workplace accident.
Dealing with major loss is really just another part of life and its important that we consider how to deal with these things prior to going through it.  Because we want to deal with whatever loss we may face as best we can, as a man.What I mean by considering how you will deal with things before they happen, is that you can establish a common method of dealing with all sorts of loss.  It’s impossible to predict everything that will happen to you, but you can establish a base method for every eventuality.
Severe loss effects us in a couple different ways; emotionally, financially, physically, or a tragic combination of those.  Every situation is different, just as every person is different.The first thing I would tell you is that it is OK to feel and experience the emotions of the loss, experience the grief of it, don’t try to shut it out because its there for a reason.
If you need to cry, then cry.  If you need to yell and scream then do that.  I personally try to get that stuff out of my system as quickly as possible, because I realize I have a higher calling.Whenever you experience loss the chances are that others do as well;  family members, friends, loved ones and...

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