211 – The End Of Drama And Negativity - a podcast by Alf Herigstad

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The End Of Drama And Negativity…
Hey every body!  It’s Friday once again.  Thanks for tuning into Being A Better Man, where we talk about the issues of manhood itself.  Being a man isn’t just a matter of age.  Nor is it simply a matter of gender.  Being a man is a matter of character, it is a state of mind, a responsibility and a duty.  I am your host, my name is Alf HerigstadToday I’m going to talk about something that does not get talked about enough.  Before I get into that though, I am going to talk about the esteemed sponsor of our Friday episodes; Stumptown Kilts.
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I get it, it’s kind of a natural thing.  People are activated by bad news.  People listen intently if you are talking about something negative.  I think we are hard wired this way, we are drawn to bad news because our ancient ancestors had to address the threats in life first, in order to survive.The problem is, we don’t live in those times any more and much of the negativity we are exposed to isn’t a threat at all…it’s really just gossip.  The downside of all this negativity in my opinion, is that we become infected by it.  If we aren’t careful we get sucked into the drama and before you know it, we are contributors.  It is a self perpetuating condition.  Negativity breeds more negativity.
So today I want to talk about the virtues of positivity.  Many years ago I decided that I was going to start living a drama free life.  I was going to avoid all things that were negative and focus only on positive things.  It went really well for about ten years.  Things were great, life was happy and peaceful and I was quite content.  During that time if someone showed up in my life who was negative, I would simply not let them in.  In fact, I called my house “The Fortress Of Solitude”, named after Super Man’s lair of course—but I would not allow any negative energy to come into my life.
Then eventually, I got so cozy in my drama free life that I lost sight of my goal.  I allowed one little drip of negativity in, that created more negativity, and in no time it all came crashing down.  My drama free life was over just like that, but it took me some time to identify it.That lasted about four years.  It took me that long to realize what had happened, to understand what I had done.  Once I was able to identify the problem then I could fix it, and I did.

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