224 – A Better Man Knows How To LISTEN - a podcast by Alf Herigstad

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A Better Man Knows How To Listen…
This is the podcast that focuses on the character of men.  Part of our core philosophy here is that if we become concerned with and focused on, our character as men.  Then everything else in our life will start falling in place as a result.  Think about it—if you are really trying to be a better man today than you were yesterday, and you are doing that every day, there will be some predictable results.Your relationships with other people will be improved.  That means all your relationships; your love life, your work relationships, social and family relationships will all be enhanced because you will be operating at a higher level in each of those areas as you strive to be a better man.  You will have care for others and a clear idea of what your role is in the world, your function as a man.  People will naturally like, trust, and appreciate you more and that translates to improved relationships across the board. Your relationship with yourself will even be improved because you will know and like yourself better.  You will be proud of the things you do right.  Your confidence will be increased as you come to know yourself better.  You come to see your shortcomings as opportunities to improve, rather than feeling bad about them.  So that is what we are all about here at Being A better Man.  Improving your life, and the lives of people around you.
People often ask me how I keep coming up with shows.  This is episode 224, that is a lot of episodes and it boggles some peoples mind that there is that much to say about being a better man.  The truth is, and what I tell people, is that it isn’t really that hard.  There is so much material out there in the world every day.  All I have to do is spend 10 minutes on social media or take a trip into town and everywhere I look there is something to talk about.Now–people that know me also send me articles or share posts with me that they think may be relevant to the podcast and that’s fantastic.  Recently my wife shared a story with me, a post written by someone she knows personally.  In this post her friend was lamenting the fact that she is completely fed up with men.  Specifically, her issue is that when men approach her romantically and she is not interested—a large majority of men in her experience then become abusive.  They attack her, call her names, stalk and harass her.  Basically, they act very much like a spoiled, entitled three year old that is denied the cookie they asked for. 
My wife went on to tell me that she has heard many women having this experience.  To the point that she believes it is becoming a real problem out there.  She thought maybe I could make an episode about this phenomenon. Here’s the deal though.  This is the problem I have with topics like this.  In my world, I never—or very seldom see things like this happening.  Why?  The primary reason is because I’m not a woman.  It’s kind of like when my kids were little and one of them tattled on the other for doing something.  If I didn’t see it happen then it was kind of hard to punish the other child with any degree of gusto unless there was physical evidence.Don’t get me wrong, I totally believe my wife on this because she is very tuned in to these kinds of issues.  She has her finger on the pulse.  I totally believe her but, the other problem is that it’s so hard for me to imagine what would make a guy react this way.  When I hear about male behavior like this I’m always a bit stunned because I don’t act that way.  Nor do any of the men I know or associate with and yet—it’s happening, a lot.
Another difficulty I have when it comes to bringing stuff like this up on the show, is I tend to think that you guys listening to this podcast are not the same guys that need to hear the message.  I like to think that my audience is mostly made up of guys who are genuinely out there being...

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