227 – One Of The Worst Things You Can Do - a podcast by Alf Herigstad

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One Of The Worst Things You Can Do…
It is time once again for Being A better Man, the podcast focused exclusively on the character of men in all of its various forms.  I am your humble sherpa on this journey, my name is Alf Herigstad, I’m the creator and host of this show.Before I delve into today’s content I’m going to take a moment to acknowledge the sponsor of our Friday episodes: StumpTown Kilts.  Stump town Kilts is a company located in Portland Oregon, also known as “Stump Town”.  It is there that a few brave, industrious souls dedicate their life to the creation of what I believe to be the best kilts money can buy.  Each kilt is expertly crafted with the finest most durable material.  The designs are both functional and innovative, which means they have features other kilts do not.  Such as the huge hidden pocket, adjustable sizes and snap on accessories.  One of my favorite features is that I don’t have to iron them. 
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_______________________________We all have certain things that disgust us right?  One of the things that disgusts me is when I hear a grown man complaining about his wife or girlfriend, running her down to other people, demeaning and disrespecting her.  I really don’t enjoy hearing men complain about anything at all, I think it’s pathetic…but it is particularly nauseating to me when a man will complain about his significant other.
Don’t get me wrong.  It’s one thing to confide some legitimate problem you are having to a friend, seeking advice and counsel.  I don’t consider that complaining.  Sometimes we have to do that to work things out.What I’m talking about is when guys will complain about someone just for the sake of complaining.  Or when they will try to be funny by saying derogatory things, at the expense of someone who isn’t there to defend themselves.  Also, when a guy will call his significant other vulgar names and speak about her in disrespectful, unflattering terms.
It happens all the time and I’m sure you have heard someone do this.  Perhaps, you have been guilty of this yourself on occasion.  There are several reasons I have a problem with this.For one thing, when a man is in a relationship he has a basic function, a duty to perform.  That duty is to provide a high level of care to the other person.  To look out for them, protect them, defend them and be a good man to them.  So it blows my mind when a guy feels like it’s ok to throw all that out the window by doing the exact opposite of that.
When a man is complaining about and berating his significant other not only is he belittling her, but he is making himself smaller at the same time.  If a man is behaving exactly opposite to what his duty as a man would dictate—then, is he even a man at all? The other part that gets me about this is that I don’t understand why it happens.  Why, if a guy is that miserable.  If a guy is so dissatisfied with his relationship that he has to complain to other people.  Why doesn’t he either; a.) get counseling or help to fix the problem.  Or b.)  Just get out of the relationship?  If you are that miserable to the point that you abandon...

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