Podcasts by Black Girls Heal

Black Girls Heal

Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools.

Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.

Further podcasts by Shena Tubbs

Podcast on the topic Selbstverwirklichung

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Black Girls Heal
[NEW!] Welcome to Black Girls Heal! from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.592361

Welcome to Black Girls Heal where we help women break the cycle of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and feeling not enough to get the love they want, need, and most importantly deserve. ...

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#1: 5 Reasons Why Intimacy is So Hard from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.586222

If you have a problem getting close to others or letting others in, this is the episode for you. We discuss 5 reasons why intimacy can be so hard, even when it's what we truly want. 

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#2: Why You Can't Control Them... from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.580759

Often times, we're stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles because we think we can control others. This episode, we'll talk about why this may happen and some examples that commonly occur...

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#3: 3 Blocks to Inner Healing from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.575674

This week, we're digging all into inner healing! In this episode, Shena discusses 3 blocks that get in the way and gives you one tool to use when you're feeling frustrated and overwhelme...

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#4: Coping with Anger from Your Past from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.571774

This week, we did into how old anger can negatively affect our self-image, relationships with others, and impact unhealthy coping mechanisms.

 

We talk about the different "faces...

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#5: What is an Intimacy Disorder? - All About Love Addiction, Love Avoidance from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.560772

We talk about two of the ways that our unhealthy attachment can play out in relationships - love addiction and love avoidance. These intimacy disorders play out in predictable patterns that are ...

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#6: 3 Ways to Choose People Who Won't Burn You, Disappoint You, or Hurt You from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.557342

In this episode, I give you three ways to ensure you are not choosing people who may end up hurting you down the road. We talk about learning from previous lessons, paying attention to your inne...

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#7: When It's Hard to Let Go of a Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.553789

Sometimes, even when you know it's time to end a relationship, it's hard to let go. In this episode, Shena digs into 3 reasons it's hard to let go, how this sets you back, and some n...

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#8: Letting Others In (The How To's&Roadblocks) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.550199

Letting others in is hard. We can be afraid of being hurt, let down, or made to look foolish. It's also hard to determine who are the right people to let in, if any at all.


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#9: Avoiding a Victim Mentality in Relationships from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.546518

In this episode, we talk about what is a victim mentality, how might it show up in relationships, and what to do about it!

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#10: 3 Ways to Know It's Time to End a Relationship (Summer Reset) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.487352

Let's get the second half of your year (or whenever you are listening to this podcast) in gear by knowing if it's time for your relationship to come to a pause or keep it going. 

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#11: When Living in Your Head Soothes You from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.480148

Fantasy and living in our heads are fancy coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe but also keeps us stuck. 

In this episode, we break down what fantasy may look like in your everyd...

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#12: When Trauma Shuts You Down in Relationships from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.473860

Unresolved trauma gets stuck in your body and not only will affect you individually (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), but also in your relationships as well.

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#13: Identifying Your Feelings (With an Intimacy Disorder) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.467333

Determining how we feel is vital to showing up for ourselves with self-love, showing up as our own person in relationships, and getting what we need. But it can be hard to get in touch with our ...

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#14: 3 Things Avoidants Can Do To Make Their Lives Better from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.460274

In this episode, we go over what is love avoidance, how it looks in relationships, and 3 things you can do to unlearn it and improve your connection to others and yourself today.

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#15: Is it Time to Go Back to Therapy? from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.452241

So you've been to therapy before and you're wondering if maybe you need to go back? This episode will help you determine if so and give some advice to surpass the mindset blocks keeping ...

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#16: Healing Codependency from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.445435

In this episode, we dig into what is codependency, where does it come from, and what you can do to unlearn it. We also spend time talking about what it looks like when we encourage people to be ...

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#17: What is Withdrawal? from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.441157

Ever wonder what that deep, painful feeling is that happens after you break up as a love addict? Ever feel that it hits you differently than others and you wonder why?

Well, you're not...

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#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.437107

Are you ready for change? In this two-part series, we get into 4 mindsets that may be blocking you from change. 

 

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#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing? from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.391703

Where are you in the stages of change? Are you actually changing or just thinking about it?

We dig into it this episode and also how to help you get to the next level.

 

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#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.385872

In this special episode, we take a listen to the Q&A about podcast episode #4 - When It's Hard to Let Go. In this episode, we cover boundaries and how to create healthy space in family, ...

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#21: Manifestation&Mindset from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.380270

In this episode, we get into how manifestation is connected to your inner healing.


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#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.376648

In this episode, Sarah Suzuki of Chicago Compass Counseling breaks down what it means to build self compassion. She gives us pra...

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Check in! from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.372262

Just a check in while we get some great things ready for you!


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#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.368590

In this episode, we do a quick breakdown of the importance of forgiveness for our healing process. We also dig into 3 traps we fall into when forgiving others.


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#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.365105

Forgiveness isn't just something we do for and with other people. Forgiveness is a critical part of self healing and recovery. We did into different facets of it today.

 

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#25: Trauma Bonds from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.360867

Trauma bonds! Where do they come from? Why are they so hard to get rid up? What's the difference between a trauma bond and being in love. 

We did into all of that AND more in this week...

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#26: False Intimacy from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.356282

Do you move quickly too soon in relationships? Ever wonder why? Take a listen to this episode to pause, regroup, and learn how to build intimacy in a healthy way.

 

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#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.349490

We are starting a new segment of the podcast called "Ask Shena" where listeners get a chance to have a mini-call with Shena. 

This episode, being the first, talks about why we are ...

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#28: Boundary Hangovers from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.345309

Ever feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt after setting boundaries with someone? Don't worry! You're normal. 

We talk about it more in this episode!

 

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#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.341175

Oof!! Have you ever messed up and battled with shame on how it made you look, what it meant about you, and if you could ever recover?

If so, this episode is for you. Join us as Shena talks...

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#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.293938

In time for the holiday season, I'm sharing my top two communication tips to help you share what you're feeling and avoid escalating conflict.


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#31: Creating Your Own Traditions from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.290021

If you're a love addict and are feeling the pain this holiday season waiting for when your time will come, this episode is for you!

Take a listen as Shena talks about starting your own...

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#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019 from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.285994

Whether your a newbie or a Day 1, this episode is going to recap the most popular podcast episodes of 2019 and give you a place to start should you be looking to catch up.

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#33: You Have the Power from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.281781

YOU have the power to change your life. You are your own superhero.

Love you so much and Happy New Year!


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#34: You Can Change Your Mind from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.277774

Part of healing includes knowing you can change your mind! Let's talk about it today!

 

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#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.265944

How do you learn from your mistakes? How do you avoid falling into your own personal potholes? 

We talk about it in this episode!


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#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.261840

If you've struggled with some issues with regards to your sexuality and sex life, it may be based on your attachment and unresolved trauma.

I talk about the ways I've seen it show ...

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#37: Maybe It's You from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.248295

If you've battled with consistent relationship issues, instead of look at how other people may be the issue, it might be important to look at yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the issue.

We d...

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#38: The Label DOES Matter from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.237882

When working to have clarity in your relationships, first thing we gotta start with is the label. In this episode, we talk about why labels DO matter and how going without them can be connected ...

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#39: Healing Intellectual Trauma (Student Highlight) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.195093

Intellectual trauma can impact how we show up in the world, how we feel about ourselves, and truly block us. In this podcast episode, I help one of my students walk through it!

 

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#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.189967

Sometimes, even when you want to connect and let your walls down, fear gets in the way. We talk about it here!

 

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#41: Is Shame Controlling You? from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.186017

In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be projecting your shame.


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#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.182479

We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode!


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#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.178306

In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be tempted to go to unhealthy coping mechani...

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#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.173506

In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is!

 

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#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.164151

In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it. 

 

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#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.160541

Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay.

Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and finding balance. 

 

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#47: You Can't"Practice"With Unhealthy People from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.156455

Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn&#...

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#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.151297

If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that relationship. Listen to 3 ...

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#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.146595

When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4 things to look out for and how it...

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#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.142347

So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's talk about how. We dig into that a...

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BONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.100452

Racial trauma hits different. It goes deep, affects our bodies, and our peace. 

In this episode, I talk about how it's been affecting me, and some resources I have found. 


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#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.094204

Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in relationships.


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#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.088303

Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well. 

In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of my students in hopes it will ...

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#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.081785

We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial trauma. 


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#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.075830

When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who would be healthy fits to support yo...

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#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.068123

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#56: Starting a Healing Circle from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.062332

In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles. 

 

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#57: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah) from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.056590

Sometimes we deal with feeling empty and unsatisfied. Sometimes we don't even realize it! In this week's episode, we dive into exactly what feeling unsatisfied looks like and haw to heal...

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#58: Living A life With Regrets from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.051044

Many of us can relate to having a few regrets. But what happens when you feel frozen by them and ruminate?

In this episode, we talk about moving forward, making new meaning, and understand...

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#59: Why They're Treating You the Way They're Treating You from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.046724

You were so in love, but things have changed. 

Y'all were best friends, but now it feels like she betrayed you. 

And while things change in relationships all of this time, this w...

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#60: Grieving Who You Thought They Were from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.043168

When you have to face the truth of a relationship, you will experience some sadness. We dig into that truth in this week's episode. 

 

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#61: The Four Communication Styles with Kourtney Dubois from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.039728

Let's talk about how we communicate and where it comes from! In this podcast episode, we talk with Relationship Coach Kourtney Dubois about how to communicate in a healthy way and the three ...

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#62: Therapy vs Coaching When Healing From Love Addiction from 2023-12-13T16:02:30.036375

If you are wanting to do coaching while you do therapy or vice versa to heal from love addiction, this episode is for you. 

Shena breaks down the different responsibilities and roles of yo...

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#63: Take Your Time from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.998014

We can be impatient with our healing process, but it's so important for us to take our time. 

 

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#64: Stop Testing Yourself from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.992506

In this episode, we talk about walking the fine line of going back to old behaviors (and relationships) to test yourself and see if you've healed.... and basically why you shouldn't do t...

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#65: You're Worth It (Student Highlight) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.986423

In this episode, we have a student highlight and then focus on the fact that YOU are worth it and the stories that may get in the way of us believing it. 

 

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#66: Changing and Learning New Lessons from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.980870

In our life, we are GOING to change, and we have to adjust with those transitions along with learn the lessons that stage is trying to teach us. 

We dig into this concept more along with p...

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#67: When You're the Friend Who Can't Get it RIght from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.975989

Are you the friend who constantly has relationship issues and you can't get it right? Feeling some shame about it and as if you're permanently flawed? You don't have to feel that way...

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#68: Mindfulness&Healing Your Trauma f Valerie Ritchie from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.970091

When healing the trauma that causes disruption in how we connect to others and ourselves, we have to start with paying attention to our bodies and what is it that we truly need. Mindfulness is a...

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#69: The 4 Types of Love Addicts from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.964984

Not all intimacy disorders are created equal. In this podcast episode, we talk about the 4 different types of love addicts!


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#70: What if I Can't Get Better [Student Highlight] from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.960086

You're doing your healing process (or you're thinking about starting) and you have this fear about what if I can't get better? What if this is all I will ever be? What if I try to ch...

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#71: How to Be a Good Girlfriend from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.954499

In this episode, we are pulling lessons from iconic tv shows about life, friendship, and love. Today, we are taking a deep dive into the pilot episode of the hit TV show, Girlfriends. Listen

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#72: 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.949581

Ready for a checklist of items to look out for when healing from love addiction to becoming a healed and loved woman? If so, I GOT YOU!

Check out this episode as we dig in to 10 Points of ...

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#73: Processing of Post-Election Disappointment in Supposed Allies from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.944756

In this episode, I process my post election disappointment in supposed allies and how I'm coping with that. 

For more tips on coping, look at episode #52: Healing Our Unavailable Relat...

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#74: 3 Mistakes From Not Owning Your Value from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.939236

It's important that in ALL things you own your value - relationships, dreams, career, and beyond. 

In this episode, I talk about 3 mistakes that happen when you don't own your valu...

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#75: Make Your Family Support Plan (for the Holidays) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.899756

Let's do this! It's the holidays and you need support on how to make the most out of this time. If that's you, listen to this episode to learn how to make a holiday support plan for ...

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#76: 3 Reasons Self Love is the Best Love from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.882171

When it comes to the "right" type of love, focusing on our self love is the best love we can give ourselves this holiday season. 

In this episodes, we talk about 3 reasons that'...

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#77: Getting Ahead of Her Codependency [Student Highlight] from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.858947

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#78: Dating After Heartbreak from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.853302

If you've had your heart broken and you're trying to determine if you even want to date again, we talked about three possible mindset shifts for you to consider to help you get there.  Listen

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#79: Lessons Learned Healing from Love Avoidance [Student Highlight] from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.849357

In this episode, our student, Rolanda, shares her story, inspiration, and hope that she's found healing from love addiction. Sis is a story teller and so gifted at uplifting others. We hope ...

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#80: 8 Lessons I Learned in 2020 from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.845800

In this episode, I review 8 lessons I learned in 2020 and what I'm taking with me and Black Girls Heal into 2021. 


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#81: Coping with Lack of Closure from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.842024

To close out the year, we're going to talk about how to gain closure in different types of relationships where closure may not be possible. We hope you find this helpful in case you relate t...

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#82: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.836684

We're breaking down the Healed and Loved Woman Framework starting with the first diamond - Being Love Balanced vs Love Addicted.

 

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#83: From Love Avoidant to Love Available from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.799198

In this week's episode, we're looking at the second component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework, how to go from being love avoidant to love available. Listen now ...

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#84: From Love Deprived to Love Worthy (Re-Uploaded) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.796276

For our last component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework, we are looking at going from love deprivation to feeling love worthy. 

 

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#85: Healed and Loved Meditation&Affirmations from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.793069

We're wrapping up the last part of the Healed and Loved Woman series with a short meditation and affirmations for you to use in your daily life to call forth the concepts we teach on here. Listen

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#86: 5 Reasons You Need to Heal in a Group from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.790393

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#87: Connecting to Black Women After Being Rejected for Not Being Black Enough from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.787364

If you grew up in a mostly white or non-black setting and experienced peer trauma for "not being Black enough," sometimes it shows up as fear of rejection from other black women as an ad...

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#88: Self Care While Dating with Francesca Hogi from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.784222

For single women who are actively dating or considering dating, self care is crucial as the dating experience can be so triggering. Join me and Francesca Hogi as she tells us how to prioritize s...

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#89: Coping+When It's Hard to Let Go (Reshare) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.775938

As we recover from the 2021 Texas Winter Storm, we're resharing one of our most popular episodes. In support of any listeners who are also recovering, we spend a few minutes at the beginning...

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#90: 5 Reasons You Need to Apologize from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.772505

When it comes to embodying a Healed and Loved Woman to have healthy relationships, self accountability, honesty, and apologies are part of the deal. In this episode, we explore 5 reasons you may...

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#91: Dimming Your Light For Self Protection from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.766132

 

 

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#92: How to Tell if a Relationship is Safe For Your Healing from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.757342

How can we tell if a relationship, institution, coach, or influencer is safe for our healing? Let's talk about it in today's episode. 

 

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#93: Healing Your Mother Wound from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.751869

Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we ...

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#94: Our Relationship With Food, Trauma, and Self Soothing f/ Dr. Ebony Butler from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.745848

In this episode, we talk about body love, the connection between food and trauma, and the importance of unlearning diet culture.

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#95: For the Fellas: Black Men, Trauma, Intimacy,&Connecting from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.739436

In this episode, we're going to talk about trauma and how it shows up in men, impacts their self worth and their relationships. 

The episode is created for men to find connection but a...

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# 96: Grieving Childlessness by Singleness&Circumstance from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.704925

In this episode, we talking about how women who want to have children biologically can cope with childlessness by circumstance. Our amazing guest Yvonne John talks about coping with the grief of...

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#97: Identifying Codependent Patterns in Your Everyday Life from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.699641

We can be codependent in many other areas outside of our interpersonal relationships. 

In this episode, we will break down what that may look like. 

 

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#98: The Importance of Self Care f/ Les Alfred from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.694511

Knowing how to prioritize ourselves and practice self care is SO important for our healing process. In this episode, Les Alfred of Balanced Black Girl joins us to talk about what this looks like...

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#99: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.688992

Our intimacy disorders show up in different ways at different stages of our relationships. In this episode, I recount some ways that my love addiction showed up in hopes of identifying any set b...

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#100: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Avoidant from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.684024

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. 

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#101: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Addict in Marriage from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.671230

So many of the teachings that I share on this podcast are targeted situations for single women. This week, I’m talking about how intimacy disorders, particularly love addiction, show up in commi...

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#102: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Avoidant in Marriage from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.651834

This week, we’re finishing up our series on mistakes that I’ve made in my intimacy disorders and my relationship history. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love avo...

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#103: How to Know When You Are Done with Your Healing Process from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.646725

One of the most common questions I get from my clients as we start working together is “how do I know when this is all going to be over?” The truth is many of my clients are dealing with terribl...

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#104: The 12-Step Experience for Sex and Love Addicts from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.640652

Personally speaking, my experience with the 12-step philosophy for sex and love addicts was so healing and helpful. You might not be aware, but there are sex and love addicts anonymous programs ...

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#105: Going Thru Transition is Okay from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.635647

It seems like we're all in a place of transition right now, trying to determine our new normal. 

Hear some encouragement about why transitioning is totally okay.


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#106: When They Break Up With You Because You ‘Deserve Better’ from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.605001

Something I see a lot with the women that I serve is this stressful and conflicting scenario of hearing the phrase “you deserve someone better”. This is a phrase that is commonly used when someo...

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#107: Things I Learned During my Hiatus (Adult ADHD, Connecting, Feminine Energy,&More) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.594923

I’m back! It’s been a little over a month since I dropped a podcast episode and I've taken the time to do some deep soul searching. Listen in to hear all the things I’ve learned about myself...

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#108: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.590600

Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to h...

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#109: Being Healed and Loved Woman at All Times from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.584901

It’s that time again. It’s time for a refresher on what it means to be a healed and loved woman as developed in our three part framework. Listen in to hear the framework again and what you need ...

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#110: 4 Ways to Not be Codependent as a Healer from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.581241

I’m sharing these tips for anyone who is a professional healer. Those of you who are therapists, coaches, crystal workers, healers of all sorts, listen in. But, if you are the sage of your famil...

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#111: 3 Ways to Know You’ve Grown and are Healthier from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.575574

It’s time to give yourself a pat on the back. One of the things we as women, but especially Black women, don’t do often enough is recognize when we’ve made progress. This is why I’m sharing thre...

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#112: What to Keep in Mind When You Miss Red Flags from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.570412

If you’ve missed red flags in a relationship, it’s completely and totally okay. There is no shame in having missed the signs and suddenly realizing that they are there. Which is why I’m sharing ...

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#113: Why Love Addicts are Actually Avoidant from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.564762

Love Addiction and Love Avoidance are different sides of the same coin and have the same goal in mind. Let's talk about it today!


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#114: Financial Complacency and Abandonment as a Red Flag from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.556293

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#115: Answering Your Questions (Part 1) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.551638

We're answering listener questions in today's episode! Today's questions talk about addiction, trauma bonds, family conflict, and dating!


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#116: Coping When Family and Loved Ones Think Negatively of You from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.546159

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#117: How to Host a Relationship Check-In from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.542261

In this episode, we talk about how to host a relationship check in with your family, friendship, and romantic partnerships. Grab a pen and paper to get started!

 

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#118: 3 Things I Learned from The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat (About Fear and Hiding) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.538232

In this episode, I recap the things I learned from the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat about fear, hiding, and the importance of sisterhood.

 

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#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.529076

What do you do when you realize you were the toxic one in a relationship? Let's talk about what it can look like here and also some steps for you to take.

 

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#120: Why Your Deep Intimacy&Trust Should be Earned from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.524464

Opening up and building trust to others is super important. But also so is being discriminate with who you allow into your heart.

In this episode, I talk about why this is important.

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#121: When You're Afraid to Try Again in Relationships from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.517615

Have you been procrastinating putting yourself out there and making yourself available to get to know others? Then this one is for you. It's time to stop living in fear and actually create t...

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#122: The 3 Things You Don't Need to Apologize For from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.509325

There are three things we never need to apologize for. Our boundaries, our identity, and our voice are so important and valuable to us.

 

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#124: Why You Gotta Take a Break! from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.503100

Rest is SOOO important. It's really about how we treat ourselves and how we feel about ourselves.

We talk about how not resting is a fight or flight response and the importance of bein...

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Checking In - It's Okay to be Tired (Covid related) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.496769

It's okay to be over it. Checking in a little bit.


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#126: 5 Things I'm Doing to Cultivate Friendships from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.490981

Five things I'm currently doing to cultivate my friendships in this season in spite of avoidant tendencies.


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#127: Internalized Misogyny&Love Addiction from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.482987

In a current social trend that is pushing misogyny at length as self help, in this episode, we're looking at some common examples of internalized misogyny love addicts and codependents may f...

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#129: Being a Healed and Loved Woman from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.477457

We are recapping the Healed and Loved Woman Framework to embody being balanced, available, and worthy in our relationships.

 

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#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.472522

It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.

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#131: Fighting Perfectionism with Dr. Marcuetta Sims from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.467583

In this episode, Dr. Marcuetta Sims breaks down what perfectionism looks like in our lives and how to work through it.


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#132: Asking for What You Need Emotionally in Friendships from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.461688

To maintain safety and love with your relationships, it's important for you to know how to ask for what you need emotionalyl when sharing with your friends and how to repair when there's...

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#133: Finding Your Voice in Your Recovery Journey from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.457049

As you're recovering, it takes so much work and inner reflection to find your voice and what's true for YOU and the relationships you want to cultivate.

In today's episode, we ...

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#134: Lessons Learned from Divorcing from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.451728

Making the right decision for yourself is hard, and it can make you go through a lot of back and forth. 

In today's episode, I talk about some lessons I learned during this process. Listen

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#135: Inspiration for You - Bodywork Healing, Motivation, and the Power Inside from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.446547

We're drawing from our text inspiration messages for this week's episode. We hope you find it inspirational!


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#136: On Being Triggered (My Repair Episode) from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.441387

Let's talk about what it looks like when we're triggered, how we respond, and healthier next steps to take.

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#137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.435877

Let's take a deeper look at love deprivation including it's symptoms, the impact of withdrawal, and ways to exit the cycle.

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#138: Getting unstuck via self-forgiveness from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.415331

Let's break down was living in self forgiveness looks like so we can move forward!

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#139: Grieving The Relationship You Never Had With Your Mother from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.411587

If you have felt sad or disheartened because you haven't been able to build the relationship you want with your mother, this podcast is for you. Let's talk about how to grieve your relat...

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#140: Your Trauma and Your (Conflictual) Relationship w/ Your Daughter from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.407735

If you're a mom and have a conflictual relationship with your daughter, part of it *might* be because your unresolved inner child wounds that resurface when faced with a part of yourself you...

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#141: Musings about ADHD, Diagnoses, and What Works for Me from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.404088

Touching base this week in a mini-epiosde talking about learning to take space to figure out what works for me with my ADHD.


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#142: Just checking in with you and sending love from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.399653

The last few weeks have been tough.

 

I just wanted to send you all some love.


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#143: 5 Signs You Feel Protected in a Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.395139

To feel protected in a relationship is one of the biggest blessings but should ALSO be a standard that you hold for every partnership and friendship you have.

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#144: How to Let Your Partner Have Their Own Feelings from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.391115

Your partner is their own person with their own feelings. But sometimes those feelings can be triggering to us even when they don't intend it to be.

In this episode, we go over 3 thing...

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#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.386935

Pulling from the work of Dr. John Gottman, we talk about the importance of bids and repairs to the health of a relationships.

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Now introducing our brother podcast, For the Fellas from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.383313

I'm sooo excited to share the debut of our brother podcast, For the Fellas

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#146: 5 Truths for Love Addicts Healing from Heartbreak from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.379486

Heartbreak is really hard for love addicts. Especially when we're still holding on. This episode is to give 5 truths for love addicts healing for heartbreak.

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#147: Hurt Feelings, Codependency, and Letting What I Give Be Enough from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.369849

Even healers can overgive and need to be mindful of triggers. I break down a recent event and how it triggered me and next steps I'm taking to move forward. 

 

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#148: Breaking the Habit of Self Criticism from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.364679

Pulling from the title of the book, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," we're talking about the importance of doing the actions that you have learned to do to create change.

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#149: Enabling vs Empowering from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.360181

In this episode, we talk about the difference between disempowering helping (enabling) and empowerment.


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#150: Feeling Whatever You Need to Feel About Your Past Relationship from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.354574

When relationships do not work out (Friendship, romantic, familial, or otherwise) we can have a variety of emotional responses: neutrality, intense longing and love, hatred and rage, and any com...

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#151: Grieving Being Let Down at Your Big Events from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.350370

Sometimes family and loved ones don't rise to the occassion and show up for us as we need them to at our big events (i.e. weddings, graduations, birthday parties, child births, etc). This ab...

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#152: When You Like Someone as a Love Addict from 2023-12-13T16:02:29.346169

What does it look like to be balanced and still available after you've been working on your love addiction symptoms.


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#153: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.093176

What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.

In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey buil...

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#154: The Healed and Loved Woman: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.091152

It's time for our annual recap of our Healed and Loved Woman Framework. In this episode, we talk about the characteristics of going from being Love Addicted to Love Balanced.


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#155: Setting Unrealistic Expectations Based on Fantasy from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.089842

Can we "break our own heart" by creating unrealistic expectations for others based on our fantasies of who we want them to be?

Let's talk about it in today's episode.

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#156: It Gets Better... from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.088203

In this episode, we want to normalize that, even though the healing process can be difficult at first, it does get better and evens out.

We hope breaking down what happens and what to expe...

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#157: Making Running the Household Fair with Laura Danger from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.086863

What happens when running the household feels imbalanced, unfair, and it's causing discord with you and your partner?

In this episode, Laura Danger joins us to talk about the tool of t...

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#158: Heart to Heart: Not Losing Your Self in a New Relationship from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.085616

In this episode, Shena coaches an audience member on how to not lose herself in her new relationship.


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Bonus Episode: October Catch Up with Shena from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.084013

In this bonus episode, you can catch up with me about the things I am personally learning and applying in my life for pleasure, fun and healing that I'd like to share. A tiny bit of tea is s...

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#159: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your F'ing Hands) from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.082832

In this episode, we're talking to anyone who is currently in a love addictive cycle and needs to pull back to reset and regain their sense of self.

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#160: The No Contact Process as a Healing Tool for Love Addiction from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.080794

Let's talk about using a 90 day no contact period as a reset tool to help you gain clarity.


We talk about the why and the process within inside.


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#161: Going from Love Avoidant to Love Available from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.079352

In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.


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#162: Dealing with Seasons of Conflict from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.078216

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to deal when you are in a season of conflict. Whether it be with people from your past or in the present, my hope is that the 4 things I share in this...

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For Healers #1: 3 Beliefs for Healing Professionals to Challenge from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.077118

Being in the business of healing is hard - learning how to balance healing yourself while healing others.

In this episode, I review 3 beliefs for your to challenge as a healing professiona...

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#163: How childhood emotional neglect leads to love addiction from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.075518

In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction

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#164: The Art of Receiving from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.074114

In this episode, we will talk about the art of receiving and what gets in the way.


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#165: 3 Things Learned from Coaching Women from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.072188

In this episode, Shena talks about 3 things she has learned while building Black Girls Heal and coaching women.


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#166: When The Person With all the Answers Falls Short from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.070538

In this episode, Shena talks about what it looks like when the person who's used to having all the answer falls short practices self acceptance and learns to live in her bliss.


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#167: Humiliation as a Red Flag from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.069021

In your relationship, if a partner is humilating you, that is a red flag to pay attention to. Let's talk about what it looks like and why we may miss it in today's episode.


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#168: Take Your Time from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.067023

This week I am re-sharing one of our most loved episodes all about the importance of taking our time in our healing process.


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#169: The Sadness that is Going Around from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.065667

Sadness is hitting many super heavy this season. In this episode, I talk about some trends I've noticed with this season of sadness.


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#170: Self Love and Dropping the Cape with Michelle Goodloe from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.063372

In this episode, Michelle Goodloe joins us to talk about what is self love and how to drop the superwoman cape to feel our feelings.


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#171: Going from Love Deprivation To Felt Love Worthiness (Stages Of Change) from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.062288

This in this episode I’m going to be talking about how to go from love Deprivation to Love Worthiness while I walk you through the stages that you can expect on this journey


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#172: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma with a Sex Addicted Partner from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.061077

Today's episode is about dealing with betrayal trauma when you're with a sex addicted partner. Also, how you can get the support as a sex addict and what healing can look like for both p...

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#173: Betrayal Trauma Emotional Aftercare Support (Pt 2) from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.059328

In this episode, Shena provides some aftercare support for Ep. 172 that talked about dealing with betrayal trauma for a partner who is struggling with Sex and Porn addiction.

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#174: Healing our Womb&Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.058114

Todays episode is part of a womb work and healing series starting with the topic of the pelvic floor with one of my favourite Pelvic Physical Therapist Dr. Alicia Jefferey. We are covering the m...

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#175: Making the right decision for yourself on faith from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.056260

In this episode we are talking about making the right decision for yourself even when it goes against your internal fears & what you have always done before and how to make that move towards...

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#176: 3 Reasons Your No Contact Process is Not Working from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.054570

In this episode, we follow up on our No Contact Process shared in Episode #160 to discuss the reasons why your no contact may not be working.


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#177: Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in Love Languages from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.052132

In this episode, we're going to look at the difference between Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in the 5 love languages.


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#178: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or your Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...) from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.050796

Todays episode is a re-share of an old episode. It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.

This episode is in support ...

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#179: 3 Signs of an Expired Friendship from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.049315

Sometimes our friendships may be giving signs that we have outgrown them and they may be a bit toxic for us. In today's episode, we will review signs of an expired friendship that may need t...

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#180: Coping with Chronic illness (5 encouragements) from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.047344

In this episode I open up about my journey living with a chronic illness and share encouragements in hope that it supports those with a similar experience


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#182: Situationship Singlehood+Asking for What You Want from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.044752

In this episode, Shena talks about the reality of situationships without commitment and the importance to be clear and honest with yourself about what you want.


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#183: Stop Withholding Love and Be Love Available from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.042247

In this episode, Shena discusses what does it look like to withhold love as a punishment, the consequences of it, and encouragement to move towards love availability.


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#184: Emotional Anchors&Your Highest Level Self from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.039014

In this episode, Shena discussed emotional anchors and how to connect to your highest level version of yourself as an emotional resource.


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#185: No Contact+Surrendering in Relationships from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.035785

In this episode, Shena will talk about the No Contact process and learning how to surrender in healthy romantic relationships vs projecting your trauma.


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#186: 7 Steps to Cope with a Situationship Breakup from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.011440

Even though situationships don't have an official title, breaking one up can still leave you feeling heartbroken. In this episode Shena shares why and the 7 step process on how to cope after...

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#187: The healing is in the repair from 2023-11-29T19:06:05.008177

In this episode, Shena goes over how the evidence of healing is not in the absence of ruptures, but in he repairs.


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#188: Learning to Live in the Goodness from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.996799

In this episode, Shena talks about lessons learned in this current stage of relationships, places she's learned to receive, and how it's shown up for her in romantic partnerships.

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#189: Mother Enmeshed Men from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.992154

In todays episode I talk about men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers, what it looks like, how it shows up for you if you are in a relationship with them & shedding light on bot...

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#190: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict (Throwback) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.987175

In this episode, Shena revisitsEpisode #99 where she discusses 3 mistakes she made dating as a love addict.


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#191: The 4 Seasons of Self Love (in Dating) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.984635

In this episode Shena talks about the 4 seasons of self love & what that looks like within our relationships


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#192: It’s time to work on what you’ve been avoiding from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.982299

In this Episode Shena shares the importance of facing it all & how it is all connected for your betterment.

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#193: Family boundaries, money trauma, explosive fights, sexual assault, situationship problems, queer dating and more! (Listener Q&A) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.973952

Shena goes in depth in this listener Q&A. In this episode, Shena answers questions about:

  • Boundaries in the midst of family drama
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#194: 3 Ways to Optimize Community (and how to find it) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.971358

Our community is our lifeline when it comes to our healing. In this episode, I go over 3 ways to optimize the community you already have and also how to find it if you are still looking for it.<...

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#195: (Re)training your body to experience good feelings from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.969314

Learning how to train your body and mind make way for the positives and to focus on good feelings can take some time. In this episode, Shena reviews 3 things you can do to retrain your body to a...

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#196: Allowing those who want to leave to leave from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.966894

Sometimes we are the ones who choose to cut ties with others and sometimes others are the ones who choose to cut ties with us. In this episode, I talk about 4 things for you to keep in mind when...

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#197: Therapeutic separation with a neglectful partnership from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.965112

In this episode, we talk about the place that a therapeutic separation may have when found in a neglectful partnership and in need of a reset to determine one's next steps.


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#198: How to Apologize (and When Not to) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.962704

In today's episode, we're talking about how to apologize when it's time to make amends and also when not to. It's important to find a balance between self accountability and not ...

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#199: Refocusing and Self Love at BGH from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.959953

In today's episode Shena shares about the exciting changes that are coming to the Black Girls Heal Podcast in hopes to help all of us go deeper in our self love while also creating healthy r...

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#200: The 5 Steps to Heal from Love Addiction from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.956917

In today's episode Shena talks about the roadmap to go from being love Addicted to Love balanced. As she revisits these foundational episodes, it is with the hope and intention for us all to...

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#201: 3 Regrets as a Recovered Love Addict from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.952483

Following from last week, in today's episode I reflect on the 3 things I would have done differently as a love addict.


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#202: Do I tell them I'm a love addict? [repost] from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.949540

In this episode, Shena goes what are the things you do and do not disclose to someone when first meeting them about your past and what you bring to the relationship.


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#203: When you feel love deprived and neglect yourself (Roadmap Episode) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.947052

In this week's podcast episode, Shena goes over what it looks like to live in Love Deprivation and self neglect and how to move towards being Love Nourished.


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#204: Recovering as a Married Single Mother with Jasmine Chanelle from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.942269

In this episode, our special guest, Jasmine Chanelle, joins us to talk about her experience as a Married Single Mother, the signs of abuse in the relationship, and life post exit.

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#205: Listen to Your Teachers, but Trust Your Gut from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.939994

In this episode, Shena talks about the importance of listening to your intuition even when you get guidance from trusted leaders and sources. She shares 3 questions to ask yourself to assess if ...

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#206: Sisterhood Heals with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.936879

In this episode, we are joined by special guest, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls to talk about the importance of sisterhood and how it helps us heal.

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#207: For Beautiful Ari&All Others Who Feel Not Enough from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.933729

In this episode, we look at feelings for low self worth, feeling like an imposter, and learning to soothe and care for ourselves in these hard moments.

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#208: 4 Gains of Being Love Available (fixed audio) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.928083

In this episode, we will talk about the gains made from moving from being love avoidant to love available in your self love, friendships, and every day life.


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#209: How to Use Coaching In Your Healing Process from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.924437

In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to use coaching as a tool in your healing process and how it differs from therapy.


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#210: Building Positive Self Belief from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.920776

In this episode, Shena focuses on the importance of focusing on the qualities you do want to cultivate and nurture in yourself versus the things you want to leave behind.

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#211: Feeling Safety in Your Body (Reclaiming Me) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.918608

In this episode, Shena talks about what does it feel like to find safety in your body and not feel as if you always have to run and do to avoid feelings of insecurity and anxiety.


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#212: What it Feels Like to be Restored from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.915815

What does it feel like to reach a place of restoration? Past suffering? Past just going through the motions, but actually feeling restored? This episode talks about that experience and what to l...

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#213: Is it compatibility or codependency? from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.912253

In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.

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Now Introducing The Business of Healing Podcast! from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.907105

We are so pleased to introduce the newest addition to the Black Girls Heal & Shena Lashey healing network: The Business of Healing Podcast!

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#214: 7 Tips for Dating Post Divorce from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.903368

In this episode, Shena reviews 7 tips to keep in mind for those who are interested in starting to date post divorce.


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#215: Can a Love Addict&Love Avoidant Make it Work? (3 Ways to Move Forward) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.899876

In this episode, Shena talks about can a love addict and love avoidant make it work in a relationship? And if so, the 3 things it takes for them to move forward.



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#216: 3 Things to Unlearn After an Unhealthy Relationship from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.895987

After an unhealthy relationship, we may take some unhealthy beliefs with us. In this episode, I go over 3 things to you may need to unlearn after an unhealthy partnership.


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#217: 12 Promises of Hope for Love Addict from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.892845

In this episode, Shena reviews 12 promises of hope and healing all love addicts can expect as they heal along their journey



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#218: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Avoidants from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.890588

In today's episode, Shena talks about 4 tasks that every love avoidant can look to achieve in therapy to becoming more love available and open in relationships.


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#219: 8 Tips for Going Outside for Love Addicts&Love Avoidants (New Intro+Update) from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.887275

In this epiosde, Shena talks about 8 tips to assist love avoidants and love addicts who would like to meet new friends and potential partnerships outside of online dating apps.

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#220: How I Left My Unhealthy Relationship from 2023-11-29T19:06:04.883341

In this episode, I talk about my experience with love deprivation and how it healing it by taking care of myself helped me heal a previous unhealthy relationship.


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#128: God is not calling you to be abused from 2022-01-27T06:20:27

God is not calling you to be abused in your relationship.

Period.

In this episode, we are talking about domestic violence, why it is NOT the same of other typical couple conflict, and sup...

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#123: Coping with Family Estrangement with Violetta Fernandez from 2021-12-01T05:30

Family Estrangement is super painful and can hard to navigate, especially during the holidays. 

Therapist Violetta Fernandez breaks it down for us and also how to cope with it.

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# 96: Grieving Childlessness by Singleness&Circumstance from 2021-04-15T07:00

In this episode, we talking about how women who want to have children biologically can cope with childlessness by circumstance. Our amazing guest Yvonne John talks about coping with the grief of...

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Special Announcement: The Black Girl Healing Circle Directory is Now Live! from 2020-07-18T14:31:45

If you're ready to start a healing circle and learn how to connect to other women, talk about intimacy, and build relationship with others, the Black Girl Healing Circle Directory is here!

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