040: What You Say About Your Partner (Behind Their Back) Matters - a podcast by Bud and Sara Dunn

We’ve all been in situations where we’ve complained about our partner to our friends.



This is kind of inevitable once in a while, but we really believe it shouldn’t be a habit.  On today’s episode, we talk about the impact that complaining about your partner has on your relationships, friendships, and your own mindset.In this episode, we talk about:



How complaining can make you feel more negative about your partner in generalThe difference between believing your partner is being (a temporary state) a jerk and believing your partner “is” (a permanent character) a jerkRecognizing when you’re complaining just for relief or affirmationHow your complaining can affect your friends’ relationshipsTalking to your friends about your spouse in a way that is actually looking for help#ConfidentCouples challenge:



Sara’s challenge: Say something nice about your partner to your friends.Bud’s challenge: Catch yourself the next time you start complaining about your partner, or rephrase the complaint into a “help me” statement.



Mentioned in this episode:Mr and Mrs Smith movie— therapy sceneGreat times to address complaints with your partner: The Ritual and Life Planning Dinner



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