Podcasts by Curious Fox

77: Complex Families with Leigh Montavon (Interview), and the Return of the Soap Box from 2021-06-26T05:00

How do you imagine a family that you have never seen before? How do you make it work? What is the difference between complexity and drama? 

Effy and Jacquline are joined by Queers Next ...

Your Stories Please from 2021-06-21T12:00

The Curious Fox team has intentions of doing a new series we're calling Fox Tales, where we share stories of curiosity, struggle, and thriving. 

We would love to hear from folks wh...

76: Queer Dating with Ariella Serur (Interview) from 2021-06-18T10:00

Is there a difference between queer dating and mono-normative dating? What are the main concerns and common strategies? What is one thing that we can all do to be braver in our dating lives?

75: Bisexuality is Real from 2021-06-11T08:00

How prevalent is bisexuality? What is it like to be attracted to all genders? Why don't see more representation of bisexual folks?

Effy and Jacqueline continue to celebrate Pride ...

74: Pride March, Late to Lesbian, and To Queer or Not to Queer from 2021-06-04T14:00

What happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? What does it mean to be queer? Is Pride still relevant?

Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring exp...

73: Codependency, Non-monogamy, the Octopus and the Turtle from 2021-05-28T16:00

Are we overuse words like codependency, trigger...etc? What does codependency look like and how can you move towards interdependency in your relationships?

Effy and Jacqueline start a ...

72: Relationship Transitions Revisited (LIVE) from 2021-05-21T17:00

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolut...

71: Moms, Money, and Meet Ups from 2021-05-14T02:00

Why is money so hard to talk about? How do finances impact non-traditional relationships? What are some of the creative ways to approach finances that reflects your relationships design?
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70: Emotionally Focused Couple's Therapy with Dr. Thomas Whitfield (Interview) from 2021-05-07T07:00

What would it take to have shorter arguments? Can relationship bliss be as easy as being able to name your emotions? Why do we have to work so hard for our relationships?

Effy and Jack...

69: What's Age Got To Do With It with Ashton Applewhite (Interview) from 2021-04-30T10:00

Do we stay in relationships longer in our older age because we think we won't find a new partner later on in life? What would online dating look like if age wasn't a part of the profil...

68: Relationship Anarchy (LIVE) (Revisited) from 2021-04-23T13:00

What is Relationships Anarchy? Can it be a sustaining and nurturing relationship structure that one can thrive in? Is there anything we can learn from this niche structure?

Effy and Ja...

67: Butt-Plugs and Pick Up Lines, And F**k Your Definition of Joy from 2021-04-16T14:00

Do you need a break from the heaviness of our last few episodes? Do you want to skip your next zoom meeting and talk about butt plugs and pickup lines instead? Do you need a new outlet to get so...

66: Easter Special: Sex in the Bible with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson (Interview) from 2021-04-09T02:00

Can your faith in the bible support your sexual expression? Is there scripture that encourages sexual exploration? Are we all going to hell because we like to give and get head?

On thi...

65: Unpacking Infidelity, the Other Side (Part 2) from 2021-04-02T06:00

Why do people cheat? Are the people who cheat always the villan of the story? Can you break your relationship patterns?

Effy and Jacqueline continue their exploration into infidelity t...

64: Compersion and Jealousy (LIVE) (Revisited) from 2021-03-20T14:00

Can jealousy be a revered teacher? Can you feel joy about your partner connecting with someone else? What does it take to cultivate sympathetic joy? 

Effy and Jacqueline revisit a clas...

63: Unpacking Infidelity, Surviving the Earthquake (Part 1 / Take 2) from 2021-03-14T11:00

What does your relationship look like after a betrayal? What happens when you explore the depths of your experience of infidelity? What does it take to the authentically bare your soul? 
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Stop the Press! A Message from Effy and Jacqueline from 2021-03-06T09:00

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61: Unpacking Infidelity, Consensual Non-monogamy After an Affair, and a Simple Request (Part 1) from 2021-02-27T10:00

Is an affair the end of the road? Can a monogamous relationship transition into an open structure after a transgression is uncovered? What kind of a relationship can you expect if "the othe...

60: What About the Children with Dr. Eli Sheff (Interview) from 2021-02-19T09:00

What about the children??? Can children thrive in a polyamorous family? What are the downsides to raising children with an open construct? 

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr...

59: Sh*ting all over Valentines'Day, History of Everything and The Soap Box from 2021-02-13T07:00

Valentines' Day sweeps the nation this weekend. Are you smothering your loved one in love hearts and chocolates or are you denouncing it all together?   

In this episode, Effy and ...

58: Somatic approach to boundary setting with Seza Aslanbas (Interview) from 2021-02-05T12:00

How do know where your boundaries are -- especially faced with new experiences?  Can our body give us clearer direction than our mind when it comes to knowing what feels good and what doesn&apos...

57: Masturbation as self-love and sex nest update with Stella Harris (Revisited) (Interview) from 2021-01-29T10:00

HAPPY SELF-LOVE MONTH!

Riddled with shame, secrecy, and stigma, can masturbation be reclaimed as a self-care and self-love experience? Too often a utilitarian act for relaxation or rel...

56: I'm not ok! and Curiouser and Curiouser: Lister's Questions from 2021-01-22T17:00

What are YOU curious about? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline answer listener questions.

How should you prepare yourself and your children when families begin to blend? Is polyamory dif...

55: Types of Human Bonding and Dating Apps with Dr Eli Sheff (Interview) from 2021-01-15T23:00

You know your love language, do you know your bonding style?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr. Eli Sheff, doctor of Sociology, the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door...

54: An Anticlimax, Reflections and Trying Something New from 2021-01-08T11:00

How can we approach newness in love, sex, and relationships in the new year? How can we reflect on the year gone and embrace change?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline look back to t...

53: A Holiday Family Story with Ryan DiMartino (Part 2) (Interview) from 2021-01-01T00:00

As the new year rolls in, can we renew and expand our ideas of love, parenthood, and family? Can we rethink how we approach pregnant people and the assumptions we carry around about motherhood? ...

52: A Holiday Family Story with Ryan DiMartino (Part 1) (Interview) from 2020-12-25T17:00

On a day where we often think about family the most, can we think about family differently? Can we untangle pregnancy from motherhood; motherhood from womanhood and blood from family?

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51: Curiouser and Curiouser: Listeners'Questions from 2020-12-19T17:00

What happens when you break up with one partner to focus on the other and remain in each others' social circles? How do you know you are ready to date? Can you ignore hypocrisy in a partner...

50: Fabulous 50, Falling in Love with Potential, and Picking your Pain from 2020-12-11T12:00

If new relationship energy (NRE) can be intoxicating, how do we avoid falling in love with the potential of a person or the possibilty of a relationship? How do we separate the noble intention t...

49: Boredom, Sex as a Hobby and The Soap Box from 2020-12-04T05:00

With the winter months upon us and quarantine restrictions getting tighter, we wonder if there’s an activity that we can do at home that’ll help us make time for ourselves, stay connected to oth...

48: Tea&Jam, The Holiday Cluster F**k and Black Friday from 2020-11-27T04:00

When society and cultures pack so much meaning to certain times of the year, what does it look like for those who have multiple relationships? When a simple premise of "spending the holiday...

47: From the Mouth of Babes, Sex-Positive Parenting and Slime from 2020-11-20T08:00

Amidst culture wars, identity politics, and the evolution of relationships as we know it, what does it take to bring up children who understand differences while remaining true to themselves?  <...

46: Glass Ceilings, Friends with Benefits, and The Soapbox from 2020-11-13T09:00

Can friends with benefits arrangement really work? What does it take to maintain a friendship with people you have sex with? 

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore if friends wi...

45: Anxiety, Attachment Systems, and Finding Joy from 2020-11-06T11:00

Given the current state of affairs, how do we manage anxiety so it doesn't trigger our attachment struggles?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about how our anxieties about...

44: Halloween, Relationship Changes, and the Soap Box from 2020-10-30T12:00

If change is the only constant, how can we be prepared for it in our relationships and in our lives? 

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about all the ways change can be experien...

43: Caretaking Dynamics and the Erotic Space in Relationships from 2020-10-23T13:00

Can a caretaking dynamic and the erotic exist in the same place within a relationship? How can you be caring without slipping into co-dependency?

In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacquel...

42: Sex, Spirituality and the Bible with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson (Interview) from 2020-10-17T04:00

Can you reconcile your faith with your sexual expression? Can your spirituality be an inspiration for celebrating your body and pleasure?

In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misl...

41: Sex, Culture, and Exploring Beyond the Erogenous Zones with Jocelyn Silva (Interview) from 2020-10-09T09:00

Can you reconcile your sex-negative culture and your sexual expression? What does it take to get to your pleasure and your body? How do you do discover the parts of your body that arouse you? Listen

40: Trauma, storytelling, and sex with women with Krystyna Hutchison (Interview) from 2020-10-02T14:00

Can you heal trauma through storytelling? Can your biggest fears be your hottest fantasies? What can you women learn from having sex with another woman?

In this episode, Effy and Jacqu...

39: Sex&Sensuality for the Super Sensitive with Jessie Fresh (Interview) from 2020-09-25T07:00

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person or an empath and how does it affect the way we show up in our sexual expression?

Being highly sensitive can be a blessing and a curse - es...

38: #polyproblems with Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla from 2020-09-18T11:00

Open relationships have a unique set of challenges and it’s often hard to know how to resolve them as open relationships have no specific roadmap. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore so...

37: Vet, Check, and Split with Shanae Adams (Interview) from 2020-09-14T20:00

We are told that communication is the most important skill to have within a relationship, however, we are never given a script or tips for how to have important or difficult conversations with o...

36: Consensual Non-Monogamy 101 (Part 2) from 2020-09-05T14:00

Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone.

In...

35: Consensual Non-Monogamy 101 (Part 1) from 2020-09-04T13:00

Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone.

In...

34: Emotional Intelligence as Erotic Wisdom with Shadeen Francis (Interview) from 2020-08-17T11:00

Our emotions provide insight into what we want to experience in pleasure. If we are tapped into these emotional clues, we can amplify our connection as well as our erotic experience. 

On t...

33: Finding The Right Therapist for All Lifestyles with Dr. Thomas Whitfield (Interview) from 2020-08-07T19:00

All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. 

In this episode, Effy Blue and Ja...

32: Recovering from Religious Dogma and Embracing Full Sexual and Relational Expression with Marie D'Elephant (Interview) from 2020-07-31T16:00

Religion can be a source of strength, community, meaning and purpose for some people while it can be a tool for oppression, control and exclusion for others - especially around sex and relations...

31: Establishing a QuaranTEAM as we settle into the new normal with Steve Dean (Interview) from 2020-07-24T17:00

As COVID-19 begins to surge in states like Texas, Florida, California, and Arizona - it is becoming increasingly clear that our lives will not be returning to the way it was any time soon...if a...

30: The Non-Monogamy Paradigm Shift: Challenging the Frameworks that Limit and Oppress with Angie Gunn (Interview) from 2020-07-17T14:00

Globally, we are confronting oppressive systems of race, class, gender-identity, and sexual orientation. As we fight in the streets and in our minds to overcome these archaic systems, how can ch...

29: Tantra and trauma, pain and pleasure, grief and healing with Adam Bee (Interview) from 2020-07-10T06:00

What would it be like if you were fully present for the grief in your body? What if you didn’t push it away and promise to come back later? What if you actually sat with it, witnessed it, and in...

28: Art, Kinky Porn, and Tale of a Bondage Model with Madison Young (Interview) from 2020-06-26T22:00

Is porn art or a menace to society? What's feminist porn? How can we be a responsible porn consumer?

Effy and Jacqueline catch up with feminist porn producer, actor and author Madi...

27: First Step to Opening Up from 2020-06-19T13:00

What are the first steps when exploring non-traditional relationship structures? How can we design a relationship that meets our needs and desires?

Effy and Jacqueline discuss the importan...

26: Challenge the Status Quo from 2020-06-12T08:00

We are taking a pause from our usual programming to join the country and the world in exclaiming that Black lives not only matter - that the Black community deserves to feel safe, valued, and fr...

25: Understanding Our Erotic Blueprint with Jessie Fresh (Interview) from 2020-06-05T09:00

How can we gain deeper understanding and insight into our pleasure? How do we communicate our erotic needs and desires, and our pathways to pleasure to our lovers and partners? 

Effy and J...

24: Attachment Patterning and Sexual Expression with Angie Gunn (Interview) from 2020-05-22T09:00

How do our early relationships with our parents impact our adult relationships today? How does the way that we relate to one another impact our sexual expression? 

Effy Blue and Jacqueline...

23: Masturbation As Self Love and Care With Stella Harris (Interview) from 2020-05-15T09:00

Riddled with shame, secrecy, and stigma, can masturbation be reclaimed as a self-care and self-love experience? Too often a utilitarian act for relaxation or release, masturbation wields the pow...

22: Loneliness with Jillian Richardson (Interview) from 2020-05-09T21:00

Why does it hurt so much to feel lonely? How is it possible for us to feel lonely, even when we are not alone? How can we find our way back to connection with ourselves and others?

As soci...

21: Redefining Dating and Sex During COVID-19 from 2020-05-01T23:00

What does sex look like when you have to stay six feet apart? How can you create intimacy and romance when you are feeling anxious? And how do our pre-COVID ideas about sex manifest during this ...

20: How to Communicate Our Desires With Partners We Are Isolated With or Away From With Stella Harris (Interview) from 2020-04-17T20:00

Talking about sex is not always comfortable...particularly in the midst of a pandemic.

Effy and Jacqueline speak with Stella Harris, a certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, about how ...

19: Nonviolent Communication in the Time of Covid-19 with Dr Clara Moisello (Interview) from 2020-04-13T12:00

With many of us isolated with or away from our partners, communication can become strained and relationships might be tense.

Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Clara Moisello about the ...

18: Connection, Intimacy, and Dating During a Pandemic with Steve Dean (Interview) from 2020-04-04T17:00

At a time of social distancing and self isolation, connection and dating can feel like a distant memory. But it doesn't have to be that way.

In this episode Effy and Jacqueline ch...

17: Initiating The Conversation About Non-monogamy (Interview) from 2020-03-27T18:00

Sometimes the hardest part of the conversation about non-monogamy is initiating it.

Effy and Jacqueline speak to Karolyn who shares her experience of approaching her husband to discuss...

16: Kink and BDSM with Midori (Interview) from 2020-03-13T19:00

Are you curious about kink? We have been conditioned to believe that kink can be painful or shameful, as opposed to a playful exploration of toys, power, and sexual expression.

Effy and Ja...

15: If Not Fidelity, Then What? from 2020-02-28T17:00

If a relationship is not defined by sexual or emotional fidelity, then how is it defined?

Effy and Jacqueline explore the difference between rules, agreements, boundaries, and promises - a...

14: Threesomes (Interview) from 2020-02-13T17:00

Threesomes are often the first port of exploration for both couples and solo adventurers.

But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to...

13: Managing Change in Relationships: Transformation vs Evolution from 2020-01-28T22:00

This time of year always brings pressure to let go of the old and embrace the new. Faced with a new decade ahead marked as the "decade of transformation," it can feel like a time of gr...

12: Missing the People We Love from 2019-12-18T13:00

From gift to family dinners to demands on our time and attention holidays are fraught with opportunities to feel frustrated and grateful. It can be a tender time of year as people gather in grou...

11: What Happened at Consider This 2019 from 2019-11-27T13:00

In this penultimate episode of the year, we recap our annual conference Consider This: A Day of Challenging the Status Quo in Love, Sex and Relationships 2019.

With speakers and paneli...

10: Coming Out as Non-monogamous (LIVE) from 2019-10-28T13:00

Figuring out the right relationship design for you and your partner(s) is key to thriving. If that design falls outside the status quo, how do you communicate it to other people in your life? Do...

9: Hierarchy vs Non-hierarchy Discussion Group (LIVE) from 2019-09-24T11:00

What is relationship hierarchy?

Effy and Jacqueline lead this lively discussion where Foxes shared from the heart as always. Unlike our usual panel discussion, we tried out a different ...

8: Vision and Mission of Curious Fox from 2019-08-29T14:00

Who is Curious Fox?

Effy and Jacqueline call a family meeting to discuss the vision for Curious Fox and invite you to be a part of the mission.

If you have a question that you...

7: Poly and Open Dating from 2019-07-16T16:00

From budding romantic relationships, to long term partnerships, to connections with metamours and friends; we are interested in how to build and maintain connections that meet our needs, bring u...

6: Know Thyself (Live) from 2019-06-19T12:00

The first step towards a healthy and thriving relationship of any kind is to know yourself. When people talk about trying to find themselves, have you ever wonder what the hell that means. Or mo...

5: Love Languages in Collaboration with Grown Up Questions from 2019-06-04T10:00

What are the love languages and how are they connected?

Effy  collaborated with our friends at Grown Up Questions, a podcast about the life long process of becoming adults. The hosts Be...

4: Metamours (Your Lover's Lover) (LIVE) from 2019-04-10T00:00

If you are practicing non-monogamy, you likely have had to think about what kind of relationship you would like to have with your partner’s partner(s).

Metamour is the term used ...

3: Compersion and Jealousy (LIVE) from 2019-03-13T00:00

What is compersion? Why doesn't spellcheck detect it as a real word?

Well, It's the feeling of joy that one gets when watching someone else experience joy.
Effy draws ou...

2: Relationship Anarchy (LIVE) from 2019-02-13T00:00

Are you curious about relationship anarchy (RA)?

First coined by Andie Nordgren, RA has roots in political ideology and calls for relationships not to be bound by rules aside from what...

Relationship Transitions (LIVE) from 2019-01-23T13:10:06

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolut...

1: Relationship Transitions (LIVE) from 2019-01-23T13:10:06

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolut...