Podcasts by Defining Marriage - Gay/LGBT News

Storebought Ham from 2018-12-25T00:27:40

It's a Christmas miracle! Defining Marriage is back, baby. And also finished. But James and Matthew aren't leaving you -- this is the start of something new and exciting and hopefully far less i...

Do You Want to See My Foot from 2018-04-02T07:01

Oh my stars and garters, we're back -- improbably enough, by popular demand. After a bit of a hiatus for creative re-tooling, Defining Marriage has been resurrected so you may once again revel i...

Practice Man Full of Meat from 2017-12-18T08:01

I Endorse Doug Funny from 2017-11-20T08:01

We're back for more nonsense! This week we're urging you to check out our Dungeons and Drag Queens show at DungeonDrag.com, and also celebrating the misery of Australian homophobes, hooray. James i...

The Greatest Adventure from 2017-10-31T21:47:14

We're back with a rollicking romp of forgotten names and irritating officials! I can't remember the name of another celebrity, and even when I remember I still forget. Vatican officials have some t...

The Floor Whisperer from 2017-10-02T07:01

This week, we celebrate the arrival of Halloween with inappropriate sound effects and the strange story of where pumpkin goo actually comes from. There's some rotten news from Alabama, where Roy Mo...

Don't Deny Your Chum a Bum from 2017-09-18T07:01

The Steel Beefalo of the Nightmare World from 2017-09-04T07:01

The Aftertaste of Tomorrow from 2017-08-17T04:35:21

A chilly hello from Reykjavik, city of the future! I'm recording from a drizzly city square this week, preparing to reunite with James at the end of my long strange journey through deepest Europ...

The Newly Dead Game from 2017-08-08T00:46:03

A Damp Swaddle in the Swath of Night from 2017-07-25T07:01

We have a special guest this week! Ulli Koppe went to see German Chancellor Angela Merkel speak on a panel a few weeks ago, and on the spur of the moment asked her during the Q&A when he'd be able ...

Mummy Overalls from 2017-07-17T07:01

This week on Defining Marriage, we've reached goat marriage at last: I've journeyed to a farm and met some animals and ate their cheese, and if that's not marriage what is? Elizabeth Warren wants t...

The Devil's Bicycle from 2017-07-10T07:01

On this week's Defining Marriage, we take a stroll through a dinosaur palace, and a trip down memory lane on a scooter from the 1980s that is a bicycle seat with wheels. We have tidbits of marriage...

Porky the Pumpkin from 2017-07-03T07:01

We're back! On this week's episode of the Defining Marriage podcast, we pick right back up with a rousing game of What's His Name, and I probe the depths of the animal kingdom for Bruce something, ...

Salami Tactics Advance from 2017-06-19T07:01

This week I'm reporting from Amsterdam ... that Amsterdam is very pretty. We have a salami marriage in Switzerland, James designs video games about Grace Jones, and it's the 50th anniversary of Lov...

Copin' with Copenhagen from 2017-06-12T07:12:19

It's an inter-continental edition of the Defining Marriage podcast this week, with James back in Seattle and me sailing off to Europe for the summer. I share a harrowing tale of bicycles and fish, ...

These Have Always Brought me Luck from 2017-06-05T07:01

I'm back from Chicago, and this week's episode is a brief interlude before my rainbow tour to Europe. We talk to riding a train to a pup romp, how I nearly became a go-go dancer without realizing i...

You Look Just Like the Commish from 2017-05-30T07:01

I'm on the road again, recording this week's Defining Marriage podcast with Jim and Michaela in Chicago while I visit for IML. In marriage news, we have a huge victory in Taiwan; and in other news,...

Max the Hedgehog in the Dracula Parade from 2017-05-22T07:01

On this week's episode of Defining Marriage: we investigate some original sins, from pancakes to grandmas. The Church of Scotland is going to decide whether to honor same-sex marriages, and James m...

The Chimp, the Chump, and the Chomp from 2017-05-15T07:01

The Man Root of All Evil from 2017-05-08T19:01

This week on the Defining Marriage podcast, we count our hands and feet; Ireland ponders marriage, and we celebrate good times come on in Bermuda. There's a conspiracy afoot involving the equals si...

The Youth of America Need to Exfoliate from 2017-05-01T07:01

Defining Marriage hits the road this week: I'm down in LA for DragCon while James manages the farm back in Seattle. So my guest is the delightful H. Alan Scott, which whom I discuss NOM's upcoming ...

Slime Confessions with Matthew from 2017-04-17T07:01

On this week's episode of the podcast, we're going above, beyond, and beneath various ultra-vixens. North Carolina thinks they can just declare the Supreme Court is "null and void," which is dumb; ...

Christine Ebersole is my Mother the Car from 2017-04-10T07:01

On this week's podcast: we play "What's Her Name" with a seagull, and revisit the pizzeria what won't cater a gay wedding. Barry Manilow is gay and married (still), and Quantas wants to put a ring ...

The Widow of the Web from 2017-04-03T07:01

This week on the podcast: James laments the Widow of the Web, while I have no idea who that is. We get an apology from a British gnome who opposed marriage equality, and hear from some Tennessee Be...

Bathroom Bill as Played by Ellen Burstyn from 2017-03-20T07:01

Murder She Hopes from 2017-03-13T07:01

On this week's podcast: James marries an elf in the kingdom of Hyrule, a maiden finds herself transformed, and support for marriage is at 83 percent in Germany where they have all the schneckens. W...

It Depends on the Intent of the Sandwich from 2017-03-06T08:01

This week, we're never lambing alone with Australia's meaty Mardi Gras. There's been yet another hearing the saga of the bakery that won't make gay wedding cakes, and a gay island declared war on A...

The Case of the Misplaced Moustache from 2017-02-27T08:01

The Royal Way to Eat a Tuffet from 2017-02-20T08:01

On this week's Defining Marriage, we discuss an Australian who says that gay marriage is a Nazi mind-control plot -- because yes, of course, if Nazi were able to control our minds, the very first t...

We Found a Ratboy from 2017-02-13T08:01

On this week's podcast: Finland has released its very own Tom of Finland emoji to celebrate marriage equality, as well as some additional emoji for naked saunas, skiing, and a very graphic pastry. ...

Rats in a Raincoat from 2017-02-06T08:01

This week on the Defining Marriage podcast, a sputter incoherently while James spins a yarn about the pigeon Superbowl. We discuss a marriage-inequality bill that's likely to be vetoed -- by, as Ja...

Unlocking the Donkey Within from 2017-01-30T08:01

Evar Orbus and His Galactic Jizz-Wailers from 2017-01-23T08:01

The Horse in the Nude Castle from 2017-01-16T08:01

I've been swanning around the house with cold and now I find James even more confusing than usual. He's been seasoning the counters and getting caught in zippers. Germany and Austria are creeping u...

Don't Gaslight my Schlong from 2017-01-09T08:01

I had extra coffee for this week's Defining Marriage, and I'm not sure I like what it's done to me. We bounce from Meryl Streep's golden globes to evil furries to Coachella's evil anti-gay-ish owne...

Best Make Egg Costume Man from 2017-01-02T08:01

Who'd have guessed that the Flintstones had the year's best take on marriage equality? This week on the Defining Marriage podcast, you'll hear me sputter and stammer like a fish in mayonnaise as I ...

Introducing Mother Mayo from 2016-12-26T08:01

Susie Booze Cruise from 2016-12-19T08:01

On the podcast this week: we differentiate The Rouged One from Rogue One, and delight in the difficulties of Judge Roy Moore. Also, a funny story about George Lucas and a hat, as well as Lord Dimwi...

Schizophrenic Breakdown from 2016-12-12T08:01

On this week's episode of the podcast, we contemplate the National Organization for Marriage's strange new shell game, and also Shelley Long, and coconut shells. But it's mostly good news this week...

The Pelican's Briefs from 2016-12-05T08:01

On this week's episode of Defining Marriage: James is a man with a plan to push back against the awful people in the Donald administration. It might not be a good plan, but it's not like anyone els...

The Trump Appointee who Eats Cars and Smells Like a Fish from 2016-11-28T08:01

On this week's episode, we lament the Three Jerks of the Apocalypse: a trio of Trump appointees who will almost certainly work to undermine marriage equality without ever needing to bother with the...

The Sudden Problem Law Center from 2016-11-21T08:01

This week on the podcast: oh lord, won't somebody please give us some good news? We talk about some of the grim news coming out of Washington DC, and also that possible Supreme Court nominee who ma...

Fear Leads to Anger from 2016-11-14T08:01

I don't know what to say about this week's episode, or really about anything, ever. We're dealing with the meaning of last week's election, and also exploring opportunities to take action now that ...

Slashdance from 2016-10-31T07:01

This week on the Defining Marriage podcast we are joined by Irish Rotunda, James' questionable drag character with a curious beauty treatment. An Irish commission has ruled that a bakery was wrong ...

Once I was a Woman from 2016-10-24T07:01

On this episode of the podcast, we talk about a pup/furry party that Texas Rep. Louie Gohmert may or may not have been at. Louie recently suggested that gay marriage in Talmud-times caused Noah's f...

Ira Glass Tries to Remember the Name of a Song from 2016-10-17T07:01

On this week's Defining Marriage, we are treated to an extended cut of me trying to remember the name of ... oh dear, I've forgotten her name again. Also, let's talk about that rumor that Hillary s...

The Camel's Nose from 2016-10-10T07:01

On this week's episode: Ben Carson threatened further mass killings if gay marriage is allowed to continue, and we are menaced by ghost pumpkins. We also discuss our family crests, camel noses, and...

Nevada Tim Strikes Again from 2016-09-26T07:01

The Family Thermos from 2016-09-19T07:01

On this week's Defining Marriage podcast: The Grande Reveal! I have received a mysterious series of packages and a strange object du art. What could it possibly mean? And is it related to my dream ...

The Southington Peeper from 2016-09-13T07:01

On this week's episode, we shout nonsense at each other from across a continent: I am in Connecticut while James is in Seattle, which means I can regale him from a distance with takes of NOM's ridi...

Francis the Talking Mule from 2016-09-05T07:01

This week's episode is an equine free-for-all, with some horsing around over NOM's ongoing fundraising problems. While they continue to bleed money, Brian Brown is making a ruckus about the Obama a...

A Horse in a Bikini from 2016-08-29T07:01

On this week's strange episode of Defining Marriage, we respond to listener feedback regarding horses in itsy bitsy teeny weeny outfits. The parade of animals continues with Oscar Wilde quotes abou...

A Flight of Fancy Feast from 2016-08-22T07:01

On last week's episode, we all had a good laugh about how NOM called their own fundraising "pathetic." But this week they sent out yet another money-beg, this time reminding supporters that they ne...

Honeymoon on the Moon, Honey from 2016-08-15T07:01

Stinky Manfolds from 2016-08-08T07:01

Who would be in your dream-remake of the movie Splash? For me, it would be Erin Gibson and Bryan Safi from Throwing Shade, and the title would be Splash 2: Serving Fishy Realness. Mermaids are the ...

The Moist Encumberance from 2016-08-01T07:01

Okay, I admit it: gay marriage is all secretly a plot to legalize bear-chicken marriage, as predicted by the TV show Arthur. Also on this week's episode: Utah's marriage equality plaintiffs got to ...

Why Don't You Fall in a Pigsty from 2016-07-25T07:01

This week we take a little side-grouse to talk about Stranger Things (we don't like it), and Ben Carson (he says gay marriage is evil), and Kansas (still not fully doing gay marriage). We also tack...

Andrea Loathsome from 2016-07-11T07:01

I'm back from LA and ready to catch some gay Pokemans. This week we talk about laptop marriage, Virginia's latest redefinition of marriage to exclude child brides, and a new study claiming that gay...

The Baby's Friend from 2016-07-05T07:01

Happy America Birthday! I'm visiting LA this week and James is back in Seattle, so instead of him we have some extra special guests. I'm joined by Bryan, Liz, and a different Matt to talk about the...

Plebiscite Didgeridoodling Swank from 2016-06-26T03:47:51

People Love Boobs from 2016-06-20T07:01

Gay marriage is coming to the game Harvest Moon -- eventually, probably -- but is this maybe opening the door to some problematic implementations? James, who knows a thing or two about designing a ...

Weezing the Knees from 2016-06-13T07:01

Oh, what now? Roy Moore says he needs a little more time to respond to ethics questions, as if two extra weeks is going to make some kind of difference. In the mean time, real judges like Callie Gr...

Rim Shots from Gabe Kaplan from 2016-06-06T19:01

Oops, we missed a week! As you NO DOUBT noticed, last week's episode does not exist, in part due to our travels to Chicago. But we're back now from the debauchery of IML, and we're hot on the trail...

A Sloppy Whisper from 2016-05-23T07:01

On this week's episode, we're sloppily whispering to each other about how Nebraska still allow two moms to appear on birth certificates -- instead, one of the moms has to be listed as "friend." Unc...

The Banana Banner Boys from 2016-05-16T07:01

You're in for a real fun-fair of nonsense this week, with a haunting melange of bananas and the Alabama Supreme Court. We have more details on what's going to happen to Judge Roy Moore, now that Am...

#VacationOfConsulGeneral from 2016-05-09T07:01

Congratulations to Hanscom Smith, a senior US diplomat in Shanghai who just married his husband in a delightful ceremony. And what better wedding gift can they have hoped for than the removal of Ju...

International Amour, More Ray Moore, and More from 2016-05-02T07:01

Congrats to the islands moving towards marriage equality! We have good news this week from the Bahamas, The Faroe Islands, and the seductively-named Isle of Man. And also from Colombia, which is no...

Animals Strike Curious Poses from 2016-04-25T07:01

This week's episode concerns in ineffable mysteries of Prince and his opinion on gay marriage. Was he for it or against it or what? Perhaps not even he knew for sure, but we'll do our best ot unrav...

Queen Latifah Wipe from 2016-04-18T07:01

Hello, Texans! This week's episode is all about you. And also us, in that we are about to visit you -- James and I are coming to HavenCon in Austin to present a panel on Saturday, April 23rd, at no...

The Pope and a Pig in a Poke from 2016-04-11T07:01

This week on the podcast, James and I talk about the pope's recent declaration that same-sex couples reeeeeeeally shouldn't be allowed to marry. James knows a thing or two about this pope business,...

Young Men Foaming for Gay Marriage in the Florida Heat from 2016-04-04T07:01

Spring has sprung, when a young man's heart turns to fancy. Who's the young man, and what's so fancy about him? These and other mysteries remain unsolved on this week's episode, but we do talk abou...

Georgia On Our Minds from 2016-03-28T05:00

You've no doubt heard about North Carolina's unpleasant dabbling with anti-gay and anti-trans laws. We're talking about the implications today, as well as the traditional method of celebrating East...

President Chicken from 2016-03-21T07:01

We've traveled to San Francisco this week, and our SF friends Andy and Long join us to talk about what Obama's nomination of Merrick Garland to the Supreme Court would mean for LGBT folks. Is there...

A Marriage Encounter from 2016-03-14T07:01

This week Missouri had a filibuster on an anti-gay law and Australia talked about a gay-marriage plebiscite that could cost half a billion dollars. Also, we discuss mules and witches.

No Mas, Roy Moore from 2016-03-07T08:01

Alabama Supreme Court Justice Roy Moore has come to resolve an attack on our sovereignty now! He's very upset that homosexuals are getting married, and he's written hundreds of pages to explain his...

Many Things Go from 2016-02-29T08:01

Manny Pacquiao and the Bonobo Showboat from 2016-02-22T08:01

This week, we're talking about some unsettling comments on marriage equality from a former boxer/current politician. Should we be taking our sexy-time cues from animals? Also, at last you can hear ...

How do you Solve a Problem Like Scalia? from 2016-02-15T08:01

This week we'll be talking about some surprise changes coming to the US Supreme Court.

Behind the Scenes at the Star-Studded Prop 8 Play from 2016-02-08T08:01

For the last few episodes, I've been revisiting the marriage work that I did as an reporter and activist over the last decade. And this week we'll be talking about 8 the play, the dramatic interpre...

Anti-Marriage Pledge Punishes Straight Fornicators from 2016-02-01T08:01

For the last few episodes, I've been revisiting the marriage work that I did as an reporter and activist over the last decade. Believe it or not, there are still some people trying to undo marriage...

Can Marriage Equality Be Rolled Back? from 2016-01-25T08:01

The work on marriage equality is pretty much wrapped up in this country, but every now and then, anti-gay activists manage to find their way into the news by trying to roll back progress and stop L...

When Coming Out at Work Launched a Federal Investigation from 2016-01-18T08:01

This week, I'm talking to Davina Kotulski, a crucial figure in the modern marriage equality movement. Davina appears briefly in my book, but she played a key role in securing marriage in California...

Interview with "Buffy" Writer Jane Espenson&Friends About Gays, Marriage, and Their Sitcom "Husbands" from 2016-01-11T08:01

This week, I'm looking back at a 2011 interview with the folks behind the webseries Husbands: Jane Espenson, Brad Bell, and Sean Hemeon. When it was created, the world in which Husbands took place ...

The Emotional Work of Turning Prop 8's Heartbreak into Triumph from 2016-01-04T08:01

This week, let's take a look back at Proposition 8. That's the fight that got me engaged with marriage, back in 2008. After the marriage ban passed, I started making YouTube videos to update people...

The Last Year-in-Review You'll Ever Need from 2015-12-28T08:01

This week, we're looking to the recent past. At the end of 2011 and 2012, I produced "year in review" videos that summed up everything that happened with marriage equality those years, and looked a...

Revisiting the Gay Soldier Who Changed a Presidential Race from 2015-12-21T08:01

This week I'm looking back at my 2012 interview with Josh Snyder and Steve Hill. Steve was the soldier who asked a question about Dont Ask Don't Tell at a Republican debate, and was booed by a few ...

A Gay Couple's 60-Year Love Story from 2015-12-14T08:01

This week I'm looking back at my 2011 interview with Alan Shayne and Norman Sunshine, a couple about to celebrate the 60th anniversary of their meeting. Back in 2011, they'd just written a book abo...

NOM's Cool Moose Obsession from 2015-12-07T08:01

Last week, I covered three misleading national ads that the National Organization for Marriage ran after Prop 8 passed. This week, we'll take a look at some ads that the anti-gay industry targeted ...

Debunking NOM's Craziest Ads from 2015-11-30T08:01

starting with this episode, I'll be revisiting the marriage work that I did as an reporter and activist over the last decade. I've gathered some historical news clips, as well as interviews I condu...

Afterword from 2015-11-23T08:01

The dramatic conclusion! Will James and I ever get married? The answer may surprise you. (Probably not.) Plus: what's next? Well, now you can finally buy the print edition of the book! If you're ...

Chapter 17: Set Course for the Alpha Quadrant from 2015-11-16T08:01

For years, national leaders told Josh Boschee that North Dakota had no place in the marriage equality movement. “It’s not where the battlefield is,” they told him. It was just conventional wisdom t...

Chapter 16: Love and Commitment from 2015-11-09T08:01

At first glance, it might not seem like Thalia Zepatos had a personal stake in the marriage equality movement. After all, she was straight, with no kids of her own. But she had also experienced the...

Chapter 15: Welcome to the Other Side of the Rainbow from 2015-11-02T08:01

Senator Ed Murray had a roadmap to win equality in Washington. It would take years, and for much of that time, nobody believed he could do it. That’s because a key ingredient of his plan was time a...

Chapter 14: If not … Great from 2015-10-26T07:01

If you wandered down to a Midtown union hall in Manhattan one night in 2011, you might’ve encountered an unusual sight: Broadway stars, decked out in tuxedos and cocktail dresses, calling voters al...

Chapter 13: Well That is F***ing Bold from 2015-10-19T07:01

It seemed too improbable to be true: the lawyers who fought Bush v. Gore teaming up to fight Prop 8. And if that wasn’t strange enough, the company they were keeping was absolutely insane: lefty ac...

Chapter 12: You Have to Take Part in Your Own Liberation from 2015-10-12T07:01

One week, Amy was just a newlywed from Cleveland. The next, she was leading an international protest movement, drawing millions of people into the streets. It started with a simple email from her f...

Chapter 11: I Don’t Really Know How it’s Going to Work from 2015-10-05T07:01

The plan, Tim and Juan agreed, was to wait until spring. That’s when Tim’s brother returned from serving in Iraq and could serve as best man at the wedding, just as Tim had done for him. A family-...

Chapter 10: This is an Effing Disaster from 2015-09-28T07:01

The crowd that gathered outside the California Supreme Court in May of 2008 let out a cheer that you could hear clear across the city when they got the news: the court had just overturned the stat...

Chapter 9: Zero Regrets from 2015-09-21T07:01

Gavin Newsom was mayor of San Francisco for just one month before he pissed off the President of the United States. But that was the goal. After President George Bush called for a constitutional m...