Podcasts by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety.
Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety.

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Helping Your Kids With The Skill Of Winning And Losing from 2023-11-28T10:00

Families will often avoid game night or other family competitions if a child has difficulty losing. Or they require the game to be “fixed” so the bad loser doesn’t lose. Games (and winning and losi...

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Best Of: What to Say To People Who Don't "Get" Anxiety from 2023-11-24T10:00

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, we tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns.If you hear them or use them, listen u...

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Preparing for Difficult Relatives: A Holiday Survival Plan from 2023-11-17T10:00

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In...

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Handling Difficult News Headlines With Your Kids from 2023-11-14T10:00

 Anxiety is about “what if,” but with the reality of violence and war, we are now living with “what is.”  As parents, How do we process the ongoing news and graphic images of terror in our world? H...

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Keeping Your Cool During the College Application Process: A Talk With Jill Shulman from 2023-11-10T10:00

Robin is up to her eyeballs in the college application process, so we pulled in two great people to help her and you: a school counselor on the front lines, and Jill Shulman, college admissions coa...

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Will My Child Grow Out Of This? Selective Mutism And Other Anxiety Behaviors from 2023-11-03T09:00

Knowing when you need professional help and when to let your child “grow out of it” is a tricky question…sometimes. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about when to allow some time and space (ima...

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The 3 Patterns That Are Most Toxic In Adult Relationships from 2023-10-27T09:00

Helping people recognize and shift their own patterns is a key component of Lynn’s approach to emotional management. But there are three patterns that can really add discord in our personal relatio...

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When Your Child’s Bedtime Fears Are Frustrating the Whole Family from 2023-10-20T09:00

In this two-part In Session episode, Lynn talks to Marie, a mom from New Zealand whose very imaginative and worried daughter has dramatic fears which can be frustrating for the whole family. Marie ...

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Helping Your Kids Navigate Social Media's Traps - A Talk With Expert Devorah Heitner from 2023-10-13T09:00

Smart phones are here to stay. And so are the questions we parents have about social media, screen time, group chats…it’s overwhelming. In this episode, we speak with social media expert Devorah He...

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After You Get Your Anxious Kid to School, How Do You Keep Them There? from 2023-10-06T09:00

Getting a worried child into school can be exhausting, but once there, we want them to stay! In this episode, we talk about keeping anxious kids in school, the need for a team approach that include...

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How to Manage BIG Feelings: A Lesson for Kids&Adults from 2023-09-29T09:00

Teaching kids how to handle big emotions is an ongoing job for parents. But what happens when children become anxious about the possibility of feeling those emotions at all? Although it can be conf...

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A Talk on OCD with "Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents" co-author Reid Wilson from 2023-09-22T09:00

Our first-ever guest is Lynn’s pal and co-author Reid Wilson. Reid and Lynn met in 2007 and that meeting resulted in two books and a fast friendship. Join them as they talk anxiety, self-help, Reid...

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What You Must Know About Kids And The New Data On Smart Phones from 2023-09-15T09:00

When smartphones first came on the scene, schools had rather strict policies about their presence and use. Over time, even though schools kept policies in place, most schools stopped enforcing them...

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The Good News About Middle School from 2023-09-08T09:00

As kids enter Middle School, their brains, bodies and relationships go through big changes. Parents tend to brace themselves for the roller coasters of this stage, but it’s also full of energy and ...

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Every Mom Thinks She Has ADHD Now. Do you? from 2023-09-01T09:00

It’s time for a brutally honest conversation about what moms are experiencing right now. Are we pathologizing the demands of our current parenting culture? If you are exhausted or disorganized or o...

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Best of: Helping Your Kids With Self-Hatred and Self-Blame from 2023-08-25T09:00

When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And ho...

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Best of: How to Have a Successful Meeting with Your Child’s School from 2023-08-18T09:00

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this re-cast of a previous episode, Lynn (who ...

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Off to College: Let's Talk About Roommates from 2023-08-11T09:00

Is your child heading off to college this fall? If it’s their first year, then the roommate uncertainty may be dominating your household. Sparked by a compelling listener question, we tackle the pe...

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Best of: How Talking Less Will Improve Your Parenting from 2023-08-04T09:00

In this recast of a popular earlier episode, Lynn breaks down one of her favorite instructions to parents: talk 85% less. When parents are worried, they tend to talk a lot. When they want something...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Use This Summer to Practice DIY Exposure Therapy from 2023-07-28T09:00

When children are hesitant or afraid of something, they often avoid, refuse, or even explode. The good news? You can work with your child on your own using the principles of exposure therapy, role ...

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When Your Kid Is a Blamer from 2023-07-21T09:00

Lynn will tell you that there’s no harder adult to work with in her practice than someone who reflexively blames. The ability to own your part, take responsibility for your “stuff” is key to relati...

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Who Enjoys Kids' Birthday Parties? This Episode is Not For You from 2023-07-14T09:00

How do you feel about birthday parties? Is this just another place for parents to compete? Are they actually fun? One dad told us the whole industry needs an overhaul. We weigh in! REGISTER FOR TH...

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The Problem with People Pleasers from 2023-07-07T09:00

Being a “people pleaser” is often reinforced in our culture. Who doesn’t want to be seen as kind, unselfish, and giving? But this pattern has a dark side, resulting in resentment, avoidance, and ex...

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Best of: Dads, Depression and Anxiety from 2023-06-30T09:00

Today, we are re-sharing a Season 3 episode we consider one of our most important: Dads, Depression and Anxiety. So often, moms assume the role of supporting both a family’s health and mental healt...

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The Impact of Tracking Technology on Your Family's Mental Health from 2023-06-23T09:00

What’s happens when kids don’t play independently, exploring and problem solving away from direct adult supervision? A new study looks at the the impact of decreasing opportunities for independent ...

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When A Kid's Questions Never End, Are They Caused by Anxiety? from 2023-06-09T09:00

Kids ask questions and parents provide information. That’s a normal part of growing and learning. But there’s a common anxiety pattern called reassurance seeking, where worriers ask and ask, seekin...

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Flusterclux In Session: When Your Child Has Separation Anxiety from 2023-06-02T11:06

In this Flusterclux In Session episode, Lynn talks with a mom whose six year-old daughter struggles with separation anxiety: going to bed for the night, attending swimming lessons, or even mom bein...

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Best of: Summer Camp&Separation Anxiety from 2023-05-26T09:00

We're ready to kick off summer! But family worries unfortunately don't always take a vacation. So, today, we reshare our episode on summer camp and separation anxiety. You'll find this episode's ad...

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How Does An Anxiety Expert Handle Breaking Her Back? from 2023-05-19T09:00

So Lynn fell on a staircase and broke her back in two places recently. She will make a full recovery, but how did she manage in a crisis? Did she go catastrophic? Hello, uncertainty! How did our re...

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Flusterclux In Session: When Your Teenager Doesn't Want to Do Anything This Summer from 2023-05-12T09:00

In this consultation with a listener's family, Lynn talks to a mom, dad, and their high school junior who would enjoy staying in his room most of the summer. Lynn helps identify the skill most teen...

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When Your Anxious Kid Struggles with Making Decisions from 2023-05-05T09:00

When we remember that anxiety demands certainty and is a creator of doubt, it makes sense that decision-making can become a problem. What if I make the wrong choice? How do I decide between two goo...

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Loneliness and Connection in Adults from 2023-04-28T09:00

In Part 2 of our discussion on loneliness, we focus on adults. Making friends in adulthood feels risky. If you are at all anxious or introverted, vulnerability and rejection hardly seem worth it. B...

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Loneliness and Connection in Kids and Teens from 2023-04-21T04:00

Loneliness is a deep longing for connection that you can’t find and is more prevalent in young people than old. In this first of a two-part discussion, we address the painful and prevalent disconne...

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School Avoidance: When It's Anxiety Related, How Can You Help? from 2023-04-14T09:00

School avoidance is not new but parents and schools report more frequent and intense struggles. Did the pandemic make it worse? Are there risk factors that parents need to pay attention to? This we...

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Flusterclux In Session: How To Help A Rigid, Anxious Child By Modeling More Flexibility from 2023-04-07T09:00

On this In Session episode, Lynn talks to a mom who is beginning to recognize patterns of rigidity and anxiety in her 9yo daughter and, more importantly, the ways both she and her husband react to ...

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Listener Questions on Handling Child Outbursts, Perfectionism, and Doubting Your Therapist from 2023-03-31T09:00

In this episode we answer listener questions from three different families with five year olds about handling big emotions and fears. Rigidity, disappointment, tantrums, new schools…issues that mos...

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Best of: How to Raise Problem Solvers from 2023-03-24T09:00

Don’t we all want to raise problem-solvers? Today we are recasting one of our most popular episodes in which we break down specific steps that parents can put into practice.  We must give our kids ...

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Connection— not enmeshment— is the goal. How do you know the difference? from 2023-03-17T09:00

Positive connection is the goal, but is there such a thing as too connected? Yup, and it’s called enmeshment. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk privacy, autonomy, and boundaries. If your goal is...

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When a Teen's Mental Health Is Costing Her Friends from 2023-03-10T10:00

We want our teens to be able to talk openly about their struggles, but in this listener question, a mom struggles with her daughter’s ability to manage a peer’s demand for accommodation. When anxie...

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OCD in Kids: Listener Questions on Medication and Compulsive Apologizing from 2023-03-03T12:50

In this episode Lynn answers listener questions for families dealing with OCD patterns in their kids, including when and if to start medication in addition to therapy, how to handle compulsive apol...

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How To Teach Your Kids To Handle Disappointment from 2023-02-24T10:00

When things don’t go the way we plan or hope, powerful feelings show up. Disappointment is common, and the smaller you are, the bigger it feels. How do we help our children learn to manage this emo...

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Unpacking the Parenting Styles on ABC TV's "The Parent Test" from 2023-02-17T10:00

The recent ABC-TV show The Parent Test has sparked much discussion, so Robin and Lynn (skeptically) decided to dive in. In each episode, parents with different “styles” of parenting are given chall...

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Handling Embarrassment from 2023-02-10T10:00

We asked our podcast listeners to share embarrassing stories and, boy, did they deliver. Humiliating moments happen to everyone, but as you’ll notice with the stories we share, often feel so much m...

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Helping Your Kids Handle Medical Procedures from 2023-02-03T10:00

Does you child freak out when it’s time for a shot? Or a blood draw? A strep test? And what about more extensive treatments? We’ve been getting many questions about how to approach this common and ...

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When Kids' Sleep Issues Are Actually Anxiety Issues from 2023-01-27T10:00

Worries that show up at night seem to hold special power. They are discussed, analyzed, and often treated as a “going to sleep issue” instead of anxiety that happens to show up at bedtime. It’s und...

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We're Talking to Teens the Wrong Way About Their Mental Health from 2023-01-20T05:00

This is a juicy episode— and a really important one for all concerned about the mental health trends with our teens. After over thirty years in the mental health field, Lynn addresses very directly...

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When Your Worry Is a Dress Rehearsal for Tragedy, Here's How To Stop from 2023-01-13T10:00

Worry is a part of parenting and can help us plan ahead and problem solve. But when it becomes more constant, you may get stuck in a pattern of rehearsing for catastrophic patterns that aren't happ...

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5 Parenting Phrases You Should Use At Every Age from 2023-01-06T10:00

We previously detailed the parenting phrases we hate (and why you should considering dropping them.) In this week’s episode, we head in the other direction: the parenting phrases we love, how they ...

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Unpacking and Breaking Your Habits That Self Soothe from 2022-12-30T10:00

Habits can be good and bad, hard to start and even more challenging to break. Our brains like them and they often serve a purpose to self-soothe. To begin the new year, we dive into habits: how to ...

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Best Of Holiday Listener Questions: Blended Families and Angry Teens from 2022-12-23T10:00

For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of the...

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An Episode To All College&High School Students and the People that Love Them from 2022-12-16T10:00

Many listeners have asked for an episode that talks directly to teens. Here it is. With many high schoolers dealing with unhealthy stress, and worn out college students returning home for break, Ly...

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When is hoarding in adults and kids related to OCD? from 2022-12-09T10:00

Your child won’t give away any old clothes, even though they are 3 sizes too small. Your daughter saves gum wrappers and broken crayons and stashes them under her bed. Are they hoarders? Or collect...

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Is High Functioning Anxiety Really A Thing? from 2022-12-02T10:00

The term High Functioning Anxiety has been showing up, used to describe those that feel anxious but perform at a high level. Criteria are given, symptoms are listed. Is this a new category of anxie...

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When Anxiety Shows Up as Anger from 2022-11-25T05:00

Anxiety, anger— and even aggression— can hang out together. Remember, it’s FIGHT or flight, and when we combine poor emotional management and a desire to avoid, behavior escalates. But even though ...

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How to Build Healthy Boundaries (And What That Means!) from 2022-11-18T10:00

The term “boundary” is everywhere these days. The importance of creating and setting them is being discussed all over, from therapy sessions to Tik Tok videos. But what is a healthy boundary? We’re...

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How to Support Your Anxious Child 101 from 2022-11-11T10:00

This episode tackles the question we hear most often from our new listeners: how do I support my anxious child? Lynn lays out the three keys for parents: information about how anxiety works, owning...

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What You Should Know About Anxiety and Exercise from 2022-11-04T09:00

In this episode, we talk about exercise and anxiety and our moods. One of us loves it, and one of totally gets the value but compares it to a “cat being put out in the rain.” Most of know the benef...

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What to Say To The People Who Don't Get Anxiety from 2022-10-28T09:00

We tackle the statements our friends and families use when they're staying stuck in their anxiety patterns. If you hear them or use them, listen up. We have responses ready to go. BUY LYNN'S NEW B...

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6 Parenting Phrases We Hate (and Why) from 2022-10-21T09:00

Some parenting phrases are so common, they border on cliche. And a good portion of them push all of Lynn and Robin’s buttons. In this episode we go after six of the offenders, phrases that sound ha...

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When do you push your kid towards the thing they are afraid of? A guide to Exposure Therapy from 2022-10-14T10:00

Most have heard of exposure therapy. If you’re scared of snakes, wrap one around your neck! Afraid of elevators? Get in! Research shows that it works, but there’s more to it than just pushing yours...

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Tackling Meltdowns: A Guide for Kids, Teens, and Adults from 2022-10-07T09:00

In this episode, a listener is surprised that her 8 year old is still having big meltdowns and asks if this is common in anxious. While we associate emotional meltdowns and tantrums with little chi...

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When Should Therapy End? from 2022-09-30T09:00

The decision when and if to begin therapy is often discussed, but the next steps (like when to stop) don’t get much attention. The mom of a 19 year old has found therapy very helpful for her daught...

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When Should Therapy End? from 2022-09-30T09:00

The decision when and if to begin therapy is often discussed, but the next steps (like when to stop) don’t get much attention. The mom of a 19 year old has found therapy very helpful for her daught...

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Calling All Control Freaks: Here's Why and How To Let Go from 2022-09-23T09:00

Being in control sounds great, but what’s the cost of needing to control every outcome? Children raised in chaos often seek control as adults. Those raised in highly controlling environments strugg...

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How Parents Can Get Their Anxious Kids' Schools on the Same Page from 2022-09-16T09:00

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such...

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How Talking Less Improves Your Parenting from 2022-09-09T09:00

In this episode, Lynn breaks down one of her favorite instructions to parents: talk 85% less. When parents are worried they tend to talk a lot. When they want something done and their child isn't d...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
The Back To School Message Every Parent Needs To Hear from 2022-09-02T09:00

Most parents feel conflicted, confused, and cranky about homework. How much should parents be involved? Does it actually help with learning? And does age matter? In the first episode of season 5, w...

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Strengthening Your Kid’s Psychological Immune System from 2022-08-26T09:00

In this optimistic conversation we discuss the family’s psychological immune system and the role of both positive and adverse childhood experiences. While many adverse childhood experiences happen ...

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Best of Back To School: Let Your Kids Fail; Don't Let Your Kids Drown from 2022-08-19T09:00

Mistakes and Failures can be some of life’s best teachers. When it comes to letting our kids fail, how do we know the difference between letting them fail and letting them drown? What do you do if ...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #7 The Final Step to Practice from 2022-08-12T09:00

In the last of the 7-episode Anxiety Disruptor series, it’s time to put it all together and focus on the consistent, step-by-step approach to decreasing anxiety’s influence. Consider this a pep tal...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #6 Building Self Esteem from 2022-08-05T09:00

Anxiety makes us forget, and it’s particularly amnesiac to past successes. Helping kids work through fears and worries also includes showing them how to connect to their successes, feel masterful, ...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors for Families: #5 When Bribing Works from 2022-07-29T09:00

How do we actually inspire children and teens to step in and retrain that anxious brain when worry is saying NO! The fifth of our 7 anxiety disruptors helps parents and kids get “some skin in the g...

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Best Of: How To Manage Your Kids' Phobias from 2022-07-22T09:00

Emetophobia, Astraphobia, Autophobia. Some kids became afraid of a variety of things: throwing up, needles, dogs, thunderstorms, the dark. As parents we want to help, we want to make our kids feels...

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Best of Summer Episode: How to Take a Vacay from Mom Guilt from 2022-07-15T09:00

Summer can be a wonderful time for playfulness and connection, but parents often feel pressure to make every minute count, every vacation fabulous. It’s a time of high expectations for parents, whi...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #4 The Correct Way To Use Breath from 2022-07-08T04:00

Is breathing used to eliminate worry? Nope, it is not. In this next episode of our 7-part Anxiety Disruptor series for families, Lynn explains how stepping into uncertainty is necessary but not alw...

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When You Feel Rage at the World from 2022-07-01T09:00

Got rage? When we first recorded this episode, we were in the midst of grieving for our pre-pandemic world, mixing our sadness with our anger. Sadly, reasons to feel rage continue. In this episode,...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #3 get uncomfortable on purpose from 2022-06-24T09:00

Anxiety wants certainty, and when that’s not possible, avoidance becomes the demand. Unfortunately, as anxious families fall into patterns of avoidance, anxiety strengthens. Families need a differe...

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The 7 Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #2 How to Talk To Your Kid's Worry (And Your Own) from 2022-06-17T09:00

Externalizing worry (and other strong emotions) teaches children and parents to take a step back and notice HOW worry and other big feelings operate. Changing the response to worry (instead of chan...

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The 7 Essential Anxiety Disruptors For Families: #1 Expect To Worry from 2022-06-03T09:00

Whether you’re a loyal listener or new to the podcast, you’ll want to join us for this seven-part series on Lynn Lyon’s approach to anxiety. Each week during the summer, Lynn and Robin will talk ab...

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The Skills of Connection Every Kid (and Adult) Needs Now from 2022-05-27T09:00

Friendships and connection sustain us, but that doesn’t mean they’re always smooth or come naturally. In this episode, Lynn and Robin talk about the ways we can help foster the skills of connection...

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What You Really Need To Know About Tracking Your Kids from 2022-05-20T09:00

Technology allows us to track most everything, including our children. But do tracking apps actually keep our families safer? And how does tracking impact the development of key skills our kids nee...

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Here’s How Anxiety Sneaks Into Your Marriage from 2022-05-13T09:00

What role does anxiety play in your marriage? Anxious patterns will often show up differently in a couple, and sometimes, even as a bossy, inflexible third partner. When you look at some common mar...

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The Uncomfortable Truth About the Mom Wine Culture from 2022-05-06T09:00

The mom wine culture is well-rooted now, and statistics show that women are indeed drinking more, significantly outpacing men. Are women paying a higher price with their emotional and physical heal...

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Separation Anxiety: How Parents Can Manage It And Not Make It Worse from 2022-04-29T04:00

Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a listener about her 6 year old with separation anxiety. This family has been working hard on their own and with a therapist to get their daughter comfortable bei...

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How to Know If Your Kid Has Sensory or Anxiety Issues or Both from 2022-04-22T09:00

What if your kid needs things “just so” or a meltdown is imminent. When your child seems to be overwhelmed easily and unable to tolerate many sensations, it is sensory processing disorder or is it ...

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Your Parents' Anxiety: How to Lessen Their Impact On Your Kids from 2022-04-15T09:00

Patterns of anxiety are often passed down in families. If you are actively working to shift the culture in your family to manage anxiety, where do your parents fit in? While your parents can be sup...

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Helping Your Kids With Self-Hatred and Self-Blame from 2022-04-08T09:00

When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And ho...

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Pixar's Turning Red and Inside Out: How These Movies Boost EQ from 2022-04-01T09:00

In this episode we talk about how Pixar’s latest movie Turning Red dives into the big emotions and shifting relationships of the tween years. We also discuss Inside Out, the gold standard of Pixar’...

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How to Manage Your Anxiety and Your Child’s Chronic Illness from 2022-03-25T10:00

On this Flusterclux In Session episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a mom who is managing a tricky combination of factors: her own worry, her daughter's worry, and her daughter’s chronic ill...

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Hypochondria: Is Your Anxiety About Your Family’s Health Normal? from 2022-03-18T10:00

Of course parents should pay attention to their family’s health. But when does your worry about illness in a global pandemic become too much? How does your health anxiety impact your family? How do...

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Raising Kids Who Are Really Ready For College Isn’t What You Think from 2022-03-11T11:00

Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want t...

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The Most Powerful Resolution: Earning a Black Belt in Emotional Management from 2022-03-07T15:32:26.176799

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Talking To Your Kids About The War In Ukraine from 2022-03-04T10:00

As we find ourselves struggling to process such horrific news, how do we help our children understand it? Once again we must deal with our own big emotions and theirs during a time of great uncerta...

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OCD in Kids: Managing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder As a Family from 2022-02-25T10:00

It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares a consultation with a listener. Lynn talks to mom of three, Erica, whose youngest son has developed OCD (Ob...

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Trailer: Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.966302

Lynn Lyons is one of the most sought after experts on anxiety in parents and children. Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to connect, reflect, and feel prepared t...

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Stuck-In-Home Parenting from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.965462

We have a new category of parenting, the stuck-in-the-house parent. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains why we feel like we are riding a new emotional rollercoaster, and why we feel so exhausted, as...

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Helicopter Parents: Strategies for Landing from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.961308

Helicopter parenting is a loaded label that some parents either wear with pride or are quick to deny. When we hover out of concern, what does that do to our children? While we crowd in our homes du...

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Unpacking Your Family's Baggage And Starting Fresh With Your Kids from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.958739

What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dys...

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Confronting White Fragility and Colorblindness from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.957976

As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement. we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind...

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A Family Summer Guide To 2020: Social Distancing Fun from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.956436

Summer 2020 is unlike any other. In this podcast we help parents think through assessing reasonable risks, managing disappointment around missed summer rituals, and reexamining boredom with a posit...

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Co-Parenting In A Pandemic: How to Find A Better Balance from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.955636

Work. Parenting. Relationships. Remember how elusive the idea of balance used to feel way back in 2019? Now it seems like a downright fantasy. The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive t...

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Listeners Ask: Back To School Anxiety and Teens Self Diagnosing Their Depression from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.953837

Listeners ask Lynn in this bonus summer episode about the stress of choosing the best school model for her tweens and teens: remote learning, the hybrid model, and returning to school. Another list...

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Picky Eater Kids: Preventing and Managing Food Anxiety from 2022-02-22T10:09:03.945395

Do you have picky eater kids? Or do you want to make sure you don't in the future? We talk about what causes a picky eating disorder and explain the picky eater definition. Also, Lynn answers a lis...

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Are Your Family's Anxiety Issues Unique? from 2022-02-18T10:00

In the second of a two-part episode, we complete a list of four common traps in which parents get stuck. While we can face many unique challenges to parenting if we are divorced, single by choice, ...

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These Parenting Traps Feed Anxiety and Are The Hardest to Stop Doing from 2022-02-11T12:12

It’s so easy to step into the parenting traps that feed anxiety and worry. We’ve all done them, so you’re in good company. In this episode we look at the patterns of inconsistency, trying to contro...

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Passing Out From Anxiety: Funny Tales From Our Family of Fainters from 2022-02-04T05:00

Do you know anyone who has a tendency to faint? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about her own experience with vasovagal syncope, a condition shared by her father, siblings, and son. Learn how she m...

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Helping Teens Reframe Their Social Anxiety from 2022-01-28T05:00

It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offers a listener consultation. Hear from Mom Becky who is worried about her anxious 16 year old daughter. Becky i...

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Rage: Managing Our Anger in a Tinderbox World from 2022-01-21T05:00

Rage. As we all grieve for a pre-pandemic world, we feel a lot of rage with our sadness. Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons talks about why we collectively feel anger and brings it home to our...

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Burnout: Parents, Teachers, Healthcare Workers, This Is For You from 2022-01-14T05:00

Burnout. It's certainly a word we're hearing frequently, particularly in those who work in healthcare and education. But because burnout is often specific to the role of caring for others, there's ...

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When Anxious Kids Deny They're Anxious from 2022-01-07T05:00

When anxious kids can't see that they are anxious or refuse therapy, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about options parents have in helping their kids. We also discuss a listener question where a da...

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A Reminder for Silliness and the Power of Play from 2021-12-31T05:00

In this quick check-in for the New Year, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons reminds parents that silliness is just about the healthiest energy in a house, and that the power of play is very, very real. Pare...

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The best advice for handling difficult family members from 2021-12-24T05:00

On this busy Christmas Eve, we offer a very short episode, but a very powerful piece of advice for the holiday season. Don't visit the relatives without hearing this first. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyon...

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The best advice for handling difficult family members from 2021-12-24T05:00

On this busy Christmas Eve, we offer a very short episode, but a very powerful piece of advice for the holiday season. Don't visit the relatives without hearing this first. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyon...

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Flusterclux in Session: When Anxiety Is Your Teen's Life Coach from 2021-12-17T05:00

One listener's teen is trapped by the details of her many worries, and her mom is trying to address each one with rational information and reassuring promises. Hear me offer mom Tori an alternative...

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Flusterclux in Session: When Sleep Causes A Family Anxiety from 2021-12-10T05:00

What happens when anxiety around sleep becomes a nightly ritual? In this Flusterclux In Session episode a parent is becoming all too aware of how her worry about sleep shapes bedtime for her son…an...

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Flusterclux in Session: The Stress of Two Different Parenting Styles from 2021-12-03T05:00

We're so excited to deliver the first of our family session episodes. You'll hear anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offer a listener a 45-minute consultation on the way anxiety is presenting in a family. B...

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We’re Our Own Worst Critics from 2021-11-26T05:00

Anxiety and depression are both internalizing disorders, and identifying our own internal patterns is good to understand so that we can proactively reach externally and connect with others. In hono...

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Do Your Kids Know How To Ask For Help? from 2021-11-19T05:00

As parents, we want our kids to learn how to ask for help. We want them to ask directly and to the right people, but how do we help them build those skills? How do we teach them when not to ask for...

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The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids from 2021-11-05T04:00

There are known strategies that can prevent anxiety disorders from developing. In this two-part episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons share her skill-based approach to raising emotionally literate chi...

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The progress we’re making with anxious kids from 2021-10-29T04:00

In response to last week's episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the mistakes we keep making around helping our kids and students with anxiety and trauma, this episode celebrates the progr...

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The Mental Health Mistakes Schools Make from 2021-10-22T04:00

Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses ways high schools and colleges support student mental health despite the research indicating they have opposite results, from safe rooms to trigger warnings. We ...

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Ted Lasso Is What We Need from 2021-10-15T04:00

Ted Lasso, the critically acclaimed show starring Jason Sudeikis on Apple TV, serves as a springboard in this podcast episode to discuss the emotional lives of fathers and sons. We encourage parent...

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If Our Kids Are Anxious, Do We Blame Ourselves? from 2021-10-08T04:00

Join Lynn and Robin as they respond to a listener question that will resonate with many. When parents struggle with anxiety, it is difficult to watch their children repeat similar patterns. Lynn de...

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How to Raise Problem Solvers from 2021-10-01T04:00

Every parent wants to raise a problem solver, but that means we have to give them the practice of creating solutions, not fixing things for them. Join anxiety expert Lynn Lyons wrap up the third of...

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Developing Your Kid's Cognitive Flexibility From Toddlers to Teens from 2021-09-24T04:00

A kid with a flexible brain becomes a person who can go with the flow when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Handling the unexpected is a critical skill in most scenarios. Rigidity just makes life ha...

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Developing Your Kid's Autonomy: How Controlling Are You? from 2021-09-17T04:00

In this new, three-episode series, we unpack Lynn Lyons's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of co...

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What Parents Need To Know About Anxiety Medication For Children from 2021-09-10T04:00

The decision to medicate an anxious child is a big one for parents, as it should be. In this episode, we address the most important considerations. And Lynn gets real about the changes she’s seen o...

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The Good News About Your Kid's Psychological Immune System from 2021-09-03T04:00

immune system and the role of both positive and adverse childhood experiences. While adverse childhood experiences could happen to our kids, parents can have much more control over creating the sev...

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Back To School! 4 Ways to Boost Your Kids' Mental Health from 2021-08-27T04:00

The Back To School season is here, and it's important to check in on the state of your kid's mental health. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons walks us through this list of things to think about to see how ...

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Yelling At Our Kids: When its OK and When It's Not from 2021-08-20T04:00

Yelling, or even when kids perceive that we are yelling, is a part of most family communications. In this episode anxiety expert and therapist, Lynn Lyons, LICSW, talks about the things we need to ...

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Anxiety in Families: Is it Nature or Nurture? from 2021-08-13T04:00

Is anxiety genetic? Does it run in families? If your parents had anxiety or depression, what does that mean for you and your children? What approaches can we take to disrupt these generational cycl...

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Not Talking About Anxiety Makes It Worse from 2021-08-06T04:00

One of the easiest mistakes we make when trying to deal without anxiety is to try get rid of the thing that makes us anxious. Lynn Lyons, leading anxiety expert, explains why talking about anxiety ...

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Find This Sweet Spot In Parenting Where There's Room For Mistakes from 2021-07-30T04:00

Even though parenting feels like walking a tight rope, it isn't. There's lots of room for your mistakes as long as you stay within the sweet spot of emotional management. Here's how.  Enjoy this mi...

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Global Language in Kids: How "Never"&"Always" Lead To Anxiety&Depression from 2021-07-23T04:00

What is global language? Do you or your kids have a habit of using it? Why is it such a strong predictor of anxiety and depression? Here's what to do if your kid loves to drop "always" and "never" ...

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The Opposite of Anxiety isn't Certainty: A Tale of Two Toddlers from 2021-07-16T04:00

Parents love offering certainty to their kids. It feels very loving and nurturing. But the opposite of anxiety is not certainty. Hear what parents should focus on helping with instead, as soon as t...

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Take a Vacation From Mom Guilt from 2021-07-09T04:00

There's no time for mom guilt in a busy summer. Or ever.  Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break. The Anxiety Audit is available again for the month of July only. Join the Flusterclux Facebook...

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Why Anxiety Makes Us Overreact With Our Kids and How To Shift from 2021-07-02T04:00

  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.The Anxiety Audit is available again only for the month of July so you can have a summer reset.  The Anxi...

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How Anxious Parents Give Too Much Information To Their Kids from 2021-06-25T04:00

Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons offers some summer homework for anxious parents: stop giving your kids too much information. Learn what to do instead and why anxiety drives this habit. Join the Flustercl...

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Summer Safety Traps for Anxious Parents from 2021-06-18T04:00

Summer’s here and parents are stressed. Hear Lynn talk about safety chatter, what it is, and why anxious parents do it. Our language matters so much. Lynn shares how to offer safety instructions to...

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This Makes Anxiety Worse: What Not to Do to Help Your Kids from 2021-06-11T04:00

At the conclusion of Mental Health Awareness month, we weed through the bad advice that is so prevalent about anxiety that only makes it worse. We discuss the certain skills we must help our kids (...

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Listeners Ask: Teens&Drinking and Anxiety vs. Intuition from 2021-06-04T04:00

In today’s episode Lynn answers two listener questions. First a mom discovers her 15 year old has been thinking of drinking to manage her stress. What are the conversations parents should be having...

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OCD in Families: What it Is and Isn't from 2021-05-28T04:00

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is often missed or just misunderstood. What is OCD and what isn’t? How does it differ from really anxious thoughts? How is it treated? While it can show up at any poin...

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Dads, Depression, and Anxiety from 2021-05-21T04:00

So often the moms assume the role of supporting the family’s health and mental health, but dads have a critical role to play. What is that role? And how do you encourage your partner to step into t...

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Summer Camp&Separation Anxiety from 2021-05-14T04:00

After an atypical year of intense togetherness with our kids, parents may be out of practice being apart from their kids. Today we talk about the separation anxiety parents feel around summer camp,...

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The Anxious Parent: When It's One of You or Both of You from 2021-05-07T04:00

The Anxious Parent: Most families have one, some families have two. But what important role does a non-anxious parent play? How do worry and control often dictate parenting dynamics that put stress...

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The Real Truth About Phobias and How To Manage Them from 2021-04-30T04:00

What’s the truth about phobias? Emetaphobia, Astraphobia, Autophobia. Some kids became afraid of a variety of things: throwing up, needles, dogs, thunderstorms, the dark. As parents we want to help...

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Social Anxiety Or Social Awkwardness: What's Normal? from 2021-04-23T04:00

Do you or your child have Social Anxiety or are we now pathologizing ​shyness, too? Learn the different between real signs of social anxiety or just a more introverted temperament. What skills do w...

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What every parent should understand about the college admissions race from 2021-04-16T04:00

In honor of May 1st's deadline for many college bound seniors to make their choice, Lynn shares really relevant advice from her perspective over the last few decades of watching her adolescent clie...

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Panic Attacks Vs. Anxiety Attacks: What's the Difference? from 2021-04-09T04:00

Panic Attacks. While they are incredibly common, they are often mislabeled and misunderstood. Teenagers, even adults, will casually throw the label around. What’s the difference between those reall...

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Let Your Kids Fail; Don't Let Your Kids Drown: Teens&Homework Coaches from 2021-04-02T04:00

Mistakes and Failures can be some of life’s best teachers. When it comes to letting our kids fail, how do we know the difference between letting them fail and letting them drown? What do you do if ...

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When Your Teen's Friends Are In Crisis: A Guide To Building Healthy Boundaries from 2021-03-26T04:30

At some point one of your children’s friends will be in crisis. How do you help your teens help their friends? How do you teach them to develop boundaries with those friends? When your child shares...

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School Anxiety: How To Help Our Kids&Teens from 2021-03-19T04:00

Many families are feeling anxious about changes to their school routine, both kids and parents. How do we support our kids and teens and help them manage their worry about going back to school? And...

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Families&The Power of Listening from 2021-03-12T05:00

We talk a lot about the power of words...teaching kids to put words to their feelings, modeling emotional literacy. But the flip side of talking—the critical flip side—is listening. What happens wh...

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The Bad Advice That Makes Anxiety Worse from 2021-03-05T05:00

There's a lot of bad advice out there to weed through when so many claim to be parenting or anxiety experts. But some well-meaning advice will actually strengthen your child's anxious habits, and L...

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COVID Fatigue&The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety from 2021-02-26T05:00

All parents need this pep talk about managing COVID fatigue. And we recast a very popular episode. Anxiety shows up in the body—headaches, tummy troubles, and more. We talk about how understanding ...

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Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Its Toxicity from 2021-02-19T05:00

Previous Episodes Mentioned: The Anxiety Vaccine Part 2: What Parents Can Do Right NowExtreme Shame and Self-Harm Unpacking Your Family’s Emotional Baggage and Starting Fresh With Your Kids  New ep...

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Romance&Resentment: Co-Parenting Tips You Need Now from 2021-02-12T05:00

Does parenting squash all romance? No, resentment does. This pandemic has disproportionately impacted mothers. It's putting our relationships to the test. So as we work to support our kids, there a...

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High Anxiety&Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture from 2021-02-05T05:00

We end Season 2 with a bang of an episode. Finishing off our conversation about preventing anxiety in our kids, we tackle the toxicity of our achievement culture. It’s so normalized it’s invisible ...

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The Anxiety Vaccine pt 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now from 2021-01-29T05:00

As we face a mental health crisis alongside the pandemic that we really focus on the emotional management skills that we can teach our children. It's an effective way to immunize them against emoti...

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The Anxiety Vaccine: Can Parents Prevent Anxiety Disorders in their Kids? from 2021-01-22T05:00

While we wait for a vaccine distribution plan to address our global pandemic, there is a mental health crisis happening simultaneously. Our numbers for anxiety were alarming even before 2020, and n...

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Supporting Teens in the Pandemic: How They Need Us Most from 2021-01-15T05:00

Supporting Our Teens Teens are part of the age group hardest hit by the impact of the pandemic. Missing out on both the social development and high school's rituals, teens are losing motivation, sl...

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Helping Kids With Shame&Self-Harm and the Parent Message in Pixar's Soul from 2021-01-08T05:00

Shame&Soul How do you support your children who feel shame very intensely? They feel shame so intensely that it might include self harming practices. What do you say when children say "I feel no wo...

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The Most Powerful Resolution: Earning a Black Belt in Emotional Management from 2021-01-01T05:00

New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both for...

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How Silliness and Laughter Can Be Your Best Parenting Tool from 2020-12-25T05:00

Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. Creating "joy" with your family may sound like...

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Tough Dynamics At The Holidays: Blended Families and Angry Teens from 2020-12-22T05:00

For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of the...

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Covid's Excuse: The Family You Won't Miss This Holiday from 2020-12-18T05:00

What if COVID is giving you a pass this year that relieves you? What if you're glad to miss a family holiday? One listener hates Christmas because of her overbearing and difficult mother? How do yo...

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Santaphobia: Why Santa Freaks Some Kids Out from 2020-12-16T05:05

Santaphobia is real. Santa can freak some kids out. How do you help your child who’s afraid Santa will bring COVID into the house? How do you help the child who doesn’t want to hear anything at all...

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Holiday Grief From COVID Chaos: A Pep Talk from 2020-12-11T05:00

What if your kids are freaking out that they can't celebrate their December holidays in the usual way this year? What if you are? Parents have an exceptional burden this year trying to make magic w...

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Social Anxiety, Teens, And A Pandemic from 2020-12-04T05:00

If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with b...

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Flusterclux: For Parents Who Worry from 2020-11-29T05:00

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 has challenged every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.   Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwh...

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Unpacking your family's baggage about anger, grief, and worry from 2020-11-27T08:51

Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you. What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a chi...

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Reassurance Traps: How to Know When Anxiety Is In Control from 2020-11-20T05:00

"It'll be okay." "Everything will be fine." "I'm right here." Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like t...

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What I Wish Everyone Knew About Gratitude from 2020-11-13T05:00

We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powe...

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The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety: What You Need to Know from 2020-11-06T05:00

Anxiety is loud and messy. And it's physical, and it brings with its diarrhea and vomiting and headaches and tummy aches and hives, and all sorts of physical symptoms that can really confuse kids a...

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Listeners Ask: Difficult Mothers-in-law and Middle School Slobs from 2020-10-30T04:00

When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws...

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How to prevent depression and understand your risk factors from 2020-10-23T04:00

Winter is coming; let's talk about how to prevent depression. While 2020 has put anxiety center stage, there are risk factors that can bring about depression, too. What are they? And if you have th...

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Election Anxiety: How Not to Scar Your Kids from 2020-10-16T04:00

:40 Lynn cites the American Psychological Association research, 68% of adults say currently that the election is “a significant source of stress.” 19:39 Lynn references a past episode that talks ab...

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How to Find A Good Child Therapist For Your Kid's Anxiety from 2020-10-12T04:00

1:13 We’re going to do a progress report for students this fall. 4:04 HOW TO SUPPORT YOUNG LEARNERS THIS FALL7:15 MIDDLE SCHOOLERS AND REMOTE LEARNING 13:01 HIGH SCHOOL, COLLEGE, and ACADEMIC PRESS...

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Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Something Toxic from 2020-09-28T04:00:06

Perfectionism and anxiety create a torture chamber we don't want to model for kids. When we reward excellence, how do we know when it becomes toxic? We explain how a parents can check their own beh...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
How Family Laughter And Silliness Are Our Families' Most Powerful Tonics from 2020-09-21T04:00:31

In this episode we talk about how critical it is in a family to have levity for mental health. Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make m...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Hope After A Teen Anxiety and Depression Diagnosis from 2020-09-14T04:00:12

How to help your child or teen who receives an anxiety or depression diagnosis and avoid the pitfalls that lessen the positive effects of their treatment. We answer a listener question about talkin...

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Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn Lyons LICSW from 2020-08-31T04:00:11

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.  

Flusterclux represents that feeling ...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn Lyons LICSW from 2020-08-31T04:00:11

Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.

Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and sp...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Why Rigidity is the Bellwether of Anxiety Disorders in Children from 2020-08-31T04:00:10

In our debut episode of Season 2, we discuss our name change from A Mom's Retreat to Flusterclux and what the name means to us and what the podcast is about for new listeners. We talk about the ear...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
When a family experiences a traumatic event together & If your child says "nobody likes me" from 2020-08-24T04:00:11

When a family experiences a traumatic event together, how can they heal? What do you say when your child says "Nobody likes me." And how do you teach your child to be more flexible?

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Back To School Anxiety: Supporting The Social-Emotional Needs of Students and Teacher from 2020-08-17T04:00:08

In this podcast episode on back to school anxiety, we focus on the social and emotional wellbeing for students and teachers and how parents can help. We take questions for guidance counselors and s...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Listeners Ask: Siblings Fighting: Don't Say Boys Will Be Boys from 2020-08-10T04:00:44

There is a right way for parents to handle siblings fighting. Here are strategies from Lynn Lyons to promote empathy and avoid teaching victimization and when parents should intervene and when they...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Listeners Ask: Teens And Peer Pressure from 2020-07-27T04:01:58

When your teenagers start testing you with new language and behaviors, how do you help them strengthen the skills they need to be more immune to peer pressure and self destructive behavior like cut...

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Listeners Ask: Meltdowns, Anxiety And Depression in Kids from 2020-06-15T04:05:12

In this parenting podcast, Lynn Lyons answers listener questions about meltdowns and anxiety and depression kids facing the stresses of 2020.

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Listeners Ask: Mom Guilt, Burnout, and School Stress from 2020-05-25T10:00:11

Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons discuss ways to manage these pandemic parenting stresses.

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Parents: Try These Bedtime Routine Hacks from 2020-05-18T09:55:23

Bedtime routine and sleep issues are tough. Now add a global pandemic, and no one is getting good sleep. Here's how to improve sleep problems for kids, teens, and parents. Download our free kids' s...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Regressive Behavior From Toddlers to Teens: What’s Normal from 2020-04-29T12:49:35

In our next guide to parenting in a pandemic, regressive behavior appears at all stages of development at many different ages. Learn why child regression happens and how to respond to it and why y...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Plan Now for the Next New Normal from 2020-04-23T11:00:10

When you look around your home, you’ve probably let some things go, as we’ve all been adapting to our new normal. That’s perfectly reasonable. We’ve been in the “just getting by” mode. But there wi...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Why We Must Flatten Our Emotional Curve For Our Kids from 2020-04-16T13:23:33

Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. We talk about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an an ideal way as well as how to conclude unintentional emo...

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Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry
Managing Disappointment: When FOMO Becomes Just MO from 2020-04-12T00:30:08

With all of our graduation, birthday, and family plans cancelled, we must still acknowledge them. We find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing ...

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