Podcasts by Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW, CST

Episode 139: Gay Men and Santa Daddy from 2023-12-09T00:44

Ken discusses gay men and "Santa Daddy," gay men's approaches to Santa Claus, inspired by the song, "Santa Baby," and inspiration for the holiday season. 

Episode 138: Gay Men and How To Reach Your Full Potential from 2023-11-19T04:38

Ken discusses the most common unconscious barriers gay men have to reaching their full potential from 30 years practicing therapy and coaching for gay men. 

Episode 137: Gay Men and Spirituality: Reclaiming Your Rights from 2023-11-08T05:23

Ken discusses how gay men can reclaim their right to spirituality even after abuse by religious institutions. 

Episode 136: What Is Daily Mental Health for Gay Men? from 2023-10-28T22:48

Ken gives tips on how to start each day with a strong mental health to give inspiration and focus to meet our goals as gay men.  (To support the show, visit glow.fm/gaytherapylawithkenhowardlcsw...

Episode 135: Top 10 Reasons Gay Couples Break Up and How to Prevent Them from 2023-10-16T19:36:24

Ken describes the Top 10 reasons gay male couples break up, as observed in over 30 years of practice as a gay specialist therapist, and offers a coping strategy to prevent each one. 

Episode 134: The Gay Male Executive: Coaching for Success from 2023-10-07T17:57:21

Ken describes his role offering Executive Coaching for gay men and its many purposes and functions. 

Episode 133: Gay Men, Dating Challenges, and How to Cope with Them from 2023-09-24T03:59:14

Ken reviews the most common complaints and challenges from single gay male clients in dating, and how to adaptively cope with each of them. 

Episode 132: Lessons for Gay Men from the 'On the Boulevard' Musical from 2023-08-28T21:43:10

Ken discusses lessons learned in writing his full-length, LGBT-themed musical play, "On the Boulevard," its concept album, and its themes for gay men's self-acceptance. 

Episode 131: The Economics of Gay Male Relationships: Time, Energy, Money from 2023-08-13T07:15:28

Ken gives tips for gay male relationships managing the economics of time, energy, money, convenience, space, control, and sex. 

Episode 130: Gay Men and Knowing Your Sexual Self from 2023-07-18T06:17:25

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST provides a self-reflection exercise to know your own sexuality in more depth; your backgroun...

Episode 129: Correction Announcement for Audio File from 2023-07-03T04:42:52

Ken announces that the audio file for "Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models" has been corrected due to a previous incomplete audio file, and now listeners can enjoy the complete e...

Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models from 2023-06-28T04:22:08

(NOTE: This episode was corrected from an earlier recording that was cut off early.) Ken discusses classic superhero characters from comics and movies, who they are, what they mean for gay men, ...

Episode 128: Gay Men and Moving On in Life After Trauma from 2023-06-13T02:43:32

Ken discusses traumatic experiences such as child abuse, illness, accidents, crime, and interpersonal betrayals and the long-term coping in life for each of these. 

Episode 127: Balance and Reciprocity in Gay Men's Dating and Relationships from 2023-05-18T21:02:22

Ken discusses areas of gay men's relationships that can feel out of balance, and how to re-establish fairness and equality in those areas for the long term. 

Episode 126: Gay Men and Coping with Cheating from 2023-04-30T02:23:09

Ken discusses some unusual and unique considerations for gay men when discovering a partner has "cheated" or broken an agreement, with tips on how to understand layers of nuances for healing. 

Episode 15: How Can I Prevent My Gay Male Partner from Cheating? The Six Main Reasons and Their Fixes from 2023-04-25T02:14:17

Ken reviews the top six factors for gay men in breaking a monogamy agreement in gay male relationships, and what the "fix" for each one is. 

Episode 125: Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience from 2023-04-08T03:14:18

Ken discusses the history of LGBT civil rights activism and how we can all contribute in our own ways to the movement. 

Episode 124: Gay Men and Mixing Your Boyfriend with Your Friends from 2023-03-19T02:03:36

Ken gives tips on how to navigate mixing a new boyfriend with your existing group of friends or family, and how to cope with the most common challenges. 

Episode 123: Gay Men and the Function/Purpose of Casual Hookups from 2023-03-04T04:30:31

Ken discusses the functions and purposes that casual hookups for gay men can be, and the importance of affirming our own sexual self-empowerment. 

Episode 122: Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors from 2023-02-05T22:56:57

Ken gives tips on the life lessons gay men can learn from actors in the entertainment industry, about character, sex, and telling our stories.

Episode 121: Gay Men and When Our Mentors Have Flaws from 2023-01-23T00:17:22

Ken discusses how to cope when our mentors have flaws: parents, teachers, professors, bosses, work mentors, and therapist/coaches, and how to cope when they disappoint us. 

Episode 120: Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body from 2023-01-09T20:55:57

Ken discusses how to make positive changes in the new year in how you approach your sex life in your mind, heart, and body. 

Episode 119: Gay Men and Kink Sexual Health: Notes from the 2022 CLAW Conference from 2022-12-12T01:56:12

Ken attended the 2022 CLAW (Cleveland Leather Awareness Weekend) Conference in Los Angeles, and gives tips from the kink education seminars for gay men he attended there. 

Episode 118: Gay Men Who Have Given Up On Finding a Relationship from 2022-11-06T22:38:47

Ken discusses how gay men can cope with the frustrations of being single when you want a partner, and how we can rally our internal and external resources to be at our best. 

Episode 117: Gay Men Overcoming Specific Traumas - PART TWO from 2022-10-19T23:12:45

Ken discusses gay men overcoming specific traumas related to the workplace, family of origin, political, and social/peer areas, and tips for how to cope with them triumphantly. 

Episode 116: Gay Men Overcoming Specific Traumas - PART ONE from 2022-10-19T22:34:01

Ken discusses gay men overcoming specific traumatic experiences that can be medical, legal, academic, or criminal, and tips for coping triumphantly with each of them. 

Episode 115: Gay Men and Pets: Challenges and Rewards from 2022-09-19T23:14:24

Ken discusses the rewards and challenges for gay men with pets, and some cognitive/behavioral coping strategies for each of them. 

Episode 114: PART TWO - Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives from 2022-08-31T19:13:21

In the second of this two-part episode, Ken discusses more "deal breakers" in gay men's dating, and gives tips for their alternatives. 

Episode 113: Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART ONE from 2022-08-23T01:38:41

In Part One of this two-part episode, Ken gives guidance on six of the most common dating "no-go's" for gay men, how to cope with them and their alternatives. 

Episode 112: Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Monkey Pox from 2022-08-07T02:39:04

A discussion of the mental health and sociio-political impacts of Monkey Pox for gay men, and how to cope with them. 

Episode 111: Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life from 2022-07-10T01:26:41

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist, life/career/executive coach, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives an overview of gay men and recovering from trauma to reclaim ou...

Episode 110: PART TWO: Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex from 2022-06-28T22:28:04

In this Part Two of "Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex: Materials, Circumstances, and Fabrics: An Overview", Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives information on how leather, rubber, and othe...

Episode 109: Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex - An Overview (Part One) from 2022-06-20T00:30:33

Licensed psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, provides an overview for gay men of the materials and circumstances for kink play in a safe and consensual cont...

Episode 108: Gay Men, Pride Season, and Summer Lovin' from 2022-06-05T01:47:18

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, offers stories about LGBT Pride Season 2022, and the value of the summer vacation romance. 

Episode 107: Gay Men and Reconciling Your Religious Beliefs with Your Sexuality from 2022-05-19T22:08:52

Gay men's specialist licensed psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist offers perspectives on reconciling your religious beliefs with your sexuality. 

Episode 106: Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference from 2022-05-01T21:12:37

Gay men's specialist sex therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives tips for gay male couples to manage mismatched libidos and desire discrepancy. 

Episode 105: Gay Men's Sexuality: Focus on the Five Senses for Better Functionality from 2022-04-12T18:49:30

Ken discusses how to focus on the five senses - sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch -- to enhance a gay man's sexual experience, reduce anxiety, and improve sexual functioning. 

Episode 104: Gay Men and How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Dating from 2022-03-29T00:14:17

Ken gives guidance on eight common pitfalls in dating for gay men, and strategies for how to cope with each of them. 

Episode 103: Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men from 2022-03-15T04:03:02

Ken discusses how diagnosable (DSM-5) psychiatric disorders can affect mental health and sexual health for gay men and couples. 

Episode 102: Gay Male Relationships: What are the Boundaries Between Partners? from 2022-02-23T18:12:08

Ken describes six areas of boundaries within a gay male relationship to discuss and reduce conflict. 

Episode 101: Gay Men and Coping with 'Bad Luck' from 2022-02-06T04:12:44

Ken gives examples of various incidents of bad luck in gay men's lives, with a corresponding coping strategy for each. 

Episode 100: Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome from 2022-01-18T02:37:22

Ken discusses the challenges in gay male relationships when one partner has traits of ADD/ADHD and the other has traits of OCD/OCPD, and how to create harmony. 

Episode 99: Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age from 2021-12-31T00:29:03

Ken discusses gay men's relationship to food, at any phase of life, with its rewards and challenges. 

Episode 98: The Greeks' Eight Types of Love as Applied to Gay Men from 2021-12-14T20:00:38

Ken discusses the ancient Greeks' Eight Types of Love, and applies them to gay men for inspiration and quality of life. 

Episode 97: A Secular Appreciation of Christmas for Gay Men from 2021-12-05T20:42:10

Ken offers a perspective on a non-religious, secular humanistic view of the themes of the Christmas season. 

Episode 96: Gay Men and When It's Time to Break Up a Relationship from 2021-11-17T20:14:39

Ken gives guidance for when you need to break up with a relationship partner. 

Episode 95: Coping with Sudden Crisis: A Personal Story from 2021-11-09T20:38:06

Ken describes a personal crisis being hospitalized with cellulitis, and the perspective learned from sudden severe illness. 

Episode 94: Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early from 2021-10-09T21:53:51

Ken gives guidance on how gay male couples can cope with living together too early in their relationship. 

Episode 93: Gay Men and Consensual Non-Monogamy Early in Relationships from 2021-09-25T02:11:35

Ken gives guidance for gay male relationships who want to be Consensual Non-Monogamous (CNM) early in a new relationship. 

Episode 92: Gay Men and How to Ruin a Friendship: Ten Tips from 2021-09-04T21:49:42

Ken gives ten tips on how to ruin a friendship -- and how to address them. 

Episode 91: Gay Men Coping with ED: The Emotional, Physical, and Interpersonal from 2021-08-25T03:24:40

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, discusses the contributing factors in erectile dysfunction (ED) in gay men, the emotional, physical, interpersonal, and cultural. 

Episode 90: For a Job, For a Guy, For a Change: Gay Men and the Decision to Relocate from 2021-08-03T18:10:51

Ken discusses how gay men make the decision to relocate to a different town, city, state, or country and the reasons why.  

Episode 89: Gay Men Using Apps: The Dilemma of Dating Versus Hookups from 2021-07-11T02:45:27

Ken discusses gay men's approach to gay smartphone apps like Grindr and Scruff, and getting your sexual and emotional needs met with a clear perspective. 

Episode 88: The Needs of Gay Men in the Volatile “LGBT” Era from 2021-06-25T19:31:02

Ken discusses the umbrella term "LGBT" and the consideration of the specific needs of gay men, and their political and social implications. 

Episode 87: Gay Men and Gym Crushes: Cherish Your Romantic Notions from 2021-06-18T17:13:16

Ken discusses the "gym crush" phenomenon and how our perceptions of fantasies versus reality support our well-being as gay men.

Episode 86: COVID's End as Trauma Recovery in Gay Men from 2021-06-01T01:14:14

Ken describes how the end of COVID-19 pandemic restrictions in many regions can mean recovering from a traumatic experience, with the symptoms and phases of recovery in a gay male context. 

Episode 85: Healthy Relationships Don't Do That: A Guide for Gay Men's Dating and More from 2021-05-15T22:19:42

Ken discusses Armine Asatryan, LMFT's 7 unhealthy traits in a relationship and their solutions, as applied to gay men. 

Episode 84: Improving Gay Men's Relationships: Meeting Three Needs from 2021-05-11T00:33:48

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST discusses improving gay men's relationships by meeting three needs: emotional, sexual, and interpersonal. 

Episode 83: Three Ways to Improve Your Sex Life for Gay Men from 2021-04-27T00:00:49

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, offers three ways for gay men to improve their sex lives: communication, negotiation, and experimentation. 

Episode 82: The Six Principles of Sexual Health As Applied to Gay Men from 2021-04-12T21:57:07

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, applies the Braun-Harvey and Vigorito "Six Principles of Sexual Health" specifically to gay men. 

Episode 81: How to Avoid a Gay Relationship Breakup - The Four Risks from 2021-03-30T01:18:21

Ken shares some of the research of Dr. John Gottman, who identified the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" in relationship demise as Defensiveness, Criticism, Stonewalling, and Contempt, applied ...

Episode 80: Revisiting Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction with Guest David Ley, Ph.D. from 2021-03-17T01:04:12

Host Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, welcomes David Ley, Ph.D., CST-S, author of "The Myth of Sex Addiction" and other books, to revisit the idea of "sex addiction" or "porn addiction" in gay men. 

Episode 79: Gay Men and Money Management: How to Empower Yourself from 2021-03-07T01:24:38

Ken Howard, LCSW, gay men's specialist therapist and coach, gives tips on money management for gay men. 

Episode 78: Gay Men's Relationships: How to Deal with Your Ex from 2021-02-23T23:23:39

Ken gives tips on how to deal with your "ex" in what's called the "post-relationship relationship," and how to succeed in moving on. 

Episode 77: Gay Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, Others from 2021-02-10T01:44:06

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives guidance on how sex therapy for gay men helps your quality of sex life with yourself, partner(s), or others in affirming ways. 

Episode 76: Gay Men's Goals: How Do You Define Success in the New Year? from 2021-01-26T22:53:24

Ken gives practical tips for success for 2021, in many areas of your life, including emotionally, physically, financially, relationally, and professionally. 

Episode 75: Gay Men's Relationship Vocabulary: Partner? Husband? Hookup? from 2021-01-12T02:37:12

Ken discusses the terms we use in gay male relationships to describe functions and roles, about what you are -- and what you want to be. 

Episode 74: Gay Men’s Dilemmas: Falling in Love with Straight or Unavailable Men from 2020-12-29T05:38:48

Ken discusses gay men who fall in love with straight or unavailable men. 

Episode 73: Gay Relationships and the ‘Sexual Thaw’: Restoring Sex After a Long Stalemate from 2020-12-09T03:33:10

Ken Howard, LCSW, gives tips to gay male couples who no longer have sex, and practical ways to "thaw" the stalemate and restore sex. 

Episode 72: Gay Men, COVID-19, and Avoiding the Pitfalls: Substances, Lethargy, and Despair from 2020-11-25T01:56:06

GayTherapyLA founder, Ken Howard, LCSW gives tips on dealing with the stress of COVID-19, how to avoid pitfalls, and ultimately prepare for recovery. 

Episode 71: Gay Male Couples and the Decision to Have Kids from 2020-11-13T04:41:08

Ken gives tips to prospective gay dads on questions to ask yourselves and each other about the option of having kids in a gay male relationship. 

Episode 70: Gay Men and Sex During COVID-19 from 2020-10-30T03:00:09

Ken gives tips for gay men on how to approach sex in the new era of COVID-19, from a Harm Reduction approach. 

Episode 69: Gay Men's Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship from 2020-10-12T23:23:48

Ken gives tips on how gay men who have a much younger or a much older partner can make their relationship thrive for the long term. 

Episode 68: Gay Men's Relationship Advice: How to Have a Successful Gay Long Distance Relationship from 2020-09-22T01:14:49

Ken Howard, LCSW, a specialist in gay men's relationship advice, gay couples therapy, and gay sex therapy, gives tips on how to manage a gay long-distance relationship. 

Episode 67: Gay Men and the Need for Safe Spaces of Our Own from 2020-09-12T19:58:04

Ken discusses the need for gay men to have bars, clubs, and other social "safe spaces" of their own, which are being increasingly threatened during COVID-19 and social changes. 

Episode 66: The Mental Health Chapter from "Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!" Book from 2020-09-02T01:58:09

Ken shares the Mental Health chapter from his book, "Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!" and its application to gay men. 

Episode 65: Two Tops, Two Bottoms: A Gay Men's Relationship Dilemma - Now What? from 2020-08-25T23:52:59

Ken gives case examples of how gay couples face the dilemma of being two "tops" or two "bottoms", and how couples therapy and sex therapy can help. 

Episode 64: Gay Men's Strengths: Making the Most of Your Culture from 2020-08-15T19:16:32

Ken Howard, LCSW describes how our culture of origin can help gay men build resilience in tough times, and celebrate who we are, and where we came from.

Episode 63: Gay Men and Discipline: The Secret Weapon to Achieving Your Goals from 2020-08-09T01:22:52

Ken gives tips on how developing self-discipline can help you achieve what you want to do, be, or have, offering solutions to the things that get in your way. 

Episode 62: Gay Male Creative Professionals: Celebrating Success, Managing Challenges from 2020-07-30T18:15:57

Ken gives a list of essential mental health coping skills for success for actors, writers, designers, and other creative professionals. 

Episode 61: Must-Have Money Conversations for Every Gay Relationship from 2020-07-18T21:19:15

Ken discusses an article by Elyssa Kirkham on the 7 must-have money conversations to have before cohabitation or marriage, but from a gay male perspective. 

Episode 60: Gay Men and Alcohol: The Relationship with the Bottle from 2020-07-11T19:29:10

Ken asks you to reflect on your "relationship" with alcohol and drugs.  What's the quality of this relationship?  What changes need to be made for your best life? How does one get help?

Episode 59: Why Nerds Make the Best Boyfriends for Gay Men from 2020-07-08T18:28:47

Ken discusses why nerds make the best boyfriends for gay men and other tips for gay men's dating. 

Episode 58: Gay Men and the Big Five Personality Traits from 2020-06-27T20:28:39

Ken discusses how the classic "Big Five" personality traits of Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism apply to understanding gay men. 

Episode 57: Gay Men Coping with Stress: Start at the Source from 2020-06-09T23:16

Ken describes how using Problem-Solving Therapy can help reduce overwhelm/stress in the midst of COVID-19 and police brutality. 

Episode 56: Problem-Solving in Gay Men's Open Relationships from 2020-05-30T18:12:32

Ken gives tips on how gay open relationships can overcome jealousy, STI risk, privacy, and other challenges. 

Episode 55: Gay Men Making the Most of Your Past, Present,&Future from 2020-05-26T17:04:46

Ken discusses how to reach your life goals by making the most of your past, present, and future. 

Episode 54: Coping with COVID-19 for Gay Men: What Type Are You? from 2020-05-19T23:43:06

Ken describes 4 main emotional reactions to COVID-19, and the 5 "coping types" among gay men observed in clinical practice.

Episode 53: Gay Men in Common Crisis Situations&Steps to Handle Them from 2020-05-12T18:41:24

Ken discusses crisis situations gay men can face like discrimination, financial, health, and personal losses, and how to cope with them.

Episode 52: Why White Gay Men Should Support Black Lives Matter from 2020-05-12T02:15:55

Ken discusses why gay White men and other LGBT should be supporting #BlackLivesMatter as a collaboration of minority groups to fight social injustice with activism. 

Episode 51: Gay Men Coping with Single Life: Tips and Tricks from 2020-05-02T21:33:42

Ken gives 12 tips on coping with life as a single gay man, based on case examples from clinical practice for being at your best. 

Episode 50: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and their Interventions from 2020-04-20T17:42:51

Gay men's specialist therapist and sex therapist, Ken Howard, LCSW,  discusses erectile dysfunction at three "stages" and how to cope with them, balancing both the medical and the psychological ...

Episode 49: The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing “Toxic Positivity” with “Adaptive Coping” from 2020-04-14T19:01:43

Ken Howard, LCSW discusses how to validate both positive and negative feelings during the COVID-19 crisis and find coping strategies that work for each of us. 

Episode 48: Gay Men's Mental Health During COVID-19: Next to Normal from 2020-04-08T18:31:50

Ken discusses how to cope with the mental health aspects of the current COVID-19 pandemic, inspired by a Broadway show song.

Episode 47: Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home from 2020-04-01T04:44:44

Ken gives tips on working from home during the COVID-19 crisis, with an emphasis on gay men and mental health considerations. 

Episode 46: Gay Men Conquering Anxiety with Probability from 2020-03-25T00:44:01

Feeling anxious?  Ken gives tips on how to manage and anxiety, prevent it, and cope with it. 

Episode 45: How Gay Men Can Develop Resilience - Part 2 - Techniques from 2020-03-16T18:34:33

In the second part of the gay men and resilience discussion, Ken lists specific techniques that can help. 

Episode 44: How Gay Men Can Develop Resilience - Part 1 - Traits from 2020-03-16T18:11:53

Ken gives tips on how gay men can cultivate resilience to face any crisis/challenge, by adapting certain cognitive/behavioral traits. 

Episode 43: Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19: A Special Kind of Coping from 2020-03-12T07:06:58

Ken gives tips for gay men for coping with the Coronavirus/COVID-19 pandemic, and takes to task Republican leadership for bungling handling of COVID-19, just like their early mishandling of the ...

Episode 42: Ten Ways Gay Men Can Handle Hard Conflict from 2020-03-10T17:30:57

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach, Ken Howard, LCSW, gives 10 ways gay men can cope with interpersonal conflicts that every life has.  

Episode 41: Gay Men's Dating Skills -Avoiding the Pitfalls of Cash, Connections, C--k from 2020-02-29T20:30:31

Ken gives tips on how to improve your chances of finding a partner by avoiding the gay men's dating mistakes of emphasizing the wrong things, like his cash, connections, or c--k. 

Episode 40: Positive Thoughts for Fabulous Living at Every Age for Gay Men from 2020-02-24T19:36:57

Ken gives tips on how to manage negative thoughts about yourself, the world, and your future, and how to use positive affirmations. 

Episode 39: Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men from 2020-02-17T20:04:22

Ken discusses how to not only recover from crystal meth abuse, but how gay men can avoid being ensnared by it in the first place, through sex-positive individual and collective public health eff...

Episode 38: Valentines Day for Single Gay Men: Coping with Hope from 2020-02-11T22:41:41

Ken gives guidance on how single gay men can cope with loneliness and frustration on Valentine's Day. 

Episode 37: Gay Men and the Serenity of Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom from 2020-02-11T19:38:05

Ken reviews how gay men can change their lives for the better, with the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the differ...

Episode 36: Avoiding Four Big Risks of Gay Relationship Breakup from 2020-02-03T18:38:22

Ken discusses Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" for the risks of relationship breakup, and tips for avoiding them.

Episode 35: Gay Men's Birthdays, Self-Esteem, and The Meaning of Life from 2020-01-27T20:32:48

Ken gives tips on how birthdays are an especially poignant time for gay men, and relates them to self-esteem. 

Episode 34: Hotter Monogamy for Gay Men from 2020-01-20T23:09:19

Ken describes how gay male couples who choose monogamy can have a hotter sex life without necessarily opening their relationship.

Episode 33: The Golden Boys - Gay Men at Midlife from 2020-01-13T20:10:18

Ken gives a list of tips on how gay men can make the best of the midlife years. 

Episode 32: Breaking the Ice - Gay Men Overcoming Shyness from 2020-01-06T18:09:16

Ken gives tips on overcoming shyness and social anxiety in gay men, with practical tips on starting, continuing, and ending new conversations in social settings. 

Episode 31: Beyond New Year's Resolutions: Making Real Life Changes from 2019-12-30T18:04:08

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach (27 years) Ken Howard, LCSW, teaches how to make and sustain desired life changes and meet goals in ways that go beyond just "resolutions". 

Episode 30: A Secular Appreciation of Christmas from 2019-12-17T19:14:30

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist/coach for over 27 years, gives perspectives on how even the non-religious the world over can enjoy the Christmas holiday season. 

Episode 29: The Gym/Fitness Connection in Gay Men's Mental Health from 2019-12-05T21:13:39

Ken Howard, LCSW, gay men's specialist therapist, discusses the connection between the gym/fitness and mental health for gay men, based on inspirational fitness leaders. 

Episode 28: Gay Men at Thanksgiving - Living in Gratitude from 2019-11-26T19:48:33

Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses the role of Thanksgiving for gay men's family of origin, and family of choice. 

Episode 27: Gay Men and Appearance Privilege from 2019-11-21T00:29:23

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses ""Gay Men and Appearance Privilege: What It Is, What To Do About It"

Episode 26: Gay Men's Relationships - Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom from 2019-11-14T22:33:25

Ken Howard, LCSW, guides gay male couples on how to achieve relationship satisfaction non-sexually ("the living room") and sexually ("the bedroom"). 

Episode 25: Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery - Meth Prevention for Gay Men from 2019-11-06T20:21:46

Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses how gay men recover from crystal meth dependence, and advocates for community education on innovative, sex-positive ways to prevent meth dependence. 

Episode 24: Confronting Our Fears at Halloween from 2019-10-31T17:54:14

Ken discusses how to confront and overcome our fears on the occasion of Halloween. 

Episode 23: How to Reach Your Goals: Approach/Avoidance from 2019-10-22T19:20:38

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Episode 22: Managing Jealousy in a Gay Male Relationship from 2019-10-15T18:31:45

Ken discusses jealousy in gay male relationships and how to cope with it. 

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Episode 21: Coping with the Breakup of a Friendship from 2019-09-26T18:52:33

Ken gives tips for how gay men cope with a breakup of a platonic friendship and making new friends throughout life. 

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Episode 20: Best Predictors of Men's Well-Being from 2019-09-18T23:45:37

Ken discusses a research article by Leah Fessler, "The Strongest Predictor of Men's Well-Being" and how it relates to life/career coaching. 

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Episode 19: Finding Mr. Right in Gay Men's Dating: The Six Lights Theory from 2019-09-12T22:06:04

Ken gives tips for gay men's dating and relationships by using an analogy that refers to the status lights of a computer modem.

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Episode 18: Gay Male Sexual Abuse, Incest, and Rape Survivors: Coping and Thriving from 2019-09-05T18:01:54

Ken gives information on gay men who are sexual abuse, incest, and rape survivors; common characteristics and coping to thrive. 

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Episode 17: Toxic Busy: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men? from 2019-08-28T23:20:44

Ken describes tips for "reclaiming your time" and reducing your stress in our "too busy" modern lives. 

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Episode 16: How Gay and Straight Relationships Differ in 10 Ways from 2019-08-26T22:18:22

Ken describes how gay male and straight relationships differ, based on observations in over 27 years doing couples therapy with gay men.

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Episode 14: Advice for Young Gay Men - 12 Tips to Improve Your Life Now and Later from 2019-08-20T01:40:40

Ken gives 12 tips, as an older gay man, to younger gay men, on how to improve quality of life at any age. 

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Episode 13: The Role and Value of a F--- Buddy for Gay Men from 2019-08-19T20:20:55

Ken gives a list of tips on why having a f--- buddy or friend with benefits can be an important resource for gay men. 

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Episode 12: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction: Cognitive Causes and Cures from 2019-07-18T19:37:29

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist, gives tips on how gay men can cope with erectile dysfunction (ED). 

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Episode 11: Conflict in Gay Relationships: My Partner Isn't Contributing Equally from 2019-07-08T20:14:54

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay psychotherapist specializing in gay men for 27 years, gives tips for when there is relationship conflict because one partner feels his partner isn't contributing equally ...

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Episode 10: Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Topping from 2019-07-02T23:43:54

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist for over 27 years, and sex therapist, gives tips for gay men on how to overcome a fear of topping. 

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Episode 9: Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Bottoming from 2019-06-25T18:14:39

Ken Howard, LCSW, gives tips on how to overcome the 5 most common fears gay men report about bottoming heard in his psychotherapy practice at GayTherapyLA. 

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Episode 8: Gay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope from 2019-04-29T21:12:30

Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses the phenomenon of gay men and "ghosting", suddenly stopping communication for seemingly no reason. 

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Episode 7 - Gay Men and Social Media with Matthew Allen APCC from 2019-04-02T17:31:01

Ken's associate clinician at Gay Therapy LA, Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, discusses gay men's relationship with social media apps and how to turn stress into success. 

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Episode 6 - Religious Abuse of Gay Men and Its Healing - Brandon Malde-Zoradi from 2019-03-28T18:10:43

Gay therapist specialist Ken Howard, LCSW, founder and director of Gay Therapy LA, interviews gay therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Associate Clinician at Gay Therapy LA, on religi...

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Episode 5: Why Gay Men Cheat and How to Prevent It from 2019-03-17T01:01

Ken lists the 6 most common reasons gay men cheat in monogamous relationships, and offers a "fix" for each one.

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Episode 4: Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help from 2019-03-13T01:38:13

Gay men's specialist therapist, Ken Howard, LCSW, gives four strategies for gay men struggling with depression to get help and relief. 

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Episode 3 - Problem-Solving in Gay Men's Open Relationships from 2019-03-09T20:50:45

Tips for problem-solving common challenges that arise in gay men's open relationships. 

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Episode 2 - Gay Men and Gay Relationships 2.0 - Should I Go Back to My Ex? from 2019-03-04T01:10:35

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist and coach for over 27 years, gives tips on how to cope with deciding whether to go back into a new relationship with an ex. 

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Episode 1: Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW New Podcast from 2018-11-08T19:54:52

GayTherapyLA is a private practice for psychotherapy and coaching services, with Ken Howard, LCSW, as its founder and director, with over 26 years experience providing services for gay men, as indi...

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