Podcasts by Girl On Top: ShallonXO
What happens when you mix Carrie Bradshaw with Dr. Phil? You get me, Shallon Lester, an author, editor, NYC It Girl and YouTube dating coach with almost 1 billion views! On this podcast, I’ll answer YOUR burning questions about love, lust, life and lip gloss—and everything between. Are you ready to join the #Shallontourage and take over the world? Time to get on top, ladies... ♥️Got a love quandary? Submit a question at www.shallonlester.com ♥️Instagram
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Moving On When You Can't Actually Move from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Whether you're in a small town, small college or small office, getting over someone you have to see all the time is an exercise in agony. I'll give you some practical tips on moving forward, and we...
ListenMerry Money Mayhem: How To Reset Your Financial Attitude from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
‘Tis the season to…go into debt making buying presents, right? NOPE. Not this year. We’re going to look at the silver linings of 2020, reset our attitude toward money, dial down expectations, and c...
ListenHow To Become An Alpha Female from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re focusing on just one topic: turning yourself into an alpha female. Specifically, I’m breaking down the three major shifts I made in my life to go from cold blooded to independent, b...
ListenEVIL WEEK BONUS: How To Gather Intel On Your Enemies from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Halloween may be over, but we're keeping the sinful fun going with an Evil Week bonus, where I break down easy tricks to gather information on your enemies and haters so you can craft the most effe...
ListenEVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
EVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness Evil Week is in full swing but it can be hard to fully step into the shoes of sin, right? I'll give you a perditious little pep talk on how evi...
ListenHow To Tell If A Guy Is Using You from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is there magic in moderation? Is the middle path the key to happiness? This week I’ll help identify the warning signs that a guy is using you as his own emotional getaway car, and how to get things...
ListenBoundaries & Bitch Lessons pt. 4 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, we’re exploring the life changing power of: I am not afraid to leave. Plus, I’ll break down the classic f*ckboy trajectory and why ICE COLD is the only way to get a guy back! ?JOIN THE ...
ListenBoundaries & Bitch Lessons pt. 3 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, our mantra is: “Do what works for ME.” We’re talking to three chicks struggling to put themselves first and are instead listening to their panic-based “Snooki brain” about everything fro...
ListenBoundaries & Bitch Lessons pt. 2 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, we continue to read from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Why Men Love Bitches” and get tips on how to handle ghosting, how to turn the tables on a guy trying to make you jealous...
ListenBoundaries & Bitch Lessons from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Last week we kicked off the Shalliterature book club selection, “Why Men Love Bitches” and today I’m reading the first chapter, plus telling a Tinder tale that WMLB helped me navigate in a way I pr...
ListenWhy Men Love Bitches: A New Shalliturature Book Club Selection! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
It’s time for a new book club selection and what better read than my own personal bible, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov! We’ll also talk to two girls in “Fliratationships” who can’t untangl...
ListenSetting Boundaries: An Exercise In Agony from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re helping a girl who got dumped out of nowhere figure out the best course of action. And, I’m taking you through the highs and lows of stating your standards, setting boundaries, and ...
ListenHow To Keep A Guy Chasing You & Satisfying Selfishness from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re focusing on doing what’s best for US—not making things easy breezy for everyone else. I’ll help you set boundaries with guilt trippin family, toxic roommates and guys who stop pursu...
ListenHow to Deal With Boundary Breachers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
When will I stop talking about boundaries? When we all have them perfectly under control—A.k.a., never. I’ll help two girls dealing with friends who want too much, and one chickadee that can’t shak...
ListenHow To Ditch A Psychotic Friend from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re tackling just one topic: the lunatics in our lives. If you’re afraid to drop someone because of the potential fall out, I’ll give you a blueprint on exactly how to leave, and a big ...
ListenCareer Quandaries & Surrogate Girlfriends from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is it normal for an FWB situation to include dates and endless texts? Is a guy one month post divorce fit to date? Is mom going to lose her mind when I tell her I’m switching careers? I’ll unravel ...
ListenThe Not-So-Subtle Art Of Letting Go from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, I’ll help a too-flirty chick undo a sticky situation, help another see what her boyfriend means when he says he needs to sow his wild oats, and talk about the perfect time to have sex wh...
ListenQuarantine Spirals: Divorces, Dudes and Diapers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
With all of us battling some form of 'Rona related existential dread, I'll talk four Shalloners off the cliffs of insanity, whether they're dealing with their parents' divorce, a fantasy flirtation...
ListenFirst Time Fiascos & Flirting Gone Wrong from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, we’ll help two lovelorn Shalloners get over the trauma of losing their virginity to, well, losers, and give advice to another who flirted herself into a corner with a married man...and n...
ListenThe Art Of Apologizing & Females Flirting With Your Fella from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week two Shalloners find themselves needing to issue major apologies to their boyfriends, but another is demanding an explanation for her man’s female “friend” who can’t keep her trashy hands ...
ListenQuarantining With Parents: Criticisms & Catholicisms from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re helping Shalloners stuck in lockdown with family situations that are...less than ideal, shall we say. From a literal list of things to change for a suddenly-super religious father, ...
ListenQuarantine Stress: Family Fiascos & Moving Mayhem from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Sanity is unraveling at a rapid pace, and that means parental feuds and snarky roommates. I’ll help you channel your anxiety into something productive, and help two other Shalloners who can’t fatho...
ListenQuarantine Dating: Setting The Pace & Getting Back The Guy! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I’ll help a Shalloner wanting to knock an ex’s socks off when she sees him post-lockdown, tell another one how to set the pace for online chit-chat with a guy she just started talking to,...
ListenDivorced Douchebags & Miniscule Men from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is a heartbroken guy serious about you or just using you as a free therapist? I’ll read the writing on the wall for a confused Shalloner, help another who can’t seem to make friends, and give tall ...
ListenCoworker Crucifixions and A Vanishing Boyfriend from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode, we’ll boss up a babe who needs help crushing an uprising, sort out a soul-crushing ghosting, and talk to a guy who’s boytoy isn’t ready to come out of the closet! ?GOT A QUESTION ? ?...
ListenPost-Grad Problems & Skittles vs Salads from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode, I’ll start by sharing my quarantine mantra to stave off coronavirus, then deal with two young ladies struggling to find their career path, and help another caught in a friends-with-be...
ListenCreatives In Chaos & A Wakeup Call For Your Booty Call from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I’ll help a Shalloner in a tizzy over where to take her creative career, and another who isn’t exactly feeling warm and fuzzy about her new workmates. We’ll also help a doting daughter se...
ListenOf Rome and Revenge from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
What’s worse than being stuck near your ex? Being stuck near your ex while studying abroad in Italy and he’s hooking up with your detested roommate! I’ll tell this molto triste student how to not f...
ListenHow To Listen To Your Intuition...And How To NOT Date Rappers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
It’s easy to tell someone to listen to their gut instinct…but it’s a lot harder to hear it inside of ourselves. I’ll give you actionable clear-cut steps to picking up what your intuition is trying ...
ListenBoundaries, Burnout and Bitchy Business from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Can you burn out at 21? Oh yes, yes you can. I’ll help a frazzled Shalloner who is feeling used by everyone in her life, another who can’t seem to get her mom off her back, and a business-minded bo...
ListenShallontine’s Day Special: Your V-Day Horror Stories! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
In this special bonus Shallontine’s Day episode, I’ll break down some truly heinous Valentine’s horror stories you shared with me, from a love-bombing loser and a dollar-store romeo, to the many, M...
ListenThe Trap Of “Just Friends” & Dating With Disabilities from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Should you be “just friends” with a guy who isn’t ready to commit? UH NO. I’ll break down the trap of endless friendship, plus help a Shalloner dealing with a physical limitation and a follow up to...
ListenGetting Unstuck & Catfishing On Tinder from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Do you feel stuck in stagnant? I’ll tell you how to reverse-engineer your life to get out of a rut and back on track, talk to a girl dealing with an in-and-out ex fiancé, plus help a Shalloner who ...
ListenWeddings, Funerals, and Trauma Bonding from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Life isn’t always sugar and pom-poms. This week we’re tackling some heavy topics from family obligations to family loss. Plus, I’ll help a confused Shallonee sort out the nuances of trauma bonding ...
ListenCareer Quagmires & The Truth About Being An Empath from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, I’ll help a fan narrow down her career options, explain some hot and cold behavior from a guy who won’t put out, and we are the pros and cons of coming clean about kissing your friends f...
ListenVacationships & Being A Beta from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Did you fall for a guy on a getaway? I’ll unravel a fiasco with a “vacationship” and help a girl who realized that SHE is the beta. Plus, we’ll tackle toxic family members, and feeling like the odd...
ListenOral Fixations and Moms With Dramz from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode we’ll debate why some dudes won’t go downtown, and why others let their moms run their life. Plus, I’ll help a Shalloner who’s guy won’t drop the ILY, and why those who have nothing to...
ListenHow To Play A Player from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode we’ll explore how to get revenge on an ex, a player, and a guy who had the AUDACITY to move on after a break up! Plus, I’ll remind you why we are bait, and not fish! ?GOT A QUESTION ...
ListenHow To Make A Guy Like You & The Truth About One Night Stands from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Can we turn a wishy-washy guy into marriage (or at least boyfriend) material? And what happens when you realize too late that you like a guy from a one-night stand? Can you turn that ho into a hous...
ListenHow To Ho 101 & Chasing Neglect from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I'll talk to a teen who wants to unleash her inner maneater, plus several other chickadees who recognize that they’re entangled with awful a-holes...but can’t quite let go of them for som...
ListenForgiving A F**kboy, Jealous Judgement & Unraveling The Ick! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
If a f**kboy grows up, should you give him another chance? I'll tell it like it is to one Shalloner pondering a player, plus help another make friends in a jealous environment, and explain whether ...
ListenYoung Guy Problems & Old Friend Fiascos from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
'Tis the season to break up with friends who annoy you! I'll help two Shalloners untangle themselves from friendships that no longer serve them, plus help a 28-year-old virgin decide if she should ...
ListenDesperation Dating & Birthday Blues from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I'll help two Shalloners who can't seem to craft the relationships they want. One is constantly striking out at the bars while another is fuming over a fumbled birthday celebration. I'll ...
ListenDeceptive Dudes & Marrying Our Mothers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I'll help two Shalloners who are more than a little suspicious that their oh-so-perfect boyfriends are anything but. Plus, I'll help a 20-year-old hottie shut down backhanded compliments ...
ListenPenis Problems & Mama Drama from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is "vanilla sex" a dealbreaker? We'll decode what a guy means when he dogs his own sexual performance, and what YOU mean when suddenly you can't stand a boy you used to have the hots for! Plus, we'...
ListenSupposedly Shy Guys & Dudes Who Don't Plan Dates from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is there anything more annoying than a guy who "can't" plan a date? No, and I'll give you a script to nip it in the bud. Plus, I'll break down a booty call brouhaha and help a girl raise her standa...
ListenGood Guy F*ckboys & Pity Parties from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode, two girls are dealing with depressive dudes...but when does love turn into enabling? I’ll straighten ‘em out like a piece of wire, plus break down the warning signs that a “nice guy” ...
ListenAnti-Romantics and Virgin Vixens from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode, we will tackle a tricky question from a girl who doesn’t want her sexual boundaries to destroy her social life, explore why romantic gestures creep us out, and help a girl who is not ...
ListenCheat Codes & Flaky Friends from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, I’ll give you scripts for shutting down friends who are flaky, catty or self destructive, plus semi-sorta-cheating boyfriends! Plus, I’ll shine a light on why we really want to confront ...
ListenPausing Pesky Patterns & The Truth About Love Triangles from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, we’ll explore the toxic patterns that hold you back, how self-worth and shame hinder your ability to make friends, what to do when a booty call gets clingy, and the #1 thing you need to ...
ListenPopularity Problems & Freezing Out Family from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This episode, I’ll tell you how to cut off toxic family, why an ex should stay an ex, what small talk texting really means, and how to cope with a constant need for attention! . . ?ENJOYING IT? ? p...
ListenBooty Calls What We Permit from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Being “friends with benefits” sounds great...until he’s the only one benefitting. I’ll break down the psychology behind booty calls, and how to avoid falling into one if you actually want more. Plu...
ListenTaming a Toxic Boss from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
In this episode, I’ll tell you what to do about a toxic work environment, ease your mind if losing your virginity wasn’t exactly magic moment, muse a little on motherhood, and tell you some habits ...
ListenAnxiety Answers & Besties Behaving Badly from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week I’ll tell you how to fix anxiety without medication, tackle friends who are in trouble… and ones who are MAKING trouble, whether or not a guy is just “being nice,” and what to do when a f...
ListenPeace With A Painful Pasts & Getting Back At A Ghoster from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, I’ll tell you how to make peace with your past, calling out a ghoster, whether first date sex ruins everything, and how to know if you’re making healthy choices! . . ?ENJOYING IT? ? plea...
ListenHow To Spot A Keeper from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
By now we know how to spot a douchebag… But what about a quality guy? I’ll tell you how to identify a keeper, explain why your f**kboy ex settled down, delve a little deeper into “too busy” guys, a...
ListenWhy Guys Ghost & How To Raise The Bar from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Picture this: you have an amazing date and then he ghosts for a few days...or forever. I’ll tell you what’s actually happening behind the scenes, plus dealing with parental pressure and why we need...
ListenBad Texters & Love Lessons From Hitler from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is “I’m a bad texter” code for “ just not into you?” I’ll break down disastrous digital behavior, explain how to move on after cheating, tell you the pros and cons of an open relationship, dismantl...
ListenThe Gift Of Shame & Changing A Cheater from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Can you change a cheater? Or train an unchivalrous manchild? I’ll tell you when to walk away, plus how to deal with a guy friend who’s caught feelings AND, one of the most self destructive things w...
ListenThe Curious Case of the “Cool Girl” Myth from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is trying to be the “cool girl” actually ruining your love life? I’ll explain what cool ACTUALLY looks like, and why anxiety is a symptom of an unheard intuition! Plus, a friend who keeps picking f...
ListenHappily Never After? When Life Is “Good On Paper,” with @KateTheWasp! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Boy meets girl. Boy marries girl. Girl’s problems magically evaporate...right? This week I sit down with @KateTheWasp, my real-life friend behind the hilariously satirical “basic entitled white gir...
ListenAstrological Angst & Money Matters from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is astrology BS or are certain signs totally incompatible? I’ll spell it all out, and weigh the pros and cons of short guys, and dish on why you shouldn’t be jealous of his exes, but SHOULD beware ...
ListenFlirtation Fixation & Hurtlocker Heartache from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Should you tell your boyfriend when other guys hit on you? I’ll break down a dude’s motivation for wanting to know, plus give you a script for embarrassing moments, unpack why guys lurk your social...
ListenBroke Boys & Attitude Adjustments from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is is unrealistic to expect guys to take you on dates? I’ll break it down, and reveal the one CRUCIAL attitude you must have when dating...and the absolute worst mentality of all!. ?ENJOYING IT? ? ...
ListenRaw-Dogging Douchebags & Catastrophic Confrontations from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is it a compliment when a guy doesn’t want to use a condom? I’ll break down what he’s ACTUALLY doing, and help two Shalloners dealing with a toxic frenemy and hair-trigger roommate who only get wor...
ListenBirth Control Quandaries & Confrontation Conundrums from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
How much say should your boyfriend have in the type of birth control you use? I’ll break it down, and sort out why an ex comes begging for forgiveness only to ghost again, plus what you should do i...
ListenWELCOME TO GIRL ON TOP from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
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ListenExes & Ohs from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is there a way to get your ex back without groveling? I’ll tell you the best way to reignite a former flame, plus how to deal with a guy with drug issues, how to get your stuff back from someone wh...
ListenTinder Terrors, Exes On Insta & Lurking Losers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Is there any reason your boyfriend should still have tinder on his phone? I’ll break it down, plus examine why a guy is all up in your social networks… But can’t seem to follow through on a date. A...
ListenStripper Tips & Family Feuds from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
A Shalloner is pondering becoming a stripper while another is selling her skivvies for cash. Plus, why a guy is hesitant to let you meet the family, what happens when a FWB douchebag has a moment o...
ListenClassmate/Coworker Crushes & Busted Booty Calls from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Dating someone from your school or office? I’ll tell you how to differentiate courtship from what I call “unintentional logistical contact.” Plus, when you should block an ex on social media, what ...
ListenLove Bombing Boys & Draining Disaster Friends from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week, we’re learning how to see the reality of the situation — not what we hope it is, or what fear tells us it is. One Shalligator is getting ghosted by a guy with unclear intentions, while a...
ListenEvil Week Preview: The Art Of Revenge from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Evil Week begins on October 25 on YouTube and Infstream, and the Shallontourage deserves a little...appetizer, don’t you think? This week I’m talking all about revenge — how to get it, who to tell,...
ListenMoving On & Moving Up from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week our mantra is: stay true to yourself. Sometimes it’s necessary to look at the reality of the situation, a person, or even a town and say… You know what? This just isn’t good enough for me...
ListenThere’s Freedom In Restraint: How To Be Your Own Savior from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
This week we’re talking to a Shalligator who feel stuck in her current college circumstance, plus another trapped by a friend who just won’t listen to her advice, and another who ponders the age ol...
ListenHeroin Highs & Nerdy Needs from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
We’ve all been there with the guy who felt like drugs—every text and every hook up gave us that dopamine insanity. One Shalligator offers her tip on how to clip the cravings, then another ask a cru...
ListenStripper Tips&Family Feuds from 2019-05-15T02:17
A Shalloner is pondering becoming a stripper while another is selling her skivvies for cash. Plus, why a guy is hesitant to let you meet the family, what happens when a FWB douchebag has a moment o...
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