Is My Partner Cheating On Me? - with Lyn Smith - a podcast by Lyn Smith

from 2019-02-21T00:00

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Infidelity is something that should never happen in your relationship and in today’s special episode of HEARTS Entwined, Lyn talks about infidelity, what it is, red flags that might raise concerns that your partner is cheating and the best ways to handle this.

Plus the six key emotions you experience in your intimate relationship - which one is the relationship killer? Tune into this episode to learn how you can save your relationship (if that's what you want?)


KEY TAKEAWAYS 



  • What is infidelity? This is the act of being unfaithful and untruthful to your partner. One partner either feels that their partner is cheating or they actually know for a fact that their partner is cheating and not quite sure how to handle it and what to do about it. 

  • Flags that might raise concerns and be an indicator that your partner is cheating.  



  • Changes in routines. 

  • Changes in hygiene and grooming habits.  

  • Changes in social media, email, and phone usage. 


NB: If these all go way up and your partner seems quite guarded about them, then you know something might be up. This gives you a clue that probably all is not well in your relationship and whether he's cheating or not, it might be a sign that things are not in a great healthy space for the two of you at the moment.



  • The best way to handle this is to initially back off and share it with somebody who will listen to you, who you feel safe with and who you can really speak your mind to and vent out about your partner. 

  • If you are the one being unfaithful and causing hurt to your partner, just be big enough to apologise, own the pain that you've caused and offer to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust. 

  • Use a soft soothing voice and let your partner know how YOU feel, don't make it about him, make it about you. 


    The six key emotions you experience in your intimate relationship


    • Happiness. If that's very present in your relationship, it is usually a great indicator that all is very well. 

    • Fear. This is an indicator that things are not quite so great or it could just be your own insecurities. 

    • Disgust. This is not necessarily a deal breaker in a relationship. We all experience disgust at some point or another in our relationships and it doesn't necessarily have to mean that you find it unacceptable. 



    • Anger. Quite often we experience anger in our relationships towards our partner and surprisingly, this doesn't necessarily need or lead to being a relationship killer. 

    • Sadness. You might experience now and again, feeling a bit sad in your relationship. There’s been a bit of a loss of intimacy lately or in the past, you might have experienced sadness and again, that doesn't necessarily need to spell the end of the relationship

    • Contempt. This is showing some sort of scorn or disdain or disrespect or belittling, humiliating and demeaning through your words and behaviours - If there is a lot of contempt in a relationship then - according to a study by John Gottman - this IS a relationship killer!



    BEST MOMENTS 



  • ”If the key emotion of contempt is the regular emotion that keeps showing up in your relationship from one or both partners, then according to research done by John Gottman and his team, this can be the number one predictor of divorce.” 

  • “It can be impossible to reconcile with your partner when you're convinced that your partner is displaying the emotion of contempt at you or by you.” 

  • “It doesn't help to lay blame even if you're the injured party and your partner is showing you contempt.” 



  • “True love starts with opening our hearts.” 


VALUABLE RESOURCES




ABOUT THE HOST 


Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert 


Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace. 


She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. 


Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe. 


HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions. 


Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres. 


CONTACT METHOD 


Further episodes of Hearts Entwined Podcast

Further podcasts by Lyn Smith

Website of Lyn Smith