Never Good Enough Syndrome - Lyn Smith&Lori Carpenos - a podcast by Lyn Smith
from 2020-01-02T00:00
You are both students of your relationship, what do you need to understand and what valuable life lessons is your partner here to teach you?
‘It’s a whole different dance in a relationship when you become students and teachers of one another’
Lori Carpenos is a licenced marriage and family therapist in Connecticut USA working with couples helping them to better understand themselves and their relationships
As a mentor, she listens to how a person sees their life, their world views and works with them to develop their understanding of how they perceive and respond to themselves and others.
Lyn and Lori discuss in depth the work of Sydney Banks and its influence on Lori's work, in helping her to support and serve others to live in the present moment and view the world from a state of being more aware and conscious.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- We are conscious beings and we can all be more aware and conscious about what we are thinking, feeling and doing.
- We may not always recognise when we are in a low mood but the feeling is a feedback mechanism for showing us where our focus is.
- I initially studied to be a psychologist to try and help myself and my mother
- In helping others, we are able to help ourselves
- I don’t believe in regrets because everything is a learning experience
- I felt a sense of relief when I realised it wasn’t all down to me. Life happens and we respond or react to it with whatever knowledge or resources we have at the time.
- I believed I wasn’t good enough but our beliefs are just beliefs, not truths.
- We don’t have to think our way into living, it’s a natural gift that is given to us.
- We take it for granted that we work from the 'outside' in, that whatever we experience has an impact on us, but it’s the work we do on the 'inside' out that dictates the quality of our happiness in life.
- Lots of people look for 'external' validation and feedback from others when what they should be doing is seeking 'internal' validation from themselves.
- It’s insecure thinking that leads people down a negative path and into a cycle of negative feelings and behaviours.
- What we do with our potential is influenced by what we think and that thinking may not be accurate or the absolute truth.
- We can be in victim mode thinking that everything is happening to us and we have no control in our lives but when we become more consciously aware, life happens through us and we have great control and power.
BEST MOMENTS
‘Why continue to follow a low path when it has been determined by a 'temporary' low mood’
‘There is not one person who cannot recognise their state of mind’
‘Whoever is in a higher state of mind at the time with more clarity and more love in their heart is the teacher in that situation’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
- Hearts Entwined Podcast
-Apple Podcasts (iTunes)
-Spotify
-Stitcher
ABOUT THE GUEST
Lori Carpenos, received her License as a Marriage and Family Therapist LMFT in 1985. She has worked with couples, families and individuals since that time.
She co-authored "The Secret of Love; Unlock the Mystery, Unleash the Magic."
She also maintains an International Online Coaching practice.
Lori has witnessed countless transformations resulting from a deep understanding of the Mind and the workings of the Three Principles.
She has found Retreats, to be by far, the best format for lasting positive change to occur in a short period of time..
www.3Principlestherapy.com
www.secretoflove.org
ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert
Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul-fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.
She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.
Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.
HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.
Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.
CONTACT METHOD
Further episodes of Hearts Entwined Podcast
Further podcasts by Lyn Smith
Website of Lyn Smith