#010 The Jiu Jitsu Imposter - Are You One of Them? - a podcast by John Smallios

John and Matty discuss the very common Imposter Syndrome amongst jiu jitsu students, and how it can wreak havoc on your ability to learn, as well as the enjoyment you derive from your practice of the gentle art. 

It's Self Awareness

Being critical is a strength when you seek out what to improve on, and look to refine the parts and benefit the whole.  In this way there is no limit to how good you can be. With the right effort in the right areas you can do anything you like. 

But there is a fine balance to be had here. Issues arise when you expect too much too soon. When you aren't patient with the learning process, you set yourself up to fail. 

Learn to pay attention to what you are thinking, so that when those thoughts come about, you can consciously replace them with a different story for yourself. Instead of being that guy who doesn't know anything, you're the student who is coming in all ears ready to learn. 

Focus on Others

The fact that you have done even one class means you know more than others. Those others are relying on you to show them the way. You’re the example of how to be a jiu jitsu practitioner. And when you’re nervous within yourself, everyone feels it around you. In turn it makes them nervous. 

Give yourself a break from the internal talk - divert it toward others around you, look to be of service, and show them the way instead of picking out all of your flaws. 

Seek Out the Positives

There's already enough suck in the Imposter's brain. Instead of focusing on what you aren't doing well, make a habit of seeking out the things that you do well.

You tapped early to an oncoming submission. Good for you, note it down. You helped a beginner learn something. Write it down. You prepared a delicious meal for lunch at work? Note it down. Revel in the joys of your good work. These are what you can seek out and learn from and take satisfaction in. 

Hope you enjoy this conversation. If it resonates with you, let us know how! We'd be delighted to hear about it. 

Till the next one!

John & Matty & HJJ.

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