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Sponsored: How Can We Use Our Success to Empower Our Communities? from 2022-11-11T10:30

Season 3 of The Relentless is all about moving fearlessly. We’re kicking things off with two guests who not only embody that mindset, they’re growing businesses in ways that also empower their comm...

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How To Be the Next Erin Brockovich from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mike is an average guy on a mission to change the state of Florida—specifically, to convince the Fish and Wildlife Conservation Commission to stop overspraying the rivers and lakes with herbicides....

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How To End a Sibling Rivalry With Kate & Oliver Hudson from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sam and his sister used to be close, but lately their relationship feels strained. Years of favoritism toward Sam by their parents has taken its toll and now, after one disastrous family celebratio...

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How To Be a Badass On and Off the Court from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Juliet knows she’s one of the best tennis players in her community league, but whenever she gets on the court, she’s paralyzed by self-consciousness. Did the crowd notice how bad that shot was? Wit...

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How To Get Things Done in a Divided Nation with Samantha Power from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Samantha Power knows what it’s like to arrive in Washington, D.C. and feel a little lost—literally. She once couldn't find the oval office. But more than that, as a Pulitzer Prize-winning human rig...

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Our Favorite Advice of 2020 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we learned how to talk politics without wrecking relationships, lose weight and keep it off, confront a crazy neigh...

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How To Stress-Bake with Claire Saffitz from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Are you sick of sourdough? Stress-baking the same chocolate chip cookies every week? Our listener Daniel understands—he’s been baking like crazy during this pandemic, but is feeling tired and unins...

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How To Get Your Dog to Stop Eating Your Daughters’ Underwear With Jenny Slate from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Erin thinks her dog Chief has the most embarrassing habit—he keeps eating her daughters’ underwear. This has happened several times, resulting in multiple costly surgeries. If she can't put a stop ...

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How To Face Your Fear of Dying from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Katie is terrified of dying. As the youngest in a big family, she can’t stop thinking about the fact that all her loved ones may die before she does. Katie is a comedy writer who knows how to get l...

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How To Save Your Marriage from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Lauren and Carlos are afraid their marriage is at a breaking point. With Carlos out of work, an active toddler to care for, and another child on the way, Lauren and Carlos are feeling pressures fam...

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How To Rescue Someone From a Conspiracy Theory from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Matt’s dad believes some crazy conspiracy theories—that the moon landing was faked, that JFK’s assassination was an inside job, and that QAnon is real. Matt can’t stand talking about politics—or re...

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Bonus Ep - How To Get People to Vote from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Isabelle decided to spend her gap year as a political volunteer campaigning on behalf of Joe Biden. She’s been writing postcards, making phone calls, and even posting on social media. But she worri...

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Bonus Episode - How To Get People to Vote from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Isabelle decided to spend her gap year as a political volunteer campaigning on behalf of Joe Biden. She’s been writing postcards, making phone calls, and even posting on social media. But she worri...

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How To Survive a Public Shaming With Katie Hill from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Back in 2018, newly elected U.S. Representative Katie Hill was a rising star in the Democratic Party. Then unauthorized nude photos of her were leaked to a right-wing blog by her estranged husband,...

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How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

On a recent phone call Shannon’s mom didn’t mince words: The only way she’d vote for Joe Biden is if Jesus himself comes down and tells her to. Growing up in a conservative household, Shannon under...

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How To Lose Weight and Keep It Off from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

John needs to shed 15-20 pounds. At age 72, on the cusp of retirement, he wants to reduce his blood pressure medication and have more energy to travel. John knows how to lose weight—at an earlier p...

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How To Get Away With Murder from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

One day in 1987, a young girl in a small town in upstate New York disappeared and then turned up dead. For seven years her murder went unsolved, until police finally caught the killer, a local man ...

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How To Win Arguments Like a Hostage Negotiator from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Shayne defuses bombs for the military, but in his personal life he’s terrified of confrontation. Take, for example, the time his kids’ babysitter cleaned out a week’s worth of groceries from his fr...

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Cheat Sheet: How To Survive High School & Whatever Comes Next from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

College application season is here and Aria, a 17 year-old senior, is stressing—even more than usual. At her high school in Chicago’s south suburbs, she gets good grades, is on the cheer team, in m...

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Cheat Sheet: How To Talk to Your Son About Sex from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Thirteen-year-old Henry seems like a model son. He gets good grades, plays on the hockey team, and has a solid group of friends. But Henry’s been spending a lot more time on the Internet during the...

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Cheat Sheet: How To Ace Zoom School from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Anna is sure the amount of time her two children spend on YouTube or Roblox cannot be good for them. With remote learning this fall, Anna is worried their addiction to screens is only going to wors...

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How To Become Your Own Boss with Guy Raz from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mitchell is a physical therapy student who dreams of revolutionizing the industry. What if physical therapists and their patients weren’t so constrained by insurance companies? His classmates and p...

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How To! Presents: "Cheat Sheet" from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Expert tips for navigating a most unusual back-to-school season. A special three-part series coming September 1st! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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How To Confront a Crazy Neighbor with Tig Notaro from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

The trouble began when Sarah put a fern in front of her new condo. Nice, right? The woman who lives in the unit above didn’t think so, and without warning sent Sarah a slew of passive-aggressive no...

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How To Get That Promotion You Deserve from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Johnny is worried about being stuck in the same job forever. He’s been trying to climb the corporate ladder of his software company for years but has had little success. He knows he deserves a prom...

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How To Survive a Shark Attack from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

David was in the ocean in Hawaii when the unthinkable happened—a shark attacked him and bit off his leg. “I don’t think you’re gonna make it,” a medic told the 25-year-old on the helicopter ride to...

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Bonus Episode - 'Hello Monday' with Jessi Hempel from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This bonus episode features Charles's recent appearance on the podcast Hello Monday, where host Jessi Hempel discusses the relationship between work and meaning. Charles tells the story of his expe...

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How To Write a Bestseller from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Lauren already knows the plot of her bestselling novel—the problem is she hasn’t written a word. Paralyzed by self-criticism and an earlier rejection, this former English major has spent years jour...

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How To Fight Racism in Your Town from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Chris has always considered himself “on the right side of things,” but as Black Lives Matter protests sweep across the country, he’s starting to realize he needs to do a lot more. As a white man li...

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How To Stand Up for Your Kid When Society Won’t from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Karin always thought of herself as the mom of two boys—that is, until last year when her oldest child told her they were nonbinary, meaning they don’t identify as either male or female. Karin loves...

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How To Walk Away from an Impossible Parent from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

When Sydney’s dad texted her, “Do me a favor and lose my number,” she was crushed. At 27, Sydney has always had a rocky relationship with her dad, but she held out hope he could still be a part of ...

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How To Find a New Career Before it's Too Late from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Donny is ready to leave the restaurant industry once and for all. As a recovering alcoholic, he was already looking for a new career before COVID-19 upended his life. But at 38 years old, Donny has...

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How To Get a Stubborn Parent to Listen from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Alan’s 86-year-old dad will not stop driving—even after an incident where he drove off the road and totaled his car. Feeling guilty and worried, Alan has tried to convince his dad to hand over the ...

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How To Say the Right Thing at the Worst Time from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Ann’s sister just lost her husband and Ann doesn’t know how to console her. Ann lives in a different state and, having experienced loss herself, knows saying the wrong thing can only add to the hur...

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How To Lose 155 Pounds Happily from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Ashley thought by now she’d be on top of the world. Once severely overweight, Ashley lost 155 pounds and recently ran her first half-marathon. But when she looks in the mirror all she sees are the ...

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How To Talk to Strangers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Every other Friday, Amy’s calendar reminds her to make the rounds of her office and say “hello” to her colleagues. As an introvert, Amy deeply struggles with small talk, but as a manager of 55 peop...

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How To Actually Enjoy Working from Home from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Joanna really misses her office. Taking Zoom calls from the kitchen in her dimly lit Brooklyn apartment doesn’t compare to her bright, open office filled with friendly coworkers. In this episode of...

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How To Save the Planet (And Still Use a Plastic Straw) from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Caleb tries to be good to the planet by recycling, biking to work and living a minimalist lifestyle in his small Ohio town. But he still feels guilty about using disposable diapers and buying a min...

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How To Stop Procrastinating from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Marie trains dogs for a living, but she’s struggling to teach herself a new trick—overcoming procrastination. For a year, she’s been ready to launch a new dog training app....just as soon as she ma...

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Quarantine Q&A: Masks from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Margit from Denver, Colorado writes in with a question about how to encourage people to wear masks to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. Charles offers advice on how to incentivize people to fo...

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How To Tame a Chaotic Household from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sarah feels like she’s drowning in the clutter of her tiny Brooklyn apartment where she lives with a messy husband and two-year-old daughter. Now that her family is under quarantine together, the c...

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How To Not Go Crazy Under Quarantine from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we’re struggling with the same problem as our listeners: self-quarantine. As news of the coronavirus pandemic intensifies, how do we stay sane while staying home? How do we reduce stress...

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How To Forgive the Unforgivable from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

For years Claire has been holding on to a terrible family secret: Her mom physically abused Claire’s brother when he was young. How could her mom have done that? Now, over a decade later, both Clai...

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How To Find Your First Kiss at 38 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sharon is 38 and never been kissed. This, as she acknowledges, is “a bit weird.” As a nurse who loves ballroom dancing, Sharon is smart, funny, and attractive. At the same time, she’s deeply religi...

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How To Get Your Mom to Accept You from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

When Hema first realized she was gay a few years ago after immigrating to the U.S., she knew she had to tell her mom. But the conversation didn’t go well. Hema’s mom lives in India and is convinced...

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How To Vote for the Next President from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Anthony is that rarest of things in American politics—a swing voter who is up for grabs in 2020. Caught between his Republican voting history and his current dislike of President Trump, Anthony is ...

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How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song with Ben Folds from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Lorenzo is a dental student with big dreams—of becoming a rock star. Lorenzo plays a mean guitar at open mic night, but there’s one thing holding him back: He doesn’t know how to write his own song...

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How To Convince People to Give You Money from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Shannon runs a nonprofit in Aspen, Colorado — a place filled with wealthy donors, but also stiff competition. With nearly 500 nonprofits vying for money, how does Shannon help her organization stic...

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How To Protect Yourself Against the Coronavirus from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

The coronavirus outbreak in China is causing panic worldwide. The World Health Organization has declared it a global health emergency and all we hear about are doubling infection rates, massive qua...

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How To Put Your Wife's Career First from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Andy would do anything for his girlfriend Cassie. Well, almost anything. As Cassie looks to move away for vet school, Andy has to decide if he’s going with her, leaving his job, family and friends,...

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How To Kick a Meth Habit from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Jason has been addicted to meth for the past 15 years, which is not uncommon in his small Illinois town. Every time Jason stopped using he would relapse, until last year when the state took custody...

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How To Rob a Bank from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Joe Loya robbed over 30 banks during an 18-month span before going to jail. In this episode of How To! Charles wants to rob one bank on a Saturday afternoon, and get away scot-free. Can Joe teach C...

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How To Propose (to a Man) from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Once upon a time, Ashley met a man and fell in love. Now, she’s ready to get down on one knee and pop the question. But with so few women proposing to men, she’s not sure how to go about it. In thi...

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How To Make Your New Year's Resolutions Stick from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

How To! gave dozens of people advice this year about solving their problems. Now, we track a few of them down to see how our experts’ suggestions transformed their lives. We follow up with an actor...

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How To Give a REALLY Big Gift from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mary’s mother needs a new kidney — as long as it doesn’t come from Mary. What’s a daughter to do? In this episode of How To!, Mary hears from Larissa MacFarquhar, author of a book on extreme altrui...

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How To Remember Everything from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Jessica is only 26, but says her memory is ‘worse than my mother’s.’ She forgets friends’ birthdays, important details at work and worries that life is passing her by. In this episode of How To!, w...

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How To Sleep from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Ben aka ‘Sleepless in San Francisco’ hasn’t been able to get a good night’s rest for over a decade. He’s tried noise machines, medication, vodka, even eating cheese -- but nothing has worked. It’s ...

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How To Get Your Kid To Finally Grow Up from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Owen is about to graduate from high school and has no idea what he wants to do next. Owen doesn’t seem worried, but his mom, Lisa, is freaking out. In this episode of How To!, we get help from Juli...

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How To Cook One Perfect Meal from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Jonny is a 26 year-old bachelor whose cooking often leads to heartache (and for one ex-girlfriend, a stomach ache). Jonny admits he’s a klutz in the kitchen, so we hooked him up with Sam Sifton, co...

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How To Win At Online Dating from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Traci is a single, professional woman looking for love. She builds furniture in her spare time, enjoys dancing and can’t believe she has to devote an hour each day to swiping through photos and sen...

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How To Perform Under Pressure from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mike’s dream job of playing bass in a Chicago orchestra is within reach — if only he can conquer his nerves and master the audition. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Dr. Don Greene, a peak p...

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How To Withstand Pain from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sophie Power once breastfed her newborn during an ultramarathon, but an upcoming 268-mile race across a remote stretch of Great Britain is freaking her out. In this episode of How To! we turn to Wi...

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How To Not Be Scared from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Becca is 6-feet tall, bold and strong-willed. She’s also easily startled and paralyzed by fear — even a children’s haunted house can reduce her to tears. In this episode of How To!, we bring in soc...

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How To Fire Your Daughter from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Kyle wants to sell his 50-year old family insurance business so he can finally retire. But a troublesome employee is holding him back: his daughter. In this episode of How To!, Harvard Business Sch...

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How To Put Down Your Phone from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

How many times have you looked at your phone so far today? Do you feel like you’re choosing to look, or automatically craving it when you ought to be enjoying life? In this episode of How To! we ge...

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How To Be Funny from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? In this episode of How To! a pastor from Oklahoma wants to spice up his sermons. So we introduce him to Gary Gulman, a New York standup comedian who makes...

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How To Decide Whether To Have a Baby from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

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How To Go On a Family Adventure from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Can a family travel around the world for a year without killing each other? Dan Kois spent a year in New Zealand, The Netherlands, Costa Rica and Kansas with his wife Alia and their two young daugh...

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How To Look Like a Superhero from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

How did Ryan Reynolds and Hugh Jackman get so buff to play Deadpool and Wolverine? An up-and-coming Hollywood actor wants to know so he can land his own superhero role. In this episode of How To! w...

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How To Stress Your Kid the Right Way from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Is there a right way to let kids struggle and fail? How do you raise resilient children? And most important, when should you help out, and when should you chill out? In this episode of How To! we a...

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How To Survive a Pandemic from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Have you ever wondered how you would fare in the apocalypse? Perhaps you have envisioned yourself, shotgun loaded, prepared to mete out kindhearted justice and tough-love defense in equal measure. ...

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How To Stop Being Anxious from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Matt has anxiety attacks. Every day. When he gets too many texts, when he starts worrying about his family, when the unexpected occurs: that’s when the sweat starts and his mind begins racing. He’s...

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How To Uproot Your Life from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

A decade after Elizabeth’s family left the U.S. to live in Portugal, they’re wondering if it’s time to move back. In this episode of How To! we turn to professional poker player, Annie Duke, who tr...

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How To Fire a Bad Employee from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Gabe wants to fire a bad employee, but still be a good boss. In this episode of How To! we turn to Stanford professor of management science, Bob Sutton (The No Asshole Rule and Good Boss, Bad Boss)...

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How To Give Your Mom a Kidney from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mary’s mother needs a new kidney — as long as it doesn’t come from Mary. What’s a good daughter to do? In this episode of How To! Mary hears from Larissa MacFarquhar, author of a book on extreme al...

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Introducing How To! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

What if Dear Abby was an investigative reporter? Each week, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit) takes on listeners’ toughest problems and, with the help of experts...

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How To Have an Open Relationship from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Abe’s girlfriend wants to try something different—sleeping with other people. In other words, she wants an open relationship. Abe could be on board, but he has some questions. How does that work ex...

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Introducing How To! from 2019-06-21T21:58

What if Dear Abby was an investigative reporter? Each week, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit) takes on listeners’ toughest problems and, with the help of experts...

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Introducing How To! from 2019-06-21T21:58

What if Dear Abby was an investigative reporter? Each week, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit) takes on listeners’ toughest problems and, with the help of experts...

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