Podcasts by I Said What I Said
"I Said What I Said" is a raucous self development podcast about closing the gap between who we are and who we want to be. From career changes and problematic friendships, to mediocre sex and navigating money matters; sisters Mukundwa and Nyak explore how to prioritise your pleasure and move with intention. 2018-2020
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2020 in review: intuition, self development and manifestation from 2020-12-23T18:54:28
WELL HELLO GIRLS AND GAYS! In this episode we’re discussing spiritual growth in 2020 and answering your questions. Blame the Conjuncture for us sounding like cyborgs.
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Belief Systems, Personal Power and Radical Pleasure in the face of white supremacy from 2020-06-01T03:00:17
TW mention of Suicide and Sexual Assault. On this episode we discuss themes around George Floyd’s murder. How do we keep spiritually sane and safe in the face of white supremacy.
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Should our friendships inspire us? ft. Bobo from 2020-05-25T03:00:13
should our friends serve the productive function of inspiring us? should we admire our friends and want to be like them, or are they just a good time? We also get into black capitalism, hypergamy, ...
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Holding Space: Is wanting to fix other people's issues compassionate or selfish? from 2020-05-18T03:00:13
In this episode we discuss issues around how to effectively and selflessly hold space for people. Do you know how to hold space for people without making their problems about you? Is wanting to fix...
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bodies under quarantine: boundaries, beauty and elusive weight loss from 2020-05-11T03:00:14
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Ironic but true: your dreams are holding you back from 2020-05-04T03:00:18
Who decides our purpose? Is happiness something we find or something we choose?
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Would you join a cult? from 2020-04-27T03:00:18
On cults, compatibility and happiness.
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wait, what day is it? shifting efforts in relationships under lockdown from 2020-04-20T03:00:13
Shifting efforts in friendships, productivity and delayed gratification under lockdown.
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Destructive Hookup Styles, Botched Boundaries & Vulnerability Sweats from 2020-04-13T03:00:13
Nunu and Tshepi join us to discuss vulnerability and boundaries in casual relationships. Is your hookup style destructive?
GUESTS: twitter.com/neon_nu and instagram.com/justtshepi.
Is Authenticity Overrated? Leaning into Perception and Determining your Value Add from 2020-04-06T03:00:13
Are you a valuable member of society - and who determines this? are you a trash employee? do you have the range to freelance? Which yields the most benefits, authenticity or leaning into public per...
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Are you too old to be special? from 2020-03-30T03:00:12
In this episode we discuss legacy, education systems on Mars and tension during self-isolation
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The Future of Personal Finances, Career & Trigger Warnings under COVID-19 from 2020-03-23T03:00:10
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Love In A Time of Corona virus - conspiracy theories, social isolation and unrequited love from 2020-03-16T03:00:15
In this episode we discuss how Covid-19 will affect dating habits, who benefits from the resulting fear and isolation, and falling in love with friends
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Corona virus frenzy, financial freedom and workplace scams from 2020-03-09T03:00:10
On the racist classist responses to coronavirus, pursuing early retirement and managing intolerable work environments
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Love is Blind until its not: on preference, prejudice and fantasy from 2020-03-04T14:57:36
Would dating be easier if looks weren’t a consideration? In this episode we discuss the absurdity of Netflix’s "Love is Blind", and preferences vs. prejudice
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Is Gwyneth Paltrow trying to Kill You? from 2020-02-24T03:00:10
On Goop Lab, spiritual scammers and the importance - or lack thereof - of distinguishing science from wellness.
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Why be ambitious when the world is ending? from 2020-02-17T03:00:10
Does contentment kill ambition, is it possible to be a pessimistic optimist?
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Mum, Dad - I've outgrown you: hard conversations, constructive conflict and power dynamics from 2020-02-10T03:00:10
In this episode we discuss how to identify constructive vs. combative conflict, navigating outgrowing family and being commodified within friendships.
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Kobe Bryant, Complicated Legacies and Making Sense of Sexual Assault from 2020-02-03T03:00:10
TRIGGER WARNING: sexual assault. Does redemption from sexual assault exist? Should our legacy be based on our best day or worst day? Does society respond to abusers and victims in constructive ways...
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Celebrating 1 Year of ISWIS with a hectic Q&A from 2020-01-27T03:00:10
WE'RE JUST OVER 1 YEAR OLD!! Celebrating with a lighthearted Q&A: we think, we fight, we laugh.
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Dear White People - on navigating racial dynamics with POC from 2020-01-20T03:00:10
Navigating relationships with POC and white people. Where is the communication breakdown? Do the races really have to get along?
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How To Communicate Better in 2020 from 2020-01-13T03:00:16
Today we discuss how love languages, intuition improve and complicate clear communication
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Can we hold our Depressed friends accountable? from 2020-01-05T15:53:22
We discuss tough love, loyalty and navigating mental health in friendships.
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Are some Friendships too much work? Emotional labour, boundaries and pity friendships from 2019-12-23T03:00:33
In this episode we discuss the concept of emotional labour within friendships: setting boundaries, pity friendships and capitalism seeping into our friendship transactions. TW: suicide and sexual v...
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Family Dynamics: To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question from 2019-12-17T16:54:47
Managing family dynamics during the festive season: is it everyday discourse or should you square up?
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Should Sex feel like this? Vaginismus and Gym Orgasms from 2019-12-10T15:54:11
RESOURCES
vaginismus podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/sxtckzb and https://tinyurl.com/t6ppoer
GYM ORGASM: google coregasm
female viagra - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66yisaGN5a8
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Cannibalism, anyone? Survival, Morality and Body Autonomy from 2019-12-02T03:00:13
TW: suicide. We discuss survival and consensual cannibalism, body integrity dysphoria, the state having control over our bodies, and enforcing self preservation
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https://www.s...
Exercise, clean eating trends and the new face of diet culture from 2019-11-25T03:00:13
Is wellness and clean eating the new diet culture?
RESOURCES:
https://www.self.com/story/mild-bloating-after-eating-is-normal
Podcast episode: https://tinyurl.com/scu5acl
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Is the Pursuit of Happiness the greatest scam ever? from 2019-11-18T03:00:13
TRIGGER WARNING: suicide is mentioned
In this episode we discuss happiness: is it a practical pursuit or a futile illusion? Are white people the happiest race, is the internet a portal to ...
Noisy headspace, Psychics and Accent Wars from 2019-11-11T03:00:14
In this episode we discuss managing internal noise and our experience with psychics and hypnotherapy
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Clout as Currency ft. Bobo & Flex from 2019-11-04T12:07:10
Bobo & Flex join us to discuss the nuances around self-publishing and elevating ourselves on social media: what is the benefit and cost of clout? Do we want people’s truths or people’s performances...
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Friendship Dilemmas: Breakups, Money and Attraction from 2019-10-28T03:00:12
Your friendship dilemmas answered! Are you a disposable friend? Is it sustainable to be attracted to your friends? And do you position yourself as a saviour?
GUEST: www.instagram.com/tlou...
Working is the Ghetto, Sexual Fantasies, are you Lucky or Privileged? from 2019-10-21T03:00:12
In this chatty episode Mukundwa and Nyak pick your topic suggestions from a hat and give their off-the-cuff opinions
PLEASE DM Mukundwa to feedback about this episode format! Do you prefer...
The Cost of Sugar: the rise of blesser culture and its unseen labour from 2019-10-14T03:00:14
Transactional relationships have become increasingly mainstream: in this episode we discuss putting the “work” back into sex work. Popularised online as a get-rich-quick stint and an "elevated boyf...
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Growing Pains: managing life transitions and relinquishing control from 2019-10-07T03:00:14
Are you going through an existential crisis? Welcome to the party! We discuss the discomfort of personal growth, relinquishing control during this process and how to pay attention to patterns. Is t...
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I'm Mediocre, Now What? On Excellence, Realism and the Law Of Attraction from 2019-09-30T03:00:14
What happens if you aren't particularly excellent at anything? In this episode award winning entrepreneur and friend Bonolo joins us to discuss money, career and freelancing. Is freelancing for the...
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Are you Ugly? On Neutrality, Positivity and Body Image Propaganda from 2019-09-23T03:00:16
Is it possible to reclaim the word ugly? We discuss:
Curating spaces that affirm you, Dress Sense as an art form: intrigue over appeal, Body Positivity vs. Body Neutrality and Reclaiming v...
Single As A Pringle: Serial Dating, Self Worth and Saying NO to the Romance Agenda from 2019-09-16T03:00:16
In this episode we discuss framing singleness as a state of abundance rather than a state of limbo, lack and waiting. How can we use this time to get to know ourselves and our desires? We look at h...
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Trigger Warnings and Bums on Mars from 2019-09-09T17:49:58
In this episode we unpack the fallout of trigger warnings and double standards in online communication. And more pressingly, should Bums be allowed on Mars?
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Toxic Self-Preservation: you're isolating yourself and it shows! from 2019-09-05T19:23:25
Ever police your boundaries so hard that you end up isolating yourself? Is your refusal of performing emotional labour ruining your social life?
Nyak and I break down the difference between sel...
Part 2: Dating while Bitter/Better - desire, energy and resistance from 2019-08-26T03:00:15
Nelisa joins us again to discuss: Is it un/healthy to make your relationships a microcosm of your politics and feminist ideology? We also look at how our relation to gender roles, masculine+feminin...
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Part 1: Dating while Bitter/Better - Are Woke Men Born or Built? from 2019-08-19T07:15:49
To Be Bitter or To Be Better, that is the question!
in Part 1 Nelisa joins us to discuss the following: are woke men found in the wild or do we have to educate them into the people we want...
Dunking on Self Dev: the duality of therapy, diagnoses and western medicine from 2019-08-12T03:00:05
Resident zaddy Abolade joins us to explore the duality of therapy. We discuss the empowerment of receiving a diagnosis and the danger of internalising them, and also look at the limitations of west...
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Clocking out: Creating meaning and value beyond Career from 2019-08-05T03:00:06
In this episode we discuss how career and moneymaking both help and complicate the pursuit of self. Is money a distraction? Or does the all-consuming activity of working help us make sense of life?...
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Mid Year Musings - growth, glow ups and what we're leaving behind from 2019-07-29T03:00:15
In this episode we reflect on personal growth in 2019: AHA Moments, growing pains and the personal paths to a better version of ourselves
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The Friendship Audit - the results of facilitating theoretical conflict from 2019-07-22T03:00:14
This week we talk about *surprise surprise* FRIENDSHIPPPPP. This episode is the culmination of all our friendship episodes as Mukundwa takes her own advice and the results are *SHOCKING*
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The Friendship Grind Part 2: hard decisions, priorities and performativity from 2019-07-15T03:00:14
In part 2 we use three listener dilemmas as the lens through which to explore people pleasing and the intricacies of friendship amidst mental health issues
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The Friendship Grind Part 1: Transitions, Loyalty, and Complacency from 2019-07-08T03:00
In part 1 we discuss friendship transitions and the effort we do/nt make towards curating meaningful relationships. What doses it take to successfully transition a friendship from high school / uni...
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Do You Boo: Internet Activism, Tangible impact and Retweet Complacency from 2019-07-01T03:00
Things get heated! Are some forms of activism better than others? Is impact more important than Intent? And who gets to decide whether internet activism is genuine or not?
GUEST: Andrew - ...
Part 2: Envy? I don't Know Her! On comparison and the in\ability to Fulfil our Dreams from 2019-06-24T02:59:59
MUKUNDWA IS BRAND NEW. In true Pisces fashion I have done a 180 and don't know what or who envy is. In this episode we reflect on the pillars of envy (perception and symbols of success, especially ...
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Part 1: On Envy and Comparison - I Met My Tethered and She's THRIVING! from 2019-06-17T03:00:06
In this episode Mukundwa details her struggles with envy and comparison, and Nyak takes the role of her unpaid therapist: do we get over envy by being+feeling BETTER than the other person? Do some ...
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Sexcetera - is your pleasure worth prioritising? Ep27 from 2019-06-10T03:00:05
Someone asked me (Mukundwa)what prompted me to stop having sex with subpar men. Nyak and I dissect my answer: we discuss prioritising pleasure, body dissociation and energy transfers. We also argue...
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Throw her in the trash? On bending vs. breaking friendships from 2019-06-03T03:00:07
In this episode we discuss what friendship breakups actually look like - are they explosive or silent withdrawals? Is it possible to run a friendship like a transaction, and how do we know if it's ...
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Forever After (and other scams) ft. Retha from 2019-05-27T03:00:07
*FIRSTLY LEAVE A RATING AND REVIEW, I SEE Y'ALL DINING AND DASHING!!!*
Is marriage the ghetto? In this episode we explore whether marriage is:
- an unpaid internship
- beneficial ...
Cute or Concerning? Social Media Stalking and Transparency from 2019-05-20T03:35:09
We all Google our crushes (right?!): do you stop at LinkedIn or go to page 7 of the results? When does due diligence become stalking? Does bae OWE you transparency? Is invasion of privacy wrong if ...
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Social Media flexing and Tapdancing for the D - ft Abolade. Ep23 from 2019-05-13T03:00:09
In this RAUCOUS episode we discuss - social media optics and why we have instagram if it ruins our mental health, we interrogate catfishing on apps, and racial stereotypes that JUMP OUT when dating...
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Suicide, Life And Death Q&A - A Frank Conversation On Suicide Part 2 from 2019-05-06T03:00:09
We read out comments and questions sent in by listeners as a followup to Part 1, link: https://tinyurl.com/y5q7joo8 . The topics touched upon are searching for meaning and purpose, the fear of old ...
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Would You Date Yourself? Ft. Nunu & Abolade - Ep. 21 from 2019-04-29T03:00:09
Manipulation? Emotionally checking out? Parring off the responsibility of breaking up? In this spicy episode we count down the ways in which we're problematic lovers!
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Polyamory vs. Longevity - ft. Nunu. Ep20 from 2019-04-22T03:00:04
Is polyamory conducive to longevity, and is longevity even a goal? Also do Gemini’s have emotions?
Nunu:
https://www.instagram.com/neon_nu/
https://twitter.com/neon_nu
Nam...
The Opposite of life is Apathy: a frank conversation on suicide - Ep19 from 2019-04-15T03:00:14
TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide
Ushbah discusses her experience with suicide and mental health, and we discuss apathy and death/life as choices
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The Beauty Myth - Ep18 from 2019-04-08T12:59:19
Are you beautiful if no one is there to see it? Are you beautiful if no one agrees?
We discuss the function of beauty, its shifting goalposts and gatekeepers, and whether beauty is a phys...
Fast Money & Motivation - Ep17 from 2019-04-01T03:00:02
IS THERE SUCH A THING AS FAST MONEY? Is money a karmic reward for effort, or can we cut corners to richness?
We also discuss money as escapism, happiness as an (impossible) destination an...
Dating in Denial - Ep16 from 2019-03-25T03:00:09
In this episode we discuss looking for love in all the wrong places, and the journey of forgiving ourselves for romantic decisions made out of fear and insecurity
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Ageing Anxiety: On Comparison, Purpose And TeamNoSleep. Ft Retha - Ep.15 from 2019-03-17T20:43:25
GETTING OLDER! We discuss TeamNoSleep, the tension between purpose and paycheck, and finding independence while still relying on parents
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The Irony Of Conflict Avoidance - Ep14 from 2019-03-12T23:08:01
DO YOU HANG THE TOILET PAPER UNDER OR OVER??!!! We explore the labour of conflict and the burden of conflict avoidance.
Comment / DM us topic suggestions!
Parents and the Pursuit of Respeck - ft. Lethabo. Ep13 from 2019-03-04T03:00:03
Can we have autonomy AND need our parents financial support? Do parents care about our happiness or our fulfilment of their expectations? WILL OUR PARENTS EVER PUT RESPECK ON OUR NAMES?
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Sexcetera:(Life Before)Celibacy Ft. Mica - Ep.12 from 2019-02-25T03:00:06
The road to celibacy is paved with bad sex and performativity. What kind of experiences contribute to the choice of celibacy, and what kind of sex would end it?
‘Sexcetera’ is a series of ...
#FupaMustFall: on the collective fear of Fatness. Ep11 from 2019-02-18T03:00:05
Is anyone else fed up of being at war with their body? We discuss how people the world over spend their lives feeling fat, fearing fatness or trying to lose weight. We explore the links to childhoo...
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Seasons of friendship: lean in or let go? - Ep10 from 2019-02-11T03:00:05
Do we treat friends how they want to be treated or how they treat themselves? Should we intervene when a friends lack of personal boundaries burden the friendship?
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Men Are from Mars, Period! - Ft. Boris. Ep9 from 2019-02-04T09:26:19
On dating: splitting bills, gender performativity and labour division.
TRIGGER WARNING - gaslighting
Send in comments, dilemmas and topic suggestions via DM or Curious Cat: curio...
Who's Boundary Is It Anyway? - Ep8 from 2019-01-28T04:00:13
Should we respect boundaries we don't agree with? What happens when someone's boundary offends our sense of self?
Send in comments, dilemmas and topic suggestions via DM or Curious Cat: cu...
Dating while Fat, Black And Picky - Ft. Retha. Ep7 from 2019-01-21T07:03:47
Dating is a minefield. Add some blackness, fatness and pickiness - what do you get?
Catch Retha on:
https://soundcloud.com/thirdculturekidssquad (her podcast!)
https://twitt...
Cancel Culture Who Wins - Ft. Tloukie. Ep6 from 2019-01-14T08:54:18
What’s the difference between being challenged and tried? Who does cancel culture serve? Is personal freedom a result of cancelling people or calling them in?
The illustrious @Tloukie unpa...
2018: A Scam Or A Success? - Ep5 from 2019-01-07T14:50:39
DEUCES TWENTY EIGHTEEN
Was it cute or ashy? Or somewhere in the middle...
We discuss hard lessons on romance, self acceptance and (the impossibility of) outrunning your purpose
WHY DID YOU GHOST?! A postmortem with my Ex - Ep4 from 2018-12-19T21:30:46
An earnest post mortem between exes on ghosting and the inevitability of mimicking our parents' romantic un/availability
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Is Romance Realistic? Ft. Bobo - Ep3 from 2018-12-19T21:05:20
On dating while black, navigating romantic trauma and sustainable romantic structures
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Have you identified and worked throug...
Surprise! YOU are the Toxic friend - Ep2 from 2018-12-18T21:08:45
On coming to terms with our own toxicity and getting cancelled by friends
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What toxicity of your own do you have to com...
Fight Me - Ep1 from 2018-12-10T10:33:56
WELCOME TO EPISODE 1 OF "I SAID WHAT I SAID"
ON CONFLICT - does conflict make or breaks friendships? And does your race and religion determine your your relationship to conflict?