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Ep. 125: The Mind-Body Connection You Must Understand to Elevate Your Experience of Pleasure from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.140587

Have you ever wondered why changing your thinking is NOT making a huge difference in how you feel in your body? Like despite how much effort you make in trying to get your brain on board with th...

Ep. 129: How Contrast/Opposites Can Be Our Greatest Tool In Self-Growth from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.092949

Do you feel like it is hard to fully lean into a new way of being when you aren’t exactly sure WHAT that even looks like? You aren’t alone. Often times when When we are trying to create MORE of ...

Ep. 133: How"Maybe"Might Just Change Your Life from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.084921

I am always up for a little mind trick hack, one that is easy to remember in the moment and helps me move forward on my long-term goals and aspirations. And ‘maybe’ my friends is just the mindse...

Ep. 136: 6 Ways To Feel Less Awkward During Sex from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.078756

Listen, sex can be super awkward for a variety of reasons - first of all - it is two naked bodies trying to entangle in a pleasurable way - awkward. Not to mention the different personality type...

Ep. 137: The #1 Mindset Shift To Experience More Pleasure Now from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.075086

It is easy to imagine yourself basking in juicy sensual pleasure when you have the time, the space and the connection. But it is a whole other thing when that is NOT what you are currently exper...

Ep. 140: What To Do When You're Taking Too Long from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.068423

Are you afraid you are taking to long to get aroused and orgasm? Listen, if so, you are so not alone. This is one of the most common worries among women when it comes to their sexual ‘performanc...

Ep. 144: Better Sex Starts With Better Self-Awareness from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.057168

YOU already have self-awareness. You already are conscious of many of the thoughts that are getting in the way of you having more pleasure, you notice how you feel in your body when it is a “yes...

Ep. 148: 5 Tips To Make Your Holiday More Pleasurable from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.048016

Look we don’t need to kid ourselves that the holidays are NOT a busy time of the year. The month of December brings on different things that will fill up your calendar - traditions, social gathe...

Ep. 149: Gifts To Turn You On from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.045411

Let’s make this the most pleasurable holiday - filled with gifts that will actually LIGHT you up. Have you ever wanted to buy something for the holidays to add to your pleasure, your intimacy or...

Ep. 151: New Year Goal: The Shameless Practice of Pleasure from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.040543

Lets do something different in 2023, let’s embark on the actual PRACTICE of pleasure. Without the shame, without the guilt, with out the feeling that we are doing something selfish.

When p...

Ep. 155: 5 Ways Your'Yes's'Are Hurting Your Sex Life from 2023-12-13T15:12:30.002824

It’s easy to blame the “big” culprits for our lack of desire or intimate pleasure - things like crazy schedules, hormones, a partner who is being an a-hole. But what about the little things? The...

Ep. 156:"I WANT What She Has"- Balancing The Pursuit of Pleasure While Staying Committed To Religious Beliefs from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.999445

“Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband a...

Ep. 158: Carry The Mental Load&Being Overwhelmed from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.992101

There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking ab...

Ep. 161: The Permission Slip: Allowing Yourself to Change Your Mind Will Help Inc. Your Desire from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.980810

Do you ever struggle with scheduling sex because you’re afraid that when the time comes you might not like feel like it and you don’t want to get your partner’s hopes up? Or you hold yourself ba...

Ep. 164: Making The Blowjob Orgasmic For Both from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.964953

Blowjobs - love them or hate them, this episode is for you.

The blowjob is one of those sexual acts that is seeped in assumptions, stigmatization and ‘shoulds'. Sure they are ‘for’ your pa...

Ep. 169: The EX-Good Girl with Sara Bybee Fisk from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.946469

Continuing our conversation about the ripple impact of the "good girl" complex, which affects our daily interactions and our relationship with our sexuality, we are joined by Sara Bybee Fisk, a ...

Ep. 173: 5 Shifts For Fantastic Foreplay from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.930068

Foreplay is always a hot button topic amongst my clients - should I? Is it really worth the effort? What IS foreplay exactly?

Foreplay could be the single most important thing to help your...

Ep. 176: 5 Brain Hacks For Better Sex from 2023-12-13T15:12:29.913123

Brain hacks for productivity, good grades, following through with goals - but what about your pleasure?? Well your brain IS your largest (and most important) sex organ, so today I am going to gi...

Ep. 181: Beyond'Fine'- Changing the Brain For More Pleasure from 2023-11-23T10:00

There are so many ways that we can change our brain for the better, meaning in order for us to experience the things we want - like greater happiness, connection, motivation and satisfaction. Listen

Ep. 180: The Secret To Being A Turned On Woman from 2023-11-16T15:40:35

What's holding you back from being that Turned On Woman?

Hint it isn’t your hormones or your sexy lingerie or even having a partner who is fawning all over you. It’s a way of being in th...

Ep. 179: The Pleasure Paradox: When your partner's desire to see you pleasured feels like pressure from 2023-11-10T19:59:56

Of course you want to be with a partner who wants to see you pleasured, I mean don’t we all??! 

But then you feel like them wanting to see you writhe in ecstasy is making it even harder fo...

Ep. 178: Confidently Ask For What You Want Pt. 2: HOW! from 2023-10-27T16:44:47

YES! You’re all prepped after last week to truly step into asking for what you want. And today we dive into part two - what do you actually say? 

As adults we understand that we can never ...

Ep. 177: Confidently Ask For What You Want Part #1: YOU! from 2023-10-20T15:54:24

Giving your partner feedback is NOT easy for most of us. Whether it is asking for something we want more of or letting our partner know we aren’t really a fan of something that they are doing, i...

Ep. 175: Why Wait For a Problem To Make A Change? Caitie's Experience From Satisfactory to Sensational from 2023-09-28T10:00

It is so interesting that we as humans will typically wait for something to be a problem before we make a change. We wait for things to fall a part, or for someone to be dissatisfied or for our ...

Ep. 174: When It's Easier To Be Friends with Your Partner Interview with Jenna from 2023-09-14T10:00

Today we dive even deeper into the titillating world of pleasure with Jenna, a past participant of the Tangled program. Jenna candidly opens up about a feeling many of you might relate to - when...

Ep. 172: Designing Delight: Using A Framework To Make Pleasure EASY from 2023-08-18T10:00

Listen, there is A LOT going on and pleasure gets put on hold MOST of the time. What I find so often with my clients is that the desire for more pleasure in their life is THERE. That is somethin...

Ep. 171: Embracing Self-Love: A Journey to Appreciate Our Bodies w/ Laura Conley from 2023-07-27T10:00

Join us in this powerful conversation with Laura Conley as we delve into the profound journey of learning to love our bodies.

Letting go of shame and self-criticism isn’t for the faint of ...

Ep. 170: The Power of Pleasure Boosts from 2023-07-13T18:46:53

It is easy to fall into all or nothing thinking. My over achiever brain has been guilty of this most of my life. But the problem is all or nothing usually isn’t sustainable and can make it easy ...

EP. 168: Pleasure&The Good Girl Complex from 2023-06-29T14:29:21

We're delving into a topic that resonates deeply with many women - a phenomenon known as the 'good girl' complex or sometimes referred to as the 'good girl syndrome.' This is a concept that has ...

Ep. 167: Anger, Pleasure&The Discomfort of Staying The Same w/ Angela Han from 2023-06-15T10:00

In this episode of the podcast, we dive deep into the realm of sexual pleasure as a crucial element of self-growth. Our guest, Angela, shares her personal journey of transformation and empowerme...

Ep. 166: How To Use Desire To Make Your Experience More Pleasurable from 2023-05-19T10:00

Wanting sex, desiring it, thirsting for it are all important. We want to want it, of course!!

But how does desire actually impact your overall experience of the sex you end up having?

Ep. 165: Why Orgasming Should NOT Be Your Goal from 2023-05-13T10:00

Orgasms! Of course you want them! I want them and I want them ALL for you. But when we focus on orgasms, not only can it create problems, but it will diminish your overall capacity for mind-blow...

Ep. 163: High on Pleasure: Exploring Cannabis'Impact on Female Sexual Experience with Dr. Adie Rae from 2023-04-20T10:00

Puff, puff, pleasure! Ha! In this episode, we speak with Dr. Adie Rae, a leading neuroscientist researcher in the field of cannabis, discussing the effects of cannabis on female sexual pleasure....

Ep. 162: Unlocking Your Sexual Potential With These 5 Visualization Strategies from 2023-04-13T17:48:48

In this episode, we explore how visualization can be used to enhance your sex life and increase your desire. This is a tool that I use regularly in my own personal life and is vital in helping m...

Ep. 160: ADHD, High Sensitivity, The Neurodivergent Brain&SEX from 2023-03-30T10:00

Hello my fellow neurodivergent lovers! This episode is FOR you. Today we talk about how high sensitivity and ADHD tendencies can keep you from loving the sex you are having and dampening your de...

Ep. 159: Caretaking vs. Caring For Your Lover from 2023-03-23T10:00

Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing...

Ep. 157: The Trifecta of Sexual Satisfaction: Three Must-Dos from 2023-02-24T10:00

Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure.

That being said, i...

Ep. 154: Pleasure: A Vital Element To Successful Leadership w/ Emily Feairs from 2023-01-26T10:00

For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former cli...

Ep. 153: How To Handle Mismatched Desire For More Satisfying Sex from 2023-01-19T10:00

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that ...

Ep. 152: Is Mismatched Desire A Problem in Your Relationship? What To Do To Find Out. from 2023-01-12T10:00

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. Mismatched desire is the term used when one person may want more than the other. This is the mos...

Ep. 150: How To Increase"Natural"Desire from 2022-12-15T10:00

I talk to loads of women every single week about increasing our desire - that wanting, that longing. You want to WANT it more and  I get it, it can be jarring going a time in your relationship w...

Ep. 147: Being Tired Is A Reason For More Sex, Not An Excuse To Say No from 2022-11-24T10:00

Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I ge...

Ep. 146: We Are TIred AF from 2022-11-17T10:00

I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t...

Ep. 145: Women.Life.Freedom w/ Mahsa Darabi from 2022-11-10T10:00

Women. Life. Freedom - What does that mean to you? Today we talk to Mahsa Darabi, Iranian immigrant, mother, business owner, inspirational powerhouse and one of my favorite humans in the whole w...

Ep. 143: When You Don't Feel Sexy from 2022-10-27T10:00

Have you ever thought “Ugh I just don’t feel sexy” or something along those lines and it has kept you from getting it on?! Yup, me too. I think we all have before. Not feeling good in our bodies...

Ep. 142: The Importance of Developing Desire&How To Do It from 2022-10-20T10:00

Have you wanted to improve your sex life and just noticed that you honestly don’t have that much desire FOR it? So you get stuck, like how am I actually supposed to make this better if I can’t e...

Ep. 141: Why Desire To Better Your Sex Life Isn't Enough&How To Take Action from 2022-10-13T10:00

Wanting to do something to change your sex life is an AMAZING first step, but often times it isn’t enough to actually get us taking the action to shake things up. Desire is part of the equation,...

Ep. 139: Proactive Pleasure from 2022-09-30T10:00

Have you ever decided you really want to have something in your life or have your life look differently than it does right now, but then wonder why it doesn’t happen the way you imagined? Well t...

Ep. 138: Don't Poo-poo Your Pleasure from 2022-09-22T10:00

Hey have you ever had a great time, like legit good sex, but then afterwards you started second-guess it? You start being judgey about what went down and ruin the celebratory sex you had because...

Ep. 135: Unapologetic Sex from 2022-08-25T09:00

We come to the sheets with so many ’sorries’ as women and it is time we put an end to it, enter Unapologetic Sex.

Have you ever notice there is this subtle, slump of the shoulders and dump...

Ep. 134: 4 Lessons We Can Learn From Distance&How It Increases Desire from 2022-08-18T10:00

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and it is true, it really does - plus it gives a good ole’ boost to that desire for your lover. But perhaps, like me, you don’t always have the opti...

Ep. 132: 4 Ways Nature Improves Your Sensuality from 2022-07-28T07:53:42

Have you ever noticed how nature can immediately help you feel more at ease? Or even for me, I have had experiences where it feels like my pain and discomfort are lifted the moment I immerse mys...

Ep. 131: How Bad Sex Can Be Used To Your Advantage from 2022-07-20T20:22:47

We’ve all had it, bad sex. And it is something that we all try to avoid? But at what cost?!?

Trying to avoid bad sex could actually be holding you back from the mind-blowing sex you ARE wa...

Ep. 130: 5 Habits That Keep You From Receiving&How To Open Up More from 2022-07-14T01:31:14

Do you ever feel closed off from receiving? Like something in you makes it so hard to open up to receiving compliments, help, pleasure or even money? Like somehow you are just repelling all the ...

Ep. 128: 4 Overlooked Reasons Why Motherhood Takes a Toll on Your Sex Life&5 Steps To Break The Cycle Pt. 2 from 2022-06-29T22:40:23

Last week we started a conversation around the extra challenging circumstances that many mothers face and how these can can put a damper on the sex life. And to be honest, I got fired up, becaus...

Ep. 127: 4 Overlooked Reasons Why Motherhood Takes a Toll on Your Sex Life&5 Steps To Break The Cycle from 2022-06-23T22:03:18

As summer is upon on (at least when this episode was recorded) I am reminded often what we take on as mothers. From coaching clients who are mamas to being one myself I find so many similarities...

Ep. 126: Why Improving Your Sex Life is Hard from 2022-06-16T10:00

However, GETTING to the place of working on your sex life is hardly easy. And it isn’t because the process is hard, it is because so many beliefs we have about sex actually make WORKING on our s...

Ep. 124: Questions About Joining Better Sex in 90 Group Coaching Program from 2021-09-23T10:00

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share a LIVE training I did inside the Sey Revamp about alllllll the fears and questions that come up around joining Better Sex in 90 Days. Because...

Ep. 123: 5 Steps to Creating REAL Change In Your Sex Life from 2021-09-16T10:00

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure podcast we break down 5 steps to help you create real change in your sex life. Making REAL change is different than being half assed about it, you are sayin...

Ep. 122: How Small Shifts Can Lead To Orgasmic Returns w/ Elizabeth from 2021-09-09T10:00

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast the brilliant Elizabeth Salazar joins me in conversation about how impactful small shifts of the mind can be and her experience of participating in B...

Ep. 121: Listener Q&A: Arousal, Playfulness&Being Too Tired from 2021-09-02T10:00

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I answer some of the questions I have received from you - the listeners! I chose these questions as I feel they are most relevant to many of you and I h...

Ep. 120: It’s FUN To Work On Your Sex Life–Interview with BS90 Grads Brittany&Lindsay from 2021-08-26T10:00

Working on your sex life can be loads of FUN! Despite the fact that sex and pleasure tend to be is taboo topics, tied to shame and guilt, growing in this area doesn't have to be miserable. Talkin...

Ep. 119: Feeling Alone in Your Sexual Struggles from 2021-08-19T10:00

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of c...

Ep. 118: The Impact of Perfectionism on Your Pleasure from 2021-08-12T10:00

Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say m...

Ep. 117: But What If It Doesn’t Work? Then What? with Leigha May from 2021-08-05T10:00

On this episode of It's My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leig...

Ep. 116: How Often Should You Have Sex? from 2021-07-29T10:00

When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, ...

Ep. 115: Talking To Your Partner About Sex Coaching from 2021-07-22T10:00

Time to talk to your partner about sex coaching or what you've been learning on this podcast but have no idea how to start the conversation? I get it, talking about pleasure and your sex life can f...

Ep. 114: S.O.U.L. Centered Communication w/ Maggie Reyes from 2021-07-15T10:00

What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about toda...

Ep. 113: Diet For Great Sex Interview w/ Christine DeLozier from 2021-07-08T10:00

Veering away from our typical chats about sex and the brain, today's podcast is all about how diet, yes diet can have an impact on our sex lives.  Did you know that there are dietary changes you ca...

Ep. 112: He Always (Or Only) Wants Sex from 2021-07-01T20:24:27

When you have the thought, “All he wants is sex from me, so I should want to have sex with him,” how does that feel in your body? Does that allow you to feel pleasure and lit up and turned on? Abso...

Ep. 111: 5 Tips To Improve Married Sex Life from 2021-06-24T22:03:35

How about a quickie?? In this short episode, I wanted to get right down to it and share 5 really quick things you can do to activate your sex life. Typically we focus on the thoughts and feelings t...

Ep. 110: Is This As Good As It Gets?!–Interview with Whitney from 2021-06-17T10:00

Women are unhappy with their sex lives, this is no new news. But despite that it isn't all that in the bedroom, they are afraid to do this work because of what they may find out about themselves, a...

Ep. 109: At Home In Her Body–Interview with Morgan Renaldo from 2021-06-10T10:00

I know you have heard me talk about the transformations that my clients get, but there is something so powerful about hearing from the clients themselves and having them on to share their stories. ...

Ep. 108: Getting Turned ON from 2021-06-04T10:00

I am surrounded by high achieving women who are taking it to the next level in all areas of their lives. I have clients and listeners who are expanding and growing their businesses, raising childre...

Ep. 107: Sexual Fantasies: Yuck or Yum? from 2021-05-27T05:30:52

Sexual fantasies can be a lot of fun as something to incorporate into your pleasure and maybe even something you share with your partner. However, for many of the women I work with, fantasies bring...

Ep. 106: Your Inner Bitch Needs Love Too from 2021-05-21T10:00

Your inner bitch. We’ve all got one. You know, that voice tells you you aren’t good enough, that makes you doubt yourself, and is so judgemental about your every move. Not only is she saying things...

Ep. 105: Incredible Sex: Planting New Beliefs from 2021-05-13T15:00

 I don’t know about you, but now that it is spring, I have been spending a lot of time in my garden recently. This has really got me thinking about the metaphor that I got from a mentor of mine tha...

Ep. 104: Motherhood&Sex–Overcoming Obstacles To Pleasure from 2021-05-07T02:06:20

Happy Mother’s Day ! I want to celebrate all of the momma’s out there who are investing in their pleasure, and talk about the specific hurdles I see for my client’s who are mother’s and the ability...

Ep. 103: The 411 on Foreplay from 2021-04-29T07:00

I’m going to paint a picture for you. You have spent your day being a high achieving woman, taking care of your business and your kids. It’s the end of the night, and you know that you have sex on ...

Ep. 102: My Story of Becoming a Sex Coach from 2021-04-16T01:49:05

After recently being a guest on some great podcasts and sharing more about my story, I realized that I have never really shared my story with you here. So today, I want to really take you back and ...

Ep. 101: Creating Profit&Pleasure with Master Coach Stacey Boehman from 2021-04-06T12:00

The women I work with and am surrounded by tend to be high achievers. Like many of us they struggle to see how to make time for pleasure when they are already so busy with their careers, families a...

Ep. 100: Meeting Your Match–Interview with The Husband Himself from 2021-04-01T10:00

Hello, pleasure-seekers! I am so excited to have brought you 100 episodes where I share the mindset tools of diving into, defining, and prioritizing your pleasure. In celebration of this milestone,...

Ep. 99: 6 Daily Habits To Spark Desire from 2021-03-18T10:00:42

Most of us in long-term relationships have faced that time in our lives where it feels like all desire for our partners have faded away. Trust me. It’s not you. You’re not broken. This is a natural...

Ep. 98: Sexual Pleasure Advocacy for YOU from 2021-03-04T11:00

Let’s talk about advocacy, what it means to advocate for your own pleasure, and for that of the women in your world! If we take a look at how the landscape of mental health has changed over the pas...

Ep. 97: He Only Wants Sex From Me from 2021-02-25T13:43

I’ve got to be honest with you and tell you that I’m a little bit fired up, and there’s something that we can all do about it. There is something that I hear from women all the time, whether they a...

Ep. 96: Pausing the Autopilot from 2021-02-18T11:00

When was the last time you just stopped and took a second, pause it all? We live such full lives, and our brains are wired to constantly be on the lookout to keep us safe and efficient. And that’s ...

Ep. 95: Your Fixed Mind is Keeping You Unsatisfied from 2021-02-04T11:00:46

If your social media feeds are anything like mine, you’ve definitely noticed a shift in the past few years around mindset and the self-discovery journeys people are taking. However, and you may not...

Ep. 94: What To Do If You Are Ready For Better Sex NOW from 2021-01-30T00:11:30

I want you to know that right now, you can start practicing the skills and going through the processes needed in order to have better sex. Yes! Right now. If you are listening to this podcast, I kn...

Ep. 93: From Blah to BJs, Multi-Orgasms&Juicy Marriages from 2021-01-21T11:00:59

In this episode I speak with 7 women who went through the first cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program. It was such a joy to hear updates from each of them around what the long-term results of...

Ep. 92: BETTER Than Better Sex from 2021-01-14T18:07:01

In today's episode I interview 5 incredible women that have gone through the Better Sex in 90 Days program in the most recent cohort. Their fears, hesitations and of course the sex and results they...

Ep. 91: 5 Tips For Success with Your Sex Goals from 2021-01-07T11:31:47

Let’s have some sex-success! In the previous episode, I shared with you why you should set intentions around the area of your pleasure and sexuality, and what that may look like for the year ahead....

Ep. 90: Setting Sex Goal–Why&How from 2020-12-31T11:00

I love the end of one year and the beginning of the next. The new year gives us a chance to reflect on what worked well and to celebrate those things! So often, we’re only looking ahead at what’s n...

Ep. 89: Let’s Talk Vibrators from 2020-12-24T11:00

Recently, there has been a bit of"buzz"about vibrators in the community, perhaps it’s because we are in the swing of the gift-giving season. I’ve seen a lot of articles out there about sex toys and...

Ep. 88: Drinking&Sex from 2020-12-17T21:59

The holidays are coming up, and even though holiday parties and gatherings might be on hold, I think one thing that goes hand in hand with the holidays is alcohol. And for a lot of women, sex and a...

Ep. 87: Stop Saying NO from 2020-12-10T11:00

No is such an important word, and it is important to use it effectively. We want to use no to create safety and remove the pressure, and we also don’t want no to be our automatic response when sex ...

Ep. 86: The NO We Should Be Saying More from 2020-11-26T11:00

A lot of my clients have this expectation that in long-term, committed relationships, there is less pressure when it comes to sex, but oftentimes, there’s even more pressure, and it can be difficul...

Ep. 85: Sex&Trauma: Moving Through from 2020-11-19T11:00

This episode is part 2 of what we started to talk about last week, sexual trauma. If you haven’t yet, I would encourage you to go and listen to that episode first. We truly can’t expect to have fre...

Ep. 84: Sex&Trauma: The Elephant in the Bedroom from 2020-11-12T11:00

Today we are talking about trauma, and I really encourage you to listen to this one, even though it is more of a serious and heavy topic. It is a really necessary conversation we need to have as wo...

Ep. 83: Self-Pleasure–aka Masturbation Re-Imagined from 2020-11-05T13:00

I think it’s time we dedicate an episode to talking about one of my favorite topics, self-pleasure! When it comes to the thought of self-pleasure, shame tends to be the predominant feeling, and it ...

Ep. 82: Sexual Standards Are Killing Your Pleasure from 2020-10-29T10:00

When I say “mind-blowing sex”, what images come to mind for you? For most women, there’s an immediate image that pops in our heads that we’ve been fed through the media about what incredible sex sh...

Ep. 81: Squeezing Sex into a Busy Life from 2020-10-22T12:00

Today’s topic may seem similar to things we’ve talked about in previous episodes, but I really wanted to simply talk about flipping the narrative about how we look at pleasure in general. So many o...

Ep. 80: Creating Momentum from 2020-10-15T10:00

I talk to a lot of women every week, and one of the main things I hear is the idea that they don’t know where to get started. When you think about taking on your sex life and creating the result of...

Ep. 79: Resisting Sex from 2020-10-08T10:00

I was talking with a woman the other day and she told me she has had an amazing sex life before. She has felt sexually alive in her body. She also told me that for a variety of reasons, she just do...

Ep. 78: Sex Life on a Pedestal from 2020-09-24T10:00

I was talking with a woman the other day and she told me she has had an amazing sex life before. She has felt sexually alive in her body. She also told me that for a variety of reasons, she just do...

Ep. 77: 6 Skills Needed For Better Sex from 2020-09-10T12:00

In this episode, I wanted to share with you the six skills to practice for better sex. This is the foundation for the work I do with my clients, and they are the key to unlocking pleasure, pleasura...

Ep. 76: It’s Not Them, It’s You from 2020-08-28T10:00

A common misconception that the reason we’re not having orgasmic sex is because of our partner, or our children, or something else that is standing in the way. So many women truly feel that if thin...

Ep. 75: Truth Bombs About Who Benefits from 2020-08-20T10:00

I recently wrapped up the first of my group coaching programs, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I want to start this episode by sharing feedback from one of the participants who said that she embarked on...

Ep. 74: Withholding Sex from 2020-08-13T10:20

Have you ever withheld sex as a punishment or have used it as a reward for “good behavior”? I was on a call with a client recently and we were talking about this idea of withholding or rewarding wi...

Ep. 73: The Patriarchy and Your Sex Life from 2020-08-06T10:00

Let’s discuss the patriarchy and how it impacts our ability to experience pleasure in our bodies, starting from a young age, and sticking with us throughout our entire lives. The reason I’m talking...

Ep. 72: Arousal–How To Get Turned ON! from 2020-07-30T10:00

Across the last two episodes, we’ve been discussing motivation and desire when it comes to sex, how they’re different, and how they interact with each other in order for you to have more pleasure. ...

Ep. 71: How To Help Increase Desire from 2020-07-23T10:00

If you’ve been listening to this podcast, you’ll know that your thoughts create your feelings. This episode is a continuation of the conversation we started last week about motivation and desire, a...

Ep. 70: Motivation to HAVE Sex from 2020-07-16T12:00

One of the most common things I hear from women is about how their desire has diminished throughout the course of their long-term, monogamous relationships, and that it may have even stopped altoge...

Ep. 69:“Celebrating the Queen Within”With Brig Johnson from 2020-07-02T10:00

Brig Johnson is a fellow life coaching colleague and friend of mine. She is an amazing representation of a woman who fully celebrates her body, and I wanted to have her on the show today to share a...

Ep. 68: The Audacity to Change from 2020-06-25T10:00

When we start to do this work, it starts with little tweaks that we do to think differently, to have a different perspective, and to unlearn our behaviors. But really, when you look at the bigger p...

Ep. 67: What is Pleasure? from 2020-06-18T10:00

For today’s topic, I wanted to talk about the idea of pleasure. It came to mind when I was working with my group program, Better Sex in 90 Days, and I was recently asked what I meant when I said pl...

Ep. 66: Q&A: Pleasure During Hard Times, Libido and Anxiety w/ O’s from 2020-06-11T10:00

I want to start by discussing the current events that are taking place in response to Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd, and the thousands of other Black lives that have been unjustly...

Ep. 65: 5 Things To Practice For Better Sex from 2020-05-28T10:00

Today I wanted to share five practical things you can practice to have better sex. If you want to get better at anything, it requires practice, and the same thing applies to sex. And it’s important...

Ep. 64: Not Sexual (Enough) from 2020-05-21T10:00

We are going to talk today about this idea of not being sexual, and what that even means. Women often say to me, “I’m just not that sexual”, and it seems like an innocent thing, but I want to unpac...

Ep. 63:“From Rejecting to Relishing in Her Body” an Interview w/ Jamee from 2020-05-07T10:59

In this episode, I share with you another interview with my beloved clients, Jamee. I just love hearing her paint the picture of what it looks like to be a vibrant woman who’s alive in her body. Sh...

Ep. 62: Burning Through Shame from 2020-04-30T10:00

I interviewed one of my clients, Deise, and in this interview, you’re going to hear exactly what doing this work looks like from the inside. In our conversation, she is open and honest about her ex...

Ep. 61: Turn On the ONs&Off the OFFs–Step 3 from 2020-04-25T12:00

We are on part 3 of our series based on a recent masterclass I did called 3 Steps to Mindblowing Sex. These steps are essential for being able to uplevel your sex life, no matter where you’re start...

Ep. 60: Second Step to Mind-Blowing Sex from 2020-04-24T10:00

I know that this episode is coming out earlier than expected, but I wanted to go ahead and record and release all 3 parts of the series all in a row. I know that right now a lot of you are at home,...

Ep. 59: First Step to Mind-Blowing Sex from 2020-04-23T13:21:25

Last week I did a masterclass called “3 Simple Steps to Mindblowing Sex”. The reason I wanted to do this is that there’s a lot of information, and definitely misinformation, out there, and it can b...

Ep. 58: What To Do When You Can’t Have Sex from 2020-04-09T10:00

Despite all of the things happening in the world, there is still pleasure and the ability to listen in and learn how to get more pleasure. Obviously, we are in unique times in the world. So I reall...

Ep. 57: Pandemic, Pleasure&Panic–Oh My! from 2020-03-26T10:00

It is a crazy time in our world right now, and I thought it was really important for me to get on and do this podcast. I think it is so easy for our brains to put sex on the back burner, especially...

Ep. 56: Sex Not For Him: Interview with Lindsay from 2020-03-13T04:00:27

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with me? Have you listened to the podcast and thought about the kind of transformation you could experience if you hired a sex coach? In this episode, ...

Ep. 55: Your Sex Manual from 2020-03-05T11:00

How easy would it be if we could all get a manual that showed us how to have great sex every time? This is essentially what Cosmo magazine has been doing since the start! I get asked my top tips an...

Ep. 54: Better Sex Maximized from 2020-02-27T11:00

Subscribe today: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify | Stitcher | TuneIn | RSSMany of my current and potential clients come to me because something is wrong with their sex life and they aren...

Ep. 53: Being Turned On By Your Partner from 2020-02-20T11:00

When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us...

Ep. 52: UnF*ck Your Brain For Better Sex with Kara Loewentheil from 2020-02-13T11:00

Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last ...

Ep. 51: How To Become Empowered from 2020-02-06T11:00

This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a fee...

Ep. 50: Becoming More Confidant from 2020-01-30T11:00

I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered...

Ep. 49: Great Sex After Heartbreak w/ Heartbreak Coach Claire Byrne from 2020-01-23T11:00

In today’s episode, I talk with Claire Byrne, a heartbreak coach who helps women stop wanting Mr. and Mrs. Wrong back. She’s the host and creator of her podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and is...

Ep. 48: Setting A Sexy Tone from 2020-01-16T11:00

If you think about this time of year, depending on where you live, something you may experience is snow. This is something that I’m thinking about this week as it’s predicted for Portland. Talking ...

Ep. 47: Bringing Sexy Back from 2020-01-09T11:00

One of the most common responses I get to this podcast is the request to break down some of the concepts I cover into their simplest detail so that you can start applying them to your life. In this...

Ep. 46: 2020 Your Sexiest Year Yet from 2020-01-02T11:00

As we kick off a new year, I want us to take some time to reflect and evaluate the last year that we had. It’s important to take a look back, to know what is working and what isn’t. And in the real...

Ep. 45: Meditation WILL Help Your Sex Life from 2019-12-19T11:00

Meditation and mindfulness is the foundation of how I started to become a coach. It’s such a passion of mine and played a huge role in my healing journey. I recently wrapped up a 10-day challenge i...

Ep. 44: Feeling the FEELS from 2019-12-12T11:00

‘Tis the season for a lot of feelings. Emotions, and how we deal with them, affect our capacity to experience pleasure. Feelings and emotions come from what we are thinking, either conscious though...

Ep. 43: Addressing Apologetic Energy in the Bedroom from 2019-12-05T11:00

I often hear women feeling bad about speaking up for what they want. This apologetic energy carries into the bedroom, and it can mean feeling bad for saying no or feeling embarrassed. To be a pleas...

Ep. 42: Gratitude: The Foreplay to Pleasure from 2019-11-28T11:00

It is holiday season and I think that I’m not alone with a say people are feeling the stresses. Today I want to hop on the gratitude train because around Thanksgiving there’s so much talk about gra...

Ep. 41: Enjoying Sex is More Important from 2019-11-21T11:00

Today we’re going to talk about the simple concept of enjoying sex and how to focus on enjoying it. As we learn that there’s more enjoyment in something, we’re much more likely to increase our moti...

Ep. 40: The Competing Selves from 2019-11-07T11:00

I was talking with one of my clients this week about last week’s episode. Desire and drive are different because it isn’t a biological need, but how does that change anything for us? This week I wa...

Ep. 39: Men vs Women Sex Drive from 2019-10-31T10:00

When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that me...

Ep. 38: Clitorial Curiosity from 2019-10-24T10:00

Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you re...

Ep. 37: How to Know What You Want from 2019-10-17T10:00

Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, th...

Ep. 36: Mind-blowing Midlife Sex with Dr. Sonia from 2019-10-09T10:00

In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she go...

Ep. 35: Real Change Through Sex Coaching from 2019-10-03T20:17:28

I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may...

Ep. 34: I Have So Much To Do…No Time For Sex from 2019-09-27T17:07:30

So far in this podcast, I’ve talked a lot about big-picture stuff, like how pleasure can change your brain for the better. And also, how to have the right structure and environment so that you can ...

Ep. 33: How Other People’s Opinions Effect Your Sex Life from 2019-09-19T10:00

In last week’s episode, we began to talk about how self-image affects your sex life. I want to go even further this week and talk about how other people’s opinions can affect your sex life. We have...

Ep. 32: Body Image and Sex from 2019-09-12T10:00

Today we are talking about body image, which is a hang-up for many of us. I think it is safe to say that most women have been insecure about the way they look, and it creates obstacles for us to cr...

Ep. 31: 30 Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex NOW–Pt. 2 from 2019-09-05T10:00

In last week’s episode, episode 30, we started going through all the topics that have been discussed thus far on the podcast. I thought it would be so fun to recap the information that’s been share...

Ep. 30: 30 Ways to Have Mind-Blowing Sex NOW–Pt. 1 from 2019-08-29T10:00

In honor of today being the 30th episode, I want to focus on 30 key takeaways, one from each episode so far. It is so fun to see all of the things we’ve talked about and the topics and information ...

EP. 29: Pelvic Floor Health for Greater Pleasure with Buffy Stinchfield from 2019-08-22T10:00

I am so excited for today’s episode because this is an interview I got to do with Buffy Stinchfield. She is an orthopedic physical therapist, specializing in pelvic and women's health for over nine...

Ep. 28: Believing That Pleasure is Possible from 2019-08-15T10:00

To start things off, I have a huge announcement. My good friend and coaching colleague and I are doing a retreat in Palm Springs in November. This is a pleasure and profit planning retreat. Our foc...

Ep. 27: A New Take On Oral with CEO Melanie Cristol from 2019-08-01T10:00

In this episode, I’m so excited to share with you the conversation I had with Melanie Cristol, founder and CEO of Lorals. In her role as a peer sex educator in college, one product that came up occ...

Ep. 26: Elevating Your (Sex) Life PT 3: Becoming Embodied from 2019-07-25T10:00

This is the last installment of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence...

Ep. 25: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt. 2 Capturing Your Attention from 2019-07-18T10:00

This is part two of our three-part series about how to elevate your sex life. The purpose of this series is to focus on the foundational skills that are going to help with your presence and purpose...

Ep. 24: Elevating Your (Sex) Life Pt 1- Becoming The Observer from 2019-07-11T10:00

There are three main skill sets needed to create the most mind-blowing sex life and honestly life in general. This episode is the first of three part series and is all about how to become an observ...

Ep. 23: Taking Responsibility For Your Sexual Pleasure from 2019-06-27T10:00

When you decide to create a better sex life than the one you are currently experiencing then taking responsibility for your pleasure is essential. But we don't automatically do this, in fact we bla...

Ep. 22: Sex As YOUR Pleasure from 2019-06-20T10:00

One of the most, and I would argue THE most, common thought I see standing in the way of desire is thinking of sex as pleasure for someone other than you. That is not thinking of sex as an act for ...

Ep. 21: Increasing Desire–Never Saying No from 2019-06-13T10:00

The biggest issue that my clients comes to me with is lack of desire. They have achieved so much in their business and life but find that they simply don't"want"it that much. And they want to want ...

Ep. 20: The Sexually Empowered Mama. Interview with Mahsa from 2019-05-30T10:00

Ugh this conversation with the amazing Mahsa Darabi was so much FUN! Mahsa immigrated to the US from Iran when she was 7 years old and despite being the butt of many jokes in her youth for being"we...

Ep 19: A Sexy and Loving Mind from 2019-05-23T10:00

Why what you THINK will literally make or break your sex life. This is an episode that is NOT to be missed. Listen in on my philosophy about mindset and how it is the BIGGEST factor in determining ...

Ep 18: Letting Go of Control from 2019-05-16T10:00

What would happen if you didn't have to keep yourself"in line"? Many people don't consciously think that they are trying to control everything around them, until they take a closer look and realize...

Ep. 17: Priming the Body for Pleasure from 2019-05-09T10:00

There is a lot of talk about pleasure and how it can be BAD. I break down the difference between false and true pleasure and how sex can actually be BOTH, what?!? I know crazy right. And then I wil...

Ep. 16: Decluttering for Pleasure from 2019-05-02T10:00

Ugh why isn't pleasure happening? Well likely the same reason that calm isn't happening in your house, because there is too much shit crowding every single corner. In this episode learn exactly how...

Ep. 15: Interview with Lora DiCarlo from 2019-04-25T10:00

Holy sh*t this interview, with badass boss Lora Haddock CEO and Founder of Lora DiCarlo was so much fun! We talk about how her and her team created the revolutionary hand frees robotic tool made to...

Ep. 14: Interview with Marriage Mentor Maggie Reyes from 2019-04-19T18:11:44

If you are looking for any tips on how to have a brilliant marriage filled with love and pleasure then Maggie has the answers for you! Seriously. She does. Like allllll the answers. She is a marria...

Ep. 13: Why Pleasurable Sex is Important For Your Growth from 2019-04-11T10:00

We make time for what is important to us, even though our time is usually consumed by the things the brain labels as urgent. And the fact of the matter is, for most entrepreneurs and those of us wi...

Ep. 12: Finding Pleasure In The Midst of Pain from 2019-04-04T10:00

It's easy to believe that pleasure is unattainable when we are experiencing physical pain - that perhaps it is not accessible to us. It can become a reason to shut down the possibility of pleasure ...

Ep. 11:“Do Not Disturb”. . . Vacay Sex from 2019-03-28T10:00

Vacay and sex seem to go hand in hand for many couples - and why shouldn't it, it can be oh so good. In this episode we explore what happens to make vacation sex oh so good and what keeps you cummi...

Ep. 10: The Felt Sense with Rachel Sample from 2019-03-21T10:00

In this special inaugural interview episode I am joined by the founder of The Felt Sense, Rachel Sample. We discuss the importance of creating safe and welcoming spaces for conversations to emerge ...

Ep. 9: To Schedule or Not To Schedule from 2019-03-14T10:00

Scheduling sex? Um no thanks! If that is your immediate response you are so not alone. I used to turn my nose all the way up to planning or scheduling anything especially sex. But why might this he...

Ep. 8: Orgasm Focused Sex from 2019-03-07T11:00

In this episode we explore what happens when we have an agenda with sex, and specifically getting to that orgasm. How does having an orgasm focused agenda effect your pleasure when you hit the shee...

Ep. 7: Learning to Be More Sexual from 2019-02-28T13:00

Learning to be more sexual might seem as though it should come easy. I can just flirt more and wear a sexy outfit right? Well, yes and no. In this episode we explore the nature vs nurture convo as ...

Ep 6: Will It Get Better? from 2019-02-21T13:00

There is an underlying subtext that most of us have when we begin to take a closer look at our sex lives . . . will it get better? Is this possible for me? Am I broken/fixable? And that my friends ...

Ep 5: Making A Long Time Lover New Again from 2019-02-14T13:00

Ok so you have been with your lover for a while now and perhaps you are starting to feel like two ships passing in the night or like your connection has lost that passion or maybe just that sex fee...

Ep 4: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Vagina from 2019-02-08T01:16:47

Awaken your body to experience more pleasure! For so many of us, we are living from the next up - in our head's thinking about anything from our businesses to politics to that cute jumper we saw on...

Ep 3: Stress and Sex from 2019-01-30T23:34:04

Stress is prevalent in modern life - whether we like it or not.We are sick and tired of hearing about stress and its negative effects - I get you but truly understanding how stress may keep you awa...

Ep 2: Setting the Intention for Pleasure from 2019-01-30T23:31:28

Sex and pleasure are one of those things we'expect'to just happen to us, like all of the sudden you will be swept off your feet in desire and arousal. Unfortunately with everything going on in your...

Ep 1: Mind-Blowing Sex from 2019-01-28T22:59:08

In this inaugural episode, I lay out the landscape for this path to stimulate your brain (and hopeful your lady parts) in going after a better sex life. Why it is so important at this time in our l...