Cheating: Is it really good for the goose? - a podcast by Laa Hotspot

I have a friend who had been in a long term relationship for umpteen years with the father of her child. She was undoubtedly faithful to him throughout their relationship while he consistently cheated on her. She always knew he was cheating, even though most of the time she didn't speak up about it. He was caught over and over because he was careless in hiding his antics. She would find all kinds of stuff in his pockets (no snooping, she was doing his laundry), and in the car they shared. She would get anonymous phone calls from women who refused to give her their name, but proclaimed to be the woman (women) that her man was currently sleeping with. She forgave him time after time only for him to do it again and again, even to the point of fathering another child outside of their relationship.

Finally she was fed up and felt she deserved some attention from a guy who had been pursuing her for quite some time. She talked to him a couple of times and eventually met him for drinks which led to an "unexpected" roll in the hay (figuratively speaking, of course, since she lives in Chicago). Since she had not planned to have sex with this man, she had also not planned an alibi, and was eventually found out. Her man exploded with anger and disbelief, called her all kinds of names and broke up with her. He packed his bags and left and she didn't see or talk to him for weeks. When she finally did, he explained that the thought of her being with another man was too much for him to handle and that he could not forgive her for what she had done. Although, he would continue to sleep with her over the next few months and I suspect as long as she allows it, he would not be interested in considering a resolve in the relationship. He was gone!

Now is it just me, or is that a double-standard? AND A KICK IN THE ASS!!!!! Why is it that men expect to be forgiven for their indiscretions and yet cannot forgive the woman that has forgiven them countless times for the same act. Since when does 100=1? I got A's in math and I don't remember that one! Is it genetic that a woman be tied to one man while a man is tied to several women? I would just like to know from a male perspective why men feel that it is necessary to sleep with more than one woman at a time and why they can't forgive a woman for doing the same?

Needless to say, I have a broken-hearted friend, who is sincerely sorry for what she has done, and can not fix the broken relationship because of unforgiveness. I have told her to move on, because a relationship that is one-sided will not stand the test of time anyway and if he couldn't forgive her for cheating, then he was probably looking for a way out anywayz! Correct me if I'm wrong.

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