Podcasts by Losing Our Religion

EPISODE 234: HBO's Alabama Snake Film: Bryan Storkel from 2020-12-09T08:00

Bryan Storkel! Bryan is a director and producer known for his featured works on Netflix, HBO, ESPN, Fox, and more. Most recently, Netflix...

What Happened to the Podcast?: Zac Gandara from 2020-12-08T08:00

There hasn’t been a new podcast episode for six months. What happened? Where is the show going now? Will it continue? How is Zac doing? What has Zac been doing? Th...

THINKING THURSDAY: Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable: Luvvie Ajayi: Zac Gandara from 2020-06-11T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 233: I Don’t Have to Be Triggered By That Anymore: Michelle Young from 2020-06-10T07:00

Michelle is an event and experience producer for companies, brands, and events around Coachella, SXSW, The Grammy’s, and everything in b...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Where Does Empathy Come From?: Zac Gandara from 2020-06-09T07:00

I am not the first person to reiterate that we have an empathy crisis in our world. We’ve created walls of privilege to shielded ourselves from the pain and strugg...

THINKING THURSDAY: The First Step to Becoming an Ally to Fighting Racial Injustice: Zac Gandara from 2020-06-04T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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Best Of Episode: White People Homework for Black Lives Matter Allies: Tori Glass from 2020-06-03T07:00

In place of our regularly scheduled episode, due to current events around George Floyd's murder, I want to reintroduce Tori Glass. Tori i...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are Christians Finally Speaking Up About George Floyd and Black Lives Matter: Zac Gandara from 2020-06-02T07:00

Racism has been prominent in America for centuries. But when Colin Kaepernick kneeled at football games most of American Christianity mocked him in anger. Now Geor...

THINKING THURSDAY: The Theory of Cultural Determinism: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-28T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 232: Rebuilding the Foundations of Your Reality: Michelle Young from 2020-05-27T07:00

Michelle is an event and experience producer for companies, brands, and events around Coachella, SXSW, The Grammy’s, and everything in b...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Change When Everyone Else Says You Can’t: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-26T07:00

The Theory of Cultural Determinism states that we as humans are either infinitely malleable and able to change, or we are programmed by our culture and cannot move...

THINKING THURSDAY: The Part of You You've Hidden Away is You: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-21T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 231: Covid-19 Relationship Dynamics: Josh Black and Haven Yates from 2020-05-20T07:00

Josh and Haven from the Play Party Podcast join me to talk about how Covid-19 has changed our relationship dynamics and forced us to deal...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Embrace Change and Make Changes: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-19T07:00

Alan Watts said, “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” We talk about how to do this and how to handle ...

THINKING THURSDAY: Stop Betraying Yourself for Them: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-14T14:01:23

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF!: Jesus Chakra&Porn: Seth Taylor from 2020-05-13T07:00

This episode was recorded in 2015. So much has changed since then, in the world, on this show, in Seth and I both. We had a volatile meet...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: We Don’t Need to Honor Those Who Are Not Honorable: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-12T07:00

Many of us grew up with the obligation to honor parents, authority, family members simply because it was the culturally pressured thing to do. This led to a lot of...

THINKING THURSDAY: Why am I not Progressing Like I Was?: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-07T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 230: Science, Religion, and No Longer Fearing Death: Jeremiah Drouillard from 2020-05-06T15:43:22

Jeremiah is the type of person we need in these times in history. He is a brilliant critical thinker and teacher of critical thought. We...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are They Threatened by My Story?: Zac Gandara from 2020-05-05T17:08:17

If your story threatens the life someone else has built to protect themselves from knowing their own trauma, not only will they rewound us by rejecting our story, ...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Change Your Life: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-30T14:22:41

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 229: Underneath the Pain, I Found Myself: Jeremiah Drouillard from 2020-04-29T07:00

This is one of those episodes that could be listened to over and over again. Jeremiah grew up in the Detroit Michigan area. Born into a C...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: There Is No Such Thing as Being Too Sensitive: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-28T07:00

If someone ignores or shames you for your reactions, that person might be capable of gaslighting you. That’s the person you don’t want around. Also, we take a call...

THINKING THURSDAY: Am I Being Selfish?: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-23T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 228: White People Need Homework: Tori Glass from 2020-04-22T07:00

Tori is an anti-racist educator, writer, content creator, and prolific tweeter. She is teaching the folks Dr. King called, “People of Goo...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Are We Protesting Social Distancing?: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-21T07:00

Have you seen these protests against social distancing? Signs that read, “Social Distancing is Communism.” Is this real life? What are we doing? How can we help on...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Know When You’re Healing: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-16T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF! Life is Weird, Love is Weird, It’s Hard, We Can Change!: Nave from 2020-04-15T07:00

A lesbian with a heart of gold that loves humans and prays?

Nave, raised in a commune, with a traumatic past that she scarcely remembers. Through it all, she continues to find healing and...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Some Days We Need to Pull Back and Cry. Other Days We Need to Press Harder While We Cry: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-14T14:44

Healing isn't easy. Growing, changing, transforming all things we want. Well, some of us want. It's not easy. Some days we just need to pull back and cry, other da...

THINKING THURSDAY: Indoctrinated Parenting Vs. Liberated Parenting: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-09T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 227: Tend to Your Own Garden. How to Take Care of Yourself: Lily VonTrapp from 2020-04-08T07:00

Lily VonTrapp, science by day, boudoir model and burlesque by night.

How to Take Care of Yourself: Continuing our conversat...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why are Religious Services Being Exempt from Quarantine?: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-07T07:00

We chat about a satirical article that has real news behind it. Some southern governors in America have exempted religious services from their shelter-in-place ord...

THINKING THURSDAY: Let’s Talk About Tiger King: Zac Gandara from 2020-04-02T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 226: Adult Dating is Like Going to the Dump: Lily VonTrapp from 2020-04-01T07:00

Lily VonTrapp is back. In the science world by day and the burlesque world by night. From performance art to modeling, to parenthood, and...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Things We May Be Grieving at the Moment: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-31T07:00

If you’re being extra hard on yourself during this period of uncertainty, I hope you show yourself compassion and kindness. Grief is tough because you can’t force ...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Survive Quarantine with a Narcissist or Toxic People: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-26T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 225: Making Friends, Losing Friends, and Drinking A Lot: Amy Miller from 2020-03-25T07:00

Amy Miller is hilariously endearing. Like most guests she has a religious past but with an interesting twist. We chat about love and rela...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Ran Out of Toilet Paper and My Butt is Still Clean: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-24T07:00

Do we really need to be hoarding toilet paper? Are our butts that important or are we having zero-risk bias? While it's true that COVID-19 includes diarrhea amongs...

THINKING THURSDAY: One Way We Can Thrive on the Coronavirus Pandemic Changes: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-19T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 224: Starting Your Entire Live Over: Jonathan Bowles from 2020-03-18T07:00

Jonathan is back and we’re taking a deep dive into our strange meditative experiences and how our Christian pasts have caused anxiety an...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Jim Bakker, Snake Oil, Corona Virus, and Finding Peace: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-17T07:00

This is a crazy time, we’re all feeling it, f*ck the snake oil salespeople that would take advantage of us. Here’s some hilarious meltdown about it all with some e...

THINKING THURSDAY: I Don't Want to Talk About Covid 19 Coronavirus but: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-12T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 223: A Freight Train of Religious Trauma Healing and Encouraging Laughter: Jonathan Bowles from 2020-03-11T07:31:54

Jonathan is a firey, former pastor, who’s been through the wringer and come out like a freight train full of…Just listen, you’ll get it....

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Heal Anger and Grief from Time Lost in Religious and Childhood Trauma: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-10T07:00

“I’m Angry and Grieving the Life I Wasted!”

Fellow Loser and listener Natasha wrote in asking how to get rid of the an...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Combat Enmeshment and Codependency: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-05T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 222: COUGH IT OUT! Expelling Demons and Healing From Trauma: Katherine from 2020-03-04T08:00

We begin this episode down a rabbit hole of my mystic therapy weirdness and then thankfully, pivot into relationships, and then drinking ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: We Can’t Please Everyone, But We Should Listen if They’re Hurt: Zac Gandara from 2020-03-03T08:00

Being you is hard enough, it’s even harder when being you somehow trigger's someone else. We can’t change how people perceive us, but when we hurt them unknowingly...

THINKING THURSDAY: Be Encouraged, You’re Not Alone in Your Healing: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-27T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 221: Self-Awareness, Traumatic Events, and Healing: Katherine from 2020-02-26T08:00

Warning, this episode includes a story of a traumatic fatal accident. It’s not easy healing, let alone healing from something fatal. Kat...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Change is Hard, But So is Not Changing: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-25T08:00

There’s no way around it. Change is hard. Taking ownership of your life and self-care is hard. But life is hard anyways so you might at well engage your dreams and...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Get Through an Emotional Trigger: Dr. Nicole LePera: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-20T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF THE PODCAST! A Daddy and His Little: Josh Black and Haven Yates from 2020-02-20T00:01:25

This episode is a repeat of 153, but it had so many downloads we made it a “Best Of!”

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MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Inward Work of Healing: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-18T21:31:39

The journey inward is hard at first. It’s counterintuitive and certainly countercultural. But after waking up to the realization of the layers of programming other...

THINKING THURSDAY: When Results, Expectations Change Our Mood: Yung Pueblo: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-13T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 220: Grief, Dissociative Disorder, PTSD and Healing it All: Meghann from 2020-02-12T08:00

Grief from the loss of a loved one triggered a deep fear of death. Meghann began coping with marijuana, which triggered a dormant dissoci...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Valentine's Day Narcissism and Obligation: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-11T08:00

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and many of us feel the pressure to feel a certain way or be a certain way. Well, guess what? You don’t! Should our lives be lived out ...

THINKING THURSDAY: When We Heal We Open Ourselves up to Stronger Personal Power: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-06T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 219: THANKS DAD, for Being a Narcissist: Meghann from 2020-02-05T08:00

Meghann, from the bible-land of Indiana, was conceived while her parents were getting a divorce. Growing up fast taught her very quickly...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Empowered Sex Super Bowl!: Zac Gandara from 2020-02-04T08:00

Instead of talking to me about sex on tv, my parents would just shame it, and then yell at me to turn it off and not to watch that! Well, that way of dealing with ...

THINKING THURSDAY: Can We Be Both Angry at Kobe’s Rape Abuse and Have Empathy for His Fans and Family?: Kobe Bryant: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-30T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 218: It Doesn’t Have to Mean Anything: Anthony Carson from 2020-01-29T08:00

Anthony and I talk about manifesting, meditation, visualization, which is very triggering to me from my upbringing. He's benefited from t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: When Our Hero’s Fail: Kobe Bryant: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-28T08:00

I posted a quote from Kobe Bryant this weekend as I heard about his & his daughter's tragic accident with seven others in a helicopter. I’m not a basketball fan an...

THINKING THURSDAY: Things Get Better: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-23T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 217: Let Them Be Who They Are, Let Myself Be Who I am: Anthony Carson from 2020-01-22T08:00

Anthony is an artist and musician, born into a Kansas military family. Left home at 18 and has traveled and experienced a lot of life, in...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Antidotes for Fear: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-21T08:00

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, from his sermon, Antidotes for Fear, stated, “Normal fear protects us; abnormal fear paralyzes us. Normal fear motivates us to improve o...

THINKING THURSDAY: Sweden Bans The Religious Indoctrination Of Children: Zac Gandara: Andrew Hall from 2020-01-16T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 216: Growing, Healing, Parenting Our Kids and Ourselves: Kevin “Kylo Zen” from 2020-01-15T08:00

Kevin is a therapist with a past of religious trauma. He's worked hard over the years on his healing as well as helping the healing of ot...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Sending Nudes and Sexy Pics: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-14T08:00

Fellow loser and listener Laura feels she’s too old for nudes and sexy pics. Is there an age limit? I like him, but I don’t know if I am comfortable with this. Listen

THINKING THURSDAY: Embracing the Things That Scare You: Jonathan Bowles: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-09T20:36:56

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 215: Changing Anxiety Into Curiosity: Kevin "Kylo Zen" from 2020-01-08T08:00

Kevin has recovered from religious trauma after growing up Christian at Mars Hill Church. He’s become a therapist, educated, and motivate...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Repair a Ruptured Relationship: Jonathan Bowles: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-07T08:26:43

We have a guest on the show today! Jonathan Bowles is an entrepreneur with a megachurch pastor past. We take this time to talk about a rupture we had in our relati...

THINKING THURSDAY: Why Do We Kiss? Let’s Make Out!: Xulin Wang: Zac Gandara from 2020-01-02T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 214: Why Can’t We Be Happy All the Time?: Taylor Hughes from 2020-01-01T08:00

Comedian, Magician and beautiful human Taylor Hughes is I the show today. We talk about Chasing Wonder, therapy, and coaching that has c...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Change is NOT hard, Healing is: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-31T08:00

We all grew up being told and believing due to our own experiences that “changing” is hard. Our weight, our addictions, you name it we’ve all tried. Here is a jump...

THINKING THURSDAY: Toxic Positivity: The emotional toll of trying to be happy all the time: Tracey Anne Duncan: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-19T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 213: Deep Talks, Loud Laughs, Spirituality, and Sex: Nave from 2019-12-18T08:00

This episode with Nave is a highly entertaining deep talk. We go through all of the essential topics to us. Spiritual practices we’ve kep...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: No One Get’s to Tell You How to Feel: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-17T08:00

We've all heard someone explain to us how we should feel, according to them. Well, you are the one who gets to say what hurt, what wasn’t good enough, and what you...

THINKING THURSDAY: Ego Love vs. Authentic Love: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-12T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 212: Life is Weird, Love is Weird, It’s Hard, We Can Change!: Nave from 2019-12-11T08:00

Nave, raised in a commune, with a traumatic past that she scarcely remembers. Through it all, she continues to find healing and kick life...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Clues You May Be Dealing with a Narcissist: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-10T08:00

Many of us have encountered narcissists in our lifetimes that used and abused us. Once we learn of their control over us, it’s essential to break the tie and begin...

THINKING THURSDAY: The Monkey Mind and How To Tame it: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-05T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 211: Stories, Their Importance, and Terror to Our Society: Emmett Montgomery from 2019-12-04T08:00

He’s an ex-Mormon, father of an elderly chihuahua, and a stand-up comedian and artist who launched his full-time career after being featu...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Are Your Relationships Serving You Well, Self-Love: Zac Gandara from 2019-12-03T08:00

So often, we cause ourselves needless suffering by expecting someone to give us all of the love we need. Not to mention how much stress it puts on our relationship...

THINKING THURSDAY: 10 Ways to Be a More Grateful Person: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-28T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 210: Processing Grief and Sugar Plum Gary: Emmett Montgomery from 2019-11-27T08:00

Emmett is back! He’s an ex-Mormon, father of an elderly chihuahua, and a stand-up comedian and artist who launched his full-time career a...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Shattered Glass of Belief: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-26T08:00

New listener and Fellow Loser Kelley wants to know if I still believe in the Jesus they told me he was? Maybe it’s all just shattered glass? Perhaps we need a broa...

THINKING THURSDAY: Kanye is Spreading the Gospel of What?: Zac Gandara: from 2019-11-21T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 209: The Magic of Movement, Dance, and Action in Our Lives: Paul Turcott from 2019-11-20T08:00

Paul Turcott has been through a lot as a US Navy Veteran and human being. In years of work, he has indeed found the path of his life that...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How Do You Make Life Changes Without Hurting Others: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-19T08:00

Fellow Loser Phee, sends in a recorded message asking how we go about “coming out” of the religious closet while knowing it may hurt people's feelings? People that...

THINKING THURSDAY: Do We Attract Certain People in Our Lives?: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-14T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 208: Magic&Mysticism: Paul Turcott from 2019-11-13T08:00

Paul Turcott is a veteran of the United States Navy. He used his military education benefits to go to Art School and learn motion picture...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Holidays are Coming, Will You Act Like Nothing is Wrong?: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-12T08:00

The holidays are almost here. Are you ready for all that comes with that? I’m not; I’m not ok going another year acting like everything is ok. How can we engage th...

BONUS EPISODE: Is This All There Is? There Must Be More. A Special Announcement: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-08T08:00

We stay in jobs, relationships, and communities that we're unhappy with simply because we’re scared of what we may lose by moving on. What if you could guarantee t...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Reconnect with a Person From Your Trauma: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-07T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 207: Only Americans Burn in Hell: Jerret Kobek from 2019-11-06T08:00

Jerret Kobek is the author of numerous books, including I Hate the Internet, which has sold over 100,000 copies and translated into over ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Life Cycles and Feeling Lonely: Zac Gandara from 2019-11-05T08:00

We have good times and bad, but sometimes they're awful, and we feel alone. We feel alone in a crowded room. We feel alone in bed with our loved ones. We feel alon...

THINKING THURSDAY: Who Am I? Finding Yourself: Zac Gandara: from 2019-10-31T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 206: The Adventures of Living Life Your Way: Rick Klu from 2019-10-30T07:00

Rick’s lifestyle has put him around some amazing people. Filmmaker Errol Morris, the late Layne Staley from Alice in Chains, James Gandol...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The REAL Seven Deadly Sins: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-29T07:00

If you grew up in Christianity, you were told that blasphemy of the Holy Spirit would damn you for sure, but you better not do these sins either. Here is one perso...

THINKING THURSDAY: My Inner Child?: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-24T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 205: Pocketing Your Ego: Rick Klu from 2019-10-23T07:00

Rick Klu is an artist, actor, filmmaker, comedian, ah hell. Rick does whatever Rick wants. Rick has embraced his mortality and allowed it...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Change and Attachments Suck: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-22T07:00

Change is always hard. By nature, we often want to keep things the way there are because we love the way they are. But what happens when change comes? Does it ofte...

THINKING THURSDAY: What Does it Mean to Be Yourself?: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-17T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF: Art&Being: John Criscitello from 2019-10-16T07:00

John Criscitello is a show favorite. He's full of wonderful stories, a talented and influential artist, and an incredible human being. He...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-15T15:01:21

Many of us have been caught in the web of a narcissistic boss, family member, friend, or partner. It took us too long to recognize the signs, now we have. How can ...

THINKING THURSDAY: Religion is What We Created To Distract Us From Ourselves: Zac Gandara: Chögyam Trungpa from 2019-10-10T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 204: Dungeons, Dragons and Bands: Philosophy&Esoteric Ramblers: Remy Guts from 2019-10-09T07:00

Remy is back! We're talking about things we grew up nerding out about and how it has affected our lives. Topics are ranging from racism, ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Waiting for a Savior or Making It Happen: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-08T07:00

Have you ever felt like there is a glass ceiling hanging over you? Is it stopping you from stepping out towards your dreams? What is that? How do we get rid of it?...

THINKING THURSDAY: Things You Don’t Realize You Are Doing Because You Were Abused By A Narcissist: Zac Gandara: Shahida Arabi from 2019-10-03T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 203: Music, Relationships, Bullies, and Growing Up: Remy Guts from 2019-10-02T07:00

Remy Guts and I sit down to talk about a broad spectrum of life. Being bullied, learning in our relationships, and growing up. We close t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: F*ck It! If it Helps You, Do it!: Zac Gandara from 2019-10-01T07:00

One of the downfalls of losing your religion is you often lose your coping mechanisms that came along with it. Even though they may have been unhealthy, can you re...

THINKING THURSDAY: How 'One Nation' Didn't Become 'Under God' Until The '50s Religious Revival: Zac Gandara: Kevin Kruse from 2019-09-26T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 202: Maximize What You Have Been Given: Knowing Yourself, Being Yourself, Corporate America, and Capitalism: Dexter Tang from 2019-09-25T07:00

Dexter didn’t grow up with “religion,” but he did grow up in an immigrant family thankful for American Capitalism. We continue to talk ab...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: We Can Stop Feeling Bad for Needing Things to Help Us: Zac Gandara from 2019-09-24T07:00

After leaving religion or cult-like ideologies, we often feel bad for needing aspects of them again. We should feel free to go back and pick up the rituals that re...

THINKING THURSDAY: Attachment Theory: Zac Gandara from 2019-09-19T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 201: We're Free! Kind Of: Dexter Tang from 2019-09-18T07:00

Dexter didn’t grow up with “religion,” but he did grow up in an immigrant family thankful for American Capitalism. We talk about this belief, his why, and his life...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Health Insurance and Greed Dilemma: Zac Gandara from 2019-09-17T07:00

A fellow Loser writes in to vent about their Christian boss who gives hugs but doesn’t pay a livable wage or provide healthcare for his employees.

THINKING THURSDAY: So Sick of Teams: Zac Gandara: Joe Rogan: Penn Jillette from 2019-09-12T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 200: Giving Your Life for the Cause. No Thanks!: Liz “Mostly” Gozza from 2019-09-11T07:00

We've been asked to lay down our lives for our jobs, our religions, churches, communities. We're even programmed to believe that if we don't, there is something wr...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Conversion Therapy Founder Comes out as Gay and Leadership Dualism: Zac Gandara from 2019-09-10T07:00

“Conversion therapy is not just a lie, but it’s very harmful,” McKrae Game said. Game is one of several former conversion therapy advocates who have come out as LG...

THINKING THURSDAY: Moral Panic: Zac Gandara: Dr. Patrick Markey: Adam Conover from 2019-09-05T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 199: Searching for Something We Already Have: Liz “Mostly” Gozza from 2019-09-04T07:00

Liz had been searching for community, family since she was a teen coming out of a tough situation at home. When she found Burning Man, she thought she had found it...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Beating Ourselves Up: Zac Gandara from 2019-09-03T07:00

We are often are most harsh critics, and when we perceive that we mess up on something we can get into a cycle of beating ourselves up over it. How do we break thi...

THINKING THURSDAY: How to Work Through Feelings and Emotions: Zac Gandara: Melody Beattie from 2019-08-29T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF: Welcome to the Freak Show. Host Zac Gandara's Story from Four Years Ago. from 2019-08-28T07:00

This episode is a repeat of 000, but it had so many downloads we made it a "Best Of!"

It's hard to believe how far we ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Stoicism and Why am I So Triggered by Facebook: Zac Gandara from 2019-08-27T04:08:34

Ed calls in to share his experience with stoicism and even going back to church with his parents. Tricia writes in and wonders if it’s time to end Facebook after b...

THINKING THURSDAY: Attachment Issues and Blending in with the Crowd: Zac Gandara from 2019-08-22T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF: The Magic of Questioning Everything: Taylor Hughes from 2019-08-21T07:00

This episode is a repeat of 006, but it had so many downloads we made it a "Best Of!"

Taylor Hughes grew up with the c...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Make it Through Transitions: Zac Gandara: Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D. from 2019-08-20T07:00

Transitions in this life are really hard. Death, divorce, job changes, job loss, breakups, moving, how do we make it through these tough changes and overcome the a...

THINKING THURSDAY: Ask Andrew W.K.: My Dad Is a Right-Wing Asshole: Zac Gandara from 2019-08-15T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF: Sold a Lie, Until I Knew Who I Was and Trusted My Intuition: Makhailla Morris from 2019-08-14T07:00

This episode is a repeat of 160, but it had so many downloads we made it a “Best Of!” Mak is an ExMormon, Exvangelical, Empath who has done a lot of work within he...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Can We Disagree Politically and Still Be Friends?: Zac Gandara: DL Hughley from 2019-08-13T07:00

Fellow Loser Lilith posted this clip, "If You So Christian Forgive Me" from DL Hughley discussing his challenge with Christian Conservatives and their allegiance t...

THINKING THURSDAY: Strait, White, Single, Male, Existential Babblings About Capitalism: Zac Gandara from 2019-08-08T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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BEST OF: Did I Waste My Life?: Sarah Quinn from 2019-08-07T07:00

This episode is a repeat of 138, but it had so many downloads we made it a “Best Of!” Sarah Quinn is a beautiful human with a beautiful misfit soul. We connect ami...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Danger in Fake Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing: Zac Gandara: Vanessa Smith Bennett from 2019-08-06T07:00

Many of us grew up in religions, ideologies, or families that didn't allow the embracing of our humanity, our emotions. We were taught to suppress them with positi...

THINKING THURSDAY: Self-Deception and the Work to Heal: Zac Gandara: Duncan Trussell: Joe Rogan from 2019-08-01T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 198: I am the Sex Worker Robin Hood!: Vee Chattie from 2019-07-31T07:00

Vee Chattie is a Sex Worker with an upbringing in the Vineyard Church. This episode we talk about their sex worker career while laughing at the jokes that come fro...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Kissed My Dating Book Goodbye: Joshua Harris: Zac Gandara from 2019-07-30T07:00

Many of you sent in this CNN article about Joshua Harris, the author of the book, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” He is getting divorced and no longer calls himself a C...

THINKING THURSDAY: Capitalism is Destroying the Earth?: Zac Gandara: George Monbiot from 2019-07-25T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 197: Sex Worker by Day, Comedian By Night: Vee Chattie from 2019-07-24T07:00

Vee Chattie grew up in Florida in the Vineyard Church. A neo-charismatic movement within evangelical protestant Christianity. At an early age, they started questio...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Will I Ever Be Accepted? How Can I Cope?: Zac Gandara from 2019-07-23T07:00

Fellow Loser Austin writes in while he’s sitting in church. The Pastor is talking about homosexuality and Austin, shaking, wonders if he’ll ever be accepted. Is he...

THINKING THURSDAY: How Religion Turned American Politics against Science: Zac Gandara: Kurt Andersen from 2019-07-18T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 196: When Empaths Talk, Therapy Happens: Jess McMahon from 2019-07-17T07:00

An empath is described in SciFi as a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual. Strangely, psychologists ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Dealing with Difficult People and Leading Without Being a Dick: Zac Gandara from 2019-07-16T07:00

Fellow Loser Nick, calls in to talk about his new position at work, wondering if it’s possible to work alongside difficult people and lead them while not being dif...

THINKING THURSDAY: Do We Have Control Over Anything?: Zac Gandara from 2019-07-11T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 195: Success as An Empath After Growing Up Around Abuse: Jess McMahon from 2019-07-10T07:00

Jess is an empath, mom, and band manager. She grew up and survived hardcore domestic abuse and came out of it functioning, healthy, happy, and successful. Listen

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Mail Bag: Thoughts and Questions: Zac Gandara from 2019-07-09T07:00

We get emails or messages from fellow Losers every week sharing with us what the show means to them and how it’s helping them. It’s past time that we hear those em...

THINKING THURSDAY: Transitions and Finding Yourself: Zac Gandara: Deepak Chopra: Yung Pueblo from 2019-07-04T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 194: How To Heal Your Suppressed Sexuality: After Vaginismus and Infidelity: Chris and Christina Sellers from 2019-07-03T07:00

Chris and Christina Sellers married at a young age were both raised in American Christianity. Their sexualities oppressed and suppressed by the dogma of religion; ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Fixing Homelessness, Empathy, Helping Others: Zac Gandara: Mark Horvath from 2019-07-02T07:00

A fellow Loser sent me to the new Adam Conover podcast Factually! On it he chats with the founder of Invisible People, Mark Horvath conducts intimate, groundbreaki...

THINKING THURSDAY: 5 Schools of Philosophical Thought We Should Know: Zac Gandara from 2019-06-27T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 193: Recovering Your Sex Life After Religion: Chris and Christina Sellers from 2019-06-26T07:00

Chris and Tina fell in love as teenagers in a Christian Mega Church. As they’ve deconstructed their past faith together, they realized how much the suppression of ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How the Concept of Forgiveness is Used to Gaslight: Zac Gandara: Sophia King from 2019-06-25T07:00

Former show guest Lil...

THINKING THURSDAY: Guilt and Shame in Relationships are a Sign of Toxicity: Zac Gandara: Esther Perel from 2019-06-20T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 192: Labeling, Dabbling, Connecting: Aspects of Our Humanity: Colleen Sullivan and Rebecca Comegys from 2019-06-19T07:00

We're back with our Atheist friends Colleen and Rebecca. We get into a conversation around communal liturgies, having community, the connection of all things, the ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Honoring Minorities: Gay Pride: Straight Pride: Zac Gandara: Michael Schmitt from 2019-06-18T07:00

Show producer, former guest, fellow Loser, and Gay Scientist friend of the podcast, Listen

THINKING THURSDAY: How to find the truth. Stay confused?: Zac Gandara: David R. Hawkins from 2019-06-13T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 191: Label Me an Atheist: Colleen Sullivan and Rebecca Comegys from 2019-06-12T07:00

Colleen and Rebecca grew up together in Fresno, California. Rebecca, attending an evangelical youth group, loved her Catholic friend Colleen and wanted to save her...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Why Gay Pride is Important for Straight People: Zac Gandara from 2019-06-11T07:32:18

With the continual resurgence of a “straight pride month,” I’d like to talk about why gay pride is so crucial to straight people. What we can learn from it and why...

THINKING THURSDAY: What Make’s a Healthy Relationship?: Zac Gandara: Jen Moff: John Criscitello from 2019-06-06T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 190: Cisgendered Heterosexuality Lies to the East: Or Does it?: Howie Echo-Hawk from 2019-06-05T07:00

Howie Echo-Hawk is from rural Alaska, a citizen of the Pawnee Nation, growing up in Alaska with the Athabascan People. Indigenous, Non-binary, and good looking, th...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: What To Do When You Feel Tired, Uninspired, Wanting More?: Zac Gandara from 2019-06-04T07:07:46

Transitions, transformation, change is hard. Far too often when we are struggling, we take on the cliché advice of people, gurus, or teachers that don’t understand...

THINKING THURSDAY: Study Finds that Children Raised Without Religion Show More Empathy and Kindness: Dan Arel: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-30T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 189: On Most Days I’m Soft Atheist, Hard Agnostic: Howie Echo-Hawk from 2019-05-29T21:09:32

Howie Echo-Hawk is from rural Alaska, a citizen of the Pawnee Nation, growing up in Alaska with the Athabascan People. Indigenous, Non-binary, and good looking, th...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: An Ideological Savior Complex is Killing Us: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-28T07:00

An Ideological Savior Complex is killing us. Why do we keep trying to save each other from each other? When can we just let each other live our lives without each ...

THINKING THURSDAY: We Can Have Political Conversations that Help Each Other: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-23T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 188: Meow Meow Daddy: Sex Work is Work: Emma Darling from 2019-05-22T07:00

Emma Darling and I sit down to talk about sex work, how she got into escorting, what her clients desire, relationships, and how spirituality keeps doing things in ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Abortion, It’s Not Binary!: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-21T07:00

The conversation about abortion is ramping up again since Alabama's recent upheaval. Perhaps it's more important than ever that we find a third-place position that...

THINKING THURSDAY: Are We Taken Religious Freedoms to Far?: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-16T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 187: A Sexual Being: Sober, Healing, and Making My Own Way: Emma Darling from 2019-05-15T07:00

Emma is a newly sober, professional escort, and sex worker. Starting as a stripper left her motivated for sobriety but sexually frustrated. We talk about her story...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Healing From Sexual Assault: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-14T07:00

Fellow Loser and listener Brittany writes in to share her meltdown about the sexual assault she was a victim of and how it showed her that she had no voice. How sh...

THINKING THURSDAY: Is Human Inclusivity Possible?: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-09T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 186: How to Have All the Sex You Want, Consensual Sex Without Guilt or Shame: Wicked Daddy and Lily VonTrapp from 2019-05-08T07:00

A fun conversation with the folks from Wicked Daddy Academy about consensual sex and how to move past guilt and shame to experience the sex life you've always want...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Boundaries are a Self-Healing Practice: Zac Gandara: Dr. Nicole LePera from 2019-05-07T07:00

Creating boundaries are one of the fundamental elements of healing ourselves. Dr. Nicole LePera posts some wonderfully helpful thoughts on this subject, and we dis...

THINKING THURSDAY: Is There a Reclaiming of Our Faith?: Zac Gandara from 2019-05-02T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 185: Unconditional Love is Possible: Wicked Daddy and Lily VonTrapp from 2019-05-01T07:00

Raised in a small logging town as Seventh-Day Adventist, then Pentecostal. Brian knew he was gay at a young age. He's had his hardships and traumas by living his t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: What if I Got This All Wrong?: Zac Gandara from 2019-04-30T07:00

Fellow Loser Kara writes in: So my meltdown is about my son. He’s to the age where he’s very curious. My fear is that what if this is all true and I’ve failed my c...

THINKING THURSDAY: Jumping Boats, Compassion, Getting Better: Zac Gandara: Pete Holmes: Nadia Bolz-Weber: Lance Armstrong from 2019-04-25T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 184: Finding Your Own Way: Lily VonTrapp from 2019-04-24T07:00

Burlesque performer, model, science nerd, and comic book conception expert Lily VonTrapp sits down with us over whiskey to talk about how she found and created her...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Real Easter is About Sex (Ishtar): Zac Gandara from 2019-04-23T07:00

Did you know that the real Easter (Ishtar) is about sex and fertility? How do we embrace tough emotions and work them out to heal and communicate them to the peopl...

THINKING THURSDAY: Binary or Non-Binary: Zac Gandara: Nicholas Christakis: Joe Rogan from 2019-04-18T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 183: Get Out There and Find Stuff Out: Lily VonTrapp from 2019-04-17T07:00

Lily VonTrapp is an event coordinator, model, and burlesque performer. When she's not gracing the stage (or camera) with her performances, you can find her working...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Does it Get Better?: Zac Gandara from 2019-04-16T07:00

Fellow Loser @alycioso writes in:

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THINKING THURSDAY: Fear and Thinking for Yourself: Zac Gandara from 2019-04-11T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 182: The Satanic Temple: Lilith Starr from 2019-04-10T07:00

Lilith is the Co-Head of the Satanic Temple Seattle, a Harvard and Stanford graduate, and an author. She joins me again to answer some listener questions about her...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Embracing Your Sexuality: Zac Gandara: Shannon Ashley from 2019-04-09T07:00

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THINKING THURSDAY: Ban on Wearing Religious Symbols: Zac Gandara: Francois Legault from 2019-04-04T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 181: Satan Helped Me Get Sober: Lilith Starr from 2019-04-03T07:00

Lilith Starr is the Co-Head of the Satanic Temple Seattle, a Harvard and Stanford graduate, and an author. Due to prescribed pain medications, she developed an add...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Handle Toxic Community: Zac Gandara from 2019-04-02T06:51:11

Misha writes in and asks: “As a person who still believes in God but not Church. How do you separate yourself from going back to a place that’s toxic because you a...

THINKING THURSDAY: Binary, Good, Bad, Or Whatever: Zac Gandara: David Gaub McCullough from 2019-03-28T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 180: Burn it Down and Reconstruct it Again: Alex Spivey from 2019-03-27T07:00

Church culture is abusive. Often it’s not intentionally abusive but generationally abusive. Alex sits down with us again to talk about his deconstruction, and we e...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Listen to Your Body: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-26T07:00

I’ve lost the self-care rhythms that I know I need to heal myself, hear myself, trust myself, be myself, and grow. How do I pick those up again?

THINKING THURSDAY: The Messiah Complex and Boundaries: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-21T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together:

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EPISODE 179: Coming Out: Home Schooled Embracing Himself!: Alex Spivey from 2019-03-20T07:00

Alex was a homeschooled Christian kid who lived with the knowledge that he might be gay. He shares with us his coming out story as well as the struggles he's had w...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: F*cking Entitlement!: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-19T07:00

If we lose the expectations that create our entitlement, will it ensure our freedom and happiness? Where do we get our sense of entitlement and how do we get rid o...

THINKING THURSDAY: How We May Be Our Biggest Problem: Pride: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-14T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 178: Lots of Spiritual Paths Have Led Me to This Point: Madrona Teresa DeLong from 2019-03-13T07:00

Madrona is an eclectic, Heathen, self-journeying woman who is continually looking for truth which is based in love. She has been Catholic, Mormon, Pagan, and more....

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Mom! Please Stop Sending Me Bibles: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-12T07:00

We have a fellow Loser, “Jenny.” Shares her meltdown about the constant pressure from her family. Can we keep a relationship with these people? How can I grow not ...

THINKING THURSDAY: Why Do I Have Anxiety About Things Going Well?: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-07T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 177: Being Cast on a Reality Show Taught Me a Lot About Myself: Madrona Teresa De Long from 2019-03-06T08:00

Madrona was cast onto the Norwegian reality show Alt For Norge where she found herself at home with her native people. She shares her experience with us.
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MONDAY MELTDOWN: How To Get Out of a Funk: Zac Gandara from 2019-03-05T08:00

We all go through funks. Times where we feel uninspired, frustrated with life. There are lots of people with products out there to take your attention, give you th...

THINKING THURSDAY: How Our Opinions Matter, and Don't, at the Same Time: Zac Gandara from 2019-02-28T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 176: Sounds Like You’re Growing Up? Let’s Get Weird: Bobby Higley from 2019-02-27T08:00

Bobby Higley joins us again and we talk about hallucinogenic experiences and experiencing some weird spiritual stuff and some help for moving through depression an...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How To Live in Peace with Humans: Zac Gandara from 2019-02-26T08:00

Former show guests Little Bear and Tobias got married! Remember them? She is a Christian; he is a Satanist. Their story is a reminder of what humanity could be, op...

THINKING THURSDAY: Stable Social Relationships, Dunbar’s Number: Zac Gandara, Robin Dunbar from 2019-02-21T08:01

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 175: Ass Talk, Mormonism, and Phantom Spirituality: Bobby Higley from 2019-02-20T08:00

Bobby Higley grew up under the suppression of Mormonism. He busted that suppression right in the face and now he’s making people laugh and spreading his comedy see...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How To Set Boundaries, Personal: Zac Gandara, Pixie Lighthorse from 2019-02-19T08:00

When we need to set boundaries, we often begin with the toxic people in our lives, what if we started with us instead? The boundaries we give ourselves.

THINKING THURSDAY: Knowing What You Want. Merger Fantasy.: Zac Gandara from 2019-02-14T11:31:41

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 174: I Can Be That Child Again: Apollo Vidra from 2019-02-13T08:00

After a very public, internet viral excommunication from the Presbyterian Church of America, Apollo engaged the trauma, committed to the healing, and has come out ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Where is the Certainty?: Zac Gandara from 2019-02-12T07:01:07

Remember when things made sense? When there was an anchor to hold on to? When you were certain of things? Life brings so much change. I’m tired of change. Certaint...

THINKING THURSDAY: Can Cynicism Be Healthy? Letting Go: Zac Gandara and George Carlin from 2019-02-08T06:59:20

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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THINKING THURSDAY: Can Cynicism Be Healthy? Letting Go: Zac Gandara and George Carlin from 2019-02-08T06:59:20

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 173: My Viral Story: Apollo Vidra from 2019-02-06T09:31:23

Apollo grew up in Florida, Presbyterian, and gay. When they came out, they were excommunicated, and their story went viral.

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MONDAY MELTDOWN: What If We Could See Life Through Their Eyes?: Zac Gandara from 2019-02-05T08:00

With all the stuff we fight about in this world, politics, abortion. Ever think we could stop trying to control each other's lives through government and legislati...

THINKING THURSDAY: What Is Critical Thinking? Part 3: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-31T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 172: The Live’s and Times Of Mark “Mom” Finley: Mark Mom Finley from 2019-01-30T08:00

Being with Mark Finley is like sitting with the Golden Age of Broadway royalty. He’s met and worked with icons. He’s lived multiple lifetimes. Living through the t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Embracing The Things You Once Feared: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-29T08:00

Learn to embrace the things that you’ve been programmed to fear. We all have things programmed into us by society, religion, family, relatives, even government tha...

THINKING THURSDAY: What Is Critical Thinking? Part 2: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-24T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 171: Never Say No!: Mark “Mom” Finley from 2019-01-23T08:00

I've never been starstruck with a guest before but drinking with Mark Finley was like hosting young Golden Hollywood. He's done so many things, met and worked with...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Dealing with Difficult People, Family: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-22T07:03:58

When we make changes in our live’s, the first to feel hurt by them are our family. The first to feel misunderstood is us. How do we navigate this?

THINKING THURSDAY: What Is Critical Thinking?: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-17T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 170: A Bar Saved My Life. Oh! I'm HIV Positive: Brian Steen from 2019-01-16T08:24:55

Brian is HIV Positive, and he tells his heartfelt and beautiful story to us in the only way he can. With his giant freaking heart of gold. He admonishes the friend...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How I Lost Forty Pounds in Six Months: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-15T07:31:04

Screw the societal norms of weight and body image, you being you isn't directed by society. When I looked in the mirror, I wasn't me. I had been covered up by laye...

THINKING THURSDAY: Rituals, Bogus? Or Beautiful?: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-10T20:55:23

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we can live this life together.

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EPISODE 169: The Guy “Praying My Gay Away” Had a Boner: Brian Steen from 2019-01-09T08:00

Raised in a small logging town as Seventh-Day Adventist, then Pentecostal. Brian knew he was gay at a young age. He's had his hardships and traumas by living his t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How I Made It Through The Toughest Holiday Season I’ve Had: Zac Gandara from 2019-01-08T17:53:17

My first holiday season as a “single” person. It was freaking hard. Here are some things I did, self-care techniques I’ve learned that helped me make it through. Listen

THINKING THURSDAY: Projecting the Shadow Shelf: Carl Jung: David R. Hawkins M.D. Ph.D: Zac Gandara from 2018-12-13T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we can live this life together.

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EPISODE 168: A Christian Marries a Satanist: Little Bear and Tobias from 2018-12-12T03:22:34

Part 3 of 3: Little Bear and Tobias are models of the type of human inclusivity this podcast is all about. Human inclusivity is real and can grow within us all. Li...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How To Respond When You’re Triggered: Zac Gandara from 2018-12-11T08:00

When triggered by old trauma how should we react? Does it get better? Can I live life without being triggered? Is it possible to respond in love and my truth witho...

THINKING THURSDAY: The Satanic Temple Has the Moral High Ground: Zac Gandara from 2018-12-06T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we can live this life together.

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EPISODE 167: Leadership and Abuse are Not the Same Things: Tobias&Little Bear from 2018-12-05T08:00

Part 2 of 3: Little Bear and Tobias are engaged. Little Bear, a heterosexual Christian, Tobias, a pansexual Satanist. Tobias shares his story of a 20-year Naval ca...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Tell Your Stories, Listen to the Stories Told About You: Zac Gandara from 2018-12-04T08:00

Lately, a handful of you have sent me articles about American Mega Churches that are finally coming under scrutiny and lawsuits. In particular, my old employer Chr...

THINKING THURSDAY: What To Do When the Boxes of Our Certainty Shatter?: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-29T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we can live this life together.

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EPISODE 166: Bearded Woman, Christian, Marrying a Satanist, I Am What I Am: Little Bear&Tobias from 2018-11-28T08:00

Part 1 of 3: Little Bear and Tobias are engaged. Little Bear, a Christian and Tobias, a Satanist. Born into a Jewish family Little Bear found peace in Paganism unt...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Engaging The Anxiety That Comes From New Things: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-27T17:41:03

Trying new things, being around new communities, engaging others outside of your comfort zones can be hard. There's anxiety and often fear that comes with learning...

THINKING THURSDAY: Happy Gratefulness Day: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-22T08:01

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 165: Corruption: Religious, Governmental, Educational: Birungi Birungi from 2018-11-21T04:25:20

Birungi tells us the story of what it was like growing up under a corrupt government and his crazy journey to America on what seemed like an impossible scholarship...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: If We're Not Growing, We're Probably Hurting: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-20T19:21:04

On this weeks episode, I share my emotions around current grief, a fantastic book by Yung Pueblo, and some daily self-care goals that help me.

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THINKING THURSDAY: The History of Narcissistic Personality Disorder from 2018-11-15T08:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 164: A Light-Hearted Conversation About Death and Life: Birungi Birungi from 2018-11-14T08:00

Birungi, Ugandan born, Catholic-raised, comedian, shares the story of his mother passing, his Catholic experience, and his current worldview.

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MONDAY MELTDOWN: Are you in an Abusive Relationship with God?: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-13T08:16:05

In this week's episode, we talk about how similar religion and a "relationship with God" are to an abusive relationship, and how leaving it is like a divorce.
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THINKING THURSDAY: How to Trust Yourself: Zac Gandara from 2018-11-08T10:15:18

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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MONDAY MELTDOWN: Trusting Yourself: Zac Gandara: Melody Beattie from 2018-11-07T05:00:49

When we come from a background of narcissism, control, and submitting to authority we've been programmed not to trust ourselves. To need someone's permission or ap...

EPISODE 163: Teaching Moments: Amar from 2018-11-06T22:04:10

Amar is an educator, an activist, and a feminist all while filled with love and empathy. We have some hard conversations around how we can make a difference in our...

THINKING THURSDAY: Some Tips on Setting Boundaries: Brené Brown and Dax Shepard from 2018-11-01T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 162: Ending the Cycles: Amar from 2018-10-31T09:03:13

Amar, Non-Binary, Grey-A-sexual, prefers the pronouns they/them. The clarity with which Amar tells the story of their life in regards to seeing the unhelpful cycle...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Abusers! How to Set Boundaries: Zac Gandara from 2018-10-30T06:17:14

Even in our everyday relationships, there are signs of "abuse." The human race is not as self-aware as we should be. How do we recognize relationship abuse? How do...

THINKING THURSDAY: A New Way to Do Democracy.: Zac Gandara from 2018-10-25T07:00

Thinking Thursday’s are about critically thinking, breaking out of boxes, and discussing new ways we could live this life together.

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EPISODE 161: My Love Called Their Bluff: It’s Weird Being An Empath. We’re All Here: Makhailla Morris from 2018-10-24T07:55:28

Mak and I connect on our common realization of being born "empaths." It's our "truth" that we have found that describes who we are as humans and how we relate to e...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: To Vote, Or Not to Vote?: W.E.B. Du Bois from 2018-10-23T07:00

Do you vote? What are your feelings for those that don't or do? This is a conversation we need to engage. Despite how we think about politics or government these t...

EPISODE 160: Sold a Lie, Until I Knew Who I Was and Trusted My Intuition: Makhailla Morris from 2018-10-17T06:16:52

Mak is an ExMoromon, Exvangelical, ExChristian, Empath who has done a lot of work within herself. She's full of wisdom beyond her years and feels therapeutic in he...

MINI MELTDOWN: We’re back!: Zac Gandara from 2018-10-17T03:03:04

Well, I’m back, which means you’re back, which means we’re back! Thank you for the break! I am feeling much better and getting re-grounded. Here's an update on my ...

UPDATE: Thank You for the Love Over the Break! What's Next?: Zac Gandara from 2018-10-03T06:49:20

If you're a fellow "Loser" with us, then you know that I just took my first break from the podcast since launch in 2015. This episode is an update on how the break...

EPISODE 159: Hitting Pause: Zac Gandara from 2018-09-05T07:00

Some big news for the podcast as we've moved into a new studio! Which has coincided with my marriage transitioning into a new place? Candidness, transparency, and ...

THINKING THURSDAY: The Second Sex: Men and Women are Equal: Simone de Beauvoir from 2018-08-30T07:00

Simone de Beauvoir is well known for her extensive work illuminating the ways in which women had become secondary to men throughout history. Fittingly, she is also...

EPISODE 158: Would You Die For This?: Remy Guts from 2018-08-29T16:25:57

Remy and I get a little drunk and a lot candid. We're trying to process through a lot of the political and societal things we're unsure about. But it's hard to fin...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Explaining Your Change to Family and Friends, Demolition. from 2018-08-28T07:00

On this weeks episode, we continue our chat about how to talk to your family and friends about the life changes you are making. However, in this episode, we realiz...

THINKING THURSDAY: Valuing Life, This Shared Existence: Albert Camus from 2018-08-23T07:24

On this weeks episode, we talk about Albert Camus. His views contributed to the rise of the philosophy known as absurdism. The Absurd can be defined as a metaphysi...

EPISODE 157: Abandoning Judaism: I am not a Stereotype: Remy Guts from 2018-08-22T06:40:41

Remy Guts grew up in a small east coast town in a Catholic and Jewish home. His love for music, punk, and rock and roll set him on a journey of reading, studying, ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Explaining Your Change to Family and Friends from 2018-08-21T07:00

What do you say to family and friends who want to have an intervention with you because you’re not Christian anymore?

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THINKING THURSDAY: Questioning Western Philosophy: Martin Heidegger from 2018-08-16T07:00

On this weeks episode, we talk about Martin Heidegger. Heidegger made a practice of questioning Western Philosophers. Wondering whether or not we even understood w...

EPISODE 156: Free To Explore Your Desires: Crystal Wolf from 2018-08-15T07:00

One of the benefits of losing our religion are the many doors it opens up for us to explore our humanity, our desires, our goals, away from the judgment of a close...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Think for Yourself from 2018-08-14T07:00

On this weeks episode, we chat about tips on how to think for yourself and not be influenced and swayed by the thoughts, agendas, or perspectives of others without...

THINKING THURSDAY: Life is Short, and We Killed God: Friedrich Nietzsche from 2018-08-09T07:00

On this weeks episode, we talk about Friedrich Nietzsche his life, his relationships, his fears, and his philosophy. Bringing critical thought into our modern time...

EPISODE 155: Religion: The Unwanted Surrogate Parent: Crystal Wolf from 2018-08-08T07:00

Crystal has been through so much in her past church life and she’s come out of it better knowing who she is, embracing her sexuality, and growing to understand bei...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Backlash of Self Care: Zac Gandara from 2018-08-07T07:00

On this weeks episode, we hear from fellow Loser Jennifer Pinch and chat about the backlash of self-care. Often when make our desires a priority we get comments li...

THINKING THURSDAY: Critical Thought Comes From Critical Thinkers from 2018-08-02T07:08

On this weeks episode, we introduce you to our intern Braden Sigua and fill you in on the philosophers and thinkers that we’ll be learning about this month. Friedr...

EPISODE 154: Multi-Faceted Love: Borderline Personality Disorder: Josh Black and Haven Yates from 2018-08-01T07:00

Haven has Borderline Personality Disorder. Josh is her BDSM Daddy. Together, with a new way of looking at communication they’ve formed a new polyamorous relationsh...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Feeling Happy and Healthy from 2018-07-31T07:00

On this weeks episode, we chat about finding the disciplines and practices that can make you a happier and healthier you.

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EPISODE 153: A Daddy and His Little: Josh Black and Haven Yates from 2018-07-25T07:00

Josh Black and Haven Yates are completely enamored with one another in more ways than one. Clowns, BDSM, Polyamory, and Haven’s Borderline Personality Disorder mak...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Setting Boundaries from 2018-07-24T07:00

Setting boundaries can be less about avoiding toxic people and more about knowing what you want and going after it. On this weeks episode, we chat about setting bo...

EPISODE 152: This Cult is Racist!: Gloria Jackson Nefertiti from 2018-07-18T08:22:32

Have you ever been the outsider in a community? The other? After joining a cult as the only African American member, Gloria quickly began to realize that there wer...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Dealing with Toxic Family and People from 2018-07-17T07:43:50

On this weeks episode, we chat about dealing with toxic people and standing up for your process and peace. Thanks Christina!

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EPISODE 151: Racism, Integration, and the Cult: Gloria Jackson Nefertiti from 2018-07-11T07:00

Born in 1956 in Gulf Port Mississippi Gloria was in one of the first racial integrated schools, witnessed the race wars, grew up in the Church of God in Christ, an...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Sorting Through the Rubble of Religion Versus Spirituality from 2018-07-10T07:00

On this weeks episode, we chat about the idea of sorting through the rubble of our past lives and picking up the parts that were helpful to us. We also discuss Emp...

EPISODE 150: Life is Fluid: In order to evolve we have to change: Ravyn Celestino from 2018-07-04T07:00

Ravyn was turned off by Catholicism as a child, and as he’s grown he’s grasped onto many different views over time, and each of them keeps changing. To evolve we s...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Chained To Certainty: Are we confused because we have chosen to wander? from 2018-07-03T07:00

On this weeks episode, we hear from Ethel, a Christian woman who may think we may have fallen into confusion and that doesn't happen to her.

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EPISODE 149: Leaving Paradise: Ravyn Celestino from 2018-06-27T07:00

Raven grew up in Hawaii, dancing near Waikiki Beach as a b-boy with his friends. His fondness for performing and hunger for the arts has him living as an aspiring ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Our Politics Have Devolved Into Whose Team is the Most Winning from 2018-06-26T07:00

On this weeks episode, we receive a text message political conversation between a conservative, veteran, father and a liberal, gay, son. The outcome? Maybe it's ti...

EPISODE 148: Learn Your Lessons and Make Your Art!: Shane Browning from 2018-06-20T07:00

Shane and I are a lot drunker and enjoying each others company in this episode. He tells us about growing up an anti-racist skinhead, and then we turn the corner a...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: What Happens If You Stop Believing in God? from 2018-06-19T07:00

On this weeks episode, we talk about an article that many of you have sent in. It’s about our brains and what happens to them if stop believing in God.
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EPISODE 147: Escaping the Hare Krishna: Shane Browning from 2018-06-13T07:00

Shane, a hardcore, straight edge kid, recruited by a rock idol to join the Hare Krishna. Traveling with a guru and joining the Krishna Temple. Shane, Texas-raised ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Suicide, Depression, Anxiety and Anthony Bourdain from 2018-06-12T07:00

On this weeks episode, we talk about suicide, anxiety, depression and losing Anthony Bourdain. He meant a lot to this podcast. We also hear from fellow Loser Simon...

EPISODE 146: Your Thing. My Thing. WHO CARES!: Krystal Strifert from 2018-06-06T07:24:36

We get into the deep. Beginning with small talk about our Hispanic heritage and quickly dive into the discord we see in the world, our frustrations with it, and wh...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: My Shadow Self Scares Me: Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung from 2018-06-05T07:00

On this weeks episode, I open up about the hauntings of my shadow self and trying to find the balance between embracing it and managing it with positivity and my b...

EPISODE 145: It Get’s Easier: Church Cliques, Bad Brows, and Narcolepsy: Krystal Strifert from 2018-05-30T07:00

Krystal, frustrated with the social constructs of Christianity, the church, and institutionalized religion, walk away finding what she needed elsewhere. She's a ma...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Confession Tuesday! Fellow Loser Shares His Beliefs from 2018-05-29T07:00

On this weeks episode, Fellow Loser Mike Knicely shares with us what he believes after he's stopped believing and I share anonymous confessions from our monthly sh...

EPISODE 144: Find Your Own Way: Josh Black, a.k.a. “Ronald McFondle” from 2018-05-23T07:00

Josh Black left his home in North Dakota when he was a teenager, in hunt of a bigger, better life. He found it and learned a lot along the way. This is the story o...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: What Do We Believe, When We Stop Believing? from 2018-05-22T07:00

On this weeks episode, we’re chatting about: What Do We Believe, When We Stop Believing? Far to often it's assumed that when you walk away from religion and ideolo...

EPISODE 143: Legalize Your Passion: “Ronald McFondle,” a.k.a. Josh Black from 2018-05-16T07:00

What would you do if the government came to shut down your art? Your Passion? Josh Black, a.k.a. "Ronald McFondle and his 321 Battle Wrestling partners had to face...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Leaving Religion isn’t Giving Up, it’s Waking Up, It's Growing Up. from 2018-05-15T07:00

On this weeks episode. We discuss how leaving religion isn’t giving up, it’s waking up, it's growing up. If we stop believing in Religion. What do we then believe?...

EPISODE 142: How the Hell are We Still Married?: Zac and Jen Gandara from 2018-05-09T07:00

Jen and I have been through a lot. We're often wondering. How in the hell are we still married? Together for 18 years and not cheated on each other? Left each othe...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: How to Move Through the Grief of Feeling Like We Wasted Our Lives on Religion. from 2018-05-08T06:50:04

On this weeks episode, we receive a confession, and it leads us to a discussion of how to grow through the grief of feeling like we wasted our lives with religion....

EPISODE 141: My Dad, The Stepdad, The Streets, and TV: Jeff Leonard from 2018-05-02T07:00

The story of what shaped Jeff Leonard. Divorced Parents, a single dad, the contemptible stepfather, the streets, and bootlegged television. Here is one of those ep...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Anonymous Confessions: Do We Deserve Our Lives? from 2018-05-01T07:00

On this weeks episode, I share anonymous confessions from our monthly live show, The CounterCulture Society Variety Hour. Anonymous confessions are everyone's favo...

EPISODE 140: The Angriest, Most Hateful (Inclusive) Dude I’ve Ever Met: Jeff Leonard from 2018-04-25T06:43:10

Three Months after I left the church I met Jeff Leonard. That encounter has led to a long-term friendship, family relationships, and a lot of anger and hate. Meet ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Learning to Sit in the Tough Emotions and Moments from 2018-04-24T06:41:47

On this weeks episode, I share the awakening of my newly found coping technique, avoidance. I make a public commitment to do better for myself, our guests, and the...

EPISODE 139: Sex Positivity and Critical Thought: Sarah Quinn from 2018-04-18T08:59:31

Sarah is so fantastic I've invited her back again. In this installment, we find her most passionate critic of religion, purity culture and the lack of critical tho...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Leaving Religion Helped Me Love Unconditionally from 2018-04-17T07:00

On this weeks episode, we hear a story from fellow Loser David McPhail. He’s had a traumatic life and a trauma-filled religious experience. He feels as though Reli...

EPISODE 138: Did I Waste My Life?: Sarah Quinn from 2018-04-11T07:18:34

Sarah Quinn is a beautiful human with a beautiful misfit soul. We connect amidst the impression that we wasted our lives on our addiction, religion, Christianity i...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Understanding Evangelical's Love for Donald Trump from 2018-04-10T07:00

On this weeks episode, we chat about understanding why Evangelicals, particularly white evangelicals love Donald Trump despite his “Life of Sin.”

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EPISODE 137: I Left Church Because of Donald Trump: Jay Middleton from 2018-04-04T07:24:39

Jay’s story is as big as he and his heart are. We travel through his missionary trip to Africa, Donald Trump’s America, and dealing with the grief of lost loved on...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Take Your Power Back and Heal from 2018-04-03T07:00

On this weeks episode, we chat about uncontrollable anger, dealing with benevolent dictators, and working through trauma triggers.
"Your wound is probably no...

EPISODE 136: Anxiety and Depression are Demons?: Jay Middleton from 2018-03-28T07:00

Jay has suffered from anxiety and depression since he was 13. Bullied as a chubby kid, but grew up to be a metalcore playing, indie wrestling, stand-up comedian wi...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: The Rapture and Living With Fear from 2018-03-27T07:00

On this weeks episode, a fellow Loser and show producer Susan Ardrey sends us her story of growing up being afraid of the rapture, being killed for not believing, ...

EPISODE 135: How to be a Content Creator: Oleg Zharsky from 2018-03-21T06:52:19

A little glimpse behind the scenes of your favorite content creators can shed light on what they go through to put out the content you enjoy. Oleg is a freelance p...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Other People’s Agendas and Christian Eternity from 2018-03-20T07:00

On this weeks episode, a new listener, Susan, and others are finding out about the show from their therapists and life coaches. As well as my internal battle with ...

EPISODE 134: Immigrants on Psychedelics: Oleg Zharsky from 2018-03-14T06:52:03

Oleg is a Ukrainian immigrant. Moving to America when he was just ten years old. Living in fear of deportation until granted asylum, legally issued a green card, t...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Fear, Safety, Gun Control, March for Our Lives. from 2018-03-13T07:00

On this weeks episode, we hear a meltdown from Megan regarding her real fear of violence as she takes part in the March for Our Lives movement to demand that our l...

EPISODE 133: Food Brings Us Together: Emily Koren and Daniel Timothy Desrosiers from 2018-03-07T08:00

This episode is a bit different than our usual story episodes. There is no doubt food brings us together, and Emily and Daniel love food!

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MONDAY MELTDOWN: How To Deal With My Past from 2018-03-06T08:00

On this weeks episode, we talk about how to deal with our pasts, boundaries, and self-care. As well as a meltdown from Christy and some solidarity from Nicole and ...

EPISODE 132: Beautiful Gender Fluid, Non-Binary, Pansexual Human Relationships: Rowan Alaka'ilenani from 2018-02-28T08:00

Could you imagine waking up every day with a profound discomfort in your own body? I’m not talking about putting on some weight, or not liking how your clothes fit...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Expired Relationships and Depression from 2018-02-27T08:00

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EPISODE 131: Resist Injustice, Profiling, and Racism: Rowan Alaka'ilenani from 2018-02-21T08:00

Rowan is a former Christian with a tender heart in opposition to injustice. She has a hot and fiery, triggered disposition with a will to fight back and she does. ...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Non-Binary Spirituality from 2018-02-20T05:07:10

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EPISODE 130: How To Start a Cult and Other Stories: Emmett Montgomery from 2018-02-14T08:00

We’re all storytellers, and we capture so much of our life experiences in stories.

Comedian Emmett Montgomery & I jour...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Do We Need Labels? from 2018-02-13T08:00

Monday Meltdown is Our Weekly Chat with Each Other.

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EPISODE 129: How Do You Transition Out of Absolute Truth?: Emmett Montgomery from 2018-02-07T08:00

A weird and awesome ride with Emmett Montgomery! He’s an ex-Mormon, stand up comedian, storyteller, who's worked with brilliants like Maria Bamford, Dave Chappelle...

MONDAY MELTDOWN: Do we ever get over it? from 2018-02-06T06:22:11

Monday Meltdown is Our Weekly Chat with Each Other.

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EPISODE 128: She’s On Fire! Growing Up Pentecostal: Gabrielle Janae from 2018-01-31T08:00

As two Empaths, Gabby and I discuss our Pentecostal experiences, speaking in tongues, healing services and heart-wrenching disappointment of loved ones not being h...

EPISODE 127: Demons are Out to Get You! No! No, They’re Not!: Gabrielle Janae from 2018-01-24T08:00

Gabby grew up as the daughter of a founding pastor and musician in the Vinyard Church Movement. She intimately shares the trauma of being taught while growing up, "Demons are out to get you if y...

EPISODE 126: No Good, No Evil, Just Us: Matthew Camardo from 2018-01-17T00:11:06

Matthew hasn’t had a television in years; he doesn’t own a microwave, he isn't on social media. He’s a commercial fisherman spending months at sea with no connecti...

EPISODE 125: I was an Atheist, now I’m God!: Matthew Camardo from 2018-01-10T08:18:31

Matthew grew up Southern Baptist, became an unconscious atheist as a child. He has grown into to his own form of spirituality, willfully accepting of others and he...

EPISODE 124: It’s How You Define It: Yulin from 2018-01-03T04:34:04

Yulin has the experience of being an American immigrant. Growing up in Taiwan and leaving everything behind to follow her dream in The United States. An experience not many of us have but can un...

BONUS: You Spoke, We Listened: New Weekly Stuff 2018: Zac Gandara from 2017-12-27T09:24:26

We’ve had a poll circulating for a while now, and you’ve been answering it letting us know what you would like to have added to our already stellar weekly line up. What that means is, we will co...

EPISODE 123: The Annual Holiday Card Episode 2017: Zac and Jen Gandara from 2017-12-20T05:50:22

Every year, Jen joins me on our Annual Holiday Card Episode! This year we get personal as always. What do we believe these days? Will we have kids? What’s going on in Therapy? How is the show fu...

EPISODE 122: Family Pressure and Relationships: Yulin from 2017-12-13T09:11:03

Yulin is a Taiwanese immigrant currently residing in Seattle, working as a model and retail fashion consultant. She's living with different standards and definitions than she grew up with and is...

EPISODE 121: Finding Community After Religion: Brendan Gladney from 2017-12-06T08:00

When you leave anything that you’ve given yourself to for any significant amount of time, it’s difficult. When you realize that all your relationships and community surrounded that thing, it’s e...

EPISODE 120: Marriage After Religion and Bruce Lee's Finger: Brendan Gladney from 2017-11-29T10:50:33

Brendan is a producer of the show, who knew me before church hierarchy and becoming a pastor. We’ve reconnected through the solidarity of leaving religion and have found common ground in working...

EPISODE 119: Giving Yourself Permission: Jesse Mercury from 2017-11-22T08:00

So often in life, we’re waiting for some cosmic gatekeeper to give us permission to be who we want to be, do what we want to do. In this continuation episode with Jesse Mercury, we join Jesse’s ...

EPISODE 118: Be What You Want to Be, Do What You Want to Do: Jesse Mercury from 2017-11-15T05:10:33

What if life was a SciFi story? You come from the year 3000, born into a Jewish family in San Diego California, stricken with Lyme Disease, you have some religious run-ins who banish you to hell...

EPISODE 117: My Two Moms, Lesbian Cop Moms: Laci Jane from 2017-11-08T04:20:40

This episode, Laci tells us what it was like when her mom, left her dad, for another woman, having two Christmases, and two moms.

Laci has been through it all.  Growing up in Oklahoma, go...

EPISODE 116: Free to Be Me: Laci Jane from 2017-11-01T02:50:40

From the Bible Belt to the West Coast and Back.

Laci has been through it all.  Growing up in Oklahoma, going through the divorce of her parents, her mom coming out, ...

EPISODE 115: If They Can Control Your Genitals: Liam Bonnie from 2017-10-25T03:19:46

This episode is a roller coaster ride of interesting topics.  Liam grew up Mormon. Is there a difference between love and tolerance? Can you...

EPISODE 114: Success is Relative, a Lot of Things Are: Liam Bonnie from 2017-10-18T07:00

Success is Relative. Society gives us ideas of success and what it means for us, and it's complete crap. Hopefully, instead of "success," we're all in pursuit of our dreams.

Liam Bonnie i...

EPISODE 113: Digging Into My Psyche: Q and A: Holly Theriot from 2017-10-11T06:03:14

Guests often come to the show with some questions to ask of me. Blame it on the drinking if you'd like but we rarely get to them because their personal stories are so engaging. Holly Theriot, ho...

EPISODE 112: Masturbation and Fake News: Pete GeeKay from 2017-10-04T01:41:44

On this episode, Pete teaches me about Tinder™, treatment of the elderly, sex education, masturbation, tantric sex, male DNA found in women's brains, Donald Trump and fake news. Ugh, and a smidg...

EPISODE 111: The Hangover Episode: Pete GeeKay from 2017-09-27T07:46:19

This episode features Pete GeeKay, a stand-up comedian, full of life and liquor. We manage to run through a hilarious amount of existential topics including life after death, sperm banks, spanki...

EPISODE 110: Psychedelic Omnism Sailing: Faith, Drugs, and Music: Brodie from 2017-09-19T23:36:19

We dive deep into Brodie’s story of exploring spirituality through meditation, mysticism, Krishna, Native American Sweat Lodge, Bahá'í, Christianity, even marijuana and psychedelic mushrooms. Ma...

EPISODE 109: The Music Speaks, Do We Listen?: Brodie from 2017-09-13T07:18:17

Brodie Peterson is a hip hop artist, writer, and observer of music.

"My outer experience was going to college, my education, but music guided my inner experience."

"I spent thousan...

EPISODE 108: Off The Grid of Guilt, Coming Out, Tongues, and Sex: Holly Theriot from 2017-09-06T04:11:58

At this point, Holly and I have been drinking for hours. So this conversation is full of tantalizing personal stories and experiences from our lives. Hollie's story of coming out, losing virgini...

EPISODE 107: I Just Want to Be Human With Humans: Holly Theriot from 2017-08-30T09:31:43

Holly is a fantastic woman. She’s one of those people that lights up a room. As soon as we met, there was an instant connection, and I’m excited for you to hear her story. From a home grown CBN,...

EPISODE 106: Is Love a Choice? Capitalism? Socialism?: Blake Willis from 2017-08-23T01:31:21

Growing up in a conservative, Christian home, along side a profoundly mentally and physically disabled brother has given him a perspective on empathy, government, and capitalism that’s refreshin...

SPECIAL: To Punch Or Not To Punch a Nazi?: Chad Mummert from 2017-08-16T09:43:07

Due to the tragic and violent events taking place in Charlottesville Virginia this past weekend. We are taking a break from our regularly scheduled programming to address a conversation around h...

EPISODE 105: Transitions, A Quest for Normality, and Deleting Facebook: Blake Willis from 2017-08-09T04:24:30

Blake knew me when I was a Pastor, in fact, I was his Pastor. We spend time talking about growing up together, how our lives have changed, leaving Facebook, and more.

After listening to e...

EPISODE 104: The Cure for Pain is in the Pain: Seth Alan Taylor from 2017-08-02T08:44:54

Seth and are I are back after watching the Tony Robbins documentary "I am not You Guru." In a continuation of our conversation where Seth challenged us to not only to own our shit but heal our s...

EPISODE 103: I’m Not Your Guru. Please Don’t Make Me Your Guru: Seth Taylor from 2017-07-26T00:40:54

“The trap of high experiences, however they occur, is that you become attached to their memory and so you try to recreate them. These memories compel you to try to reproduce the high."
-Ra...

EPISODE 102: Divine Access: Believe What You Want to Believe: Steve Prince and John Wunder from 2017-07-19T06:40:46

When I got an email from a high school friend, I was excited to reconnect. Little did I know that it would introduce me to a movie that I would really enjoy, connect with on multiple levels, lau...

EPISODE 101: Loser Stories: Crack Head Hoagies and Belief in God: T.O. Knowles from 2017-07-14T04:33:28

T.O. fulfills his promise and shares with us the Crack Head Hoagie story that reminded him how things often just come together. We also dive into a conversation about music and why many musician...

EPISODE 100: This Podcast is About People and Their Stories from 2017-07-05T11:26:06

There is no doubt from the start of Losing Our Religion that this entire podcast is about people and their stories. It seems that as the podcast grows and goes on, it has become less and less ab...

EPISODE 099: Loser Stories: Weird Relationships: T.O. Knowles from 2017-06-28T07:31:46

I’m sure we all have weird relationship stories, but when you're raised in religion, they seem weirder and ridiculously over complicated. T.O. Knowles shares with us about growing up in Teen Man...

EPISODE 098: There are Guides Along the Way: Josiah Ecker from 2017-06-20T02:48:05

As I have traversed down the road of Losing Religion, my former life as an American Christian Pastor has haunted me. How I used to consider myself a teacher for others, someone who knew the way....

EPISODE 097: Going From What I Don't Believe, To What I Do: Josiah Ecker from 2017-06-14T05:16:40

Josiah is a missionary kid with a psychology degree that's deconstructing his faith.  His perspective is refreshing, educated, and compassionate.  Change and transforma...

EPISODE 096: Jesus Wasn’t Very Christian: Kyle Reynolds from 2017-06-07T05:06:36

We leave the evangelical conversation for a few minutes as we roll through the gambit of the sickness of relationships, marriage, therapy, counseling, wonder, questioni...

EPISODE 095: Leaving? Evangelicalism: Kyle Reynolds from 2017-05-31T20:36:32

If you’re wondering if I have any Christian friends left, yes I do. Kyle is one of them. You may remember Kyle from the REJECTED EPISODE. You know, the episode that was too far for the "Christia...

EPISODE 094: The Contentment Rollercoaster Cycle: Victor Huckabee from 2017-05-24T08:11:01

Victor and I drank and talked like junior high girls into the wee hours of the Nashville night. Growing up in the glow o...

EPISODE 093: The Pope Will Travel: Art, Life, and Living: Victor Huckabee from 2017-05-17T00:21:08

Victor Huckabee is an artist, illustrator, and designer from Nashville, Tn. He's also a husband and a dad. He's lived in...

EPISODE 092: Being Triggered!: Chad Weber from 2017-05-10T06:50:14

There’s no doubt that I was triggered in a lot of ways while recording this episode with Chad.  Goal setting, ambition, competition, self-help, growth strategies, and gurus are all things that t...

EPISODE 091: Power, Ego, and Conscience: Chad Weber from 2017-05-03T04:49:26

Here is an interesting episode for ya.  Chad Weber knew me when I was a pastor; he was a parishioner at the particular brand of mega-monster we both attended.  But until now, we're never really ...

EPISODE 090: Love: A Journey Away From Absolutes and Expectations: Christian Grindstaff from 2017-04-25T19:46:40

In this continuation of our conversation with Christian about, Where Love Comes From. We begin where we left off, and quickly move into conversing about our parents, raising kids, and the meat o...

EPISODE 089: Where Does Love Come From?: Christian Grindstaff from 2017-04-19T04:50:21

Christian is a natural critical thinker, learner, who candidly and clearly shares his journey of growing to understan...

EPISODE 088: How to Solve the Social Media Problem in Our Relationships: Daniel O’Connell from 2017-04-12T07:57:52

Join the steamy ride of our continued conversation from the last episode. A hilarious whirlwind through feminism, the women’s march, climate change, World War 3, the optimist viewpoint of Donald...

EPISODE 087: Revolution Vs. Rebellion. Questioning Our Sexuality? Comedy! Growing Empathy: Daniel O’Connell from 2017-04-05T07:11:39

This is a roller coaster of comedic conversation through topics of Revolution? Rebellion? Questioning Sexuality? Are We Gay? Maybe I’m Gay? Butt Stuff? Cocaine rules? Engaging oppression? Growin...

EPISODE 086: Millennial Mashup: Part 2: Braden Sigua and Frances Divinagracia from 2017-03-29T04:40:38

This episode is about millennials with millennials.  We talk about FAKE NEWS, the Millennial generation, technology, the NSA, finding truth, Bernie Sanders, the future of the world, America, and...

EPISODE 085: Millennial Mashup: Part 1: Braden Sigua from 2017-03-22T02:42:13

IT'S TIME FOR US TO START LISTENING TO MILLENNIALS!

I (Zac) am a GenXer, and I'm tired of people shitting on Millennials. When I was young, they called us "lazy idealists," today I heard ...

REJECTED CONTENT: Evangelicalism Vs. Jesus: Kyle Reynolds Interviews Zac Gandara from 2017-03-15T05:52:29

A few weeks ago I was invited to speak at a Christian Outreach Ministry and be a guest on their podcast. The topic they asked me to address? Evangelicalism Vs Jesus. I was nervous, but excited t...

EPISODE 084: Weed Eater, Beer Drinker, Trans, Prog Metal Head, Christian?: Rejyna Douglass-Whitman from 2017-03-08T03:54

In this episode, we dive into Rejyna’s Christianity.  As well as her Trans* journey.  One of the beautiful things about this episode is how fluid the conversation goes from storytelling to quest...

EPISODE 083: The Secret to Not Aging: Rejyna Douglass-Whitman from 2017-03-01T09:19:31

In just a few seconds into this conversation, you're going to understand why I hit it off and fell in love with Rejyna.  Her infectious voice, joyful embrace, solid wisdom, and experience, espec...

EPISODE 082: Part 2: A Man Loves a Woman, an Atheist Marries a Christian: Dave and Grace Kwon from 2017-02-22T03:41:38

We jump right back into it with Grace continuing her story of what it was like letting her Christian friends know about her relationship with Dave, the baby eating Atheist.

What’s so beau...

EPISODE 081: A Man Loves a Woman, an Atheist Marries a Christian: Dave and Grace Kwon from 2017-02-15T06:00:51

A man loves a woman, so an Atheist marries a Christian. Grace (a Christian) meets Dave (an Atheist), they work through their differences, become friends, fall in love, and get married. Is that a...

EPISODE 080: The Non-Work Work of Moving Through Challenges and Reaching Goals: Patrick Ianni from 2017-02-07T22:59:10

Patrick and I engage in a revealing and transparent conversation about our personal struggles of growth in our lives, our marriages, and how we’re engaging the non-work work of embracing our emo...

EPISODE 079: Pain, Trauma, We All Have It, Own It: Patrick Ianni from 2017-02-01T09:13:55

This is a timely episode as we move through the political changes of a “Trump America.” How do we deal with the pain, suffering, and triggering others cause us? That we cause ourselves? Can we r...

EPISODE 078: Loser Stories: Anger is OK: Ron Smith from 2017-01-25T00:15:25

This continuation of Ron's story reminds us that it is ok to be angry.  In fact, it's downright therapeutic.  Anger is an emotion that helps us relieve stress, gives us the motivation to...