Make the Most of Uncertain Times – MBFLP 258 - a podcast by Hal Young and Melanie Young

"How do I encourage my young men to look forward to the future?"

In part 1, we talked about the reality of uncertainty as a part of every time and every life, though the immediate upheaval is a very real and very disruptive event!  (see episode 257, "Making Sense of Uncertain Times")



But how can we provide some practical help to young men whose plans for college, work, nnd relationships have been upended and put on indefinite hold? What can we do as parents to help them make the most of these uncertain times?



Remember the pandemic hits everybody differently. People in stable relationships with established careers may be better able to adjust to the disruptions than young men who are just at the starting point.



Young single adults may be feeling real isolation and loneliness. They may appreciate more contact with family, in real life or online. Reach out! And plan to listen - they may be missing people they can talk through their concerns with.

A new socialization problem

Encourage them to be inventive about socializing online. We have young adult friends who have organized online prayer meetings, held conference calls for fellowship, connected through video gaming platforms, and more. Some video conferencing programs offer service for small groups for free, and messaging apps like Skype and Signal can be used for several people in a call.



If your teens don't have a social media account, now may be the time to train them how to use it wisely. Social media has its pitfalls, for certain, but it is possible to use it for God-honoring purposes. Your teens will be expected to have some social media savvy when they leave your home; it's widely used in business and academia as well as peer-to-peer. What better time to coach your teens than right now, while they're still at home and open to guidance?



For kids too young for social media accounts, we may want to use ours to facilitate fellowship for them and their friends.  It's worth remembering that our online friendships may be part of our own coping mechanisms; our younger kids may not have that connection for themselves. Maybe you can set up a game meeting, a virtual tea party, or some other way for the elementary and middle school kids to interact ... with supervision.



Realize that all our social skills may be rusty - your young people may need encouragement and coaching when they can resume meeting people in person.



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What can you do with this time?

Parents and people in a more stable situation may be able to provide perspective. If we aren't in the throes of the uncertainty faced by our sons, we may be able to think of alternatives and options that they haven't considered yet. We also may be able to point out that life doesn't end at 25 or 30 -- in fact, the most productive and effective part of their lives and careers is very likely years in the future still. A few months delay at 18 or 23 is not going to stop the world for them!



Some practical ideas to consider: Start a business. Start something online. Begin writing the book you wanted to write. Read up a subject and take a CLEP exam for college credit. None of this has to be permanent or long term, but any of them will encourage you to be active, keep thinking, and avoid just giving up!



Give them hope! Your sons need encouragement and they need the benefit of your experience and your ideas. Remind them this is a just a passing time in their lives and it will soon be past. Rather than despairing,

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