Episode 123 - Virtual Rulebooks - a podcast by Rebecca Clark

Shouldn't everyone (all the people) use common sense?

Shouldn't they be...

• picking up the dirty socks
• treating their employees better
• starting the dishwasher
• refrain from cheating
• be better team players
• love you in the way you want to be loved
• wear their mask
• giving you a raise for all your hard work

?

You think it's a no brainer. But, they aren't doing what YOU think they should be doing. And, that brings up all the feelings...at least for you.

This episode is an edited version of a live Facebook session I had a view months ago on the topic of all of these "shoulds" that we have for all the people in our lives.

The shoulds are massive rulebooks.

And, there is a slight problem.

These rulebooks are VIRTUAL!

Existing only in our minds. But, everyone around us should be following them...according to us.

Without realizing it, we are involved in daily thought processes that keep us very busy monitoring the hallways of the world and acting as thought police (a nod to George Orwell) to those closest to us.

It can bring on all kinds of emotions, especially when we expect others to make us feel better...which they can't ever do. And, it can be a way that we subtly attempt to manipulate and control others.

It's worth noticing these patterns in ourselves, if only to take charge of our own emotional well-being.

This is a topic I want to keep exploring with you.

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