117. Letting Go of the Invisible Labor with Kambria Evans - a podcast by Amber Hawley

As a busy entrepreneur, your workday goes well beyond the hours you work in your business. Unfortunately, you don’t always get “credit” (or paid!) for the extra work you’re doing?

What do I mean? I mean the invisible labor that society expects us (women) to do. I’m talking about organizing carpools and birthday parties, writing thank you notes, volunteering at school, planning vacations, making sure the house is taken care of, and the list goes on. Even when we’re not the ones doing the work, we’re often still responsible for making sure it gets done.

This invisible labor is contributing to burnout and overwhelm as well as the massive guilt so many of us feel when we can’t (or simply don’t) get it all done.

This week on the podcast, I’m talking with fellow therapist and mom Kambria Evans about the cost of invisible labor on our businesses and, especially, our relationships.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed and resentful around the responsibilities you feel compelled to say yes to, it’s time to stop. Listen in, because you are not alone!

About Kambria Evans:

Kambria Evans is The Teaching & Learning EMDR Consultant, and Founder of Zero Disturbance. She guides therapists in creating high-value offerings that embrace both client & clinician. Since 2018, she’s mentored therapists all over the world in designing clinical intensive programs and passive income systems.

Before going into private practice, Kambria was the Director of Education & Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School. With two Masters Degrees in Psychology and Education, and extensive training in EMDR and relational complex trauma, Kambria is on a mission to share all that she knows with therapists, so that they may share their own voices with the world.

Links and Resources:

• Zero Disturbance

Time Stamps:

• [3:19] - Therapists need support too
• [4:50] - Business owners: we have to take care of ourselves because we’re the secret sauce in our businesses
• [6:28] - Invisible labor defined
• [7:45] - It’s like a grief cycle
• [10:05] - Acceptance and outsourcing; you can’t do it all
• [11:48] - Whoever it’s important to is the one who needs to own it
• [12:53] - Just because you’re good at it doesn’t mean you like to do it
• [14:44] - You have no idea how much invisible labor that’s coming at you
• [16:24] - Using humor
• [17:50] - Letting go of responsibility - and the guilt
• [21:22] - Preserving emotional experiences for family
• [24:26] - Creating space for ourselves
• [29:09] - An “opportunity” may not be right for you right now
• [32:11] - You can do experiments with invisible labor and let the data inform your next choices
• [33:36] - Not everything is a priority
• [34:34] - Keep talking about it; it’s not going away
• [36:29] - When Dad is the primary caretaker
• [37:11] - How others handle this is different for everyone
• [39:30] - Acknowledge you’re responsible for things that exhaust you
• [40:27] - Make hard decisions about letting things go
• [42:29] - Teaching your kids that there’s a limit to what you can do
• [43:27] - It’s not about changing your personality, it’s about having boundaries

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