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New York Magazine's Sex Lives

A weekly podcast about sex, lust, dating, technology, coupling, porn, fetish and freakiness. But mostly sex. With New York Magazine’s sex columnist Maureen O’Connor.

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Where (and When) Is It OK to Jerk Off In Public? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Also, why are we so much more comfortable with public sex than public masturbation? We ask these and many other sex-etiquette questions to etiquette guru Mallory Ortberg (aka Dear Prudence...

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THE INCREDIBLE RISE OF INCEST PORN from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Last year, over the holidays, the number of searches for incest-themed videos on Pornhub and its competitors spiked dramatically, hundreds of percent in a single month, and only continued ...

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A Sex Ed Curriculum Built Out of Porn from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week we talk with Tristan Taormino about just what kids learn from PornHub—and how some sexually-explicit (and maybe even hot) video could make its way into American classrooms. Plus:...

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Your Penis is Disgusting from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, a deep-dive into dirty voicemails (and return to racism in sexual preference, among other long-time obsessions). With Allison P. Davis and Maureen O'Connor.

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Finally Paying Attention to Vagina Size from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, a long talk with Kevin Allison, host of the expansive sex-heavy storytelling podcast Risk, about kink, the retreating horizon of outre sex, and whether having a thing for Asian ...

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Everything You Ever Wanted to Ask An Online Dating Ghostwriter from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we interview, at length, Lisa Hoehn—actually a genuine and full-time professional Tinder Cyrano. We also discuss a new paper arguing that women like being sexually objectified, ...

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Guys We F*****d from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week we interview podcast superstars Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson about their project to interview all the men they’ve slept with, High Fidelity style. We also talk about th...

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What Drives Someone to Castration? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we talk to Alexa Tsoulis-Reay, who's spent the last year interviewing men who've castrated themselves to "cure" their "sex addiction," women in relationships with their fathers,...

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Orgasmic Childbirth Is A Thing from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

And we go super deep on it, talking at length with Debra Pascali-Bonaro, who made a whole documentary about it (you may never forget these clips). We also speak about orgasms that make you...

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Whatever Happened to the 69? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

It's the closest you can get to an orgy with just two people-- but has 69ing gone out of style? Also up for discussion: the joys of lazy sex, the terrors of vagina-spanking, controversial ...

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How to Make Me Come Again from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

We’re joined by “Sylvia,” the anonymous creator of the blog “How to Make Me Come,” which is now a podcast as well. She tells us about the impetus to create an online compendium of real wom...

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How to Be Popular at an Orgy from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

You know that thing when you go to a party and nobody talks to you? The same can happen at orgies. Special guest Anna Pulley explains the agony of awkward orgy-going and how to troubleshoo...

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All Pickup Artists Are Now Male Feminists from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Now that Neil Strauss and Tucker Max have found feminism (and grappled with sex addiction) is the age of pickup artistry dead? Or are gender, sex, and love dead -- as a new generation of a...

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HOT DOG VS. EGGPLANT VS. WHALE-BONE DILDO from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Will anything ever unseat the eggplant emoji as the ideal cartoon dong? And with all the R&D money at emoji HQ, can’t they do better than a taco for vagina? We also talk about Nantucket’s ...

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Why Rihanna Gets Depressed After Sex from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we talk about the odd phenomenon of men trying to re-stretch their circumcised foreskins, whether post-sex blues says more about the fucking or more about you (it’s you!) and ab...

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Why Do I Still Fantasize About My First Boyfriend? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, Maureen offers what she swears is the absolute last and final word on dating apps (her mantra: the tech doesn’t matter, just the people). We also discuss a new study about the w...

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Peak Sexual Satisfaction from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Is dating a lopsided numbers game in which women are screwed? We talk to Jon Birger, author of Dateonomics (who says, yes, totally). We also debate when in a relationship the sex is best (...

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Is Absolutely Everyone Sexually Frustrated? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

In this episode, we go long with Sex Myth author Rachel Hills, who argues that sex-soaked culture has given us sexual standards that literally no one’s sex life matches up with. With Maure...

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What Can’t the Pullout Method Do? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Is monogamy over? A new Time magazine story says it should be, and we wonder just how much influence Dan Savage has had on our sex lives. We also discuss the (reliable) glories of the pull...

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The Cultural History of the Bionic Dong from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

When is the best season for boning? We debate the essay “Towards a Theory of Fall Fuckability" by Jamie Lauren Keiles. Also: a new study says the ideal dick for women is only barely bigger...

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How to Make Me Come from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we go long on sexual stamina—how long is too long, how long is just right, and when did we start taking an egg-timer to bed? The answer: very recently! You know, about the time ...

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ALL RELATIONSHIPS LEAD TO ANAL from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

How did Ashley Madison build a billion-dollar casual-sex site without actually arranging any actual casual sex? We discuss the company’s insane fembot army and the pathetic gullibility of ...

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The World’s Most Beautiful Vagina from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

A new “study” of sext-selfies makes the case that prettiness comes in all shapes and sizes (so long as the selfie, and the vagina, are well-lit). But how much can we trust this study, and ...

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Why, When, and How Straight Men Have Sex With Each Other from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Maybe they’re not actually straight? We discuss a new book on the historyof clandestine same-sex coupling and a new dating-app-alarmism classic,“Tinder and the Dating Apocalypse.” With Mau...

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The Secret History of the Glory Hole from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

 It includes one with multiple holes in a single wall! Merely one of many amazing things we learn from talking to the man behind the new Museum of Sex history of hard-core and we go long o...

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What Makes a Penis Beautiful? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

A team of scientists have determined universal penis beauty standards-- but do we agree with their findings? A heated debate about grooming, size, and male locker room culture follows. We ...

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Could You Date in the Nude? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: First you fall in love, then you get naked-- but what if it was the other way around? Maureen learns how nudists flirt, and Allison interviews the stars of her favorite TV show,...

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FMK: Carrie Bradshaw, Candace Bushnell, Philip Roth from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: How embarrassing is it to still love Sex and the City? Maureen interviews Candace Bushnell about her new book, which is sort of about her wanting to murder Sarah Jessica Parker ...

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Test-Driving the Vibrator of the Future from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: The world’s first hand’s-free couple’s vibrator is here, and maybe not surprisingly it is also a monster crowd funding hit. We talk to Alexandra Fine, one of the two women behin...

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The Politics of Where You Come from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Is there a "chivalrous" way to manage semen? Does it say something different when you ask a guy to come on your back versus on your tits? And why, for the love of God, do we hav...

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New York Magazine’s Sex Lives: All Hail Female Viagra from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: What does it mean to make a boner pill for women? We'll solve the problem of the low libido, right after we figure out whether it’s actually a problem or not (with help from Mel...

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Is Tinder Giving You Herpes? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Is there anything better than sex while high? We debate, and also talk about a new, specially-cultivated strain of aphrodisiac marijuana, called, um, Sexxpot. Also: could dating...

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We Put Dr. Ruth on the Couch from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: We talk to legendary, ageless, pint-sized sex guru (and onetime Holocaust survivor turned adorable German grandma) Dr. Ruth Westheimer—and marvel at how quickly someone famous f...

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Introducing the Threesome Matchmaker from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: We spend the whole episode interview the threesome matchmakers behind Threeway Dating Club—specialists in setting up no-strings three-way sex without any of the social obstacles...

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Best Picture Edition from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: We debate just how unfair it is to describe Chocolate City as a black reboot of Magic Mike when it is, in fact, the best film of all time. Also: Are we having a balls moment? A ...

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Ep. 07: Does Guernica Turn You On? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: We trade stories about sex in museums and other public places and talk to New York’s art critic Jerry Saltz about why art is hot and which museums have lockable bathrooms. Also,...

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Ep. 06: Hitting the Dick Gym from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Quantified kegels—where Silicon Valley self-improvement meets training for sex at your desk. A new study shows women actually masturbate to music; we offer some playlists. And w...

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Ep. 05: Eggplant Emoji Edition from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Why are you in couples therapy before you've even boned? Has the internet ever given us something as perfect as the eggplant emoji? And: have you heard of air sex? It's air guit...

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Ep. 04: How Loud Is Too Loud? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Just how loud is too loud for fucking (and who actually complains about their neighbors’ noise levels)? Should we applaud the rise of a new generation of sex-bot sex dolls, or j...

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Ep. 03: Dick2Bomb Edition from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: The world’s first successful penis transplant raises all kinds of questions. What kind of dick are we talking about transplanting? What it’s like to walk around with someone els...

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Ep. 01: Into the Sex Box from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Do happy couples masturbate? (Wait, when?) And what kind of a crazy freak show is We's sex-therapy hour Sex Box? With Alison Davis, Maureen O'Connor, and David Wallace-Wells. Mo...

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Ep. 02: The Art of the Thirst Trap from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: Building a perfect man piece by piece—introducing the Voltron Theory of Dating. Plus, casual encounters via Instagram (and how Amber Rose found her calling). With Alison Davis, ...

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Coming soon...Sex Lives from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

A weekly podcast about sex, lust, dating, technology, coupling, porn, fetish and freakiness. But mostly sex. With New York Magazine’s sex columnist Maureen O’Connor, The Cut’s Allison Davi...

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Sex in the Summer of '65 from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Linda Rosenkrantz was an art-world 'it' girl when, in the summer of 1965, she started carrying a reel-to-reel tape recorder everywhere she went, recording conversations at the beach, durin...

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The Day Her Baby Called Her Boyfriend 'Dad' from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Alyssa Shelasky returns with an update on life as a mom who used an anonymous sperm donor to have a baby: One year later, she isn't single, anymore. Alyssa is house-hunting with the boyfri...

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Diary of a Sex Coach from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

As a teenager in Louisiana, Myisha Battle learned about sex from textbooks censored with Sharpie markers. Today, she's a San Francisco-based sex coach dedicated to helping other women orga...

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Accio Jizzrag! All About Harry Potter Erotica from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

In the horny imaginations of Harry Potter super-fans, Professor Snape is a BDSM sex god and Hermione Granger is a squirter. So say Potterotica hosts Allie LeFevere, Lyndsay Rush, and Danny...

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Dan Savage's Sex Life from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

He's been telling Americans how to fuck for 26 years, and he's still not done. Dan Savage reflects on his unlikely career and tells stories from his own sex life— including losing his virg...

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All the Feels About Gay Weddings from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Gay marriage has moved to the mainstream, but has wedding culture followed? What parts of wedding culture are worth keeping, anyway? Sex Lives assembles a panel of gay writers to discuss t...

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Why Dating Is So Damn Awkward from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Does dating suck because you’re awkward, or are you awkward because it’s a date? Ty Tashiro, psychologist and author of Awkward: The Science of Why We’re Socially Awkward and Why That’s Aw...

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How to Be Married from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Jo Piazza was working as a travel editor when she met a man, married him— and spent the next year traveling to dozens of countries together, asking how marriage works in each place. She vi...

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The Dangers of a Too-Clean Dick from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

A listener calls Sex Lives with a harrowing story about accidentally destroying her husband's penis with Lysol, and Maureen enlists Ask a Clean Person columnist Jolie Kerr to help her sort...

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Botox for Buttholes from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Yes, it's a thing. Brian J. Moylan reports from the wild world of cosmetic procedures for male sex organs, starting with the time he cryonically froze his penis. (The shrinkage was intense...

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Is it OK to Take an Uber While Giving Birth? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

E.J. Dickson, who last visited Sex Lives while pregnant, returns with her two-month-old baby in tow. She recounts taking an Uber to the hospital while her water was breaking, and feeling h...

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The Dating Tour of America from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Where is the best place in America to fall in love? When Cosmopolitan asked Jada Yuan to find out, she flew to six wildly different locales (and her hometown of New York) to look for love ...

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HERPES!!! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Ella Dawson has herpes, and talking about it is sort of her thing. She writes herpes-themed erotica; she gave a TED talk about herpes; she celebrates the day she was diagnosed with herpes;...

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She Quit Law School to Write Erotica from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Rachel Kramer-Bussel was a law student in the late '90s when an erotic fantasy about Monica Lewinsky changed her life— by inspiring her to drop everything and pursue a career in erotic lit...

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Virtual Reality Porn Is Killing Boners from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Host Maureen O'Connor tries VR porn for the first time and is horrified. She's not the only one— the technical demands of the new medium has male performers struggling to stay turned on, t...

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The Facebook of Sex from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Cindy Gallop dates younger men— which is how she discovered that younger men seem to have received their sexual educations from porn. To balance the myths of hardcore porn with reality, sh...

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The Invention of Safe Sex from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

“Every relationship can be based on love, even if it lasts only fifteen minutes.” That’s one of the beliefs that drove a movement to reinvent America’s understanding of sex, civic responsi...

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How to Flirt on Snapchat (and Every Other App) from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

"You can't play it cool on Snapchat," says Priscilla Pine. And that's why it's the best for flirting. The pseudonymous technology-first sex writer came on Sex Lives to explain the differen...

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What It's Like to Be 'a Little Bit Pregnant' from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

"I think it's a myth that you can't be a little bit pregnant because I've been a little bit pregnant for about six years," says Andrea Syrtash, founder of the Pregnantish.com. She explains...

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Whither the Lesbian? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

L is the first letter of LGBTQ, but often remains misrepresented and on the fringe. This week, two generations of queer women discuss the state of the modern lesbian. Slate staff writer Ch...

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A Sloppy Night with Mike Pence from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

To honor the presidential inauguration, Sex Lives assembles a panel of politically thoughtful (and sexually perverse) minds to reflect on the sexual absurdity of Donald Trump and modern po...

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Cannibals and Quicksand from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

For decades, conventional and scientific wisdom held that pornography warped our understanding of sex, attraction, and love. But a new generation of scientists are unable to replicate thos...

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Red State, Blue State, Gay Twins from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Scott and Julie Rising have been leading parallel lives since birth. The fraternal twins were raised in Alaska. Julie was the tomboy star of her hockey team; Scott preferred musical theate...

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Father, Son, and a Holy Reckoning from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

"Coming out to my dad as an atheist was 100 times harder than coming out as gay." Before Christopher Trout became Engadget's executive editor and Computer Love columnist— before his career...

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The Most Wonderful Episode of the Year from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Every week, Sex Lives invites listeners to respond with their stories. This week, we listen— and call you back. Meet a left-handed man with a right-handed sex life, a mother whose natural ...

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Sex and the Single 42-Year-Old Woman from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

At 40, Glynnis MacNicol realized she didn't want to be a mother, and didn't need a partner. And then she discovered newly exhilarating sexual and romantic freedom: Suddenly, she was travel...

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Hardcore Porn and the Pregnant Woman from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

In the seventh month of her pregnancy, E.J. Dickson found herself with the libido of a teenage boy— including a desire to watch hardcore pornography, the kind of terrifying gang-bangs she'...

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How Do You Know It's Real? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sometimes, love is a private feeling between two people. Other times, it's a declaration from the rooftops, a wedding announcement, or a public kiss. For the last three years Andrea Silenz...

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Gay Son of a Preacher Man, and His Gender-Bending Family from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Who's coming to Thanksgiving? For Christopher Trout, the list includes his father, a preacher from rural Texas; his boyfriend, a cop he met on Grindr; his baby mama, a ciswoman to whom he ...

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Take a Look at My Vag from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Mona Chalabi first saw her vulva while peering into a hand mirror at a labiaplasty surgeon's office; thanks to filmmaker Mae Ryan—the other half of The Guardian’s “Vagina Dispatches” docs-...

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Testing a Male Sex Doll from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Could you tell a $10,000 fake penis from the real thing? Karley Sciortino couldn't. For Vice show "Slutever," Sciortino fucked a male sex doll; rented a cuddle-boyfriend in Japan; observed...

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You Don't Know Dick from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

In the flesh, they're the same as every other dick. But in the cultural imagination, black penises are fetishized, feared, commodified, obsessed over, and separated from the humanity of th...

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The Cold, Denying Bitch's Guide to Texting from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Former Sex Lives co-host Allison P. Davis— now a staff writer at The Ringer— returns to deliver a master class on manipulating love interests by text message. Specifically, the exquisite c...

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The Grossest Things We Ate For Love from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Sex Lives visits downtown restaurant New York Sushi Ko to snack on sea urchin and discuss the perils of— and secret tricks for— dining with dates. And could we ever date a vegan? Grub Stre...

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Eddie Huang's Sex Life from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Eddie Huang wrote a memoir about getting engaged-- but by the time Double Cup Love came out, he was single again. On a break from filming his TV show Huang's World, Eddie invited Sex Lives...

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Nobody Needs a Magnum Condom from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Ok, maybe a few guys, but most of you are lying to yourselves, says Dr. Emily Morse. After eleven years of educating listeners on her Sex With Emily podcast, Morse discusses her own sexual...

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Can Masturbation Be a Radical Act? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Dr. Chris Donaghue was working as a therapist, and he was bored. So he switched to sex therapy-- and discovered his own queer identity. Since then he's hosted two reality shows, written tw...

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Is Sex Better When You Own a House? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

New York sex writer Alana Massey felt a little crazy when she bought a house without a family to put in it— and 100 miles away from her boyfriend. During a visit back to the city, she rumi...

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Are the French Better at Sex? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

French GQ sex columnist Maia Mazaurette was Paris's answer to Carrie Bradshaw - until she came to New York, joined Tinder, and fell in love with an American. Two years later, she compares ...

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Can I Sleep with My BFF's Ex? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

What happens when friendship and flirtation conflict? Two pairs of female BFFs discuss their overlapping love lives; what to do when you catch someone else's partner cheating; and how to s...

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How Celebrities Fake Love from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Gossip columnist Rob Shuter - who oversaw J.Lo and Jessica Simpson at their peaks - talks celebrity penis size, Kim Kardashian body hair, and what on earth is Bieber's game? With Maureen O...

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Dating Sucked. Then She Tried Women. from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

In her mid-twenties, Katie Heaney wrote "Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date," a memoir about the frustrations of a millennial who is willing, but unable, to find a boyfrien...

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The Couple That Shares a Toothbrush from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

To bid farewell to her co-host David Wallace-Wells, Maureen interrogates his wife Risa Needleman about being with one man since age nineteen, his-and-hers manbuns, getting married on a 24-...

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Who's Afraid of Sex Toys? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Jennifer Kaplan and Lindsey Rupp, hosts of Bloomberg's Material World podcast, give a guided tour of America's $15 billion sex toy industry-- and gender politics, free-speech battles, and ...

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Are You a Grower or Show-er in Love? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

When it comes to penis size, some men will show their full potential from the start, while others have the ability to grow to unexpected heights. Could the same be true for falling in love...

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Is Billary the Greatest Romance of Our Times? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Recording from Phildelphia during the DNC, New York Magazine's Rembert Browne joins Maureen O'Connor for a discussion of political romance, sexual innuendo at both conventions, and a stran...

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Can You Ask Your Gynecologist on a Date? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Have the rules of meet-cute engagement changed? Vogue sex columnist Karley Sciortino argues that, in the age of Tinder, hitting on strangers at bars is crazier than an internet-enhanced ho...

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Is Dating in New York Actually That Bad? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Science of Us's Drake Baer explains a series of scientific studies that calculate what makes a dating market good or painful, and how they explain why dating in New York is so wretched. Co...

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The Hamptons Had an Orgy from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week: a special report from a $400-per-couple Hamptons sex party, marketed to "the world's sexual elite." (And their Russian sugar babies.) Harper's Bazaar writer Jenna Sauers was in ...

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A Quick Programming Note! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Hi Sex Lives listeners - due to some holiday-related scheduling issues, this week's show will come out a bit later this afternoon, instead of our normal morning release. Please check the f...

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The Sexual Self-Inventory from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

After writing a column about figuring out the optimal number of premarital sex partners, The Cut's Mandy Stadtmiller discusses all the metrics she applies to her life - her sex life, her s...

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Porn for the Blind from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

It's real, real weird, and pretty amazing, and this week we talk to Nona Willis Aronowitz about the whole wide world of it - from indie audio porn on Reddit's Gone Wild Audio subreddit to ...

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The Woman Who Invented Dating from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we interview Moira Weigel, the author of "Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating," about how crazily recent - and purely American - the whole idea of dating is, why we still tal...

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The Case for Arranged Marriage from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Is the most rational approach to marriage an arrangement? Guardian data editor Mona Chalabi parses the data on how sex changes over the course of a long-term relationship-- and presents th...

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The Best Lay in New York Lives in the Trump Tower from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Or so says Amy Rose Spiegel, who discusses her sexual memoir, Action: A Book About Sex, as well as slut phases, trampages, and which founding father she'd most like to fuck (Dolly Madison ...

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Dating While Semi-Famous And/Or Black from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, a live episode, taped as part of the Vulture festival, in which we go deep into the dating and sex life of Phoebe Robinson of 2 Dope Queens (among many many other comic endeavor...

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Falling in Love With Your Anonymous Sperm Donor from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we interview the sex- and romance-writer Alyssa Shelasky, maven of New York Magazine’s hugely popular sex diaries, who explains how that sausage gets made; how dreamy the Lebane...

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Does She Have to Orgasm Every Time? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

It's the ultimate sign of straight masculinity: the ability to get a woman off. So what happens when he fails? Dr. Ian Kerner, author of "She Comes First," and Vanessa Marin, who wrote "He...

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Is My Love Life Ruining My Social Life? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Should your boyfriend be your best friend? Are you more popular single, or coupled? Is your social life preventing you from settling down? Alana Massey, columnist at The Cut, explains why ...

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How You Choreograph an Awkward Circle Jerk from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we talk to feature film directors Joey Kuhn and Pamela Romanowsky about all the weirdness of directing sex scenes on screen, especially in an age of ubiquitous porn, why most mo...

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That Time I Dreamt I Blew My Dad from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, everything you ever wanted to know about sex dreams: we talk to the man behind a dream database and take calls from listeners wondering what to make of that dream where they fou...

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Consider the Handjob from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week we're joined by Mandy Stadtmiller (immediately-legendary author of "Move Over Butt Stuff, Hand Jobs Are Back") and Ben Reininga of Vocativ to give the world's least-respected sex...

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What's the Shittiest Part About Breaking Up? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Should you be able to register a breakup, like a wedding? Who keeps thefriends? Who keeps the cat? This week Rich Juzwiak helps us break down,from every possible angle, the awful mess of e...

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Using Tinder in the Third Trimester from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Anna Davies got pregnant during a foreign fling on her "adult gap year" of world travel-- which is just the beginning of her Tinder-happy version of "Eat, Pray, Love." Nearly a year after ...

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Goodbye, Allison; Hello, Dick Picks! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week we bid a tearful adieu to co-host Allison Davis, which we do mostly by talking about dong shots (with the woman behind the Critique My Dick Pick Tumblr) and taking a slew of list...

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How Loud Is Unusually Loud? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, we talk to data guru Mona Chalabi about just how much noisepeople actually make during sex, when it's normal to lose one'svirginity, and a ton of other number-crunchy subjects. ...

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What Can't Period Sex Tell You About Someone's Sex Life? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Carolyn Yates joins us to talk about Autostraddle's massive recent data analysis, which found period sex to be "the ultimate lesbian sexual indicator," among many other things. We also tal...

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Is Clean Sex Possible (or Desirable)? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week we grill cleanup icon Jolie Kerr (of “Ask a Clean Person”) about how to wash a sex toy, launder semen stains, slyly coverup an accident in bed, and actually a lot more. Also, the...

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How a Break-Up Can Ruin You from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

This week, Stanford psychologist Lauren Howe explains why some people take break-ups brutally and others really blithely—it actually has nothing to do with the breakup, or the relationship...

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Our Sex Robot Future (And How One Man Used It To F*** Himself) from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

Chris Trout has seen the future of sex and it is... trippy. Engadget's executive editor and #ComputerLove columnist describes his adventures with virtual sex, including a virtual stroll up...

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Can Balls Be Beautiful? from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393

We debate the question at length with Brian Sloan, the veteran of the World’s Most Beautiful Vagina Contest who recently ran a much less attractive sequel with balls. We also debate quarte...

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Coming soon...Sex Lives from 2015-04-14T18:46

A weekly podcast about sex, lust, dating, technology, coupling, porn, fetish and freakiness. But mostly sex. With New York Magazine’s sex columnist Maureen O’Connor, The Cut’s Allison Davis, and ho...

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Coming soon...Sex Lives from 2015-04-14T18:46

A weekly podcast about sex, lust, dating, technology, coupling, porn, fetish and freakiness. But mostly sex. With New York Magazine’s sex columnist Maureen O’Connor, The Cut’s Allison Davis, and ho...

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