Navigating Race, Gender&Motherhood So White - a podcast by Janet Allison, Jennifer LW Fink

Nefertiti Austin’s son was 6 yrs old when she realized he’d “have to learn that his race and gender could get him killed," she writes in Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America.

That's not a lesson white boys have to learn, and that's one consequence of living in a country where motherhood is so white. As Nefertiti points out in her 2019 book, the default “parent” in American culture is a married white person with white children.

Her 15 year old son is now 5'10 and wears a size 10 shoe. He's not an adult, but Nefertiti knows that many people are far more likely to look at her son and see a threat than a child deserving protection and nourishment.

"He is seen as a Black man in America, so the protections that your sons have, he does not have," Nefertiti told Jen.


In this episode, Jen, Janet & Nefertiti discuss:

The "talk" parents have with Black boys
Becoming a parent via adoption & the foster care system
Helping boys navigate gender norms
The parenthood stories we don't tell
The wisdom, burdens & challenges of Black motherhood
Making space for & including parents of all cultures

Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:
nefertitiaustion.com -- Nefertiti's website

Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America, by Nefertiti Austin

Supporting Black Boys' Mental Health (w Chandra White-Cummings) -- ON BOYS episode mentioned at 16:30

How I'm Teaching My Black Children to Thrive in a World That Isn't Fair -- Nefertiti's Washington Post article (mentioned at 26:38)

Critical Race Theory -- article by Nefertiti (mentioned at 27:45)

Becoming -- Michelle Obama's memoir (mentioned at 32:14)

The Truth About Parenting Teen Boys -- classic Building Boys post (mentioned at 36:13)
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