07: A Passionate Play Therapist Shares Her Love for the Nurtured Heart Approach - a podcast by Jackie Flynn

from 2016-02-11T08:00

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In This Episode:



  • Tammi Van Hollander is a Registered Play Therapist that teaches us about the Nurtured Heart Approach ®.

  • The founder of the Nurtured Heart Approach ® is Howard Glasser.  

  • At www.childrenssuccessfoundation.com a free online eCourse is available to help children with challenging behaviors.

  • Our guest Tammi Van Hollander, was feeling “stuck”, she wanted another tool to be consistent and effective for parents and teachers.

  • Building on the children’s inner wealth, looking at their greatness and helping them to flourish is key.

  • “Children do not awaken by fear of punishment, they awaken to their greatness.” is Tammi’s favorite quote from Howard Glasser.

  • Putting energy into the positivity is so much more effective to help children with problematic behaviors.

  • This approach has 3 Stands:


Stand 1 - “Absolutely NO  I wll not energize negativity” focuses on the benefits of staying calm, collective and “resetting” if necessary.


Stand 2 -  “Absolutely Yes, I will relentlessly create and energize positivity and success in my child.


Stand 3 - “Absolutely Clear, if you cross the line, there are very clear consequences that go with that (the adult stays calm and loving)



  • It’s important not to ignore negative behavior; if negative behavior is ignored things may get worse and worse.

  • This approach highlights the benefits for recognizing the child and honoring them for showing self-control by recognizing what they didn’t do such as hit their sibling, leave the room, etc...

  • Clarity and predictability is so important for the child, as in the analogy of the video game that Tammi talks about in this episode.

  • This approach supports a healthy child parent relationship as well as help regulate their emotions.

  • Using the passion and gifts that comes with intensity  that children sometimes exhibit can make a huge difference when helping children with challenging behaviors.

  • The Nurtured Heart Approach ® is used in schools and homes all over.

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