Podcasts by Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class mental health professionals who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'l help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage. We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.
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TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict. from 2022-02-15T06:00
Something that can be a BIG issue for couples—when one is a porn/sex addict in recovery and the other is a betrayed spouse trying to heal—is TV, movies and media! A PBSE listener asked Mark and ...
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Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back? from 2022-02-09T14:00
Resentment is a POWERFUL emotion! And while it most certainly can be very legitimate based on actual events, history, betrayal, etc., it also acts as a HUGE BARRIER that can block us from movin...
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As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure! from 2022-02-01T06:00
One of THE most important milestones in real recovery is when a porn/sex addict prepares a completely transparent and authentic "disclosure" of his past discretions and betrayals and t...
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How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again? from 2022-01-25T06:00
When there has been Betrayal Trauma, it can seem impossible to ever dare to fully trust again. A PBSE listener describes this struggle as "foreboding joy"—things can be going OK in the...
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All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions from 2022-01-18T06:00
There are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can include: I'm not getting enough sex from my spouse...
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How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationship Authenticity”? (Part Two) from 2022-01-11T06:00
Once you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of "Relationship Authenticity"? Assuming you h...
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How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One) from 2022-01-04T06:00
There are MANY "trauma triggers" that can create great conflict, pain and difficulty between partners. If you truly desire to work on mending your relationship and/or deepening your tr...
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New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead. from 2021-12-28T06:00
In this episode, Mark & Steve talk raw and real about why the traditional "New Year's Resolution" failed for them SO many times—and often had the effect of making their addict...
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How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing from 2021-12-21T06:00
In what can sometimes be the "hellish" experience of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, can we still find wonder, enjoyment and even a little "magic" in our spec...
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When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"! from 2021-12-14T06:00
Everyone faces different kinds of STRESS in everyday life. But, when we're in addiction recovery or healing from betrayal trauma, that stress is often multiplied and magnified! Then add on ...
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This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE! from 2021-12-07T06:00
Although we can't quite believe it, this is PBSE's 100th Episode!!! Thank you to all our listeners who made this possible! It would never have happened without YOU!
In this e...
My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do? from 2021-11-30T06:00
There are plenty of situations where an addict spouse wants to have sex all the time. There are situations where the spouse suffering from betrayal trauma does not feel safe having sex with thei...
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How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”? from 2021-11-23T06:00
A PBSE listener recently sent in a situation and question—
He has been in recovery and "clean" for a year. At one point during that year of recovery, his wife admitted to havi...
What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling? from 2021-11-16T06:00
We know—the title of this episode is INSANE!!! But it comes from an actual question sent in by a PBSE listener—
My partner and I are STUCK. We have been separated for almost a year...
How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn? from 2021-11-09T06:00
Here's a question from a PBSE listener—
I am a recovering sex and porn addict working on my recovery and trying to reconcile with my wife and heal our marriage. She is constant...
My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem? from 2021-11-02T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a listener who asks a very important question about one of her spouse's favorite pastimes—watching female professional wrestling. While this sound...
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As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse? from 2021-10-26T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's sincere inquiry about HOW to move through his defensiveness in response to his wife's legitimate trauma triggers. Here&apos...
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Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Betrayals OR is He "Gaslighting" You? from 2021-10-19T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve take on a PBSE listener's question about her husband's "claim of not being able to remember the details of his previous disclosures to her. Several...
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How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors? from 2021-10-12T06:00
In this episode Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt question by a PBSE listener—
My wife and I recently listened to your episode on healthy sex vs toxic sex. I realize now t...
Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know? from 2021-10-05T06:00
How do you know if your partner is telling you the truth about his porn use and other sexual behaviors? A PBSE listener recently submitted this question and expressed her pain and confusion in ...
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How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?! from 2021-09-28T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt message and question from a PBSE listener: a spouse struggling to forgive her porn-addicted spouse—
How can you work th...
How Do I Know if My Spouse is an Addict or Not? from 2021-09-21T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a common question submitted by a PBSE listener—
I have listened to many episodes of your podcast. They have all been very helpful. My questio...
Unhealthy Relationships Can Help Fuel Porn Addiction—How Can You Move from Co-Dependency to Recovery? from 2021-09-14T06:00
Growing up, a PBSE listener suffered from an abusive relationship with his father, which was a BIG factor in the development and ongoing struggle with Porn Addiction. He submitted some questions...
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When Your Partner is a Porn Addict, What Does “Healthy Connection” Look Like? from 2021-09-07T06:00
If your partner is a porn addict, is it even possible to have any level of "healthy connection"???
In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and open about what is possible and...
Does Recovery & Healing require that we STOP Internet use, AVOID going out in Public and NEVER talk to the opposite sex? from 2021-08-31T11:00
When it comes to daily life and being subjected to a "sexualized culture," what are the "healthy boundaries" in sex/porn addiction recovery?
What can/should an addi...
Your Chosen Path of Sexual Experience—Healthy or Unhealthy? Connecting or Disconnecting? from 2021-08-24T06:00
In working with people all over the world, we often get questions from couples regarding what IS and what is NOT healthy and connecting in their sexual relationship.
In this episode, M...
You are "Powerless" to Control What He’s Thinking During Sex—or Any Other Time! from 2021-08-17T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a HUGE issue many partners struggle with. Here's how a PBSE listener expressed it—
My question is with all the porn videos and images he...
Should I have Daily Sex with my Husband so He can Recover? from 2021-08-10T06:00
We know—this title is ridiculous!!! It's intended to be totally SARCASTIC! But it's in response to a lengthy, raw, heart-felt, super authentic email we recently received from a PBSE ...
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Stuck? Real Recovery & Healing REQUIRE a Trajectory! from 2021-08-03T06:00
It's SO easy to get STUCK in a negative, hame-based mindset; trapped on an endless rollercoaster of dark emotions; feel like your relationship is going nowhere or just downward!
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Do You STINK at Setting and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries?! from 2021-07-20T06:00
A PBSE listener recently sent us this comment and request—You speak of the importance of establishing boundaries. While we understand that each couple is unique can you address more specifi...
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Letting Go of Control & Manipulation to WORK Your Own Recovery! from 2021-07-13T06:00
In this episode Mark and Steve openly address a PBSE listener's questions about what to do with an addict spouse in recovery who still tries to exert control and practice manipulation.
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Navigating Summertime and Sex Addiction! from 2021-07-06T06:00
Summertime can be a HUGE trigger for porn addicts in recovery and for spouses healing from betrayal trauma! As individuals and as couples, HOW can you SUCCESSFULLY navigate the visual and emotio...
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Let Go of "Emotional Wallowing" & Embrace "Vision & Meaning" from 2021-06-29T06:00
When we rely on "sheer motivation" to break out of porn addiction, this will easily plunge us into a pit where we become stuck in "emotional wallowing."' Then to escape ...
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Father's Day—Addiction & Trauma Trigger or Healing Event? from 2021-06-22T06:00
There are MANY "triggers" that can impact and even derail addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. One trigger that can blindside us are significant, meaningful events like...
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Why is Mindfulness & Connecting with Myself SO Hard?! from 2021-06-15T06:00
We constantly talk about how and why “mindfulness” and CONNECTING with your True, Authentic Self is SO critical to recovery and healthy living! Yet, when it comes to stepping back to be an “obs...
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Erectile Dysfunction and Your "Arousal Template" from 2021-06-08T06:00
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Is Physical Touch the “Love Language” of Most Porn/Sex Addicts? from 2021-05-25T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address and excellent question submitted by a PBSE listener—
In the book written by Gary Chapman it talks about the 5 Love Languages. My husband says...
Moving from Addiction to Connection: Reconciliation with Family from 2021-05-18T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a question submitted by a PBSE listener:
My husband has been in active recovery since earlier this year. Your podcast has been instrumenta...
From Surviving to Thriving in Your Marriage: A Vision for Addicts from 2021-05-10T14:00
In this episode Mark and Steve use the analogy of a unique little bird known as the "Bower Bird." HOW can we guys who are in recovery from addiction do the "little" things ea...
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When is it Time to “Shake Up” Your Recovery and Healing? from 2021-05-04T06:00
Your recovery and healing are always at risk of stagnation, burnout, boredom, overwhelm, relapse and other potential "disrupters."
In this episode Mark and Steve talk about h...
How Inadequate Self-Care Sabotages Your Recovery and Healing! from 2021-04-27T06:00
Mark and Steve discuss why Self-Care is SO crucial to overcoming porn addiction, healing from betrayal trauma and mending your marriage. And why it is so often taken for granted or over...
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The WALL Between Conflict and Connection from 2021-04-13T06:00
A BIG part of beginning to heal a marriage marred by pornography addiction, is for the addict spouse to provide a SAFE space for the betrayed spouse to honestly and openly express her pain and s...
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How Can a Struggling Couple Come Out of "Relationship Limbo"? from 2021-04-02T13:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a recent email from a listener—
“I’d like to know how is it that your wives were willing and able to stay in your marriages through all th...
Can I Ever Go Back to Porn? from 2021-03-30T08:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve openly address a common issue they faced in their own recoveries, and one they see often with their clients—"Can I ever go back to porn?"
Wha...
What it Takes to SUCCEED in Recovery and Healing! from 2021-03-23T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve give listeners a window into what they've learned from their own recoveries and what they've experienced over many years as therapists.
What D...
Defining "Slips" and "Relapses" from 2021-03-16T06:00
When a couple is working together through addiction recovery and healing betrayal trauma, it can be VERY difficult to understand the differences between a "Relapse" and a "Slip.&q...
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Where is the line between “loving” someone and “trusting” them? from 2021-03-09T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a PBSE listener's heart-felt dilemma. After discovering her spouse's addiction to porn and feeling the intense betrayal, she was justifiably ang...
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Spiritual Safety and Sexual Intimacy: You Can Have Both! from 2021-03-02T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a questions submitted by a listener—
"Can you discuss the dynamic of being the spouse of an addict who is not a believer? In my marriage...
Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner? from 2021-02-23T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address some very poignant questions submitted by a listener:
"What do you do when the proof is in the pudding that your partner is a sexual add...
Great! He’s in Recovery . . . but What is He Thinking? from 2021-02-16T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address a recent question by a listener—a very honest, legitimate, excellent question—
"Hi there, my recovering spouse and I LOVE your podcasts....
Why Would the Man Who Loves Me, "Gaslight" Me?! from 2021-02-09T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and open about an extremely destructive behavior that porn addicts engage in with their partners—GASLIGHTING!
Mark and Steve talk about their ow...
What Does it Take to Get "SERIOUS" about Real Change? from 2021-02-02T06:00
In this episode Mark and Steve speak openly about what it took for them to get to the rock bottom place where they were ready to start down the path of real change. They also acknowledge that ev...
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"Boundaried" Relationships Last—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma! from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Mark and Steve talk raw and open about HOW to set and hold healthy boundaries in a marriage relationship. Boundaries are the "Love Map" that guides us on the path to become more connected than ever!
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For the Spouse of an Addict—How to "Let Go and Let God." from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
When a spouse betrays you through porn and sex addiction, it's easy to seek to CONTROL what happens next!
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part One: Preparing for and Managing Triggers from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
The holidays can be a MAJOR trigger for Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma! Learn to recognize and shift through these triggers.
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Par Two: "Self Care? Forget that! It's the Holidays, Bro!" from 2021-01-31T22:10:42.023393
Don't let the Holidays derail you from working your porn addiction recovery, healing betrayal trauma and simply living in a joyful, healthy way!
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The Addict's Journey from Escape & Avoidance to Authenticity & Transparency from 2021-01-26T06:00
It has been said, "We are only as sick as our secrets." Another way of coming at this would be: "Living in secrecy keeps our addiction alive."
In this episode Mark...
How to Navigate Mental Illness AND Addiction/Betrayal Trauma from 2021-01-19T06:00
Mental illness and addiction, as well as betrayal trauma, can be parallel struggles! And it can be very difficult to understand where one starts and the other begins, or which one leads to the o...
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Should We Hide Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma From Our Kids? from 2021-01-12T06:00
It's hard enough navigating through porn/sex addiction and betrayal trauma as adults! But what happens when we're raising kids at the same time? What should we disclose to our kids,...
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How to be Emotionally Healthy as an Individual and Couple in 2021 from 2021-01-05T06:00
We're all SO glad 2020 is over! In fact, we should all receive a t-shirt that reads, "I Survived 2020!" And we're all hoping 2021 will be SO much better. But . . . the...
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Ditch the “New Year’s Resolution" BS—it doesn’t work! from 2020-12-29T06:00
Can you believe it--it's a NEW YEAR! And it's that infamous time again--New Year's Resolutions! In this episode Mark and Steve get real about WHY these resolutions virtually nev...
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Learning from Mark & Steve's "Recovery Ghosts of Christmas Past" from 2020-12-22T06:00
This episode is a kind of "Christmas gift" from Mark and Steve to their listeners. They talk raw and open about how too many Christmas seasons over their decades of deep addiction were...
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part Three: Finding Serenity in the Midst of Family "Stuff" from 2020-12-15T06:00
During the holidays, "families" can be both an opportunity AND a challenge! Family interactions can support us on our paths of recovery and healing OR knock us off the path!
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Par Two: "Self Care? Forget that! It's the Holidays, Bro!" from 2020-12-08T06:00
It's SO easy to "go off the self-care rails" during the Holidays! If we're not careful, we can tend to use as an excuse for laziness, apathy, self-indulgence, disconne...
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Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part One: Preparing for and Managing Triggers from 2020-12-01T06:00
The holidays are a time for MAJOR EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS—good and bad. In fact the Holidays are intended and designed to elicit intense emotions. These can be ignited by our internal or external env...
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Where Relationship Expectations Collide with Individual Boundaries from 2020-11-24T06:00
It's very natural and legitimate to have certain expectations in our marriage relationship. And we NEED healthy boundaries in order to make steady progress and attain and enjoy real CONNECT...
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The "Unholy Triad" that can Decimate Your Marriage! from 2020-11-17T06:00
In their own addictions, recoveries and healing, and working with people all over the world, Mark and Steve have come to understand an "unholy triad" that decimates marriage: Pride; S...
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How We Get Stuck in our Pain . . . and How to Heal and Move Forward from 2020-11-03T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve come from a very heart-felt place in speaking to the women who may find themselves "stuck in the pain of Betrayal Trauma." This is actuall...
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Is there a Place for "Sexual Entitlement" in a Healthy Marriage Relationship? from 2020-10-27T06:00
Mark and Steve produced this episode in response to a PBSE listener's question—
Hi Guys! Would it be possible to talk about entitlement in an episode? I feel like many men str...
If You Don't Have Honesty—You Don't Have Much from 2020-10-20T06:00
This episode starts with Mark and Steve getting super raw about how lying was a big part of their addiction years and early recovery.
- There are MANY "layers of lies" that ...
Are YOU Choosing Your Life . . . OR . . . is "IT" Choosing You? from 2020-10-13T06:00
Mark and Steve get personal and talk about how, for much of their lives, they lived in "victim mode" and ran around spouting off cliches like, "I'm a realist," and "...
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In Recovery & Healing—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution? from 2020-10-06T06:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about their personal "God journeys"—how God operated in their lives BEFORE recovery and healing (crazy dysfunctional!)—and how their G...
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Hey, we're doing well, so we can let up on our Boundaries—Right? from 2020-09-29T06:00
When things have been going well for awhile in addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, there can be a temptation to relax the boundaries we've agreed to. This can also seem l...
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I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Partner—Are We Done? from 2020-09-22T06:00
We live in a culture that can easily tend to make physical/sexual attraction the "be all, end all," in marriage relationships. In this episode, Mark and Steve share their own raw and r...
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How to Have DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS that bring TRUE CONNECTION! from 2020-09-15T09:00
Our most DIFFICULT conversations can also be the most CONNECTING!
In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and real about WHY we avoid difficult and uncomfortable c...
How Do We Become Trapped in a "Marriage Crisis" and Can We Ever Come Back Together? from 2020-09-08T06:00
Porn addiction, Betrayal Trauma and other challenges can plunge us hopelessly into a seemingly perpetual pattern of Negative Relationship Patterns! This constant negativity wears us down until w...
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How "Pain Avoidance" feeds Addiction & Betrayal Trauma! from 2020-09-01T06:00
It's natural to avoid pain--that protection mechanism is built directly into the human brain. BUT, "pain avoidance" often creates and then feeds Addiction. And it can also keep us...
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Separating"Attraction"from the"Addiction"—Where are the Boundaries? from 2020-08-25T15:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address the questions and concerns of one of the PBSE podcast listeners. As the spouse of an addict in recovery, this listener brings up the very legitimate conce...
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Porn Addiction Relapse—the Fallout and Breaking the Addiction Cycle from 2020-08-18T06:00
What happens when there is a "Pornography Addiction Relapse"?
The Fallout of Relapse—
For the Addict: Hopelessness, shame, resignation, apathy,...
Refuse to Be a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Allow Her to Heal from Betrayal Trauma! from 2020-08-11T06:00
- Learn how to “let go” of Your Spouse’s Healing
- Instead of focusing on what she is or is not doing—put all your energy into YOUR recovery.
- You can’t “u...
Breaking Free from the "Victim Trap" of His Porn Addiction from 2020-08-04T06:00
Addiction and Betrayal Trauma can easily plunge us into the "Victim Trap"! In this dark place, it is nearly impossible to progress on our paths of recovery and healing. In in ep...
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How Do I Regain Her Trust and How Do I Trust Her? from 2020-07-27T16:00
Two of the BIG questions we hear a LOT from recovering porn/sex addicts is: "How do I get her to trust me again?" and "How do I trust her?" In this episode Mark and Steve ge...
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How Do I Ever TRUST my Porn/Sex Addicted Spouse Again? from 2020-07-21T14:00
Discovering your spouse has a porn/sex addiction triggers Betrayal Trauma and SHATTERS trust! HOW can you ever get to the place where you can "trust him again"? Mark and ...
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"Boundaried" Relationships Last—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma! from 2020-07-14T09:00
For any relationship to last and thrive, there must be "boundaries." This is especially true when you're dealing with Porn Addiction and Betrayal Trauma! In this episode, M...
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Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part Two from 2020-07-07T14:00
This episode is "Part Two" of the interview with Todd, a former Mark and Steve client, who tells his raw and real story of recovery from Sex and Porn Addiction.
In this secon...
Let Go of the "Sexual Beast' and Embrace REAL Intimacy in your Marriage! from 2020-06-30T14:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve address an issue submitted by a PBSE listener—
Hi Guys! My husband loves your podcast. It's the only he will listen to openly. I love...
Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part One from 2020-06-23T20:00
Todd, a former Mark and Steve client, tells his raw and real story of recovery from Sex and Porn Addiction.
Todd also talks about how being convinced from a young age that he had to &q...
Healthy Sex vs. Toxic Sex in Marriage from 2020-06-16T13:00
In this episode Mark and Steve openly discuss the differences between healthy and toxic sex in marriage—
- What are the differences between a healthy sex drive and a lu... Listen
How do you keep going in Recovery and Healing when you're Burned Out and just plain "Done"! from 2020-06-08T15:00
Mark and Steve know from personal experience and helping others, just how heavy, difficult, exhausting and discouraging addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing can be! In this episode the...
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Is it OK to Occasionally "Lie" if its in the Best Interest of Your Recovery or Healing? from 2020-06-01T12:00
We live in a world where honesty is a steadily shrinking virtue! Many in politics, sales, advertising and the media send a subtle or even blatant message that truth is relative, situation...
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Those Darn Thinking Errors!—"Emotional Reasoning" and the "Unreal Ideal" from 2020-05-25T09:00
Addiction and Betrayal Trauma both have a dramatic impact on the brain and the heart! And one of the primary barriers to our recovery and healing is our THINKING E...
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Pulling Out a Chair for God at Your Marriage Table from 2020-05-18T10:00
If you want your marriage to truly be ALL that it can be, we HIGHLY recommend pulling out a chair for God at your marriage table. But that can be easier said than done! In this episode, Mark and...
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For the Spouse of an Addict—How to "Let Go and Let God." from 2020-05-11T12:00
The devastating pain and confusion caused by your husband's porn addiction can easily create a distance or wall between you and God. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk about the realities...
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The "Addict" vs. "God" from 2020-05-04T15:00
In the midst of your struggles with pornography, can you also have a relationship with God? Mark and Steve talk open and raw about their personal experience with this conflict. They offer some C...
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We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part TWO from 2020-04-25T13:00
Mark and Steve come back to talk SUPER raw about even MORE marriage mistakes they and their clients have made--and HOW YOU DON'T HAVE TO KEEP MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES! In this episode, lear...
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We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part One from 2020-04-20T17:00
During their deep addiction years, Mark and Steve made all the marriage mistakes you can imagine! Now they offer you a great gift—the opportunity to LEARN from their MISTAKES! If t...
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Two Former Porn Addicts—"If I Could Go Back in Time, WHAT Would I DO different?" from 2020-04-13T13:00
Mark and Steve get VERY raw and real about the struggles during their deep addiction years. Knowing what they know now—if they could go back in time, WHAT would they do different?
Here's EXACTLY HOW to Use the "Surrender Tool" as an Addict, Spouse and Citizen from 2020-04-07T16:00
In this episode, Mark and Steve walk you through three REAL LIFE examples of HOW to use the "Surrender Tool" in times of overwhelming emotions like fear, lust, anger, resentment, betra...
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How to Practice the Essential "Art of Surrender" in a Scary World! from 2020-03-30T13:00
Our natural tendency in addiction, betrayal trauma and current scary world events is to attempt to INCREASE the CONTROL we have over our lives! This is exactly the OPPOSITE ...
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How to Get Out of Your "Coronavirus Brain" and TAKE CHARGE! from 2020-03-23T16:00
Right now a lot of people across the world are feeling pretty "powerless"! But, those of us who have suffered from addiction, betrayal trauma and other significant trials—WE actually p...
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Managing Your Emotions & Triggers in These Trying Times! from 2020-03-16T21:00
During times of HIGH emotional stress, like the COVID 19 pandemic, "triggers" go up for the population as a whole, and especially for those dealing with addiction! The HIGH STRESS can ...
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Are My Sexual Behaviors a Problem? from 2020-03-09T17:00
When it comes to sexual behaviors, we live in a world where there is a very broad spectrum about what people consider to be "healthy" and "not healthy." In this podcast, Mark...
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Unraveling the BIG Mystery of Porn Addiction—"Why do I keep going back to it?!" from 2020-03-02T21:00
Everyone who gets trapped in porn addiction struggles with the "big mystery"--why do I keep going back to this crap? Why can't I just say 'NO!' once and for all?&...
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Battling Through Trauma Together! from 2020-02-24T19:00
Trauma is ALWAYS part of a marriage relationship—either trauma we bring with us from childhood or trauma created while we're married. Either way, trauma can open a chasm of
Conflict Isn't Bad—Fighting the Real Enemy, NOT Each Other! from 2020-02-15T14:00
Most of were raised to believe that "conflict is bad" and to be avoided at all costs! The truth is, in healthy relationships, conflict should be expected and even encouraged! Conflict...
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What is Betrayal Trauma—Part Three—Setting Sexual Boundaries from 2020-02-06T13:00
In order for a porn addict to move into "real" recovery, AND a spouse to begin healing her betrayal trauma, as a couple you MUST begin setting BOUNDARIES! Why? Because the MOST connect...
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What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part Two—Symptoms and Healing from 2020-02-03T19:00
This episode is for women suffering from betrayal trauma AND their husbands who truly want to understand them.
What are the symptoms of Betrayal Trauma? What are the feelings and words...
What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part One from 2020-01-28T10:00
When a spouse finds out about her husband's infidelity through porn use, an affair or other sexual behaviors, a flood of emotions can come rushing in—shock, confusion, anger, fear, inadequa...
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Porn—Stress Reliever or Stress Inducer? from 2020-01-14T01:00
A recent article in a popular publication claimed that "porn is the perfect stress reducer." In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and personal about their experience.
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What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think! from 2020-01-14T00:00
There's a big debate about what is pornographic and what is not. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about how defining "porn"—it's less about what's being...
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What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think! from 2020-01-14T00:00
There's a big debate about what is pornographic and what is not. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about how defining "porn"—it's less about what's being...
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What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think! from 2020-01-14T00:00
There's a big debate about what is pornographic and what is not. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about how defining "porn"—it's less about what's being...
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