35. Self-care isn't selfish. Listener Q&A and Getting Kids on Board with Boundaries - a podcast by Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM

 Are you operating from empty? Do you think it is selfish to dedicate TIME to replenish YOU?             Click here to read Val's blog post, "Depleted? Mom, It's not selfish to replenish."     The first half of this episode is a vulnerable topic for Val as it includes her road back to health and she reminds moms that when you are depleted, it often leads to defeated. It is not selfish to take care of yourself! In fact, neglecting YOU is harmful to your family. We cannot replenish others when we are depleted. 
We moms often neglect ourselves emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Let's talk about the road back to healthy.
Then the second half of this episode is a listener Q&A where we  focus on the four key elements of communicating boundaries to kids effectively and getting them on board with taking the necessary growth steps to increase their freedoms.
1. Empathy – see it from their perspective.  Have compassion on their PERCEPTION of what’s going on and VERBALIZE your empathy.  2. Humility - even parents need humility and need to give mutual respect 3. Consistent and Clear boundaries and expectations - are the lines constantly changing or difficult for your child to identify? 4. Visionary Standard - avoid  negative labels, your words should point them toward who they are capable of becoming * you believe they are more than their current  behavior and weaknesses.

Boundaries increase with level of *Responsibility *Wisdom *Honesty "As they display these characteristics in an area, that they are faithful with the amount of freedom they’re at, then you can begin considering increasing the freedom.  COMMUNICATE all of this to them all along the way, so they understand that their freedom is in direct proportion to their level of *Responsibility *Wisdom and *Honesty"
"When our kids have constant access to social media, it means that Peers & Strangers are given an influencing-role & constant access to our kids’ heart & mind.   Intentional parents need to have *reoccurring conversation *family agreement that includes actions to take, actions to avoid, clear boundaries, and how to maintain those boundaries *accountability *filtering"

Resources mentioned in this episode
Internet Family Agreement
Val's affiliate link to  Berkey Drinking Water Filters
Val's affiliate link to Trim Healthy Mama
Val's affiliate link to Covenant Eyes
The following three episodes are from the Learning to Feast with the Father series:
Podcast Episode 24: How a Busy Mom Gets Quality Time with God Daily
 Podcast Episode 27: Relationship Killers, Maintaining Influence & Mom, Are You Out of Order?
 Podcast Episode 29: ScreenTime, Chores, Habits of Blessing - Help our kids GROW, even in a crisis. Plus, Mom, What's Your Harriet Road?
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