Podcasts by Queen City Poly

Ep. 45 - Biphobia within Polyamory from 2019-10-02T19:13:43

On episode 45, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kay discuss polyamorous folx who have sexual orientation "preferences" for their partners, gender "preferences" for their potential metas, and the bi-phobia...

Ep. 44 - One Night Stands from 2019-09-18T23:20:32

Brian O'Neil & Coach Kay discuss the general consensus among the polyamorous community (ha!) about one-night stands. They answer questions such as: Would you be upset if your partner had one...

Ep. 43 - Hierarchy from 2019-09-11T22:35:17

On episode 43, Coach Kay and Brian O'Neil discuss prescriptive versus descriptive hierarchy, relationship anarchy, and a special form of hierarchy, SNEAKARCHY. 

Ep. 42 - Nesting Partners from 2019-09-04T20:05:03

In episode 42, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay talk nesting partnerships and the assumptions that come having or not having partners who you cohabitate with. --- Send in a voice message: https://anc...

Ep. 41 - PDA and Polyamory from 2019-08-14T11:00:51

You arrive to a bar and see your polyam partner in an embrace with a stranger. Their arms around this person's neck. This person's arms around your polyam partner’s waist. Just a couple of inches b...

Ep. 40 - Communicating Non-Consent from 2019-08-07T16:05:06

In episode 40, Brian O'Neil talks openly about being touched non-consensually following a recent standup gig after he talked about his polyamorous relationship style on stage. We sat down to tal...

Ep. 39 - New is No Excuse from 2019-07-31T11:00:48

In episode 39 of Queen City Poly, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay discuss examples of “seasoned” polyamorous people accommodating newly polyamorous partners with rules and agreements that threaten their...

Ep. 38 - Polyamory Or My Marriage from 2019-07-24T11:00

In Episode 38, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay talk about Brian's internet friend who is exploring the idea of polyamory but does not know how to get through to her husband, who is not having any of it....

Ep. 37 - The Law of Fuck Yes or No from 2019-07-18T19:30:44

In Episode 37, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay discuss Mark Manson’s blog article titled, Fuck Yes or No. The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whate...

Ep. 36 - Communication Preferences and Compatibility from 2019-07-10T18:28:14

In Episode 36, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay talk about how communications preferences impact compatibility, including: requiring daily communication, feelings regarding small talk, preferred communic...

Ep. 35 - A 'Throuple' Joins the Red Table from 2019-07-03T16:00

The unconventional path is windy one. Polyamory is a valid relationship style that is more than just having multiple sex partners. Monogamy is a valid option but not the only way to go....

Ep. 34 - The Insatiable Woman from 2019-06-27T01:09:46

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Ep. 33 - Red Table Talk talks Infidelity with Esther Perel, and we LOVED it. from 2019-06-20T01:25:18

On episode 33 of Queen City Poly, Brian O’Neil & Coach Kay talk about the latest episode of ...

Ep. 32 - The Honeymoon Phase or Normal Behavior? from 2019-06-12T11:00

A viral tweet from late last year that continues to recirculate states, “The honeymoon phase doesn’t exist when you fall for someone who is dedicated to making you feel loved and admired the ENTIRE...

Ep. 31 - 17 Reasons Why I Want More Polyamorous Representation from 2019-06-05T11:00

There are many reasons why we need more (and better) polyamorous representation. In episode 31, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kay discuss 17 of them! Do you have any to add? What do you think of the list ...

Ep. 30 - I Just Don’t Want You to Get Hurt. from 2019-05-29T11:00

It’s hard to stay out of the way and watch a person you love navigate the perilous dating scene, making decisions differently than you would. It can be tempting to offer up all kinds of unsolicited...

Ep. 29 - Polyamorous, but not actively dating… from 2019-03-13T11:00

In episode 29, Coach Kaey and Brian O’Neil discuss how one manages their ethically non-monogamous identities while balancing all of their other goals and struggles of everyday life. When you are no...

Ep. 28 - Alzheimer’s and Non-Monogamy from 2019-02-13T12:00

In episode 28 of Queen City Poly, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey share some news about finger guns in the Charlotte comedy scene as well as Brian’s latest attempt at talking to a pretty lady. Then the...

Ep. 27 - Middle Ground from 2019-02-06T12:00

Is it possible to love more than one person? What roles do jealousy and attraction play in relationships? What makes a relationship work? Jubilee Media brought polyamorous and monogamous people tog...

Ep. 26 - Incompatible Love from 2019-01-30T12:00

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Ep. 25 - Nothing Serious from 2019-01-23T12:00

Coach Kaey has been swiping right and now she has a question for Brian O’Neil. What exactly does, ‘I’m looking for casual, nothing serious’ mean? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/q...

Ep. 24 - What Was This Episode About? from 2019-01-16T12:00

In episode 24, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey ramble with their coffee about sexual orientation, bi and pan erasure, same sex attraction, sexual confidence and compatibility, porn, consent, gender nor...

Ep. 23 - New Year, New Goals from 2019-01-02T22:49:42

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Ep. 22 - Flirting While Poly(am!) from 2018-12-19T12:00

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Ep. 21 - Berlin & Back! from 2018-08-15T17:00

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Ep. 20 - Boy Bye from 2018-08-01T11:00

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Ep. 19 - You're Poly? from 2018-07-25T11:00

In this episode, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey answer a listener question on how to handle a polyamorous-identified person that  doesn’t seem to want their partner dating others. It’s a common myth t...

Ep. 18 - Who Pays? from 2018-07-18T11:00

In episode 18, Coach Kaey and Brian discuss how they have managed money in previous relationships. Polyamorous or not, money and relationships intermingle, but a taboo exists when it comes to talki...

Ep. 17 - Brian's Poly Anniversary from 2018-07-11T11:00

In episode 17, Coach Kaey asks Brian to reflect on his two year anniversary of ethical non-monogamy. How have his views on love, relationships, sexuality, women, dependency, and more changed since ...

Ep. 16 - Meeting Metamours from 2018-07-04T11:00

In episode 16, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey discuss the awkwardness of meeting your metamours. What's a metamour? A metamour is your partner’s partner. The duo tackles expectations when meeting a me...

Ep. 15 - When Enough is Enough from 2018-06-27T11:00

In episode 15, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey discuss when enough is enough in relationships. We all have our different reasons for leaving and for staying, but knowing our own boundaries and those of...

Ep. 14 - New Relationship Energy (NRE) from 2018-06-20T11:00

In episode 14 of Queen City Poly, Brian O'Neil & Coach Kaey discuss New Relationship Energy (NRE), the strong, almost giddy feeling of excitement and infatuation common in the beginning of a new ro...

Ep. 13 - Catching Feelings from 2018-06-13T11:00

Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey celebrate a new chapter that is both exciting and terrifying. Brian O’Neil is still obsessed with where Lee surrendered to Grant during the Civil War and Coach Kaey stil...

Ep. 12 - Mental Health & Polyamory from 2018-06-06T12:03:17

On episode 12 of Queen City Poly, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kaey discuss the importance of good self care when managing mental health illnesses and crisis within polyamory. How does having multiple re...

Ep. 11 - Ethics & Values from 2018-05-22T12:23

In episode 11, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kaey discuss their own ethics within their polyamorous relationships and potential deal breakers when it comes to potential partners.

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Ep. 10 - Input or Control? from 2018-05-02T14:20:32

How much input does/do your partner(s) have on your other relationships? As much as you let them… --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/queencitypoly/message Support this podcast: Listen

Ep. 9 - WTF is Micro-Cheating? from 2018-04-16T13:21:03

In episode 9 of Queen City Poly, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kaey discuss the term "micro cheating." What does it mean? Is it a thing? Should you care? What are the implications of policing any and a...

Ep. 8 - The Boy Is Mine from 2018-02-20T01:30:17

In this Valentine's Day inspired episode, Brian O'Neil & Coach Kaey invite you to travel back to the 90s and early 2000s and explore monogamous themes in some of their favorite throwback jams.  We...

Ep. 7 - Infidelity from 2018-02-06T14:52:18

Brian O’Neil & Coach Kaey discuss infidelity and go off on relationship tangents like a the Gemini Sun/Gemini Moon pair that they are. To know more - listen to the episode!

Ep. 6 - Challenging the Patriarchy from 2018-01-23T01:46:18

Brian O'Neil & Coach Kay discuss feminism and patriarchy and how men can help women/help with stigma associated with sexually liberated identities. Brian O'Neil reads Rudy Francisco's Poem ,...

Ep. 5 - Coming Out from 2018-01-20T14:28:13

In episode 5, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kay discuss the process of coming out as polyamorous and how it differs from the coming out process of LGBTQ folks. Do you need to come out? Will anyone pois...

Ep. 4 - Impermanence & Polyamory from 2018-01-20T14:25:13

In episode 4, Brian O'Neil & Coach Kay discuss Buddhism, the concept of impermanence, and how that reality of life relates to relationships whether monogamous or polyamorous.

Ep. 3 - Poly Love, a Documentary - A Review from 2018-01-02T18:34:25

Brian O'Neil & Coach Kay review Poly Love, an 2016 documentary by Michelle Flores. Be warned, there are spoilers in this episode, so if you want to see the documentary first, watch it now on...

Ep. 2 - Seeking Community from 2017-12-25T02:04:49

Why is leaving a track of broken hearts is especially problematic in polyamorous dynamics? Multiple relationships is not an easy road of settling down into bliss. It takes constant communication...

Ep. 1 - Welcome to Queen City Poly from 2017-12-22T15:46:35

Coach Kay & Brian O'Neil introduce themselves and kick off the first episode of Queen City Poly. In this episode, Coach Kay & Brian O'Neil  discuss...