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Relationships Made Easy

What’s the secret to a happy life? The research says it’s your relationships! But how do you create the connection, joy and ease you crave? You’ve got to think about your relationships in a whole new way.

Armed with humor, a ton of research and over 30 years of hands-on experience Dr. Abby Medcalf will teach you simple, actionable tools and strategies that you can use today to make all your relationships the best they’ve ever been (including the one with yourself)!

Abby’s a Relationship Maven, best-selling author and psychologist, who loves telling you what to do each week on her Relationships Made Easy Podcast. In her free time (what’s that?) Abby’s invested in loving up the people in her life whether that means cooking for them, spending quality time, or trying to control them (hey, she never said she was perfect).

Learn more about Abby, sign up for the newsletter, read the blog, listen, take a course, or connect directly at www.abbymedcalf.com.

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267. Why it's Hard to Ask for Help and 3 Tips for Making it Easier from 2023-12-12T00:00

Hello. My name is Abby, and I hate to ask for help. Despite all my years of therapy and teaching others how important it is, asking for help is still something I find difficult to do and I know ...

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266. Are Relationship Doubts Normal? Four Questions to Get Your Answer from 2023-12-05T00:00

The short answer is “yes,” but the real question is, “When should I listen to my relationship doubts and when should I ignore them?” Whether you’re deciding to move in together and having doubts...

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265. Learn to Hold Your Boundaries with Healthy Selfishness from 2023-11-28T00:00

You’ve tried to draw a boundary with your partner, boss or best friend, but they call you selfish, self-absorbed or even narcissistic! How could dare you prioritize yourself over what they want?...

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264. What to Do if Your Partner is Friends with Past Partners or Hookups from 2023-11-21T00:00

Your current partner is friends with one or more of their past partners or hookups, and you don’t like it. You’ve told them you’re uncomfortable, but they say they’re just friends and you’re ove...

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263. How to Keep Your Boundaries Around the Holidays from 2023-11-14T00:00

How do you not let your family drive you crazy this holiday season? Boundaries. How can you find peace even though there’s so much going on during November and December? Boundaries. How can you ...

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262. How Do You Know When a Relationship is Over? from 2023-11-07T00:00

Have you been thinking it’s time to call it quits in your relationship, but maybe you’re wondering if you’re quitting too soon or wanting to leave for the wrong reasons? It can be hard to know w...

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261. What You Need to Know About Defense Mechanisms from 2023-10-30T23:00

Defense mechanisms are your brain’s (mostly unconscious) way of avoiding conflict, anxiety or upset. Although they get a bad rap, defense mechanisms are a necessary part of your psychology, and ...

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260. What to Do When You Can’t Get Through to Them from 2023-10-23T23:00

Do you have that person in your life who, no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get through to them or get them to listen or engage in a healthy conversation about issues you’re experiencing ...

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259. The Five Keys to Positive Communication from 2023-10-16T23:00

Positive communication is communication that’s based on respect and builds trust and collaboration. Although it’s something that’s mostly been applied to the workplace, its goal is to build a ps...

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258. Getting the Sizzle and that Loving Feeling Back in Your Relationship from 2023-10-09T23:00

If you’re listening to me right now, you’ve felt some kind of decline in your relationship or, as the song goes, “you’ve lost that loving feeling.” Or maybe you just want to make sure that decli...

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257. What Patience Really is and How to Have More of It from 2023-10-02T23:00

Did you know that the opposite of patience isn’t impatience? I’ve got to tell you that I didn’t know that until I started researching this episode. Patience is actually on a continuum, with too ...

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256. The Four Ways to Solve Any Problem from 2023-09-25T23:00

Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, is a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy created by psychologist Marsha Linehan in the early 1980s. It’s an evidence-based, highly successful type of thera...

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255. Focus on Self-Love Not Just Self-Compassion from 2023-09-18T23:00

OK, when I hear the words self-love, I want to throw up in my mouth a little because I’m thinking of some Brené Brown quote needlepointed onto a pillow or a bunch of people in a drum circle chan...

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254. The Seven Habits of Intimate Relationships (backed by research) from 2023-09-11T23:00

We know from the research that having intimate relationships is the key to mental and physical health. But what exactly qualifies as intimacy? Today I’ll teach you what intimacy really is and th...

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253. Focus on These Five Things to Make All Your Relationships Great from 2023-09-04T23:00

We know from the research that the biggest predictor of a happy (and long!) life comes down to the quality of your relationships. And, as much as we all want to focus on romance, there are many ...

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252. Instead of Date Nights, Work on Micro-Connections from 2023-08-28T23:00

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily. While date nights and vacations are wonderful, either we don’t do thos...

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251. Is it Love Bombing or Codependent Affection Flooding? from 2023-08-21T23:00

Love bombing gets a lot of attention and is usually discussed alongside narcissism or when we discuss trauma bonding. But what I’ve seen more often in my over 35 years of experience is something...

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250A. Conquering Your Quarter-life Crisis from 2023-07-31T23:00

Whether you identify as a Millennial, Gen X, or even Gen Z, the quarter-life crisis can have you feeling stuck in work and love. In today’s bonus episode, I’m speaking with expert and author Tes...

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250. The Secret to a Happy Life and Relationships: Resilience from 2023-07-24T23:00

Today I’m celebrating the 250th episode of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast, and I’m closing out our fifth season with some big love! Today you’re going to learn one of the foundations of a h...

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249. Five Tips for Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex from 2023-07-17T23:00

You’ve tried being easy-going and flexible, and you’ve tried being clear and firm, but nothing has worked when it comes to co-parenting with your ex, and I can tell you why: You’re trying to do ...

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248. How to Make Happier Joint Decisions with Your Partner (in 5 Easy Steps) from 2023-07-10T23:00

When you’re single, you get to make 100% of your decisions, from what color you paint your bedroom to how much you spend on eating out every week. But if you want to make a long-term, committed ...

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247. Adult ADHD at Work: How to Get Shit Done from 2023-07-03T23:00

Last week I taught how to deal with a loved one with ADHD. You learned what exactly ADHD is and how it’s diagnosed, what causes it, and my 12 steps to finding connection and peace if your partne...

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246. How to Deal with a Loved One Who has ADHD from 2023-06-26T23:00

Your partner said they’d be home by 6:00 but showed up at 8:30 because they got caught up in something and lost track of the time (again). Your partner zoned out (yet again) during an important ...

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245. Why People Chase Toxic Relationships and Unavailable Partners from 2023-06-19T23:00

Why do we want to date people who are bad for us? Why do we get into relationships with people that bring out our worst, most unhealthy selves? Today I’m teaching you the top four reasons why yo...

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244. How to Deal with Annoying (I Mean Difficult) Coworkers from 2023-06-12T23:00

Ahhh, that annoying (I mean difficult) coworker. You know the one… they get under your skin every time you interact with them. Today I’m going to teach you the top seven difficult types of cowor...

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243. Do You Have Relationship OCD? from 2023-06-05T23:00

Relationship OCD, or R-OCD, is a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder where people experience intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors related to worries, fears, and doubts in their relat...

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242. Six Habits to Make All Your Relationships Successful from 2023-05-29T23:00

We all want to have connected, happy and fulfilling relationships with the important people in our lives. The problem is that we often feel frustrated, resentful, and annoyed with those very sam...

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241. The Key to Letting Go of Resentment from 2023-05-22T23:00

Someone has done you wrong and you can’t let it go. You’ve tried to breathe, meditate, or find closure, but nothing seems to work long-term. Maybe you even have moments of relief, but before lon...

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240. What to Do When Your Partner Changes the Rules of Your Relationship from 2023-05-15T23:00

How do you get past your partner changing the rules of your relationship? Maybe they quit smoking when you first got together but then started again two years in. Maybe they gained weight and no...

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239. What to Do if You're a Control Freak from 2023-05-08T23:00

There’s a big difference between being controlling and being in control. Being in control is awesome. It means you’re self-aware, confident, and have strong self-esteem. But being controlling is...

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238. How to Deal with Controlling People from 2023-05-01T23:00

Controlling people can show up anywhere in your life: romance, friendships, work, or your good old dad. Sometimes these people are well-meaning, but it’s driving you crazy! They’re always tellin...

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237. Should You Be Journaling? from 2023-04-24T23:00

Back in the day, I thought journaling was either for those crunchy granola types or people wanting to grab a teddy bear and find their inner child, so it was something I decided early on wasn’t ...

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236. Five ways to cultivate self-love from 2023-04-17T23:00

I’ve spoken previously about self-acceptance and self-esteem, and today we’re going to go deep on self-love. We’ll talk about the differences between these three terms (and how they relate), and...

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235. Self-Sabotage: What it Is and How to Stop Doing It from 2023-04-10T23:00

You say you’re going to start waking up earlier to have a healthier start to your day, but then you stay up all night binging Wednesday on Netflix and sleep through your alarm. You’re f...

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234. Are you Trauma Bonding in Your Relationships and Don’t Realize it? from 2023-04-03T23:00

Trauma bonding was identified over 40 years ago, but it’s easy to dismiss if you don’t think you’ve ever had trauma. Are you experiencing trauma bonding but don’t realize it? Do you have repeati...

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233. Five Things to Do When You Feel Like You’re Being Criticized from 2023-03-27T23:00

Whether you call it criticism or judgment, this kind of feedback never feels good. But what do you do when you’re dealing with someone who always seems to be belittling, condemning, or finding f...

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232. When They Keep Bringing up the Past and Won’t Let it Go from 2023-03-20T23:00

We’ve all been there. You’ve been working on yourself and acting in a more healthy way with your partner, parent, or friend. But then you slip up, even a little, and suddenly they’re reminding y...

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231 The Five Steps to Effective Negotiation in All Your Relationships from 2023-03-13T23:00

Negotiating in relationships can be tough. When we’re trying to find common ground, but we’ve got different points of view, there’s a feeling of competition which means there’s an underlying win...

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230. Managing Different Spiritual Beliefs in Your Relationship from 2023-03-07T00:00

Spirituality in a relationship isn’t just about whether you go to temple, church, or mosque together. What we believe (or don’t) either religiously or spiritually touches everything from how we ...

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229. Are You Being Manipulated? Learn the Signs and How to Stop It from 2023-02-28T00:00

Every relationship has some form of manipulation. Unless you’re the most self-actualized being in the Universe (and I think you’d be off floating on a cloud somewhere and not listening to me rig...

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228. Do Opposites Attract? What to Do When You and Your Partner Seem Like Opposites from 2023-02-21T00:00

They’re messy, and you’re neat. They’re a saver, and you’re a spender. They’re a free spirit, and you like things to run on a schedule. You’re a homebody, but your partner always wants to be out...

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227. The Secrets to Effectively Dealing with Stress and Anxiety: Part Two from 2023-02-14T00:00

Last week I taught you the key difference between stress and anxiety and Listen

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226. The Secrets to Effectively Dealing with Stress and Anxiety: Part One from 2023-02-07T00:00

While stress and anxiety are linked, they’re actually two different states of being. And what you do to alleviate stress can actually make you more anxious! So you’ve got to know what tools to u...

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225. Seven Tips for Dealing with Technology in Your Relationships from 2023-01-31T00:00

Whether you call it technoference, phubbing, or just plain annoying, dealing with technology in our relationships can be challenging. From over 50 years of research, we know that the quality of ...

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224. How to Rebuild Intimacy with Your Partner After Having Kids from 2023-01-24T00:00

When they say that everything changes after you have kids, they’re right, but it doesn’t have to mean that things have to get worse! Your relationship after children is different, and there are ...

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223. How to Handle Aggressive or Confrontational People from 2023-01-17T00:00

Whether it’s a coworker, friend, parent, or partner, dealing with people who are aggressive or confrontational is exhausting. They try to bulldoze, argue or dominate, which leaves you feeling in...

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222. Closure: What it Really is and How to Get it from 2023-01-10T00:00

So many of my clients come to therapy looking for some type of closure. From breakups to being fired to getting over childhood trauma, it’s a common human condition to look for endings or bad ev...

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221. The Five Reasons People Pick Fights and Three Things to Do About It from 2023-01-03T00:00

Do you know someone who always seems to be picking a fight for no apparent reason? Are they just argumentative, or is there something deeper going on? Today I’m teaching you the five reasons peo...

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220. Five Goals Every Couple Should Set from 2022-12-13T00:00

You’ve always got two choices to make in your relationship: evolve and grow or repeat and stay stuck in old patterns. Don’t wait until after the holidays, the first of next month, or the first o...

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219. How to Cope When a Loved One has Borderline Personality Disorder from 2022-12-06T00:00

They love you one minute and hate you the next. They seem to cause trouble in all their relationships. They’ll go from sweet and loving to furious and lashing out. Yup. That’s life when a loved ...

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218. Dealing with Low Emotional Intelligence (in Yourself or Others) from 2022-11-29T00:00

Do you know someone who has zero self-awareness? Do they seem to never understand your feelings? Do they have a hard time controlling or naming their own emotions? Or does any of this apply to y...

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217. How Changing Your Breathing and Posture Can Change Your Life from 2022-11-22T00:00

The research shows that just by changing your posture and how you breathe you can positively impact issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, chronic pain, and insomnia! Today I’m interviewing w...

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216. Is it Ever a Good Idea to Get Back Together with Your Ex? from 2022-11-15T00:00

The marriage of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck has given broken hearts the world over hope that maybe, this time, it could work out with their ex. But despite their seeming success (it’s still e...

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215. Create Connection and Joy this Holiday Season by Doing This One Thing from 2022-11-08T00:00

There’s nothing like getting together with your parents and siblings over the holidays… and then realizing you're plotting their murders halfway through dinner. Being with family members, especi...

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214. How to Convince Someone to Go to Therapy from 2022-10-31T23:00

It’s hard to watch someone you care about struggling with mental health issues. You know that if they’d go to therapy, their life would be so much better, but they just won’t listen, or you’re a...

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213. How to Set Boundaries at Work and Avoid Burnout from 2022-10-24T23:00

While there are some who say their work lives have become much easier since the pandemic, the vast majority of people I speak to say they’re feeling overburdened and burned out at work, which en...

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212. How to Stop People Pleasing from 2022-10-17T23:00

Do you put other people’s needs ahead of your own? Do you feel guilty when you say “no”? Are you not saying what you really need and feel because you don’t want to upset someone else? Do you oft...

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211. Finding Connection Again After an Argument (with Anyone) from 2022-10-10T23:00

Even if you use all the great tools I’ve taught you in the last 200 episodes during an argument, you might still have trouble reconnecting after an argument. When our feelings have been hurt, it...

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210. How to Resolve an Argument (that Didn’t Get Resolved the First Time) from 2022-10-03T23:00

You’ve had the argument, and the dust has settled but no one’s feeling better (at least not you) because you never actually came to any agreement about what you were fighting about! You want to ...

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209. The 5 Signs of Healthy Relationships from 2022-09-26T23:00

With a career spanning over 35 years in multiple countries and having worked in every environment you can imagine, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to be in healthy relationships. Today I’...

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208. The Secret to Managing Your Emotions: A Step-by-Step Guide from 2022-09-19T23:00

Do you have a hard time managing your emotions when life gets stressful? Have you tried tips and tools before, but can’t find anything that works consistently for you? That’s likely because you ...

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207. How Your Attachment Style Affects You at Work from 2022-09-12T22:58:52

Last week I taught you how your attachment style affects your personal relationships. Today, we’re applying all those same principles to show how your attachment style affects your work life. Af...

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206. How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Personal Relationships from 2022-09-05T23:00

The research has consistently shown that how you attached to your parents or caregivers as a child affects how you connect in your current adult relationships. Your attachment style affects ever...

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205. My Top 5 Rules for Couples Who Work Together from 2022-08-29T23:00

This is one of those times when my education in both counseling and organizational psychology, as well as my many years of experience with clients who were working together, all dovetails perfec...

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204. Abby’s Step-by-Step Guide to Starting Your Day Right from 2022-08-22T23:00

I get asked two questions a lot: First, how do you get so much done every day? And second, how do you seem so happy all the time? The answer to both questions is the same: I owe it all to my mor...

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188. The Secret to Happy and Successful Relationships: Attention and Intention from 2022-04-18T21:00

The secret to happy, successful relationships boils down to two things: your attention and your intention. I’ve been talking about the importance of focusing your attention and setting your inte...

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187. 5 Research-Backed Ways to Have More Self-Discipline and Self-Control from 2022-04-11T21:00

Whether you call it self-discipline, grit, determination or willpower, the research shows that people who learn self-control are happier, healthier and have stronger relationships. But how do yo...

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186. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do If Your Partner is Friends with an Ex (and You Don't Like It) from 2022-04-04T21:00

Your partner is friends with an ex and it's bugging you! Is it OK to be jealous? Can exes really be just friends? How should you approach your partner about your unhappiness? Today I'm answering...

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185. Ask Dr. Abby: How to Discuss Relationship Problems with Your Partner Without it Turning into a Fight from 2022-03-28T21:00

You’ve got some issue(s) with your partner -- some things they’re doing that are driving you crazy or maybe it’s some things they’re not doing that have gotten under your skin. But every time yo...

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184. How to Save a Damaged Relationship: Restart Your Relationship Right Now from 2022-03-21T21:00

You’re looking to save your relationship but it’s not in a great place. Where do you start? Can you even change a damaged relationship if your partner isn’t interested in doing anything? The ans...

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183. What to Do When You Can’t Let Go of Your Unhealthy Relationship from 2022-03-14T23:37:15

I’ve gotten a lot of letters and questions from people who are in relationships that they know aren’t “good for them” whether due to addiction or something else, but they don’t know how to leave...

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182. How to Have a Long, Happy Relationship Backed by Research from 2022-03-07T22:00

Being in love is awesome! And it can also be a huge pain in the ass! Nothing brings us more joy (or more pain) than our romantic partnerships but all the information out there about what to do c...

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181. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do When Your Ex Seems Happy in a New Relationship from 2022-02-28T22:00

Your relationship ended but now you’re hearing (or even seeing through your secret IG stalking account) that your ex has moved on and is happy in their new relationship! You’re outraged and doub...

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180. How to Practice Self-Acceptance: My Top 5 Tips from 2022-02-21T22:00

Whether you call it self-love, self-approval or self-compassion the research shows that learning to accept yourself is one of the keys to emotional well-being and happiness. Today you’ll learn w...

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BONUS: The 5 Things Women Need to Know About Men with Shana James from 2022-02-17T12:00

For women in heterosexual relationships, understanding the men we love can be quite a challenge. And so I've brought in some reinforcements! Shana James, MA, has been coaching men for decades – ...

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BONUS: How 20-Somethings Can Find Happiness and Clarity in Love and Work with Tess Brigham from 2022-02-16T12:00

Today I’m speaking to the amazing Tess Brigham! She’s been dubbed the “Millennial Therapist” by CNBC and specializes in helping young adults discover their unique life path in order to go out in...

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179. 7 Habits That Are Sabotaging Your Relationship from 2022-02-14T22:00

I spend most of my time on the podcast telling you what to do to be happy in all your relationships (which I love because I’m a bossy Jewish mother). But today, I’m flipping things around and sh...

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178. How to Deal with a Defensive Person Who Won't Listen from 2022-02-10T01:56:22

Do you have someone in your life who gets defensive and just won’t listen no matter how carefully you approach them? Have you tried all the tools and nothing seems to work? Then you’re in the ri...

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177. How to Stop Being a Perfectionist So You Can Start Being Happy from 2022-01-31T22:02:09

Imagine taking a test where you get no credit for the right answers, but you get punished for every single one you got wrong. That’s perfectionism. You brush over any successes while beating you...

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177. How to Stop Being a Perfectionist So You Can Start Being Happy from 2022-01-31T22:02:09

Imagine taking a test where you get no credit for the right answers, but you get punished for every single one you got wrong. That’s perfectionism. You brush over any successes while beating you...

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176. How to Stop Having the Same Argument Over and Over Again in Your Relationship from 2022-01-24T22:00:25

You know about “the argument.” It’s that same fight that comes up over and over again with your partner, mother or brother. Any long-term relationship you’ve had likely has “the argument.” Maybe...

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175. 3 Big Mistakes You're Making When Your Kids Don't Like Your New Relationship and 1 Thing to Do to Turn It Around from 2022-01-17T22:00

What do you do if your kids don’t like your new partner or if your partner’s kids don’t like you? Today I’m coming at you with the 3 big mistakes you’re making when your kids don’t like your new...

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174. How to Stop Being Insecure in Your Relationships from 2022-01-11T03:30:52

We all have self-doubt now and then but chronic insecurity is a destructive pattern that’ll sabotage your relationships with everyone from your partner, to friends, coworkers and yourself. Most ...

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173. How to Stop Being Self-Conscious in All Your Relationships from 2022-01-04T06:00

We’ve all been there: you said or did something and suddenly your cheeks are burning and you have to fight the urge to run and hide under the covers. You feel like all eyes are on you and that y...

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172. Mismatched Sex Drives: What to Do if You Want More (or Less) Sex Than Your Partner from 2021-12-14T06:00

What do you do when you and your partner have mismatched sex drives? When you want more sex than your partner (or less sex than your partner), you end up with hurt feelings. The person who wants...

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171: Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do If Your Partner Won’t Move In Together from 2021-12-07T06:00

What do you do when you're ready to move in together but your partner isn't? Today I'm putting on my Ask Dr. Abby hat and answering a question from you! Stay tuned!

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170. Developing Empathy in Relationships is the Key to Connection and Communication from 2021-11-30T06:00

Developing empathy in relationships is the key to connection and communication. In fact, empathy is incredibly good for you! We know from the research that it not only strengthens relationships,...

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169. What to Do If Your Partner is Conflict Avoidant Plus Dealing with Your Own Conflict Avoidance from 2021-11-23T06:00

At its core, conflict avoidance is people pleasing due to a deeply ingrained fear of hurting or upsetting other people if you express your true feelings. This type of codependency leads to feeli...

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168. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do If Your Partner Doesn't Want to Get Married from 2021-11-16T06:00

What do you do if you want to get married but your partner doesn’t? Today I’m answering that very question on this Ask Dr. Abby episode so stay tuned!

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167. How to Stay Calm and Centered When Dealing with Family Stress and Dysfunction During the Holidays from 2021-11-09T13:37:39

No one can push our buttons like our family! The approaching holiday season means more time with those crazy people we love, which can equal more stress and more anxiety. But I’ve got your back!...

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166. Signs that Someone is Gaslighting You and What to Do About It from 2021-11-02T05:00

Gaslighting is a dangerous form of manipulation where someone acts in such a way that you start doubting your perceptions, your memory or your own judgment. You often walk away from the conversa...

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165. Ask Dr. Abby: Unfair Relationships: What to Do When Your Relationship Doesn't Feel Fair from 2021-10-26T05:00

Do you feel like your relationship isn't fair? Maybe you feel like you're always the one doing more of the heavy lifting, making more of the plans, figuring out the money, whatever it is, well, ...

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164. How to Overcome Guilt and Regret When Setting Boundaries from 2021-10-19T05:00

We’ve all been there. You set a healthy boundary with someone and feel good about it for about 5 minutes, and then the guilt begins to set in. You start thinking about how the other person is fe...

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163. How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You in 5 Steps from 2021-10-12T05:00

In any relationship, even really good relationships, there are hurts that can build up and need to be forgiven if you want to grow your relationship into that next level of emotional closeness a...

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162. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do If Your Partner Blames You When Things Go Wrong and Gaslights You from 2021-10-05T05:00

What do you do if your partner (or someone else you love) gaslights and blames you for things not going their way? You listen to today’s episode of Ask Dr. Abby! In this episode, a listener we’l...

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161. Forgiveness is a Choice: Interview with Dr. Robert Enright from 2021-09-28T05:00

Did you know that forgiveness is a choice? In this week’s podcast episode, I interviewed Dr. Robert Enright, the man Time Magazine calls “the Forgiveness Trailblazer” and author of the ...

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160. When You Feel Angry and Don't Know Why from 2021-09-21T19:45:40

Sometimes it’s clear why we’re feeling angry but a lot of the time, we react angrily to something and later think, “Why did I get so mad?” or maybe you’re noticing an undercurrent of anger and r...

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159. Got Family Stress? How to Not Get Triggered by Family from 2021-09-14T05:00

Are you dealing with family stress? Lashing out at your mom for that condescending thing she said? Feeling guilty that you’re avoiding your dad because he drives you crazy? Today you’re going to...

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158. How to Stop Overthinking and Let Things Go That Bother You from 2021-09-07T05:00

How do you let things go that bother you? How do you stop overthinking -- going round and round in your head? Maybe your partner hurt you or you’re worried about paying your bills or maybe you’r...

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157. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do When a Family Member is Creating a Toxic Environment from 2021-08-31T05:00

What do you do when an extended family member is creating a toxic atmosphere at family gatherings? How do you draw boundaries and feel seen and heard when dealing with toxic family relationships...

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156. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do When Your Partner Avoids Difficult Conversations from 2021-08-24T11:00

Are you finding it hard to trust and connect with your partner because they avoid difficult conversations or lie to you about how they're really feeling to avoid upsetting you? Then today's show...

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155. Overcoming Insecurity and Silencing Your Inner Critic from 2021-08-17T05:00

Feeling insecure and not good enough leads to you talking some serious smack to yourself, leaving you feeling anxious, crappy and even jealous. Research shows that your insecurity and all that d...

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154. Ask Dr. Abby: I Feel Unloved and Not "Good Enough." Is This a "Me" Problem or Is My Partner Causing It? from 2021-08-10T05:00

This week we’re doing an “Ask Dr. Abby” episode, where I respond to a question submitted by one of YOU! This week, someone wrote this: “Dear Dr. Abby, I’m feeling unloved and unappreciated or no...

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153. The 5-Step Process to Effective Communication in Any Relationship from 2021-08-03T12:00

Are you ready to improve your communication in all aspects of your life – with your partner, at work, with your family and friends? If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 ye...

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152. How to Know If They've Stopped Listening and You're Not Communicating Anymore from 2021-08-03T08:00

If you were sitting alone in a room and talking out loud, would you define that as communicating? No, I didn’t think so. But half the time you’re practically doing just that but calling it commu...

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151. The 3 Reasons Why You’ve Tried Communication Tools in the Past and They Haven’t Worked from 2021-08-03T03:00

You’ve tried all the communication tools: you’ve been to couples counseling, attended workshops, read books, listened to podcasts and watched countless YouTube videos to learn how to communicate...

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150. What to Do When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Something from 2021-07-13T11:00

Can’t stop obsessing about your ex or worrying about your bills? Or maybe you can’t stop beating yourself up over that “stupid” thing you said at work the other day? You’re not alone! Lots of us...

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149. Negative Friends and Family: 5 Steps to Deal with Emotionally Draining People from 2021-07-06T11:00

Is your mom always pointing out how you should have done something better? Do you share good news with your brother but then he poops all over it? Do you have a friend who says, “Let me just pla...

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148. Is Porn Ok in Your Relationship? from 2021-06-29T11:00

Today I’m answering your top questions when it comes to porn in relationships: Is it an addiction? Is it cheating? What does the research say about it? What do you say about it, Abby? And how th...

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147. Your People Pleasing Might Be a Trauma Response! from 2021-06-22T11:00

I’m sure you’ve heard of the fight/flight/freeze response, but did you know that there’s also a fourth type of response called fawn, which is like people pleasing in hyper drive? Today I’m break...

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146. Unhealed Trauma Might Be Ruining Your Relationship from 2021-06-15T11:00

When you hear the word "trauma" you might be thinking, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me. I’ve never been the victim of a violent crime or in a war.” But defining any psychological trauma can be h...

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146. You Might Not Realize You're Suffering from Unhealed Trauma from 2021-06-15T11:00

When you hear the word "trauma" you might be thinking, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me. I’ve never been the victim of a violent crime or in a war.” But defining any psychological trauma can be h...

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145. How to Deal with Toxic Positivity in All Your Relationships from 2021-06-08T11:00

Do you feel pressure from your partner to be happy or “get over it” when you’re struggling? Does your best friend dismiss or minimize your difficult feelings? When you’re hurt, does your mom say...

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144. One-Sided Friendships: The 5-Step Process to Loving or Leaving Them from 2021-06-01T11:00

Do you have a friend who you’re always there for but, when you’re in need, they ghost you or offer minimal energy or support? Basically, are you in a friendship where it’s always all about them?...

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143. Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? from 2021-05-25T11:00

Have you been wrestling over The Clash’s epic line, “Should I stay or should I go?” Yes, this indecision is bugging you! The waffling back and forth, the feeling of uncertainty is the worst. You...

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142. The 5 Ways Imposter Syndrome is Hurting All Your Relationships from 2021-05-18T11:00

When you get a compliment do you say things like: “I just got lucky;” “We did so well on that project because Jane was running it;” “I’m not really a good mom -- I’ve got a lot of help.” Then yo...

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141. How to Stop Rescuing and Start Supporting from 2021-05-11T11:00

Being a rescuer will keep you stuck, disconnected and dissatisfied in your relationships. Today you’ll learn my 4 simple steps to stop rescuing so you can start truly connecting and s...

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140. How to Own Your Shit and Stop Blaming Other People from 2021-05-04T11:00

Owning your shit is the key to a happy life because if you don’t own your shit, it’ll own you. If you’re blaming anyone else for anything in your life, it’s keeping you stuck. If you’...

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139. 3 Steps to Loving Detachment from 2021-04-27T11:00

If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love...

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138. The Easiest and Most Effective Way to Solve Any Problem from 2021-04-20T11:00

There you are in the problem. “I can’t pay these bills.” “My partner’s driving me crazy.” “I think my boss hates me.” “I need to lose weight.” “I’m lonely.” Because this is a big issu...

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137. The 5 Signs That You're Not Communicating from 2021-04-13T11:00

Talking to someone who’s not listening is like speaking to a drunk person. They can sort of hold a conversation with you, but they’re not really present or engaged, and they’re not go...

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136. Codependency, Counter-Dependency and Narcissism, Oh My! from 2021-04-06T11:00

“What the hell is counter-dependency?” That was literally my response when I was asked to cover this topic for the podcast. In my over 35 years in the field, I’d never heard the term ...

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135. FOMO: Why You Have it and How to Make it Stop from 2021-03-30T11:00

Do you get anxious or envious when you hear about your colleague’s fabulous vacation? Are you constantly overcommitting? Or maybe you get off social media feeling depressed? You, my f...

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134. Unsupportive Friends and Family: The 5 Things You Want to Do from 2021-03-23T11:00

It seems like the definition of friends and family would be “people who have your back, no matter what.” Sadly, that’s not often how it feels. Today you’ll learn the 4 reasons friends...

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133. Negative Self-Talk and Your Inner Critic Need to Go from 2021-03-16T11:00

Are you dealing with negative self-talk? Is your inner voice an a-hole? Do you routinely say things to yourself like: “Why can’t you ever speak up for yourself?” “Yeah, the boss said ...

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132. Emotional Affairs: What to Do and What to Avoid from 2021-03-09T12:00

An emotional affair can be even more damaging to a relationship than a physical one. There’s only so much emotional bandwidth each of us has every day and if your partner is expending...

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131. What to Do if Your Partner Threatens a Breakup or Divorce from 2021-03-02T12:00

What can or should you be doing if your partner is making threats and telling you they’re unhappy? Today I’m going to teach you the 4 things to look out for that might mean your partn...

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130. Self-Sabotage: What it is, Why You Do It, and How to Stop it from 2021-02-23T12:00

Self-sabotage can show up in any relationship: with our partner, boss, friend or, the one that hurts the most, in our relationship with ourselves! When you self-sabotage you’re holdin...

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129. Regret Sucks: The 3-Step Process to Make it Stop from 2021-02-16T06:00

Superman did it, but you can’t. The past is unchangeable. Period. End of story. The could’ve and should’ve clearly doesn’t help, but we do it anyway. What’s up with this destructive p...

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128. How to Stop Caring So Much About What Other People Think from 2021-02-09T06:00

Today I’m going to take you through the 5 most common ways caring too much about what other people think shows up in your life and my top 5 strategies for dealing with each type of si...

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127. Coping with Grief and Loss: From Breakups to Death to Losing a Job from 2021-02-02T06:00

Grief and loss aren’t just about someone dying. Sometimes you’ll experience these feelings due to something out of your control like being fired or someone breaking up with you. Other...

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126: Moving On After a Divorce or Break Up from 2021-01-26T06:00

You can’t stop thinking about him. She’s on your mind day and night. You’re trying to distract yourself, but all you can think about is them! Trying to move on after a divorce or brea...

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125: 3 Tips for Effective Communication in any Relationship from 2021-01-19T06:00

If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years to have great communication in both your business and personal life, it would be what I’m teaching you today. These 3...

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124: How to Listen Without Getting Defensive and Hurt from 2021-01-12T06:00

It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner, friend or a work colleague -- it’s so easy to get defensive and butt-hurt when they’re coming at you with something they’re upset about. When y...

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123: What Self-Care Really Means (It's Not What You Think) from 2021-01-05T06:00

Self-care is, above all else, paying attention to how you feel! You can exercise all day and get a mani/pedi every week but if you’re not feeling happier or calmer overall, what’s the...

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122: How to Deal with a Narcissist from 2020-12-22T06:00

Do you know someone who prioritizes their own needs over yours, with no apology? Maybe you feel like you can’t get their attention or feel like a priority? Do you often walk on eggshe...

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121: What to Do If you Don't Like Your Partner's Friends or Family from 2020-12-15T06:00

When you fall in love with someone you get more than just that person because they come with a whole community of friends and family. If you’re lucky, you find that these are all your...

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120: Dealing with Judgmental and Critical People this Holiday Season from 2020-12-08T06:00

I get asked a lot how to deal with judgmental and critical people. This is an issue for just about everyone, so today I’m coming at you with the 2 reasons people act this way and then...

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119: Tiny Habits: How Small Changes Get Big Results. An Interview with BJ Fogg from 2020-12-01T14:36:04

Join me and NY Times Best Selling author, BJ Fogg, who talks about his amazing book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. Today you're going to learn the simple but ...

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118: How to Get Grounded and Balanced this Holiday Season from 2020-11-24T16:03:08

The holidays are a time when many people throw their rules aside and end up with lots of overdoing: too much food, too much booze or drugs, putting mone...

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117: What to Do When Someone You Love is Struggling with Drugs and Alcohol from 2020-11-17T06:00

Figuring out how to deal with someone who’s struggling with drugs and alcohol is a topic for any time of year, but if someone you know seems to have a p...

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116: Top 5 Coping Skills to Deal with Family Driving You Crazy During the Holidays from 2020-11-10T13:35:23

Today I’m talking about the five ways your family is likely going to drive you crazy this holiday season along with my top five tips for battling back so you can have a joyful, sane a...

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115: 3 Ways to Deal with Loneliness and Isolation during the COVID Holidays and Beyond from 2020-11-03T06:00

Feeling lonely sucks! If you’re listening, it means you’ve likely experienced the pain of feeling lonely or isolated at some point in your life. Social connection is imperative for hu...

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114: The Simple Hack to Stop Your Negative Thoughts All Day from 2020-10-27T05:00

Here we are in our last week of Goodbye Negative Thinking Month! For the last 2 weeks, I’ve been laying out the pillars of the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity: First, we discussed t...

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113: The Secret to Positive Thinking in All Your Relationships from 2020-10-20T05:00

When it comes to positive thinking you’ve likely got two big problems that I’m going to help you solve today: 1) You’re in a negative space too often and that’s affecting your relatio...

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112: Finally Stop Having Negative Thoughts from 2020-10-13T05:00

Do you have negative thoughts that you just can’t seem to stop thinking? If you’ve tried tools to stop negative thoughts and you haven’t been successful, then this episode is for you....

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111: The Real Reason You Have Negative Thoughts and 2 Things You Can Do About It from 2020-10-06T05:00

I’m devoting this whole month to how to be happy now. I'll talk about how to stop negative thinking, how to start positive thinking, how to avoid the mistakes you’ve likely made in th...

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110. How to Stop Being Jealous in a Relationship from 2020-09-29T05:00

Last week I talked about what to do if your partner is jealous and this week I’m focusing on you! Today I’m covering everything you ever wanted to know about why you’re jealous but we...

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109: What to Do if Your Partner is Jealous from 2020-09-22T05:00

Having a jealous partner sucks. And I don’t just mean a partner who thinks you’re cheating. I’m also talking about a partner who isn’t supportive of your wins or who tries to diminish...

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108: Pandemic Burnout: How to Stay Calm and Focused from 2020-09-15T05:00

Do you notice that you’re feeling more tired or fatigued these days? Maybe you’re having difficulty concentrating or find yourself more impatient than usual? It might be that you just...

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107: Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do if You and Your Partner Want Different Things in Bed from 2020-09-08T05:00

Does your partner want different things in the bedroom than you? Today I'm coming at you with my 3-step process for getting on the same page in the bedroom, and beyond.

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106: What to Do if My Partner is Depressed (and How to Know if They're Just Sad) from 2020-09-01T14:00:20

Depression is more common than you may think! According to the World Health Organization, more than 264 million people worldwide experience depression. There are many different types ...

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105: What to Do When the Honeymoon Phase Ends in Your Relationship from 2020-08-25T05:00

What to do when that honeymoon phase ends in your relationship? I’ve got your answer: Be happy because it means you’ve moved on to better things! The honeymoon phase, where everything...

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104: How to Fight Fair: The 3 Rules for Having an Effective Argument from 2020-08-18T05:00

Today I’m going to teach you how to have a fair fight with anyone, whether it’s a partner, coworker or friend. I'll share the reason why tools have failed in the past (there’s a secre...

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103: Ask Dr. Abby: My Partner Doesn't Listen to Me from 2020-08-11T05:00

Does someone complain to you about something and then, when you give them ideas and solutions, do they shoot you down? Today I’m going to tell you why that happens and the simple but ...

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102 Why Sleep is the Secret to Great Relationships from 2020-08-04T05:00

Your day doesn’t start when you turn off your alarm in the morning. Your day starts when you set the alarm the night before. Getting your butt to bed at a reasonable hour and then get...

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101 The 3 Best Tools to Use in Every Relationship from 2020-07-28T05:00

I have long believed that the tools I teach apply to any and all relationships. It’s time to simplify your life and focus on a few tools that you’ll use everywhere. No more worrying, ...

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100 How to Create Resilient Relationships So You Can Feel Ease, Joy and Connection from 2020-07-20T13:45:04

Today you'll learn one of the foundations of not only a happy, connected relationship, but of a happy, fulfilled life: resilience! The good news is that resilience is a skill you can learn. Peop...

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099 How to Deal with Passive Aggressive People from 2020-07-14T05:00

Whether it’s a backhanded compliment, a guilt trip, martyrdom, or that sarcastic comment, it’s always annoying and frustrating to deal with someone who’s being passive aggressive. My ...

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098 How Do You Build a Healthy Relationship? from 2020-07-07T05:00

How do you build a healthy relationship? It's all about your mindset. In today's "Ask Dr. Abby" segment, I'm going to answer this question and give you my three best tips for creating...

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097 How to Identify Your Relationship Blindspots from 2020-06-30T05:00

If you look up blind spot in the dictionary it says, “An area in which your view is obstructed.” The problem with blind spots in our relationships is that they stop us from exhibiting...

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096 My Partner Won't Listen to Me! from 2020-06-23T05:00

Tired of saying the same thing to your partner over and over? Does it feel like your partner isn't listening to you? Today I'm going to talk about what's driving all this misunderstan...

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095 My Partner Is Driving Me Crazy in Quarantine! from 2020-06-16T05:00

If you’re a human being and living with your partner, there’s a high likelihood that you’ve come close to killing ...

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094 What to Do if You're Being Treated Unfairly from 2020-06-09T05:00

Have you got a coworker who undermines you, but your boss doesn’t see it and thinks your coworker is the bees knees? Or maybe you’ve got a sibling who cuts you down and “teases” you a...

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093 How Emotional Labor is Killing Your Relationship and What to Do About It from 2020-06-02T05:00

“Emotional labor” refers to all the pieces we need to think about in running a family, such as making meals, cleaning, shopping, childcare, and overall love and support. In today’s ep...

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092 How to Say "No" and Stick to It from 2020-05-26T14:00:18

"Are you feeling resentful or exhausted? Is there a fair amount of passive aggressive behavior between you and your partner (or between you and anyone else)? Then you might not be saying “no” en...

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091 How to Stay Sane When the World is Going Crazy from 2020-04-14T05:00

Tune in today to learn about the two main things you have to do if you want to stay sane while the world is going crazy.

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090 Best Relationship Advice: 5 Key Philosophies from 2020-04-06T15:30:32

This is round two in my “Best Relationship Advice” series. Today, I’m going to teach you the five best philosophies or mindsets to have. These are the tried-and-true ways of thinking ...

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089 How to Deal with People Who Get on Your Last Nerve from 2020-03-31T05:00

Do you have that person who's just bugging the you-know-what out of you? Well, be bothered no more! Today I’m coming at you with my top 5 tips for dealing with those people who get un...

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088 How to Apologize for Real! (And Why It's So Hard) from 2020-03-24T05:00

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to apologize? Have you ever apologized and had the other person tell you it was no good? Then today's show is for you! I'll answer all your que...

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087 What to Do if Your Partner Is Having a Midlife Crisis from 2020-03-17T05:00

Is your partner having a midlife crisis or are they just depressed? What can you do to really help them get out of their struggle and feel happy and sane? Today, I'll outline all you ...

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086 Best Relationship Advice: 5 Quick Wins from 2020-03-10T03:59

My goal with this first episode in my Best Relationship Advice series is to give you tips for quick wins that you can use right now to see positive results in a short amount of time.

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085 Make Your Long Distance Relationship Great from 2020-03-03T13:46:17

Long distance relationships can actually be happier than geographically close ones but you've got to have the right tools. In today's show I'll lay out my top 8 do's and don'ts of hav...

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084 Shame: The Silent Killer in Relationships from 2020-02-25T05:00

Shame is amazingly destructive and is eating at the foundation of your relationship in ways you likely don't realize. It's affecting everything from your sex life to your emotional cl...

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083 Is Self-Compassion the Secret to a Happy Relationship? from 2020-02-18T14:35:47

This week we’re going to talk about self-compassion. I’m going to be basing all this on the work of the Queen of self-compassion, Kristin Neff. We'll discuss the components of self-co...

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082 8 Ways to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem from 2020-02-10T15:07:47

We all want to feel better about ourselves. We want to feel confident about our way in the world and let go of the negative self-talk, anxiety, and self-consciousness. Today I'll teac...

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081 Are You Falling Into the Snuggie Trap? from 2020-02-04T00:41:01

Belief Snuggies are comforting in the moment. You wrap yourself up in them and hunker down, blissfully burrowing in to a world where you’re right but no...

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080 Eight Rules for Giving Great Feedback from 2020-01-28T14:06:41

If you have to give your partner (or anyone) feedback, there are some guidelines you’ll need to follow if you want that person to actually listen and (gasp!) maybe even make the changes you’re aski...

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079 Your Expectations Are Making You Unhappy from 2020-01-20T20:15:34

I’m going to tell you about the 4 key mistakes people make when it comes to expectations, and what you want to do instead so you can have a happy, connected relationship.

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078 You’ve Got to Have High Standards and Low Expectations from 2020-01-14T14:40:17

I'm known for saying you need to keep your standards high and your expectations low. Sadly, most people have this reversed with low standards and high expectations and that's why they're feeling re...

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077 How to Get Out of Negative Thinking from 2020-01-06T14:07

Negative thinking sucks! Today I'm going to teach you

-The four main reasons you get stuck in negative thoughts
-The three ways you’re likely coping with negative feelings that don’t w...

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076 Getting Out of the Roommate Rut from 2019-12-31T15:07:01

Are you and your partner trapped in the roommate rut with average or no sex happening? Harvard-trained sex educator Candice Smith joins me on today's broadcast and shares the four mistakes you're l...

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075 The Three Steps to Thrive through the Holidays (Even if You See Your Family) from 2019-12-17T11:00

Ready to stop just surviving through the holidays? Today I share my three-tiered, easy to use system for thriving through the holidays!

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074 Gratitude is a Gateway Drug from 2019-12-10T13:58:56

All of the things that make up a happy life are skills: effective communication, listening and happiness are all skills. Gratitude is a skill too. Today I'm talking about all things gratitude. What...

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073 Why Appreciation is Different Than Gratitude from 2019-12-03T14:13:52

I’ve been noticing for a while now that people use the terms gratitude and appreciation interchangeably and they’re not. Today I’m going to break down the differences, and I’m going to share my top...

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072 If You Want to Communicate, You’ve Got to Listen First from 2019-11-25T14:11:50

Great communication starts with great listening. There are five steps to being a great listener. Are you doing all of them?

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071 Great Communication is All About Timing from 2019-11-18T19:31:58

Are you having a delayed reaction or a delayed response after a disagreement? One leads to love and closeness and one leads to further disconnection and distance so it's important that you figure o...

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070 Two Strategies You Need to Communicate Effectively from 2019-11-12T18:25

Today's episode is bringing you two solid strategies to help you communicate effectively. Are you ready for more fulfilling, CALM, and happy relationships? Then listen in now!

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069 It’s Time to Up Your Communication Game from 2019-11-05T05:01

No one tells you this, but aligning your conscious and unconscious minds is at the core of effective communication. Are you ready to take the Align Your Mind Challenge? Learn all about it in this w...

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068 How to Stop Being Distracted from 2019-10-29T04:01

The most valuable thing in your life is your attention. Your ability to direct your attention where you want it, when you want to is at the very core of a happy, satisfied life. Today I'm going to ...

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067 Four Ways to Be More Self-Aware from 2019-10-22T04:01

Self-aware people are more fulfilled, have stronger relationships, are more creative, more confident and better communicators. The problem is that most of us think we're self-aware but we're not! T...

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066 How to Make Mindfulness a Habit from 2019-10-15T04:01

Do you forget to be mindful? It's like some evil catch-22. If you were more mindful, you'd remember to be mindful…but how do you get remember to be mindful to begin with?! Today I'll teach you how ...

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065 Distraction is the Termites Eating at the Foundation of Your Relationship from 2019-10-08T04:01

The majority of your arguments, misunderstandings and bad moods are because your distracted. It's time to start being mindful so you can start connecting and feeling happy. Learn how to get off aut...

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064 How 5 Minutes of Mindfulness a Day Can Make Your Relationship Great! from 2019-10-01T04:01

This is month 2 of my Back to Relationships Basics Series. This month we're going to focus on mindfulness in your relationship because it's a game changer! Once you've mastered this, you'll be crea...

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063 Being Happy for Your Partner = A Happy Relationship from 2019-09-24T04:01

When your partner shares something great that happened, do you ever get resentful or jealous? Do you have trouble being happy for your partner's good fortune for whatever reason? Then today's show ...

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062 Relationships Aren't Fair  from 2019-09-17T04:01

Keeping score in your relationship doesn't work because equal time doesn’t mean equal value. Today I’m going to teach you a new way to look at your relationship so you can start putting your focus ...

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061 Keeping Score Stops You From Connecting from 2019-09-10T04:01

Keeping score in your relationship is setting you up to lose. Listing all the things you do and noting all the things your partner is (or isn't) doing is a cancer eating at your connection. Tune in...

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060 The Real Problem in Your Relationship from 2019-09-03T04:01

When couples come in my office they almost always say that their problem is communication. I need to tell them that they're wrong! If you want to know what the real issue is that's undermining your...

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059 How to Manage Money in Every Stage of Your Relationship from 2019-08-27T04:01

How you need to think about and manage money is different in every stage of your relationship. Today I'm interviewing wealth and money expert, Lisa Linfield who will take you from single to retirem...

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058 How the Law of Attraction Works in Your Relationship from 2019-08-20T04:01

You've heard a lot about the law of attraction and it can feel like woo woo bunk if you don't understand the real science behind it. In today's broadcast I'll teach how the law of attraction really...

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057 Change Your Feelings with This One Easy Tool from 2019-08-13T04:01

You feel the way you think. If you want to change those feelings, you've got to change your thinking first. I've been using this simple tool for a very long time and it never fails to completely ch...

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056 Feng Shui Your Relationship with Patricia Lohan from 2019-08-06T04:01

Create abundance and harmony in your relationship by employing some simple and meaningful Feng Shui tools and strategies! Join me on today's podcast as I interview Feng Shui master, Patricia Lohan,...

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055 Complaining is as Bad for You as Bacon from 2019-07-30T04:01

There's some research that says we complain once in every dialogue we have! Yikes! If you're sick of complaining (your own or someone else's) then today's show is for you! Learn why complaining fee...

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054 How to Figure Out the Real Cause of a Problem from 2019-07-23T04:01

Too often we're focused on the wrong thing in our relationships. Something's bugging us and we think it's a communication problem when it's actually a competition issue. It's important to be able t...

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053 Getting Your Sexy Back in the Kitchen with Kiele Jael from 2019-07-09T04:01

Today is all about how to get your sexy back in the kitchen (and with food) with my guest, Kiele Jaele.

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052 If You Want Your Partner to Change, Do This. from 2019-07-02T04:01

In today's episode you'll learn all about how to accept your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be. The critical difference between loving your partner and accepting your partner an...

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051 The 5 Step Formula for Getting to Consensus from 2019-06-25T04:01

Consensus decision-making is a key to leaving behind resentful compromises and, instead, creating shared decisions you can both get behind 100%!

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050 Male/Female Understanding: An Interview with Robert Kandell from 2019-06-18T04:01

In today's episode I interview Robert Kandell, author of the best-selling book: Unhidden: a Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Robert takes Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus to the n...

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049 Effective Strategies for Dealing with Difficult Relationships from 2019-06-11T04:01

Do you have a coworker, friend, boss or family member who never seems to listen to you? Or maybe they're just so difficult to deal with that you dread your interactions? In today's podcast you'll l...

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048 How Attached are You to Your Partner? from 2019-06-04T04:01

How you "attached" to your caregivers as a little kid affects how you relate in your adult relationships. In this episode you'll learn how to identify your own attachment style, how it's affecting ...

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047 How to Make Your Partner Feel Like a Priority from 2019-05-28T04:01

Does your partner tell you they don't feel like a priority even though you feel like you make them one all the time? Today you'll learn the mistakes people make when they try to show their partner ...

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046 How to Bring Spirituality to Your Relationship with TJ Woodward from 2019-05-21T04:01

We're not talking about religion today, but how to have a spiritual connection to yourself and your partner. Bringing spirituality into your relationship creates a space for trust, healing and conn...

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045 How to be Heard in Your Relationship from 2019-05-14T04:01

Are you frustrated because you don't feel heard in your relationship? In today's episode I'll explain my 5-step process for effective listening so you can be understood and heard in your relationship.

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044 Relationship ESP: A Conversation with Ken Blackman from 2019-05-07T04:01

Don't you wish you could read your partner's mind? In today's episode, I interview Ken Blackman who is a sex and relationship expert who has worked with hundreds of couples from San Francisco to Pa...

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043 The Secret to Changing (Relationship) Habits from 2019-04-30T04:01

Relationships are made up of habits. You've got negative ones and positive ones, and most of them have been created unconsciously. In today's episode, you'll learn how to consciously create relatio...

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042 Launching Your Twentysomething with Tess Brigham from 2019-04-23T04:01

Are you struggling with your young adult leaving the house? In today's episode, twentysomething strategist, Tess Brigham, will give you the information and tools you need to get your kid off your ...

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041 What Anxiety Really is and How to Stop It from 2019-04-16T06:01

Are you using the wrong techniques to deal with your anxiety? Anxiety and stress are two different things so techniques that work for stress, don't always work for anxiety. Today you'll learn the b...

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040 How to Stop Stress from Hurting Your Relationship from 2019-04-09T06:01

Everyone talks about how stress is a huge problem. In today's broadcast I'm going to teach how some stress can actually help your relationship and your connection. Then, I'm going to give you my to...

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039 The 8 Habits of Happy and Successful Couples from 2019-04-02T06:01

Focus on making these eight things a habit and watch your relationship grow into a happy, successful, love machine!

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038 You've Got to Love Yourself First if You Want a Great Relationship Interview with Anastasia Frank from 2019-03-26T05:01

I say all the time that you can't fully love someone else if you don't love yourself first. Todays' guest, Anastasia Frank, will teach you the four pillars of self love and one big, take-a-way stra...

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037 What to Do and Not Do if Your Partner Cheats from 2019-03-19T05:01

Infidelity in a relationship is never easy, but there are some things you can do (and not do) to make sure you don't create more damage in the relationship. If you're looking for a road to recovery...

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036 Can I Ever Trust my Partner Again if They Cheated? from 2019-03-12T05:01

Cheating is something I get a lot of questions about. In today's episode we'll talk about what constitutes cheating and the do's and don't's of what to do if your partner has cheated.

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035 Are You Being Triggered in Your Relationship? from 2019-03-05T06:01

Walk by a bakery and smell cinnamon and you might be triggered to want something sweet. Walk into your house after a long day and see your partner and you might be triggered to feel defenisve or re...

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034 Safe to Love Again: Interview with Gary Salyer from 2019-02-26T06:01

Are you ready to rewrite the rules of love in your brain? In today's podcast, I interview Relationship Mentor, Gary Salyer, and discuss his new book, "Safe to Love Again."

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033 Finding the Spark Again (or for the first time) from 2019-02-19T06:01

What if I told you that research has shown that you do not have to fall out of love after years of togetherness? Learn all about what it takes to get that spark back in your relationship on today'...

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032 No More Date Nights from 2019-02-12T06:01

Yeah, I said it. Date nights often end up in disaster for a reason. Instead, I want you to focus on micro-connections. Learn my top tips in today's broadcast.

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