Podcasts by Riffing On Realness™
Welcome to the Riffing on Realness™ podcast.
I’m Carla Royal, a mindset and performance coach working with high achieving entrepreneurs, and with me is Jennifer
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Overcoming Perfectionism, Part 2 from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.180031
Here's what we explore
- mistakes as mis-takes like in the movies
- how mistakes are learning opportunities
- how putting out something imperfect helps you see and move clos... Listen
Dealing with Existential Dread from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.174392
As we ranged around the topic of dealing with existential dread here's what we got curious about:
- is it safe to be real and vulnerable at this time or should we keep our metaphorical ... Listen
Dealing with Reactivity from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.159827
Here’s what we explored:
- there’s a LOT going on in the world and at some level, we’re using up mental energy just trying to make sense of a world that is changing fast
- acknowl... Listen
Social Media and Stress from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.147182
Here’s what we explored:-
- social media can be compelling and really exciting for business owners
- Carla and a client came up with an experiment to turn the phone off 6 pm-9 pm<... Listen
Are We Too Serious? from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.133662
Here’s what we explored:
- ultra seriousness feels heavy, sometimes anxious, guilty, and ashamed
- in contrast, when someone gives a message about a serious issue from a light pla... Listen
Focus, Distraction, and Those Difficult People from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.095982
Here’s what we explored:
- self-awareness is a superpower. It is often enough, simply to notice what's going on in your mind.
- does it have to take as long to calm down as it did... Listen
Being in Limbo from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.086222
Here’s what we explored:
- we are horrible at predicting the future
- we can make up very negative stories about the future
- those stories can disturb and discombobulate us... Listen
Looking Outside Yourself for Belonging Can Drive Loneliness from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.071969
Here’s what we explored:
- why do we all want to belong?
- we want to feel safe, accepted, and secure
- the feeling of aloneness can be acute and seem unbearable
- we ... Listen
Simplicity | An Inside Job from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.068289
Here’s what we explored:
- when people try and fix us or our problems it's not helpful, it can be disempowering
- what about not offering solutions to others? Listen
Celebration isn't Just for Special Occasions from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.061510
Here’s what we explored:
- often we celebrate the big events but not our successes along the way
- are we rushing on to the next thing, without taking time to celebrate?
- w... Listen
Riffing on Freedom from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.057508
Here’s what we explored:
- we have lots of ideas about where freedom lies
- we may think lots of money would give us freedom
- Carla notices financially highly successful pe... Listen
Interruptions Happen | How to Flow Through Them from 2023-12-12T20:03:42.040100
Here’s what we explored:
- it's interesting to notice how we make up stories about interruptions
- when we are quick to judge others and ourselves we often get reactive
- ou... Listen
Helping Others and Why It's Tricky from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.997744
Here’s what we explored:
- when we listen for our own wisdom around problems, we get helpful fresh ideas that may include asking someone for help
- if we identify help we need and... Listen
Getting Real Around Emotions from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.991297
Here’s what we explored:
- Feeling all kinds of emotions at the same time and how that doesn’t need to be a problem
- We can feel curious and terrified, happy and sad
- simp... Listen
Balance, Is it Really What We are all Looking For? from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.984998
Tune in to hear more about:
-We will ALL have imbalance in our lives
-We often learn through imbalance or contrast
-Balance is not what we think it is…listen for how we re-defi...
ListenThe Bad Reputation of Negative Emotions from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.972116
Highlights from this episode include:
-Negative emotions being banned by our culture as something that needs to be bypassed
-The wisdom of our emotions and what they have to offer us...
ListenBoundaries…Where to draw the line from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.963281
Highlights from this episode include:
-The perils of impenetrable boundaries
-The overwhelm that comes with no boundaries
-Being the ‘Yes’ person
-Keeping a wide-open hea...
ListenThe Negative Side of Positive Thinking from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.954900
Highlights from this hot episode include:
-Why we must experience hard emotions and give them the due
-Bad thoughts do not always act like a magnet to bring more stuff
-Where t...
ListenCommitment Over Convenience from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.937986
Listen for theses truth bombs:
-The one universal constant of decision making
-Why it's easy to make commitments but hard to follow them through
-Even making a b...
Unsettled Times and Transitions from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.896476
Listen for these pearls of wisdom:
- The perils of perfectionism
- Recognizing where we are on the timeline.
- Knowing the filters through which we are viewing the world at ... Listen
Resolutions Revisited from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.892718
Listen for these thought bombs:
- The importance of bustling systems around the things we choose to change
- Why willpower alone is not enough.
- The power of aggregating an... Listen
Nothing to Lose from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.884051
Epiphanies include:
- The illusions of safety
- Where these illusions come from
- The meaning of life and other questions
- How we create meaning
- The stories... Listen
Dealing with the Doldrums from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.869214
- Right and left-brained thinking and how it impacts our interest and focus
- The value of being grounded in the world
- How assessments and tools can help us better understand ou... Listen
Uncertainty and Self Doubt from 2023-12-12T20:03:41.864325
Listen for These Key Points:
- cultivating your own internal compass
- exploring what to do when we feel our compass needs recalibrating
- the value of staying in the presen... Listen
The New Work World from 2022-06-21T09:00
- How less oversight impacts creativity….and distraction
- Learning how our messages can be translated to a broader audience
- Creating connection in an online world
- The n... Listen
Anger, Betrayal, Boundaries from 2022-05-24T09:00
Listen for these powerful truth bombs:
- When we can go overboard and take TOO much responsibility for our role in a situation
- How it's appropriate to place ang... Listen
Integrity and Wholeness from 2022-05-10T04:00
Listen for these insights:
- The win win, the win lose, and the lose lose
- Why integrity is not just about telling the truth or being honest
- What do we do when challenged... Listen
Banning Banishment from 2022-04-26T09:00
Listen for these insights:
- How when we feel the need to banish we can pattern interrupt and open instead of contract and defend
- When a small ‘prayer’ can help
- Why we n... Listen
Next Steps Are Always There… When We Are from 2022-04-12T09:00
Listen for these discoveries and insights:
- Why it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a sick society
- How we are tricked into thinking we always have to know the a... Listen
Stuck!... But Are You? from 2022-03-29T09:30
Listen for expansion on these thoughts:
- The gifts of the dark night of the soul
- How watching others struggle is sometimes more difficult than our own struggle
- How do ... Listen
Grinding it Out from 2022-03-15T09:30
Listen for these ah-has and thought nuggets:
- Becoming physically aware of our bodies inability to grind in perpetuity
- The awareness required to listen
The Gifts of Discipline and Consistency from 2022-02-15T10:30
This week's highlights and wisdom snacks include:
- Exploring the definitions and trigger around discipline
- Harnessing the power of how we are naturally wired to take action Listen
Resolutions Dos and Dont's from 2022-01-25T10:00
Keep your ears open for these wisdom snacks:
- The stats on resolutions
- The place we should engineer our resolutions from
- Where the heart of our goals comes from Listen
Hiding... It's a Thing from 2022-01-18T10:00
Listen for these elements:
- The damage that comes from living in fear
- Reasons why we withhold and hide
- Times when it's good to share and times when it’s not
- ... Listen
The Perils of Pleasing from 2022-01-11T10:00
Wisdom nuggets to keep your ears open for:
- Why it's easier to people please
- The difference between ‘niceness’ and ‘kindness’
- How it can feel like it’s easier to be p... Listen
The 4th Quarter Grind from 2021-11-30T10:00
Featured points to listen for and ponder:
- Why it is important to reflect on the year that was and plan for what is to come
- The fear associated with making cha... Listen
The Joys and Perils of Holidays from 2021-11-23T05:00
Sparkley highlights include:
-Non-traditional ways to explore the holiday season
-Giving ourselves permission to do it ‘our way’ and create new traditions that honor ourselves first....
ListenGoing Against the Grain with Our Goals from 2021-11-16T10:00
Listen for these truth bombs and wisdom nuggets:
-Sometimes it’s simply about recalibration of our purpose and our souls work
-Why sometimes everything needs to fall...
ListenExpectations vs Agreements (Part 2 to Difficult Conversations Episode) from 2021-10-26T09:00
Highlights from this episode include:
-The difference between agreements and expectations
-How one makes us feel over the other
-Taking the ‘personal’ out of it
-Clean ob...
ListenDifficult Conversations…The Whats, Whys, Hows, and Whos from 2021-10-19T09:00
Highlights in the episode:
-Why arguing the opposing point of view is so valuable
-Seeking to understand before being understood
-The value of perspectives outside our own
<... ListenThe Seats on Your Bus from 2021-10-12T09:00
Highlights in the episode:
-Why arguing the opposing point of view is so valuable
-Seeking to understand before being understood
-The value of perspectives outside our own
<... ListenControl Enthusiasts and Perfectionists….Say I from 2021-09-28T09:00
In this episode you will find:
-The roles that faith, allowing and trusting play in overcoming perfectionism and control
-How the expectations of the outer world influence our need f...
ListenComparison Gremlins And Keeping Up With The Jones’ from 2021-09-21T09:00
Listen for these gems of wisdom and guidance:
-The pain of comparison
-The role social media plays
-Living as a human doing vs human being
-The richness of your interior ...
ListenStealing Normal from 2021-09-14T09:00
Listen for these gold nuggets:
-The gifts of chaos
-Why interruptions are the way of life and change is the only universal constant
-How we can ‘begin again’ when we lose track...
ListenLimbo, Impermanence and Uncertainty,… Oh my! (Swearing alert) from 2021-08-31T09:00
Some highlights worth listening for:
-perfectionism and the role it plays in making limbo harder
-Are you holding on too tightly to the wrong things for stability during these times?...
ListenDecluttering Inside and Out from 2021-05-25T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- notice what habitually clutters your headspace, eg worry
- notice what else you gather or hoard in your life or business, eg courses
- holding on ... Listen
Emotions Showing Up In Disguise from 2021-05-11T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- check out what stories you're running about the experience you're having
- in the midst of reactivity, if we can see we are riled up, space can open up ... Listen
The Importance of Recalibration from 2021-04-27T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- how fun it is to just riff and dive in
- making space to wonder what's new and fresh rather than getting stuck in stale habits of mind
- we can no... Listen
Boundaries: The How and Why of Boundaries (without angst) from 2021-04-20T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- Carla shares how for her, a trauma response can be to isolate, to stay away from anything that might trigger a trauma response
- Carla shares she has a ... Listen
When Your Boat Sinks | Life Doesn't Go as Planned from 2021-04-13T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- Carla tells the story of her little, much-loved boat, called Freida, which recently sank and has to be scrapped
- she reflects on the emotions she felt ... Listen
Procrastination: What Can We See with Fresh Eyes? from 2021-03-30T15:03:42
Here’s what we explored:
- what if procrastination isn't a problem?
- what if, instead, it's a superpower!
- what if in fact, you need to race the clock to get inspired and ... Listen
Getting Vulnerable: Dazed and Confused from 2021-03-23T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- when we feel embarrassed we can get dazed and confused because we feel out of control
- when we feel very exposed our primitive brain can get triggered ... Listen
How Good Can it Get from 2021-03-16T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- we can let future worries steal current happiness
- the other shoe IS going to drop and we can deal with that when it happens
- Carla has noticed ... Listen
Getting Playful Amid Chaos from 2021-02-23T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- what about having a little bit of fun every day?
- sometimes there can be a kind of pride around being 'sophisticated'
- silliness can feel like b... Listen
Simplicity 2: Enjoying What We Have from 2021-02-16T13:41:38
Here’s what we explored:
- high achievers can feel excited to have certain things eg the right watch
- but also there's a pressure to live in certain places, wear the right things... Listen
Getting Real Around Money from 2021-01-26T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- when we get curious we may notice hidden biases around money: judgement towards those with lots of money and/or judgement towards those without money
- ... Listen
Restoration and Renewal from 2021-01-19T10:00
Here's what we explored:
- is the New Year a time for something other than personal goals and resolutions?
- recognising the gift of presence: to ourselves, our clients, and our l... Listen
What if How We Feel Doesn't Matter? from 2021-01-12T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- we share an understanding that how we feel is not a reliable indicator of who we are, it's just how we feel... Listen
Shutting Down and Heart Tenderness from 2020-12-22T10:00
Here’s what we explored:-
- noticing where our hearts are hard: 'how can people do that? how can people say that?
- hard hearts tend to create judgment
- we all have the cap... Listen
Getting Real Around Depression and Emotions from 2020-12-15T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- noticing that teachers who are humble, light-hearted, and really grounded, you can experience a deep heart to heart connection without the usual personal deta... Listen
Is Radical Joy More Powerful Than Seriousness? from 2020-11-24T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- the brain can't focus on the problem and solution at the same time
- in the same way, when we get so so serious, we can't see any solutions, only proble... Listen
Divisiveness, Anger, Grief, What's on the Other Side? from 2020-11-17T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- internal and external division - to recognise the division within and be curious to fully feel that
- notice a movement from stress in the head to feeli... Listen
Staying Out of Drama from 2020-11-10T10:00
Here’s what we explored:
- noticing how personal drama is also rearing up at this time of big drama on the US and European stage
- what's the alternative to joining the fray? ... Listen
Navigating the Unknown from 2020-10-27T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- has your day ever really gone to plan? Aren't interruptions the norm?
- woman plans God laughs
- Juliet shares her own sense of melancholy being s... Listen
Showing Up When Feeling Bad from 2020-10-20T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- Carla has suffered with chronic pain much of her life
- there was a time when, if she felt unwell she would cancel appointments
- even though she ... Listen
Dealing with Exhaustion from 2020-10-13T09:00
Here’s what we explored:
- we can get so busy we miss the small miracles
- urgency can become a habit. It is a state of mind
- whatever state of mind you're in, that will be... Listen
Dealing with Stress and Anxiety from 2020-09-29T09:00:03
- it takes a lot of energy to keep the masks in place
- we are so creative in the ways we berate ourselves and in that, we can see the power of the mind
- curiosity is the polar o... Listen
Creativity: The Hidden Cost of Dogma&Rigidity from 2020-09-22T09:00:06
Here's what we got curious about with Carla's example of having dear friends who you know to be kind, loving generous people, wanting to vote for a candidate you find intolerable:-
- si... Listen
Creativity 101 from 2020-09-15T09:00:05
- Carla gets curious because for her, music, the area where she has the most talent is the area she feels the most vulnerable and so she holds back and it feels so different
- photograp... Listen
Overcoming Perfectionism, Part 1 from 2020-08-27T17:32:48
As we ranged around the topic of overcoming perfectionism here's what we discovered:-
- people are hungry for connection; it's far more important than perfection
- perfection is i... Listen