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The Sex and Psychology Podcast is the sex ed you never got in school—and won’t find anywhere else. Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller takes you on a journey through the psychology of sex and relationships, offering practical tips along the way that can help you take your intimate life to the next level. Learn more on Dr. Lehmiller’s blog at sexandpsychology.com
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Episode 249: What Today’s Parents Need To Know About Teens And Sex from 2023-12-12T12:30:01
The sexual landscape for teens has shifted dramatically over the last two decades. Among the more notable changes we’ve seen are that rough sex is on the rise, and teens are increasingly exploring ...
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Episode 248: Maintaining Sexual Privacy in the Information Age from 2023-12-08T12:30:19
In the Information Age, keeping our private lives private is becoming harder and harder to do. For example, our online searches and chats are leaving digital traces, while our phones (and even our ...
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Episode 247: Reproductive Surveillance in the Post-Roe World from 2023-12-05T12:00:55
In 2022, the United States Supreme Court reversed a half-century old ruling that had legalized abortion in this country. Since then, reproductive healthcare has become more difficult to access in c...
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Episode 246: The Disappearance of Shere Hite from 2023-12-01T13:00:58
In the previous episode, we explored the life and times of Shere Hite, who published what is perhaps the bestselling non-fiction book about sex ever to hit the market. Despite selling 50 million co...
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Episode 245: The Pioneering Female Sex Researcher That Time Forgot from 2023-11-28T12:30:20
There are a lot of hidden figures in the history of sex research who made important contributions to the field, but who are frequently forgotten. One of them is Listen
Episode 244: The Future of Sex Toys from 2023-11-24T13:00
What does the future hold when it comes to sex toys? Artificial intelligence, virtual reality, and robotics are just a few of the many emerging technologies that are likely to become an increasingl...
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Episode 243: 5 Ways Sex Toys Can Revolutionize Your Sex Life from 2023-11-21T13:30:02
If you’re looking to take your sex life to the next level, something you might want to think about it is trying more sex toys! Sex toys have the potential to make sex, both solo and partnered, even...
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Episode 242: How To Have The Hottest Sex Ever from 2023-11-17T12:30:19
How can I have better, hotter sex? This is a super common question people have about their intimate lives, so that’s what we’re going to be talking about today. In this episode, we’re going to walk...
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Episode 241: How To Have Shameless Sex from 2023-11-14T12:30:01
This week on the show, I have a special treat for you: I’m speaking with the co-hosts of the Shameless Sex Podcast, which is one of the most-listened to ...
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Episode 240: The Truth About Masturbation (Essential Listen) from 2023-11-10T12:30:06
It’s November again, which means that the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November” is back in full force. This challenge originated on Reddit several years back and it seems to spread...
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Episode 239: Kinky In The Digital Age from 2023-11-07T06:45:44
Ever since people started having sex, they had kinky sex. While kink itself is not new, kink practices have certainly changed over time, as have people’s opportunities to explore and experiment wit...
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Episode 238: Are Neurodiverse People More Likely To Be Kinky? from 2023-11-03T04:30:24
Some folks who frequent kink and BDSM spaces have observed that there seems to be a higher percentage of neurodiverse persons compared to other social settings. So is there actually a link between ...
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Episode 237: How Women Feel About Anal Sex from 2023-10-31T11:30:08
There’s a lot of research out there on the subject of anal sex; however, surprisingly little of it has focused on how women feel about this activity. Fortunately, a large nationally representative ...
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Episode 236: The Science of Squirting from 2023-10-27T11:30:39
Some women experience a large expulsion of fluid during sexual arousal or orgasm, often referred to as squirting. Although this is by no means a new discovery, the nature of the fluid, what it’s ca...
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Episode 235: The Surprising Politics of Polyamory from 2023-10-24T11:30:15
Polyamorists tend to be stereotyped and portrayed in the popular media as pretty liberal bunch. However, it turns out that they're actually quite diverse in their political views. This isn't surpri...
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Episode 234: The Evolution of Polyamory in America from 2023-10-20T11:30:58
Believe it or not, the term “polyamory” has only been around for a little over 30 years. However, while the name itself is still relatively new, the practice of it definitely isn't. Although people...
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Episode 233: Your Brain On Sex (Essential Listen) from 2023-10-17T11:30:35
As I look back on all of the amazing guests and conversations we’ve had on this show, I’ve begun to curate a list of ”essential listens.” These are the shows that are often a sexual revelation beca...
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Episode 232: What To Do When Your Partner Is Kinkier Than You from 2023-10-13T11:30:43
I've received countless emails from people who have discovered that their partner has a kink they didn’t previously know about—and, now, they’re not sure what to do because they're not into it. So ...
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Episode 231: Safe Sex in the Digital Age from 2023-10-10T11:30:24
From the rise of online dating, to internet porn, to sexting and cybersex, our intimate lives are increasingly digital. Although it's undoubtedly great that we have these new ways to connect and ex...
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Episode 230: How To Make Consent Sexy from 2023-10-06T11:30:39
Sexual consent is not as simple and straightforward as it might sound. It’s actually a complex and highly nuanced concept that means different things to different people and is communicated differe...
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Episode 229: Men, Masculinity,&Male Sexuality in the 21st Century from 2023-10-03T07:00:13
There’s a growing narrative out there in the popular media and on social media that “men are trash” and that they need to “do better.” The response of some men has been to push back, and this has l...
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Episode 228: The Rise of Pegging from 2023-09-29T11:30:10
In both porn and pop culture, we're increasingly seeing women strapping on dildos and anally penetrating men, a sex act known as pegging. So what’s behind this growing trend? Let's talk about it. I...
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Episode 227: The Ins and Outs of Anal Sex from 2023-09-26T11:30:24
Despite the fact that anal sex has become an increasingly common sexual activity, it’s a subject that continues to be ignored in almost all sex education. As a result, people generally have to lear...
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Episode 226: What It’s Like To Work In A Sex Shop from 2023-09-22T11:30:18
It's one thing to visit a sex shop, but it's quite another to stand behind the counter! Working in one of these stores can be a very fulfilling and rewarding experience, but it can also be challeng...
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Episode 225: An Inside Look at the World of Burlesque from 2023-09-19T11:30:10
At the beginning of the 20th century, burlesque shows featuring stripteases took the United States by storm. They played on Broadway and were popular across the country. By the end of the century, ...
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Episode 224: The Appeal of the MILF from 2023-09-15T11:30:32
MILF is one of the most searched for terms on popular porn sites year after year. So why are so many heterosexual guys drawn to hot, middle-aged mother figures? In the previous episode, we talked a...
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Episode 223: Older Women Who Date Younger Men from 2023-09-12T11:30:25
Whenever an older female celebrity dates a younger guy, it tends to make the news. These women, often referred to as "cougars" or "MILFS," have long had their relationships subject to scrutiny and ...
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Episode 222: From KitKat to Berghain, Inside Berlin’s Sex Clubs from 2023-09-08T11:30:21
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think about the city of Berlin, Germany? There’s a good chance that you pictured a kinky nightclub. It’s estimated that as many as 1 in 3 visitors...
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Episode 221: Berlin’s Kinky Sexual History from 2023-09-05T11:30:56
Earlier this year, I taught a study abroad course on sex and culture in Berlin. As part of that trip, we took a three-hour guided tour on Berlin's sexual history, and it was fascinating! I wanted t...
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Episode 220: The Medicalization of Sex from 2023-09-01T11:30:23
We live in an era where the preferred treatment for most health issues, including sexual problems, is increasingly a pill. However, this medicalized approach frequently overlooks the root cause. At...
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Episode 219: It’s Time To Build A Better Condom from 2023-08-29T11:30:46
Condoms are one of the best tools we have available for protecting our sexual health. However, modern condoms leave something to be desired. It is so easy to point to problems with condoms that mak...
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Episode 218: The Psychology of Dick Pics from 2023-08-25T12:15:59
There is undoubtedly a dark side to dick pics, such as when they’re sent without consent or used as a form of harassment. However, when shared consensually, there's a positive side worth acknowledg...
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Episode 217: A Cultural History of the Dick Pic from 2023-08-22T11:30:25
One of the most popular posts I’ve ever written on the Sex and...
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Episode 216: How Opening Up A Relationship Can Change You from 2023-08-18T15:30:38
There is an "awakening of self" that happens when people practice non-monogamy. This awakening has the potential to be exciting and exhilarating, but also frightening and destabilizing because you ...
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Episode 215: Dealing With Differences In Relationships from 2023-08-15T12:45:08
We tend to be attracted to partners who are similar to us—and that makes sense. But no matter how similar you and your partner are, there are always going to be some areas where you differ. And whi...
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Episode 214: Common Sex Questions, Answered from 2023-08-11T11:30:54
If you ask any sex educator, researcher, or therapist what the most common question they receive is, they’re probably going to have a very quick answer. People ask us a LOT of sex questions—and the...
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Episode 213: The Business of Sex from 2023-08-08T11:30:34
Making a sustainable living as a sex educator is harder than it sounds. Despite all you’ve heard about how “sex sells,” it’s actually a much tougher sell than you might think! There are a lot of ch...
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Episode 212: What Sex Therapy Is Really Like from 2023-08-04T11:30:29
A lot of people have ideas about sex therapy that are totally wrong. For example, some people seem to think that the therapist is going to be having sex with you, or that they're going to watch you...
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Episode 211: Tips For Improving Sexual Communication from 2023-08-01T11:30:52
The most commonly offered piece of sex advice I hear people give is to communicate more. While this advice certainly makes sense, simply telling people to "communicate more" can ring kind of hollow...
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Episode 210: When You Want More Sex Than Your Partner from 2023-07-28T11:30:45
In the previous episode, we talked about sexual desire discrepancies, which occur w...
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Episode 209: When You Want Less Sex Than Your Partner from 2023-07-25T11:30:57
In long-term sexual relationships, partners aren't always on the same page about sex. This is normal. However, when a sexual desire discrepancy becomes large and persistent, it can become a signifi...
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Episode 208: The History of Fetishes, Pegging, and Kinky Scientists from 2023-07-21T11:30:06
From Albert Einstein to James Joyce, it turns out that a lot of revered historical figures had fascinating intimate lives and a proclivity for kink. Listen
Episode 207: The History of Kinky Sex from 2023-07-18T12:30:22
It turns out that for as long as humans have been having sex, they’ve been having pretty kinky sex! So let's talk about our kinky history. In today's episode, we’re going to explore the history of ...
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Episode 206: Making Ethical Non-Monogamy Work from 2023-07-14T11:30:51
In recent years, the term "ethical non-monogamy" has gone mainstream. But what does it actually mean to be ethically non-monogamous? That’s what we’re going to be talking about today. We’re also go...
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Episode 205: One Woman’s Polyamorous Journey from 2023-07-11T11:30:28
Interest in polyamory is on the rise. Google searches for it have been increasing for years, it’s increasingly being discussed in the popular media, and some municipalities are starting to offer le...
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Episode 204: More Fascinating Facts About Sex from 2023-07-07T11:30:47
It is hard to believe, but we recently reached episode number 200 of this podcast! So how do you celebrate 200 episodes of a sex show? I decided to put together a compilation of some of the most fa...
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Episode 203: Digital Touch–Can Technology Meet Our Intimate Needs? from 2023-07-04T11:30:43
Humans are wired to feel good when we get the kind of touch that we want. But when we can’t get that, it’s bad for both our physical and psychological health. Prior to the COVID-19 pandemic, most A...
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Episode 202: Why Touch Is So Important In Relationships from 2023-06-30T11:30:08
One of the keys to maintaining healthy, long-term romantic relationships is physical intimacy. I’m not just talking about sex, though. For many reasons, non-sexual physical intimacy is just as impo...
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Episode 201: What We Fantasize About, And How To Share Your Fantasies from 2023-06-27T11:30:55
Let's talk about sexual fantasies! In today's show, we’re going to explore what people fantasize about doing sexually—and how that varies around the world. So how does culture influence what we fan...
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Episode 200: Inside the World of Sexual Fantasies from 2023-06-23T12:30:45
Sexual fantasies are fascinating! There is so much diversity and variability in the way we envision these scenarios, so let's talk about it. Today, we’re going to dive into some of the interesting ...
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Episode 199: Behind the Scenes on a Porn Set from 2023-06-20T07:18:17
Have you ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes when porn is filmed? There's a lot more that goes into it than you might think! In today's show, I'm going to interview a porn director about h...
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Episode 198: The Rise of Ethical and Feminist Porn from 2023-06-13T11:30:24
Over the last decade or so, many of the conversations about porn taking place in the popular media have shifted to the topics of ethical porn and feminist porn. But what does it really mean for por...
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Episodes 197: Why People In Happy Relationships Cheat from 2023-06-09T11:30:46
While it might be tempting to assume that people who cheat aren't in very satisfying relationships, it turns out that even people who are very happy and in love with their partners sometimes commit...
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Episode 196: When Women Are (and Aren’t) Into Casual Sex from 2023-06-06T11:30:55
Imagine a woman wanders around a college campus and asks 100 different men at random whether they'd have sex with her. Now imagine a man wandering around the same campus asking 100 women for sex. H...
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Episode 195: Inside a Sex Doll Brothel from 2023-06-02T11:30:21
In 2017, the world’s first sex doll brothel opened its doors. Since then, several others have opened up in major cities around the world. These brothels exist in a gray legal zone and a lot of gov...
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Episode 194: Sex Dolls, Sex Robots, and Chatbots from 2023-05-30T11:30:24
Modern sextech is rapidly changing the way people gratify their sexual and intimate desires. Sex dolls, sex robots, and chatbots are starting to become more accessible and popular. In today’s show,...
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Episode 193: The Rise of Teen Sexting from 2023-05-26T11:30:14
In the United States, a whopping 89% of teens now have smartphones. Parents give their kids these devices for numerous reasons, with safety being at the top of the list; however, parents don’t nece...
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Episode 192: Consent Culture in Television and Film from 2023-05-23T11:30:02
When people today look back at popular films and TV shows from decades past, they are often completely aghast at the sex scenes. Through our modern lens, they frequently read as problematic. While ...
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Episode 191: The 4 Types of Affairs Women Have from 2023-05-19T11:30:02
Picture a married heterosexual woman who is having an affair. Why do you think she's engaging in infidelity? It is purely about sex and pleasure? Is it about intimacy and emotional connection? Is s...
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Episode 190: Women Who Stray–The Rise of Female Infidelity from 2023-05-16T11:30:28
Rates of infidelity have risen over the last half-century; however, if you break the data down by gender, it turns out that men’s rate of infidelity has remained relatively stable, whereas women's ...
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Episode 189: What Asexuality Is, And Isn’t from 2023-05-09T11:30:19
Asexuality is a broad umbrella term that refers to individuals who do not experience sexual attraction to others, or who only do so under rare or limited circumstances. Growing research in this are...
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Episode 188: Where Does Our Sexual Orientation Come From? from 2023-05-02T04:30:46
Where does a person's sexual orientation come from? Hundreds, perhaps thousands, of studies have attempted to answer this question. This research suggests that there isn’t a simple explanation and ...
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Episode 187:“Out of Control”Sex–Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder from 2023-04-25T06:15:45
Some adults feel highly distressed about their porn use. In most of these cases, the root cause of the problem can be traced back to shame or moral conflicts surrounding porn. At the same time, how...
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Episode 186: Men Who Use the Least Porn Have the Most Porn Problems from 2023-04-21T07:00:44
Research on pornography's effects points to a fascinating paradox: the people who report the most problems stemming from porn use are often the ones using the least porn! How is that possible? That...
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Episode 185: The Problem With Porn“Reboot”And Recovery Programs from 2023-04-18T11:30:09
The growing anti-porn movement has fueled the rise of an entire industry centered around selling people on the idea of masturbatory abstinence. Often referred to as a “reboot,” these programs encou...
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Episode 184: The Truth About“Porn Addiction” from 2023-04-14T11:30:08
How does porn affect us? And are people becoming "addicted" to it? Today, we're going to begin a four-part series on the science of porn to better understand its effects. For our first show, we’re ...
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Episode 183: How Atlanta Became a Southern Hub For Vice from 2023-04-11T11:30:57
Although the Southern United States is often seen as a bastion for conservative sexual values, it has a very deep and rich sexual history worth exploring, especially when you consider a city like A...
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Episode 182: Could Sodomy Laws Come Back? from 2023-04-07T04:05:38
Until 1960, sodomy was illegal throughout the entire United States. While this technically made oral and anal sex illegal for everyone, these laws were largely enforced only when sodomy occurred be...
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Episode 181: Attachment Styles and Consensual Non-Monogamy from 2023-04-04T11:30:59
Nationally representative surveys of North American adults have found that about 1 in 5 people say they’ve been in a sexually open relationship at some point, with an even larger number expressing ...
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Episode 180: 5 Misconceptions About Consensual Non-Monogamy from 2023-03-31T11:30:37
A 2023 nationally representative survey of 1,000 American adults conducted by Listen
Episode 179: Let’s Talk About Gay Hookup Apps from 2023-03-28T11:30:18
Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men are increasingly finding sexual partners through apps such as Grindr. These apps haven’t just changed the way people find partners, though, they’v...
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Episode 178: From Sexual Shame to Sexual Freedom from 2023-03-24T11:30:39
While the term “safe sex” might imply that there's a perfectly safe way to have sex, there’s always going to be some degree of risk, both physical and emotional. Whenever you have sex, you’re makin...
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Episode 177: How To Prevent Sex Crimes from 2023-03-21T11:30:04
How do we prevent sex crimes from happening in the first place? Today, we're going to talk about some of the things that do (and don't) work. This is the second episode in a two-part series about s...
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Episode 176: Inside the Minds of Sex Offenders from 2023-03-17T11:30:55
Why do people commit sex crimes? We often hear that they're not really motivated by sex and, instead, that they're about power and control. However, it's more complex than that, and understanding t...
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Episode 175: When Single Life Sucks from 2023-03-14T11:30:54
The stereotype we often hear about singles in the popular media is that they’re sad. In reality, however, a lot of them are thriving and living their best lives, which we talked all about Listen
Episode 174: When Being Single Is Awesome from 2023-03-10T12:30:56
The number of American adults living single has been on the rise for years. Part of this increase has been driven by a growing number of folks who simply prefer the single life. And, for them, bein...
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Episode 173: Tips for Treating Pelvic Floor Problems from 2023-03-07T12:30:48
In the previous episode, we talked all about the pelvic floor, including ...
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Episode 172: What Everyone Needs To Know About The Pelvic Floor from 2023-03-03T12:30:19
The pelvic floor is a super important set of muscles that plays a vital role in sexual, reproductive, urinary, and bowel function. However, most of us don't know all that much about it, which is a ...
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Episode 171: How to Initiate Sex from 2023-02-28T12:30:12
A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to m...
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Episode 170: Love Signals–Relationship Red and Green Flags from 2023-02-24T13:00:24
When it comes to navigating romantic relationships, the struggle is real. So why are relationships so hard? And is it possible to make things a little easier? Let's talk about it! Today's episode i...
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Episode 169: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Sex Life from 2023-02-21T12:30:56
So much sex advice can be boiled down to just one thing: communication. But how exactly should you communicate about sex? And what are the things you need to communicate about? In this episode, we'...
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Episode 168: How To Bring Your Sexual Fantasies To Life from 2023-02-17T12:30:11
There’s a pretty big gap between fantasy and reality. In my own research, I've found that about 80% of adults say they have a fantasy they'd like to act out at some point, but just about 20% have e...
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Episode 167: In a Dating Rut? It Might Be Your Attachment Style from 2023-02-14T12:30:50
A lot of us have had the experience of dating the "wrong" person over and over again. It's just one unhealthy relationship after another. So why is it so common for people to find themselves in the...
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Episode 166: How to Reset Your Sex Life from 2023-02-10T12:00:36
It’s common for people in long-term relationships to get out of synch when it comes to sex. This can happen for a ton of reasons, from changes in health and hormones to relationship conflict to str...
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Episode 165: All About Sexual Fantasies from 2023-02-07T12:30:45
How do you feel about your sexual fantasies? Research tells us that many people feel alone in their sexual turn-ons, thinking that their fantasies are strange or unusual. In fact, this is why one o...
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Episode 164: How To Deal With Jealousy from 2023-02-03T12:30:54
There’s an interesting paradox in modern relationships where, if there’s too much jealousy, that can cause a lot of problems. At the same time, though, if there isn't enough jealousy, that can also...
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Episode 163: A Sexplanation–How To Enjoy Shame-Free Sex from 2023-01-31T05:20:45
Despite the fact that I write and talk about sex all day, I don’t actually watch a lot of movies and TV shows about sex because it often feels too much like work! However, every so often a film or ...
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Episode 162: Creative Monogamy from 2023-01-27T12:30:30
Many of us have a mold for what romantic relationships “should” look like, and then we try to make our own relationships fit that. But, no matter how hard we try, sometimes it just doesn’t fit. And...
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Episode 161: Performative Sex and the Psychology of‘Facials’ from 2023-01-24T12:30:30
One of the most popular articles on the Sex and Psychology blog is about the ...
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Episode 160: Tomorrow, Sex Will Be Good Again from 2023-01-20T12:00:38
One of the key principles embedded in many models of sexual consent is that consent must be specific. In other words, you need to know exactly what it is that you’re saying yes to. This al...
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Episode 159:‘Slut Pages’and Revenge Porn from 2023-01-17T12:30:32
As many as 1 in 3 college students in the United States may be participating in “slut pages." Slut pages are part of a digital underground world in which nude or partially nude photos and videos of...
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Episode 158: Dating with Depression–Relationships and Mental Health from 2023-01-10T05:05:17
Relationships are hard. But they can be especially hard when you or a partner are dealing with depression. In this episode, we're going to explore how mental health issues like depression can pose ...
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Episode 157: How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex from 2023-01-03T12:30
As a sex educator, one of the most common questions I get from parents is when and how to talk to their kids about sex. When should these conversations begin? And what do you need to know to succes...
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Episode 156: Resolutions for Healthy Relationships from 2022-12-27T12:30:55
What can you do to build stronger and healthier relationships in the New Year with everyone in your life? Let's talk about it! In today's episode, we're going to discuss a wide range of relationshi...
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Episode 155: New Year’s Resolutions for the Best Sex of Your Life from 2022-12-20T13:00:35
The end of another year is rapidly approaching, and that means a lot of people are soon going to start making resolutions for self-improvement. Oftentimes, those resolutions revolve around improvin...
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Episode 154: Virtual Reality Might Be The Future Of Sex Therapy from 2022-12-16T12:30:47
The latest evolution in pornography and erotica is virtual reality (VR), which is making adult content increasingly interactive. Most of the buzz about VR erotica involves taking solo masturbation ...
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Episode 153: How Movie and TV Sex Scenes are Filmed from 2022-12-13T12:30:44
Intimacy coordinators carefully choreograph sexual and intimate scenes to ensure respect and safety for the performers. However, what they actually do---the nuts and bolts of it all---is difficult ...
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Episode 152: The Rise of Intimacy Coordinators from 2022-12-09T12:30:13
Sex scenes are common in movies and on TV, but have you ever stopped to think about everything that goes into bringing one of those scenes to life? It’s a unique situation, and it puts the actors i...
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Episode 151: Better Sex Through Mindfulness from 2022-12-06T12:30:10
Low sexual desire is one of the most common sexual problems out there, but it's something that has been notoriously difficult to treat pharmacologically. The search for...
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Episode 150: The Complicated Link Between Depression and Sex from 2022-12-02T04:30:13
It is well known that depression (and certain drug treatments for depression, notably SSRIs) can lower sexual interest, desire, and activity levels. However, it turns out that the story of how depr...
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Episode 149: All About Orgasms from 2022-11-29T12:30:23
We've talked a lot about orgasms on this show, but there's still much to explore! So today's episode is going to dig into some interesting aspects of orgasm we haven't ...
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Episode 148: Let’s Normalize Sex Toys For Men from 2022-11-25T13:00:03
For decades, sex toys were largely marketed to women, with male sex toys really only starting to make an appearance in the last few years. Survey studies find that most...
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Episode 147: Masturbation and the Science of Self-Pleasure from 2022-11-22T12:30:28
We are once again in the midst of the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November.” Basically, it involves men giving up ejaculation for the entire month (i.e...
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Episode 146: Gen Z is Walking Away From the Pill. Will They Turn Back? from 2022-11-18T12:30:57
In recent years, a growing number of women of reproductive age have started walking away from the birth control pill. In fact, one survey found that 70% of those who were using the pill said they h...
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Episode 145: Solving Sexual Problems Without Sex Therapy from 2022-11-15T12:00:26
Most people will encounter a sexual problem at some point in their lives, but most will suffer in silence. Shame and embarrassment lead a lot of folks to avoid talking ...
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Episode 144: Your Brain On Birth Control from 2022-11-11T12:00:03
When it comes to birth control pills, there's more than meets the eye. Hormonal contraception can have wide-ranging effects on both body and mind, to the point where who you are on the pill might a...
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Episode 143: Boy Toys–Women Who Buy Male Sex Dolls from 2022-11-08T12:00:14
Although the modern sex doll industry largely caters to straight men, a growing number of heterosexual women are getting in on the action by purchasing male sex dolls. Sex dolls for women have actu...
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Episode 142: Sex, Love, and Life Advice From the Experts from 2022-11-04T05:30:51
Want to lead a better life in the bedroom and beyond? This episode is for you! I asked six experts for their favorite pieces of sex advice, relationship advice, and life advice. These bonus intervi...
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Episode 141: Why Cartoon and Animated Porn are so Popular from 2022-11-01T04:05:43
What was the most popular porn search term last year? According to Pornhub, it was hentai. This term refers to a form of animated or cartoon porn and it seems ...
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Episode 140: Women Who Pay For Sex, And The Men Who Sell It from 2022-10-28T11:30:44
When it comes to buying and selling sex, people most commonly think of men as the buyers and women as the sellers. However, while men are indeed far more likely than wo...
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Episode 139: The Leather Couch–Kink, BDSM, and Sex Therapy from 2022-10-25T11:30:28
Imagine you are a sex therapist and one of your patients discloses a sexual interest that either makes you personally uncomfortable or is something you are totally unfa...
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Episode 138: Navigating Attachment With Multiple Partners from 2022-10-21T11:30:21
Attachment theory was originally based on the assumption that everyone is or wants to be monogamous; however, many people are polyamorous or otherwise engaged in consensual nonmonogamy. So how does...
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Episode 137: Demystifying Kink and BDSM from 2022-10-18T11:30:09
Most of us have had a kinky fantasy at some point in our lives, and many of us have actual experience with kink in the bedroom as well. In fact, nationally representati...
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Episode 136: What Happens When A Couple Opens Their Relationship from 2022-10-14T11:30:42
The process of opening up a relationship can bring with it a number of benefits, but also a number of challenges. So what does it actually look like when a couple goes down the path of opening up? ...
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Episode 135: Nipplegasms And Other Nongenital Orgasms from 2022-10-11T11:30:46
Contrary to popular belief, genital stimulation isn’t absolutely necessary when it comes to orgasm. Many people have experiences with "non-genital orgasms," which are o...
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Episode 134: How To Set Sexual Boundaries from 2022-10-07T11:00:58
Every relationship we have could benefit from defining some boundaries, whether we're talking about relationships with our employers, friends, or sexual partners. However, most of us aren’t very go...
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Episode 133: Inside The Minds Of Incels from 2022-10-04T11:00:57
Some people want to have sexual and romantic relationships but are unable to do so. They are involuntarily celibate. For some, this perceived inability to form...
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Episode 132: Ethical Flirting and Seduction from 2022-09-30T11:30:08
Flirting and seduction can be tricky business. For example, when you want to let someone else know you're interested, what do you even say? And how can you tell when so...
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Episode 131: The Past, Present, and Future of the Kinsey Institute from 2022-09-27T04:00:59
In 1947, Dr. Alfred Kinsey established the Institute for Sex Research to protect and preserve his pioneering research on human sexuality. Later renamed the Kinsey Insti...
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Episode 130: Change Your Mind, Change Your Sex Life from 2022-09-23T11:00:35
Your brain truly is your biggest sex organ, which means that if you want to have more--and better--sex, the key is really to make sure that you're in the right headspace. However, this is something...
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Episode 129: When Sexual Thoughts Become Sex Crimes from 2022-09-20T11:00:37
Most people have had a sexual fantasy about something that would be illegal to do in reality. That's normal. But talking about those fantasies sometimes gets people into a lot of trouble because la...
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Episode 128: How To Stop Having Bad Sex from 2022-09-16T10:15:27
A lot of people in long-term relationships lose desire for sex and start thinking there's something wrong with them. But, in many cases, the problem isn't that they lack desire per se--it's that th...
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Episode 127: Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys from 2022-09-13T12:00:58
There are a lot of heterosexual women out there who enjoy watching man-on-man pornography. In fact, some of the most popular tube sites in the world have reported that gay male porn is amongst the ...
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Episode 126: Why Women Lose Desire For Sex Faster Than Men from 2022-09-09T11:00:54
Many sex therapists have argued that women's sexual desire is relational, meaning that as long as a woman is in a good relationship and she's connected with her partner, interest in sex should natu...
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Episode 125: The Path to Sexual Empowerment from 2022-09-06T11:00:52
When it comes to sex, you deserve to get what you want and to be in control of your body, your pleasure, and your sexual health. However, in order to do that, you have ...
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Episode 124: How To Have Great Outercourse from 2022-09-02T11:30:50
The terms “sex” and “intercourse” are often used interchangeably, but the truth is that sex doesn’t have to include intercourse at all! In fact, outercourse often makes...
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Episode 123: Sex Ed For Healthcare Professionals from 2022-08-30T11:30:03
The state of sex education is poor for American adolescents—but you probably already knew that. However, what you may not realize is that the state of sex ed for adults entering fields like medicin...
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Episode 122: Born This Way? It’s More Complicated Than That from 2022-08-26T11:00:28
When it comes to both sexual identity and gender identity, it’s not uncommon for people to say “I was born this way.” However, while both same-sex attraction and gender non-conformity are indeed li...
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Episode 121: Why Dating Sucks, And How To Make It Better from 2022-08-23T12:00:19
Our dating lives are a mess. Nationally representative US surveys conducted prior to the COVID-19 pandemic found that about two-thirds of single Americans said their dating lives weren't going well...
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Episode 120: Penis Performance Problems from 2022-08-19T12:15:18
If you have a penis, then you probably already know that it doesn't always do what you want it to do. Sometimes you'll get an erection when you don't want one--and sometimes you won't be able to ge...
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Episode 119: All About Kink from 2022-08-16T11:00:34
Let's get kinky! Today's episode is a compilation of some of my favorite clips about the psychology of kink, BDSM, and fetishes. We're going to revisit my interviews with Dr. Richard Sprott ( Listen
Episode 118: Our Biggest Sex Secrets Revealed from 2022-08-12T10:30:05
We keep a lot of things about our lives secret--but especially sexual things. People may hide their sexual thoughts, behaviors, and even feelings. And, sometimes, these secrets interfere with our p...
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Episode 117: The Secret Life of Secrets from 2022-08-09T11:00:07
Think about a secret you're keeping right now. Odds are, it shouldn't take long for something to come to mind. We all keep secrets. In fact, the average person is keeping roughly 13 secrets at any ...
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Episode 116: Abortion Fact Versus Fiction from 2022-08-05T11:00:44
All too often, political debates about abortion are full of myths and misconceptions. For this reason, a better understanding of abortion is crucial. So that's what today's episode is all about. We...
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Episode 115: My Trip To The Penis Museum&Why Travel Makes Us Horny from 2022-08-02T12:00:44
Have you ever noticed yourself feeling hornier than usual when you travel? If so, you're not alone. Being away from home seems to put a lot of people in the mood for sex. So why is that? The answer...
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Episode 114: How To Change Your Sexual Mindset from 2022-07-29T11:00:20
One of the keys to having truly great sex is approaching it with the right mindset. However, this isn’t something that we’re usually taught in sex education, which tends to focus more on the physio...
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Episode 113: Hot and Unbothered–How To Have the Sex You Really Want from 2022-07-26T11:00:07
We’re often our own worst enemies when it comes to having the sex we really want. Shame, secrecy, self-doubt, fear of failure—all of these things have a way of interfering with our ability to pursu...
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Episode 112: Uncovering Your Core Erotic Themes from 2022-07-22T08:00:34
There are a ton of sources for sex advice out there, which is great. But too many of them suffer from the same problem: they take a one-size-fits-all approach when, in reality, different things are...
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Episode 111: What You Don’t Know About Arranged Marriage from 2022-07-19T08:00
According to some sources, a majority of all marriages in the world are arranged. Despite how common this practice is, little research has been conducted on the subject—and there are a lot of myths...
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Episode 110: Jealousy and Compersion from 2022-07-15T07:00:53
If your romantic partner were to become sexually or romantically interested in someone else, how would you feel? Jealousy is often presumed to be the default response, especially in monogamous rela...
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Episode 109: Hurts So Good–Why We Seek Pain On Purpose from 2022-07-12T07:00
A masochist is someone who derives pleasure from the experience of pain. While we often think of masochism as being a purely sexual thing, it’s actually a pervasive part of everyday life. From the ...
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Episode 108: Navigating Consensual Non-Monogamy from 2022-07-08T08:30:34
Survey studies find that about 1 in 5 people say they’re been in some type of sexually open relationship before. Despite how common consensual non-monogamy is, research, data, and information on it...
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Episode 107: Understanding Your Attachment Style from 2022-07-05T11:00:48
Everyone has an "attachment style," which refers to the way that you tend to interact and connect with others in intimate relationships. Psychologists have found that attachment styles are reliable...
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Episode 106: Top, Bottom, Side–What’s Your Position? from 2022-07-01T11:00:01
Men who have sex with men often identify themselves in terms of sexual positions, such as top, bottom, or versatile to reference the role they prefer to take during anal sex. But what if none of th...
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Episode 105: Less Sex, More Kink–The Sex Lives of Today’s College Students from 2022-06-28T11:00:06
College students tend to be stereotyped as a pretty horny bunch who are hooking up every chance they get. But are today's college students really having more sex than ever? That’s what we’re going ...
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Episode 104: Women’s Sexuality And Desire from 2022-06-24T11:00:51
Bestselling author Lisa Taddeo has put women's stories front and center in all of her books. Her work explores how women navigate sexual desire, sexual trauma, and sexual double standards--and it i...
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Episode 103: The Laws of Attraction from 2022-06-21T11:00:55
Why are we attracted to some people, but not to others? The answer to this question is surprisingly complex, but research has uncovered a set of scientifically-backed principles that can pretty rel...
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Episode 102: The Truth About Fake Orgasms from 2022-06-17T11:00:32
In the classic film When Harry Met Sally, Meg Ryan famously said, “Most women at one time or another have faked it.” And she was right. But it turns out that women aren't the only ones who...
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Episode 101: Want Better Sex? Get Better Sleep from 2022-06-14T11:00:28
Human beings spend about one-third of their lives asleep. We do this because sleep is an essential body function. When we don't get enough sleep, we suffer in a lot of ways--and that includes our s...
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Episode 100: Fascinating Facts About Sex from 2022-06-10T04:09:20
It is hard to believe, but we have reached episode 100 of this podcast! So how do you celebrate 100 episodes of a sex show? I've put together a compilation featuring some of the most fascinating an...
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Episode 99: Who Should Pay On The First Date? from 2022-06-07T11:30:59
When you go out on a date with someone, who should pay for it? When two people of the same sex or gender go out, they’ll often split the bill—but when it’s a man and a woman, more often than not, t...
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Episode 98: Navigating Sexuality and Religion from 2022-06-03T04:00:11
The impact of religion on our sex lives is complex—it is neither uniformly negative nor positive. The way that religion affects sexuality really depends upon how sexuality is situated within a give...
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Episode 97: Keeping Passion Alive in Long-Term Relationships from 2022-05-31T04:00:21
When you're feeling that intense passion in the early stages of a relationship, having great sex is usually pretty easy. However, those feelings don't tend to stick around very long. It's normal fo...
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Episode 96: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation from 2022-05-27T04:07:46
Masturbation is something that most people do, but many of us have a complicated relationship with it. For example, some people are under the impression that masturbation is an unhealthy or even "a...
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Episode 95: The Psychology Behind Forced Sex Fantasies from 2022-05-24T11:30:19
Have you ever fantasized about being ‘forced’ to have sex? If so, you’re not alone. Fantasies about being taken against one’s will (also known as 'ravishment fantasies' and 'consensual non-consent ...
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Episode 94: Uncommon Sexual Fantasies–Tentacles, Monsters, And Cows, Oh My! from 2022-05-20T04:00:16
As someone who studies the science of sexual fantasies, every time I think I've heard it all, I discover something new. Human beings are endlessly inventive and flexible when it comes to their sexu...
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Episode 93: Tips For Having The Best Sex Ever from 2022-05-17T04:00:26
When it comes to sex, we could all benefit from a few pointers because great sex is usually something we have to figure out on our own. On previous episodes of the show, we've talked about things l...
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Episode 92: How To Get In The Right Headspace For Sex from 2022-05-13T04:00:47
One of the keys to great sex is being in the right headspace and allowing yourself to be totally immersed in the experience. If you’re not fully into it, it’s easy for your mind to start wandering ...
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Episode 91: Sex and Love When You Have Anxiety, OCD, or Depression from 2022-05-10T04:00:21
Relationships are hard for everyone, but they can be especially hard when you're living with a mental health issue such as depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Psychological struggles...
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Episode 90: The Rise of Male Full-Frontal Nudity and Prosthetic Penises from 2022-05-06T04:00:42
Until very recently, the sight of a penis in film or on television was a rarity. And when it happened, it was a big deal. The promise of even a fleeting glimpse would overshadow everything...
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Episode 89: Tips From a Sex Therapist from 2022-05-03T04:00:13
Sexual difficulties are common, and they can be highly distressing. They don't have to mean the end of your sex life, though. Fortunately, most difficulties can be resolved and you can get back to ...
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Episode 88: Navigating Sex During Pregnancy and Parenthood from 2022-04-29T04:00:49
During pregnancy and parenthood, it’s not uncommon for sex to decrease and/or become less pleasurable. When this happens, it can potentially spill over and create broader relationship and intimacy ...
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Episode 87: Sex and Intimacy After Grief and Loss from 2022-04-26T04:00:09
Relationships can be a source of tremendous joy. But they can also be a source of tremendous pain, especially when they come to an end that we just weren’t ready for. When a valued relationship sud...
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Episode 86: Tips For Better Sex At Any Age from 2022-04-22T04:00:52
When people think about what their sex lives will look like as they get older, they usually don’t see much to look forward to. They tend to think about problems that might arise and how sex may bec...
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Episode 85: Should We Move In Together Before Marriage? from 2022-04-19T04:00:14
For decades, social scientists warned that living together before marriage increased the odds of later divorce. However, this runs contrary to conventional wisdom. In fact, most American adults tod...
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Episode 84: Straight People Who Have Gay Sex from 2022-04-15T04:15:14
People’s sexual identities and behaviors don’t always line up in the way that you might expect. For example, a lot of people who identify as heterosexual or straight report having had partners of t...
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Episode 83: How To Overcome Insecurity and Feel Sexually Confident from 2022-04-12T04:00:18
Many of us feel sexually insecure in some way. For example, you might be concerned about your body shape or size, the appearance of your genitals, and/or your sexual skills or performance. We are o...
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Episode 82: The Future of Birth Control from 2022-04-08T04:00:36
Human beings have been practicing birth control for thousands of years. Today, there are dozens of different contraceptives available, many of which are highly effective and increasingly convenient...
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Episode 81: Vaginal Health, Explained from 2022-04-05T15:20:27
There is a huge industry built around making women feel insecure about their genitals in order to sell them so-called "feminine hygiene products." They've convinced many women that their vaginas an...
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Episode 80: Sex and Culture from 2022-04-01T04:00:07
We're going back to the brothel in today's episode! This is the second part of a two-part series of interviews I conducted in a sex club in Amsterdam during a recent study abroad course I taught fo...
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Episode 79: Inside an Amsterdam Brothel from 2022-03-25T04:00:29
I taught a study abroad course on sex and culture in Amsterdam a few months ago for a group of sex therapists and, as part of that class, we visited a brothel. To be clear, we didn't go for sex--we...
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Episode 78: Let’s Talk About Sexting from 2022-03-18T04:00:12
Sexting has become so common that it’s not a stretch to call it the new "first base" in developing sexual relationships. For many people, sexting is now an integral part of how they connect with ot...
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Episode 77: Starved For Intimacy from 2022-03-11T05:00:29
Modern technology has made us more connected than ever, but at the same time, many of us feel increasingly disconnected. We just aren’t getting the intimacy we’re craving. We’re starving for a type...
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Episode 76: Creating Ideal Relationship Agreements from 2022-03-04T05:00:42
Relationships and marriages aren't just hard--they're harder than ever because the expectations around them have changed so much. What worked in the past isn't working anymore, so it's time for a n...
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Episode 75: Making Friends With Benefits Work from 2022-02-25T05:05:23
More than 60% of American adults say they've had sex with a friend in the past year, a number that Listen
Episode 74: How To Make Sex Ed Work For Everyone from 2022-02-19T05:05:04
Sex education in the United States leaves a lot of people on the sidelines, from racial and ethnic minorities to LGBTQ+ youth to persons with disabilities. Part of the reason for this is that just ...
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Episode 73–The Way You Make Me Feel: The Science of Love from 2022-02-11T05:00:19
How can you tell if you're in lust or in love? Is "love at first sight" real? When is the right time to say "I love you" in a relationship? And how do you keep love alive long-term? Today's episode...
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Episode 72–Kink On The Brain: The Truth About BDSM from 2022-02-03T05:05:06
At one time or another, almost everyone has had a BDSM fantasy of some type. Despite its widespread popularity, however, BDSM is a subject that remains widely misunderstood and stigmatized. It's a ...
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Episode 71: Sex in Space and Sex with Robots from 2022-01-28T12:00:38
Space travel is a rapidly expanding industry. In the near future, people are going to be traveling and maybe even living outside of Earth’s atmosphere for prolonged periods of time. This raises a l...
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Episode 70: The Rise of Cuckolding from 2022-01-21T05:14:09
Cuckolding refers to a sexual practice in which someone finds it arousing to watch their partner have sex with another person. I first learned about cuckolding nearly a decade ago and, in the years...
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Episode 69: Designer Genitals–The Truth About Genital Enhancement Surgery from 2022-01-14T05:33:44
From penis enlargement to vaginal rejuvenation, modern medicine is offering those who are concerned with their genital appearance the opportunity to obtain "designer genitals." In recent years, the...
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Episode 68: What Do Singles Today Really Want? from 2022-01-07T12:30:07
Before the pandemic hit, the number of American adults living single was at a record high, while the marriage rate was at a record low. But that might all be about to change, according to results f...
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Episode 67: Resolutions For Better Sex In The New Year from 2021-12-29T13:00:17
As you ponder your New Year's resolutions for 2022, think about things you can do to improve your sex life! With the right set of resolutions, you can address problem areas and tap into unfulfilled...
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Episode 66: Why The Holidays Make Us Horny from 2021-12-22T05:25:59
If you're feeling extra horny right now, it's not just you! The winter holidays are one of the times of year when sexual interest and behavior reliably increase. We see this in everything from a sp...
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Episode 65: Understanding Asexuality from 2021-12-17T08:00:44
What does it mean to be asexual? This is something that different people have defined in different ways, and there are a lot of misconceptions about it. That's why this episode of the podcast is al...
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Episode 64: How Technology Can Save Your Sex Life from 2021-12-10T08:00:47
Most of us never got the sex education we really needed, which leaves us with a lot that we need to figure out all on our own. Fortunately, technology is making it easier than ever to fill in the g...
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Episode 63: A New Way of Thinking About Sexual Orientation from 2021-12-03T08:00:10
If you ask someone to describe their sexuality, odds are they’ll probably tell you something about the sex or gender of the people they’re attracted to. However, that’s just one of many aspects of ...
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Episode 62: The Myth of the “Hormonal Woman” from 2021-11-26T08:00:15
Evolutionary psychologists have long argued that women’s sexual behavior is driven by hormonal changes that occur throughout the menstrual cycle, including everything from their desire for sex to t...
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Episode 61: “No Nut November” and the Science of Masturbation from 2021-11-19T08:00:46
Each November, media buzz around the annual abstinence challenge known as “No Nut November” seems to grow. This challenge involves men giving up ejaculation for the entire month. That means no sex ...
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Episode 60: The Science of Orgasms from 2021-11-12T08:00:50
What does it really mean to have an orgasm? Different people—and even different scientists—define “orgasm” in different ways, which makes this a surprisingly difficult subject to study scientifical...
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Episode 59: Can You “Cheat-Proof” Your Relationship? from 2021-11-05T07:00:34
Most people say that their ideal relationship would be monogamous. Despite this, however, a lot of people seem to have a really hard time maintaining monogamy. So why is that? And if monogamy is wh...
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Episode 58: The Sex Lives of College Students from 2021-10-29T07:00:30
What do the sex lives of college students today look like? And how have they changed over time? I spoke with a sex educator who has amassed more than 30 years’ worth of data from students taking he...
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Episode 57: The Science of Sexual Fluidity and Gender Fluidity from 2021-10-22T07:00:51
A lot of people think about sexual orientation and gender as stable characteristics of the self--they think that people are just born a certain way. While it's certainly true that many people do de...
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Episode 56: Where Do Sexual Fetishes Come From? from 2021-10-15T07:00:42
People can develop sexual fetishes for virtually anything. In fact, it’s not a stretch to say that if you can think of it, somebody probably has a fetish for it. So why is that? How do fetishes dev...
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Episode 55: Sex, Pleasure, Consent, and the Intimate Lives of Teens Today from 2021-10-08T07:00:23
Today’s youth are facing a complicated landscape when it comes to sex. They live in a world where sex is all around and porn is more easily accessible than ever before, but they’re not being educat...
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Episode 54: How To Have Better Sex And Deal With Sexual Difficulties from 2021-10-01T06:00:37
Sexual difficulties are common, but people tend to have a really hard time talking about them. In fact, people often find it easier to avoid the subject entirely, which can lead sex to ...
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Episode 53: Everything You Think You Know About Sex Is Probably Wrong from 2021-09-22T06:00:12
Have you ever heard that there are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, or that the clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis? These statements appear as facts in countless ...
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Episode 52: Sex Fantasies Around The World from 2021-09-17T06:00:26
Do people from different cultures have different sexual fantasies? Or are there common threads that run through our fantasy worlds? As someone who studies fantasies, these are questions...
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Episode 51: American Hookup - Inside College Hookup Culture from 2021-09-10T07:00
When did college “hookup culture” actually begin? Who is it helping, and who is it hurting? And what can people today do to navigate hookup culture and casual sex in healthy ways?
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Episode 51: American Hookup–Inside College Hookup Culture from 2021-09-10T06:00:51
When did college “hookup culture” actually begin? Who is it helping, and who is it hurting? And what can people today do to navigate hookup culture and casual sex in healthy ways?
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Episode 50: How Many Reasons Are There To Have Sex? At Least 237 from 2021-09-03T06:00:26
Why do humans have sex? To many, the answer to this question might seem obvious—but the truth is that our reasons for sex are many and varied, and some of the reasons people cite might ...
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Episode 49: Divorce Sucks - How To Move On After Breakup from 2021-08-27T07:00
Divorce sucks. It can suck away your time and energy, your money, and, in some cases, even your will to live. So is there anything you can do to “divorce-proof” your relationship and avoid this kin...
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Episode 49: Divorce Sucks–How To Move On After Breakup from 2021-08-27T06:00:56
Divorce sucks. It can suck away your time and energy, your money, and, in some cases, even your will to live. So is there anything you can do to “divorce-proof” your relationship and av...
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Episode 48: Sex On The Brain from 2021-08-20T06:00:08
Everyone’s brain is a little different when it comes to sex—and understanding how your sexual brain works is one of the keys to unlocking more pleasure and improving your sex l...
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Episode 47: The Truth About Testosterone from 2021-08-13T06:00:32
Testosterone is one of the most misunderstood and maligned hormones in the human body. It gets blamed for toxic masculinity, sexual assault, aggression, and more. That’s why this episod...
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Episode 46: The Sex Education You Deserve from 2021-08-06T06:00:28
It’s time to reimagine sex education and start giving people the sex ed they need—and deserve. So what should that look like? That’s the subject of my latest podcast with special guest ...
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Episode 45: Why Marriage Is So Hard, And How To Make It Better from 2021-07-30T01:00:01
Marriage is hard. And, in many ways, it’s harder today than it was in the past because what we’re asking of our partners now is so dramatically different than it ...
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Episode 44: The Science of Kink, BDSM, and Fetishes from 2021-07-23T01:00:36
There are a lot of things people get wrong about kink, including the idea it’s inherently rooted in trauma and mental illness, that it’s abusive, and tha...
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Episode 43: The Truth About Polyamory from 2021-07-16T01:00:47
People’s interest in polyamory is growing. For example, Google trends reveal that searches related to polyamory have Listen
Episode 42: The Decisions That Make or Break a Relationship from 2021-07-09T01:00:37
Getting into a relationship is much easier than getting out of one. People have a tendency to slide into relationships without putting in a lot of thought. But wh...
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Episode 41: The Secrets of Relationship Success from 2021-07-01T01:00:35
It is often said that the most important decision you make in your life is who you decide to have a relationship with—yet most of us are never really taught anyth...
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Episode 40: Sexual Deception, Jealousy, and the Dark Side of Relationships from 2021-06-25T01:00:21
Although sex, dating, and relationships can bring us great joy, they also have a very dark side. For example, people sometimes lie or deceive others in order to h...
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Episode 39: The Surprising Secrets of STDs from 2021-06-17T01:00:33
Is it really true that having a greater number of sexual partners necessarily means you have a greater risk for sexually transmitted infections (STDs)? Nope! It t...
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Episode 38: Sex Dreams And What They Mean from 2021-06-11T01:00:50
Where do our dreams come from? And what, if anything, do they actually mean? As someone who is a very vivid dreamer every single night, I have always been curious...
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Episode 37: Inside an Affair - Sex, Lies, and Cheating from 2021-06-04T07:00
What does an affair really look like? What do people do, say, and feel when they cheat on a romantic partner? And why do so many people commit infidelity in the first place? In this episode of the ...
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Episode 37: Inside an Affair–Sex, Lies, and Cheating from 2021-06-04T01:00:14
What does an affair really look like? What do people do, say, and feel when they cheat on a romantic partner? And why do so many people commit infidelity in the f...
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Episode 36: The Magic of Masturbation from 2021-05-27T01:00:50
May is Masturbation Month, so let’s talk self-pleasure! Masturbation is a topic that has long been shrouded by secrecy and shame, and it’s well past time that we ...
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Episode 35: The Guide To Opening Up A Relationship from 2021-05-20T17:56:12
One of the most common questions I get asked as a sex educator is how to open up a monogamous relationship. People ask about this for a wide range of reasons. For example, some folks ha...
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Episode 34: How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex from 2021-05-13T17:47:34
Sex is a topic that is all too often neglected in the doctor’s office. That’s unfortunate because our health affects our sex lives and, at the same time, our sex lives affect our health...
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Episode 33: How To Keep Passion Alive from 2021-05-06T17:46:34
In long-term relationships, feelings of passion tend to be really intense in the beginning, but typically decrease over time. As a result, one of the most common questions people ask ab...
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Episode 32: Sex and Relationship Therapy With LGBTQ Patients from 2021-04-29T17:45:45
What does sex and relationship therapy look like for LGBTQ patients? What are the main issues that come up, and how are they similar to or different from the issues that arise in therap...
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Episode 31: Common Sex Problems, And How To Fix Them from 2021-04-22T17:44:53
Sexual difficulties are more common than you might think. In fact, data from large nationally-representative surveys indicate that just Listen
Episode 30: The Future of Sex and Relationships from 2021-04-15T17:43:55
The COVID-19 pandemic disrupted our sexual and romantic lives in a lot of different ways over the last year, and while some of the changes that occurred are temporary, others may stick ...
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Episode 29: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex from 2021-04-09T17:43:09
Dr. Ian Kerner is the Sherlock Holmes of sex—he’s a detective who helps people to understand the mysteries behind their sexual problems. His approach to sex therapy begins with a simple...
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Episode 28: How To Have Great Sex For Your Entire Life from 2021-04-01T17:42:13
People have a tendency to think that the best sex of their life is in the past—it’s the sex they had when they were younger. So when people think about what their sex lives will look li...
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Episode 27: The Guide to Casual Sex and Healthy Hookups from 2021-03-25T17:41:08
Much has been said and written in the popular media about ‘hookup culture’ and the rise of casual sex. Trend pieces often portray casual sex as inherently damaging and bad for our menta...
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Episode 26: Inside a Strip Club With a Cultural Anthropologist from 2021-03-18T17:40:13
For her doctoral dissertation, Dr. Katherine Frank worked as a dancer in several strip clubs and interviewed the regulars. As a student of anthropology, it was important for her to “do ...
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Episode 25: An Inside Look at a Sex Research Conference from 2021-03-11T17:39:27
What actually goes on at a sex research conference? A lot of people seem to have the impression that it’s just a non-stop sex party. I hate to disappoint, but that’s not the case! I’m g...
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Episode 24: A Sex Writer’s Journey Into the Heart of Desire from 2021-03-04T17:38:38
What really takes place behind the scenes on an adult film set? What is it like to attend an orgasmic meditation retreat? Journalist Tracy-Clark Flory has the answers. In her lengthy ca...
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Episode 24: A Sex Writer's Journey Into the Heart of Desire from 2021-03-04T08:00
What really takes place behind the scenes on an adult film set? What is it like to attend an orgasmic meditation retreat? Journalist Tracy-Clark Flory has the answers. In her lengthy career coverin...
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Episode 23: Chemical Romance–How Drugs Can Help Us Fall In Love And Move On After Breakup from 2021-02-25T17:37:46
Imagine there was a drug you could take to enhance your relationship or deepen your connection with your partner. Or a drug that could get rid of romantic jealousy. Or a drug that could...
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Episode 23: Chemical Romance - How Drugs Can Help Us Fall In Love And Move On After Breakup from 2021-02-25T08:00
Imagine there was a drug you could take to enhance your relationship or deepen your connection with your partner. Or a drug that could get rid of romantic jealousy. Or a drug that could help you mo...
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Episode 22: What We Get Wrong About Bisexuality from 2021-02-18T17:35:20
Bisexuality continues to be one of the most misunderstood and controversial sexualities. Some people don’t think it exists at all and that it’s just a transitional identity people adopt...
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Episode 21: The History of Sex Toys from 2021-02-11T17:33:55
Ever hear that story about how Victorian-era doctors were using vibrators on female patients who had been diagnosed with “hysteria?” That used to be one of my favorite stories to tell i...
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Episode 20: How To Level-Up Your Sex Life from 2021-02-04T17:29:09
For most of us, our experience with sex education centered primarily around preventing sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies, with pleasure being mentioned rarely or ...
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Episode 19: The Science of Kissing, and How to Be a Better Kisser from 2021-01-28T17:27:36
Kissing is one of the most common sexual and romantic activities, and it’s often people’s very first partnered sexual experience. Surprisingly, though, kissing is something that is rare...
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Episode 18: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Anal Sex, But Were Afraid To Ask from 2021-01-21T17:26:17
As a sex educator, one of the topics I get asked about most often is anal sex. This isn’t surprising, given that this subject usually isn’t discussed at all in most people’s sex educati...
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Episode 17: Polyamory Fact Versus Fiction from 2021-01-13T17:25:22
Interest in polyamory is on the rise. Google trends reveal that searches related to polyamory have Listen
Episode 16: What We Get Wrong About Men’s Sexual Desire from 2020-12-21T17:23:59
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that men’s sexuality is simple. They see men as being perpetually horny and DTF and as always wanting more sex than women. They also tend...
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Episode 16: What We Get Wrong About Men's Sexual Desire from 2020-12-21T15:00
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that men’s sexuality is simple. They see men as being perpetually horny and DTF and as always wanting more sex than women. They also tend to see sex ...
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Episode 15: The Truth About Porn from 2020-12-09T17:21:12
In the eyes of many, pornography is inherently problematic. In fact, some have gone as far as to dub it a “public health crisis” because they see it as addictive and as one of the root ...
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Episode 14: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Threesomes from 2020-11-30T17:20:22
Having a threesome is one of the most popu...
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Episode 13: The Orgasm Gap, and How to Close It from 2020-11-06T17:19:19
In sexual encounters between men and women, research has consistently found that there’s a sizable orgasm gap, such that men tend to reach orgasm with far greater frequency than their f...
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Episode 12: Sex and Disability from 2020-10-27T17:18:09
There are a lot of stereotypes about disabled persons, but one of the biggest is that they are necessarily asexual. However, that’s just not true. Disabled people have sexual wants and ...
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Episode 11: Sex, Power, and Social Justice from 2020-10-15T17:17
There is a common tendency to think about sex as simply a person-to-person interaction. However, this view overlooks the fact that sexual identity, attraction, and behavior are all infl...
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Episode 10: The Psychology of Cuckolding from 2020-09-24T17:15:30
Cuckolding is a sexual practice in which someone is aroused by the idea of watching or listening while their partner has sex with another person—and it’s a surprisingly popular sexual i...
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Episode 9: The Truth About Marriage from 2020-08-28T17:14:18
In the United States, the marriage rate is near a record low, and 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Research has also found that rates of marital satisfaction have declined over time....
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Episode 8: Sex Therapy in Kinky and Polyamorous Relationships from 2020-08-07T17:12:52
People have a tendency to assume that those who are kinky and/or polyamorous must have sexual communication all figured out. However, just like anyone else, they face their own set of s...
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Episode 7: Sexual Desire, and How to Increase It from 2020-07-24T17:12:03
One of the most common relationship problems that drives couples to therapy is a sexual desire discrepancy, where one partner wants more sex than the other. In fact, about Listen
Episode 6: Tell Me What You Want--The Science of Sexual Fantasies from 2020-07-09T18:32:25
What are the most common sexual fantasies in America? Where do our fantasies come from, and what do they say about us? And how can we communicate more effectively with our partners about our fantas...
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Episode 6: Tell Me What You Want–The Science of Sexual Fantasies from 2020-07-09T17:07:14
What are the most common sexual fantasies in America? Where do our fantasies come from, and what do they say about us? And how can we communicate more effectively with our partners abou...
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Episode 5: SexTech, Sexting, and Dick Pics in the Time of COVID-19 from 2020-04-20T17:05:16
Lockdowns and “social distancing” guidelines are changing our intimate lives in major ways. For example, one of the things we’re seeing Listen
Episode 4: Maintaining a Healthy Intimate Life During Lockdown and Social Distancing from 2020-04-13T17:03:47
These are unprecedented times. Much of the world is currently living under lockdown conditions and practicing social distancing in order to curb the spread of the COVID-19 coronavirus. ...
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Episode 3: Why Good Sex Matters and the Neuroscience of Pleasure from 2020-04-05T17:02:19
In this episode of the podcast, I interview Dr. Nan Wise, a cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and Associate Research Professor at Rutgers University. Dr. Wise just publ...
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Episode 2: How ADHD Affects People's Sex Lives and Relationships from 2020-04-03T19:50:30
For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I interviewed Dr. Ari Tuckman to learn how ADHD affects people’s intimate lives. Tuckman is a certified sex therapist and psychologist who specia...
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Episode 2: How ADHD Affects People’s Sex Lives and Relationships from 2020-04-03T17:00:20
Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a term that most people are familiar with. But when we hear about someone having ADHD, we tend to think about children and adolescents...
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Episode 1: Sex, Love, and Relationship Advice from Drs. John and Julie Gottman from 2020-03-31T22:37:02
For the first episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I sat down with two relationship experts, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. They are the founders of The Gottman Institute and they h...
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