155 | I Love Pegging So Much: Adj’s Sex Stories - a podcast by Wyoh Lee

Adj loves Toronto because it’s full of cuties, is an avid pillow humper, thinks everyone is hot and sex is sacred so why not try and do it with everyone, is less subby than she thought, and is living decadently, deliciously following her desires.

➡️ { STATS } Our guest today is a BIRTHDAY cis female; she is 28 as of today, she is Black, queer, polyamorous, and is currently in multiple relations. Into sensory and impact play, exhibitionism, she’s new to pegging partners and is loving it, wants to explore being a soft domme, wants to get tied up more, and is turned on by earth. Based in Toronto, welcome Adj.

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SHAME O METER
1/0 — ready to be here
Great sex is happening!
Sexy: how they inhabit their body, being comfy

SAFER SEX TALKS
I’m a ho so I like to get tested a lot—my last one came back pretty cool
Always knew about sex, but never really talked about it at home except “use a condom”
Young & curious & masturbating starting around age 9

“I just love this feeling, I’ll keep stretching” — as a kid.
Strangers sexualizing her at a really young age, so many dress code violations.
Grew up in the suburbs, with a group of curious, horny friends.
Guys got a sex ed talk of knowledge and info about their bodies; girls got an abstinence talk.
Grew up really really horny!

The feeling of “I shouldn’t be doing this” vs awakening and realizing her body is GREAT AND AWESOME
Didn’t start making out with anyone til the very end of high school, but was so, so horny inside and just thought partnered stuff would wait til after marriage
Catholic upbringing: stressed out she was masturbating too much
I was an avid pillow humper!

PORN
Watching porn in secret (with backup plans in case of interruption)
What do I actually like? Yes, being sexy and nasty and dirty, but what feels good to me?
Super into bondage and kink, didn’t understand how people have really extensive conversations about what they want to do etc — the understanding of missing context

ONE MONOG RELATIONSHIP
Really performative sex, no boundaries, no aftercare—it was just full throttle all the time.
Other people: ohmygod they ask questions.
Exploring the sex I wanna have now vs. Being The Image of a Porn Star

ONE NIGHT STAND QUEEN
Short couplings until she got into a relationship that lasted prob only about a year and a half, but felt like so much longer.
Toronto is a very fun place to be single: there are so many cuties into so many different things
That’s when she started to get into poly and exploration
Realized she was queer in that relationship—OH! Bi is an option!
Bidentity nuance & figuring out queerness

DIFFERENT QUEERNESSES
Seeing the nuance, different types of queer, experiencing permission to be exactly the type of queer that I am
Hotties here in Toronto; so many cool kinky people.

I’M A DATING APP STAR.
I’m going to be so specifically myself, that someone who has to get off on it, would.
Do our quirks work together?
Wyoh’s looking for a sex nerd and/or partners who add value and don’t just wanna get entertained

Sex is so sacred, that’s why I wanna have it with everyone.
How can we not all feel this good? And have had these experiences?
So curious, wants to try everything, loves experimentation
No interest in extreme violence or race play, but likes intensity

KINKSPLORATIONS
Kink: loves the dance with pain and pleasure, drops her into her body
From roughness to getting tied to hot wax, straps, bitten, paddled
Soreness the day after: such a turn-on
Wants more rope play
Meeting with a new rope top: watching YouTube videos and creating together
“I came so hard that night, it was wild”

SAFETY CHECKS/FILTERS FOR TOPS?
Do I trust this person outside of sex?
Knowing someone’s temperament and having that dictate how far she’s willing to go with them.
Exploring with cool kinky awesome people

CURRENT RELATIONS:
We’re dancing
Intense fullness, going hard with each other
Exploring with people she cares about and trusts; restrictions due to the pandemic leading to different possibilities that maybe wouldn’t have been explored otherwise

FANTASY:
Bookstore: in real life vs outside — and Wyoh’s answer in the Full Service Creativity Resort
Exhibitionism fantasies: wanting to be watched
How mutual masturbation fulfills voyeurism and exhibitionism needs

BODY:
Loves being appreciated, touched, appreciated, squeezed, held, feeling the way other people are drawn to it and being really, really there. Being kissed on my back, choked, restrained, taken all the way in.
Orgasmic parts: internal orgasms are like honey being poured all of her body
nipple edging and favorite nipple sensation; sensitive tits!
Desensitizing her body
Sensitivity of scalp being touched
Wyoh’s love of head pets
Loves a slow buildup, working the way up to full intensity
FEET
Sucking toes is intense territory: so into feet
Loves receiving foot pleasures, loves taking phalluses in the feet
Foot jobs and the technical bits of controlling it vs. having them control it
Loves cum shooting toward her chin, as long as we avoid face/eyes
NECK is wild
The back of my neck is like a hub of electricity; it makes me lose my breath

OUTSIDE:
Getting turned on by soil that’s been watered really well
The sound after the rain that falls from a gutter, reminds her of two bodies slapping together
Or when the air is humid and sticky, it turns her on
The phallic nature of flowers, these little penises and clits
Forest fantasy: dirty hands and knees, that’s what we want

TOUCHING OTHER PEOPLE
Everyone’s hot as shit
I love having peoples’ bodies in my mouth, love getting head massages while going down
Mutual, reciprocal, feeling good with other people
First dildo: pandemic survival tool

NO THANK-YOU LIST
Machismo, hyper-masculinity, meanness, close-minded
Unconscious shame that sucks away the play and joy from sex

FUCK YEAHS:
In a park, so good, I forgot we were outside
A series of questions: can I kiss you? Can I touch you? Can I lick you? And it escalated.
A wide open park, in the middle of the city

POLY SELF:
3 stable partners right now, they’ll probably meet soon
Other people who come and go
Openness in terms of speaking about each other and being chill and open about sex, desires, experiences, concurrent stuff
Talking is a turn-on and leads to doing!
Finding high levels of trust to practice vulnerable things, like pegging

Would love to get topped; I’m a power bottom.
Noodling on getting into the Domme energy.
Assertiveness, controlling the scene. Exploring what it feels like to be in a Soft Domme vibe:
“I’m a Domme, but my kink is just encouraging people to have the best sex they can.”
Understanding that being a Domme is a way to talk about holding space for another person, paying attention to someone very vulnerable.

Sexting turns into safe sex talks pretty easily, and loves 21 questions, and goes from “what’s your testing status?” To “how do you like to be fucked?”
Living walking distance from lovers!!!
Take nudes, get to fantasies, talk about stuff. Texting each other, sexting each other, having fun.

Masturbation has been super-manual, but now we’re adding a vibrator, dildo, harness. Interested in getting into anal! Nipple pumps, nipple play.
Acute pain vs dull pressure and how different it feels on different days.
Wanting to explore ball gags, drooling, I want my own set of wax candles.

So excited to have great sex
Orgasms are community work: let’s give and receive to and from everyone
So much pleasure, whatever format.

DISASTERS: a butt plug that went IN. All the way IN.
Wyoh’s reading The Vagina Bible by Dr. Jen Gunter, MD — she says doctors are so used to pulling stuff out of peoples’ butts. BEWARE.

Wyoh talks about a recent great sex time she’s had (hint: erotic photography, a partner with a sexual debut, and circles).

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