Podcasts by Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Whose Panties Are These? from 2023-12-08T16:09:44

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversati...

Meet Scarleteen: Sex Ed For The Real World from 2023-12-01T16:48:56

Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: Did you get all the information, support and kindness you deserved as a teenager emerging into your sexuality? Far from it, right?...

Sensitive, But Not Delicate from 2023-11-17T17:25:21

Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of t...

Love Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon from 2023-10-27T19:17:15

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Lov...

Making Good Vibrations from 2023-10-13T16:52:21

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, a...

The Erotics of Fear from 2023-10-06T17:14:36

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all...

Relaxed Receiving from 2023-09-21T16:53:31

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our p...

Vanilla, With Toppings from 2023-09-07T19:03:28

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the ...

Savoring Vanilla Sex from 2023-09-01T16:23:26

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the p...

Shame Free Sexual Self Care from 2023-08-25T21:51:38

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but on...

Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure&The Pursuit of Happiness from 2023-08-18T18:49:04

Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Ariell...

Managing Mismatched Kinks from 2023-08-11T04:16

Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if ...

Your Erotic Journey Awaits from 2023-08-04T18:52:29

What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – ric...

Break The Golden Rule from 2023-07-15T10:41

The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking th...

Touch Hunger from 2023-06-29T17:45:19

Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch ...

Make Love As Art from 2023-06-24T18:10:05

What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be ex...

I Want More from 2023-05-31T16:47:29

What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this epi...

Embracing Erotic Eras from 2023-05-12T19:37:07

We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework...

MiniKink : Bite Sized Scenes To Explore Kinky Sex from 2023-04-20T17:07:26

If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink ...

Getting Intimate While Bleeding from 2023-03-31T19:54:18

Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and...

Navigating Depression In Intimate Relationships from 2023-03-10T15:03:40

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living w...

Cockwarming, Docking&Engulfment from 2023-02-17T16:43:17

Cockwarming, Docking&Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, i...

Responsive Kink from 2023-01-27T19:30:53

On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can star...

Stretching Into Pleasure from 2023-01-20T16:57:21

What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with ...

Getting Naked Together from 2023-01-13T18:29:03

Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about...

Prioritize Your Pleasure from 2023-01-09T02:46:14

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our hu...

Open To Receiving from 2022-12-17T20:04:01

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us.  Receiving sexual pleasu...

Preventing Premature Penetration from 2022-11-19T16:35:31

Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too o...

How To Build A Sex Room On Any Budget from 2022-11-11T17:33:43

The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage f...

The Neuroscience of Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise from 2022-11-03T22:38:10

Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the au...

Trust Your Yes from 2022-10-28T15:38:10

It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, a...

Rough Sex from 2022-10-20T22:12:10

If you crave rougher sex, but don’t know how to ask for it or suggest it to your partner, this is the podcast episode for you. And if you already love rough play as part of your erotic life, tune i...

Intensifying Sensation Play from 2022-10-14T18:45:25

Electrify your erotic life by exploring sensation play, intentionally intensifying sensations that you already enjoy and boldly exploring new ranges of sensations. From soft and silky to rough and ...

Erotic Roleplaying For Everybody from 2022-10-07T19:48:58

Tune into this episode to discover how we ALL can tap into the energies and pleasures of erotic roleplaying – even if you never want to put on a sexy costume. Get discounts on LoveHoney, Uberlube a...

Butt Stuff, Pleasure Mechanics Style from 2022-09-23T19:46:51

Curious about butt stuff but don’t know how to get started? Love butt stuff and want to level up your knowledge and know-how? Tune in for a wholesome, friendly conversation on butt stuff for all bo...

Getting The Touch You Want from 2022-09-08T18:14:40

Get discounts on Uberlube and pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Getting the touch you want doesn’t have to be a matter of luck – we can all learn how to ask for the touch that we want,...

Questions For Better Sex from 2022-09-01T21:55:26

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Asking great questions is an essential skill for better sex, deeper intimacy and embracing growth in all arenas of life. But there ar...

D/s Dynamics For All : Exploring Erotic Domination&Submission from 2022-08-19T16:56:23

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Erotic Dominance and submission can be a potent source of arousal, thrill and connection for us all, if we dare to explore with curio...

Opening Up To More Connection with The Open Nesters Podcast from 2022-07-15T20:00:47

Tune in to hear Pleasure Mechanics Chris and Charlotte share intimate details about opening up their marriage to new erotic connections. This episode is shared from our friends at The Open Nesters ...

The Us In Uterus from 2022-07-01T19:16:50

An invitation into a more complex and compassionate conversation about pregnancy – wanted and unwanted, viable and unviable, aborted and miscarried, carried to term and lost mid way – and the treme...

Erotic Pride As An Antidote To Shame from 2022-06-25T16:22:29

Erotic Pride is about coming home to our inherent dignity and worth as human erotic beings. Erotic Pride is for us ALL and is a powerful antidote to shame. On this podcast episode, Pleasure Mechani...

Exploring Your Sexual Orientations from 2022-06-17T21:40:34

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here We all have many sexual orientations – overlapping and dynamic expressions of who we are as erotic creatures, what kind of relationsh...

Coming Out, For Us All from 2022-06-10T15:18:56

Coming out is a process of allowing yourself to be seen more fully, and to experience more belonging and celebration for who you are as a unique erotic being. Coming out is for ALL of us – and is a...

Seeking Sexual Freedom with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation from 2022-06-02T10:15:34

If you are concerned about the state of sexual freedom, reproductive rights, access to health care and wondering how you can still get horny when the world is on fire, you are not alone! Join us in...

Releasing Erotic Judgment from 2022-05-27T19:50:37

Practicing non-judgment is at the core of mindfulness and our approach to Mindful Sex. Learning how to recognize and release judgment serves to bring us deeper into our present reality, align us wi...

Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr. Holly Richmond from 2022-05-20T16:18:14

Join us in conversation with the ever wise somatic psychotherapist Dr. Holly Richmond, author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life...

Placement of Erotic Attention from 2022-05-13T18:06:48

Mindful Sex invites us to practice paying attention, on purpose, with empathy, during states of high arousal. But “paying attention” isn’t always so easy, especially in the charged realm of sexuali...

Beginner’s Erotic Mind from 2022-05-06T16:28:41

Think about the excitement and curiosity you brought to your first consensual sexual experiences – those first kisses, first times seeing people naked, first sexual encounters. The awe and wonder o...

Dual Zones of Erotic Stimulation from 2022-04-29T10:57:25

Discover how to use your hands, mouth, toys and full body to create dual zones of erotic stimulation to amp up the pleasure, erotic interest and arousal. Ready to master erotic touch? Join our Erot...

Perineum Pleasures from 2022-04-22T04:01

Discover the powerful pleasure potential of the perineum in this podcast episode, where Speaking of Sex hosts Chris and Charlotte Rose share all about the perineum, why it is so important in pelvic...

Sexual Confidence from 2022-04-15T17:50:57

Sexual confidence is a feeling state that so many of us want more of, but it can feel elusive or out of reach to attain. How do we build sexual confidence? What does sexual confidence look and f...

Erotic Grief from 2022-04-08T16:04:25

Erotic Grief includes a vast range of experiences of erotic loss, longing and loss of belonging. Erotic grief includes the grief of sexual assault and abuse, but also medical loss and trauma, in...

Open Deeply with Kate Loree from 2022-04-01T20:14:03

In this episode we explore how to navigate consensual non-monogamy in relationships. We talk with Kate Loree, sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamy...

The Sweet Spot Of Erotic Spanking from 2022-03-24T16:58:04

Erotic spanking is an erotic experience like no other: a sweet spot between erotic massage and foreplay, between sex and kink, between tender and rough. In this episode we explore the sweet spot...

The Power of Percussive Touch from 2022-03-18T16:35:55

From gentle affectionate pats to deep impact play, percussive touch is a category of touch and sensation play that is often underexplored and underused. Tap into the power of percussive touch wi...

The Magic of MicroMassage from 2022-03-11T05:01

MicroMassage are moments of touch, offered with full presence, care and skill, to create a powerful experience of pleasure and intimate connection. MicroMassage can be offered in tiny moments th...

Understanding Sexual Shame from 2022-03-04T05:01

Understanding Sexual Shame, an interview with Rahim Thawer In this episode we dive into the complex terrain of sexual shame, and explore coming into a more compassionate relationship with shame....

Cool It Down from 2022-02-24T14:03:51

Sometimes instead of heating it up and throwing more gas on the fires of arousal, we need to chill out and cool it down. Cool down is an essential part of the pleasure cycle that we don’t often ...

Just Hold Me : The Erotic Power of Holding Still from 2022-02-18T05:01

Just hold me! Sometimes, just being held in full loving presence is exactly what is needed. In this episode we explore the erotic power of holding and being held, holding still, self-holds, a pa...

Ritualizing Romance from 2022-02-11T17:12:57

“I want more romance” and “I want more romantic sex” are themes in many of the emails we receive from our listeners, and while the yearning for “more romance” is so common, what each individual ...

Too Ticklish To Touch? from 2022-02-04T19:52:11

Are you or your partner too ticklish to touch? When you try to relax into massage, do you instead feel jittery, anxious, nervous or ticklish? Do you tend to get overwhelmed when trying to get ar...

Cannabis, Pleasure&Connection with Shango Los from 2022-01-28T05:01

In this episode we are in conversation with Shango Los, host of the Shaping Fire podcast, about the connections between cannabis, pleasure and erotic intimacy. Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring...

Troublesome Turn-Ons from 2022-01-21T17:33:12

In this interview with sex therapist and podcast host Nicoletta Heidegger, we explore the terrain of troublesome turn-ons – when what we desire also causes us distress, worry or is perhaps illeg...

Igniting Erotic Touch from 2022-01-14T12:49:10

Ignite your erotic touch skills, activate your hands during sex and uplevel every aspect of your sex life! Every erotic experience can be made more pleasurable by the simple act of bringing in m...

Erogenous Zone Activation from 2021-12-24T18:07:06

If you want more sensation, arousal and pleasure, activate and sensitize your erogenous zones! In this free podcast episode we dive deep into where the erogenous zones are, how you can awaken an...

Playing Without Penetration : Fulfilling Sexuality Beyond Intercourse from 2021-12-17T14:07:23

On this tender and compassionate episode, we talk about claiming an erotic life beyond intercourse, if penetration is not available for any number of reasons, for any length of time – how can we...

Playing With Penetration Part 3: Fisting And Big Penetration from 2021-12-09T18:30:37

Many people crave big penetration, fisting, double penetration and other forms of being “filled up” and yet often these desires go unexplored due to shame, fear or lack of knowledge and know-how...

Playing With Penetration Part 2: Internal Stimulation from 2021-12-03T05:04

There is so much more to penetration than the in and out stroke we all know all too well. In this rousing episode we explore all the ways to pleasure and play internally during penetration. From...

Playing With Penetration: Graceful Penetration&Active Receiving from 2021-11-26T05:10

Penetration is amongst many people’s favorite erotic acts, but also one that has been severely limited and disrespected by the historical scripts of intercourse. There is SO much more possible b...

The Masturbatory Assist from 2021-11-19T15:43:16

The Masturbatory Assist is a game changing strategy that unlocks way more pleasure, intimacy and shared joy in relationships. In this free podcast episode we explore how you can use the Masturba...

Expanding Erotic Horizons from 2021-11-12T15:25:26

If you are bored with sex, stuck in a rut or ready to explore beyond traditional sex scripts, this episode is for you. We explore how to start expanding your erotic horizons, explore your desire...

Curate Your Erotic Expression from 2021-10-29T04:01

This podcast episode is an invitation into the lifelong process of curating your erotic expression and exploring your creativity. In this episode we look at erotic expression specifically throug...

Getting Off Script from 2021-10-26T20:30:49

Getting off script means confronting the social scripts, expectations and norms that have shaped who we understand ourselves to be, in and out of the bedroom. Getting off script requires us to e...

Power Bottom Playbook from 2021-10-22T16:27:19

What is a Power Bottom? What does it mean to Power Bottom? Can anyone be a Power Bottom? Does power bottoming mean you have to also be a size queen? We explore all these questions and more in th...

Glimmers and Sparks–Coming Home To Pleasure from 2021-10-15T15:48:36

If triggers are the cues that send our body into stress and survival mode, glimmers are the antidote. Glimmers are our invitations back home into a state of calm, safe social belonging. Glimmers...

Managing Trauma Triggers from 2021-10-08T13:46:07

In this episode we speak with Jamila Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin, authors of the new book With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. We cover the basi...

Designing The Ultimate Handjob Machine from 2021-10-01T04:01

What does it take to design the ultimate handjob machine? Can a device really deliver smooth satisfying strokes? How can we keep the Sex in SexTech? In this special episode of Speaking of Sex, w...

Sex Toys&Pleasure Tools from 2021-09-24T04:01

Sex toys and pleasure tools range from simple devices to elaborate machines, from mild to wild, from tools to assist in comfort and reduce pain to toys that create extraordinary sensations – the...

Keep It Warm, So It Is Easier To Get Hot from 2021-09-17T16:17:35

Want a hotter sex life? Then keep it warm, so it is easier to get hot! In this episode, we explore how to “warm up” to eroticism in your daily life, so you can experience more warmth and vitalit...

Afterglow from 2021-09-10T13:43:12

Afterglow is one of the most enjoyable parts of pleasure – but we often rush through or skip over this phase entirely. In this episode we explore how to bask in the afterglow, extend the aftergl...

To Orgasm And Beyond! from 2021-07-31T10:20:10

It’s National Orgasm Day! We always like an excuse to celebrate pleasure, but orgasm is one of the most misunderstood parts of the sexual experience, and stands in as a measure of sexual success...

Celebrating 400 Episodes and 15 Years of Pleasure Mechanics from 2021-07-30T19:14:48

We’ve been in Pleasure Mechanics uniforms for 15 years and this is our 400th episode! We’re celebrating by featuring calls from our global community of 11,000 pleasure seekers. New to Pleasure M...

Intense Vs. Extreme from 2021-07-22T19:41:16

In this conclusion to our Thrilling Sex Series, we explore the difference between Intense and Extreme when it comes to erotic experiences. Click here for the complete Thrill series and curated r...

Thrill Vs. Delight from 2021-07-10T17:48:59

Thrill and Delight are both experiences of Peak Pleasures – but what separates thrill from delight? What can we learn from Thrill to allow us more Delight in our lives? In this episode of Speaki...

Exploring Erotic Thrill from 2021-06-25T10:37:58

Want more erotic thrill in your life? In this free podcast episode, we discover how to cultivate more thrill in your sex life – without risking it all! The experience of thrill is all about expe...

Psychogenic Arousal from 2021-06-18T18:27:37

Psychogenic Arousal is a human superpower that many of us forget we have! Just like we can make ourselves quake with fear by thinking about scary things, we can create full bodied experiences of...

The Pleasures Of Play from 2021-06-11T18:10:35

Play is an essential part of the human experience – yet many of us adults have lost touch with how to play, in and out of the bedroom. In this episode, we explore how and why humans play, and ho...

In Graphic Detail: Interview with Meg-John Barker from 2021-06-04T14:35:12

“How free are we to determine how we experience and express our sexuality? How much is this determined by the structures around us?” These are just two of the very big questions and ideas we enc...

How To Uplevel Your Solo Sex Life from 2021-05-21T15:33:32

Bored of masturbation? Stuck in a rut? Uninspired? Here’s how to uplevel your solo sex life and become a better lover for yourself! This episode explores everything from unpacking your attitudes...

Mindful Masturbation Encore Episode from 2021-05-07T14:51:31

Quick Links: $50 off our Mindful Sex Online Course Roundup of Speaking of Sex episodes about masturbation and practicing self love! Mindful Masturbation : A Practice Of Pleasure&Self-Compassion ...

Slay Sexual Shame from 2021-04-16T20:00:06

Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyo...

A Sexplanation : An Interview With Documentary Filmmaker Alex Liu from 2021-04-02T04:01

A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact...

Come As You Are : An Interview With Emily Nagoski from 2021-03-23T20:25:04

Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is yo...

Before Pleasure Comes Safety from 2021-03-05T17:58:34

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic c...

Fantasy Vs. Desire from 2021-02-26T18:10:33

A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE.  Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me ab...

Rethinking Valentine’s Day from 2021-02-11T17:23:19

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day rolls around every year – as some version has for over 2500 years! With it’s roots in pagan fertility festivals and it’s future as a multi-day festival celebr...

Intimate Relationships 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon from 2021-02-05T20:38:05

Our friend and teacher Dr. Alexandra Solomon has spent over 20 years working with couples as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and teaching the popular Marriage 101 course at Northwestern...

Moving For Pleasure from 2021-01-28T19:05:52

Big thanks to Marie Jenicek from This Thing Called Movement Podcast for allowing us to share this beautiful interview. In this interview between Charlotte Mia Rose and Marie Jenicek, discover: h...

How To Set Erotic Intentions from 2021-01-01T16:23:02

Here’s how to set erotic intentions – for the New Year or any time you want an erotic reboot. Intentions are how we align our daily actions with our values and desires. Intentions help us live w...

Will I Ever Love Sex Again? from 2020-12-18T21:32:04

Do you long for the days when you loved sex? Miss the lusty new relationship energy that made you never want to get out of bed? Do you worry you will never enjoy sex again? If so, you are not al...

How To Practice Gratitude from 2020-11-25T13:36:45

If you are wondering how to practice gratitude, even in tough times, this episode is for you. This encore episode offers guidance on how to practice gratitude all year round to create more pleas...

Erotic Game Play : Rules, Roles and Goals from 2020-10-29T20:32

In this encore episode (first shared back in 2013!) we share our framework of Erotic Game Play and invite you to start creating playful baby steps towards the kinds of erotic experiences you cra...

Sex&Power In Marriage from 2020-10-09T13:38:30

How do power dynamics play out in your marriage? What are the hidden power struggles getting in the way of your happiness and fulfillment within your marriage? How can we reclaim marriage from i...

Sex, Power and Creating Change from 2020-10-02T12:01:01

Sexual Empowerment is a term that gets used a lot, but what does it really mean? In this episode, we explore empowerment, Power Over vs. Power With, and more! Here is a great introduction to how...

Finding Just Right from 2020-09-01T21:35:38

How can we create deeply satisfying, fulfilling erotic experiences when what the body wants is so changeable and context-dependent? In this episode we explore how to find “just right” over and o...

Ten Ways To Become A Better Lover from 2020-08-21T17:39:52

In this encore episode we share the ten ways learning massage can make you a better lover. From learning how to use your hands to touch your lover’s most sensitive parts to communicating specifi...

Feeling Myself : Discovering Erotic Interoception from 2020-07-31T04:01

Interoception is known as the “eighth sensory nervous system” of humans – and is perhaps the most important sense that you’ve never heard of! Interoception is our human ability to feel the insid...

The Key To Pleasure and Connection from 2020-07-24T19:26:10

What is the master key to more pleasure, joy and connection? What if there was one skill you could learn to unlock way more relaxation, arousal&orgasmic bliss – not to mention loving connection ...

Turning Towards Pleasure While Living With Pain&Illness from 2020-07-03T16:52:39

Illness, injury, accidents and other sudden health changes disrupt our lives on all levels – including our sexuality, relationships and even our sense of identity. When our bodies experience mas...

Cultivate Your Erotic Context from 2020-05-29T20:47:25

Context is perhaps the most important factor in how you experience your sexuality. Context is all of the factors in the external environment AND in your internal landscape that create the story ...

Desperately Seeking Sensation from 2020-05-22T20:09:26

We humans are pleasure and rewards seeking animals – we must actively seek out the food, hydration and human connection that sustain us. The Zuckerman Sensation Seeking Scale is one framework th...

Together and Alone : Eroticism During Social Distancing from 2020-04-24T22:03:43

Social distancing has quickly changed all of our lives – but in very different ways. Some of us are alone, some of us are together with family and no respite in sight. How is social distancing i...

Mutual Aid&Generating Care with Aida Manduley from 2020-04-15T19:24:20

Mutual Aid is an ethos of care that has risen out of multiple communities – including the disability rights movement&immigrant communities- that invites us to consider our interconnected webs of...

LoveInTheTimeOfCorona Dispatch 1: Overwhelm from 2020-03-19T15:26:16

A quick dispatch amidst all of the disruption and overwhelm of the global coronavirus pandemic. Our home ground during this global emergency will be https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/care During...

Love In The Time Of Corona from 2020-03-11T19:00:30

Please visit PleasureMechanics.com/care for updated resources on this global emergency – we love you – stay safe, stay connected. This podcast was recorded on March 11, 2020, after we were recov...

Fucking Vs. Making Love from 2020-02-21T05:01

In this encore of Speaking of Sex episode #178, we discuss the difference in the experience of “making love” vs. “fucking” – which of course is not a simple binary and yet resonates for so many ...

Taking Sexy Back : An Interview With Dr. Alexandra Solomon from 2020-02-14T05:01

In this interview, Alexandra Solomon PhD joins us to discuss her new book Taking Sexy Back : How To Own Your Sexuality&Create The Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) Ready for a masterc...

How To Be More Romantic from 2020-02-07T05:02

Want more romance? Want your partner to be more romantic? Want to be more romantic and be able to express your love? Let’s start with thinking about what being romantic even means! Beyond the pa...

Finding New Pleasure Pathways from 2020-01-31T16:18:31

We all develop pleasure ruts – our most reliable pathways to pleasure, arousal and orgasm. How do we break out of ruts and find new pleasure pathways? How can we encourage exploration in our rel...

The Pleasure Mechanics Visit Sex Talk With My Mom from 2020-01-25T14:48:16

We stopped by the Sex Talk With My Mom studios in Los Angeles to talk with our old friends about opening up to pleasure, mindful sex, erection and ejaculation issues, and so much more. We hold n...

Savoring: A Foundational Pleasure Practice from 2020-01-17T05:01:35

Savoring is the art of slowing down a moment enough to be fully in it, while it is happening, with presence and gratitude. Fully savoring pleasures of all kinds – from small sensual pleasures to...

The 60 Second Pleasure Point Challenge from 2020-01-10T18:10:49

Feeling disconnected from your partner, and maybe even from yourself? Here is a powerful framework from an award winning couples therapist to help you cultivate more moments of micropleasures in...

What Do You Want? from 2019-12-06T10:36:07

What do you want? This is such a simple question, yet one that can be so hard to answer, especially in the erotic realm. What do you want? This question emerges in all arenas of our life – from ...

What Is Sexual Freedom? from 2019-11-22T18:41:59

As we accept our nomination as finalist for a Sexual Freedom Award, we had the chance to reflect on the really big question: What Is Sexual Freedom? In this episode, we invite you to reflect on ...

Breaking The Hymen Myth from 2019-11-15T22:19:28

The hymen myth tells us that the vagina is sealed off by a freshness seal that is only broken upon first penetration. Upon this myth rests the entire idea of female virginity, sexual purity and ...

Recalibrate Towards Pleasure from 2019-11-08T05:01:48

If you want to show up for more pleasure, love and connection in life, one of the skills to work on is recalibrating towards pleasure. This means noticing both what you desire AND noticing what ...

Taking Turns In Bed : How To Practice The Skills of Giving and Receiving Pleasure from 2019-11-01T14:02:02

Taking turns in bed is one of the most powerful reframes you can make to gain access to way more pleasure and connection. Taking turns is yet another gift from our erotic massage lineage – on a ...

Are There Different Types of Orgasms? G-Spot, A-Spot, P-Spot Orgasms? from 2019-10-26T15:15:14

How many types of orgasms are there? Are some orgasms more powerful than other orgasms? Do different types of orgasms feel different? How do I have all the different kinds of orgasms? What’s the...

A New Approach To Anal Play from 2019-10-18T12:38:41

Curious about backdoor play? Want to explore the thrilling potential of this highly sensitive area – but don’t want to get hurt? Our approach to anal touch offers 100% pleasure, 100% pain-free s...

Passionate Transitions Interview with Lucie Fielding from 2019-10-04T04:01:03

We are all in constant states of change, growth and transition – so how can we learn to embrace change with a spirit of curiosity and perhaps even passion? On this episode, Lucie Fielding joins ...

Sexual Frustration from 2019-09-27T04:02:43

Sexually frustrated? You are SO not alone. Sexual frustration can be a deeply painful experience, especially when you feel like there is no end in sight! If you feel like you are pent up, shut d...

Desire: The Pleasure Of Wanting from 2019-09-20T19:21:35

If there is no such thing as a sex drive, what is that unmistakable and potent force that moves us, motivates us and pulls us towards the pleasures of erotic exchange? It’s not a drive, it’s des...

Libido, Lost and Found: An Interview with Vanessa Marin from 2019-09-12T22:33:32

Lost Libidos, Mismatched Libidos, Out Of Control Libidos: Libido problems are the most frequently reported sexual struggle. If you struggle with your libido or sex drive, join us for an intimate...

Rethinking Libido Problems from 2019-09-06T19:07:55

Low libido? Loss of libido? Crazy high libido? Mismatched Libido? There are 99 libido problems out there, and many people report struggling with their libido. Libido troubles are one of the lead...

Become A More Satisfied Mama with Dana B Myers from 2019-08-30T04:01:57

Did becoming a parent change your erotic life? Of course it did! Kids change everything – your experience of your body, time, freedom, personal space and mental load will never be the same! As p...

Falling In Love With Erotic Massage from 2019-08-23T17:45:52

Erotic massage is one of the most exquisite erotic experiences we have ever known – and it is how we fell in love with one another! Ready to unlock the power of your erotic touch skills? Click h...

Sharing Erotic Massage With The World : Joseph Kramer Interview Part 2 from 2019-08-09T14:47:54

In part 1 of our interview with Joseph Kramer, we learned about how he grew up as a masturbation loving gay boy in the Catholic church and left the Jesuits after receiving his first massage. We ...

The Origin Of Erotic Massage : Joseph Kramer Interview Part 1 from 2019-08-02T20:03:24

Meet our great erotic mentor, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. and hear the story of how a gay boy born into a Catholic family followed his path to become an erotic pioneer and visionary. In this intimate i...

How To Make Oral Sex More Intense from 2019-07-26T14:02:56

Does your pleasure ever feel stuck at “good enough” – and you can’t quite kick up the intensity when you want to? In this encore episode, we share a ton of techniques for amping up intensity whi...

Sex Moves : Harness The Motion Of Your Ocean from 2019-07-19T04:02:41

Sex moves! From wild rides to subtle shudders, moving your body during sex is key to unlocking a wide range of erotic experiences. Do you give yourself permission to move freely, or do you somet...

What Are You Hungry For? Interview With Dawn Serra from 2019-07-12T10:16:32

What are you hungry for? What do you crave? What do you want so much you can taste it? The fabulous Dawn Serra joins us for a conversation about recovering a joyful relationship to pleasure, des...

Opening Up Conversations About Monogamy and Non-Monogamy from 2019-07-05T10:30:22

Have you ever talked about the boundaries of your relationship? What does monogamy mean to you? What commitments do you need in a relationship to feel safe and supported? Here’s how to open up t...

Your Sexuality, Somewhere Over The Rainbow from 2019-06-13T10:54:42

The queer liberation movement has impacted ALL of our lives in both obvious and subtle ways. We are celebrating the 50 year anniversary of the Stonewall Riots by looking at how the queer liberat...

Not Always In The Mood: Dismantling Myths About Male Sexuality with Sarah Hunter Murray from 2019-06-07T04:01:54

In this episode, Canadian sex therapist and researcher Sarah Hunter Murray joins us to dismantle the myths about male sexuality that are at the root of so much sexual struggle. Her book Not Alwa...

Sexual Attitude Adjustments from 2019-05-31T04:01:46

What attitudes do you bring to your sex life? What are your attitudes about gender roles, power dynamics, desire, body parts, hygiene, physical acts, desire, love, pleasure and all of the other ...

Learning To Orgasm With Vanessa Marin from 2019-05-24T04:02:59

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin joins us to continue our conversation about female orgasm. This episode continues our conversation about female orgasm with Vanessa Marin, started on Episode 303, The...

Explore With Curiosity : Attitudes For Kinkier Sex from 2019-05-17T04:05:38

If you want to have kinkier sex, you are going to want to build some foundational skills long before you ever pick up a toy. The skills of mindful sex – noticing your thoughts without judgment, ...

Mindful Sex For Men With Performance Anxiety from 2019-05-09T04:01:18

Mindful Sex May continues with an exploration of what mindful sex practices can offer men struggling with performance anxiety. This is one of the most common sexual struggles for men – you final...

Mindful Masturbation from 2019-05-04T18:25:47

How much attention do you bring to your masturbation? How much creativity do you allow yourself in the time you spend with solo touch? Join us in exploring Mindful Sex – enroll in the Mindful Se...

Your Body Is Good Enough from 2019-04-26T04:01:58

Your body is good enough, sexy enough and you are worthy of limitless pleasure. How easy is it for you to believe that simple statement? For many of us, body shame, insecurities and judgment cre...

Create Your Bedroom Haven from 2019-04-19T04:01:33

You spend a third of your life in bed. Two of the most important activities for your wellbeing – sleep and sex – happen there. So when is the last time you thought about your bedroom and if it i...

Too Stressed Out For Sex? from 2019-04-11T20:51:42

If you find yourself too stressed out for sex, or know that sex gets in the way of your sex life, this episode is for you. Part of our podcast mini series inspired by the book Burnout, this epis...

Burnout : The Stress&Sex Connection Interview with Emily Nagoski from 2019-03-29T04:01:46

Do you ever feel like the daily grind is grinding you down? Burnout – the feeling of never enoughness, of being locked in a non-feeling state of perpetual motion, of feeling like there is no can...

Wet and Ready: Debunking Myths About Vaginal Wetness and Arousal from 2019-03-22T04:12:17

Are you ready? Wet and ready? In this podcast episode we debunk the myths about vaginal wetness, arousal and female engorgement. Get ready to pull apart wetness, arousal, sexual excitation and o...

Expanding Erotic Communication with Stella Harris from 2019-03-15T04:01:57

We all know communication is essential for healthy relationships and great sex – but how do we begin to level up our erotic communication skills? How do we break through the fear and shame to st...

What To Do With Desires Unfulfilled from 2019-03-08T05:11:17

Your erotic desires may be far more vast than can ever be met in your lifetime. What do we do with desires unfulfilled – so that we can be free to pursue more erotic fulfillment? In this paradox...

Your Constellation of Pleasures from 2019-03-01T19:20:42

You have a unique constellation of pleasures, desires and interests that make you who you are. How well do you know your own pleasure constellations? What are the brightest stars that are easy t...

Exploring Attachment Theory with Aida Manduley from 2019-02-22T05:01:12

What is attachment theory? How do different attachment styles show up in our most intimate relationships and in our sex lives? Therapist and social justice consultant Aida Manduley joins us to d...

Explore More With Us from 2019-02-15T15:02:54

If you love when we dive into big ideas about pleasure, sexuality and love, join us for a magical 10 day experience: the Explore More Summit. Enrollment is FREE and we will be right there with y...

Making Noise During Sex from 2019-02-08T05:01:46

The sounds of sex range from the sweetest of moans to the cacophony of bestial bodies banging the bed into the wall. Making noise during sex is one of the primary ways we communicate with our pa...

Body Kindness With Rebecca Scritchfield from 2019-02-01T05:10:23

What if we could all be a little kinder to our bodies? Rebecca Scritchfield believes in the power of self kindness and self compassion to change our lived experience in and with our bodies. Chec...

Reclaiming Soft Penis Pleasures from 2019-01-25T05:01:45

After our recent conversations on the emotions of erectile dysfunction, we wanted to continue into what is often uncharted territory: the erotic pleasures of the soft penis. The penis is not onl...

The Emotions of Erectile Dysfunction with Tiffany Anton from 2019-01-18T05:02:59

Erectile dysfunction is more than a physical experience – it is an emotional and psychological experience with far reaching impact. On past episodes, we covered Performance Anxiety and performan...

Learning Pleasure Through Movement With Jane Clapp from 2019-01-11T05:01:13

Movement can be a great source of pleasure, joy – and even wisdom. But most of us think about movement only in terms of exercise – at best a chore to complete, at worst a punishment for not bein...

Esther Perel’s 7 Verbs Of Love from 2019-01-04T05:01:04

Love is a verb – an action we must practice in an ongoing way. But “love” is also kind of vague, and the daily act of loving another human being is really a symphony of verbs that is constantly ...

With Love, Gratitude and Deep Respect: Closing Out 2018 from 2018-12-21T17:23:39

As we all head towards the end of 2018, we sign off for a holiday break, announce our end of the year sale and reflect on our recent time at the Zen monastery.  Get started with our FREE online ...

Cannabis, Sexuality and You : What You Need To Know from 2018-12-14T05:01:24

Cannabis, in and out of the bedroom: here’s what you need to know! Now that cannabis is legal in many states for both medicinal and recreational use, and legal in Canada as well as other countri...

The Resilient Edge of Resistance (A Sexual Superpower, Revealed!) from 2018-12-07T05:01:26

The Resilient Edge of Resistance is a concept that guides how we approach massage, erotic touch and even relationships! The Resilient Edge of Resistance is all about finding that magical place o...

Own Your Arousal from 2018-11-30T05:01:14

Arousal is not something that happens TO you – it is something that YOU generate. Your arousal is your own – so OWN IT! In this episode we explore the nature of sexual arousal, and why we all ne...

Sexual Worship and Reverent Sex from 2018-11-23T05:01:04

What would it mean to bring more reverence, awe and wonder to the bedroom? What does it mean to worship the genitals rather than degrade them? What are the implications of bringing more reverenc...

Help! My Partner Won’t Play Along from 2018-11-16T05:01:20

What happens when you are ready to explore sexually, and your partner doesn’t want to play along? How do you move forward as a couple when only one of you wants to get kinky? If you have ever fe...

Women Get Erections Too! Here’s What You Need To Know from 2018-11-09T14:35:28

We ALL get erections – it is not just a guy thing! All human bodies have about the same amount of erectile tissue in their genitals – it is just situated differently! People with vulvas get erec...

Butt Plugs! Who, What, Where, When, Why and How? from 2018-11-02T21:33:12

Butt plugs are one of the most versatile types of sex toys, but not many people know about them. Here is everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and more!) about butt plugs. In this free podcast ...

Having Fun With Erotic Roleplaying from 2018-10-26T04:01:20

When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come to mind is erotic role playing. From the classic boss and secretary scenario to Prince Charming and Sleeping Beauty, role ...

Begging For It from 2018-10-19T04:01:49

Imagine a lover gasping for air, begging for it, begging for YOU, begging for the release of your touch – is this a fantasy alone? Or is there a way to make begging for it something we can all d...

Joey Soloway on Desire, Freedom and Play from 2018-10-12T04:02:23

Joey Soloway, creator of the award winning shows Transparent and I Love Dick, joins us to talk about creating art that matters, art that is helping to change global culture and liberate the narr...

Remaking Manhood: An Interview with Mark Greene from 2018-10-05T04:10:31

We are at a cultural crossroads – where the old models of social power structures are falling away and being replaced with new models to create more equity, freedom and opportunity for us all. B...

The Path To Female Orgasm with Vanessa Marin from 2018-09-26T18:16:08

  Never had an orgasm? Struggle to reach orgasm with a partner? Vanessa Marin joins us to talk about stepping onto the path to female orgasm. If you are a woman and want to learn how to have you...

Full Body Orgasms For Every Body from 2018-09-21T04:08:36

Full body orgasms are not a myth, nor are they particularly difficult to experience. Full body orgasms are possible for all bodies to experience, and as you explore the skills needed to experien...

Slow Down For Better Sex from 2018-09-14T13:00:18

Slow Down! That’s some of the best sex advice we can give you. But of course – it is simple but not always easy. Slowing down in the erotic realm is an essential step to have better sex and enjo...

Bisexual and Already Married from 2018-09-07T11:12:32

What happens when you realize that you are bisexual – after you are already happily married? In this episode we explore the complex emotional terrain of coming out to yourself as bisexual – when...

Sex Love Liberation with Ev’Yan Whitney from 2018-08-31T04:02:44

Hear how one woman broke through her sexual repression and began discovering her authentic sexual expression. Ev’yan Whitney, sexuality coach and founder of SexLoveLiberation.com, generously sha...

Quick Updates and Slow Upgrades from 2018-08-24T04:10:55

Quick update on what’s happening behind the scenes at Pleasure Mechanics, and what’s coming next!

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How To Enjoy Ethical Porn from 2018-08-03T15:01:08

Do you get maximum enjoyment out of your porn habit, or is it compromised by not-so-great porn, feelings of shame and guilt or distaste at what pops up during your porn sessions? Most adults use...

Expanding Orgasmic Capacity from 2018-07-27T04:01:49

Multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms, clitoral orgasms, oh my! We break down the complexity of orgasms and demystify all the hype about different types of orgasms. A listener wrote in wanting to ...

Surviving Sexless Seasons from 2018-07-20T04:10:34

All relationships have sexless seasons – periods of time where there is little or no sexual connection –  here’s how to survive them so a sexless season doesn’t turn into a sexless marriage or b...

Tell Me What You Want: Exploring Sexual Fantasy with Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. from 2018-07-13T04:04:35

What do your sexual fantasies reveal about who you are and what you want? Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. joins us to discuss his new book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It ...

Getting Kinky In A Long Term Relationship from 2018-07-06T16:53:13

  What happens when you are ready to explore kinky sex – but are already in a long term relationship? How do you begin to explore erotic power play – with your beloved spouse? What does it take ...

Get Specific About Your Erotic Desires from 2018-06-22T04:03:38

One of the most important sexual skills to develop is the ability to get specific.  Sexuality is a highly personal creation – the nuances of what lights you up is yours alone to discover, explor...

Transforming Rejection Into Refusal Encore Episode from 2018-06-15T04:02:31

Sexual rejection hurts – here is how to soften the blow when your partner initiates sex and you are not into it. Rejection hurts. Medical research shows that of all human emotions, rejection is ...

Dual Control Model of Arousal from 2018-06-08T04:07:53

This episode covers one of the most important frameworks for understanding the human sexual experience: the dual control model of arousal. Get ready to rethink everything you know about getting ...

Emily Nagoski Interview from 2018-06-01T04:01:14

Emily Nagoski is one of the most important thinkers in the field of sexuality. She does a remarkable job translating scientific and social knowledge into deeply personal stories and actionable s...

Better Sex Through Mindfulness with Lori Brotto from 2018-05-25T04:06:35

  Twenty years after Viagra was approved to treat erectile issues in men, we still don’t have any quick fixes for the primary sexual struggle of women: low sexual desire. In this podcast intervi...

Rethinking Sexual Performance Anxiety from 2018-05-18T04:03

Sexual performance anxiety is the most common sexual struggle for men. Almost all men experience sexual performance anxiety at one time or another, and many men suffer with it for years on end. ...

Ending Performance Anxiety with Vanessa Marin from 2018-05-11T17:48:14

Performance Anxiety is the primary sexual struggle of far too many men. What does performance anxiety even mean? What causes performance anxiety? How can guys overcome performance anxiety? What ...

Why You Masturbate The Way You Do : A History Lesson from 2018-05-04T14:57:17

Why do so many people struggle with masturbation? Why do so many of us feel a little bit ashamed of solo sex, treating it like a dirty chore rather than a self-love practice that can bring treme...

Writing As Erotic Practice from 2018-04-27T18:01:58

Can writing be a tool to unlock more erotic freedom and possibility? How does reading erotica help us discover what is possible for our own sex lives? In this interview, writer and writing works...

Emerging Out Of Sexual Hibernation from 2018-04-20T16:48:36

Sometimes, sexuality can go into a deep slumber – here is how to start emerging out of sexual hibernation. In this episode, we share from our current experience of emerging out of sexual hiberna...

Have A Good Ask In Bed from 2018-03-30T04:34:41

How do you ask for what you want in bed? Do you wait around hoping your partner will know what you want? Do you send out subtle signals of sexual willingness- only to feel rejected when your par...

Talking Sex with Sex Talk With My Mom from 2018-03-23T04:02:34

  Karen Lee Poter and Cameron Poter are the mother/son team behind the irreverent podcast Sex Talk With My Mom. When we were in Los Angeles recently, we got together and recorded episodes for BO...

Stop Asking THIS Question from 2018-03-16T04:01:33

There is one question that can be a total mood killer in bed. When women hear this question, they suddenly feel like they need to switch into caretaker mode and protect his fragile ego. This que...

Sex Lab! from 2018-03-09T05:02:58

Are you ready for a Sex Lab? The sex lab is a playful space where you can try new sexual activities, build new sexual skills, dip into new kinks or try on new erotic personas – without all the p...

Jealousy, Arousal and Anxiety from 2018-03-02T05:02:45

Sexual jealousy has a big impact on arousal and erection. For some people, sexual jealousy can be a huge turn-on, and these people can harness jealousy and turn it into arousal. Other people fee...

Intimacy Issues from 2018-02-23T05:06:11

Intimacy is one of those words that has lost it’s meaning – and it is time to excavate the meaning of intimacy and see where it fits in the complicated reality of human sexuality. In this episod...

Sex Positive Families with Melissa Carnagey from 2018-02-16T05:04:38

What does it mean to be a sex positive parent? How can you be a better role model for the kids and youth in your community? As adults, we are the highest influencers for the next generation. It ...

Mindful Sex for Sexual Wellbeing, Better Orgasms and Deeper Love from 2018-02-02T05:01:26

We have a new course available! Mindful Sex invites you to harness the power of mindfulness in your sex life. Discover how to minimize distractions, stay present during arousal, expand your capa...

What Is Mindful Sex? from 2018-02-01T05:01:01

What is Mindful Sex? What are the benefits of Mindful Sex? How do you practice Mindful Sex? To celebrate the release of our brand new course on (you guessed it!) Mindful Sex, here is a lively co...

Karen Duffy on Pleasure, Pain and Purpose from 2018-01-26T05:03:40

Do you deal with chronic pain? Have a chronic illness? Worried about what it means for your sex life and love relationship? If so, you are not alone. It is estimated that 1 in 3 Americans live w...

It’s More Than Bad Sex from 2018-01-19T01:38:39

If the Aziz Ansari story shook you, you are not alone. So many of us have had sex that leaves us feeling violated, used and abused. It’s more than bad sex – it’s living in a violent sex culture....

Pelvic Floor Pleasure with Dr. UC from 2018-01-12T05:02:01

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sex educator and counselor. She bridges the worlds of physical therapy and sex education to support folks in optimizing...

Distracted During Sex? Here’s What To Do from 2018-01-05T05:06:46

If you ever get distracted during sex, here’s everything you need to know to stay focused and practice more mindful sex. We cover how to minimize distractions during sex so you can focus on the ...

The Power Of Erotic Intention from 2017-12-29T14:43:31

  In this episode we explore the power of setting erotic intentions. Intentions are not the same as goals or resolutions. Whereas goals are all about what you want to create in your future, inte...

Is Male Sexuality Predatory By Nature? from 2017-12-22T05:02:57

Esther Perel says it is time we question on of the primary assumptions about male sexuality: that it is by nature predatory and insatiable. In this episode, we reflect on the myths of male sexua...

Esther Perel Interview On Sex, Power and Desire from 2017-12-15T05:02:36

In this candid and provocative interview, Esther Perel talks about the relationship between sex and power, desire and arousal, and what we need to do to heal our current sex culture. We are curr...

Emotional Generosity from 2017-12-08T05:07:17

Here’s the secret of the happiest couples: emotional generosity. For long term relationships to work, you have to invest in the emotional landscape of your family. This requires creating a cultu...

Sexual Desire: Spontaneous Vs. Responsive from 2017-12-01T05:01:43

Do you know the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire? How do these two types of desire show up for men vs. women? And why do the two types of desire matter in how you thin...

Erotic Gift Giving from 2017-11-27T16:55:43

Erotic gifts can add a beautiful intimate touch to the holidays. With so much family togetherness and busy schedules, think about setting aside a little bit of time to be alone together, savor s...

Naming Your True Desires from 2017-11-24T17:36:09

Do you know what you want out of your sex life? Is naming your true desires something that comes easily? If you have a hard time knowing what you want in bed, let alone asking for it, you are no...

Vibrator Nation: The History Of Feminist Sex Stores with Lynn Comella Ph.D. from 2017-11-17T05:01:23

Ever wonder how vibrators and sex toys became so popular? How did sex toys find their way into our bedside tables and cultural conversations? Author Lynn Comella, Ph.D. shares the fascinating hi...

Break The Rules Together from 2017-11-09T18:29:03

Let’s face it: for some of us, some of the time, breaking rules feels good. Transgression creates anticipation, thrill, the rush of “getting away with it” – and for some of us, this excitement i...

Harnessing Jealousy As Erotic Fuel from 2017-11-03T04:02:24

Jealousy is a natural emotion, part of the great human drama of eroticism and sexuality. Everyone gets jealous – so the question becomes how to harness jealousy instead of allowing it to harm yo...

Explicit Monogamy Agreements from 2017-10-27T15:14:19

What does monogamy mean to you? What counts as cheating and infidelity? Have you ever had a conversation about monogamy with your partner, or do you just assume that you both know what it means?...

Multiple Orgasms For Every Body from 2017-10-20T15:34:16

Multiple orgasms aren’t just for women! Every body can experience multiple orgasms, and in this episode we share the explicit techniques you can explore on your own or with a partner. In this ep...

Sex Toys For Men from 2017-10-12T18:06:18

Sex toys for men offer a wide range of sensations and erotic possibilities. It is time men shed the shame about using sex toys and embrace the excitement that sex toys can add to both solo and p...

Simultaneous Orgasm from 2017-10-06T15:41:53

Is simultaneous orgasm a myth? Or an attainable goal? In this episode we unpack the idea of simultaneous orgasms and give you the tools and techniques you need if you want to explore that elusiv...

Bonus: It’s Not A Vibrator, It’s A Satisfyer from 2017-10-04T18:52:13

Here’s a bonus episode brought to you from the Sex Expo 2017, where Chris spoke with sexual wellness educ...

Celebrating Masturbation with Dr. Chris Donaghue from 2017-09-29T22:51:54

We spoke with Dr. Chris Donaghue at the Sex Expo in Brooklyn. In this episode, we cover:



* why we ALL can benefit from masturbating, no matter our relationship statu...

Attraction In Long Term Relationships from 2017-09-22T04:01:53

  How important is physical attraction in long term relationships? When do you feel most attractive? What attracts you to your partner? In this podcast, we tackle the sticky topic with compassio...

How To Have Spontaneous Sex from 2017-09-15T17:57:45

  Here is how to have more spontaneous sex – without enduring the common pitfalls of quickies! Most people want more spontaneous sex – but we also know that the body and mind need to be prepared...

How To Ask For What You Want from 2017-09-08T04:26:13

Asking for what you want in bed is an essential skill to develop – here’s how. In this podcast episode, we cover: how, when and why to ask for what you want in bed why most lovers need and want ...

The Peak Erotic Experience Exercise from 2017-09-01T04:16:56

  The Peak Erotic Experience Exercise is an easy and effective tool to identify your personal erotic blueprint. By thinking about your best sexual experiences, you can start to identify the elem...

Sex In The Great Outdoors from 2017-08-25T04:06:29

Sex in the great outdoors can be a thrilling adventure – here’s how to do it while avoiding the risks of outdoor sex (like getting caught!) Outdoor sex is a very common fantasy. Read how to make...

Romantic Summer Sex from 2017-08-18T15:22:06

Want to have more romantic summer sex? Here’s how to have more loving, intimate and memorable summer sex. This episode is an encore of Episode #168: Romantic Sex For more on romance, check out t...

Stress Free Travel Tips from 2017-08-11T22:23:37

Here’s an encore episode from the archives that is all about stress free travel tips. Learn how to minimize stress so you can get on with having more fun. Summer travel is a perfect opportunity ...

The Story Of Us from 2017-08-05T18:34:18

Here’s an exercise from couples therapy that activates the power of storytelling to create a happier, more resilient relationship. The Story of Us is a couple’s therapy exercise developed by Drs...

Female Performance Anxiety from 2017-07-28T04:24:25

Women can suffer from performance anxiety too! Here’s how to overcome female performance anxiety! In this episode about female performance anxiety, we cover: how female performance anxiety is di...

Kinky Masturbation from 2017-07-21T17:33:49

Is your solo sex life getting a little boring? Do you have kinky fantasies and no one to explore them with? Here’s how to integrate kink in your solo play and enjoy the infinite pleasures of kin...

How To Have An Affair With Your Spouse from 2017-07-14T18:27:01

Get all the benefits of cheating – without infidelity. Here’s how to harness the excitement and thrills of an affair – with your spouse! In this episode we invite you into the fantasy game of pl...

Sex and Social Justice with Aida Manduley from 2017-07-07T04:03:08

Sex and pleasure matter far beyond your bedroom. Sexuality is part of your social body, how you interact with and are treated by the world. Sexuality is deeply interconnected with race and class...

The Gender Galaxy from 2017-06-30T04:05:22

The gender galaxy is expanding – and opening up opportunities for us all. Learn all about transgender, genderqueer, genderfluid and cisgender identities, and find yourself in the gender galaxy! ...

Lust Vs. Disgust from 2017-06-23T04:03:27

Arousal makes us do crazy things, right? Even simple sex acts like open mouth kissing and oral sex seem strange if you think about them rationally for too long! Things we would never normally wa...

Playful Sex from 2017-06-16T04:25

Many people take sex way too seriously! Here’s how to make sex more playful, joyful and creative. Playful sex brings us back to the creative freedom of pure pleasure seeking play. When we can la...

Building Consent Culture with Kitty Stryker from 2017-06-09T04:18:55

 Without consent, desire cannot flourish ~ Carol Queen Consent is far more than the absence of “no” – and is a vital social skill in and out of the bedroom. Consent culture is a critical piece o...

Surrendering Into Orgasm from 2017-06-02T14:58:15

Have you ever had trouble letting go of control long enough to have an orgasm with a partner? Here’s how to surrender into orgasm, on your own terms. Many women, especially those who like being ...

Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz from 2017-05-26T04:36:42

Men have about three orgasms for every one a woman has in a long term relationship. This is not because women’s anatomy is more complicated! It turns out that the kind of sex most people are hav...

Three Ways To Have More Fulfilling Sex from 2017-05-19T04:05:52

  Ever wonder why some sex leaves you feeling kinda blah? Why is sex sometimes totally mind blowing and other times sex feels like a chore? Why does it feel like you and your partner are in two ...

First Steps Into Kinky Sex from 2017-05-12T15:57:37

Want to explore kinky sex but worried you’ll get in over your head? Interested in a fetish or two, but wondering where it will lead? We often talk about what kinds of fantasies you might want to...

Sex After Baby Part 2: On Being A Sexual Woman And A Mom from 2017-05-12T15:20:01

We continue the conversation we started last week about sex after baby arrives. In this episode we share thoughts on being both a sexual woman and a mom, and how to flip the switch between those...

Sex After Baby from 2017-05-05T04:16:53

How do you have sex after having a baby? How long should you wait to have sex after baby arrives? Will your sex life ever be the same after having a baby? We hear these questions about sex after...

The Erotic Power of Couples Massage from 2017-04-28T19:21:11

Do  you ever feel too stressed out for sex? Does it take too long to get turned on? Want to feel more aroused more efficiently? You are not alone! Most people struggle to get aroused – and stres...

Shedding The Stigma of Genital Herpes from 2017-04-14T16:56:53

If you are a sexually active adult, chances are you have been exposed to the herpes virus. Many people are silent carriers of the virus and will never have symptoms. But the social stigma and fe...

Orgies, Sex Parties and Sex Clubs from 2017-04-07T18:42:35

Ready for a new sexual adventure? Here is everything you need to know to take your first steps into the world of social sex clubs and sex parties. Sex clubs and sex parties offer a world of erot...

Hookup Culture with Lisa Wade from 2017-03-31T17:10:30

Hookup culture is about more than casual sex. Hookup culture is part of today’s sexual landscape and affects all of us, whether or not we are in a relationship or single. Hookups are casual sexu...

I Want Sex–But Not With My Spouse from 2017-03-24T16:11:16

What happens when your sexual desire is alive and well – but you don’t want sex with your spouse? The one person you are supposed to have sex with is not the one lighting up your fantasies, and ...

Sex Out Of Obligation from 2017-03-17T15:41:14

Is it ever a good idea to have sex out of obligation? Do you owe your spouse a sex life? What is your obligation to your partner when it comes to sex? We hear variations of this question quite o...

At The Male Strip Revue from 2017-03-03T20:10:49

Here’s what happened when we went to American Storm in Las Vegas – and came away with lots of ideas about unbridling women’s sexuality, integrating fantasy into domestic life, and men’s erotic e...

How To Initiate Sex from 2017-02-24T20:20:30

Initiating sex can be scary, even in long term relationships. Here’s how to initiate (and refuse!) sex with skill and grace. If initiating sex terrifies you, you are not alone. In this episode w...

Manage Your Turn Ons and Turn Offs from 2017-02-16T16:30:56

Traditionally, arousal is visualized as a linear progression: Arousal – Plateau- Orgasm – Resolution The standard sex advice is that to enjoy sex more, just add more arousal. More lingerie, more...

Curvy Girl Sex With Elle Chase from 2017-02-10T18:53:02

If you want a more creative, adventurous and joyful sex life this episode is for you! Elle Chase, author of the new book Curvy Girl Sex, joins us for a candid conversation about how to have grea...

How Guys Can Feel Sexier from 2017-02-03T22:47:52

Most guys want to feel sexier – but without the obvious shortcuts like lingerie or high heels, how can guys start to feel more swagger in their step? We share our thoughts on sexy ...

Sexy Gift Guide from 2017-01-27T05:11:59

Want the perfect sexy gift for Valentine’s Day, an anniversary or birthday? Here’s our guide on giving a gift your lover will ador...

Taboo Sexual Fantasies – Where’s The Line? from 2017-01-20T18:21:24

Ever have fantasies that worry you? Or wonder if your fantasies are healthy? We all do. Here’s our take on taboo fantasies.

It is essential to know the difference between...

Does Being Selfish In Bed Make Sex Better? from 2017-01-13T18:36:47

Most of us fear being perceived as selfish in bed, so we hold back our true desires. According to this scientific study, being selfish in bed makes both you and your partner more sexually satisfied...

Sex and Disability with Andrew Gurza from 2016-12-16T05:12:24

We can all learn more about how to enjoy sex by listening to the voices of people with disabilities. In this episode, Disability Awareness Consultant Andrew Gurza helps us shed light on ...

How To Get High On Sex from 2016-12-09T16:13:22

We all crave the kind of sex that transports us to new dimensions of awareness. After sharing an article from New York Magazine about erotic trance, we share strategies on how to purposefully culti...

Prolonging Intercourse from 2016-12-02T19:42:43

If you want to last longer in bed and prolong intercourse, you can learn ejaculation control and how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. If not, the refractory period will limit just ho...

Erotic Communication from 2016-11-25T05:02:14

Feel shy when it comes to talking about sex? Communication is essential for a great sex life, but not all of us love to chat about our deepest desires. Here are a few alternative ways to share your...

What’s Your Fetish from 2016-11-18T05:01:54

What turns you on? What REALLY turns you on?

We all have a unique constellation of things that arouse us – some expected and some very surprising. If we can let go of sha...

Intimacy In Times of Fear from 2016-11-11T16:48:55

The 2016 election left most of us - of all political persuasions - feeling scared, isolated and uncertain. We step aside from our usual sex advice podcast to offer thoughts and strategies on how to...

Exploring Erotic Possibilities with Barbara Carrellas from 2016-11-04T18:48:48

Do you ever sense that there is more – much more – possible in your sex life? Do you ever want to go beyond your normal experiences and taste the ecstatic side of sex?
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Sex Positions – Who Is In Control? from 2016-10-28T18:26:01

In response to a caller’s advice about changing sex positions, we explore what a sex position can and can not change about your erotic experience. Does the position you use change ...

Cherish, Support, Adventure : Our Relationship Values from 2016-10-21T17:37:32

Today is our 10 year anniversary and we are celebrating by sharing some behind the scenes insight into our relationship – both as wives and lovers and as The Pleasure Mechanics. Listen

Level Up Your Love Skills with Dr. Nerdlove from 2016-10-07T06:30:18

Harris O’Malley is a blogger and dating coach who provides geek dating advice at DoctorNerdLove.com

While he’s not ...

Oral Sex Orgasms Advanced Techniques from 2016-09-30T19:41:05

For many women, receiving oral sex is challenging. Some women have anxiety about how their vulva looks, smells or tastes. Other women worry about appearing selfish if they take too much ...

Erotic Breathing with Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. from 2016-09-23T19:54:53

Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. has explored every aspect of sexuality in her 40+ years as a sex professional. Hear about her surprising favorite technique - breathing - and how it can open up your sexual ex...

My Sexual Breakthrough Moment from 2016-09-16T15:28:22

Ready to break through to new levels of sexual pleasure? Here's how. First, we share one man's story of a sexual breakthrough and then share strategies for finding your own path to erotic highs. Listen

Midlife Sexual Renaissance with Pamela Madsen from 2016-09-09T19:19:52

Today’s guest is an outspoken, passionate and irreverent woman who is not afraid to get vulnerable in order to connect and lead her community.



Pamela Madsen is the author of “S...

Arousal Panic from 2016-08-30T13:51:30

Men aren't supposed to get erections in public for good reason. As young boys, erections cause embarrassment and even punishment. But the pattern of tension and shame this creates creeps into priva...

Playfulness and Pleasure with Cyndi Darnell from 2016-08-26T16:44:21

On today’s show we have a fabulous guest, NYC sex therapist Cyndi Darnell. Cy...

Irrumatio from 2016-08-19T16:09:20

Dear Pleasure Mechanics,



My boyfriend and I listen to your podcast every week and it has prompted some very exciting conversations and bedroom adventures. For this, I thank you...

Sexual Fitness : Expert Advice from 2016-08-12T14:08:12

There is a powerful system of muscles, nerve endings and blood vessels between your legs - and maintaining this system is essential for sexual pleasure and health. On today’s episode we are joined ...

The Emotional Authenticity of Erotic Touch from 2016-08-05T15:00:57

Proven: authentic emotions are transmitted through touch. Here's how to use this power to your erotic advantage! Discover how to communicate love, gratitude and desire through the simple magic of t...

Body Confidence With Dawn Serra from 2016-07-29T18:23:06

Anyone can have amazing sex - even if you don't love every inch of your body! Don't wait to be perfect to be daring enough to enjoy sex. Instead, learn how to enjoy pleasure in your own skin, no ma...

Nipple Stimulation and Nipple Toys from 2016-06-17T17:16:07

Nipple play can add lots of arousing sensation to erotic play. While women’s nipples tend to get more attention, male nipples can be a powerful erogenous zone as well.


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The State of Male Sexuality from 2016-06-10T16:25

In this episode we explore male sexuality and all the ways our culture puts pressure on men.



We cover:



* how men have suffered from our sexually repressive...

Slow Masturbation from The Joy of Sex from 2016-06-01T21:32:30

Imagine combining the best of oral sex, handjobs, bondage and the edging technique. That's what this technique from the 1972 sex manual The Joy of Sex offers! In this episode we share the details o...

Sexual Tension and Sexual Frustration from 2016-05-27T18:17

How often do you experience sexual tension? What about sexual frustration? Tension can be a simple build up of arousal, like pressure in a soda bottle until it is ready to explode. But sexual frust...

Female Masturbation with Jenny Block from 2016-05-20T12:45:09

Solo sex goes way beyond functional masturbation. Jenny Block, author of the new book The Ultimate Guide To Solo Sex, joins us to explore the benefits of female masturbation. From the health benefi...

In Sickness and In Health from 2016-05-19T14:52:45

In this episode, we explore what it means to take care of your lover when sickness or illness strikes. In many of our wedding vows, we commit to loving one another "in sickness and in health, in go...

Pegging and Prostate Play from 2016-05-13T18:01:54

Men all around the world are discovering the pleasures of prostate stimulation and pegging. Many report that this kind of play is giving them the most intense orgasms of their lives.

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The Reromanticizing Exercise from 2016-05-10T20:09:01

Has the romance faded from your relationship? Want to feel those sparks of new romance again? Just want to feel more love and care in your life?



The Reromanticizing Exercise c...

Male Bisexuality from 2016-05-06T15:31:56

Male bisexuality is all too often perceived as a halfway step to full gay identity. This myth silences far too many men and creates shame around very real desires. While female sexuality is perceiv...

Powerful Submission from 2016-05-04T19:05:12

Erotic submission doesn't have to be about being denigrated, humiliated or punished. It doesn't have to look like cowering at the feet of your dominant partner or crying out in pain. It can include...

Why Explore Female Domination & Male Submission? from 2016-04-22T20:09:43

Curious about kinky sex? Here's a look into one particular flavor of kink: female domination and male submission.



We share some of the reasons why it is such a powerful turn on...

Figging and Botanical Sex from 2016-04-15T20:23:13

The plant kingdom offer us a wide range of sexy sensations if we approach the idea with a creative and open mind.



For thousands of years, plants and humans have had a sensual r...

Sexual Satisfaction from 2016-04-12T17:38:06

A new study of over 38,000 couples reveals what YOU need to do if you want to be sexually satisfied in a long term relationship.



The research, led by David A. Frederick of Chap...

Prostate Milking from 2016-04-08T20:26:01

Prostate milking can unleash whole new levels of pleasure for men. Many guys say it is the secret to the best orgasms of their life. So why are so many men hesitant to explore it?


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Cunnilingus Techniques from 2016-04-06T22:48:03

Cunnilingus is one of the most effective ways at giving women intense, orgasmic pleasure. But it is also a challenge for a lot of couples.



Here are some cunnilingus techniques ...

Fingering Do’s and Don’ts from 2016-04-01T19:49:26

Discover the importance of using your hands to arouse and satisfy your woman in bed. Your hands can be your most powerful erotic tools if you master a few simple skills. Find out why they are so im...