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 Z is for Zipless Fuck
Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex.  I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones.  Today the letter is Z and Z is for Zipless Fuck… 
A zipless fuck is sex with no strings.  For many people this means anonymous sex but for others it simply means casual sex. 
Erica Jong, author of Fear of Flying coined this term in 1973. She said ‘The zipless fuck is absolutely pure.  It’s free of ulterior motives.  There is no power game.  The man is not ‘taking’ and the woman is not ‘giving’.  No one is attempting to cuckhold a husband or humiliate a wife.  No one is trying to prove anything or get anything out of anyone.  The zipless fuck is the purest thing there is.  And it is rare than a unicorn.  I have never had one.  It is called zipless because when you came together, zippers fell away like rose petals, underwear blew off in one breath like dandelion fluff.  For the true ultimate zipless A-1 fuck, it was necessary that you never got to know the man very well.’ 
A zipless fuck should provide pure pleasure and energise as a result.   Erica Jong felt that to achieve this, the parties could not know each other because in knowing each other different agendas would come into play.  Recently, Ms Jong said that she felt it was impossible to find a zipless fuck and that in fact she felt the best sex was with people that you know. 
In a zipless fuck, you are free to project anything onto your partner.  You can make him or her into the ideal in every way.   If the sex is truly fantastic, this can become your unattainable ideal for the future.    Everyone you meet is compared to this mysterious lover with whom you had an amazing sexual encounter.    Everyone is compared to this unattainable ideal.    This can overshadow perfectly delicious experiences with people you know or are getting to know well.  If the zipless fuck does overshadow, you have missed the point. 
 The point of the experience is that it be liberating.  Once liberated, there is no need to repeat the experience every week or every month.  Once you have had a transformational experience, you move on to new levels of learning.   Of course, this is only true if you see the zipless fuck as an opportunity for learning and for ‘pure’ experience.  You may view it as simply the opportunity for some great no strings sex.
 Casual sex has changed quite a lot since Ms Jong wrote about zipless fucks in 1973.    In the 80’s, the discovery of AIDS gave pause to many who engaged in casual sex.   The idea of simply meeting without words, engaging in hot and heavy sex and then parting with not a comment being made began to disappear.  Conversations about safe sex were necessary before sex could begin.  At least that was the case for people who wanted to avoid STI’s. 
Friends with benefits became a more popular choice than one night stands.  Though knowing someone in other contexts doesn’t necessarily translate to knowing whether they indulge in safe or unsafe sexual behaviour. In the UK, diagnoses for sexually transmitted infections rose in 2012 by 5%.   This despite lots of public education as to the risks of unprotected sex.  
Aaron discovered a love for sex with men through a zipless fuck.  Aaron is 33 single and had identified as heterosexual.  He works in banking which brings a high salary but long hours and little time for maintaining relationships.  He has had a couple long term relationships that ended as a result of his career.  Aaron isn’t ready to settle down and describes himself as having a healthy sexual appetite.  Aaron has always been curious about sex with men.  He has fantasised about men since he was in his teens.  He never found himself in the situation to test out his attractions and is

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