Five Minute Thursday - Abundance Versus Scarcity - a podcast by Larry Hagner: Founder, Author, Speaker, Coach, goodadproject.com

Hey guys for this week’s “Five Minute Thursday” I wanted to
highlight a few takeaways from our interview with Jason Mackenzie,
founder of the The Book of Open.

Empowerment through Vulnerability

For most men, we associate vulnerability with weakness.  To
be honest, even hearing the word “vulnerable” my first thought is
“unwanted exposure to weakness.”  However, vulnerability is a
strength.  Vulnerability is empowerment through authenticity,
which is being true to one’s self. 

I have been working with men/fathers for the past three years,
and I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that if men are
going to be “vulnerable” with each other, it has to be in an
atmosphere or situation where it “cool thing.” 

I can tell you from experience that men will check out when you
start talking about sensitive stuff like “let’s share our
feelings.”  Men simply don’t respond to that when in the
presence of another man.  In fact, it’s even hard for us to do
this with our wives for the most part.

However, men are good at one thing…problem solving.  We
love to problem solve.  We feel empowered when we share our
wisdom and give advice.  To be honest, being vulnerable is
sharing a struggle or an obstacle and simply asking for
input. 

The way to kick start a “cool atmosphere” of vulnerability is to
ask for advice from a friend. 

Here’s an example that will really hit this home…If you are
sitting across that table with a friend and he says:

“Hey Mike, I am struggling in my marriage and I need to share my
feelings with you about it.” 

OR

“Hey Mike…man…so check this out, Jen and I are having some tough
times lately.  There is a ton of tension between Jen and
me.  I can’t really figure out how to get things back in the
groove.  Have you and Becky been through this?  If so,
how can you help me out man?”

Which one of those sounds better and would be received
better?  It’s the same dilemma and situation…just teed up
better.

Abundance versus Scarcity

Jason hit upon a great topic that is powerful for all of us and
that is having the right mentality.  Our brains are wired up
to default to fear and keep us from danger.  This part of our
brain is the amygdala and it has been a part of our hardwired DNA
since the beginning.  This is the part of our brain where we
hear the voice of fear and consequences.  It’s the same part
of your brain that will talk you out of risks and tells you are not
good enough.  It’s not our fault; it’s just part of our
hardwiring. 

It takes a trained and disciplined mind to look at our lives
with abundance vs. scarcity.  Successful people don’t think
about what they are going to lose by taking a calculated
risk.  Successful people consider what they will lose if they
don’t take a calculated risk and move forward. 

So, the next time that fear voice starts to bend your ear,
remember the words of wisdom from Jason Mackenzie on this
subject.  It’s all about perspective and reframing.

No One Relates to Perfection

I grew up in the 80’s and I was a die-hard WWF professional
wrestling fan.  Hulk Hogan, Rick Flair, Jimmy Superfly, and
so-on were my heroes.  The most hated guys in that sport at
that time was “Mr. Perfect and Mr. Wonderful.”  Want to know
why?  It’s because no one can relate to inflated egos and
perfection.

People relate to real-life authenticity and transparency. 
Our greatest human need is the need for community and
relationships.  It’s impossible for us to relate to others
that view themselves as superhuman or “perfect.” 

The big lesson here is there is connection and empowerment
through being authentic, vulnerable, and transparent.  People
relate to us better in that mindset and we are more willing to
accept ourselves.

Guys, thanks for checking out this week’s “Five Minute
Thursday.”  See you next week and have an awesome weekend!

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