Marni welcomes author and personal development expert Gary John Bishop into the Life Check Yourself studio to discuss the impacts of his books and teachings. Gary John describes how we can uncover our personal truth and venture into relationships without blame or baggage. 

 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

• Let go of the need to be right
• Living an authentic life
• How to accomplish extraordinary things
• Forgiveness equals progress

 

Writing Unfu*k Yourself [1:47]

Gary John did not want to write a book. He resisted when a marketing representative approached him with the idea. He didn't want to write a book called 'Be Great' because that is not his style. He was self-publishing, so he thought who cares what the title is. He was unwilling to do anything or write anything that felt inauthentic. 

If you want to live an extraordinary life, you have to do something extraordinary. 

Most people look at others who do extraordinary things and believe the other people have something special that propels them forward. But people who do extraordinary things are just people who were called to do something bigger and then took the necessary actions to get it done. 

For those called to do extraordinary stuff but don't act, they have to tell themselves the truth. That is when they start to identify how full of shit they have become. When we embrace who we are and what we are about we chip away at the conditioning and programming to expose our authenticity.

It's not about how successful you are with your venture. It's about taking the steps for yourself. Get clear about who you are and what you care about. This is what unfu*king yourself means. People will be drawn to your authenticity. 

 

Love Unfu*ked [14:51]

In relationships, most of us are trying to fix something about ourselves from our past.  We believe a relationship will be the answer we are looking for. Gary John says it is a big part of what draws us to people. It is not that a person is the love of our lives, it is that they are the solution of our lives. They solve something for us. Sometimes they solve problems for us we didn't know we had. 

The first thing to do before you get in any relationship is to get clear about the kind of ‘you’ that is getting into the relationship. You can't go into a new relationship with junk from the past. Consider what you are walking in the door with and what things trigger you? It's not rocket science. When we look back at all of our crappy relationships the common denominator is always us. 

If you take away the bullsh*t you can figure out what drives you to do what you do. 

 

The Life You Are Willing to Put Up With [19:20]

Marni questions Gary John about people who claim to have done the work but just don't implement what they have learned? Gary John says that knowing something doesn't really mean sh*t. Knowledge does not equal awareness. You can know something but still not have come to terms with it or understand the ways it impacts your life. 

You have the life you are willing to put up with. 

We can move, evolve, and change in the face of anything. The secret ingredient is us. If we want our life to be different, we have to be different.  

The only thing that keeps us rooted in the past is blame. We become attached to being right, but we need to move past it. 

It is not hard to forgive ourselves. 

 

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