Podcasts by The Dildorks
Sex nerds and best friends Billy (billylore.com) and Kate (katesloan.com) talk about all things sex, dating, and masturbating.
Further podcasts by Bex Caputo & Kate Sloan
Podcast on the topic Sexualität
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Episode 3: Feeling Kinky?! from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.878592
This week the Dildorks delve into one of their all time favorite topics- Kink! We talk about our kink identities, fetishes, and some of the things we really want to try. We think back on how our ki...
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Episode 7: Can You Handle This? from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.873867
Handjobs aren't just for high schoolers! In this episode Bex and Kate discuss all the reasons they love hand sex, some of their favorite hand sex stories, and their hand sex fantasies. Find out all...
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Episode 8: The Notorious PIV from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.872649
Is PIV really a thing anymore? Kate asked that very question in a recent article, and now she and Bex explore that idea even further. They discuss their first times, their best times, and the time...
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Episode 12: Spank You Very Much from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.868094
It's time for us to talk smack about smackin'! Let us regale you with tales of Bex's birthday spanking party, Kate's mid-bang spanking lesson, and the saddest paddlin' either of us has ever partici...
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Episode 16: Jerking Hard, or Hardly Jerking? from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.863803
How did we come so far (and so many times!) without talking about masturbation?! In this episode we wax poetic about whackin' off. Find out how we fumbled our way to our first orgasms, what we fant...
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Episode 20: Funnyboners from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.859242
Humor is one of the most popular traits people look for in a partner, and in this week's episode, we talk a little bit about why. Find out if we think laughing during sex kills the mood, why Starbu...
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Episode 21: Attraction Abstraction from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.858083
Human attractions are mysterious phenomena! In this episode, we unpack what draws us to people and what repulses us. Why is Kate doomed to date game devs forever? How does Bex weigh good dick again...
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Episode 24: Use Your Nerds from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.855384
This week we're joined by our buddy [Brent "Brentalfloss" Black](https://twitter.com/brentalfloss), game dev, [YouTuber](http://youtube.com/user/brentalfloss), and podcaster extraordinaire! We foun...
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Episode 25: You Got Served from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.854078
Service isn't just unpaid labor; for us, it's a kink, too! In this episode, find out how cleaning can be hot, what craft beer has to do with kink, and whether semen is a good reward...
Episode 29: A Veritable Pornucopia from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.849218
Porn makes great jerk-off fodder, but it's also so much more than that! This episode, find out why Bex doesn't really watch porn, why Kate's mom is a sex-positive superhero, and why we both get har...
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Episode 33: Oh No! Porno Woes from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.793701
We went to the [Toronto International Porn Festival](http://www.torontointernationalpornfestival.com/) and it really pissed us off, y'all. Here's our episode-long rant about the consent issues, org...
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Episode 38: Fan-Friction from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.789220
Fanfiction is a wonderful exercise in imagination and perviness! Find out our favorite fic pairings, our thoughts on the ethics of real-person fic, and why we wanna make out with Gregory House and ...
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Episode 42: We're Poly, By Golly! from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.785570
Ah, the wonderful and complex world of non-monogamy! This week, we get nerdy about polyamory. Find out how we realized monogamy didn't work for us, which resources taught us about poly, and what th...
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Episode 46: Unicornographic from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.781453
This week we sat down with our friend [Suz](http://redhotsuz.com), a sex blogger, unicorn, and online-dating aficionado. She told us about her best and worst threesomes, gave some group-sex advice,...
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Episode 47: Yes You Con from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.780412
We recorded this episode live at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! Find out our best tips for attending conferences: how to meet people, learn things, and take good care of yourself!
Episode 51: A Little Help From My Friends from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.775609
Kink is an important aspect of our friendship, even though we don't have sex with each other. Find out what kind of kink stuff we do, how it helps us, and how to handle platonic kink in your own li...
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Episode 55: Flirts 'n' Firsts from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.770435
First dates: so fun, so scary, so rife with potential! This week, we discuss what makes a good first date, the best and worst ones we've been on, and whether sex after a first date is a good idea.<...
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Episode 59: Fifty Shades of Garbage from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.758
This year for Halloween, we watched the scariest thing we could think of: Fifty Shades of Grey! Get your hands on the unrated version and watch along with us – or just listen as we complain about t...
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Episode 60: Blushing and Gushing from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.757092
Our guest this week is [Princess Kali](http://www.coachingbykali.com/), author, former pro domme, and erotic humiliation expert! We chatted with her about the appeal of humiliation play, how to app...
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Episode 64: One Dildork, One Drummer from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.752118
Bex is sick this week so Kate is joined by her brother, [Max Bornstein](https://www.maxbornsteintunes.com/), drummer for garage rock band [Goodbye Honolulu](http://www.goodbyehonolulu.com/) and co-...
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Episode 68: Happy Screw Year from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.746850
Happy new year, babes! This week we took stock of how we did on our 2017 sex goals and set some new ones for 2018. Hear about dates we went on, good and bad decisions we made, and what kinks we wan...
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Episode 69: Sixty-Whine from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.745664
For our 69th episode, we discussed the contentious sex act of 69ing! Find out why we usually don't like it, which factors make us like it better, and what other reciprocal sex acts we dig.
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Episode 73: PolyGoals from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.741752
This week we talked to Kevin Patterson from [Poly Role Models](http://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com/), a blog about the diversity of experiences and identities in polyamorous communities. We touched on...
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Episode 77: Con-persion from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.737325
We just got back from the [Playground Conference](http://playgroundconf.com/) in Toronto! Find out what we learned from the sessions we attended, what conference protocol is and why we like it, and...
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Episode 81: More Paprika from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.691807
In part 2 of our sex educator FAQ, learn how to get good at dirty talk, how we got so confident talking about sex, and what the Dildorks TARDIS would look like, among other things.
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Episode 85: Let's Get Little from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.686732
CONTENT NOTES for this episode: consensually roleplaying as a little girl, little boy, daddy, mommy, or siblings; incest roleplay and actual incest; child abuse; adult baby roleplay and diapers; te...
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Episode 86: Porn This Way from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.685568
Bex just launched his new porn store as [Billy Lore](https://twitter.com/billylore), so this week we’re talking about making porn! What’s fun about doing cam shows? Which porn stars do we admire? H...
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Episode 90: Forget to Remember from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.681430
This week Kate is joined by [DJ Pynchon](https://twitter.com/DJPynchon), blogger, author, and erotic hypnosis enthusiast, for a lively discussion about hypnotic amnesia, winking kink, and lots more...
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Episode 94: Dryspellibacy from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.677227
Sometimes your sex life is about the sex you’re NOT having… This week we’re discussing dry spells, celibacy, and other sexless situations!
Sexting & Phone Sex | Longest Dry Spel...
Episode 99: Seducing Sex Scribes from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.665888
Here's our live show from the 2018 [Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit](http://sexualfreedomsummit.org)! We discussed the fine art of romancing sex bloggers, from DM-slides to consent practices to sex ...
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Episode 103: Nothing Butt the Truth from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.661820
This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more!
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Episode 107: Yearn to Learn from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.657517
School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere.
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Episode 108: Role the Dice from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.656704
Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a strictly sexual thing for us.
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Episode 112: Peepin' and Creepin' from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.652896
Take a peek inside our minds as we discuss voyeurism! Learn about ways we've explored this kink, why we find it hot, and what voyeuristic fantasies we hope to live out.
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Episode 116: Objectively Hot from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.648846
We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. This week we discuss this contentious kink!
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Episode 119: Is That Piss or Champagne? from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.645968
What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d like to try next.
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Episode 120: The Ill-dorks from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.645195
This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2018 sex goals, and set new ones for 2019.
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Episode 124: Bless This Depressed Mess from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.641139
Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the ways they intersect with sex, kink, and dating.
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Penetration and Beyond from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.636545
There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like using huge toys or perhaps more than one!
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Touch Much? from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.593931
We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hugging, wrestling, foot rubs, and other types of no...
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Habitual Ritual from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.593123
This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions.
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The Drive That Thrives from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.586468
Up, up, and away: this week we’re discussing our sex drives! What is the libido, what stokes it, what tempers it, and what can you do when yours doesn’t match your partner’s?
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Get This Party Started from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.584215
Getting the ball rolling is hard sometimes, so this week we’re discussing the intricacies of initiating sex. What are the best and worst ways to do it – and what should you do if there’s an initiat...
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TES Friends Forever from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.583407
Bex just got back from TES Fest, a thought-provoking kink conference in New Jersey. This week, he recaps what he learned there, and we discuss some kinky fantasies that the workshops brought up.
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Safety First from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.576935
Safer sex protocols don’t have to be boring or a mood-killer! Today we’re diving into our thoughts and feelings on condoms, dental dams, STI testing, and more.
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A Song of Nerds & Queers from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.573695
This week Bex interviews his friend and roommate, sex educator and queer pirate Jo Goforth, about finding identity through fandom, positive representations of masculinity, and their new sex ed comi...
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Breakup Breakdown from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.570472
We had more to say about breakups, so here’s another episode about the ends of relationships!
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Separation Anxiety from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.569701
This week rounds out our 3-part series on breakups! We’re addressing some awkward post-split situations, like reclaiming your possessions, saying goodbye to your ex’s family, and dealing with passi...
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Go the Distance from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.566565
We’ve both been in multiple long-distance relationships, so today we’re discussing the weird, wonderful, and sometimes wistful realities of LDRs!
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Shall We Trance? from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.563655
Almost everyone’s curious about hypnosis, so we’re back this week doing Hypno 101! Learn about how trance works, what it feels like, and what kinky stuff you can do with it.
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Vagic Tricks from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.560545
Vulvas and vaginas are great! This week we’re discussing our feelings about these widely venerated and vilified parts – both our own and other people’s.
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Depression Transgression from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.554089
This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed!
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SexyDorkyQuarantine from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.550022
Want to liven up your self-isolation with some sex and/or kink? We’ve got more suggestions this week than you can shake a dick at!
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Smackrilege from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.546711
This week, we’re chatting with journalist, author, and theologian Tara Isabella Burton. Her forthcoming book Strange Rites is about how the “religiously unaffiliated” seek meaning and fulfilment th...
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Stripping From Home from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.543830
This week we talked with sex educator, columnist, and stripper Andre Shakti about how she’s transitioned her sex work career onto the internet in the wake of COVID-19. Hopefully you’ll find this us...
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Verbal Intercourse from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.539858
What does it mean to be good at conversation? We’re not claiming to be experts, but we have our preferences… This week, we’re discussing conversational skills: why they matter, how to develop them,...
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The 200th One from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.494129
It’s our 200th episode! Join us as we discuss some other milestones in our lives – specifically our sex lives.
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Spaced Out from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.490745
We’re returning to the topics of subspace and topspace this week to answer some great questions from listeners about these phenomena!
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Key to My Heart from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.490007
This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about their recent forays into chastity play!
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The F*ck Stops Here from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.486697
Setting boundaries is hard, but important! This week we’re discussing the tricky business of drawing a line in the sand, with romantic partners and in general.
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Otherwise Engaged from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.481969
Kate got engaged recently (!!) so this week is a frank discussion of marriage proposals, engagement, and the various unconventional ways one can do these things!
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No More-gasms from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.479415
This week, Bex chats with his partner Ashe (of Rose Glass Photography) about the ways they play with chastity in their relationship!
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Holy Matrimoany from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.478320
Kate got married last month, so this week we’re talking about the sexy and kinky dimensions of wedding traditions!
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A Household Name from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.472908
Since many of us are stuck at home right now, this week we’re chatting about household service tasks in D/s dynamics!
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Slut for Kindness from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.469517
This week we’re talking to Eva Bloom – a sex educator, YouTuber, and author – about sexting, casual sex, desire during a pandemic, and more!
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Be Mine, Valentine from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.468724
Happy Valentine’s week! In this episode we answer some listener questions about celebrating Valentine’s Day.
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Off the Cock from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.465802
This week we’re answering more questions about the duration of sex: how to deal when it goes on too long, how to ask for a round two, and more!
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The Limit Does Exist from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.449889
Your limits are valid! This week we’re talking about hard and soft limits in the realms of sex and kink: what they are, why they’re important, and how to set them clearly and kindly.
Coquettish Fetish from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.443992
We talk about kink a lot, but what about fetishes? This week, we’re discussing what it means to have a fetish, what to do if you’re sexually incompatible with a partner, and why hooking up with fet...
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On the Other Hand... from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.443235
Hands and fingers and fists, oh my…! This week we’re talking about hand sex: how to do it, why some people are hesitant to do it, and what makes it feel so damn good.
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Helping the Horny from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.439827
This week we’re answering questions from the /r/Sex forum on Reddit, on topics such as threesome etiquette, strap-on psychology, and the definition of infidelity!
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Sex, Dating, & Celebrating from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.400438
We’re celebrating our 250th episode by doing something a little different this week: our partners, Ashe and Matt, put us in the hotseat to interview us about our show’s evolution, what we’ve learne...
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Tender Gender from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.391832
Lots of people have learned new things about their gender and identity during the pandemic, so this week we’re discussing how to re-enter the dating scene as a newly-out trans person.
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The Paddle is Mightier from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.384855
Kate’s debut book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is launching in one week, so this week Bex interviews her about the writing process, the philosophy of the book, and how she hopes readers will us...
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Sexpress Yourself from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.381180
Many people wish they were better at dirty talk, so this week we’re discussing some of our favorite dirty-talk tips and tricks!
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Zonked Out from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.380081
This week we’re discussing sleepy sex: how to do it safely and consensually, why it’s kinky as heck, and what additions can make it even kinkier.
Textual Attraction from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.376303
Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to, sexting!
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Happy Nude Year from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.373484
Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex and kink adventures from 2021, and setting goals for 2022.
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Serves You Right from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.369735
This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are.
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No Pain, No Gain from 2022-02-21T06:36:09.368871
This week we’re delighted to chat with Leigh Cowart, the author of one of our favorite recent books, Hurts So Good: The Science & Culture of Pain on Purpose! We discuss sexual and nonsexual masochi...
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O is for Object from 2022-02-15T16:55:23
Objectification can be so so bad or so so good, depending on context and consent. This week we’re discussing how consensual, kinky objectification relates to – and differs from – more mainstream co...
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Peen Machines from 2022-01-25T21:14:16
Sex toys for penises are seldom discussed, compared to their vulva-focused counterparts, so this week we’re shining a light on our favorite toys for dicks and how to use them!
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Archetypes After Dark from 2022-01-18T20:11:58
How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorporate them into our play.
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Boozy Screws from 2022-01-11T18:02:13
A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important intricacies of sex while tipsy.
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Titillation & Explication from 2021-12-21T18:28:50
Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany.
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Let's Talk About Text, Baby from 2021-12-14T18:22:22
We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a polite sexter, and more.
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What the Fig? from 2021-11-30T18:46:26
If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what figging is… prepare to find out!
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(Don't) Stop in the Name of Love from 2021-11-23T19:45:15
This week, we’re answering more listener questions about consensual non-consent!
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When No Means Ohhh from 2021-11-16T19:13:29
Consensual non-consent is a controversial kink, so this week we’re talking about how to do it in the safest, hottest, and kindest ways possible.
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Praise Craze from 2021-10-26T17:51:31
Ever been turned on by receiving or giving praise? This week we’re discussing the ins and outs of praise kink!
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You Always Remember Your Fist from 2021-10-20T16:25:38
Fisting is an oft-misunderstood sex act, so this week we’re discussing the mechanics and philosophy of this much-revered form of hand sex.
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Cum Conundrums from 2021-10-12T20:13:50
This week we’re answering sex advice requests from Reddit about masturbation, threesomes, vaginas, hookup etiquette, and more!
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Heckin' Horny from 2021-09-28T20:54:03
This week we’re talking with Mx. Nillin, a sex blogger, educator, and erotica author, about their upcoming anthology of trans and non-binary erotica, Heckin’ Lewd!
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Perverts in Tents from 2021-09-21T22:21:33
Bex just got back from Dark Odyssey kink camp, so in this episode he regales us with kinky stories and offers advice for folks considering going in future!
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Rub-a-Dub-Dub from 2021-09-14T20:36:37
Many people worry about their sexual hygiene and grooming, so this week we’re answering listener questions on these sensitive topics!
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What's in the Cards? from 2021-08-24T18:52:05
This week we’re joined by sex blogger and tarot reader Wendy Phillips of The Wench Works. We chat about blogging, self-esteem, and the intersections of kink and spirituality – and Wendy gives us ea...
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Bookish Hookups from 2021-08-10T20:17:06
Our guest this week is the sex educator and author Allison Moon! Her wonderful new book, Getting It, inspired this deep-dive discussion of casual sex.
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Not Tonight, Honey from 2021-07-27T21:12:20
Many people get nervous about sexually rejecting partners, or get sad when someone sexually rejects them. This week we’re giving advice on common sexual rejection scenarios!
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Thanks, But No Thanks from 2021-07-20T18:57:20
Being rejected is hard, and rejecting someone might be even harder. This week we’re delving into the intricacies of romantic rejection!
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It's All Relative from 2021-06-29T18:07:57
Talking to your family about sex can be awkward, but we’re here to help! This week we answer your questions on navigating various sexuality-related situations in family dynamics.
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Sex Drive Nosedive from 2021-06-22T20:37:53
Lots of folks are struggling with libido issues due to pandemic stress, so this week we thought we’d discuss ways to rekindle your libido when it’s waned.
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Casual Copulation from 2021-05-25T19:40:45
This week, we discuss our ever-evolving feelings about casual sex, hookups, and one-night stands!
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Cummunal Space from 2021-05-18T18:07:48
This week we’re answering more listener questions about public sex, including sex in locations like fitting rooms, graveyards, and a moving car!
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Out in the Open from 2021-05-11T19:55:18
With the weather warming up and vaccines being administered, we figured now would be a good time to talk about public sex, something we’ll be able to do again pretty soon!
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Hurt Me Harder from 2021-04-27T18:19:15
We’re revisiting the topic of masochism this week to discuss our current, ever-evolving relationships to pain, and our fave mental techniques for getting through intense masochistic scenes!
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Oh High There from 2021-04-20T18:04:36
Happy 4/20, y’all! One again this year, as is tradition, we’re getting high and asking each other silly sex questions. Enjoy!
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"Nope" is a Complete Sentence from 2021-04-13T19:10:13
This week we’re continuing our discussion of limits in kink! Can limits be a fetish? Can limits be toxic? Can limits be gently and safely pushed?
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What Cums Next? from 2021-03-30T19:02:19
What will dating be like after COVID? This week, we’re discussing how (and whether) to re-enter the dating scene after the pandemic.
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Hellooo, Nurse! from 2021-03-23T19:00:23
This week we’re doing a deep dive on medical play! We talk about why we’re into it, what it can look like, and the various tropes and pitfalls associated with it.
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Aural Service from 2021-03-16T19:47:08
This week Kate is chatting with the Bearded Scotsman, a creator of erotic audio and ASMR files. We discussed consent, chivalry, “Tumblr doms,” and much more!
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Let's Get Meta from 2021-03-10T17:15:51
Relationships between metamours can be tricky, so this week we’re discussing the do’s and don’ts of connecting with your partner’s partner!
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The Long & Short of It from 2021-02-23T18:01:52
A lot of people worry that the sex they have is “too short” or “too long,” so this week we’re answering some listener questions about the duration of sex!
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The Moan, the Merrier from 2021-02-16T19:54:49
This week, we’re discussing some of the intricacies of group sex – a type of encounter we’ll hopefully be able to have again someday, post-pandemic!
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Cumming of Age from 2021-01-26T19:10:21
As we near the end of our twenties, we’re discussing how the aging process has affected our sexualities thus far, and how we envision our sex lives transforming far into the future!
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Cuddle Buddies from 2021-01-19T18:13:59
While our show is mostly about sex, it’s not the only type of intimacy that matters! This week we’re discussing how emotional and physical closeness play out in purely platonic friendships.
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Reunited & It Feels So Good from 2021-01-12T19:01
What happens when your long-distance relationship isn’t long-distance anymore? This week we’re talking about the adjustments and changes that occur when this happens!
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Hindsight 2020 from 2020-12-29T18:16:23
So long, 2020! This week, we’re reflecting on how this hellish year affected our sex lives, what salacious goals we did and didn’t achieve, and what we hope to do in 2021.
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"O" So Good from 2020-12-22T17:53:33
This week, we’re celebrating Global Orgasm Day by answering some of your questions about orgasms!
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Kinky Trinkets from 2020-12-15T19:07:32
The gifting season is upon us! This week we’re discussing what makes a great sexy gift, whether you’re trying to spoil a partner, a friend, or your favorite online sex worker.
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Touch Me So Write from 2020-11-17T20:25:58
This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith, writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5! We touch on consent in erotica, the evolving definition of “...
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Sensitive Matters from 2020-10-27T18:06:19
Your sexual sensitivity can affect your enjoyment, self-esteem and more – so this week we’re discussing some of our best tricks for managing sensitivity-related issues!
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Perv Parameters from 2020-10-13T17:47:12
This week we’re addressing some of your questions about boundaries, especially as they pertain to sex, friendships, and non-monogamy!
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Vet Your Bottom Dollar from 2020-09-29T22:17:40
How do you figure out whether a potential kink partner is safe enough and a good enough match with you before you do anything with them? This week we’re discussing the fine art of vetting!
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Anxious4Avoidant from 2020-09-22T17:07:30
This week we’re talking with polyamory-experienced psychotherapist Jessica Fern about her excellent new book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, & Consensual Nonmonogamy.
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For Crying Out Loud from 2020-09-15T13:03:34
Crying is good for the soul, but did you know it can also be good for the libido? This week we’re discussing the kinky appeal of crying: cathartic sadomasochism, dacryphilia, emotional sex, and more!
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Space Cadets from 2020-08-25T16:26:57
Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week we’re discussing kinky headspaces!
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Twitillating from 2020-08-18T22:46
This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph.D., and Emily van der Nagel, Ph.D., two researchers and lecturers who just released a fascinati...
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Charts 'n' Hearts from 2020-08-11T21:26:09
This week we’re talking to Aryn, an astrologer, podcaster, and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrology questions, such as: Which planets govern your ...
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Putting the "D" in ADHD from 2020-07-29T16:50:56
Conditions like ADHD can affect your whole life, including your sexuality and relationships, in really interesting ways! This week Kate interviews Bex about how his ADHD manifests and how he manage...
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Achy Breaky Bod from 2020-07-21T16:18:56
Chronic pain can make your sex life tricky, but it doesn't have to ruin it! This week Bex interviews Kate about her mysterious chronic pain disorder, how it manifests in her sex/kink, and what make...
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Social Lubricant from 2020-07-14T17:42:32
This week we’re answering your conversational queries! We explain how to deduce someone’s openness to chatting, ask questions people actually want to answer, navigate discussions when you’re low on...
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Here Comes the Pride from 2020-06-23T18:33:43
It’s a weird time to be celebrating Pride, to say the least… This week we’re talking about some ways you can access a little Pride magic even in these stressful times.
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Nerves & Pervs from 2020-06-16T15:54:07
Hope y’all are doing okay in this very stressful time. This week we’re discussing how high stress levels affect sex and dating, from dissociation to guilt to trauma triggers.
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The 5-Knuckle Shuffle from 2020-05-26T17:40:10
Hope you’ve had a lovely Masturbation Month, despite the circumstances! This week we’re answering more listener questions about jerkin’ it.
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Polyamory Plus Pandemic from 2020-05-19T17:38:01
This week we had a great chat with authors and polyamory educators Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell about their 6-week online course, Unfuck Your Polyamory. We also got their advice on some of th...
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Maysturbation from 2020-05-12T16:15:20
Happy Masturbation Month! To celebrate, we’re answering some of your most pressing questions about what some people euphemistically call self-lovin’.
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Signed, Sealed, & Quivered from 2020-04-28T16:07:11
This week we’re joined by erotic letter writer, tarot reader, and oral historian Jamie Beckenstein to discuss the joys of sexy snail mail!
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Riffin' and Spliffin' from 2020-04-21T15:52:44
Happy 4/20! This week's episode is our annual Highpotheticals special, where we get high off our asses and answer sex questions sent in by listeners. Enjoy!
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Queerantine from 2020-04-14T16:20:01
We’re back answering more of your COVID questions! Tune in to hear our thoughts on maintaining relationship momentum during the crisis, balancing different libido levels, and Skype date etiquette, ...
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Jokester Kinksters from 2020-03-31T15:04:01
This week we’re joined by kink educator Carter Brûlée to discuss one thing the three of us have in common: being silly, playful, and giggly during sex and kink!
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Sexual Distancing from 2020-03-24T17:06:03
Wow, what a week. This episode we’re answering questions about the thing that’s on everyone’s mind – COVID-19 – and how it intersects with sex and dating. Hope you find this helpful and comforting,...
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Self-Serve Perv from 2020-03-17T19:36:41
How do you do kinky stuff if you don’t have (or don’t want) someone to do them with? This week we’re talking about solo kink: why it’s fun, how to do it safely, and (of course) how it’s relevant to...
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Deepening... Our Friendship from 2020-03-10T23:56:09
Don’t listen to this episode while driving! This week Kate busted out her fledgling hypnosis skills and hypnotized Bex, after an extended scene negotiation. You’ll learn about communication, recrea...
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Arousing Carousing from 2020-02-25T19:25:52
We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on approaching people, negotiating pickup play, saying...
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Love in the Time of Collars from 2020-02-18T20:04:06
This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, negotiating one, and wearing one!
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A Queer Lens from 2020-02-11T19:16:45
This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how photography interacts with gender expression, kink, pe...
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Kinkquiries from 2020-01-28T21:19:53
This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do when a top safewords!
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You're Hot, Then You're Cold from 2020-01-21T17:18:10
Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!
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Started From the Bottom from 2020-01-15T00:16:43
What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is all about bottoming skills, which are sometimes un...
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Twentybyeeeteen from 2019-12-31T20:50:59
Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals.
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Taboos 2: Electric Taboogaloo from 2019-12-18T17:55:34
We’re back to chat more about taboo kinks! Hear us unpack incest porn, edgy ethnoreligious roleplays, forced feminization, and more.
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Hidden & Forbidden from 2019-12-10T17:39:44
This week we’re talkin’ taboos! Hear us discuss some of our favorite taboo kinks, like intoxication, consensual non-consent, and sleepy sex. More to come next week!
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Very, Very Sleepy from 2019-11-26T16:36:13
We attended a hypnokink event together recently so this week we decided to chat about erotic hypnosis! Hear about our fantasies surrounding this kink, some scenes Kate has done, and some hypnosis m...
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Skype Hype from 2019-11-12T19:56:44
This week we’re tackling the sex and kink elements of long-distance relationships! Tune in to hear our best Skype sex tips, how protocol works in LDRs, and whether we would have sex on an airplane.
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Doc Worship from 2019-10-29T17:31:36
Bex is back from the hospital after his top surgery! This week he’s telling us the story of his experience (with some contributions from Kate, who was there too).
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Attachment Not Found from 2019-10-22T21:49:36
We sat down with therapist and educator Aida Manduley to discuss the psychological model known as attachment theory – how it works, why it matters, and (of course) how it relates to non-monogamy an...
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Chesterday's News from 2019-10-15T17:20:44
In preparation for Bex’s long-awaited top surgery, we had a conversation about his reasons for getting it, what he’s been doing to get ready for it, and what he thinks will happen during recovery a...
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It's Not You, It's... from 2019-09-24T20:38:13
How did it take us this long to do an episode about breakups? This week we’re discussing some of our worst splits, how we think they should be done, and what should happen afterward.
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Revolutionizing Romance from 2019-09-17T19:44:40
This week we’re interviewing Dr. Liz Powell, psychologist, speaker, and author of our favorite book on non-monogamy, Building Open Relationships. We touch on polyamory struggles, love as a verb, an...
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Gaming the System from 2019-09-11T19:47:28
Truth or dare? We DARE you to join us this week for a discussion of sex games: different types, ways to play them, and why they might be beneficial.
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Dating is Grating from 2019-08-27T17:52:34
We’re back to smash more romantic myths this week! Hear our takes on unconditional love, jealousy, internet relationships, and more.
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Happily Ever Laughter from 2019-08-20T19:47:13
There’s so much bullshit discourse about dating and relationships out there, so this week we’re busting romantic myths! Hear us debate first-date protocols, compatibility adages, gender stereotypes...
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Protracted Attraction from 2019-08-13T20:38:15
Kate recently came out as demisexual, so this week we’re discussing that identity: what does it mean, how does it manifest, and how does it relate to other concepts like sluttiness, responsive desi...
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The Nineteen-Filthies from 2019-07-30T18:15:54
Step back in time with us and let’s discuss 1950s household dynamics! Hear us weigh in on why this style of D/s is hot, complicated, and even potentially empowering.
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Interior Dickorator from 2019-07-23T18:05:35
Home is where the heart is, and also (often) where the sex is! This week we’re discussing the ways home decor can interplay with your sex and dating life, from beds to lighting to lube dispensers.
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Bawdy Language from 2019-07-16T19:25:03
Ever noticed how sometimes you can say a lot without saying anything at all? This week we're discussing the delicate art of non-verbal communication – in flirting, sex, kink, and more!
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Kinksters 4 Inksters from 2019-06-18T13:52:33
We’re talking about body mods this week: tattoos, piercings, and how they interplay with our sex and dating lives. Tune in for tattoo advice, kinky feelings, and tales of piercings gone awry.
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Stride of Pride from 2019-06-11T16:01:32
Happy Pride month! This week we’re discussing our favorite and least favorite things about Pride, from tutus and play parties to biphobia and cops.
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I Only Have Eyes For You from 2019-05-29T16:32:29
Do you see what I see? This week, we’re discussing the visual aspects of sex, and how the acts of looking and seeing (or not) play into our sexuality.
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Pheromoans from 2019-05-21T15:00:29
Take a deep breath now: it’s time to discuss sex smells (and tastes)! We divulge our fave and least fave olfactory experiences during sex, our thoughts on our own smells and tastes, and more.
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Cumpetence from 2019-05-14T16:08:57
This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise.
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Sir-ious Business from 2019-04-30T22:09:37
This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relationship!
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Sounding (No, Not That Kind) from 2019-04-23T16:47:01
Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic audio mediums, and how we learned to let loose.
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Highpotheticals: The Redux from 2019-04-17T16:56:50
Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex, dating, and masturbating. Enjoy!
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Nutbusters, Part 2 from 2019-03-27T16:30:41
This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more…
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Nutbusters, Part 1 from 2019-03-20T16:27:56
It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among others.
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BFFs in Love from 2019-03-13T19:04:59
We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in love with a stranger. Romantic friendships for th...
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Episode 127: Full of Hot Air from 2019-02-26T18:21
This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my…
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Episode 126: Crush Rush from 2019-02-20T18:13
Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And also Kate talks to herself for a few minutes in t...
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Episode 125: An Invaluable NREsource from 2019-02-12T19:02
Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and perils of NRE.
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Episode 123: Cumpatibility from 2019-01-30T22:30:23
What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatibility in all its many dimensions!
Episode 122: Mind the Strap from 2019-01-23T22:05:31
This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more...
Episode 121: Fantastical from 2019-01-16T00:28:39
Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about, why, and how.
Episode 118: Perv Emergence from 2018-12-20T01:37
Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week, we’re theorizing on the origins of kinks!
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Episode 117: Gift Rifts from 2018-12-12T02:05
As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve received as gifts, and our top tips for getting through the...
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Episode 115: BDSM BFFs from 2018-11-27T22:36
While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly.
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Episode 114: Boots, Etc. from 2018-11-20T20:56
Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualized possessions, and the role they play in our fan...
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Episode 113: Uncumtrollable from 2018-11-14T21:51
Hold your horses: this week we’re talking about orgasm control! We discuss forced orgasms, chastity, abstinence, and various other facets of this fascinating kink.
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Episode 111: Horny Yet Horrendous from 2018-10-30T22:53
Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try.
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Episode 110: Man of a Million Kinks from 2018-10-23T19:58
Friend of the show [Dick Wound](https://twitter.com/DickWound), of the [Off the Cuffs](https://linktr.ee/ocpkink) and [Being There](https://linktr.ee/beingtherepod) podcasts, joins Kate this week f...
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Episode 109: LOLyamory from 2018-10-16T16:13
This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more...
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Episode 106: Vice Advice from 2018-09-25T22:33
You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope this helps!
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Episode 105: Slappreciation from 2018-09-18T21:28
Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burning questions about hittin' and bein' hit.
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Episode 104: Sextual Intercourse from 2018-09-12T19:47
Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, among other sextual topics! No Limits | Access Nee...
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Episode 102: Get Your Hand in the Game from 2018-08-29T00:56
This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener questions about hands-on pleasure.
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Episode 101: Open Wide! from 2018-08-21T22:29
It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centered pleasures.
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Episode 100: Purity vs. Immaturity from 2018-08-14T22:31
It's our 100th episode!! We celebrated by taking one of those weird 100-point [purity tests](http://www.armory.com/tests/100.html) to determine which one of us is sluttier. Any guesses?!
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Episode 98: Boxed In, Boxed Out from 2018-07-31T20:08
Let’s talk gender, folks! This week we’re discussing masculinity, femininity, why they’re good, why they’re bad, and how we hope to see them change.
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Episode 97: Look At Me, Everyone! from 2018-07-24T23:16
This week we’re discussing the intersections between group sex, public sex, and exhibitionism! Find out how to navigate a play party, what constitutes an orgy, and what group-sex activities we hope...
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Episode 96: Leaps & Boundaries from 2018-07-17T22:44
We're joined this week by the lovely [Marcia Baczynski](https://www.askingforwhatyouwant.com/about/), speaker, writer, coach, and sexual communication expert! We touched on consent, flirting, long-...
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Episode 95: Diamonds in the Rough Sex from 2018-07-10T22:26
What sex acts do you consider underrated? This week, we’re rhapsodizing the unsung heroes of our sex lives: fingerbanging, the thigh grind, making out, and more!
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Episode 93: Protocol Me Maybe from 2018-06-26T21:31
This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator [Sinclair Sexsmith](http://www.sugarbutch.net/about/)! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so much more.
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Episode 92: Out, Out, and Away from 2018-06-19T22:55
What does it mean to “come out” and why is it important to us? This week we’re telling our coming-out stories and discussing the intricacies of this rite of passage.
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Episode 91: The Puppisode from 2018-06-13T02:31
This week, Bex is chatting with YouTuber and kink sexpert [Pup Amp](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCokRyLsHxh-NykvT4uA6n2g) and educator and queer historian [Pup Dane](http://talkingdogproduction...
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Episode 89: Puber-T from 2018-05-29T21:06
Bex has been on testosterone for a whole year! This week, Kate interviews him about how his body, brain, and sexuality have changed over the past year.
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Episode 88: Hazy 'n' Spacey from 2018-05-23T14:10
This week, we're having a risk-aware discussion of sex and altered states: doin' sex and kink stuff while drunk, high, sleepy, and more. Find out how we navigate these complex states and the scenes...
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Episode 87: Say It Somehow from 2018-05-16T01:13
This week, we answer the question: how do you communicate well, and with love? Find out our “love languages,” our best tips for giving good compliments, and why we hate unsolicited advice from Twit...
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Episode 84: Highpotheticals from 2018-04-24T21:11
It's our traditional yearly 4/20 episode! Hear us get blazed and debate the merits of clone sex, impact toys as zombie murder weapons, and whether or not we'd fuck Buzz Lightyear, among other thing...
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Episode 83: Ready For This Jelly from 2018-04-18T14:53
This week we’re gigglin’ with sex blogger [Mx Nillin](http://mxnillin.com/) about their ingenious blog series “[Mx Nillin Fucks](http://mxnillin.com/mx-nillin-fucks/),” wherein they masturbate with...
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Episode 82: Grown-Up Playtime from 2018-04-11T02:08
This week we’re talking with [Dawn Serra](https://www.dawnserra.com/), sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and founder of the [Explore More Summit](https://gumroad.com/a/678081651)! We chatte...
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Episode 80: FAQs of S-E-X from 2018-03-28T01:39
This week we’re answering some sex-educator FAQs! Hear our Hot Takes on butt stuff, deepthroating, and dick size, among other things…
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Episode 79: Luv 2 Negoti8 from 2018-03-21T02:21
Negotiation is a crucial kink skill, and this week we’re sharing our best tips! Find out our fave questions to ask, common negotiation pitfalls, and how to navigate awkward pre-scene discussions.
Episode 78: Happy Spending from 2018-03-13T20:14
This week we’re giving you our two cents about financial domination, cash fetishism, and sugar daddies! Find out why we’re into these kinks, how you can play with them, and how to navigate awkward ...
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Episode 76: Just Plane Hot from 2018-02-27T17:12
Here’s the live show we recorded at the [Playground Conference](http://playgroundconf.com) in Toronto! We talked about sex and travel: which toys are our suitcase must-haves, how we handle TSA snaf...
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Episode 75: Screws Your Own Adventure from 2018-02-21T00:35
This week Kate interviews porn legend [Joanna Angel](https://www.joannaangel.com), of the [Burning Angel Empire](https://www.burningangel.com/en), about her new venture: a choose-your-own-adventure...
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Episode 74: Vibration Frustration from 2018-02-15T17:27
Not all sex toys live up to their hype! This week we discussed some of the most overrated toys on the market, why they suck, and how they could be better.
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Episode 72: Vanilla With Sprinkles from 2018-01-30T22:04
Relationships between kinksters and vanilla people aren’t inherently doomed! This week we discuss navigating these mixed-orientation connections: how to make compromises, assuage fears, and communi...
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Episode 71: Kinky Queeries from 2018-01-23T21:28
This week we tackled some questions from listeners (and one from Kate). Hear us weigh in on cultivating a desire to masturbate, sex party etiquette, unpacking toxic masculinity, and more!
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Episode 70: Reid the Room from 2018-01-20T18:36:41
(NOTE: We've opted to leave this episode up because we still think the info in it is valuable – but we have heard the [recent accusations levelled against Reid](https://www.thedailybeast.com/porn-s...
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Episode 67: Twentysevenpeen from 2017-12-27T19:32
Did your 2017 sizzle or fizzle? This week's our year in review: we discussed our best and worst sex of the year, our favorite locations in which we banged, and the new kinks we picked up along the ...
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Episode 66: Holigays from 2017-12-20T02:22
Happy holidays, dorks! Here's an episode about navigating this festive season as a weirdo/queerdo. We discuss wintertime traditions, family snafus, and the importance of jerkin' it as the year "com...
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Episode 65: Fornix Rising from 2017-12-13T05:14
We're bringing our A-spot A-game this week to talk about the little-known anterior fornix erogenous zone! Find out how we discovered this spot, how we like ours touched, and what toys work best for...
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Episode 63: Wet-à-Tête from 2017-11-29T04:44
Things are about to get messy: this week we discussed sexual fluids! Find out our thoughts and feelings on cum, piss, blood, sweat, spit, and all manner of other lascivious liquids.
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Episode 62: Bratitude from 2017-11-22T15:40
We were both in a real weird mood this week and it shows. Whoops. Enjoy this mess of an episode about gratitude, recent aggravations, and life as a Sex Person.
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Episode 61: Bi Bi Bi from 2017-11-15T04:43
This week, a civil discussion of sexual labels devolves into a rant about bisexual erasure before your very ears! Find out what labels we do and don't use, how our identities have shifted over time...
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Episode 58: Cumpanions from 2017-10-25T02:10
Friends with benefits: a fantastic idea, often poorly executed! This week we're discussing FWBs: how to find one, how to keep one, why they're great, and ways these copulationships can go horribly ...
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Episode 57: Word Pervs from 2017-10-18T02:40
We're showing off our cunning linguistics this week and talking about dirty talk! Find out about Kate's passion for porn captions, Bex's boner for aloof doms, and our favorite and least favorite fi...
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Episode 56: Cliticism from 2017-10-11T14:16
We were so excited this week to talk to [Lynsey G](http://lynseyg.com/), journalist, [author](http://lynseyg.com/watching-porn/), and porn critic! She chatted with us about how porn has changed, ho...
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Episode 54: Climaximal from 2017-09-27T13:25
Orgasms! We love 'em. You probably do too. Hear all about our first orgasms, what gets us off now, and how testosterone is changing Bex's orgasms, among other climactic tidbits!
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Episode 53: Bexhibitionism from 2017-09-20T18:18
This week we sneezed and grumbled our way through a discussion of exhibitionism. Find out why we like showing off and why we don't – and why we occasionally fake our orgasms!
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Episode 52: Clowning Around from 2017-09-13T16:24
This week we're joined by [Sunny Megatron](https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron) and [Ken Melvoin-Berg](https://twitter.com/psychicken), kink educators and fellow sex podcasters! We talked with them a...
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Episode 50: Gorytelling from 2017-08-30T13:00
We sat down with the delightful [Claire AH](https://claireah.com/), of [Tell Me Something Good](http://www.tmsgstories.com/) and [Friend of a Friend Matchmaking](http://www.friendofafriendmatchmaki...
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Episode 49: The Dom Before the Storm from 2017-08-23T18:36
We're both pretty subby, but we have some feelz about dominance. Find out the difference between topping and domming, what sex acts make us feel toppy, and what we enjoy about bossing people around...
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Episode 48: Wood-Hell Yeah from 2017-08-16T19:32
We just went to the [Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit](https://www.sexualfreedomsummit.org/) and had some Thoughts and Feelings! Hear about our favorite and least favorite sessions, the weird/cool se...
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Episode 45: Taylor-Made from 2017-07-26T19:52
This week we sat down with our friend [Taylor J Mace](http://www.feistyfoxfilms.com/), blogger, educator, and [sex worker](http://www.taylorjmace.com/)! They told us the nerdy strategies they use t...
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Episode 44: Edge-ucation from 2017-07-19T04:43
This week we get wild and talk about edgeplay: kinks that kinda terrify us, but in a hot way. Find out what we find compelling about knives, piss, consensual non-consent, and a plethora of other pe...
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Episode 43: Cockoisseurs from 2017-07-12T03:58
Our passion for penises knows no bounds. In this episode, we discuss all things dick: our first schlong sightings, our current criteria for commendable cocks, and our favorite things to do with wan...
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Episode 41: Absolutely Positive from 2017-06-28T22:08
What the heck is sex-positivity and why does it matter? This week, we discuss the sex-positive movement: its advantages, its criticisms, and how to live a sex-positive life.
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Episode 40: Daddy's Day from 2017-06-21T01:14
Happy Father's Day! Let's talk about Daddy Doms. Find out how we realized we were into Daddies, how we deal with weird feelings around this taboo, and how we feel about people calling us Daddy!
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Episode 39: Minotaur Metamours from 2017-06-14T05:17
We were thrilled this week to chat with [Andre Shakti](http://andreshaktixxx.com/), sex educator, sex worker, and sex journalist. She gave us advice on managing jealousy, meeting metamours, and get...
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Episode 37: Kissin' Impossible from 2017-05-31T01:02
Maaan, we really like making out. This week we're talkin' about kissing. Find out which Indiana Jones movie underscored Bex's first kiss, what improv has to do with kissing, and whether good cunnil...
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Episode 36: Star-Crossed Sex Nerds from 2017-05-24T19:22
This week we're chatting with Stella, a sex-savvy, queer, kink-positive, badass astrologer. They taught us how our star charts inform our sex lives, relationships, and even our business partnership...
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Episode 35: Mother to a Brother from 2017-05-17T05:01
Happy belated Mother's Day, y'all! This week we're talking about how our childhoods and parents influenced our sexuality. And, bonus: Kate interviews her mom about masturbation, boys, and celebriti...
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Episode 34: Aftercare Laughtercare from 2017-05-10T05:01
Aftercare is an oft-overlooked part of kink, but a super important one! This week we discuss why aftercare matters, how we like to do it, and what happens if we skip it (hint: bad stuff!).
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Episode 32: Toymaker, Toymaker, Make Me a Toy from 2017-04-26T14:31
This week we’re talkin’ shop with [Kenton](https://twitter.com/funkittoys), lead fucksmith at [Funkit Toys](https://www.funkittoys.com/)! Find out how silicone toys are made, what’s in the works at...
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Episode 31: Merry 'Juana! from 2017-04-19T10:28
This week is 4/20 so we decided to get high and ask each other goofy hypotheticals. How do you suck a 6-foot dick? What are our desert-island dildos? And which two Beatles would be the best threeso...
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Episode 30: What Mood, Dude? from 2017-04-12T05:01
Why are people so terrified of "ruining the mood" during sex? This week, we investigate alleged mood-ruiners, like consent conversations, technique criticism, and laughter. Spoiler alert: if the mo...
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Episode 28: Picky Sluts Unite from 2017-03-29T14:48
This week we're joined by smart, savvy sex educator [Dirty Lola](http://dirtylola69.tumblr.com/)! We chat with her about ethical polyamory, what makes someone a slut, and why Bill Nye needs to host...
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Episode 27: G Marks the Spot from 2017-03-22T13:17
Today we discuss the much-debated G-spot! Why does Bex find big muscles hot? Why do Kate's partners not even know where her G-spot is? And how do we deal when we unexpectedly squirt all over everyt...
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Episode 26: Enthusi-gasm! from 2017-03-15T16:24
As per usual, we're enthusin' about enthusiasm! Find out the strangest sex compliment Bex ever received, what Kate's boobs have in common with Mario the plumber, and why tourism induces better sex....
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Episode 23: Dildo-Slingers from 2017-02-22T06:01
There's more to selling sex toys than you would think! This week, retail guru Bex shares their cock-hawkin' wisdom with retail noob Kate. Find out how we deal with creepy customers, what we wish ou...
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Episode 22: Romancipation from 2017-02-15T06:05
Flowers and chocolate are so played out, but does Valentine's Day still have any value? In this episode, we ruminate on romance. Find out what Bex's fourth-grade suitor bought them, why Kate just d...
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Episode 19: Living Loudly Online from 2017-01-25T06:50
This week we're joined by [Cooper S. Beckett](http://coopersbeckett.com/) – [author](http://coopersbeckett.com/books/), [podcaster](http://swingset.fm/), [relationship coach](http://coopersbeckett....
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Episode 18: Orgasms 'n' Outrage from 2017-01-18T06:01
Ever wonder which sex toy marketing trends we want to light on fire and banish to hell? In this episode we rant about the toy-marketing tropes that really rustle our jimmies. Find out which compani...
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Episode 17: Whisper Tweet Nothings from 2017-01-11T06:01
Our hearts are all a-twitter over the fine art of social media flirting! In this episode, we share tips for communicating interest in timeline posts and tweet-sized chunks. Find out why Bex loves g...
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Episode 15: Auld Wang Syne from 2016-12-28T06:01
2017 is looming and we're doing our best to stay cocktimistic. In this episode, we discuss our sex goals for the coming year, and how we plan to achieve them. Find out why Kate is stepping back fro...
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Episode 14: Twentydicksteen from 2016-12-21T14:30
Kate and Bex bring us a 2016 round-up the only way they know how: by talking about all the times they got fucked the way 2016 fucked us all. Hear their most vital sex stats, including how many peop...
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Episode 13: Swipe Right For Disappointment from 2016-12-14T06:01
OkCupid and Tinder are garbage fires, but occasionally you can find a diamond in the trash heap. In this episode, we give you the low-down on online dating: our favorite sites, our successful and n...
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Episode 11: Selfies & Dick Pics & Nudes, Oh My! from 2016-11-30T06:00
Sexting isn't all hot commands and flowery prose: there's a visual element too! This week we pontificate on sexy selfies. What makes for an exceptional nude? Why are dick videos superior to dick pi...
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Episode 10: Peach Emoji Eggplant Emoji Water Droplets from 2016-11-23T06:01
This week we get into the nuts and bolts of sextual communication! We discuss our sexting origins, the sext etiquette we wish everyone would follow, and the best and worst sexts we've ever received...
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Episode 9: EnthusiASStic from 2016-11-16T06:01
What what, in the butt?! Bex and Kate talk about that not-so-taboo-anymore taboo, butt stuff. We regale you with first-time anal sex tales, debate the merits of planned anal versus the spontaneous ...
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Episode 6: Funnilingus from 2016-10-26T05:01
As the companion to the popular BJ episode, Bex and Kate sit down to discuss something they're considerably less excited about: cunnilingus. They each tell the story of the first time they ever rec...
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Episode 5: The Blowjob One! from 2016-10-19T05:01
This is it! FINALLY! The episode we've you've been waiting for! Kate and Bex get a tiny bit intoxicated and geek out about their all time favorite subject: Blowjobs! We finally explain why we love ...
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Episode 4: Gender? I Hardly Know 'er from 2016-10-12T11:34
In this episode your hostfemme and hostbean discuss our gender identities and what they mean to us. We discuss Bex's gender feels, Kate's femmeness, and the way cis men impact the way we present.
Episode 2: Sex Toys FAQ from 2016-09-28T06:01
As sex toy reviewers, we get asked the same questions over and over... In this episode we discuss our desert-island toys, weirdest toys, and the first toys we ever used. We also get real sassy abou...
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Episode 1: Who the Dork Are You? from 2016-09-20T20:00
In our inaugural episode, we discuss our sex superhero origin stories, our first memories of each other, and the weekend that cemented our friendship. We get real gross when we talk about why th...
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Episode 1: Who the Dork Are You? from 2016-09-20T20:00
In our inaugural episode, we discuss our sex superhero origin stories, our first memories of each other, and the weekend that cemented our friendship. We get real gross when we talk about why th...
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Episode 1: Who the Dork Are You? from 2016-09-20T20:00
In our inaugural episode, we discuss our sex superhero origin stories, our first memories of each other, and the weekend that cemented our friendship. We get real gross when we talk about why this ...
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