S2 Ep37: When One Is Not Enough - a podcast by Krista Kim, Katherine McClelland
from 2020-04-08T08:15
4:35 Not even a pandemic can stop Krista from finding “trouble” to get into.
4:44 No matter where you go, there you are.
4:55 Katherine has to work through “victimhood” at one of her FB posts
5:45 Katherine recommits to her beliefs and gives her courage to continue to share her message of love.
6:00 In times of crisis, people’s true colors come out.
7:30 Katherine reflects that she wants to improve on having compassion for other people’s fear.
7:00 Everything is for us. This belief allows Katherine to move through an issue and call back her power.
10:00 Nothing is over until its over. As long as it’s unhealed it will keep coming back to give you another opportunity to heal. Sometimes that comes from new situations and sometimes the same person shows back up to try again.
10:30 Golden Eyes is back
10:50 Krista reflects that because she is the one who has changed so much, she is able to see and hear Golden Eyes through a new lens.
11:15 Krista explains how Mr. Right Here Right Now has come into her life to heal the two aspects that she was not able to heal with Golden Eyes.
12:25 In times in crisis, it’s easier to let go of past issues. This time is allowing Krista and Golden Eyes to drop the hurt and heal.
13:15 One of the things Krista has been healing with Mr. Right Here Right Now is her confidence in communication.
13:44 You are really in partnership with your partners wounded child.
14:40 Golden Eyes reflects on the fact that he was driving Krista crazy.
15:15 Krista realizes she’s not crazy by being in partnership with Mr. Right Here Right Now.
16:20 Krista explains how Golden Eyes is responding to her in a new level of understanding which allowed her the experience of expressing herself.
17:30 Krista’s heart has softened so Golden Eyes could let down his defenses.
18:49 Krista’s unattachment to the outcome makes speaking your truth easier.
19:10 How do we give space for the “wild thing” in our life? Krista reflects that because she has integrated and accepted this side of her, she no longer has the experience of needing to “bust out” and do anything chaotic.
21:15 Krista’s journey through whether she wants a monogamous relationship, committed partnership or multiple partners.
22:00 Krista feels out of her integrity that she hadn’t been able to tell Mr. Right Here Right Now about her discussions with Golden Eyes.
22:50 Krista is leading a double life.
23:00 Krista has a “morning man” and a “night time man”
24:10 Golden Eyes asks what it means for Krista to be in an open relationship?
24:50 Does Krista have to choose between the two men?
25:22 Krista throws out the joke, “I want them both!”
25:57 Krista is surprised by both men’s responses.
26:40 Mr. Right Here Right Now is supportive of Krista’s happiness
27:10 Krista’s old self had to do wild things in order to fulfill herself. Now, she has normalized the desires of her wild self and allows that side of herself to be fulfilled and expressed on a daily basis.
27:42 For the first time in her life, Krista realizes it’s ok to be herself.
28:05 Katherine reflects that the more authentic version of Krista is the less afraid version.
30:15 Krista explains Mr. Right Here Right Now has more of a closed heart so it makes it easier for him to be in an open heart.
31:00 Katherine explains that Mr. Right Here Right Now doesn’t have what I need because he has other people in his life to take care of.
31:46 Because Mr. Right Here Right Now doesn’t have as many emotions it made it safer for Krista to express herself with him because he wasn’t reactive versus Golden Eyes has an open heart so Krista is more of a trigger for him.
34:10 Katherine reflects that because the world has a little more gravitas, Krista was able to see some of the things that have been missing with Mr. Right Here Right Now.
35:20 Krista was feeling alone in the quarantine but realizes that Golden Eyes was there for him.
36:25 Katherine wonders if some men would love to have more than one man to take care of their partner’s needs. Would it take the pressure off? Krista believes there is truth to that.
37:37 Will competition between the two men benefit Krista by keeping everyone sweet and loving?
39:00 We are all in time-out right now. It’s a great time to reflection our needs and desires.
39:55 The quarantine has forced Krista and Golden Eyes to take space, and rebuild from a non-physical place. This is allowing for the emotional issues to heal without the pressure of sex being the go-to coping mechanism.
41:07 Katherine says it’s easier to live in your house with a lot of people if you are telling the truth.
41:50 What is the solution to the wild side inside you? Be open to that aspect of you at all times and integrate it into your daily life. You must show that side to the people in your life so they can learn to accept it or walk away.
44:50 Krista reveals an inner desire that she will be able to integrate her healing with Mr. Right Here Right Now and bring it back to Golden Eyes so that maybe one day she doesn’t need two men. One could be enough.
45:30 Krista looks vital and radiant with her newfound freedom and honesty.
46:05 The antidote to the crazy is authenticity.
46:50 you must go back and heal the shame you are feeling toward the aspect of yourself that you are hiding or suppressing.
47:20 You must be okay with your “shameful” parts before you can ask someone else to be okay with it.
49:05 Krista feels truly loved by these two men because they were in complete acceptance of her.
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