Podcasts by The Skillful Podcast

#50: How to Assert Yourself, Part 1 from 2022-08-03T07:00

Do you find it hard to speak up for yourself in relationships? If so, this 2-part series on how to assert yourself may help you understand why it can feel so hard...

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#49: Dealing with Fears of Abandonment from 2022-04-29T07:00

In this episode, Marielle and Ed answer a listener's question about fears of abandonment when conflict arises in relationships. These fears go straight to the hea...

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#48: Emotion Regulation Overview Part 2 from 2021-12-23T08:00

This episode is the 2nd part of an overview of the Emotion Regulation skills in DBT, focusing on skills that can help you be in Emotion Mind less often. You can Listen

#47: Emotion Regulation Overview Part 1 from 2021-11-24T08:00

The Emotion Regulation skills in DBT offer lots of ways to help you identify and respond to emotions. Some of the Emotion Regulation skills focus on change, while...

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#46: Don’t Believe Everything You Think from 2021-11-02T22:24:54

This episode explores how to apply mindfulness skills to help you manage distressing thoughts using the DBT skill called Mindfulness of Current Thoughts. Thoughts...

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#45: Soothing Trauma Symptoms with Elle Michel, LMFT from 2021-10-08T07:00

Today, Marielle interviews Elle Michel, LMFT, a therapist in Los Angeles who specializes in treating complex trauma. Elle uses a combination of modalities to trea...

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#44: Working with Judgments from 2021-09-09T07:00

Today, we take a deep dive into working with judgments. 

Judgments about ourselves and others can increase emotional...

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#43: Distress Tolerance Overview Part 2 from 2021-08-19T07:00

The Distress Tolerance skills in DBT offer creative ways to get through challenging situations without making things worse. 

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#42: Distress Tolerance Overview Part 1 from 2021-07-28T07:00

The Distress Tolerance skills in DBT offer creative ways to get through challenging situations without making things worseListen

#41: How Strongly to Ask or Say No from 2021-07-15T07:00

Do you find asking for things or saying no hard? If so, this episode is for you. 

Marielle and Ed provide a framewor...

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#40: Overcoming Procrastination from 2021-06-04T07:00

Today’s episode is a response to a listener question about procrastinating making progress towards life goals. Marielle and Ed explore the emotions ...

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#39: Getting Unstuck with Greg Bodin, MFT from 2021-05-20T07:00

Today, Marielle interviews Greg Bodin, MFT, a therapist in the San Francisco Bay Area who practices Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT.  Greg specializes i...

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#38: What the Heck is Dialectics?  from 2021-05-06T07:00

Today, Marielle and Ed discuss the D in DBT: Dialectics. Dialectics helps us remember that two seemingly opposing forces can both be true<...

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#37: Level Up Your Skill Use from 2021-04-21T07:00

This episode is in response to a listener question about combining DBT skill use for difficult situations. We thought it was a great question to tackle in an epis...

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#36: More Listener Questions from 2021-03-31T07:00

In this episode of The Skillful Podcast, we answer two listener questions. The first question is from a listener who wants advice about balancing conflicting valu...

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#35: Coping with Pandemic Fatigue from 2021-03-17T07:00

As we pass the year mark of pandemic life, many of us are exhausted and eager to get back to how things used to be. While there are positive developments with vac...

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#34: Getting Through the Holidays from 2020-12-16T08:00

As we close out the year, new skills may be needed to help you get through a holiday season that’s unlike any other. Marielle and Ed discuss skills to help you co...

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#33: Ten Common Communication Myths from 2020-10-28T07:00

Today’s episode explores ten common interpersonal myths. These myths can prevent us from being as effective in relationships as we like.

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#32: Election Season Survival Skills from 2020-10-14T07:00

This is a special episode geared towards our listeners in the United States. We have a big election approaching and if you struggle with your emotions, you may be...

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#31: Self-Soothing Revisited from 2020-08-06T07:00

Do you find it hard to take care of yourself? The DBT skill of self-soothing is designed to help you tolerate distress, but it’s also helpful for regular self-car...

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#30: What Happens When You Have an Emotion from 2020-07-16T07:00

Today, Marielle and Ed unpack what happens in the body and mind when an emotion occurs. There’s actually a lot going on!  If you are sensitive to or are confused ...

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#29: Using DBT Skills in Anti-Racist Work from 2020-06-30T07:00

Today Marielle and Ed offer ways to use DBT skills to support emotional equilibrium during a time where systemic anti-black racism is being confronted and discuss...

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#28: Listener Questions from 2020-06-02T07:00

Today Marielle and Ed answer listener questions. 

The first question is from a listener in Sweden about ho...

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#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic from 2020-05-19T07:00

Today’s show revisits Radical Acceptance in the face of a global pandemic. Marielle and Ed discuss how they are using this skill (or not using it!) during this ti...

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#26: Coping with COVID-19 [Part 3] Being Skillful in Relationships During Quarantine from 2020-04-28T07:00

Today, Marielle and Ed discuss skills to help you communicate with other people during a global pandemic where we are all facing new interpersonal challenges. Listen

#25: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 2] from 2020-04-07T07:00

Today, Marielle and Ed continue to discuss DBT skills to cope during a pandemic. We are all going through a collective trauma and need extra support. The DBT skil...

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#24: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 1] from 2020-03-26T19:55:14

In today’s episode, Marielle and Ed explore skills to help you cope with your emotions as we collectively face a pandemic. Many of you may be feeling intense dist...

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#23: Pros and Cons from 2020-03-04T08:00

Today’s show covers the DBT skill called Pros and Cons. While most of us have already done informal pro a...

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#22: Build Mastery and Cope Ahead from 2020-02-27T08:00

In today’s episode, Marielle and Ed discuss the emotion regulation skills of Build Mastery and Cope Ahead. These are future-oriented skills that involve some plan...

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#21: Surviving Sexual Assault with Dr. Kelsey Harper from 2020-02-05T08:00

Today I’m talking with Dr. Kelsey Harper, a clinical psychologist and DBT therapist who works with trauma, PTSD, and chronic emotion dysregulation.  With over a d...

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#20: How Do You Talk to Yourself? from 2020-01-22T08:00

In today’s episode, we discuss your relationship with yourself, focusing on the skill of Loving-Kindness.

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#19: What are Your Values? from 2020-01-08T08:00

Instead of making New Year’s resolutions this year, think about using the momentum of the new year to make changes in your life that are aligned with your values. 

Often New Year’s resolu...

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#18: Using Skills to Get Through the Holidays from 2019-11-27T08:00

The holidays are a time where there is often a lot of pressure to have a certain kind of experience - one that is about family, friends, joy, and celebration. For...

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#17: Why Doing Nice Things for Yourself Matters from 2019-11-13T08:00

Do you have a hard time doing nice things for yourself? The DBT skill called Accumulating Positive Events in the Short-Term is all about doing small, regular self-car...

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#16: Opposite Action from 2019-10-30T07:00

Sometimes it’s better to not act on our emotions. The DBT skill Opposite Action helps you act opposite to ...

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#15: Check the Facts from 2019-10-16T07:00

In Episode 15 of The Skillful Podcast, Marielle and Ed discuss checking the facts. When you have a painful emotion that you want to change, using the DBT skill ca...

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#14: Why Do We Have Emotions? from 2019-10-02T07:00

Many sensitive people have wished at times that they could just get rid of their emotions. They may try to dampen, suppress, or deny emotions. Although these effo...

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#13: 10 Common Myths About Emotions from 2019-09-18T07:00

Today Marielle and Ed discuss the 10 most common myths about emotions. These myths can come from the culture around us and from the families we were raised in. Asking yourself where you learned ...

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#12: Distraction&Self-Soothing to Ride out Painful Emotions from 2019-09-04T07:00

Marielle and Ed continue their conversation about Distress Tolerance focusing on Distraction and Self-Soothing. While these skills won’t solve any problems, they ...

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#11: Radical Acceptance from 2019-08-21T07:00

Today, Marielle and Ed discuss the skill of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is a Distress Tolerance skill that helps you stop fighting reality, however pai...

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#10: The TIPP Skill: Using Your Body to Calm Down from 2019-08-07T07:00

Marielle and Ed continue their conversation about Distress Tolerance focusing on the TIPP skill. That extra P in TIPP isn’t a typo! TIPP is an acronym that actually stands for 4 different skills...

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#9: Introduction to Distress Tolerance&the STOP Skill from 2019-07-24T07:00

Marielle and Ed delve into a discussion today on how you can learn to tolerate emotional distress and overwhelm without making things worse.  There’s a...

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#8: Emotional Over-Control with Neil Howell, MFT from 2019-07-10T07:00

Are you someone who’s good at getting things done, following the rules and planning ahead? These can be wonderful traits to have but you may notice that focusing on doing everything right interf...

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#7: Understanding Validation in Relationships and Why We All Need It from 2019-06-26T07:00

Do you know how important it is to feel validated? Validation lets us know that we have been heard and understood. We all have the need to be understood by others, especially those closest to us...

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#6: Get What You Want by Using the GIVE and FAST Skills of DBT from 2019-06-12T07:00

Would you like to learn how to ask for what you want, how to resolve a conflict, and how to have your opinion taken seriously in your relationships? Today, Marielle and Ed will be expanding on t...

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#5: Using the DEARMAN Framework to Say No from 2019-05-29T07:00

Do you find it hard to say 'no', or get what you want in your relationships? Today, Marielle and Ed will be talking about interpersonal effectiveness. The interpersonal effectiveness skills in D...

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#4: The HOW Skills of Mindfulness from 2019-05-15T07:00

Would you like to introduce a mindfulness practice into your daily routine? Today, Ed joins Marielle once again and they continue talking about the mindfulness skills in DBT. In today's episode,...

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#3: The "What" Skills of Mindfulness from 2019-05-02T08:15:51

Would you like to learn to practice mindfulness in the DBT framework? Today, Marielle and Ed will be discussing the three 'what' skills of mindfulness. These are called 'what' skills because the...

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#2: Introduction to Mindfulness and the Wise Mind from 2019-04-30T04:00

Would you like to know more about DBT and where it all started? In today's episode, Marielle and Ed will be looking into the background and development of DBT. They will discuss dialectics and t...

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#1: What is Emotional Dysregulation? from 2019-04-26T20:35:53

Are you highly sensitive? And do you struggle with very intense emotions that sometimes overwhelm you? Today, for the first episode of The Skillful Podcast, Marielle will be talking to Ed Fowler...

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