Podcasts by Touch of Flavor | Relationships Outside the Box
This podcast is about answering one question: How do you create loving, passionate, secure relationships outside the box
Further podcasts by Cassie Fuller and Rigel
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Stop Showing Your Partners Your Texts! from 2023-01-06T01:15:35
Should you let your partner read your texts? We get this question a LOT. When you’re feeling insecurity or mistrust, this kind of radical transparency can seem like an easy solution. But is it ethi...
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The Biggest Problem with Polyamory from 2022-12-29T22:45:16
The biggest challenge in polyamory Is not time, nor jealousy, nor communication,But something much more deep-rooted: Contrast and fear, That shines a light on weaknesses that were never clear.
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But It’s My Partner’s Fault from 2022-12-22T21:07:59
You’re feeling stuck. On the one hand, you’re tired of struggling in your polyamorous relationships. The relationship needs to be fixed. But you’re not the one causing these problems. Your partner ...
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4 Polyamorous Holiday Hacks from 2022-12-15T18:21:58
The holidays are a natural incubator for conflict. Especially if you’re in a polyamorous relationship. Here are four hacks that allow our polyamorous clients to not only survive the holidays but to...
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It’s OK to Feel Jealous from 2022-12-09T04:18:48
Many people think jealousy is the cardinal sin of polyamory. But those feelings are normal. And when you use them the RIGHT way, jealousy can actually be the key to healing your relationship.
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It Was Just Supposed to Be Sex from 2022-12-01T20:48:08
You and your partner agree to open your relationship under one condition: It’s JUST about sex. No feelings. And for a while that works out pretty well. But now it’s happened. Someone caught feeling...
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Does Your Spouse Want to Be Roommates? Here’s How to Fix It from 2022-11-23T18:09:59
When your spouse tells you they are no longer interested in being romantically involved with you, what do you do? It’s a tough situation. But you can get your spouse back. Here’s how.
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Warning: Optimism Can Ruin Your Polyamorous Relationship from 2022-11-17T19:32:39
“Ya’lls can be a little negative about polyamory. Why can’t you talk about the positive things?” We got this question from a listener. So this week, we’re discussing why we don’t sugarcoat and the...
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The Problem with Relationship Anarchy from 2022-11-10T21:23:48
Relationship Anarchy sounds great in theory. But the way most people practice it leads to confusion, hurt, and ruined relationships. In this episode, we discuss how you can build relationships that...
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5 Powerful Questions for Better Communication from 2022-11-03T16:37:57
If you’re in a polyamorous relationship, communication is key. Here are 5 powerful questions to help take your communication to the next level.
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Why You Can’t Find Polyamorous Women from 2022-10-20T19:38:03
You’re in a polyamorous relationship. You’re a man. But you can’t find polyamorous women to date. It's frustrating. Not only that, but you might also be in a place where your partner is having ZERO...
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Vetoes in Polyamory from 2022-10-14T02:12:19
Veto power is a common agreement in polyamory. But do vetos WORK? The answer is an emphatic no. In this episode, we discuss how veto power undermines the very security you’re trying to create, and ...
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How To Choose A Polyamorous Coach or Therapist from 2022-09-29T14:58:21
When you’re polyamorous, it’s incredibly hard to find a good coach or counselor. And when your marriage and family are on the line, you can’t settle for anything less than the best. But how do you ...
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The Relationship Mirror from 2022-09-22T17:18:37
You may think that you can’t heal a polyamorous relationship on your own. But you have more power than you know. And when you embrace your power, you can transform your relationship. Even if your p...
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Why You Can’t Find a Unicorn from 2022-09-14T16:16:57
Are you polyamorous and having trouble finding your “unicorn?” The reason you’re having trouble finding a partner isn’t that they don’t exist. It’s because what you’re offering isn’t attractive. He...
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Separated? Here’s How to Fix It from 2022-08-06T14:23:05
If you and your partner have separated, is your relationship over? Here’s the process that our polyamorous clients use to heal a separation and bring the relationship back together. Even if their p...
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Our Poly Family Vacation from 2022-07-30T19:59:02
Our partner Amanda joins us to discuss our family vacation to Florida. Plus we reveal an awesome new project.
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5 Ways To Spot A Clueless Therapist from 2022-07-07T22:45:41
Having relationship problems? Thinking about going to therapy? There are 5 clues you can use to weed out the experts who can help you from those you shouldn't give the time of day. Find out what th...
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5 Surprising Facts About Group Relationships from 2022-06-16T21:43:21
Triads and quads. Unicorns and dragons. Group relationships are something lots of polyamorous people want. And they can be beautiful when done well. But they’re VERY easy to do wrong. In this episo...
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Dancing Naked In The Kitchen from 2022-06-09T17:14:05
Rach and Chel were caught in a depressing cycle. They were arguing all the time. They were hardly intimate. There was no affection. Their 10-year relationship was close to done. So how did they get...
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What If You Only Had a Year Left To Live? from 2022-06-02T19:16:23
If you only had a year left to live, how would you be treating your partners? If you’re like most people, there’s a big difference between your answers and what you’re doing now. Why? Because we as...
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ADHD and Polyamory from 2022-05-26T00:04:44
Folks who have ADHD are likely to find non-monogamy very satisfying. But ADHD brings a predictable set of challenges to any relationship. And if you're not careful, non-monogamy can drastically mag...
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Casual Sex And Polyamory from 2022-05-19T19:34:34
Non-monogamy is all about custom designing our relationships. But lately, relationships that are purely sexual have gotten a bad rap. So, are you wrong for wanting a sexual relationship without a r...
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Opening Up Will NOT Fix Your Relationship from 2022-05-12T20:33:51
If you’re not getting what you want and need in your relationship, opening up will be tempting. But will polyamory actually fix your relationship? 95% of the time, the answer is NO. In fact, openin...
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How to Handle Jealousy in Polyamory from 2022-04-28T18:46:59
If you practice polyamory there WILL be times you feel jealousy. But what if there was a way to fall in love with that jealousy? To use it as a tool to make your relationship better than it’s ever ...
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Feeling Like a Roommate? from 2022-04-21T22:39:09
Do you feel more like a roommate than a partner? Like the love and intimacy and connection are gone and you’re just… existing? This isn’t what you signed up for. It’s time to stop settling and clai...
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Mono/Poly Relationships from 2022-04-07T21:29:23
Can a relationship between a monogamous and polyamorous person work? Most people will tell you no. But those people are wrong. In fact, a third of our clients are in mono/poly relationships. Here’s...
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Triads, Breakups, and Kitchen Table Poly from 2022-04-01T16:10:41
How do you get over the fear of being replaced? Is it shady when your metamour doesn’t want to hang out? What do you do when your partners want you to move out? In this Q&A episode, we answer your ...
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Broken Trust and Polyamory from 2022-03-24T17:56:59
Call it cheating. Call it breaking an agreement. Whatever words you’re using, broken trust is a serious problem in polyamorous relationships. And no relationship can survive forever without trust. ...
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4 Toxic Coping Mechanisms In Polyamory from 2022-03-11T00:36:20
When you’re suffering in your polyamorous relationships, how do you cope? Everyone struggles with difficult emotions at times. But what you DO with those emotions is critical. You can deal with the...
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Stuck In a Sexless Relationship? from 2022-03-04T00:17:01
Lots of mono folks think that polyamory is all about sex. But it’s quite possible for polyamorous folks to end up in a sexless relationship. Why does physical intimacy disappear from a relationship...
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6 Beliefs That Sabotage Your Polyamorous Relationships from 2022-02-24T21:28:31
There are six beliefs we constantly see sabotage polyamorous relationships. If you have any of these beliefs you need to get rid of them right now. In this episode, we’re going to break those belie...
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Update From The Polycule 2022 from 2022-02-17T14:06:44
It’s been a long time since we’ve done a group update! So our nesting partner Amanda is joining us to discuss what happened in 2021. Topics include our kids, catching COVID, working together, and m...
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Warning: Polyamory Hurts (and that’s OK) from 2022-02-02T20:45:24
We all know that pain is an opportunity to grow. And when your relationships are full of hard feelings and stressful conversations you have two options. You can wallow in the pain. Or you can use t...
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How To Avoid Bad Polyamory Advice from 2022-01-27T14:06:36
Everyone has an opinion about how you should be running your polyamorous relationships. But with so many opinions out there, it’s hard to sort the signal from the noise. It’s impossible for all tho...
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Your Metamour Isn’t The Problem from 2022-01-19T23:54:46
If you’re in a polyamorous relationship, it’s easy to blame a lot of problems on your metamour. But here’s the truth: If your metamour is in control of your relationship then either you or your par...
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8 Polyamory Tips For 2022 from 2022-01-05T19:34:36
Every year we work with dozens of non-monogamous clients and talk with hundreds more. At the end of the year, we discuss: What’s working RIGHT NOW to build thriving polyamorous relationships? Woul...
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Attachment Theory&Polyamory from 2021-12-22T18:46:12
What’s your attachment style? Chances are, you know the answer. But what if we told you it didn’t matter? Attachment theory is nice to know. But here’s the truth: It won’t fix your relationships. S...
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5 Polyamory Time Management Myths from 2021-12-16T20:51:48
Time management is one of the biggest challenges in polyamory. So today we want to bust 5 common myths about time management in polyamory. Overcoming these myths will put you one step closer to the...
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Stop Letting Your Past Relationships Affect Your New Ones from 2021-12-09T20:09:59
When you’re polyamorous, you want each of your relationships to have the freedom to grow. But it might feel like there’s something between you. Some ONE between you. Because breaking up with someon...
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Gratitude In Your Relationships from 2021-12-06T01:05:46
You hear a LOT about gratitude this time of year. So in that spirit, we have a question for you: Are you grateful for your relationships? Do you truly appreciate your partner(s)? Or have you fallen...
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Equality in Polyamory from 2021-11-24T18:58:57
Equality is good, right? In most things, yes. In polyamory, not so much. Because when most polyamorous people talk about equality, they’re really talking about sameness. And trying to make your rel...
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Losing connection with your partner? from 2021-11-07T13:51:56
Are you losing connection in your polyamorous relationship? If you’ve been together for years, you probably think that’s normal. Even expected. And that’s a lie. Not only is it possible to get bac...
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Finding Compersion In Polyamory from 2021-10-15T19:05:23
Most polyamorous couples want to find compersion… to be really, truly happy when your partner finds joy in another relationship And yet, while most polyamorous folks WANT compersion, the way they t...
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Closing an Open Relationship from 2021-10-07T00:07:40
When you’re exploring non-monogamy, it’s common to run into rough patches along the way. And when that happens, you might wonder: “Should we close the relationship? Should we stop being non-monogam...
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Coming Out as Polyamorous from 2021-09-23T13:54:58
Are you playing whack-a-mole in your polyamorous relationships? A problem pops up. You knock it down. It’s immediately replaced by a different problem. And you never actually get to that peaceful, ...
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Polyamory Whack-a-Mole from 2021-09-08T17:48:40
Are you playing whack-a-mole in your polyamorous relationships? A problem pops up. You knock it down. It’s immediately replaced by a different problem. And you never actually get to that peaceful, ...
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Getting Started With Polyamory from 2021-09-02T00:49:08
If you’re getting started with polyamory, then you probably have a burning question: Does polyamory work??? Well, it’s entirely possible to build a thriving non-monogamous relationship. But there a...
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#131: 3 Steps to Solve Resentment from 2021-07-01T00:01:29
Are you feeling resentful of your partner(s)? Even a little bit? If so, stop whatever you’re doing and listen to this episode.
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#130: Chris&Lelly from 2021-06-23T20:06:23
What would it be like to completely reset your relationship? To have, as we teach our clients, a"day zero?"To put the arguments and history behind you and to move forward together as a team? That's...
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#129: Why Your Agreements Aren’t Working from 2021-06-16T17:44:25
Healthy agreements in non-monogamous relationships are essential. But what do you do when they are not working? Here’s why your agreements aren’t working, and what you need to do about it.
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#128: What If I’m Cheating from 2021-06-09T16:45
It's all good and well to talk about consensual non-monogamy... But what if you've been cheating? How do you tell your partner? How do you rebuild the relationship after you've come clean? If you'v...
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#127:“Spend More Time Together”is Awful Advice from 2021-06-02T17:39:48
When your relationship isn't going well, the first thing people do is spend more time together. But if you're like most people, you likely found that more time together just means more time to argu...
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#126: David and Brandy from 2021-05-26T17:34:26
When your partner discovers they’re non-monogamous after you’ve been together since high school? That's tough. But what about when it’s four years later, you thought it was over... and now your par...
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#125: DADT, Metamour Hate, and Quality Time from 2021-05-19T19:51:59
How do you deal with jealousy in a new relationship? How do you make Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) work? What do you do when your partner hates your other partner? In today's episode, we answer these...
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#124: 5 Reasons Polyamory Is Beautiful from 2021-05-12T17:48
Today we're talking about five reasons polyamory can be beautiful... and why you should never accept anything less.
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#123: Julianna’s Interview from 2021-05-05T20:28
Here's the cold, hard truth that all non-monogamous folks in struggling relationships need to hear: Waiting for your partner to be “ready” to work on your relationship is a complete waste of time....
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#122: Your partner is in NRE…What do you do? from 2021-04-21T15:23:24
Your partner has it BAD! They met someone new a few months ago, and are head over heels. The sparks are flying. The sex is hot. Life is good. For THEM. But you’re feeling lonely. And you might even...
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#121: The Three Options from 2021-04-14T16:29:53
When you're monogamous and your partner discovers they're non-monogamous, you have three options. Only three. Here's what they are.
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#120: A Chat with Midori from 2021-03-17T15:34:40
On today’s episode we’re chatting with the one and only Midori. We touch on a variety of topics including female dominance, COVID, power exchange protocols, the importance of the RIGHT information,...
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#119: It’s Not About Jealousy from 2021-03-03T18:13
What’s the problem in your relationship right now? What’s that one thing that’s keeping you from the thriving, loving relationship(s) you deserve? No matter what your answer is, that’s not the real...
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#118: I Can’t Stop Smiling — Ivette and Daniel’s Story from 2021-02-13T02:51:29
What does it take to move a relationship from the brink of collapse to loving, intimate, and secure? Ask our client Ivette. When Ivette first called us in 2019, she wasn’t ready to put in the effor...
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#117: Chastity, Hedgehogs, and #open with Sarah Sloane from 2021-02-03T16:05
In this episode, we’re talking with Sarah Sloane. We chat about the dating app #open, the state of the BDSM community, hedgehogs, chastity, and more.
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#116: The Power of 10 Percent from 2021-01-27T21:30
How would your life change if your relationships were just 10% better? When our relationships don’t suck, our first instinct is to focus on something else. But when we do that we’re living our rela...
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#115: An Update From The Polycule from 2021-01-13T23:45
Wow. A LOT happened in 2020. So we decided to bring our nesting partner Amanda on the show to chat about what’s been going on in our polycule. We talk kids, holidays, negotiating COVID with familie...
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#114: The Power of Now from 2020-12-16T19:30
Does it feel like you've been stuck in the same cycles and arguments in your relationship for years? The reason you're stuck is simple: You haven't learned to harness a vital principle. This princi...
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#113: Let’s Talk About Couple’s Therapy from 2020-12-09T13:56
We get a LOT of questions about couples counseling/therapy. How effective is it at creating transformation in your relationship? What should you look out for? Let’s chat.
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#112: Can one person change a relationship? from 2020-11-17T15:30:03
How many people does it take to transform a relationship? It’s one of the most common — and vital — questions we get. And if you’re arguing, or feeling alone, or have fallen out of love, it’s a que...
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#111: Dragons, Hidden Kinks, and Honeymoon Chastity from 2020-11-04T20:00
What do you do when your to-be husband’s master denies your request to unlock him on your honeymoon? How can you stop acting like a dick towards your metamour? Are couples looking to date masculine...
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#110: It doesn’t take years to fix a relationship from 2020-10-14T19:30:46
How long does it take to fix a broken relationship? Most people will tell you to expect at least nine months of therapy before seeing big changes in your relationship. But we know from experience t...
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#109: Handling the Doubters from 2020-10-07T16:30
Building an amazing polyamorous relationship is never a walk in the park. But It’s even harder when folks are telling you that you’re doomed to fail. What should you take to heart? What should you ...
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#108: What it REALLY takes to open a relationship from 2020-09-30T16:23:41
What does it take to open up a relationship that’s monogamous? Or to transition an open/swinging relationship to a polyamorous one? In this episode we discuss what sets the folks who create loving,...
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#107–Renee and Jerry’s Story from 2020-09-09T16:36
Renee and Jerry had been married for 23 years when she told him she was non-monogamous. Five years later they were on the verge of divorce. But now? Renee and Jerry both have other partners. They s...
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#106: Mindful sex with Luna Matatas from 2020-09-03T14:00
We’re talking with Luna Matatas about staying present so you can get the most out of your intimate experiences. We discuss the reasons people have trouble staying present, tips and tricks, setting ...
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#105: Why We Fall Out of Love from 2020-08-19T23:30
Have you fallen out of love in your relationship(s)? Do you want to know why? In this episode we discuss how to keep the love and passion as strong as it was the day you met, and how to get the lov...
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#104: Masculinity and Relationships with GS Youngblood from 2020-08-13T14:17
We all know about toxic masculinity. But is there such a thing as healthy masculinity? In this episode we talk with author GS Youngblood about masculinity, power dynamics, and what makes a good rel...
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#103: WTF Do We Do Anyway? from 2020-07-29T15:00
The other day we were talking to a client who’s known us personally for years. He’s listened to every podcast episode. And yet a day into the program he realized he had no idea WTF we do! He had he...
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#102: Interview With a Queerspawn–Koe Creation from 2020-07-26T21:22
We talk a lot about poly parenting on this show. And we’ve even had our teenager on to share his viewpoint. But what if you’ve wanted to hear the perspective of someone who grew up in a polycule an...
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#101: A 70-Year Promise from 2020-07-08T17:02
Before Matt and Elizabeth got married, she had him promise that they’d be married for 70 years. Just like her great-grandparents. But years later, they were in a desperate spot.They were arguing...
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#100: One. Hundred. Episodes. from 2020-07-03T18:23:20
We’ve hit one hundred episodes! We’re celebrating this momentous occasion by highlighting a few of our hosts’ and listeners’ favorite moments. We discuss what’s changed in our lives and what you ca...
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#099: Ninety-nine Problems But a Third Ain’t One from 2020-06-11T19:12:40
How do you tell a mono partner you want to be poly? How much should you tell your partners about each other? How can you navigate sharing a community with your ex? In this live episode of the TOF p...
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#098: Headed in Different Directions from 2020-05-26T19:21
You and your partner don’t have the same vision of the future. It seems like you’re headed in different directions. Now what?
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#097: Topping for Femmes with Shay Tiziano from 2020-05-19T00:28:47
In this episode, Cassie and Shay Tiziano reflect on the tribulations and rewards of topping as a femme. They discuss their stories, how femme tops are viewed in the scene, thoughts on topping larg...
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#096: COVID + Your Relationships = An Amazing Opportunity from 2020-05-17T20:11:53
In the current situation, there’s a HUGE opportunity hidden in this crisis. A chance to make your relationships better than they’ve ever been. In this episode, we break down why this is the perfect...
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#095: Trans and Empowered with Cassie Brighter from 2020-05-09T19:05:08
In this episode, we’re talking with writer and educator Cassie Brighter about trans issues, her story, common myths, transitioning, coming out, and much more.
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#094: Overcoming Impossible Relationship Challenges from 2020-04-01T21:56
Every week we talk with polyamorous folks who believe their relationship is doomed because they’re facing an insurmountable challenge. But they can’t see past the challenge to the real problem: the...
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#093: Poly Baby: Week One from 2020-03-27T02:56:19
Our little one has arrived! In this episode, we sit down with Amanda to debrief our poly birthing experience. We talk about the birth itself, how the hospital staff reacted to our unique family, an...
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#092: How to Vanquish Jealousy from 2020-02-24T21:43
You know jealousy is toxic. And every"expert"out there has tips on how to overcome it. So why are you still struggling? Simple. There are two distinct types of jealousy, but people only ever talk a...
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#091: The Baby Episode from 2020-02-05T19:05:54
Our poly family is having a baby! Which may not surprise you. In fact, dozens of our listeners already picked up that Cassie was pregnant, and they had a few questions. In this very special episode...
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#090: Same Shit, Different Year from 2020-01-27T19:19:35
If you’re like a lot of people, you made a resolution to improve your relationships this year. We’re 3 weeks into 2020. How’s that going? Has anything gotten better? Have things gotten WORSE? In th...
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#089: Please help me squirt again! from 2020-01-20T22:13:01
Is it “undomly” to eat submissive pussy? Why do (some) women like degradation? Are there ways to be happy as a secondary when you’ve lost your primary relationship? What should you do when you’ve b...
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#088: Ten Poly Secrets We Learned In 2019 from 2020-01-06T17:03:06
We spend hours each day coaching polyamorous folks on how to stop fighting, fall back in love, and build amazing relationships. We learn something new about polyamorous relationships every single d...
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#087: Where did the spark go? from 2019-12-23T19:13:39
The most frequent complaint we hear from polyamorous folks is that they feel disconnected in their relationship. But there’s good news. Not only can you get that spark back. But you can get back to...
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#086: Pick up Play with Stefanos and Shay from 2019-12-16T20:14:56
Do you wish you could walk into a dungeon and negotiate a scene with a sexy human you’ve never met before? In this episode, experienced playsluts Shay and Stefanos reveal how to pick up a new partn...
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#085: What’s Worse In a relationship? Screaming? Or Silence? from 2019-12-03T17:45:19
We all know that a classically bad relationship is loud — full of screaming, crying, slammed doors, and emotional breakdowns. But did you know that silence can be just as dangerous? In this episode...
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#084: Pony Play with Tromper and Handler Jenn from 2019-11-27T05:00:21
In this episode, we’re talking with Tromper and Handler Jenn, the 2020 North American Pony/Trainer titleholders. The topic? Pony play of course! We talk about what pony play is, why it’s something ...
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#083: Ultimatums, Quality Time, and The Problem With OPP from 2019-11-07T03:54:17
When you’re poly (and kinky), do you have to watch your partner get it on? How do you tell your partner “it’s them or me?” How do you handle submissives who are on their period? Do Cassie and Rigel...
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#082: Are We Incompatible? from 2019-10-28T10:51:17
When you’re feeling incompatible, how do you find solutions and create agreements that leave all parties happy, healthy, and fulfilled? And how do you know when you’re truly incompatible, and when ...
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#081: We Don’t Actually Hate Therapists, But Here’s What You Should Know from 2019-10-14T23:47:45
Some people hear us talk about therapy and assume we hate therapists. That's not true. But who you go to for help with your relationships really matters. Sometimes a good therapist is the answer. B...
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#080: Dirty Talk, Soft D**ks, and Jealous Partners from 2019-09-30T12:51:25
What should you do when you are no longer physically attracted to your long-time partner? When should you tell a date about your kinks? What does it mean when you’ve agreed to an open relationship ...
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#079: But Polyamory Is Hard! from 2019-09-24T02:03:43
In this episode, we talk about the myth that poly is easy and the potential harm that it can do to partners trying to work their way through a challenging time. We also give you some resources and ...
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#078: Sex and Fairytales with Dr. Jeana Jorgensen from 2019-09-19T02:20:11
Folklorist and sex educator Dr. Jeana Jorgensen joins the show to discuss how folklore shapes our views of sex, gender, and relationships. We discuss what folklore is, the difference between myth, ...
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#077: Bondage, Breath Play, and Fatal Fistings with Jay Wiseman from 2019-09-09T23:31:15
This week we’re speaking with author and educator Jay Wiseman. Jay has beenwriting on and teaching about BDSM since before kink was en vogue. We discuss his book SM101 and his journey from feeling ...
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#076: What It Really Takes To Save A Relationship from 2019-08-27T02:00:02
Saving a relationship takes a LOT of work and time. But effort alone won’t heal a struggling relationship. Here's the two specific things it takes to turn things around and get your relationships t...
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#075: Dyad Time: More Awesome, Less Suck from 2019-08-19T18:49:09
Today we’re talking about dyad time: the time set aside for just one partner. Dyad time is vital to keeping your relationships healthy (regardless of your configuration). But when you’re polyamorou...
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#074: Prodommes, Pride, and Poly Problems from 2019-08-13T03:25:28
How do you tell one of the partners in your quad that you no longer want a romantic relationship? Can you still find people to play with if you have herpes? What’s the best way for a couple to find...
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#073: What (and Who) We Got Into at Camp from 2019-07-31T22:53:24
This episode is all about camp. We talk about the wonderful naughtiness we got into — sexing in a lightning storm, taking down a fox, a simulated drowning scene, and more. We also reply to listener...
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#072 Polyamory: Representation, Race, and Inclusivity with Kevin Patterson from 2019-07-27T17:13:26
How can we make the polyamorous community more inclusive? In this episode we’re talking with author and speaker Kevin Patterson about the representation of polyamory in the media, building communit...
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#071: Moving On and Finding Love with Alexa Martinez from 2019-07-12T01:06:20
In this episode, Cassie talks with sex and relationship coach Alexa Martinez about moving on and finding love after a relationship ends. Topics include overcoming grief, rebound sex, knowing when y...
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#070: Breaking Up When You’re Polyamorous from 2019-06-17T12:41:25
In our longest-ever episode, we walk you step-by-step through ending or transitioning a polyamorous relationship. We discuss how to know when it’s time to break up, choosing if you want to break up...
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#069: Constantly arguing? Here’s how to stop from 2019-06-10T15:11:49
Few things are more miserable than constant conflict in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss the five steps you can use to break the cycle of arguments in your relationships — starting to...
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#068: Sexy At Any Size with Cheri Hardman from 2019-05-27T14:42:15
On today’s episode, we’re talking with comedian and plus-size babe Cheri Hardman about body image, fat acceptance, loving yourself, finding partners, ditching shitty people, and more.
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#067: Poly Birthdays, First Loves,&Tough Times from 2019-05-20T22:13:16
How do you support your partners when you’re feeling down? Who should you invite to your polyamorous daughter’s surprise party? What do you do when your partner loses sexual interest in you… but no...
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#066: Who’s Your Daddy? with Kate Sloan from 2019-05-07T00:22:42
One kink that intrigues —and confuses — many kinksters is the Daddy Dom / little girl dynamic. Today Cassie is talking with Kate Sloan from the Dildorks about all things DD/lg. Topics include the a...
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#065: Blending Sex and Cannabis with Ashley Manta from 2019-04-20T22:07:17
It’s 4/20, and we’re talking to Ashley Manta about how to incorporate cannabis into your sex life. We dive into why you might want to try combining sex and cannabis, finding products, concerns arou...
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#064: Life Lessons From an Atheist Pastor with Luke K from 2019-04-16T03:23:51
On today’s episode, we talk with Luke Ki about atheism, crises of faith, finding community after leaving religion, and how to develop your own moral framework and be a good human — especially in yo...
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#063: My husband is dating my sister ?!? from 2019-03-26T01:37:06
How do you tell a partner who's getting serious that you're just… not? What do you do when your husband shows up at your poly gathering… with your 22 year old sister? How can you avoid irritating y...
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#062: Living an Authentic Life with Andy Vargo from 2019-03-18T22:36:56
It's OK to be who you are. In fact, it's urgent. In this episode, we talk with comedian and speaker Andy Vargo about: How to accept yourself. How to build confidence. How to create your support sys...
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#061: 10 Proven Ways to Have Better Sex After Kids from 2019-03-11T21:24:37
In this episode, we discuss why you must make sex a priority, dive into the research (and reality) of what kids do to your sex life, and give you our top 10 tips for having better sex after kids.
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#060: Extreme Kinks, Fetlife Creepers, and a 30-year-old Virgin from 2019-03-04T16:51:54
What’s it like to be the male in an FMF triad? How do you navigate decision making in a group relationship? Is being a 30-something-year old virgin detrimental to finding a female Dominant? Should ...
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#059: A Valentine’s Day Q&A from 2019-02-18T16:05:39
How do you divide Valentine's day when you have multiple partners? What should you do when your husband and your girlfriend hate each other? How do you navigate falling for your metamour? On this s...
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#058: Swollen Labia, Shitty Submissives, and Poly Bat-Signals from 2019-02-15T23:16:39
How do you find folks for a foursome without coming out to your friends? What’s the secret signal you can use in public to let others know your poly? Should you be worried if your labia are still m...
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#057: Protecting Your Relationships is Just Good Poly from 2019-02-04T19:59:40
On this episode, we’re going to discuss the concept of protecting your relationships and show you how adopting this mindset is the best way to ensure that ALL your relationships are happy and healt...
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#056: Should I tell my boss I’m poly? from 2019-01-29T04:43:47
How can you encourage your wife to get freaky with her boyfriend when you're out of town? What are some tips for navigating jealously? Where does a dragon find a couple? Should you tell your prospe...
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#055 Dress to Impress (Yourself) with Christine Malsbary from 2019-01-15T01:22:48
On today’s episode, we’re talking with Christine Malsbary of the Brazen Beauty Movement about the importance of feeling sexy, dressing for yourself (instead of others), and expressing your personal...
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#054: 6 Ways To Have a Better Poly Relationship In 2019 from 2018-12-31T19:52:36
The new year is upon us. Take a moment and picture what a perfect relationship with your partner(s) would look like this year. If there’s a gap between what you want your relationships to look like...
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#053: Poly Holidays, Body Shaming, and Topping From the Bottom from 2018-12-24T20:19:04
It’s Christmas Eve, and we’re bringing you another Q and A episode. Today’s questions include: how to juggle holiday schedules when you’re poly, dealing with jealousy in a triad, what to do when so...
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#052: Subs! Stop settling for lousy Dominants from 2018-12-18T02:04:31
On today’s episode, we (a Dom and a sub) are going to tell you the steps you must take when screening a potential Dominant including determining if you’re compatible (in and out of the bedroom), pe...
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#051: We Know We Need Help, But We Keep Putting It Off! from 2018-12-11T01:45:26
Every day we speak with folks who are facing challenges in their polyamorous relationships. Some know they need help, but decide to put it off till later. On today’s episode, we discuss why it can ...
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#050: Is Your Loved One Polyamorous? Here’s What You Need to Know from 2018-12-03T18:31:13
For today’s show, we wanted to do something a bit special. We know that when you're polyamorous it can be difficult to explain things to your family and friends… so we decided to do that for you. T...
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#049: Sperm Donors, Dirty Talk, and Poly Folks with No Sex Drive from 2018-11-26T22:23:09
It’s a Q&A episode! Yay! Today, we take a bunch of questions from folks wanting to know about: fathering children for other couples in your polycule, bridging the desire gap in a triad, the differe...
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#048: Let’s Be Honest–Poly Sex Should Be Great Sex from 2018-11-19T16:11:08
We love talking and teaching about relationships, but sometimes you just gotta talk about sex. Today, we take a deep dive on the reasons folks may want to have casual sex, the conversations that mu...
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#047: Cis Men, Craigslist Dating, and Putting The “Amory” in Polyamory from 2018-11-12T12:20:40
This week, we are back with another highly requested Q&A episode! Just a few of the things we get down on in this week’s episode include: where to find a person to date as a couple, if you should b...
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#046: Need a Hand? Here’s Our Advice on Advice from 2018-11-05T17:17:04
When you run into problems in your poly relationships, where do you turn for advice? If you’re like many folks, you talk to other partners, to your friends, to folks in your poly communities (eithe...
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#045: Polyamory is a Movement with Alan M. from 2018-10-29T13:39:35
Alan M. has been a poly activist for 13 years. He is best known for his website Polyamory in the News. On this episode, we discuss how Alan has seen Poly change over the years in terms of community...
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#044: The Cost of Guilt In Your Relationships from 2018-10-22T14:06:26
When your partner’s unhappy and unsatisfied it’s easy to feel guilty… especially if you were the driving force behind opening op the relationship. But that guilt is just piling more hurdles on top ...
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#043: Breaking the Stigma with Jenelle Pierce of The STD Project from 2018-10-15T14:34:07
Today we are talking with Jenelle Marie Pierce, Founder&Executive Director of The STD Project, spokesperson for PositiveSingles.com, and tri-chair of the Communications Actions Group at the Nationa...
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#042: I’m poly. They’re mono. WTF do I do? from 2018-10-02T02:06:55
One of you is polyamorous. The other is monogamous. Everyone is telling you that you're incompatible, and selfish to boot. That’s BS. This week’s episode features audio from a recent Facebook Live ...
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#041: POC and Poly with Ruby Johnson from 2018-09-24T16:01:14
Ruby Johnson, sex therapist and educator, joins us to discuss the challenges people of color face in the poly community and in their non-monogamous relationships. We talk with Ruby about what is ha...
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#040: Unwanted Compliments, Feeling Undateable, and Awkward Group Sex from 2018-09-17T23:43:50
We love all our listener questions! Today we tackle a bunch including a hardball question about our adoption plans, how to handle unwanted compliments after a scene, what to do when you feel undate...
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#039: No, Poly Isn’t Easy (and Other Common Myths In The Community) from 2018-09-17T15:39:02
On today’s episode, we explore the four most harmful myths about polyamory… three of which are coming from INSIDE the poly community. We see these myths pop up time and time again, and want to debu...
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#038: Community–The Good, the Challenging, and the Intentional with Sarah Taub from 2018-09-03T11:30:19
If you’re poly or kinky you’ve likely realized the importance of surrounding yourself with a community of like-minded people. Today we're speaking with Sarah Taub Sarah on what community is, why it...
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#037: Rainbow Umbrellas, Vegan Apple Pie, and How Polys Pay the Bills from 2018-08-27T11:38:41
Today’s episode features Part 2 of our Q&A! We kick it off with a question regarding moving in with someone you have never met in person, and how it may change the power dynamic. Next, we give our ...
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#036: Poly Myths, the Dominant Perspective, and Hot Mermaid Chicks from 2018-08-20T11:19:15
Today’s episode is part one of a two part Q&A, and we love hearing your questions and experiences, keep them coming! We talk about: building a poly-friendly society, the emotions behind jealousy an...
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#035: Consent and Sexual Freedom With Susan Wright from 2018-06-27T22:45:51
We mention the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) quite regularly on this podcast. On today’s episode, we’re speaking with the NCSF’s founder Susan Wright. Topics include the work the NCS...
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#034: You’re Not Broken: BDSM, Injury, and Illness from 2018-05-23T15:32:35
We all hope it will never happen to us. But at some point, we all have to deal with an injury or illness affects our play partners, loved ones, and sex life. Today we discuss the painful struggles ...
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#033: My Poly Family: A Teen Answers Your Questions from 2018-04-26T01:11:35
As poly parents we have a lot of questions around the effects that our relationships have on our children. So, we decided to get the answers from straight from the horse's mouth. Mancub (our teenag...
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#032: Pornhub Drama, Njoy Bloopers, and Wonder Woman from 2018-04-17T21:13
What do you say when your ten year old saw you on Pornhub (and that guy you're with isn't your husband)? Can you be happy after discovering kink and then leaving it behind? What should you do when...
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#031: Touch of Flavor’s Guide to Healthy Power Exchange from 2018-04-11T01:23:30
As the power dynamic encroaches further into everyday life, boundaries can get murky. In a relationship built on inequality, what constitutes a healthy relationship? On today’s episode we’re talkin...
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#030: The Power of Forgiveness with Sri Richard and Sri Namaste from 2018-03-26T19:43:09
Forgiveness is a powerful and necessary tool in any relationship; one most of us take it for granted. But if you want to solve conflict and create healthy relationships, mastering forgiveness is es...
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#029 Beyond Orgasms–A Guide To Sexual Pleasure with Yarah Sutra from 2018-03-21T02:27:36
It may take two to tango. But your sexual pleasure usually has little to do with your dancing partner. Today we're talking with the Pleasure Priestess Yarah Sutra. We’re going to be discussing how ...
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#028: Tops, Switches, and Submissives. Oh My! from 2018-03-13T01:34:43
Do switches make better tops? Is Dom/Top drop even real? Are there slaves or submissives that are untrainable? Will learning to become a Master save my relationship? On today’s episode Cassie and R...
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#027: Practical Tantra with Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson from 2018-03-05T21:30:32
Most of us have heard about the sexual benefits of Tantra. But what is it exactly? Do you need a yogi’s flexibility to do it? An olympic athlete’s stamina? Can you do tantra with more than one pers...
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#026: What Poly Folks Should Know About The Law with Ben Schenker from 2018-02-27T01:01:35
Non-monogamy is a long way from being accepted by mainstream society. Many things that monogamous folks take for granted require extra effort in the poly world. Today we are speaking with attorney ...
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#025: When Your Faith And Sexuality Clash with Frenchie Davis from 2018-02-19T21:41:33
Did you grow up in a religious family? Every religion has developed rules to try and regulate its followers’ sexual practices. But what do you do when your faith and your sexuality don’t align? In ...
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#024: Dying Alone Sucks (Here’s How to Avoid It) with Robert Kandell from 2018-02-13T03:13
We talk to a LOT of kinky singles. One of their biggest fears is dying alone. In fact, it’s one of the biggest fears we partnered people have as well. In a society where we have a thousand Facebook...
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#023: A Valentine’s Day Special from 2018-02-11T22:44:04
For some of us, Valentine’s Day can be a bit rough. Especially if you’re single or broke. Today we are giving you some Valentine’s Day survival tips and pick-me-ups. We’re also reviewing the film A...
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#022: How To Add A Third (Or Fourth) To Your Relationship from 2018-02-06T02:22:43
Today our partner Amanda is back in the studio and we’re answering questions from a listener’s polycule about how to navigate group poly. The topics we’re covering include: how to divide time and a...
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#021: Disabilities, Gay Boots, and Lesbian Porn from 2018-01-17T17:34:15
When is it time to take a fantasy out of your head and into the bedroom? Why do straight chicks like lesbian porn? Is it racist to prefer partners with a certain skin tone? Can a Dom with disabilit...
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#020: Coming Out Poly with Tamara Pincus from 2017-12-28T23:37:06
The decision to come out as non-monogamous (or not) is a difficult one. In today’s episode, Cassie is talking to sex therapist and licensed social worker Tamara Pincus. We will be covering how and ...
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#019: Help! My girlfriend stole my wife’s dog for ransom! from 2017-12-21T16:50:35
How do you tell your husband of 19 years that he’s gotten fat and ugly? Is it possible to find romance when you’re dying? How can you make your first threesome a safe one? What should you do when y...
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#018: Strap-On 101 with Jaki Griot from 2017-12-05T22:53:16
Today Cassie and the fabulous Jaki Griot talk about one of their favorite topics... strap-ons! As a 101 guide to strap-ons, this episode covers everything from how to choose dongs and harnesses, to...
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#017: Condoms, Friend Zones, and Big D***s from 2017-11-15T02:03:43
Why does my girlfriend bleed during sex? What should I tell my kids whose grandfather has come out as trans? How can I last longer in bed? Is it cheating when you break an agreement about using con...
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#016: Ask a Unicorn–Amanda Gets Her Own Episode from 2017-10-30T23:01:02
When did you know you were a unicorn? Where do you find good couples to date? What about a couple raises red flags, and what makes them stand out? What’s it like to have fiancés who run a podcast? ...
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#015: 9 Brutally Honest Reasons You Suck at Dating from 2017-10-23T17:21:07
Few of us want to be lonely. But dating is an acquired skill, and some folks just have a have hard time getting it down. On today’s episode Cassie puts on her dating coach hat and discusses (rants ...
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#014: Help! Our Teenage Daughter is Telling Everyone About Our Sex Life from 2017-10-09T20:03:29
What’s the right way to approach someone at a kink event without getting nervous (would naked sword fighting help)? Why do people on dating sites send absurd messages? Should you stay friends with ...
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#013: When Sex Drives Collide: Bridging the Desire Gap from 2017-10-02T15:33:20
A variety of studies estimate that one out of every three couples has a severe mismatch in the levels of their sexual desire. In this episode, Cassie and Rigel discuss ways to bridge the desire gap...
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#012: She Said Yes! Our Triad Gets Engaged from 2017-09-26T03:25:48
How do you make your vanilla wedding a little kinky? What do you do when your wife can’t stand your girlfriend? How do you find a “legit” Femdom? Are all poly people sluts? On today’s Q and A episo...
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#011: How To Execute An Interrogation Scene Like A Boss with Sunny Megatron and Ken from 2017-09-18T22:49:42
Interrogations. They’re some of our most favorite scenes ever. But they’re also some of the hardest scenes to execute correctly. Today we’re talking to Sunny Megatron and Ken and taking a comprehen...
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#010: Pegging, Packing, and Poly-Saturation from 2017-09-12T02:53:41
What are the best products for pegging and packing? Which partners get the boot when you’re poly-saturated? WTF do you do when your girlfriend keeps having sex with your best friends? How do you te...
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#009: Taboo Fantasies, Unicorn Hunting, and Sex After Kids from 2017-09-04T13:18:54
How do you make a taboo fantasy a reality? How can a couple find their third? What should you do when your toddler has destroyed your sex life? On today’s episode, Cassie and Rigel answer these que...
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#008: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Event Drop with Mr. Black from 2017-08-28T16:59:57
Today we’re talking to Mr. Black of the Black Pomegranate about event drop. What is it exactly? Is anyone immune? What can you do to help prevent drop while you're at an event, and how do you proce...
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#007: Love vs Lust with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova from 2017-08-23T00:18:49
Love and lust. They’re words we throw around a lot. Today we’re talking to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova about love and lust including: the differences between the two, the biggest myths surrounding love an...
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#006: How To Be a Kickass Poly Parent from 2017-08-15T00:54:30
Are you poly? Do you or your partner(s) have kids? If so, you’ve probably run into your share of questions. We’ve been poly parents for eleven years. On today's episode, we’re going to answer these...
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#005: Butt Stuff, Bad Boys, and Poly Sleeping Arrangements from 2017-08-10T15:58:27
Can you be kinky if you don’t like it in the butt? Are there any sane poly people around? How do you approach nillas you’re interested in about kink and/or poly? What should you do when you get no ...
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#004: The Secret to Getting Laid with Billy Procida from 2017-08-07T15:18:14
Who better to talk to about casual sex than the host of the Manwhore podcast? On today’s episode we’re talking with Billy Procida about how to hook-up including: using dating apps, engaging face-to...
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#003: Possessed Cat, Coming Out, and Painful Penetration from 2017-08-03T13:33:57
How do you come out as kinky and poly? What should you do about a boss who saw your bruises? What’s the best way to turn down unwanted play? How do you fit larger toys in smaller spaces? In our fir...
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#002: Consent Violations and Consent Accidents with Charlie Glickman from 2017-08-01T17:03:17
When consent is breached, sometimes it’s an intentional consent violation. But sometimes, it’s the result of error, miscommunication, or misunderstanding. Today we’re talking to Charlie Glickman Ph...
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#001: Sex With Your Ex, and Cassie Face-F***s a Mermaid from 2017-07-31T20:21:49
Having sex with an ex is sometimes a taboo topic even in the kinky realm. But is it really THAT bad of an idea? In this episode we talk about everything you need to know if you are gonna start gett...
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#000: Introducing the Touch of Flavor Podcast from 2017-07-31T16:39:55
Welcome to the Touch Of Flavor Podcast! In this episode, we're going to give you a little information about ourselves and tell you about the first time Cassie handcuffed rigel to a table. We'll al...
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