Podcasts by We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

Episode 112: An Origin Story- Scott&Kelly from 2023-11-09T00:37

Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many other origin stories but then takes a bit of a turn when a family member shares ...

Episode 111: Finding Who You Weren't Looking For from 2023-10-11T15:18

As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it was all about the excitment, the taboo nature of the lifestyle and a boost ...

Episode 110: An Origin Story- Chris and Nancy from 2023-08-28T14:36

Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration after being together for more than 20 years. We've learned that no...

Episode 109: Resort Management Interview- Grand Miches 2.0 from 2023-07-17T00:02

In this bonus episode we sit down with Original Resorts Management to discuss the somewhat bumpy opening of their Grand Miches resorts, their explanation for the back-and-forth change in the clo...

Episode 108: Navigating Vacation Playtime from 2023-06-30T21:48

Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How do we socialize with others without them thinking it's an invitation to play...

Episode 107: Our Temptation Grand Miches Experience from 2023-05-23T00:51

In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience it ourselves. Through construction delays, supply chain disruptions, hurrica...

Episode 106: Navigating Cliques in the Lifestyle from 2023-03-28T23:58

We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques' while attending events, visiting clubs or attending parti...

Episode 105: Origin Stories- "J&B 2.0" from 2023-02-26T23:59

Listen in on our conversation with our friends "J&B 2.0" as they share their particular story of how they discovered and began exploring the lifestyle together! They are funny, smart and very re...

Episode 104: Choosing a Lifestyle Event with Cate from PCAP from 2023-01-30T00:56

Finding lifestely events and then choosing which event is the best fit for your approach to the lifestyle can be difficult and often confusing. Listen in as we chat with event host Cate from Listen

Episode 103: Facing First-Timer Fears at Desire Resorts from 2022-12-21T23:48

Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort during our week together at Desire Pearl Resort just south of...

Episode 102: You Gotta Own Your Own Sh*t from 2022-11-07T23:58

We sit down with four of our lifestyle friends and share real stories about what it's like to experience hurt feelings during an event and how to dissect, debrief, discover and confront the root...

Episode 101: Deal Breakers from 2022-10-13T00:20

We discuss four distinct behaviors we consider to be deal breakers to moving forward and possibly making new lifestyle friends and connecting with potential play partners.

1. Sharing o...
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Episode 100: Are You Willing to Put in the Hard Work? from 2022-08-31T22:49:26

Finding your tribe, making lifelong friends, connecting for sexy playtime and growing your primary relationship are just a few ways to define 'success' in the lifestyle.

Many may mistaken...

Episode 99: Harnessing That New Relationship Energy from 2022-07-31T15:41:13

New Relationship Energy (NRE) is that sexual buzz we feel when we first meet and connect with a couple or individual. We discuss navigating this heightened state of emotional and sexual feelings...

Episode 98: The Need for Lifestyle Community from 2022-06-21T13:46:27

As the idea and exploration of consensual non-monogamy continues to grow we have noticed the need for organized community. The different flavors and diverse approaches means that one size does n...

Episode 97: Our Thing Might Not Be Your Thing from 2022-05-25T23:00

To quote Mrs Jones, "we should be an example and not a blueprint." It may seem natural to adapt our 'thing' into your lifestyle journey but that could be a mistake. Giving yourselves an opportunity...

Episode 96: Non-Monogamy Coaching by Expansive Connection from 2022-04-24T13:53:17

Catherine (one of our favorite humans) and her team from Expansive Connection join us to discuss how they have created a unique method of coaching non-monogamous people!

Not only do they offer a...

Episode 95: The Lifestyle IS Real Life from 2022-03-30T00:30:23

We often hear couples suggest they are taking a break from the lifestyle due to 'real life' issues. We also hear some say that 'real life' is getting in the way of their lifestyle activities. 
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Episode 94: Is it Jealousy or Envy? from 2022-02-16T17:13:50

Have you experienced lifestyle play partners getting a little upset when you choose to spend time with others? How about hard feelings when one of you seems to be enjoying the lifestyle more than t...

Episode 93: What if We Are Outed? from 2022-01-17T15:33:58

This is the most important topic that nobody wants to talk about! Chances are this won't happen to you (as it did us) but we still want to help prepare you just in case...

We reflect back on our...

Episode 92: Snapshots from Desire Pearl from 2021-11-30T23:55

Listen in as our guests share their Desire Pearl 2021 snapshots in a recorded-live conversation from the resort! Some are thoughtful and meaningful, some are sexy and others are downright hilari...

Episode 91: Rejected Again- Why Don't They Like Us? from 2021-10-31T23:44:05

This month we discuss why other couples reject us when reaching out from a lifestyle dating site and how to improve our chances of success in the future.

This episode complements our epis...

Episode 90: The Importance of Trust in the Lifestyle from 2021-09-23T20:20:52

We discuss the importance of trust from four different angles: trusting your relationship, trusting each other, trusting other couples and trusting who you are becoming in the lifestyle.

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Episode 89: Enjoying Group Play from 2021-08-30T00:52:32

Group play can be fun but also tricky! In this episode we explore the benefits and pitfalls and share our perspective on how we approach and navigate playing in larger groups.

We also rec...

Episode 88: The Art of Avoiding Mistakes from 2021-07-26T02:19:23

No matter how long you've been in the lifestyle you are going to make mistakes. So we've come up with a few tips to help you minimize those mistakes and make your play experiences more meaningfu...

Episode 87: Normalization by Exposure from 2021-06-23T11:44:52

In this episode we discuss how our perceptions change to our reality the more we are exposed to actual events. All of us have pre-lifestyle perceptions, newbie lifestyle perceptions and even vet...

Episode 86: Being Bi-Something in the Lifestyle from 2021-05-19T00:00:02

There are perceptions in the lifestyle that a woman must be 'bi-something' to attract and connect with other couples. On the men's side of things there is a double standard and a stigma attached...

Episode 85: Feels Like the First Time from 2021-04-26T12:27:52

Perhaps you have not had your first play experience yet or haven't had one in a very long time due to the current pandemic.

Preparing for that first play experience creates a lot of build...

Episode 84: The Let Down- Can We Still Be Friends? from 2021-03-30T00:35:59

Do you struggle with if, when and how to tell other couples you're not interested in meeting? What about after you've played and you've lost interest? What if they ask you why you aren't interes...

Episode 83: The Struggle is Real from 2021-02-22T01:00

Not only does real life often get in the way of engaging in the lifestyle, but simply staying sexually connected as a couple is a struggle. Add a global pandemic to the mix and you have the perf...

Episode 82: The Compatibility Conversation from 2021-01-22T03:28:58

We believe there are three important components of compatibility that we need to consider when trying to find connections with people in the lifestyle: General Compatibility, Safety & Health Com...

Episode 81: The Language of the Lifestyle from 2020-11-30T00:00

In this episode we discuss the idea that there is a unique language spoken by those in the swinging lifestyle. We believe this language is comprised of four distinct elements: the language of sp...

Episode 80: Finding True Friends in the Lifestyle from 2020-10-31T00:00

We talk a lot about all the special friendships we've made in the lifestyle and many of you express frustration over finding the type of connections we describe.

In this episode we offer ...

Episode 79: Can We Afford the Lifestyle? from 2020-09-27T16:14:13

It's not a secret that engaging in the lifestyle can be expensive! In this episode we discuss budgeting tips for your lifestyle adventures and why we prioritize spending money on us as an invest...

Episode 78: How Do I Know She is Interested in Me? from 2020-08-31T00:00

Men are programmed through all aspects of life to avoid showing interest in other women. But now we are in this lifestyle where other women expect us to show some interest. This is so confusing!...

Episode 77: I Never Imagined I Would Ever... from 2020-07-27T00:00

Before entering the lifestyle or becoming experienced in the lifestyle we never imagined doing some of the things we've actually done and things we've learned about the lifestyle. We share how o...

Episode 76: Be Authentic- Acknowledging All Facets of You from 2020-06-29T00:00

As we are mired in the current pandemic many of us are being pulled back away from our social and sexual mindsets. When we are concerned about our jobs, our children, our families and our health...

Episode 75: Confronting Men's Performance Issues from 2020-05-26T00:00:04

Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Anxiety are often misunderstood by many in the lifestyle. Numerous couples experience this issue but don't take the time to acknowledge, openly discuss, rese...

Episode 74: Health, Wellness, Hormones and the Lifestyle from 2020-04-23T00:00:02

As we all focus on staying well during this pandemic we thought it a good time to talk about a few health related issues and how they impact our lifestyle journey.

"Mr Night" is a certifi...

Episode 73: Opposites Attract? from 2020-03-23T00:27:44

We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in the lifestyle? Do we search for people just like our partners o...

Episode 72: Voices Inside My Head-Don't Be Your Own C***Blocker from 2020-02-17T00:00

We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple ...

Episode 71: The Kiss and Tell Dilemma from 2020-01-15T00:00:24

In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with ...

Episode 70: Desire 2019- Reflections by the Ladies from 2019-12-16T00:08:11

Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the life...

Episode 69: Consent- More Than Words from 2019-11-12T00:18:28

We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent.  We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additi...

Episode 68: The 'Social Sexy' Lifestyle from 2019-10-21T00:09:45

Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we ...

Episode 67: Eyes Wide Open- Lifestyle Red Flags from 2019-09-23T00:00:05

We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead...

Episode 66: Discovering Your Lifestyle Tribe from 2019-08-19T00:48:04

When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we beg...

Episode 65: The Golden Rules of the Lifestyle from 2019-07-22T00:02:15

Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The ...

Episode 64: Race in the Lifestyle from 2019-06-17T00:04:28

Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss th...

Episode 63: Lifestyle Chemistry 101 from 2019-05-20T04:14:49

In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction.  Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over t...

Episode 62: Putting Yourself Out There- Lifestyle Profiles 2.0 from 2019-04-22T00:22:57

In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation, Dave and Andi.  The f...

BONUS Episode 61: Do You Know George? from 2019-03-28T09:10:39

George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we ...

Episode 60: What's Age Got to Do with It? from 2019-03-11T00:14:47

Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with coup...

Episode 59: Judgment in the Lifestyle from 2019-02-18T02:30:31

Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged.  However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge.  We d...

Episode 58: Out of Your Comfort Zone and into Paradise from 2019-01-15T00:00:08

Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship.  But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond...

Episode 57: Lifestyle Goals- What is Your Why? from 2018-12-12T01:00:04

Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relatio...

Episode 56: Seven Habits of Highly Successful Swingers from 2018-11-05T06:14:50

Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, we align how those ...

Episode 55: Finding Our Happy Place in the Lifestyle from 2018-10-09T01:06:41

Discussion topic: In this episode we catch you all up to date on what we've been going through since we were "outed" as lifestyle podcasters 18 months ago.  Through all the turm...

Episode 54: Drama in the Lifestyle from 2018-09-17T01:08:12

Discussion topic: Most agree we'd like to avoid any drama in a lifestyle experience.  But is this a realistic expectation? Is drama such a bad thing? Do we know what drama reall...

Episode 53: The Discretion Dilemma from 2018-08-20T00:17:14

Discussion topic: In this episode we discuss the tension between wanting to be discreet yet at the same time wanting to know as much as possible about others. Too much discretio...

Episode 52: Play Preferences- Newbies or Veterans? from 2018-07-15T14:25:48

Discussion Topic: We share sexy stories from our trip to Desire Pearl and discuss the benefits and drawbacks of sexual play with newbies and veteran couples in the swinging life...

Episode 51: Awkward Lifestyle Encounters from 2018-06-19T00:00:54

Discussion Topic- Whether it's your very first play experience or you've been swinging for years awkward encounters will always be a part of your lifestyle journey. We share some awkward lifesty...

Episode 50: Reflecting on Our Lifestyle Journey from 2018-05-21T23:01:31

Discussion Topic: In this episode we celebrate the milestone of reaching 50 episodes by reflecting on our lifestyle journey thus far. We are learning a lot and having a loads of...

BONUS Episode 49: Mrs Jones&Cate- What Men Need to Know About the Swinging Lifestyle from 2018-04-26T00:02:57

Discussion Topic: Mrs Jones is joined live by "C" from the Swinging Downunder podcast to discuss what the two ladies believe men need to know and understand to be successful in ...

Episode 48: Which Comes First? Confidence and Courage in the Lifestyle from 2018-04-12T00:04:32

Discussion Topic
In this episode we discuss the difference between being courageous and being confident as you enter and navigate the swinging lifestyle. Many people say "...

Episode 47: Real Life Meets the Swinging Lifestyle from 2018-03-12T01:40:10

Discussion Topic- In this episode we discuss how we see the lifestyle bumping up against real life.  Personally we are becoming more "out" as swingers, more and more mainstream media is reportin...

Episode 46: Staying Connected During Play from 2018-02-12T01:49:31

Discussion Topic- Connecting with your play partner while trying to maintain a connection with your own partner is a balancing act many find difficult to achieve.  This month we...

Episode 45: Closing the Deal- Transitioning to Playtime from 2018-01-09T14:00:33

Discussion Topic- Navigating this lifestyle can be awkward at times, especiall...

Episode 44: The Evolution of the Lifestyle from 2017-12-10T13:19:41

Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!
Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifes...

Episode 43: Seven Sexy Swinger Sins from 2017-11-08T00:59:38

Announcing our special project
Mrs Jones and I are developing an online lifestyle course called Navig...

Episode 42: (Not So) Great Expectations- Avoiding Disappointment from 2017-10-20T00:00:18

Discussion Topic: Setting expectations is something we (and many couples) struggle with in the lifestyle.  With expectations usu...

Episode 41: A Licensed Counselor (and Swinger) Breaks Down Jealousy from 2017-10-02T00:59:05

Discussion Topic: Way back on WGT Episode...

Episode 40: Myth Busting Clothing Optional Resorts- Desire Pearl 2017 from 2017-09-12T00:00:02

Discussion Topic- Many couples approaching the lifestyle consider clothing optional resorts as a first step on their journey.  This episode we tackle some commonly held beliefs ...

Episode 39: Finding Your Flirt in the Lifestyle from 2017-08-15T00:00:05

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