How to Ask For Help - a podcast by Mike Robbins
from 2018-10-23T07:00
For as much as we love to lend our support and help others, many of us find it awkward or uncomfortable to ask for help ourselves. Today, we talk about the top reasons people don’t seek support and ways to shift the mindset on what it actually means about us when we’re willing to reach out to others. When we ask people for their time, feedback, or support in a gracious way, it creates a win-win for everyone. Asking for help is a way to practice vulnerability, which is a necessary aspect of bringing our whole selves to work and to life.
Key Takeaways:
[5:09] There are a few different reasons we have trouble asking for help. We are afraid to be judged or come across as weak, we don’t want to burden people or annoy them, or we are afraid of rejection. Also, we are hesitant to ask for help because often times… we think (know) we can do better.
[9:35] When we keep our world small and enclosed in only our perspective, it limits how big and vast our experience can grow and expand to.
[11:26] Asking for help is a great way to practice being authentic and vulnerable, which allows us to connect and have empathy for and with other human beings.
[18:40] We will always stay at “no” if we don’t ask. If we ask for help, we may actually get some help.
[19:03] Our strongest fears about what will happen when we ask for help rarely happen. The worst case scenario is usually getting a “no” or an inauthentic yes.
[20:07] When we ask for help, we give others the opportunity the joy and satisfaction that comes of helping.
[27:42] Some of us take pride in being a martyr, or think it’s admirable to be burdened with doing it all on our own. However, there is courage in asking for help, and empowering those around us in a generous and abundant way.
[29:53] Challenge for the week: What ways can you start asking for help?
Resources:
Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material.
Better Man Conference
“How to Turn Disappointment Into Power”
Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené Brown
Further episodes of We're All in This Together
Further podcasts by Mike Robbins
Website of Mike Robbins