Don’t Tell Anyone, but I’m in Over my Head! - a podcast by Tami North
from 2018-04-16T07:00
Show Notes for Genuine Driven Women Episode #14
Don’t Tell Anyone, but I’m in Over my Head!
Welcome to the “Genuine Driven Women” podcast, the show where we guide women to reveal their strengths so they believe and can achieve their desired greatness!
Today’s episode is called, Don’t Tell Anyone, but I’m in Over my Head. We discuss Impostor Syndrome and how to deal with it.
MAIN TOPIC
To start, I’d like to read a poem, titled Our Deepest Fear, by Marianne Williamson. Really focus on the words, and if you need to listen again, as I did the first time I heard it – this episode will always be here for you.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
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Have you heard of “Impostor Syndrome”? It is that feeling, that fear, that someone is going to figure out that you are not as smart or as capable as they first thought, even though you have proven to be very successful and capable to this point. This is VERY common, up to 70% of all women and men deal with it. Today, we give you concrete steps to DEAL WITH IT.
You may even have the grades, the awards, the salary, and a long list of accomplishments to back yourself up, but still – that nagging belief that you shouldn’t be where you are, continues to haunt you.
In fact, Impostor syndrome really only occurs in High Achievers. It is not a problem for Low Achievers. So, if you have been feeling like a fraud, it probably only means you have high standards for yourself.
As Marianne Williamson’s poem inferred, you should have high standards for yourself, for you were created to let your own brilliance shine.
One of the earliest references to this phenomenon was in 1978, in a Georgia State University research paper titled, The Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention, written by Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes.
In the book, The Confidence Code, written by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman (TV News journalists), They said, “We should star in our own production. Often, women just seem to have the spotlight thing backward. We want to shine a bright light on our faults, insecurities, and the outlandish reasons we will surely fail, but when it comes to taking credit or enjoying our triumphs, we step into the shadows, looking at our accomplishments as though we’ve never seen them before.”
Time Machine:
In this segment each week we will give a few points about women that have accomplished a lot! We also will discuss a bit about what was happening to women during the time periods. Someone we think you would like to know more about is:
Malala Yousafzai
Inspirational Quote of the Week:
“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
-Maya Angelou
- I really enjoyed this quote when I read it because in many people’s day to day lives we see people that may be sad or they just look like they need a little boost and we can give those people what they need. When I am feeling blue just one nice gesture brightens my mood, even if it is just a “Hi, how are you?”. So I challenge you all this week to be a rainbow to one person who is looking a bit cloudy!
Book Review:
Genuine driven women read lots of books! We’ll make sure to recommend a book each week that will inspire you or help you on your journey to success!
This week’s book is:
By Zach Mercurio
If you’d like to buy this book in any format, including the audiobook version for less than $10.00, click this link: https://amzn.to/2DZ4sqD
This book discusses why we should leverage the fundamental human search for purpose and meaning, and how that purpose - rather than any one person, is what truly leads and motivates people to do their best. This book will help today’s leaders, educators, and parents discover, clarify, and deliver their reason for existence?their authentic purpose, and to help those they lead find it for themselves.
"The Invisible Leader" is a unique and compelling combination of practical tools, storytelling, research, and case studies which form the basis of a powerful new approach to leadership.
Click the link to buy the book (available in several formats): https://amzn.to/2DZ4sqD
We genuinely Want to know!
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References:
- Malala Yousafzai:
- https://en.unesco.org/gem-report/sites/gem-report/files/EDUCATION_IN_PAKISTAN__A_FACT_SHEET.pdf
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