He Doesn’t Understand My Pain (3 invalidations)–4.11S - a podcast by Jay & Lori Pyatt

Disagreements can lead to 3 types of invalidation, as well as 1 unique way invalidation erodes trust–especially when she feels he doesn’t understand her pain. We discuss this with Matt Fray, as well as a couple things the guy can do instead.



TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section)0:00 Intro
0:14 Our male clients have a lot of trouble with this1:05 One Solution: How Matt explains it to male clients *
1:51 How disagreements lead to invalidation2:41 3 ways we habitually invalidate (the triple threat) *
6:27 Another thing that erodes trust (he’ll do it again) *7:55 How Jay created greater breakdown with Lori
9:01 One Solution: Pain is part of the healing process? Instead try this…10:54 In the next episode: “Isn’t she over this yet?”

--https://thecouplecure.com - Jay and Lori's website
https://matthewfray.com - Matt's websitehttps://pornpainhealed.com - Lori's site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com - Jay's site for porn addiction recovery

#trust#relationships
#invalidation#pain

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