Podcasts by Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

415: Dirty Talk from 2023-11-24T01:56:03

Warning this episode is NSFW and you might want to sit down for this one! Is dirty talk part of your love making repertoire? Dirty talk is defined as talking explicitly about sex with your partner....

414: Help! My partner has a foot fetish. What now? from 2023-11-18T00:06:31

A fetish is an object or part of the body that turns someone on sexually. How do partners safely discuss fetishes? Join George and Laurie in today's episode as they answer a mailbag question from a...

413: The Formula to Unlock Female Desire from 2023-11-10T00:58

Foreplay listeners, join George and Laurie in this episode and help us celebrate 4 years of podcasting together! It has been quite a ride with our fearless love experts at the helm and we look forw...

412: Man Can't Come from 2023-11-03T00:35:52

Laurie and George answer a mailbag question in this episode. "I think my husband has been faking orgasms...how can I bring this up without increasing the anxiety he may already be feeling?" We want...

411: What Women Want from 2023-10-27T00:00

What is it exactly that women want? As the conversation of patriarchy and toxic masculinity have buzzed over the past few years (and for good reason) we're all left scratching our heads navigating ...

410: Recovery from the Negative Sexual Cycle from 2023-10-20T00:10

George reminds us that the sexual relationship between adults is the ultimate playground and reclaiming that energy is what makes great lovers! When couples identify and de-escalate their negative ...

409: What Withdrawers Want from 2023-10-13T03:23

In this episode, George and Laurie explore the world of the sexual withdrawer. In the sexual cycle, withdrawers avoid, shut down or turn away from sexual connection. This causes the sexual pursuer ...

408: Desire: Initiating v. Responsiveness from 2023-10-06T00:47:04

"Since the majority of women are responsive to desire, does that mean all women are sexual withdrawers?" Dr. Laurie says, "Absolutely not!" Join us on the episode as Laurie and George break down th...

407: Embracing the Erotic from 2023-09-29T04:00

Join Laurie and George in this episode as they answer a mailbag question from a devoted listener. The sexual pursuer asks the experts how can I tell my partner I am longing for more erotic connecti...

406: Going Deeper from 2023-09-22T00:00

You might be downloading this episode hoping to hear about a sexual position but this episode is all about going deeper into VULNERABILITY. Laurie and George get curious with the longings of the se...

405: 10 Things to Not be Ashamed of During Sex from 2023-09-14T23:54:36

Sights, sounds and smells OH MY! There are many aspects to sex that can cause embarrassment for partners. We are here to let you know that so many things you are worried about are NORMAL! Join us i...

404: 4 Ways Anxiety Kills Your Sex Life and How to Stop It! from 2023-09-08T23:33:21

Do you have anxiety when it comes to your sex life? Maybe you identify with the sexual pursuer role in the relationship and find that you are the partner that keeps track of when and how often you ...

403: Take the Pressure Off: How to Fix Delayed Ejaculation from 2023-09-01T13:10

Delayed ejaculation is when a man cannot reach orgasm intervaginally during sexual intercourse. If this is something you have dealt with, you are not alone! We know that this can be frustrating and...

402: F the Cycle from 2023-08-25T01:00

Welcome listeners! Today we are saying F the Cycle and using good energy to help deconstruct the negative cycle and rebuild a positive connection. In this episode George and Laurie reinforce the br...

401: How to Not Take it Personally from 2023-08-18T13:12

Do you take your partner's behavior personally? Learn how not to in this episode! It's common for individuals to engage in pursuing or withdrawing behaviors in their relationships. If not feeling h...

400: Women's Pleasure Techniques - Our 400th Episode!! from 2023-08-11T02:36

Today we are celebrating the 400th episode of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! The idea for the podcast originated after Laurie was told by commercial radio that she was too spicy for broadcast. Their...

399: "Help! I'm Not Attracted to My Spouse Anymore."`` from 2023-08-04T00:00

Oof listeners, this is some hard content that we are discussing today! Loss of attraction is often shared as the reason for the ending of a relationship. Maybe partners never felt deeply attracted ...

398: Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin from 2023-07-28T00:03:18

What's better than two relationship experts hosting a podcast? When they invite a guest and now listeners are privy to THREE relationship experts! Join Laurie and George in a special episode where ...

397: Making Time for Open Heart Moments from 2023-07-21T13:28:22

How often do you check in with your spouse where there is no agenda? We often check-in on logistics and focus on the caretaking needs of the family but do you ever just have moments where you ask y...

396: The 'Ins and Outs' of the Simultaneous Orgasm from 2023-07-14T01:03:19

We've seen it in the movies and on TV, the sexy, good-looking couple in bed that climax together. The simultaneous orgasm is a goal many couples think they need to achieve for mind-blowing sex. The...

395: How Women Are Wired from 2023-07-07T13:11:01

In the quest to answer the age old question "What do women want?" have we forgotten to stop and ask how women work? Join George and Laurie today for a thrilling conversation to learn about how wome...

394: What to do when your partner would rather catch ZZZ's than make fireworks. from 2023-06-30T00:00

"Not tonight, I'm just too tired." If this phrase has echoed off your bedroom walls then this episode is for you! Life's demands, new baby, chronic illness, age are all reasons we have for being to...

393: Good, Good, Good, Good Vibrations from 2023-06-23T14:39:55

Are you threatened by a vibrator? Maybe it's something you've been thinking about using or only using alone. Vibrators can play an important role in a couple's sex life but might bring up myriad em...

392: How to ask for what you need in a way that increases connection from 2023-06-16T00:00

Everybody in a relationship needs to learn this! Join Laurie and George today as they discuss and teach an integral relationship skill, asking for what you need from your partner in a way that incr...

391: Finding Common Ground from 2023-06-09T00:00

When our brain is in a threat response our view narrows and we typically only see our side. Relationship research shows that secure couples are able to find common ground in conflict and widen thei...

390: Experiencing the BIG O! from 2023-06-02T02:00

Who of our listeners wants a Full Bodied Orgasm? Join Laurie and George in this episode to learn all about the full bodied orgasm. A FBO is one that is felt throughout the entire body not just conc...

389: If I Don't Initiate We Would Never Have It! from 2023-05-26T13:00

In Episode #389 Laurie and George discuss common roles in couple's relationships around sex. Are you thepartner that initiates or the receptive partner? Our hosts detail that there is no right or w...

388: Sex Life a Snoozefest? from 2023-05-19T00:22:45

Boring is a signal and it's a sign that something needs to change! A complaint about monogamy is that the line between responsibility and desire often gets blurred and it is responsibility and safe...

387: Answering a Listener Question on Sexual Withdrawers from 2023-05-12T00:00

In this listener mailbag episode, Laurie and George receive a thoughtful question from a sexual withdrawer, asking help from our hosts. They notice that as their partner asks what they want in bed,...

386: Blocks to Sexual Connection from 2023-05-05T00:00

"Mistrust is part of the change process." We long for things to change, for the negative cycle to shift and for us to achieve closeness and connection but it is SO normal for blocks to occur during...

385: Helping Withdrawers Identify and Express Longing from 2023-04-28T00:00

Can we ever get out of this place, this cycle? The answer is a resounding yes! Stage 1 in EFT works on de-escalating the negative cycle and creating more safety between partners. When there is safe...

384: The Heart of the Solution from 2023-04-21T00:00

After the negative cycle is de-escalated, couples have the opportunity to create a new positive cycle. When there is safety to take the risk of expressing your longing that lives underneath the pro...

383: If Your Genitals Could Talk from 2023-04-17T18:30:33

Welcome listeners to another great episode of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! Recently, Laurie read the book, "The Existential Importance of the Penis: A Guide to Understanding Male Sexuality" by sex...

382: When the Sexual Withdrawer Re-Engages from 2023-04-07T03:11:55

Welcome listeners to episode #382 of Foreplay Sex Therapy Podcast! Join Laurie and George in a discussion on re-engagement of the sexual withdrawer. In this episode, Laurie shares about recent work...

381: Alcohol -- Gas Pedal or Brake? from 2023-03-31T00:00

"Sometimes popping two gummies on vacation helps us have really great sex!" "I really need that glass of wine to get me in the mood!" "Smelling alcohol on your breath is such a turnoff!" As couples...

380: Talking About Sex! from 2023-03-24T12:52:31

"If couples can talk more about sex, they end up having better sex." G drops this great quote in this episode. We all have sexual scripts based on what we learned about sex in our families, culture...

379: Foreplay Listeners Best Sex Tips from 2023-03-17T20:36:48

Just like in therapy, we learn just as much from our listeners as you learn from us! A few weeks ago, we put out a request on our Instagram feed, @foreplay_sextherapypodcast for listeners to send u...

378: Can You Become Addicted to Viagra? from 2023-03-10T01:00

Welcome listeners! This episode centers on using Viagra or other medication to help with erectile dysfunction and if they are addictive. Join George and Laurie as they discuss the prescription medi...

377: Look on the Brightside: Toxic Positivity and its Impact on Your Relationship from 2023-03-03T03:39

Picture this, you walk in from a hard, stressful day at work and finally see your partner--your person. You say to them, "Honey, today was such a hard day. Everything went wrong. It was really bad....

376: Opening Up About Sex and Menopause from 2023-02-24T02:59:58

CNN News Anchor Don Lemon recently baffled viewers on air when he said that women of a certain age are past their prime. His female co-hosts, mouth agape as Lemon doubled down on these claims. We a...

375: How to Navigate Sexual Discrepancy from 2023-02-17T01:00

Sexual discrepancies are common in relationships. While they occur to varying degrees, an inability to have safe and secure conversation on this topic with your partner can result in the formation ...

Introducing: Dear Albie from 2023-02-13T23:47:21

Allow me to introduce you to Dear Albie, a podcast hosted by Albie Manzo. Andwith the help of family and friends, he tries to answer old (and new) advice questions as best he can. Relationships, se...

374: Celebrate Valentine's Day: Naughty or nice, romance and spice! from 2023-02-10T14:06:07

Listeners, Valentine's Day is upon us and Laurie and George have compiled a great list of gifts and ideas both romantic and spicy to help you celebrate the day. If you're groaning over it being a c...

373: De-Escalation of the Negative Sexual Cycle from 2023-02-03T03:04

In EFT couples therapy, De-escalation is the first step in helping couples join against their negative cycle. A couple that is working on de-escalation works to identify their repeated move when th...

372: Plight of performance based sex from 2023-01-27T00:50:15

Performance based sex is problematic for couples. A focus on performance can create anxiety. Sex is being thought about in the head (how long will my erection last? Are they liking this? My partner...

371: How to talk about disillusionment in your sexual relationship from 2023-01-19T20:00

Disillusionment, despair, hopelessness. Many couples that find themselves in a sexless marriage experience these heavy emotions. These emotions can turn into depressed moods, overarching negative o...

370: Squirting orgasms; myth or the real deal? from 2023-01-13T22:11:56

Listeners join George and Laurie as they break down exactly what a squirting orgasm is and how it differs from female ejaculation, and the how to’s of it. Here are some great takeaways: there needs...

369: What's Your Policy on Secrets? from 2023-01-06T02:50:11

Happy New Year listeners! In this episode we are talking about sexual secrets: when to share with your partner and when to withhold. A sexual secret might look like a hot fantasy, a memorable sexua...

368: The Must-Have Conversation to Improve Your Relationship This New Year! from 2022-12-30T01:00

We can’t help but get swept up in fervor of the New Year energy! Join Laurie and George for a great conversation on how to have a successful year end sexual check-in with your partner. These conver...

367: What Do We Need? from 2022-12-23T04:50

The negative cycle creates gridlock with couples because it is all about protection. Protection of what? The protection of unmet needs. In this episode, George and Laurie help listeners get clearer...

366: I Feel Jealous and Then I Feel Ashamed from 2022-12-17T19:36:32

Jealousy is difficult to feel. I should trust my partner, I should be more confident. Even I don’t know what to do with my insecurity - it makes me feel ashamed.  George suggests that jealousy is d...

365: How to recover when your attempt to experiment sexually goes wrong. from 2022-12-09T02:09:28

In this episode Laurie and George respond to a question from a listener asking for their help. Our listener shares that they took a risk to bring something spicy into lovemaking and it was a comple...

364: Do You have an Insecure Attachment to Money? from 2022-12-02T13:00

The Beatles said it best when they sang, "Money Can't Buy Me Love," however finances are a top source of conflict between couples and in this episode our hosts focus on money and the meaning it mak...

363: The Simple Way to be a Better Listener Today! from 2022-11-28T13:20:16

Rev is often a word you associate with a car engine, but did you know that REV is the acronym you need to improve your ability to listen to your partner better? REV stands for Reflect, Evocative Qu...

362: The Five Dimensions of Touch from 2022-11-18T01:21:32

In this episode, our hosts breakdown the 5 Dimensions of Touch, from an article written by renowned sex therapist Barry McCarthy, PhD. George and Laurie guide us through the different dimensions: A...

361: The Six-Month Guide to Fix Premature Ejaculation from 2022-11-11T01:00

Not only are our hosts here to provide good information but to dispel bad information. This week’s episode is all about premature ejaculation: the facts, busting myths, and the six-month protocol t...

360: Timing is Everything! from 2022-11-04T00:01:28

Timing is everything and for many, well most of us, we’ve all experienced poor timing. If you’ve ever been in a relationship, you most likely have a memory of a time when your partner shared someth...

359: Unravelling Resentment from 2022-10-28T00:00

Prompted by a listener question, Laurie and George discuss resentment in relationships. Resentment is often seen as a relationship killer, but our hosts ask the audience to give permission to that ...

358: Helping Withdrawers Name Their Pain in the Sexual Cycle from 2022-10-21T00:00

Attention Couples Therapists, you're going to want to listen to this episode! Laurie and George role play a therapy session to help understand the world of the emotional withdrawer in the sexual cy...

357: Staying Connected When it Goes from Hot to Not from 2022-10-14T10:30

Did you know that 10% of sexual encounters with intimate partners go badly? Join Laurie and George for this episode where they discuss strategies partners can use when sexual situations go awry. Ou...

356: Wedding Night Sexpectations: The Conversation Every Newlywed Couple Needs To Have Before The Big Day from 2022-10-07T02:23

Here we are at the wedding night. After months, maybe years of planning, the special day is finally here. This episode is about sexpectations on the wedding night. Did you know over 50% of couples ...

355: Am I too much? Will I always hunger for this connection? from 2022-09-30T02:45

"Am I too much? Will I always hunger for this connection?" If these are common questions you've asked yourself while stuck in a negative cycle with your partner you may be a sexual pursuer. Join Ge...

354: What the Sexual Withdrawer Can Do to Heal the Cycle -- Stage 2 from 2022-09-23T01:15

We've discussed the negative sexual cycle couples get stuck in and highlight just how important it is to name and tame it. As EFT therapists we know that de-escalating the cycle is the first step i...

353: What to Say to Your Sexual Pursuer or Sexual Withdrawer to Get to Deeper Connection from 2022-09-16T11:48:47

We’ve talked about the cycle before and we’re talking about it again. This time we explore what EFT calls Stage 2. Why? because after de-escalating conflict there’s more to do to get closer with yo...

352: Listen to Your Body to Create Change from 2022-09-09T00:00

What is your body communicating? During one of our most essential episodes, Laurie and George discuss the value of bringing attention and awareness into our bodies. Emotions show up physically and ...

351: What Shuts Her Down Sexually? from 2022-09-02T02:01

The million maybe billion-dollar question: how do we increase low sexual desire in women? Laurie and George discuss what is shutting down sexual desire in women. George gets it right by saying wome...

350: He Thinks I’m Too Fat for Sex from 2022-08-26T00:00

Listen to a caller who leaves us a message about her husband telling her he thinks she’s too heavy to be attractive. Laurie and George work through their own reaction and anger at this painful mess...

349: Women Who Don’t Like Sex from 2022-08-19T12:42

So many women seem to just give up on sex. Maybe they reach menopause and they’re done with sex. Or maybe well before menopause , she and her partner haven’t gotten through to each other and sex st...

348: Overcoming Critical Body Image Thoughts from 2022-08-13T15:09

In our world with its focus on physical perfection, we all have aspects of our body which we criticize, and even avoid looking at in the mirror. These critical thoughts can intrude before, during, ...

347: Oral Sex -- Do you want it and your partner doesn't? from 2022-08-05T02:15

Oral sex - you like it. You don’t like it. What works. What doesn’t work. Laurie and George talk about it all. They role play a couple who gets stuck in retaliation - if you don’t go down on me; I ...

346: Sex--Hit or Miss? from 2022-07-29T00:00

Sometimes sex is awesome; sometimes not. This episode shows you how to turn up the heat when it's not! Thanks to our sponsors:BetterHelp.com/Foreplay for 10% off your first month! Uberlube.com - F...

345: She Needs to Get Ready; He Needs to Get Going from 2022-07-22T00:00

She needs more foreplay and he doesn’t wanna lose his erection. Women need a slow patter of arousal to reach the best climax. Men when they’re on sildenafil (viagra, etc.) need to use their erectio...

344: Stop the Toxic Sex Cycle: Blame and Forget from 2022-07-15T00:00

Libido is shared between the couple. The pursuer afraid of being rejected, almost starts every initiation with an edge of criticism. So the sexual moment starts the partner off without even being g...

343: The Cycles - What's It All About? from 2022-07-08T15:24

In most of our episodes, we use the emotional and sexual cycles to bring coherence to the issues that plague committed relationships. We wanted to explore and summarize the emotional and sexual cyc...

342: We're Sexless. My Partner Never Wants to Do It Again from 2022-07-01T00:45

There can be so much disappointment even shame when a couple is in a sexlessness marriage. Couple can tune out and shut down their need for flesh on flesh and over time it gets harder and harder to...

341: Should You Keep Sex Secrets? from 2022-06-24T00:00

Laurie and George define secrets as issues, fantasies or alliances that block connection. We certainly have a right to privacy and sometimes our private erotic thoughts makes our world sexier and m...

340: Losing Attraction - How to get it back! from 2022-06-17T00:00

“I’m just not attracted to you anymore.” - OUCH!!!I Sounds like a showstopper doesn’t it? But Laurie and George have hope for you to get it back. We use our favorite acronym BEST SEX Conversations ...

339: How a Man Can Be Sexually Confident from 2022-06-10T00:00

Confidence is essential for a great relationship. But how to you grow in confidence if you've lost it or never had much of it? Confidence is the end result of a string of successes. We discuss move...

338: Details of Sex from 2022-06-03T00:00

Most of us grew up not talking about sex. But the more detailed you get, the more power you can have to change things. Go play-by-play and have more choice and agency about shaping your experience ...

337: Flattery from 2022-05-27T00:00

Everyone wants to feel desired certainly. But the research shows that for women - being desired, hearing their partner's verbal admiration and open "want" - is very important to their turn on. When...

336: How to Talk About Intimate Touch from 2022-05-20T02:41

Touch is vital for intimate communication. We learn so much with touch - pleasure, safety, exploration and curiosity! So often we don’t put it into words and then we find ourselves in intimate rela...

335: Good-Enough Responding To Stay Sexually Attached from 2022-05-13T00:57

We’re talking about good-enough responding - responding to our partner in ways that keep us connected even when we disappoint them. Think about when a withdrawer finally comes forward; while their ...

334: Spicing Things Up from 2022-05-06T00:00

Wanna spice it up? What have you fantasized about doing? It takes vulnerability to tell each other about ideas for novelty and change. Are you willing to risk? Laurie and George talk about how coup...

333: Something Better Than Nothing? from 2022-04-29T00:00

Is it worth it to accept something that your partner wants to give you sexually instead of holding out for what you really want? Is something better than nothing? Laurie and George use a tried and ...

332: Laurie invites her girlfriends for a private talk! from 2022-04-22T12:15:29

Would you just love to go for a walk with Laurie and talk about sex? Well, on this episode, L invites all of her girlfriends out there to talk about all the stuff - hacks to conquer menopause, how ...

331: Q&A Partners Wanting Sex For Themselves from 2022-04-15T00:00

The million dollar question! (for pursuers) how do you get someone to pursue their own pleasure. In our Q&A, Laurie and George see a reader’s point. For so many  reasons it works better when your p...

330: Six Modes of Sex from 2022-04-08T00:00

  Lovemaking, maintenance sex, icebreaker sex, the 5-minute window, RED HOT sex, and scheduled sex - all have their merits. Compliments of our friends' blog @thehappymarriageau, George and Laurie ...

329: Red Light; Green Light, Brain Regulation for Better Sex from 2022-04-01T00:17:18

Keeping connected is easier when we're in green brain - when our brain says we are safe, cared about and even loved - when we can relax, talk, listen with openness.  Red brains are escalated, tense...

328: Sue Johnson Talks Sex! from 2022-03-24T23:00

FOREPLAY welcomes Emotionally Focused Therapy, founder Dr. Sue Johnson to talk with us about George's driving and the sexual cycle. We laughed together about their early relationship and more serio...

327: Withdrawer Vulnerability for the Win-Win from 2022-03-18T00:00

Listen to this emotional episode to to help the withdrawers in your life. Trained to suppress emotions, withdrawers have decided early in life - it's is not okay to have needs. Their nervous system...

326: World of the Withdrawer from 2022-03-11T16:00

Withdrawers in relationship are steeled against the three waves that come for them... first, they do it wrong for their pursuing partner, next it's their fault for withdrawing and third, they reall...

325: Getting Pursuer Needs Met from 2022-03-04T14:30

We want to help pursuers get what they need and then take it into their hearts when it finally comes their way. We know there can be mistrust when a withdrawer at first tries to understand and meet...

324: The World of the Pursuer from 2022-02-25T04:30

This is George and Laurie's love letter to those pursuers out there! We see how hard you work. Male or female, sexual or emotional pursuer. We see your good intentions. We see your longing for your...

323: Fairplay Before Foreplay from 2022-02-18T01:00

George says the value of my hour is equal to the value of your hour! Laurie says if there are big inequities in responsibility between couples - there's gonna be big problems in the bedroom! Hear G...

322: Keeping It Married and Hot! from 2022-02-11T01:00

We promise fidelity in marriage - a promise of an erotic life with our partner. So what gets in the way? Why do people joke that marriage is where sex goes to die? George and Laurie believe facing ...

321: Q&A - Can't Orgasm With Intercourse, Partner Rejection, Accepting Herpes from 2022-02-04T01:08:03

Our Q&A - What happens when you can’t orgasm during intercourse like you used to?  George and Laurie come up with many different ideas about what might be happening and techniques to help our liste...

320: Escape Old Sexual Scripts for More Erotic Freedom - With Dr. James Hawkins from 2022-01-28T01:00

We all have scripts that have been handed down. Our families have told us how we are to behave sexually. Gender roles proscribe the way we should act in the bedroom.  Our culture tells us what make...

319: Cracking the Nut - How to Breakthrough the Hard Shell Around Your Partner from 2022-01-21T01:00:25

Are you tired of having the same fight over and over? Would you like to discuss things without triggering your partner. Can you imagine that underneath your partner's defense lies a hurt and even b...

318: Desire After the Wedding Cake – Is Marriage An Anti-Aphrodisiac? from 2022-01-14T00:00

What happens to sexual desire after marriage? Everything can change! Men are usually sexually consistent throughout the dating process and marriage. Women, on the other hand, are statistically mor...

317: What Does An Orgasm Feel Like? Tips for Talking About the Big 'O' from 2022-01-07T00:00

What does your orgasm feel like? An orgasm is so powerful – It’s almost indescribable!  In this episode we talk about how to put words to it! And give you tips on how to talk about orgasms with yo...

316: How and Why to Talk About Our Sexual Past from 2021-12-31T00:00

A person’s sexual history is profoundly revealing. Those who have attempted to discuss sexual histories with their lover know the conversation can elicit different emotional reactions. It can be a...

315: Closing The Orgasm Gap from 2021-12-24T00:00

Not fair. Women have less orgasms than men; Laurie and George talk about the disturbing stats. Why is this happening? Do men still not know how a woman gets aroused and reaches orgasm?   Are we...

314: Pain Points – How To Heal Attachment Injuries Together from 2021-12-17T00:00

How do we heal the pain created by reaching for our person and finding they aren’t there? We’ve all experienced hurt and disappointment in relationships. When a healthy attachment is present, the p...

313: Are You A Good Kisser? from 2021-12-10T00:00

Let’s talk about all things smooches! Types of kissing, “good” and “bad” kissers, what a kiss means to you… Labeling someone as a “good” kisser implies a one-size-fits-all technique, but in realit...

312: Forbidden Dark Places – Shame&The Sexual Cycle from 2021-12-03T00:00

Shame and disgust are heavy words that inhabit dark places, but we can't avoid dark places if we want to experience the highs a relationship can provide emotionally and sexually. The power of sham...

311: All The Feels – Sharing 5 Primary Emotions with Your Partner from 2021-11-26T00:00

Let's talk about five primary emotions: joy, fear, anger, sadness, shame, and disgust – feeling all of them is important, especially with your partner. Emotions are the language of the body. They s...

310: The 3 Roads of Connection – Is Your Relationship On the Right Path? from 2021-11-19T00:00

Let's use the 3 road analogy to discuss the sexual and emotional cycles: the High, Middle, and Low Roads. Research highlights the importance of navigating all three roads for relationship success. ...

310: The 3 Roads of Connection – Is Your Relationship On the Right Path? from 2021-11-19T00:00

Let's use the 3 road analogy to discuss the sexual and emotional cycles: the High, Middle, and Low Roads. Research highlights the importance of navigating all three roads for relationship succes...

309: Script For A Sexual Breakthrough! from 2021-11-12T00:00

EFT (or Emotionally Focused Therapy) walks couples through a de-escalation process, but what sets EFT apart is Stage Two. The second stage of EFT focuses not on “what’s wrong” but on making things ...

308: 5 Sexual Initiation Styles – Which Turns You On? from 2021-11-05T00:00

How do you initiate in the bedroom? ;) George and Laurie explore (and joke!) about 5 different initiator styles: Seduction, Touch, Emotional Connection, Sex Talk and Power Play.

Which way...

308: 5 Sexual Initiation Styles – Which Turns You On? from 2021-11-05T00:00

How do you initiate in the bedroom? ;) George and Laurie explore (and joke!) about 5 different initiator styles: Seduction, Touch, Emotional Connection, Sex Talk and Power Play. Which way do you l...

307: The Yin and Yang of Sexual Energy from 2021-10-29T00:00

Both Yin and Yang are needed for our sex lives to flourish. Where do you fall on the spectrum? Partners in relationships can both be dominant in one type, but we most often see opposites attract.  ...

306: Body Blocks – Moving Past Your Sensory Turnoffs from 2021-10-22T00:00

Touch, smell, sound, taste, vision... Which senses cause you sexual "blocks?" Perhaps touch feels unnatural, painful, or irritating. Maybe you are self-conscious about the way you smell and aren't ...

305: "Still Face" In Bed – Rethinking Unresponsiveness from 2021-10-15T00:00

Laurie and George discuss the 'still-face' experiments and how that shows up in the bedroom. Still face – a look on our partner's face that spells d i s c o n n e c t i o n!   Based on the semi...

304: Love and Sex – How They Go Together from 2021-10-08T00:00

Sex and emotions—there’s a delicate balance between the two, an overlap that can’t be ignored. Emotions can enhance sex or inhibit sex, and sex can enhance emotions or inhibit emotions. Borrowing ...

303: Sensual Moves from the Movies – 3 Hollywood Tips from 2021-10-01T00:00

What can we learn from Hollywood about balancing sexual 'yin and yang'? In this episode, we'll focus on sensuality as a pure act of giving, and on the importance of balance between the yin (sensual...

302: How to Ask Your Partner for Variety in the Bedroom from 2021-09-24T00:00

Want to explore new moves with your partner, but don't know how to ask? How can Pursuers approach and encourage their Withdrawer partner to open their mind to new things? Pursuers can get discoura...

301: The #1 Sex Life Destroying Habit&How To Fix It from 2021-09-17T00:00

All of us have struggles communicating, and these struggles often seep into the bedroom. As sex and couples therapists, we often run into couples who avoid talking about sex and sexual needs. Inste...

300: The Shared Trauma of 9/11 from 2021-09-10T23:59:33

Where were you on 9/11? We all remember. It's been 20 years. Most of us were stunned, watching the twin towers fall, but George was with the FDNY rushing to Ground Zero, following his training, fo...

299: Vulnerability Can Spice Up A Boring Marriage from 2021-09-10T00:00

Couples who find themselves stuck in the boring and mundane are often couples who have failed to be vulnerable. George uses a three-road analogy to explain why some couples remain in mediocracy. T...

298: Frustrated Pursuers–The Pain of Rejection from 2021-09-03T00:00

We always talk about sexual Pursuers and Withdrawers—those who seek sex and those who withdraw from it. Because sexual Pursuers are usually the sexual initiator, they are often facing rejection. O...

297: When Does Sex Become Compulsive? from 2021-08-27T00:00

It is believed that 3-6% of people in the U.S. struggle with sexual compulsion, all genders can be affected. Sometimes sexual activities become compulsive and lead to damaging pattern in people's r...

296: 4 Steps To Romantic Sex! from 2021-08-20T00:00

We talk a lot about romance outside of the bedroom, but what does a romantic interlude look like? “I wish my partner were more romantic in bed” is a statement we often hear from women. “Are you kid...

295: How To Talk About Sex While Grieving from 2021-08-13T00:00

In this episode, we explore grief through the lens of sexual intimacy... For many couples, sexual intercourse is a safe space where they can be vulnerable, knowing that they can reach out to their ...

294: Red HOT—The Color of Attraction from 2021-08-06T00:00

Q&A episode!!! We're answering a bunch of different questions from our listeners about the science of attraction, faking it, and how to bring sexy back! What does scientific research say about attr...

293: It Takes Two to Tango! from 2021-07-30T00:00

We often use the word "tango" in EFT in context of the cycles, patterns, or feedback loop that couples can get stuck in. How do you change that dynamic? To break free from the negative cycle you ha...

292: Healing After An Affair from 2021-07-23T00:00

Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship… Although healing after an affair is a delicate process and can feel impossible, we believe that recovery and reconnection is ...

291: What Turns Men On? from 2021-07-16T00:00

We’ve talked about what turns women on… let’s hear about men!! It might not be what you expect... We’re borrowing from Michael Castleman’s insightful research on male libido. Contrary to popular b...

290: Turnons and Turnoffs from 2021-07-09T00:00

All gas, no brakes!! We're using our acronym B.E.S.T. sex to talk about turn ons and turn offs. What works, and what doesn't work. Body, Emotional, Spiritual, and Thoughts... Use B.E.S.T. to be mor...

289: Strengthen Your Erotic Mind from 2021-07-02T00:00

How can you develop your erotic mind? The BRAIN is the best sexual organ we have! Engagement of the mind is important and developing eroticism can bring new energy into your relationship!  Fantasi...

288: New Moves—For Pursuers and Withdrawers from 2021-06-25T00:00

Do you feel stuck in the negative cycle? What's not working? Couples usually understand what’s not working, but not what they could do differently. It is difficult for pursuers to understand where...

287: Hope For A Sexless Marriage? from 2021-06-18T00:00

When someone is committed to fidelity and their partner absolutely does not want sex—is there any hope? Technically, sexless is considered less than 10x a year—but for some people, there is no sex...

286: What Turns Women On? Female Sexual Cues from 2021-06-11T00:00

What sexual cues turn women on? Here’s a hint—interest is sexy! 32% of women lack sexual interest, according to a research study by Meston&McCall, “Cues Resulting in Sexual Desire for Women.” The s...

285: Q&A: Sexual Crossroads—Breakthrough Or Breakup? from 2021-06-04T00:00

In this episode, we’re answering YOUR questions!! We find that the questions can be repetitive because couples are struggling with the same sexual and emotional issues… Let’s talk about a common th...

284: 3 Tools for Better Communication—Reflect, Evocative Response, Validate from 2021-05-28T00:00

How can you better approach and communicate with your partner about your feelings and needs? Reflect, Evocative Response, Validate... In this week's episode, Laurie and George give you concrete to...

283: Finding A Sexual Flow State—Merging As One from 2021-05-21T00:00

Have you experienced a state of “flow” during sex? What is the correlation between flow and sexual satisfaction? A new research study by Jamea, E. N., McCaskill, L.A.,&Needle, R. B. (2021) found th...

282: 4 Hot Techniques for Female Pleasure—OMGYES Research from 2021-05-14T00:00

We are keeping HOT this week! Real talk about female pleasure and the clitoris… Discover new techniques to increase pleasure during sexual intercourse. Using research from OMGYES and Laurie’s sex ...

281: Anal Play - It's Okay If You Want It; It's Okay If You Don't from 2021-05-07T00:24:46

Anal play, anal penetration, prostate stimulation or anal sex.  While we may feel squeamish about this subject - the anus IS an erogenous zone charged with sexual nerve endings. It's also a body pa...

280: My Partner Won’t Go Down—How Do We Go On? from 2021-04-30T00:00

Maybe you or your partner is uninterested in or uncomfortable with certain acts, such as oral sex.  Both men and women can resist oral sex. What’s holding them back? The turn off could be anything:...

279: 5 Erotic Blueprints—What's Your Sexual Style? from 2021-04-23T00:00

This week we’re talking about erotic blueprints. Like the 5 love languages—but all about sex! We all have different ways that we get turned on… Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and the Shapeshift...

278: Erectile Dysfunction—Overcoming Anxiety with Vulnerability from 2021-04-16T00:00

Erectile dysfunction is a common issue and can be caused by a number of reasons such as anxiety, age, medication, and physiological issues. The good thing is, ED is treatable!  Anxiety is perhaps ...

277: Overcoming Sexual and Emotional Blocks from 2021-04-08T16:27:12

What are the blocks that keep us from each other?  Withdrawer blocks might look like taking space through laughing, walking away, or being too positive to avoid emotional pain. A sexual withdrawing...

276: Longings Fulfilled—When Your Lover Loves You Back from 2021-04-02T00:00

Does your partner feel just outside of your grasp? Are you longing for a deeper physical and emotional connection? Pursuers and withdrawers have different needs and fears that need to be heard and ...

275: Online Dating—Finding Connection Beyond the Profile from 2021-03-26T00:00

How can you navigate the world of online dating and find a partner with the qualities you’re looking for? How can you avoid wasting time on drama and ghosters and find people interested in a simila...

274: How to Have Hot Makeup Sex—Minus the Fight! from 2021-03-19T00:00

Why is makeup sex so hot?! Emotions are so raw in the moment… and anger can be arousing! The passion is mutual and therefore, even hotter! Energy is high, inhibitions are low, and both partners are...

273: Stop the Fight—How to Break the Negative Cycle from 2021-03-12T00:00

Are you always having what feels like the same fight? Does the negative cycle leave you feeling frustrated and angry? Or misunderstood and like you're failing? Can you see what your partner does cl...

272: Secrets of Her Erotic Mind from 2021-03-04T23:43:09

Let’s open the door to the erotic mind of a female…What do women fantasize about? What gets them hot? Not just fantasizing in the moment—but even daydreaming can be exciting. Our minds are designe...

271: Vulnerability—Why Do Men Have a Hard Time Expressing Emotions? from 2021-02-26T00:00

Why do men struggle with expressing their emotions? Often they’ve spent much of their lives learning how to avoid feeling vulnerable at all costs—adhering to values such as toughness, assertiveness...

270: 4 Female Inhibitions in Bed – How to Overcome Them from 2021-02-19T00:00

What are some of the common sexual "blocks" that women experience? Reservations around the idea of sex can come from a number of things – religious values, guilt and shame, body image and acceptanc...

269: 5 Ways for Men to Get Their Mojo Back from 2021-02-12T00:00

Pursuers become burned out after being turned down time and time again... This rejection causes them to lose their confidence and be more cautious. How can men get back their sexy confidence and en...

268: Sex on the Table: How to Respond to a Pursuer's Request from 2021-02-05T01:00

When sexual pursuers make attempts to initiate sex, they are coming from a good place-- but their method of delivery may not be the best.   When their attempts are not reciprocated by the withd...

267: The Gleam in Their Eye Makes Us Hot from 2021-01-29T00:00

In early dating years our partner’s face lights up at the thought of sex, they tell us with their eyes that we make them hot. The gleam in their eyes hits our body, hits our center, hits our being....

266: Anxiety is a Sex Killer - Gain Confidence with Playfulness from 2021-01-22T01:00

Have you lost your confidence in bed? Anxiety is a sex killer. Whether it’s anxiety over your performance, being vulnerable, being naked, expectations of yourself, or of what sex is supposed to be ...

265: Do You Have Sex on Her Period? from 2021-01-15T00:00

How do you feel about having sex during your/her period? There can be a negative connotation to intercourse during a woman's menstrual cycle that goes way back in history. This interpretation of a...

264: Premature Ejaculation - How to Last Longer from 2021-01-08T00:00

Premature ejaculation is very common, but also very treatable. It can be caused by a number of things such as performance anxiety, biological factors, early experiences with sexuality, or relations...

263: Sizzling Resolutions from 2021-01-01T01:00

Jump into 2021 with a sense of direction for your relationship! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about setting intentional relationship goals in 202...

262: Making the Most of the Holidays from 2020-12-24T23:34:29

The point of the holidays is to share love and connection! It's also a great time to spur meaningful conversations! Set aside time to ask each other questions like:What’s your earliest Christmas m...

261: The 5 Love Languages of Christmas from 2020-12-18T00:00

The holidays are busy for everyone! But you can't forget to make time for your partner... Let's talk about the 5 love languages and ways to express your love during the holiday season. Gary Chapma...

260: The Madonna/Whore Split from 2020-12-11T00:00

Originally identified by Freud, the “madonna/whore complex” is the inability to maintain sexual arousal in committed, long-term relationships. It is the split between the softhearted and sexual cur...

259: What To Do With A Hot-Tempered Man from 2020-12-04T00:00

Women who have felt or seen their partner’s anger will not be able to feel his erotic vibe.  Sexual pursuers can become demanding when their partner isn’t responding to their attempts at intimacy. ...

258: Variety - To Spice Up The Bedroom from 2020-11-27T01:00

This one comes at you fast! George and Laurie talk through a variety of sex acts that couples choose to liven things up. No judgements just a curious exploration of what might turn a monogamous cou...

257: Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Cycles from 2020-11-20T00:00

How can you and your partner align your emotional and sexual cycles?  We can be on different planets sometimes when it comes to these cycles, but when they align with each other they are more cons...

256: Desire versus Willingness from 2020-11-13T00:00

Can willingness replace desire? Are you wanting or just willing to have sex? Sometimes willingness can mean being vulnerable and communicating with your partner about your needs, anxieties, desires...

255: Mailbag! Unrequited Sexual Fantasies, When to Compromise and Being Vulnerable from 2020-11-06T00:00

Mailbag!! George and Laurie answer questions from the Foreplay Fam in this week’s episode! They’re talking all about unrequited fantasies, compromise, and vulnerability. Sexual fantasies are extrem...

254: Low Libido Joe from 2020-10-30T00:00

What should a woman think about a man who doesn't initiate sex much and doesn't even seem to want it?  She wonders if he's even attracted to her. Laurie and George explore his mind, heart and bo...

254: Low Libido Joe from 2020-10-30T00:00

What should a woman think about a man who doesn't initiate sex much and doesn't even seem to want it?  She wonders if he's even attracted to her. Laurie and George explore his mind, heart and body'...

253: Resilient Sex - The Female Sexual Pursuer from 2020-10-23T00:00

What does resilient sex look like in a female? George and Laurie take another look at how a different woman - a sexual pursuer - might answer questions about her experience pre, during&after sex fo...

252: Sex During COVID (Still) from 2020-10-16T00:24:37

Sex during COVID (still!) - while kids are home, while we're stir-crazy, closeness is feeling claustrophobic; and we've got the big sex killer - stress! Sigh. And the forecast is for .... more home...

251: Setting Up An Early Relationship for Sex Success from 2020-10-09T00:00

Thinking about getting married and want to make sure sex is good and you stay emotionally connected? Never had these important conversations about basic sexual expectations? Set yourself up for suc...

250: Do Creams, Meds, Pills, Gadgets, and Toys Really Help Her in Bed? from 2020-10-02T00:00

George and Laurie talk with Dr. Polly Watson, MD (no relation!) about all the new exciting advances in sex medicine to find out what helps. We discuss the O-shot, hormones, female desire drugs, toy...

249: Closing the Arousal Gap from 2020-09-25T00:00

With the average Joe and average Jane so different in their approach to sex and the ways and timing of arousal, what can a couple do to close the arousal gap? Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laur...

248: Sexual Self Improvement Plan for Her from 2020-09-18T00:00

This week it is Average Jane's turn! Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what the sexual experience for an average woman is and ho...

247: 12 Ways To Get Better In Bed For Guys from 2020-09-11T00:00

George wants men to have a method to improve their sexual game in 3 zones—pre-sex, during sex and post-sex in 4 different areas: heart, mind, body, and genitals. Twelve variables for guys who like ...

246: Ask a Sexual Question and Get "I don't know" For An Answer - What to Do? from 2020-09-04T00:30

As a sexual pursuer, how can you open a conversation with your sexually withdrawing partner? What are some typical questions that pursuers ask and how can they ask them in a better way without bein...

245: The Killjoy Cycle from 2020-08-28T01:00

Let's talk about “killjoy” – the negative cycle that squashes the love life is so many millions of couples out there and how we can name it, notice it and do it differently. Sexual discrepancies ar...

244: Orgasm Gap and How Big is Big Enough? from 2020-08-21T00:00

Is the orgasm gap fair? Laurie and George don't think so. But it's so natural to feel criticized when your partner tries to tell you what they need; how can we get excited about feedback to change ...

243: Why Do YOU Want To Have Sex? Five Motives For Sex! from 2020-08-14T00:00

Why do YOU want to have sex? George and I talk about the 5 most frequent motives to get it on! Pleasure, Intimacy, Approval, Coping and Procreation. Each motive can be used in sexually healthy rela...

242: Come as you are with Emily Nogaski from 2020-08-07T00:00

Welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski, PhD, fellow podcaster and award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life.   Dr.Nago...

241: What Withdrawers Can Do Besides Walking Away from 2020-07-31T00:00

Knowing that their withdrawal triggers their partner, what can someone who feels attacked or criticized do - other than walking away? Wrestling with themselves and naming their feelings, gives them...

240: Do Men Really Want Directions In Bed? from 2020-07-24T00:00

Men want an engaged partner and frequently ask for communication in bed.  Yet, how can a women ask for what she wants without sending the message that she is critical and unhappy? Laurie and George...

239: Two Ways Pursuers Can Calm Down&Love Their Withdrawing Partner from 2020-07-17T00:00

Pursuers have beautiful motives to push toward their partners - wanting more connection, more intimacy and more sex. But they often feel rejected and are told they are too much which escalates the ...

238: Four Sexy Questions from 2020-07-10T00:00

It's so hard to ask for what I want in bed or how to answer what do you want me to do to you sexually. Why? George says we either want to protect our partner from something hurtful and we're avoidi...

237: 49 Year-Old Virgin and Other Mailbag Questions from 2020-07-03T00:00

Mailbag! - A 49 year-old virgin wonders if it too late for love or if she has lost her mojo. George and Laurie discuss having hard conversations about racism and sex including a listener's feedback...

236: You Excite Me -- Seeing Your Partner as Sexy from 2020-06-26T00:00

When we are falling in love, we notice all the positive attractors in our partner. Over time, the inevitable negatives which were there all along become more noticeable. The key to long-term relati...

235: I'm Too Sexy For My Shirt -- Getting Sexual Confidence from 2020-06-18T23:00

We all resonate with how sexy confidence is in the bedroom. But how do we get it back when we've been repeatedly rejected? Or how do we love ourselves and our imperfect bodies when a critical voice...

234: Rooting Out Racism from 2020-06-11T23:06:35

George and Laurie add their hearts to the conversation about racism. We need to have the conversations that are uncomfortable. If we're marginalized, we have to protest - the rage and anger makes s...

233: She Only Wants Sex to Keep Him Happy from 2020-06-04T23:41:17

Join us for a sample conversation with "Eleanor" who is always anxious about sex, preoccupied with whether or not she is pleasing her husband, but unable to be present for her own experience. She d...

232: Talking to a Man About His Sex Life from 2020-05-28T23:00

Conversation is the best foreplay. But to have a deeper, more satisfying relationship you must ask deeper, specific questions. Have you ever wanted to talk to your husband or boyfriend about what h...

231: Sharing Your Sexual History - Assessment Part 2 from 2020-05-21T23:00

In therapy and in our partnerships, sharing our sexual histories takes vulnerability and courage. Have you told your partner about your sexual development? So often we don't even bother to think ab...

230: How to Assess Your Present Sexual Relationship from 2020-05-14T23:59:05

We invite you into a thoughtful reflection about what is happening in YOUR sex life. Bring your spirit of curiosity and stay with us in the discovery mode as our “client” played by the brave volunt...

229: Sex During Hunkering Down from 2020-05-07T23:00

The stay-at-home orders across the country because of the Covid-19 Pandemic has increased the economic and health security. Dealing with feelings of helplessness is a drag on individuals and impact...

228: Male Arousal -- What Turns Him On from 2020-04-30T22:58:37

What turns him on? Visual stimulation is very important. Seeing his partner naked works if women can let go of their insecurity.  Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapi...

227: Overcoming Shame in Sex from 2020-04-23T23:00

A married woman listener asks George and Laurie about how to overcome 15 years of shame regarding her thoughts about the 'right kind of sex to have', 'what is good and acceptable in a sexual encoun...

226: Do Women Enjoy Sex? from 2020-04-17T11:07:23

In this Mailbag episode, a listener raises a question about given the difficulty many women have in orgasming through intercourse, why would women want to have sex? Sex therapist and author Dr. Lau...

225: De-escalating Conflicts from 2020-04-09T23:38:55

The Pursuer - Withdrawer dance can escalate negative emotions and lead to misunderstanding what each partner is wanting, thinking, and feeling. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapis...

224: Connecting During Covid from 2020-04-02T22:53:22

STAY CONNECTED! - our most important mission during the COVID-19 outbreak! In times of stress we need to turn to each other. George and Laurie talk about their own struggles and hope to offer comfo...

223: I'm a Burned-out Pursuer from 2020-03-26T23:00

Pursuers get exhausted. After trying everything... talking, begging,  holding back their needs, getting angry... sometimes they just give up.  When Pursuers become Withdrawers, the relationship is ...

222: Let's Talk About Sex, Baby! from 2020-03-19T22:20:47

Laurie and George demonstrate best ways to initiate a conversation to get your partner to open up about sex. And secondly, they talk about how to change the conversation with our kids and friends s...

221: Do 2 Withdrawers Ever Get Together? from 2020-03-12T23:00

Do 2 withdrawers ever get together?  They do but when there is little conflict there is usually little sex.  Both people are so intent on being nice and not demanding, the difficult conversations t...

220: Affairs - Different Reasons Pursuers/Withdrawers Cheat from 2020-03-06T00:55:23

Why would a withdrawer have an affair when their partner is begging them for more connection? How can a pursuer get over their shame to see their partner's pain?  George and Laurie use attachment t...

219: Forgiveness After an Affair from 2020-02-28T00:00

Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship. Recovery and reconnection is possible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the...

218: Stress and Sex from 2020-02-21T01:34:55

Nothing more sexy than talking about stress! How we perceive stress is how it impacts our body and which makes it inseparable from sex. Connection with another is the fastest way to relieve stress....

217: Men Who Don't Go Down from 2020-02-14T00:18:20

One of the big disappointments for some women is when their partners don't want to do cunnilingus with them and they do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author...

216: Masturbation -- We All Do It from 2020-02-07T00:00

Masturbation is a topic few couples are comfortable talking about; yet it is something that we all do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as ...

215: Sexual Fantasies - What Do You Want? from 2020-01-31T02:16:25

Most fantasies have the theme of someone being so into you. In our fantasy, our partner is showing high levels of engagement, high levels of passion and high levels of initiation. George and Laurie...

215: Using Fantasy to Enhance Your Sex Life from 2020-01-31T00:24:01

Many couples have never discussed sharing their fantasies with the goal of enhancing their mutual sex life. How you go about this discussion makes all the difference. Join sex therapist and auth...

214: Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma from 2020-01-24T00:00

Sexual trauma in childhood can wreak havoc on adult emotional and sexual relationships. While challenging, traumas of this gravity can be healed. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and cou...

213: Overcoming Trauma for a Great Sex Life from 2020-01-17T00:00

Trauma, PTSD, and other troubling experiences can invade and derail your relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and marriage therapist George Faller as they respond to a listener's letter a...

212: Redeeming Sexual Problems Brings Closeness from 2020-01-10T00:00

Sexual problems are opportunities to actually get deeper with each other. Cohosts talk about a man with ED and how he feels alone, alienated from his own body for fear of failure as well as alienat...

211: Great Sex - Connecting Brains, Hearts and Bodies from 2020-01-03T00:12:33

When our hearts are connected, we can lose ourselves sexually in one another. Great sex requires a bit of knowledge, a lot of vulnerability and a willingness to explore more than just genital pleas...

210: His Porn Use - Man with ED Fears Rejection, Q&A Mailbag from 2019-12-27T00:00

Q&A for a woman, who's husband prefers porn and a man struggling with ED. George says, "When I think about porn, I don't come at it from a moralistic point of view. I think, does the porn serve a f...

209: He Wants You Not Just Sex from 2019-12-20T00:00

Men who feel sex as their primary path to connection are often  told "all they want is sex."  Indeed, sex is exciting and pleasurable to them but also the way they feel and want to express love and...

208: Women Who Want It from 2019-12-13T00:00

Women who feel sexually alive and use sex as a pathway for connection can feel out of place in a society that tells them - women don't/shouldn't want sex as much as men. Laurie and George discuss h...

207: Why He Doesn't Want It from 2019-12-05T23:57:13

We think men always want sex. But some of them don't chase their partners. How can we understand this phenomenon? Laurie and Geoge talk about one issue - sexual performance - causing one  man to se...

206: Why She Doesn't Want Sex from 2019-11-29T00:00

Sounds pretty discouraging if your partner says she'd be fine never having sex again. Laurie and George discuss how to get to the root of what she's saying. Using an acronym O P L E A S F helps us ...

205: Pursuer Pain and Frustration from 2019-11-22T01:32:02

Pursuers' frustrations -- what's it like when you want more and you can't get it? What's it like to work so hard and see your partner walking away from you? We know it feels unfair and want to help...

204: How to Understand Your Emotional Withdrawer from 2019-11-15T00:00

Learn why your withdrawing partner feels they are keeping you safer by shutting down. Understand what is good and useful about withdrawing behavior. Hear George walk Laurie through a better way to ...

203: Laurie's Story from 2019-11-08T04:45:46

Laurie tells George her own story of why she became a sex therapist. Hear about her moment of decision when she stopped the negative pursuing cycle and changed her marriage. Laurie shares her heart...

202: Foreplay Meet Faller from 2019-11-01T03:41:30

Foreplay - meet my new podcast cohost, George Faller, LMFT - a global leader in couples therapy! George debuts and tells his story of trauma to transformation. After surviving 9/11 as a firefighter...

201: Goodbye to Adam (Bloopers Included) from 2019-10-25T02:50:38

The sad day is here when we say goodbye to Dr. Adam Mathews. Join Laurie and Adam as they share their fond memories of working together. Listen through to the end where are fabulous editor Joe adde...

200: For Richer and Poorer from 2019-10-18T02:45:02

Money is one of the Big 3 -- along with Time and Energy. Negotiating the issues around money impacts a couple's capacity for intimacy. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therap...

199: Three Commitments to Better Sex from 2019-10-11T01:33:31

One weekend, three commitments, better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how in one weekend with three commitments you can have...

198: Extramarital Affair Recovery from 2019-10-04T00:00

Acting out in an affair are often signs of problems with the person's life. A push / pull dynamic can fuel the infidelity. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. A...

197: Your Sexual Style from 2019-09-27T00:00

We all fall into relational patterns in how we initiate sex and respond to initiation, how/when/where we have sex, how frequently, how freely we talk about sex, and so on. Join sex therapist and a...

196: Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz from 2019-09-20T02:21:57

Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of 'Becoming Clitorate'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she and Dr. Mintz talk about Orgasmic Equality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megap...

195: September 2019 Mailbag from 2019-09-12T22:51:24

Are you being used for sex? What is it like to be in a pursuer-pursuer relationship? And more! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they handle your...

194: Male Menopause from 2019-09-06T02:08:59

Do men go through menopause? Listen in with sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what happens to men as they age.    Learn more about yo...

193: August 2019 Mailbag from 2019-08-30T02:43:34

Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

192: Faking Orgasms from 2019-08-22T23:12:37

A certain proportion of women will fake an orgasm to reassure their partner. Laurie says this is short-sighted! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as...

191: Forgiveness from 2019-08-16T02:40:09

Forgiveness is essential for long lasting love and great sex. Unforgiveness robs a relationship of intimacy, both physical and emotional. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples the...

190: Honeymooning Anytime from 2019-08-09T12:44:16

The focus of a honeymoon ought to be sex. Whether you are newly married or have been partnered for awhile, getting away for a few days strictly devoted to sex is a great boost to any couple. Join s...

189: Interview with Erica Delong from 2019-08-02T16:58:35

We have special guest Erica Delong! She joins Laurie and talks about being a female sexual pursuer. Find out what it's like! Help us out by hitting the Subscribe button!  Finally, take a minute a...

188: Riding the Crimson Tide from 2019-07-25T22:21:41

To have sex or refrain from sex during a woman's period? Research shows that there are 4 different reactions women have about sex on their periods. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's the...

187: Sexual State of the Union from 2019-07-19T05:19:37

Talking regularly about the state of your sexual union is essential to achieving and maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist...

186: Mailbag - July 2019 from 2019-07-12T03:15:52

Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions! In this episode: Diagnosing problems with oral sex; and female sexual pursuers and ...

185: Autopsy of a Sexless Marriage from 2019-07-05T02:00:17

Why and how does the frequency of sex decrease in a marriage to the point where it rarely happens? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dissect...

184: Fourth of July Fireworks from 2019-06-28T04:01

Fourth of July fireworks in the sky are great, but what about fireworks in bed? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Couples Therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the two important ...

183: My Mother is a Sex Therapist from 2019-06-21T11:46:53

What is it like growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her son, sex therapist Reed Watson as they talk about the unique experiences of grow...

182: Virgin Sex--10 Steps to Make It Good from 2019-06-14T03:40:17

Our first sexual experience ought to be good. Even if your first sexual experience is in the rear-view mirror, understanding what would make it good through these 10 steps can help your sex life to...

181: Saying It Better So You Can Do it Better from 2019-06-07T03:29:40

Good communication leads to more intimacy which leads to more and better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about communicating be...

180: My Side of the Bed from 2019-05-31T03:08:46

Being connected with your partner is essential to communication and intimacy, but requires being able to take your partner's perspective. When we get stuck on 'our side of the bed' and have difficu...

179: The Perfect Argument from 2019-05-24T01:50:50

Learning to argue is essential for intimacy and therefore great sex in a relationship, but is often avoided by couples at all costs. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapis...

178: Too Tired For Sex from 2019-05-17T02:25:14

We live our lives on overload: work commitments, family commitments, making dinner, chores, the necessities of everyday life can crowd out sex by making us too tired. Join sex therapist and author ...

177: May 2019 Mailbag from 2019-05-10T11:22:43

The May 2019 Mailbag episode is here! Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews take your questions and give you great advice. In today's episode, Laurie and Ada...

176: Sex Game to Change the Game from 2019-05-03T04:32:32

Unhealthy power dynamics in relationships can hamper connection. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the pursuer-distancer dance throu...

175: Infertility Grief and Sex from 2019-04-26T10:42:06

For National Infertility Awareness Week, Foreplay's sex therapist and author Laurie Watson discusses the impact of infertility, both permanent and episodic, on a couple's sexual relationship. Learn...

174: Sexual Equality from 2019-04-19T03:24:05

Sometimes in committed relationship sex becomes unbalanced and the mutuality of the experience goes out the window. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathe...

173: The Eight Worst Sex Mistakes from 2019-04-12T01:46:33

Beware of these 8 sex mistakes! Every couple can fall into these bedroom traps. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they identify the big mistakes that destr...

172: The Secret Emotional Life of Men from 2019-04-05T11:30:04

Men are often viewed as mostly manly when they are least emotional. This dichotomy is confusing to men and leads them to most often shut down their emotions. Their partners are often starved for th...

171: Sexual Resilience from 2019-03-29T04:01

In a committed relationship, challenges of all sorts impact both parties. Resilience is the power and capacity to use these struggles to draw closer together and makes our relationship stronger. Jo...

170: Female Sexual Pursuers from 2019-03-22T04:01

Women sexual pursuers are more common than our culture assumes. A woman who wants sex is sometimes viewed as a slut or whore, and is subject to negative feedback. What women sexual pursuers have in...

169: The Change from 2019-03-15T04:01

What goes on during menopause? What exactly is changing? What can be done to mitigate the changes from menopause? Join sex therapist and best-selling author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr....

168: March 2019 Mailbag from 2019-03-08T12:01:25

Listener questions answered! The problems with quick orgasms; pursuer shutdown frustrations, and listening to actions versus listening to words. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and coup...

167: Sexual Positions from 2019-03-01T05:01

Different sex positions have different pluses and minuses in different situations. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss different posit...

166: Unmet Expectations from 2019-02-22T05:01

We bring our expectations along with us into any situation. Particularly with our partner, we have a host of expectations that we want our partner to fulfill. A couple can run into problems if thei...

165: Sleeping with a Narcissist from 2019-02-15T12:29:37

Are you sleeping with a narcissist? What is a narcissist in any case? The term is floated around casually and often unhelpfully. Join sex-therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr...

164: Overcome the Valentine's Day Curse from 2019-02-08T05:01

Get geared up for a great, romantic Valentine's Day! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss ways to make Valentine's Day romantic and overcome the V...

163: More Sex, More Money from 2019-02-01T05:01

The key to a great relationship, the hottest sex, the most money, the best connection, comes from secure attachment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathe...

162: Fellatio from 2019-01-25T05:01

Following on last week's podcast on cunnilingus, this week we talk about fellatio for the fellows! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about fell...

161: Cunnilingus from 2019-01-18T05:01

For the majority of women, oral sex is the best way to climax. Often however it gets caught up in the power struggle of the pursuer and distancer. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples thera...

160: The Great American Vibrator from 2019-01-11T05:01

Gain orgasmic security with the Great American Vibrator! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk all things buzzing. The vibrator that Lauri...

159: Fantasy in Relationships -- Part 2 from 2019-01-04T05:01

Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fil...

158: Relationship Goals for the New Year from 2018-12-28T05:01

Set relationship goals that cannot fail! 97% of new years resolutions fail. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss making great relationship goals f...

157: Fantasy in Relationships from 2018-12-21T05:01

Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fil...

156: Mailbag - Self consciousness about sex, intrusive thoughts, and date night sex from 2018-12-14T05:01

Self-consciousness about sex and talking about sex can get in the way of our intimacy and enjoyment of sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk abou...

155: Holiday Naughty and Nice Ideas from 2018-12-07T05:01

The holidays can be stressful for many reasons. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they go through the list of naughty and nice ideas for the holiday. We wa...

154: Sex After Kids from 2018-11-29T20:04:12

Having kids can radically change sex for couples and can complicate our sex lives for a number of reasons. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they...

153: Body Image from 2018-11-23T05:01

Next to relational distress, a negative body image is the biggest disruptor for derailing sex and desire. While this has traditionally been a woman's struggle, increasingly it is also an isue for m...

152: Criticism from 2018-11-16T05:01

Criticism can be destructive to our relationships. In the fourth and final of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Laurie and Adam address this destructive behavior and distinguish it for communicatin...

151: Sex and Anxiety from 2018-11-09T16:14:34

Anxiety can interfere with sexual satisfaction. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sex and anxiety. Learn more about your ad ch...

150: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered from 2018-11-02T04:01

Dr. Adam and Laurie are back at it again answering your listener questions! In today's episode they cover topics on getting your needs met, trusting your partner, a listener's boyfriend struggling ...

149: Defensiveness from 2018-10-26T04:01

Continuing Gottman's Four Horseman series, Dr. Adam and Laurie dive deep into defensive behavior. Tune in to learn how to spot defensiveness within yourself and your partner. In this episode they o...

148: Getting Pregnant from 2018-10-19T04:01

Sexual problems and the quest for getting pregnant plague more couples than you'd think. The stress of conceiving can often prolong the process. Laurie and Dr. Adam talk infertility, conception and...

147: Sex and Depression from 2018-10-12T04:01

Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss the complicated relationship between sex and depression in both men and women. They discuss symptoms and how to stay connected when your relationship is impacted by this...

146: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered from 2018-10-05T04:01

Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions about sexual confidence, bringing a third person into a marriage, a porn addicted father and more!  Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Le...

145: Say Yes to Sex! from 2018-09-28T04:01

How to say yes to sex! Just because you or your partner is a sexual distancer may not mean you don't want to have sex. Some distancers have difficultly saying yes in the moment. Dr.Adam and Laurie ...

144: Stonewalling from 2018-09-21T04:01

What to do when your partner shuts down. In the second of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Dr. Adam and Laurie address this destructive behavior and how to get through the seemingly unbreakable ba...

143: 10 Tips to Rekindle Romance from 2018-09-14T04:01

How to bring back the fun and romance into your relationship with these 10 easy tips. Listen in on Laurie’s controversial advice on becoming the "most romantic man in the universe"! Follow us on Pa...

142: Before Marriage from 2018-09-07T04:01

What is the number one most important trait in a good partner? Tune in to find out! In this episode Laurie and Dr. Adam explore the importance of sexual attraction vs emotional attraction. They als...

141: Porn: Good or Bad? from 2018-08-31T04:01

Porn use can bring out strong reactions on both sides: Some view it as a minor impact on a marriage while others feel it is equivalent to cheating. Dr. Adam and Laurie explore porn’s impact on the ...

140: Contempt 911 from 2018-08-24T04:01

Contempt, one of the most dangerous emotions in a relationship. This episode covers the markers of contemptuous behavior and why it's so destructive to a marriage. Laurie and Dr. Adam offer advice ...

139: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Distancer from 2018-08-17T04:01

Adam is back in part two of our two-part series on resolving the demand-withdraw sexual cycle. Why does sex feel so much riskier to the distancer than the pursuer? Laurie and Adam give tips on how ...

138: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Pursuer from 2018-08-10T04:01

What in the world are they thinking? Today's episode is the first of a two-part series about resolving the demand-withdraw sex cycle between partners. Laurie addresses the expectations of the "sexu...

137: Special Guests: Anatomy of Marriage from 2018-08-03T04:01

We've got a special treat today! Seth and Melanie, from the Anatomy of Marriage podcast, share how they emerged from crisis in their marriage by developing tools for better communication, shedding ...

136: Self-care (for Men) from 2018-07-27T04:01

Guys need self-care too! Men tend to run on low batteries without knowing handy ways of taking care of their bodies and minds. Dr. Adam and Laurie deliver practical tips on how to be present with y...

135: Daring to be Vulnerable from 2018-07-20T04:01

How to share your true-self with your partner. Laurie and Dr. Adam dive deep into what vulnerability really means for men (and women too).   Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/forepla...

134: Premature Ejaculation from 2018-07-13T04:01

The easiest sexual problem to cure is often the most difficult to talk about. Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle the confusion and embarrassment associated with premature ejaculation. They offer help on ad...

133: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered from 2018-07-06T11:34:14

Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions! A fiancé suddenly experiences attraction troubles, mental health, switching distancer and pursuer roles, and a question from a young woman about the s...

132: Sex Isn't Everything from 2018-06-29T04:01

Believe it or not sex isn't everything! A well-rounded relationship includes other aspects like shared aspirations, friendship and intimacy. Can you have a great relationship without good sex? Can ...

131: Friendships from 2018-06-22T04:26

How do friendships impact romantic relationships? Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss keeping your individuality while maintaining a strong bond with your spouse. How to talk about friendship boundaries, t...

130: Getting Naked from 2018-06-15T04:01

Today's episode is all about nakedness. Why we grow to be self-conscious, positive self-talk and how getting naked in front of your partner builds intimacy and attachment. Shed the shame, shed the ...

Suicide Prevention from 2018-06-12T22:17:55

Recognizing symptoms of depression and hopelessness in your loved one.  Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

129: Mailbag: Listener questions answered from 2018-06-08T04:01

Today Dr. Adam and Laurie answer your burning listener questions. They cover everything from separate bedrooms to sexting to smoking pot and low libido! Tune in to get answers to the questions you'...

128: Sex and Alcohol from 2018-06-01T04:01

The effects of alcohol on sexual performance and satisfaction are complicated. Dr. Adam and Laurie debate the pros and cons of this widely used social lubricant in your sex life.   Love us? Suppor...

127: When does sex end? from 2018-05-27T03:48:28

Just because he orgasms doesn’t mean sex is over! To know when sex ends first we have to know what sex actually is. Join us as Laurie and Dr. Adam cover the sex cycle and how ending it right can im...

126: 7 Sex Dos and Don'ts from 2018-05-18T04:01

Don't miss these common dos and don'ts! Covering everything from phone etiquette to laughing at your loved one's short comings, Laurie and Dr. Adam give great tips on definitely what NOT to do betw...

125: Dividing Chores for Better Sex from 2018-05-11T04:01

Dr. Adam and Laurie delve into the dirty details of how splitting your household tasks can impact your sex life.  Like us? Become a Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrstLearn more about you...

124: Is age really just a number? from 2018-05-04T04:01

Even a five to ten year age difference can have a meaningful impact on communication, health and sexpectations.  Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle blending families and other issues that can arise when ma...

123: Sex and Self-Confidence from 2018-04-27T04:01

How to end the comparison game. Laurie and Dr. Adam discuss positive self-talk and tools for forgetting that critical voice, in and out of the bedroom.  Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/fore...

122: Morning Sex from 2018-04-20T04:01

Equally loved and loathed by many, today's hot topic is all about getting busy in the AM. Dr. Adam and Laurie give tips on how to make morning sex great and delve into the biological differences be...

121: What Happens in Sex Therapy from 2018-04-13T04:01

What goes on in the sex therapist's office? This week Laurie and Dr. Adam dispel popular myths around their practices and discuss who can benefit from talking to a trained professional. Like what ...

120: Facebook Friends and Exes in Town from 2018-04-06T04:01

Setting good boundaries with your partner shouldn't feel like a power struggle. Sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples counselor Dr. Adam Mathews discuss safeguarding your relationship and what to...

119: Sex Advice for Young Couples from 2018-03-30T04:01

Struggling with sexual problems in your 20s? You're not alone! In today's mailbag episode Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss common reasons for trouble in the bedroom, even for couples who are just gettin...

118: Sexual Addiction and the Hole in the Soul from 2018-03-24T13:53:47

Sexual addiction or sexually compulsive behaviors involve using increasingly risky sexual actions to fill an inner emptiness. What is sexual addiction; what it is not. Healing the rift with EFT the...

117: Stealing the Covers and Other Nighttime Disturbances from 2018-03-16T11:00

How you handle the non-sexual behaviors we share with our partner in bed – both positive and negative – can draw us together or drive us apart. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapi...

116: Affair Discovery from 2018-03-09T12:00

Affair discovery! To-do's and not to-do’s in the first few moments after discovering your partner is having an affair. While sexual betrayal strikes at the very heart of commitment, marriages and p...

115: Sexual Perfectionism from 2018-03-02T15:09:10

Having high standards and being driven to meet them can produce good results in life. But in your sexual relationship, being a perfectionist can be a problem. Join sex therapist and author Laurie W...

114: What to Do When Your Partner Says No from 2018-02-25T03:29:49

Handling a rejection when we want to be intimate can sting. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through how to handle sexual rejection. L...

113: Treating Erectile Dysfunction from 2018-02-18T15:16:21

Erectile Dysfunction has many potential causes and ways of treatment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk with urologist Dr. Ryan Terlec...

112: Valentine's Day 2018 from 2018-02-11T19:29:27

Sexiest day of the year! Don't think you can write this day off as a greeting card holiday. Why sex is essential on Valentine's Day. Learn what Laurie and Adam are doing with their spouses to celeb...

111: Male Sexual Desire Disorder from 2018-02-05T02:27:18

Men can have low libido and low sexual frequency for a number of reasons.Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Adam Mathews as they discuss the various causes of male sexual desir...

110: Dating and Sex after Divorce from 2018-01-28T18:14:21

The challenges that a divorced person faces when they begin to date again are real and painful. Even more complications come when you start a sexual relationship after divorce. Join author and sex ...

109: Her Arousal on Thursday Night from 2018-01-22T02:18:48

Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she gets down to the fine details of women's arousal patterns in this solo episode of Foreplay! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/a...

108: Pursuer Pitfalls from 2018-01-14T19:54:03

What to do if you are a sexual pursuer and you feel constantly rejected and even the sex you have feels perfunctory? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathe...

107: The Ultimate Sex Game from 2018-01-07T16:13:08

The path to a long-term successful relationship requires putting your relationship above your individual interests, which runs counter to where we always start and where our culture starts, which i...

106: Relational Resolutions 2018 from 2017-12-31T13:35:24

New Years is commonly time for resolutions. But often those resolutions aren't about our primary relationships. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as...

105: Ghosts of Christmas Past from 2017-12-26T16:48:41

The holidays can evoke memories and strong feelings about our families. Managing these experiences in the holidays is a path of growth. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and psy...

104: Grieving What Hasn't Been from 2017-12-17T21:18:31

Each of us has unreal expectations and fantasies about our partner and our relationship. When we are realistic about our sex lives, we can let go of, and decide to grieve, the losses of our idealiz...

103: I am Good, You are Bad from 2017-12-11T05:12:50

Black and white thinking is something that we can often fall into with our partner; doing so seems like it simplifies the world. But rigid black and white splitting is unrealistic and damaging. Joi...

102: Leaving a Sexual Intimacy Legacy from 2017-12-03T20:34:15

While we don’t often think of it in terms of our sex life, we leave our children a sexual intimacy legacy. Becoming more intentional about how we embody our sexual relationship directly and indirec...

101: Why Men Don't Talk from 2017-11-26T13:23:10

The strong, silent type is the culturally-valued view of classic manhood. Join nationally acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about ...

100: A Sexual Feast from 2017-11-19T12:21:29

Just as in feasts like Thanksgiving, where we take our ordinary day-to-day activities and raise them to a new level, our sexual lives benefit greatly from quarterly sexual feasts – times together w...

99: How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Sex Life from 2017-11-12T15:11:56

How does your attachment style impact your sexual relationship? Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to know what your atta...

98: When Sex Goes Wrong from 2017-11-05T19:25:02

Many things can make sex goes wrong; some have easy fixes. Join acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist as Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the things that can wrong...

97: Optimal Sex and the Best Orgasms from 2017-10-30T02:40:08

Reaching orgasm is only the beginning. Optimal sex involves deeper connection and leads to more satisfying sex and even better orgasms. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and cou...

96: #MeToo from 2017-10-22T21:15:47

#metoo - Laurie and Adam discuss their professional and personal experience with abuse and harrassment. In a serious conversation, they raise futher awareness about the stats and real situations of...

95: Get More Sex Now -- Increasing Sexual Frequency from 2017-10-15T13:55:16

Husband’s positive behavior toward partner increases frequency of sex – but don’t wait too long to be positive guys. Even if you don’t feel like being positive, being positive is the route to more ...

94: Seven Ways to Increase Her Orgasmic Power from 2017-10-08T13:38:43

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93: The Complexity of Male Sexuality from 2017-10-01T21:40:43

The expectations in relationship and in our culture for what it means to be a man often comes down to a big erection that works every time. The prevalence of porn has communicated unrealistic ideas...

92: Secure Attachment Equals Plenty of Sex from 2017-09-24T13:10:53

A thriving, vibrant sexual relationship develops best in our relationship when we feel safe and secure and when we help our partner feel safe and secure. Join sex therapist and popular author Lauri...

91: Adam's Midlife Crisis Plan and Help with Hot Sex from 2017-09-17T12:09:05

Do you want long-term great sex? We have your growth plan and challenges mapped out. Join sex therapist and popular author and blogger Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they ...

90: Sexual Pursuer Rescue Plan from 2017-09-10T16:40:24

Sexual pursuers can sabotage themselves through their own thinking about sex in the midst of the experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she talks about how sexual pursuers can m...

89: Mailbag -- Bodily Functions and Syncing Sex from 2017-09-03T14:01:23

Today's Mailbag Topics: Living in an intimate relationship includes sharing spaces and being exposed to our partner in ways that may not be appealing; and how to sync up the best times for sex. Joi...

88: Mid-life Crises and Sex from 2017-08-27T17:09:13

Mid-life crises are often caricatured, but often in our 50’s there is a real change in sex – declining abilities and physical attraction. These changes can be disruptive to our relationship unless ...

87: Ten Mistakes Couples Make about Sex - Part B from 2017-08-20T14:55:18

Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist, Dr. Adam Mathews, as they cover the second five of 10 Mi...

86: Ten Mistake Couples Make about Sex from 2017-08-13T20:44:20

Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they cover the first five of 10 Mista...

85: Friendship and Sex from 2017-08-06T18:23:15

Relationships have three broad areas of relating: the mundane details that must be done in live, sexual intimacy, and being friends -- liking our partner, enjoying their company, sharing the detail...

84: Involuntary Celibacy from 2017-07-30T13:43:53

Involuntary celibacy (going more than 6 months without intercourse) within a committed relationship occurs more frequently than you would imagine. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and co...

83: Male Pursuit and Female Resistance from 2017-07-23T18:08:04

After the wedding day, it is often easy for each partner to take their partner for granted. Men need to continue to pursue their partners. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. A...

82: Weight, Sex, and Marriage from 2017-07-17T02:26:12

Weight, sex, and marriage – Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they wade into the sensitive and dicey topic of weight gain in marriage and how it can impact...

81: Pleasure from 2017-07-12T14:36:59

Pleasure can often be hard to arrive at with our performance-oriented, accomplishment seeking culture. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk ...

80: Ending the Fight from 2017-07-09T11:50:15

Fighting in relationship is unavoidable with two people with natural differences. Often because our wants and needs are involved, our fights in committed relationships can escalate emotionally. How...

79: Impact of Stress on Sex from 2017-07-03T12:33:48

Stress impacts sexual desire for both men and women. For women, stress can lower desire; for men, it can either lower or increase desire. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychothera...

78: Medical Challenges and Disabilities from 2017-06-25T19:51:13

Both short-term and long-term medical challenges/disabilities can impact a committed relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to ha...

77: Long-distance Relationships from 2017-06-18T11:32:13

Some couples are faced at times with relating over a long-distance, whether due to business travel, being in the military, school, etc. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapi...

76: Confidence in Your Sexual Self from 2017-06-11T17:22:29

From adolescence onward, culturally we are expected to be sexually confident, often with no space for a learning curve. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Math...

75: Trust from 2017-06-05T01:07:05

Trust is a foundational element in a relationship. In our sexual relationship, part of trust is worshiping our partner with our bodies. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapi...

74: Jealousy from 2017-05-28T13:49:30

Can jealousy be healthy? If so, how? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how jealousy can be healthy and be helpful to a committed relat...

73: Getting Comfortable Talking about Sex from 2017-05-24T22:32:22

Getting comfortable talking about sex and what you want in bed is directly correlated to satisfaction in committed relationships. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr....

72: Making Time for Sex from 2017-05-21T17:59:39

In our busy lives, sometimes sex is bumped down the priority list by work, children, or other responsibilities. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as t...

71: Self-forgiveness from 2017-05-14T20:53:02

When we are critical and hard on ourselves, intimacy is more difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to forgive yourself. Lea...

70: Trauma in Your Partner from 2017-05-08T12:09:21

What to do if your partner has been sexually traumatized in their past? From big traumas of date rape, sexual assault, or groped to serial sexism or shaming messages about sex. Each trauma has an i...

69: Ruthlessness from 2017-04-30T18:11:17

The ideal in a sexual relationship includes room for each partner to be ruthless in pursuing their own satisfaction. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews...

68: What Women Really Think about Sex from 2017-04-23T20:46:01

Now it is the women's turn! In this episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take up what women really think about sex. Compared to men whose body's test...

67: What do men really think about sex? from 2017-04-16T15:28:53

What do men really think about sex? Move beyond the stereotypes and join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what men really think about s...

66: Postpartum Issues from 2017-04-09T20:17:53

In a response to a reader email, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take a deep dive into issues that arize for couples after childbirth. Learn more about y...

65: Questions and Answers with Laurie Watson and Adam Mathews from 2017-04-03T12:13:11

Author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews presented a seminar on sex therapy to attendees at the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists on Ma...

64: Mailbag -- Impact of childhood and religious upbringing from 2017-03-27T00:58:10

Often our religious and family environments in childhood carry forward into our adult sex lives. Even when we believe and want to be free in bed, often those early messages get in the way of our se...

63: Am I Normal? from 2017-03-20T00:52:45

Everyone has questions about what is normal in life, but particularly in our sex lives. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about specific ...

62: Sexual Lulls from 2017-03-12T18:47:41

Sexual lulls happen in every committed relationship -- periods of little or no sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they discuss why sexual lulls happen and how...

61: Emotional Connection from 2017-03-05T17:08:10

Emotional connection is not the same as being highly emotional. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews and learn the five ways to build emotional connectio...

60: Sexual Bids from 2017-02-26T16:01:31

Our communication with our lovers (and others) can be broken down into discrete bids for attention and interactions. In thsi episode of Foreplay, sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychoth...

59: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 2 from 2017-02-23T00:00

Part 2 of the Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

58: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 1 from 2017-02-20T00:18:31

Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...

57: The Power Struggle from 2017-02-16T21:38:12

Every couple struggles in ways that are common -- The Power Struggle. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dive into the whys and hows of the Power Struggle...

56: Anal Sex - Why are we talking about it? from 2017-02-12T13:02:34

Do women want anal sex? Do they orgasm with anal sex? Do men find it more exciting than vaginal sex? Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take on this trendy subjec...

55: The Highly Sexual Couple from 2017-02-05T18:18:29

Couples who have consistent, frequent sex have certain characteristics in common. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss these specific charac...

54: Seven Things Not to Say from 2017-01-29T21:52:07

While it is important to be honest in our committed relationships, tact goes a long way to making takling about the sensitive areas surrounding sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and ...

53: Sex and the Working Couple from 2017-01-22T17:00

Balancing the demands of work with family and your partner can be difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share strategies for keeping yo...

52: Stages of Sex from 2017-01-14T21:55:25

Sex follows a specific pattern from initiation to resolution. Understanding these stages helps to 'know where you are'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews ...

51: Sex During Pregnancy from 2017-01-07T18:55:12

Through the three trimesters of pregnancy, a woman's body changes in different ways, but that doesn't mean that sex can't be good. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychoth...

50: Sex Resolutions for the New Year from 2016-12-30T23:31:42

It's a new year and it is time for new year's resolutions -- including for sex! What sexolutions are you setting for 2017? Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam M...

49: Foreplay Mailbag -- Recovering from Infidelity from 2016-12-25T06:00

The painful impact of infidelity in a relationship can be overcome with hard work and direct communication. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they ...

48: Sex at the Holidays from 2016-12-18T16:30:48

Straightforward 'how-to' guide to using the time at the holidays to 'sex up' your relationship. Listen as author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they talk about ...

47: Pursuers and Distancers in Bed from 2016-12-12T15:32:51

Sex is often snagged in the relational problems of attachment -- the pull between closeness and autonomy. To improve sex, understanding this relational tension is essential. Join author and sex the...

46: Attachment -- the basis for sex from 2016-12-05T04:27:56

The foundation for a healthy sex life comes from our ability to be attached to others. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain this importan...

45: Sex Rules from 2016-11-27T23:01:43

Unspoken and explicit rules for sex: when, where, and how sex can happen with your partner can limit our sexual expression. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews dis...

44: Seduce Her from 2016-11-20T20:43:18

Often seduction seems to fade after the initial courtship in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the four questions to di...

43: Breakdown in Paradise from 2016-11-13T23:23:39

Conflict drives true intimacy! Too many couples want to eliminate conflict in their relationship; but to be intimate requires healthy conflict. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist ...

42: November 2016 Mailbag from 2016-11-06T23:11:10

  Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer and discuss letters and questions that you the listeners have sent in.What if you aren’t currently...

41: When Your Partner Travels from 2016-10-30T03:59

What to do if one partner travels? How to manage the separation and make your time together a time for reconnection and building your relationship. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and p...

40: Make Up Sex from 2016-10-23T01:52:31

Make Up Sex. The best way to end an argument! Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the reasons behind the best sex after a conflict. Learn more a...

39: Witches, Wenches, and Role Play from 2016-10-16T15:33:45

Halloween and sex! What the emphasis on sexuality in women's Halloween costumes reveals about how our current culture views a woman's sexuality. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and her ...

38: Am I doing it right? from 2016-10-09T21:41:25

What can we do when we feel inadequate in bed or fear that we're not doing it right. How to manage the expectations we all have in bed. Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her...

37: Breast Cancer from 2016-10-02T14:47:15

Breast cancer survivors suffer additional sexual side effects in addition to the gross impact to her physical breasts. From the point of diagnosis onward, breast cancer has a big impact on a women'...

36: Masturbation from 2016-09-25T18:13:24

Masturbation is often a charged topic with many individuals and couples. The messages we receive about masturbation can influence our current sexual relationships. Join popular author and sex thera...

35: Five Mistakes Men Make in Bed from 2016-09-19T01:31:56

Time to turn the tables. This week we take on the men, with 5 common mistakes that men make in bed. Join popular author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews a...

34: The Five Mistakes Women Make in Bed from 2016-09-12T03:32:03

In this solo episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson talks about five of the common mistakes women make in bed, including focusing on body flaws and initiating too subtly. Learn more about ...

33: Caveman Sex from 2016-09-05T19:56:30

Men and women approach sex often with different views of what is 'ideal'. Men are geared to the immediate, athletic style; women to more sensual and romantic. Balancing these differences can make o...

32: Size Isn't Everything from 2016-08-29T19:30:04

The popular conception is that a larger penis results in better sex. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the real ...

31: The G Spot from 2016-08-21T20:33:59

Is the G-Spot real? Does every woman have one? Where is it? How to stimulate it? Join certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the elusive G-Spot and how to d...

30: When He's Inhibited from 2016-08-14T19:28:40

Contrary to our cultural assumptions, men can be inhibited sexually just as easily as women.  Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the underlying reaso...

29: Physical Attraction from 2016-08-07T17:33:15

Afraid you've lost attraction to your partner? Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Matthews explain why attraction can lessen in long-term relationships. Learn practical...

28: Erectile Dysfunction from 2016-07-31T04:43:18

Find out the reasons behind Erectile Dysfunction and ways to cope with this syndrome to maintain a satisfying sexual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27: Sexy Getaways from 2016-07-25T02:29:17

Find out some great ideas for sexy getaways from certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Matthews. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26: Technology Menage a trois from 2016-07-18T10:14:31

With laptops and smartphones, technology can seem like a third partner in a relationship. Listen to Laurie and Adam suggest ways to deal with this intrusive partner. Learn more about your ad choice...

25: Sex after Trauma from 2016-07-11T12:24:17

After a sexual trauma, whether recent or not, a satisfying sexual relationship can be difficult to recover for a women. Listen to Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Matt...

24: Cunnilingus -- How to please her from 2016-07-03T22:43:21

Cunnilingus is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Listen in to a frank, helpful discussion of this essential part of love and sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23: Honeymoon Expectations and Sexpectations from 2016-06-28T11:18:01

With wedding season upon us, Laurie and Adam turn to discussing honeymoons and the relational changes that occur -- even for long-term couples. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...

22: Spirituality and sexuality from 2016-06-20T11:14:22

Faith and sexuality are not mutually exclusive, but can support and enhance each other. Often however in many faith practices, even knowledge about sex is ignored or suppressed, which can lead to p...

21: Desire Discrepancies from 2016-06-12T22:34:31

Discrepancies in desire are a stress on a relationship, and are common at different times in a relationship. Listen to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Adam Matthews provide helpful insig...

20: Talking to your teens about sex from 2016-06-06T01:02:02

Following up on last week's episode on talking to your younger children about sex, join Foreplay as we discuss talking to your teenagers about sex. Learn how to not only talk to them, but have them...

19: Talking to your children about sex from 2016-06-01T22:01:48

Talking to your kids about sex may be the most dreaded conversation for many parents. Some parents may never have a frank discussion with their children on the topic of sex.  Learn what to say and ...

18: Making Lemonade with Beyoncé from 2016-05-15T07:30

A woman who is betrayed in a relationship can feel inadequate and insecure. Laurie and Adam use the lyrics of Lemonade by Beyoncé to explore the feelings that follow an affair. Learn more about you...

17: Affair Recovery from 2016-05-08T20:00

Recovery from an Affair – The delicate process of recovering from an affair; what works best for restoring the relationship.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16: Pornography from 2016-05-01T23:51:39

Pornography – The wide-ranging impact of pornography: what it is and how it impacts couples, including difficulties in arousal,attraction, and relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ...

15: His and Hers Fantasies from 2016-04-25T17:44:20

Fantasies can play an essential role in keeping a sexual relationship vibrant. Men and women's fantasies differ andunderstanding the differences can heighten the couple's experience together.Learn ...

14: Variety from 2016-04-10T20:26:57

Variety and creativity in sex can both make our sexual relationship sizzling, but it can also be a source of tension.  Join Laurie Watson, author of "Wanting Sex Again" and her co-host discuss vari...

13: Affairs: What counts? from 2016-04-03T19:09:42

What is an affair? It can be broader than sex-outside-the-relationship. Different people have different definitions, which leads to tension within the relationship. Who can we be for our partner? J...

12: Talking from 2016-03-28T07:00

Talking is one of the most underrated parts of Foreplay... and it can begin in the morning and last all day long. Join Laurie Watson and her co-host Tony Delmedico for this important, and overlooke...

11: Premature Ejaculation from 2016-03-25T07:00

Premature Ejacualtion -- the number 1 sexual dysfunction for men is easily cured. Author Michael Castleman joins Laurie and gives vital information about the steps to cure PE. Visit Michael's amaz...

10: Kissing from 2016-03-21T12:41:32

Kissing often falls off in a long-term relationship. As the eyes are the window to the soul, kissing is the window to the heart.  Join the conversation with Laurie and Tony! If you have topics tha...

9: When Sex Changes from 2016-03-14T07:00

The frequency of sex in a relationship can change suddenly -- whether on the honeymoon, when partners decide to live together, or at other points when life crowds in and crowds out sex. Join Laurie...

8: 52 and Needing Blue from 2016-03-07T08:30

Erectile dysfunction in men 45 and older in a partnered relationship is a problem with solutions. Listen to Laurie and Tony distinguish physiological ED and partnered ED and offer approaches to sol...

7: She couldn't care less from 2016-02-29T08:30

Her low libido: sources&cures. What to do when she is happy without sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges from 2016-02-22T08:30

The erogenous zones and beyond. Talking about how to get your lover hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5: Saying No Without Wounding from 2016-02-17T08:30

Having your desire synced with your partner's may sound ideal, but rare in practice. Find out how to get back in the game when you are not in the mood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megap...

4: Parents Still Lovers from 2016-02-15T08:30

Raising young children can dampen sexual desire and frequency.  Find out how to keep it hot when you have tots. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3: Go Oral or Go Home from 2016-02-11T04:09:13

Men describe the frustration of disappearing oral sex in a committed relationship. Find out how to restore this essential part of foreplay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch...

2: Valentine's Day Sexpectations from 2016-02-11T04:08:25

Is Valentine's Day a holiday just for her? Or does this big day have mutual obligations? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1: Her Big O from 2016-02-11T04:06:11

A woman's orgasm is essential to her sexual desire. Find out how to get her there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 0: Foreplay from 2016-02-09T17:00

Foreplay -- What's it all about? Why is foreplay essential for the sex life you want to have. How can you keep your sexual relationship hot!?  Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple...