S5E5: Processing the Loss of Kobe Bryant and Grieving Those with Complicated Legacies - a podcast by Terri Lomax & Dr. Dominique Broussard

from 2020-01-31T05:00

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Lady, today we are diving into an important conversation about the complicated feelings of grief. While most of the conversation centers around hearing about the news about Kobe Bryant’s death, his daughter Gianna and the seven other people on the helicopter, Dom and Terri also have a larger conversation about the other thoughts and feelings that come up when someone dies.

How do you respond or how are you supposed to feel when someone who assaulted you dies? How is the family supposed to feel? How are those who are aware of the situation supposed to feel? What will it do to their legacy? Do you forgive them? Do you protect them in their death?

Listen in as Terri and Dom help us think through how to process our complex feelings of grief.

Quote of the Day:

“It’s uncomfortable to raise the worst thing someone has ever done when that someone dies, and when they are beloved. And I suppose it matters that I write this as someone who thinks that very, very few of us are all good or all bad; few of us are saintly, even fewer irredeemable.

We can admire aspects of a person’s talent without erasing the ways in which they also did irreparable damage.

We can be horrified and angry by what someone did without writing them off as worthless, without seeing them go away — to jail, to the grave — and saying “good riddance.”

We can — we must — assess the ways in which the rich and famous are able to exploit our admiration of their talents to pound into the ground anyone who might threaten their fame and reputation, how they so often bypass accountability and we just let them because, well, they’re so talented, or so attractive, or their politics line up with ours, or they handle a ball so well.”

- Jill Filipovic

Takeaways:

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